/lit/ - Literature

>>6643122
ive read three books by him so far and liked them. also have seen most of his movies and alot of his speaches.
as theoretical thinker he does fairly well although he repreats himself quite alot for which i am thankful because i get most of his thoughts only when i read them a second or a third time.
i especially like his ideas about freedom. how there is a difference between formal and true freedom. formal freedom is the freedom of choice. this or that etc. real freedom is to open up a third option by yourself. closely related is modern society as superego injunction.
you internalize societal demands and in turn get a bad conscience when you obey, however the more you obey, the more it demands and the worse you conscience gets. problematic about this is that you still feel free.
comparable to the situation of a father forcing his daughter to visit granny or to give her the choice: you dont have to go to granny, but she would really like it and we will all be disappoint if you dont come along.
so you dont only have to go in order to not have bad conscience and cannot really fight against it as it is "your choice" and on top of that you have to even enjoy visiting your granny.
lacan on the other hand doenst fascinate me too much as its just too far out

>ex was moderately attractive, loved to read excellent books, but was insecure, clingy and suicidal
>still loved him
>he starts getting passive aggressive all the time
>then starts getting agressive aggressive and yelling at me all the time
>leave him even though he threatens to kill himself (he didn't)
>personally depressed for months until I start dating again
>new bf
>very attractive
>very social, upbeat and caring
>hardly reads at all and it takes all his effort to not tune out when I talk about books

How common is this? Are there many guys who are upbeat, attractive and not crazy who like to read? Is there a correlation between reading and being weird?