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How do you deal with your social anxiety /jp/ ?
I can't sleep because I have to go outside in the morning and I'm already have panic attacks.

>> No.8401292

Just do it, nothing bad will happen and you won't worry as much. I'm waiting for a train right now to meet an internet friend ad go to a gig tonight. I'm shitting myself but I know it'll be OK.

>> No.8401302
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i don't leave outside

>> No.8401298

By not leaving the house

>> No.8401308
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8401308

Why do you have to go outside?

You can always get around that

>> No.8401314

>>8401302
I haven't been outside for about 7 months but I HAVE to go outside tomorrow, my benefits will get stopped otherwise and I sure as hell aint getting a job.
I guess having to go outside once every 6-7 months isn't so bad in comparison to have to go out 5 days a week, that doesn't stop me from worrying though.

>> No.8401321

>>8401314
just do it through the mail or have them come to you. home bound people are given exception if you ask for it.

>> No.8401327

This is how I deal with it.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7criyE09uy0

>> No.8401325

I don't get you people...
What is so hard about going outside, getting some fresh air, some sunlight and saying hello to someone?

>> No.8401329

>>8401327
deep

>> No.8401330

I hardly ever leave the house. When I do, I take two Xanax beforehand.

>> No.8401332

Just stop giving a shit.

>> No.8401335

>>8401321
I've actually tried to do that in the past, didn't work. I'm also physically fit so it's something I have to do.
The going outside itself isn't so hard, the hard part is having to speak to some woman for like 3 hours.
The last time I had to go, I couldn't figure out how to open the door and I just stood there for like 5 minutes looking at the door while the people inside just stood there watching me. I've never really recovered since the last time I had to go outside.

>> No.8401340

>>8401332
I wish I could do that, it's just not possible though.

>> No.8401350
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8401350

my mom signed me up for Yoga class tomorrow, without asking me

feels bad man

>> No.8401351

>>8401340
In that case take it easy.

>> No.8401354

>>8401350
Don't attend?

>> No.8401355

>>8401350
Disgusting, why would a fully grown man go to Yoga?
What on earth was going through her mind?

>> No.8401362

>>8401335
everyone has their own struggle. there is old, weak, poor, and desolate people at these public places. so people are more understanding. you now know how to open the door so it won't be a problem this time.

do your best and by the end of tomorrow you'll be comfortable for another 7 months.

>> No.8401360

Do drugs

>> No.8401364

>>8401354
I'm considering this.

I've taken classes before and actually enjoyed them, but my body co-ordination sucks and it's incredibly awkward with all the people. And I haven't worked out in a good couple of months, so I am going to get fried.

Yoga is actually really tough, especially for a cripple like me. I get light-headed just reaching for something below my knees.

But if I don't go I'll seriously feel incredibly guilty for not trying to improve my situation.

>> No.8401371

>>8401287
It's the fluoride they put in your water and the vaccines they inject you with, it's inducing paranoia. Stop drinking it, stop getting vaccinated.

>> No.8401378
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You know what terrifies me? Interviews. Interviews are absolutely horrible.
They always ask questions like "Why don't you tell me about yourself", how on earth do you answer a question like that? Another one is "Can you give me an example of good customer service?"
At interviews I start sweating really bad and my stomach goes all fizzy. I once shook the hand of a potential employer and my hand was really sweaty, pouring with sweat, the man gave me this look like I just jizzed in his coffee.

>> No.8401375

You can lodge your forms for disability over the Internet in Australia. It is pretty great.

>> No.8401403

>>8401378
I see you still haven't managed to get a job.

>> No.8401405

>>8401335
So a shut-in has to leave the house to get benefits for being a shut-in?

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>>8401403
Nope.
I've almost given up.
I've applied for hundreds of positions in the last 6 months and only had three interviews.
Maybe I'm just not cut out for normal life.

>> No.8401408

I don't understand social anxiety. You're worried about seeming odd, and by doing that you end up acting odd, right? I spend most of my time alone in my room but I have no problem interaction with people.

What's the worst any given person will do if you act like you normally do?

