/lit/ - Literature

>>9913542
No one. No one can help you. Don't fool yourself into creating some imaginary father figure who can make up for what your father failed to do. An essential part of the gift a father gives his child is that is he who gives it and not some stranger. I'm sorry anon, your father failed you. Some people have fathers who stick around and fail them so it's not like his absence was the problem, although probably a good part. What advice I can give is you now have to opportunity to engage with question of being a man and, consequently, a father. This is, on the one hand very difficult, if not the most difficult thing a person can work through. But on the other hand (and this is my positive contribution to you, my friend) you have a tremendous opportunity to take this unbearable force and work with it. Everyday chip away at it, and you will one day, I promise, not only overcome this pain with great strength but with regards to that strength you will be a man amoungst men. You will be someone who others look up to, fatherless or not. This is your lot, and the first step to becoming a man, is taking it like a man. Never despair, but if you do, work on in despair. Do not wish for a lighter load, but work for stronger legs. And one day, in retrospect , the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful. Strength and Honor