/lit/ - Literature

>>22088956
Good to hear you liked it. What made the novel captivating for you? Respond with few spoilers if possible.

Personally, I enjoy the relaxed feel and the way it takes the philosophical conversations as tiring side remark; like a cozy conversation with a friend you haven't seen in a while.

>>22032328
I would posit that there is a difference between misunderstanding and loneliness. A child with a mother that doesn't talk to them but fully understands them is lonely, whereas a child with a mother that doesn't understand them but talks to them is not lonely. Loneliness is about a sense of belonging and community, while understanding or misunderstanding is about knowledge and communication. There is certainly a connection but for now let's dissect the topics individually.

Misunderstanding is a problem with communication but even more so of knowledge. The problem in communication occurs when the "sender" does not either use the proper symbols or the "receiver" does not understand the meaning of the symbols. Thus, the underlying problem is the understanding of the symbols. Now, we tread into an agreed upon language game and the classification of phenomena. It follows that for no-miscommunication to happen there must be an agreed up "language game"/context/dictionary and a perfect classification. Let's avoid talking about agreeing on "language games" but instead on classification which is really etymology- a perfect classification would require a perfect understanding of the natural world, thus all-knowing.

Yet, I would venture to say that when you reflect on your feelings that you are not bothered by the fact that you don't know everything, precisely that you don't understand everything about a person. The unknown is not the problem, and from a distance seems like a rationalization of something else.

Simplifying a lot, in human relations, often the individual seeks acceptance, more precisely, validation, not an understanding of the psyche of the other or etymology. Validation is what we often see as being a part of a community. Perhaps, this argument of loneliness from misunderstanding is a rationalization of not receiving the right validation.

If we reflect on my initial hypothetical child-mother story, the reason we may perceive the child as not lonely is because he is receiving validation in the form of interaction- talking. In the other case, there is no talking which we often perceive as a form of ostracizing.

I'm not trying to invalidate how you feel about being misunderstood or about feeling lonely, but perhaps there is an underlying feeling of not being validate in the way you perceive validation. In a sense, I do relate to how you feel (even the misunderstanding) but often times, I talk to people who definitely do not understand me, but I feel very much not alone.

>>22016291
Do you have a good way to motivate yourself to focus up and read a book instead of doom-scroll/watch?