/lit/ - Literature

>>21805060
Fake it til you make is unironically very helpful.
I also used mantras to great effect. Any thought I knew was insane, I would just repeat mantras until the thoughts stopped. It takes a while, but it works. The best thing is to learn to be affable, even if you're quiet. Learn to hang back, but not so far back that you're not part of the group, you know? Basically, it's learning to balance the fine line between being an asocial creep, and being a desperate annoying loser. Don't force it. If you notice that no one is paying attention, just shut up, and if you're unhappy with the group then leave. People respect and appreciate that more than you know.

You have to solidify your own identity. Your own likes and dislikes, hobbies, favorites, etc... people notice if you're trying to people-please, and it's almost always very annoying.

You have to learn to be satisfied with being in the background. That's not to say you have to be happy being ignored, or whatever, you really shouldn't. It's like, don't try to force anything, but always present as open and attentive. Am I making sense?

But the most important thing flat out, is that you can't chastise yourself for things that didn't happen. If, on the ride home, you think "oh god, I was so cringe!" or "I fucked that up so bad" you have to ignore that. That's what I used the mantras for. Thinking that shit makes everything a thousand times worse, and is almost always wrong.

tl;dr: be chill, and don't listen to your internal monologues

>>21064990
imagine being picky about what you read off of fucking cringe lmao

>>20662301