/jp/ - Otaku Culture

[日本語ガイ No.]

So this is probably the wrong place to ask, but I figured maybe if you guys don't have any real experience (which is 95% likely) you might have some video game experience that might work out.

Here's the deal.

Despite speaking Japanese at a native level (or at least well enough to conduct business in it), I've never dated a Japanese chick. Only Americans. Now, I've got a date with a really, really good looking Japanese chick. Barely speaks English, but lives in America. It's awesome.

Anyway, the problem is here: Where does a first date, or dating in general, differ when it comes to Japanese girls vs American girls? I assume it is quite different from what I know on culture. But I'm hoping that more people here have some real life experience.

So, let's discuss the differences.

Pic semi-related - It looks like it could be her slightly uglier sister.

[Anonymous No.]

>>>/r9k/

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[Anonymous No.]

>Asking /jp/ for dating advice

Oh boy

[Anonymous No.]

Only Japanese girl I met was this one bitch who hanged out with the indie group. She acted way to american to enjoy something other than American food. 'Course this Japanese is probably different from yours.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701295

Yeah I was kind of hoping for a laugh if no real advise came in. I'm sure I can wing it if need be. She might always find my lack of dating knowledge amusing. At least we won't have communication problems

>>6701298

Fuck that board.

[Anonymous No.]

日本語ゲイ

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701317

okay then
>>>/trv/
>>>/b/
>>>/adv/

[Anonymous No.]

Take her for out for Sushi, make her feel comfortable around with the food, then go see a big special effects movie, nothing too complicated.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701346
I don't think Japanese girls like when you pretend to be Japanese too, acting all interested in her culture. She will likely notice that you're just feigning interest..

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701346

You clearly don't date often at all. Movies suck, especially for first dates. There's no interaction.

Though I'm not sure if it's technically a first date. We've been out together on a 合コン before... if anyone here knows what that is.

>>6701333

Good one.

[Anonymous No.]

普通同性愛人

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701351
haha, who said it was an act, feigning interest, child please, sushi is delicious and she probably would get exactly what she wanted and was comfortable eating or trying an American version of it.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701363
I would be offended a bit if I were her. Just take her to see a movie and have dinner wherever, it's not like she's a different species.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701351

I wouldn't be pretending. I'm interested in Japanese culture. Why would I take the time to learn Japanese if I wasn't interested in the culture? It wasn't for anime, manga, or the women (clearly)... so what? Culture, books, and Japanese hip hop.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701359
I'ts more about establishing a comfort level with each other.

>There's no interaction.
I have no idea your level of communication skills, some times not speaking is the best way to establish bonds

Plus we have no idea what your long term intentions are or hers.

[Anonymous No.]

> I'm hoping that more people here have some real life experience.

Most people here never had a girlfriend and never talk to girls, get the fuck out.

>>>/adv/

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701360
同性愛者じゃないか？普通ってどういう意味があるの？「同性愛は普通」の
意味？

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701376

Good call. I'll elaborate. I'm not particularly invested. She's cool and cute, and if it goes somewhere that's fine. If not, I won't be terribly bothered.

As far as communication wise... think of anything you can discuss in English. I can do it in Japanese as well.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701387
>>6701376

Both of you can continue this conversation somewhere else.

Get out.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701379

俺もさっぱりわからなかったから無視した方がええと思った。

>>6701377

Read the rest of that. I know.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701394

Is your conversation on Touhou interrupted? Sorry.

But this is more interesting anyway. So I'll stay here.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701387
>think of anything you can discuss in English. I can do it in Japanese as well.

Well that opens a whole load of options then if you are completely confident in engaging in Japanese conversation.

>She's cool and cute
Still so vague, is it a formal invitation or some casual get together?

>I'm not particularly invested.
Then why the fuck even come here, do what you want to do with her companionship. You probably are being dis-ingenious though if you are looking for just sex, but some Japanese chicks have no problem with that at all. Just go to a house party, bring a few friends and smiles all around after words...it all depends on how shallow both of you are

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701403

No it's not interesting, this is /r9k/ shit and nobody gives a shit about your life.
And if you think this faggotry belongs to this board, you are not welcomed to stay.
Reported.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701360
oh wait
normalfag
ahaha

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701397
>Read the rest of that. I know.
that doesn't change the fact that you're clearly deliberately trying to be the biggest douchebag you possible can and everyone can see it.

i'm only posting here because i know that ignoring you is useless since this topic is not going to die. despite the fact that you are a troll and should be ignored, there simply aren't enough people on /jp/ that know to do so, as i've seen in past threads when i chose to completely ignore the poster in hopes that others were following suit.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701410

Man, you really want a full description, huh?

