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I like Flare and Watame the most but my fetishes are all very masochistic and I enjoy things like humiliation play, light CBT, pegging, petplay, and pee and neither of them seem like they'd be very into that so I'm a bit confused as to what to do

Is it weird that I have oshis that don't appeal to me sexually at all?
Its hard to put into words but it's like I really love them but even if they'd also love me we'd never mesh well sexually and that's a big problem I think
I don't know it's complicated and I can't sort out my feelings alone so I'm asking for advice here
Does anyone have an oshi they aren't attracted to sexually?