/lit/ - Literature

How does one write about sex if you're a virgin? How do you write a convincing love story when you've never had a girlfriend in your life; when you've never experienced true love? I'm afraid people will be able to tell I'm a virgin through my writing, a la Steve Carrell's "bags of sand" comment in The 40 Year Old Virgin.

http://whatshouldireadnext.com/

Fun recommendation site, my wife found it on pinterest and let me know about it. Sometimes it has surprisingly good taste.

Figured I'd share it with you guys.

Requesting a book that will help me rectify my neurotic fuckheadedness when it comes to sex.

Main problems:

1.) I have a difficult time giving myself over to my "animal" side in bed. Sometimes I'll be pounding away and suddenly think, "Well this is just silly. I'm like an ape or something." And then I realize my erection is gone.

2.) The thought of my girlfriend looking at another guy, thinking about another guy either sexually or romantically, or comparing me to past partners fills me with a seething rage that is taking more and more time and effort to break out of. That she wouldn't give her mind and soul completely over to me is something my ego can't comprehend.

It came to a head today when I told her I wanted her to leave me the second she was even slightly attracted to another man. She said, "Well sure, if it was serious enough with him for me to pursue, I would leave you," and I told her "Even if it's not serious. If you even slightly like another man I want you to leave me." She called me irrational.

tl;dr: I need a book on how to respect the act of copulation, and also a book on how to stop being so cripplingly jealous of my girlfriend, whom I recognize to be just a flawed product of evolution, like myself.