I don't know what she's thinking, to be honest. At the 合コン we really hit it off though. We pretty much ignored the other two and talked all night.

As far as her... Her job at the moment is a combo of student and hostess. She's studying English and works as a hostess to pay for that, I guess. Or for pocket money. I went to her club once and it's really nice, so I imagine they get a good amount.

So to summarize: I have no idea what she's looking for, it's probably going to be a casual meet up at first, and she apparently likes me enough to give me her real name and number.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701410

Shut the fuck up moron, take this to another board.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701439

Nobody cares eat shit and die.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701429

Thanks for reporting. I kind of hope I get banned. Maybe I'll then waste some time on something more productive.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701397
>Read the rest of that. I know.
that doesn't change the fact that you're clearly deliberately trying to be the biggest douchebag you possibly can and everyone can see it.

i'm only posting here because i know that ignoring you is useless since this thread is not going to die. despite the fact that you are a troll and should be ignored, there simply aren't enough people on /jp/ that know to do so, as i've seen in past threads when i chose to completely ignore the poster in hopes that others were following suit.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701453
>faggot thinks he can make a difference in /jp/
mfw.jpg

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701453

It's frustrating, isn't it? I do the same thing on /fit/ and /v/ where I frequent. It never works. People always respond.

But despite what you may think. I'm not a troll. I know this is useless, but I'm bored and I thought it couldn't hurt. I assumed that at least 1 person here might have experience

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701439
>She's studying English and works as a hostess to pay for that,

It sounds like you've got it situated just fine. Go to a club or something, bring a wingman or two. All normal fag shit, over the course of the night drinking, etc. you'll figure out what both your intentions are.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701464

マジで？

You recommend this over meeting for coffee/dinner solo?

I mean, it'll be no problem to get some people to come out with us to a club or something... but I kind of thought a coffee or something best. As it can either be long or short and it non-committal enough to figure out what next.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701474
If you want small talk and bonding then the coffee idea is fine, depends on time of day also obviously.

You make it sound though that you've already done that. Plus getting her out with her friends would dramatically step it up to the next stage if you can play it cool with them all and dare I even say it show some dance moves.

[Anonymous No.]

>>barely speaks english, lives in america
>>works as a hostess

where the fuck do they have these hostess clubs in america

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701495
They are underground in NYC. Probably not very legal. I can't even get in without my Japanese friends. Even if I speak Japanese to them.

>>6701488

Hmm, good point. We did talk a bunch. Maybe I should play the casual invite out with some friends. Good call on that one. I can't believe I never thought of it that way.

[Anonymous No.]

there was a thread a couple weeks back where a guy in korea was having a japanese girl visit him who likes him and he wanted ideas of what to do
the thread went pretty well
the difference between this thread and that one?
it was made at night.

daytime /jp/ is angrymode extreme

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701522

It's night where I am, haha.

Remember anything said?

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701525
well it was specifically about "things to do in korea"
it's on easymodo somewhere but at the moment easymodo isn't working (and perhaps permanently)
the bizarro thing about it? she knew little english, and he knew little japanese. i swear they had to be playing charades throughout her previous visit and it still turned out well.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701510
>Good call on that one. I can't believe I never thought of it that way.

Hey no problem, if she is in fact as you say the better looking sister of the OP then you are a lucky guy.

Also
The fact that she is a hostess probably means she prefers to go casual and you'd score major points for being a "host" for her if you get what I mean.

But if she is really young and doing this in NYC she may just be a wild one too and may just enjoy the night life that much more.

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701552

I guess the most important thing here is to ask when she does work. That way I know that nights she has open, huh? Yeah, guess I'll do that.

Then maybe I'll try to do a casual dinner + a club. Best of both worlds. Some more time to chat, plus some fun.

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701567
Post pics for maximum /jp/ butthurt

[日本語ガイ No.]

>>6701601

I'll snap a couple next time I see her and bring 'em back.

Thanks for the help given, and I'm glad this thread was once again able to prove just how butthurt /jp/ can be (though that doesn't seem hard)

[Anonymous No.]

>>6701601

Stop replying to this shitty thread, you moron.

[Anonymous No.]

Take her out for coffee and keep a conversation going.