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Pic unrelated.

Man, why don't I have a girlfriend? I go out of my way to be an intensely nice person to EVERYONE, and girls still just go for total douchebags who treat them like shit. The fuck?

>> No.2812790

>>2812777
Become a douchebag.

>> No.2812789

Why don't you act like a douchebag then?

>> No.2812796

/jp/ - Loneliness/Blog

>> No.2812793

>>2812789
>>2812790
bagmind

>> No.2812804

>I go out of my way to be an intensely nice person to EVERYONE

There's your problem, bro. You don't have to be a total cunt, but don't be a doormat either.

>> No.2812806

You're too nice. Probably a pussy. Girls go for men. Would you go for a manly girl? In that case, what makes you think a girl would go for a girly man?

>> No.2812821

>>2812777
You're probably unattractive.

>> No.2812822
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>>2812806
Would you go for a manly girl?

>> No.2812836

>>2812822
her face looks retarded in that figure

>> No.2812849

>>2812777
>and girls still just go for total douchebags who treat them like shit.
I think this is a common misconception rooted in envy. I know -- I used to think the same way.

>> No.2812855

>>2812836
good idolmaster figures are surprisingly hard to come by.

>> No.2812875

>>2812855
Not really.

>> No.2812881

You have "Nice Guy" syndrome. Look it up.

>> No.2812923

>>2812777
>>2812849

It's money. Most women won't stay even with a well off man that treats them poorly unless he's bloody loaded. But a man with money that treats them okay is near perfect.

>> No.2812924

>>2812777
Protip: Girls who go for douchebags are douchebags themselves.

>> No.2812957

lower your standards, shoot below your league. it doesn't matter if you act nice or like a douchebag to an attractive woman because she's got a lot of options that are more attractive than you and don't cry on 4chan. fat/ugly chicks don't have guys fawning over them constantly, so try that.

>> No.2812971

>>2812881
Let me help OP out.

Why "Nice Guys" are often such LOSERS

You hear it all the time: "He was such a NICE Guy, and she's such a Heartless Bitch for dumping him."

I get letters from self-professed Nice Guys, complaining that women must WANT to be treated like shit, because THEY, the "Nice Guy" have failed repeatedly in relationships. This is akin to the false logic that "Whales are mammals. Whales live in the sea. Therefore, all mammals live in the sea."

>> No.2812975

You missed /r9k/

>> No.2812976
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>>2812971
If you have one bad relationship after another, the only common denominator is YOU. Think about it.

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.

>> No.2812980

/jp/ is not your personal blog

Reported, enjoy your ban.

>> No.2812982
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>>2812976
Nice Guys exude insecurity -- a big red target for the predators of the world. There are women out there who are "users" -- just looking for a sucker to take advantage of. Users home-in on "Nice Guys", stroke their egos, take them for a ride, add a notch to their belts, and move on. It's no wonder so many Nice Guys complain about women being horrible, when the so often the kind of woman that gets attracted to them is the lowest form of life...

Self-confident, caring, decent-hearted women find "Nice Guys" to be too clingy, self-abasing, and insecure.

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>>2812982
Nice Guys go overboard. They bring roses to a "lets get together for coffee" date. They try to buy her affections with presents and fancy things. They think they know about romance, but their timing is all wrong, and they either come-on too strong, too hard and too fast, OR, they are so shy and unassertive, that they hang around pretending to be "friends", in the hope that somehow, someway, they will get the courage up to ask her out for a "date".

They are so desperate to please that they put aside their own needs, and place the object of their desire on a pedestal. Instead of appreciating her, they worship her. We are only human, and pedestals are narrow, confining places to be -- not to mention the fact that we tend to fall off of them.

>> No.2812984

>>2812971
"Nice guy" is just a euphemism for "someone I don't want to have sex with."

>> No.2812989

Women are douchebags with vaginas so it makes sense for them to like douchebags.

>> No.2812991
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>>2812985
They cling to her, and want to be "one" with her for fear that if she is out of sight, she may disappear or become attracted to someone else. A Nice Guy often has trouble with emotional intimacy, because he believes that if she learns about the REAL person inside, she will no longer love him.

Nice Guys are always asking HER to make the decisions. They think it's being equitable, but it puts an unfair burden of responsibility on her, and gives him the opportunity to blame her if the decision was an unwise one.

>> No.2812995

>>2812777
Also, have you actually asked a girl out, or are you just being nice and expecting a harem to form or something?