>> No.8401416

>>8401405
Yeah, they do evaluations and such to see whether you're just bullshitting or actually autistic.
It is pretty silly. Even terminally ill people have to go and do this evaluation or they lose their benefits. Cancer patients, people on their deathbeds, have to actually go outside even though it;s impossible for them.

>> No.8401427

>>8401408
You have to worry about other people with problems who punch normal seeming people in the face. They leave their own kind alone.

>> No.8401432

>>8401427
I always get tramps and blacks asking me stuff like "got any change mate?" or "got a spare light man?"
I always just stand there puzzled and end up getting spat at, verbally abused or punched due to them misunderstanding my mental problems as rudeness.

>> No.8401448

>>8401432
Just wear an autism awareness ribbon and point to it whenever these things happen.

Or don't, that could be a terrible idea.

>> No.8401477

>>8401287
I'm a college student.

I just deal with it.

This week has been fucking horrible. I felt like throwing up every time I was in class. I'm going to try to sit by the door tomorrow to see if I can at least avoid the panic.

>> No.8401480

>>8401448
You know what blacks are like, they'll probably just steal it.

>> No.8401488

>>8401480
I am black and I would never steal something like that. There are very few things I would actually steal.

>> No.8401491

>>8401488
Don't hurt me.

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>>8401488

You wouldn't steal my virginity would you?

>> No.8401501

I once went outside and threw my dick around, a dog caught it and rand down the street. When I got there I was glad to see that the dog had gotten run over by a truck and gotten his skull crushed. Then I saw my dick, was crushed with him. Haven't been outside since.

>> No.8401506

I think we're quite lucky in that we're the first generation of people who don't have to go outside much. Or at all. You can get anything delivered now. There's no need to leave your house ever. My psychiatrist debated this with me and argued that you'll need to see the doctor, but thinking about it you can get house calls quite easily and it's not too difficult to stay in good health even inside your own home.
I think human beings are solitary by nature and we just banded together for survival. But now we don't really need that. I think as technology advances, more and more people will become hikikomori until it basically becomes the default behaviour. We'll always need teams of people to work on certain things, but as we outsource jobs to robots and the standard of living improves, fewer and fewer people will need/want to leave their homes.

>> No.8401514

>>8401506
The only problem I see with that is income.

But then again, hopefully long distance communication becomes better.

>> No.8401524

>>8401432
I know that feel. Sometimes I end up going along with it and getting roped into stuff too. Some kid asked me to go into the shops and buy cigarettes for him a few weeks ago. He didn't give me enough money so I ended up having to pay with my own, then I couldn't afford the drink I walked to the shops for. Then I went and gave him his cigarette and he asked for his "change" (I think he knew really) so I ended up giving him the like 80p I had leftover.
So basically I paid to commit a crime and got nothing out of it. Even the kid probably thought I was a complete loser, and I was "cool" by getting him cigarettes.

>>8401448
That's a nice idea. Sometimes I've considered getting a custom shirt printed that basically explains I have social anxiety and possibly Asperger's, but I figured it would be seen as "lame" or something and make matter worse. I have pretended to be deaf before though, which works surprisingly well.

>> No.8401536

>>8401491
Actually, it seems like a lot of snowbirds (spefically ones from Canada) and people from more rural seem to be uncomfortable around me. Makes me feel kind of bad, but I know I'm not a bad person.

You should see the how sheltered suburban youths react when I pull up beside them and start glaring at them while they have rap or hip hop music blaring and overpowering my music. Why would you have music playing so loudly? It's rude.

>> No.8401542

>Sometimes I've considered getting a custom shirt printed that basically explains I have social anxiety and possibly Asperger's, but I figured it would be seen as "lame" or something and make matter worse.

It's possible to get Chris-chan shirts from Goodwill.

>> No.8401544

>>8401524
Would probably have the opposite effect, people would just stare and laugh at you.

>> No.8401552

>>8401524
Why would you try to look cool or lame? I don't understand why people do that.

>> No.8401559

>>8401544
Would they though? I mean, that's in poor taste. They don't even get anything out of it.

It's sad that people think 4chan is twisted and edgy or whatever, yet this is practically default behavior in the real world.

