>>10904336
you're right, it would be extremely weird for a girl/boy to be judging you and trying to decide how sexually compatible you are
and yes you would become very self-aware, as is the cliche
but this is a common erroneous perception. rather than to format one self to appeal to another, the point of the date is to express oneself and to elicit a response. This is why most people would tell a person who is going on a date to "be themselves". On the other hand, fear of rejection causes great anxiety in this case, since a most people take failed dates as signs that they're personalities are inadequate, when in actuality there probably was just a mismatch.
This is also why most successful dates are with established friends who already have a connection with each other, and not with some total stranger off the internet.
If a person is going on a date purely to get sum fuk, we call that a hook-up, and there are services out there for that.