>> No.2812996
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>>2812991
Nice Guys rarely speak up when something bothers them, and rarely state clearly what it is they want, need and expect. They fear that any kind of conflict might spell the end of the relationship. Instead of comprimising and negotiating, they repeatedly "give in". When she doesn't appreciate their sacrifice, they will complain that, "Everything I did, I did for her.", as if this somehow elevates them to the status of martyrs. A woman doesn't want a martyr. She wants an equal, caring, adult partner.

>> No.2812999

This thread reads like a chapter from a self-help book. Just ignore women and stick to your imagination.

>> No.2813004

>>2812996

This. I wish aspies didn't think of relationship decisions in terms of black and white.

>> No.2813006
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>>2812996
Nice Guys think that they will never meet anyone as special as she is. They use their adoration as a foundation for claiming that "no one will ever love her as much as I do." Instead of being a profound statement of their devotion, this is a subtle, but nasty insult. It is akin to saying to her: "You are a difficult person, and only *I* can ever truly love you, so be thankful I'm here."

>> No.2813008
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>>2813006
The nice guy -needs- to believe that he is the best person for the object of his desires, because otherwise his insecurities will overrun him with jealousies and fear. The truth of the matter is that there are many people out there who can be a good match for her. We rarely stop loving people we truly care about. Even if we no longer continue the relationship, the feelings will continue... But love isn't mutually exclusive. We can (and do) love many people in our lives, and romantic love is really no different. Though he may love her immensely, there will likely be other people who have loved her just as much in her past, and will love her just as much in the future. The irony of it all is: "Who would want to go out with someone who was inherintly unlovable anyways?"

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>>2813008
More than loving the woman in his life, a Nice Guy NEEDS her. "She is my Life, my only source of happiness..." YECH! What kind of a burden is that to place on her? That SHE has to be responsible for YOUR happiness? Get a grip!

Another mistake Nice Guys make is to go after "hard luck" cases. They deliberately pick women with neuroses, problems, and personality disorders, because Nice Guys are "helpers". A Nice Guy thinks that by "helping" this woman, it will make him a better, more lovable person. He thinks it will give him a sense of accomplishment, and that she will appreciate and love him more, for all his efforts and sacrifice. He is usually disappointed by the results.

>> No.2813016
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>>2813012
This ultimately boils down to the fact that Nice Guys don't like themselves. Is it any wonder women don't like them? In order to truly love someone else, you must first love yourself. Too often Nice Guys mistake obsession for "love".

Get this Guys: INSECURITY ISN'T SEXY. IT'S A TURNOFF.

You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it. Only then will you be attractive to the kind of woman with whom a long-term relationship is possible.

>> No.2813018

>>2813016
Finally. You took this thread far too seriously.

>> No.2813021
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P(A girl is browsing this thread right now) = 54%

>> No.2813023

>>2813018
He was copy-pasting a popular and internet-spread rant. tl;dr to OP: No one owes it to you to go out with you.

>> No.2813025

>>2813016
Nice copy pasta bro.

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>>2813021
You don't say.

>> No.2813050

The bad thing is that now the "Nice Guy" term is slapped onto any guy who displays an even remote ounce of it and is immediately written off as one.

>> No.2813062

>>2812777
because if you are being a nice person to everyone in KS, you get Kenji end

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>>2813023
>He was copy-pasting a popular and internet-spread rant.
>He

>> No.2813066

>>2813058
Yeah, it was a guy. He's a troll. Get used to it.

>> No.2813067

In the end I ask the same question...

"Who the fuck in their right mind would want to get married these days?"

>> No.2813071

>>2813067
I don't really see a reason to get married unless you're religious.

>> No.2813074

>>2813067
I-I want to get married one day...

>> No.2813077

>>2812957
You mean that he must give up his dreams?, sorry but i prefer the ideology of dying dreaming.

>> No.2813079

>>2813067
People with estates.

>> No.2813086

>>2813071
And by "these days" I mean the way the current marriage laws are. Getting married now is like walking a fucking financial tightrope that is ruling against your (the man's) favor. It's a goddamn sham.

My wife cheats on me. I divorce her.
She gets half my shit
I cheat on my wife. She divorces me.
She still gets half my shit.

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>>2813066
Whatever gets you through the night.

>> No.2813097

>>2813086
If you must worry, you can always get a prenupt.

>> No.2813096

>lower your standards, shoot below your league. it doesn't matter if you act nice or like a douchebag to an attractive woman because she's got a lot of options that are more attractive than you and don't cry on 4chan. fat/ugly chicks don't have guys fawning over them constantly, so try that.