>> No.8401571

>>8401287
Take benzos, they are literally designed to prevent anxiety.

>> No.8401569

>>8401559
> I mean, that's in poor taste. They don't even get anything out of it.

You underestimate the ugliness of the human race.

They will. Maybe not directly to your face.

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>>8401524
Get a t-shirt like this and put your face over the baby animal's face.

>> No.8401581
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>>8401569
Well I guess it's slightly comforting knowing people are that straightforward and it's not exclusive to the Internet.

In fact it's kind of nice how people are dicks here. "LOL FUCK YOU FAGGOT I HOPE YOU DIE IN A FIRE" is a lot better than people in real life just laughing at someone for some reason.

>> No.8401582

>>8401325
/jp/ is truNEET.

They only go outside after 3AM

>> No.8401591

>>8401582
I would be willing to do this, but the only reason I go outside is to buy things. And no shops are open after 3AM here.

Plus I live in a pretty bad part of semi-rural England, so I might get stabbed. Though that mightn't be so bad. As long as they don't talk to me.

>> No.8401596

I don't go outside.

>> No.8401627

I always get ripped off at shops but I can't say anything to the shopkeepers

I think they know that I'm a weak target.

>> No.8401707

>>8401581
I remember, when I went to school, there were these 2 chicks who would sit around looking back at me and giggling, mocking me now and then, indirectly. Just sitting around laughing at shit they made up that whatever twisted perception they have of me might actually do. Every other day, about, id have to tell them off, with a variety of insults including, but not imited to, "You fucking delusional or do you just like making shit up?" or, "Suck my cock." and classics like, "Suck a blowtorch, cunt."
I like to meet passive agression or indirect/behind the back dickery with the contrasting methods.

>> No.8401721

>>8401707
and I forgot to add the part where they acted shocked and amazed every time I said said insults. Every damned time.

>> No.8402959

>>8401571
I'm taking benzos and anti-depressants and I feel worse than before. I'm actually in a depression now than before.

>> No.8402977

>>8401627
Thrift shops?

How do you get ripped off at, say, convenience stores?

>> No.8402978

stay away from paroxetine.
that shit is like heroin.
I can't get off of it. I get horrible pains and itching and night-sweats whenever I try.

>> No.8403004

I take prozac, i still get sacred/sick when thinking about driving or taking the bus though. Its better than when i was passing out for no reason and having panic attacks.

>> No.8403127
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If I have to go outside, I always go late at night/ in the morning, and in disguise.
There have probably been a few times where they thought I was robbing the place because I had a hood over my head or a mask on.... :/

>> No.8403209

You just have to make acquaintances, they don't even have to be friends, but when you have someone to sit with and maybe eat peoples respect of you generally is pretty level. Obviously if anyone from /jp/ was to open their mouth or try to the respect level would plummet. It's kind of depressing seeing the disappointed and eventually disrespectful look in their eyes.

Personally after a while I just decided to lose peoples respect from the start, and my social anxiety has gone down since this habit started.

>> No.8404325

>>8401591
>so I might get stabbed
I've thought about what I would do if I got stabbed, or in a car accident or something. Just shouting wouldn't communicate much, and in the commotion I would forget the emergency number of my medical service. I think I would actually enter a store, and ask the clerk if he knows who I should call. Politely of course; I wouldn't want to scare a poor guy who has nothing to do with my problems.
"Sir, as you can see, I was just stabbed. By a robber, mind you; it wasn't a fight or anything stupid like that. Would you know what to do in this circumstance?". I swear I think that's how I'd act.

>>8401721
>>8401707
The same thing happened to me. I think it was in the last year of middle school. Two 'butchs' liked mocking me every now and then. The day when I responded rudely, one actually asked the other "...What did he say?!", and they stared in surprise.
But usually I just stayed silent. I remember one time when they asked something about girlfriends or the like. I didn't say anything (even less because the topic frightened me), but I looked left and right at the others from the class. I saw every_single_kid looking at me, listening to what I would answer. It could have been my paranoia already acting up, but both possibilities are fucked up.

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