/jp/ - Otaku Culture

>>38269123
With whom?

With an idol? Love is a reciprocal process. You cannot fall in love with an idol because you are obsessed with her, it isn't love. It's an effect of the bubble illusion promoted by the idol industry that you may believe it's love, though it's only a manifestation of the flawed capitalism of the idol industry affecting your mentality. Having an oshi is never a genuine reciprocal relationship because love requires deep mutual affection and expression of honesty from both. Maybe an idol may fall in love with a fan but, she isn't going to express it by idolism but genuine honest expressions of affection that are impossible to miss. She would not treat you like a fan. If you think you're going to be the one your oshi falls in love with because you obsess with her, that is not healthy. The chance of her falling in love with you is so minimal, realistically it does not even exist. So I would not fall in love with an idol. The obsession with Akane was not love, and I never believed it was.

With somebody who is not an idol? That should not have any effect on enjoying idols. There have been times when I fell in love with somebody, in those times I didn't stop listening to idol music or fapping to pics of idols... I fell in love with a woman I met when I was obsessed with Akane too, the feelings were entirely different. Maybe for somebody whose feelings are less introspective and who is unaware of their functions and such, the difference is less evident, but for me the difference between the feeling of even in an unhealthy obsessive way loving somebody without reciprocation is not the same as "loving" an idol. The love for an idol is love for the entertainment value of this idol, not for the idol as a person. You do not know the idol in real life, as a person, so, you cannot love her in a romantic way. If for you it becomes the same feeling as romantic love, this is unhealthy and can only end with your heart breaking. If I now fell in love with a woman, and she fell in love with me, then I would still enjoy idols if I begin to enjoy idols again. At this moment I would say I'm not enjoying idols, because I need to adjust to the mentality of appreciation of idolism again.