I'd rather remain a virgin than get with some god awful ugly crone that looks like her face has been sent through a wood chipper and a body that is a towering colossus of blubber.

>> No.2813108 [DELETED] 

>>2813086
Isn't that sort of thing dealt with in the prenuptial agreement? It your fault if it wasn't written out in your favor.

>> No.2813124

Remember this about fatties: just because they are fat doesn't mean they will take whatever comes their way.

So be nice to them!

>> No.2813139

There aren't enough nice people in the world. You're not happy with being nice? Makes me feel pretty good, sorry it's not like that for you.

>> No.2813146

>>2813124
Yea but, they're fat.

>> No.2813149

>>2813067
people who want to evade taxes.

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>girls still just go for total douchebags who treat them like shit.

Someone called?

>> No.2813167

>>2813156

Anon should be more like Rance.

>> No.2813178

>>2813167
It takes a large amount of confidence, plus the great skill and pornstar dick size to be like Rance.

>> No.2813199
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2813199

Someone here needs the teachings of sensei Makoto Ito.

>> No.2813196

>>2813124

Remember this about fatties: Just because they're fat doesn't mean they aren't as conniving, malicious, and self-absorbed as their thinner counterparts.

I'm not a misogynist, but if I could I would have given myself that advice when I was as socially retarded as all of you. Hitting on fat/ugly/nerdy chicks because they're in your "zone" doesn't mean two dicks. Some of the most lethal levels of unwarranted self-importance I've ever witnessed has come from downright fugly chicks, and I wish I could go back in time and convince myself that there's absolutely nothing redeeming hiding deep underneath their copious folds.

>> No.2813207

>>2813199
He died.

>> No.2813209

Rape them first, they will be addicted to it and eventually will become your slaves. I knew that because eroge taught me so.

>> No.2813210

>>2813207
Not only did he die, but he died horribly and like a little faggot.

>> No.2813217

>>2813199
I used to be a loser like most of /jp/'s users. I was a virgin at the age of 19, had never kissed, and didn't know how to behave around girls. Then I came over this incredible anime known as School Days. Through Sekai Saionji I learned how woman truly are: condescending, arrogant whores that only want the unattainable.

Remember how Sekai rejected all the guys who desired her body, while she was secretely fapping to the only guy who didn't like her: my sensei Makoto Ito.

Makoto Ito: A loser with no money nor friends. He taught me how to get chicks even though when I was a loser. Stay calm, stay cool, don't look down on yourself, and have other goals than fucking chicks. Slowly they'll be flocking around you like flies on a dog shit.

I am 100% serious. Watch SD now to study the dynamics and art of seduction.

Good luck friends!

>> No.2813230

>>2813207
>>2813210
He didn't die when I was in charge of his route.

>>2813217
What exactly were Makoto's goals other than fucking chicks?

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>>2813210
>>2813207
At least he died after fucking the hottest girls in his school and probably his life, unlike you /jp/.

>> No.2813227

If you act too nice, you'll just get friendzoned. Act a bit more mean or distant at times if you really care that much about getting inside a slut's pants.

Besides that, I just don't see why the fuck people are shitting themselves over their lack of girlfriend. You don't need some random bitch to give you a reason to live.

>> No.2813226

>Good luck dying and getting your head stuffed in a duffel bag, friends!

>> No.2813233

Because women don't feel excitement when having sex with a loser. There was an article about this but I don't have the link with me right now, sorry.

The research showed women feel pleasure when being fucked by a rich or a popular hotshot, thus why they're unfaithful and ignore the nerds. It's like a psychological thing mixed with instincts, pretty much the same how it work with animals where only the strongest male gets the pussy and the loser is treated like trash.

>> No.2813236

>>2813228
Yet I'm still alive.

>> No.2813242

>>2813167
But some Anonymous on /jp/ are total douchebags who would treat even the innocent lolis like shit. ;_;

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>>2812777
I could get you the girlfriend you want, but you have to kill everyone in /jp/ for one.

>> No.2813318

>>2813233
You think humans are some kind of animal or something? Get out of here with that shit.

>> No.2813335

>>2813167
Can't I be like Shibata instead? He was pretty cool.

>> No.2813340

>>2813318

Sorry buddy, but most psychologists are also going to be able to take one look at you and say "Yeah, this guy is never getting laid".

>> No.2813359

>>2813318
You think humans aren't some kind of animal? I hate people who believe that contrived shit that humans are superior animals just because we are more self aware than other ones.

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