/lit/ - Literature

There are times when I long for a girlfriend who corresponds to my fetishes. But then I wonder what would happen if I actually got one. Would I be able to have a genuine romantic relationship with her, or would the degree to which she checks off the boxes of things I fap to prevent that? Would I be able to relate to her as a human being, or would I get hung up on her as the incarnation of my masturbatory fantasies? In short, could I stop myself from totally objectifying her?