Getting random messages asking for friendship

[Anonymous No.3519724]

I get a constant stream of messages where people try to discreetly ask for friendship and when i say no they act like victims like 'oh I'm sorry for bothering you, why would anyone want to be my friend anyway' I always try to be kind and just say I'm not looking for friendships, but it just seems to make them try and guilt me into talking to them more. i honestly don't get it they only message me because of my art no other reason, they don't even know me so why message me like they have known me for years?

Pic related is today. Anyone else relate? Do you get children wanting you to teach them art? I have many stories of different weird people messaging me over months.

Tldr: random people message me and ask to be friends i say know and they play victim.

[Anonymous No.3519726]

>>3519724
I'd get a couple, but they're all harmless. They'll probably look back and cringe off the face of the planet every time they think of that moment.

[Anonymous No.3519729]

>>3519726
Yeah I would if I did this. It makes me wonder why people who follow creators think their really close to the person they follow even though they don't know them.

[Anonymous No.3519733]

>>3519724
Maybe you just turn them down like an asshole? Most logical explanation for what i see.

[Anonymous No.3519735]

>>3519733
Not really i just really gently said that they seem really nice and intresting, but I'm not very good at friendships and I'm not intrested in making any, I'm not sure how you can be nicer than that.

[Anonymous No.3519741]

>>3519735
That just as bad. Don't get personal and say things they can tell you don't mean. Just tell them sorry but no and say you are not looking for friends on that account of yours.

[Anonymous No.3519743]

>>3519741
I have said this a thousand times, it doesn't change anything if you're not direct enough these kid will continuously message you and you will have to get even more direct and upset them. I think they did the best they could do.

[Anonymous No.3519745]

>>3519724
>Tfw you will never have polite shy boi how ask for your friendship , feels bad man

[Anonymous No.3519753]

>>3519724
please be my art friend

[Anonymous No.3519769]

>>3519724
I feel like that once and try to befriend some online artists
I feel lonely and overwhelming in the sea of book and tutorial for art and I need someone to guide me

[Anonymous No.3519772]

>>3519769
Thats just selfish and sad, guide yourself and stop trying to weigh others down because you're too stupid to learn yourself.

[Anonymous No.3519774]

>>3519772
yeah I would have to learn on my own in the end

[Anonymous No.3519775]

>>3519772
i'm jelly of all the artists that hangout with their artist friends and talk and draw and follow each other on twitter and do collabs and draw art for each other

[Anonymous No.3519785]

>>3519774
>>3519772
also I thought have someone who help and share the same interest with me would create a thicker bond friendship
but yeah I can't really drag them down with me

[Anonymous No.3520317]

>>3519724
hm, why would anyone randomly message you about friendships, are you into furry or some shit?

personally, they just say that they like my work and ask if they can buy prints. I make it pretty clear that I'm not some pantsie buddy guy who wants to hear about every sjw's underage problems, but stay strictly professional.

You're obviously portraying yourself in such a way that asks for these kind of people and comments. Aka you're pretending to be a girl or some lgbt furry faggot

[Anonymous No.3520341]

>>3520317
I draw cute artwork which makes children follow me and then they want to become "friends" for art favours, thats why. Sadly most of my following are childre tf ill never get followers on my patreon even though 5000 people follow me.

[Anonymous No.3520343]

>>3519775
I am as well anon don't worry

[Anonymous No.3520349]

>you can see the gradual slow decline of his hope and optimism turn to humiliation and self hatred
fuck that's depressing
makes me want to paint

[Anonymous No.3520363]

>>3520349
That's the difference between men and women. Men see that string of messages and feel bad and want to befriend and help. Women see it and get annoyed and want to wash their hands as quickly as possible of this person annoying them.

[Anonymous No.3520375]

>>3520363
funny joke

[Anonymous No.3520377]

I've had some fellows from /ic/ initiate a brief a chat, but that's about it.
I wish more people sent me messages, although I can image 15 year old kids on Tumblr aren't crowd you want to get involved with.

[Anonymous No.3520379]

>>3520375
You'll understand when you're older.

[Anonymous No.3520381]

>>3520379

[Anonymous No.3520382]

>>3520341
Post the cute artwork

[Anonymous No.3520459]

>>3519775
>used to have online friends like that
>they helped me out when I was at my worst
>suddenly lost contact with them without saying anything for no reason other than being a reclusive twat
>currently have no fucking clue if they're still alive
>mfw

[Anonymous No.3520463]

>>3519724
be their friend you faggot, what makes you so special?

[Anonymous No.3520467]

>>3519743
How the fuck is that not direct. Sounds like someone likes being a drama queen.

[Anonymous No.3520469]

>>3519724
yes i get these occasionally but i am really really good at ghosting people

[Anonymous No.3520471]

>>3519735
That comes off as BS to me. Tell them you have like 400 friends already and can't realistically invest time into random people unless they put forth a portfolio. If they actually want friendship they always can earn it.

[Anonymous No.3520476]

>>3519724
>oh uh,
>hhh
>I uh
Autism incarnate

[Anonymous No.3520477]

>>3519724
Anyone else feel kind of ticked reading that?

Something disgusting about it

[Anonymous No.3520483]

>>3520463
Why would they be friends with a random person? They dont have to become friends because this random kid insists on it.

[Anonymous No.3520486]

>>3520471
I would be friends with everyone who messages me, but i know that it won't work out, like what always happens when i accept friendships is that you force conversion because neither of you message at all then eventually you stop talking at all and i don't want to do that to anyone.

[Anonymous No.3520491]

>>3520471
That sounds discusting saying you have loads of friends already like their numbers, I'm content with how op handled it admit it guys you wouldn't have handled it any better.

[Anonymous No.3520506]

>>3520491
Don't pretend facts aren't facts and you might wind up with some genuine emotion.

I know there are people you look at and think "Lol how does a person end up being so fucking retarded? How do you make decisions that stupid?" But you don't have any personal issues with isolating yourself from the misguided, there's no shortage of them. in fact you've trained yourself to enjoy looking down at the bottom of society because the only alternative would be taking personal responsibility for their actions, which you can't handle.

It's not even legal to go knock sense into druggies, the system itself wants you to feed them to the meat grinder, so it's all to easy to make up excuses.

[Anonymous No.3520507]

>>3519724
post your tits

[Anonymous No.3520517]

>>3519729
they see part of our "creative process" and think it makes them closer to us than they actually are.

half of these that I get tend to be kids looking for free art of their OCs/fanfics.

[Anonymous No.3522342]

He has the right idea but is going about it the wrong way.

[Anonymous No.3523084]

>>3520507
How do you know OP is a she?

[Anonymous No.3523103]

>>3523084
It's obvious OP is a woman. Because instead of being friendly towards inquisitive fans who are undoubtedly children, or at the very least explaining she's busy or uninterested, she callously ignores them.

But not only does she callously ignore her young fans, but she has no concept how cold her actions are, and she has zero shame about sharing their correspondence. She assumes people acting with regret and shame at her callousness are "playing victims" instead of simply feeling burned.

Only a woman is capable of being this unempathetic towards a well-intentioned stranger and inept enough to think her actions are acceptable. If a man ignored a fan in such a manner, he would be able to comprehend at the very least he should not share his callousness with the world. But women need attention and need to subtly brag and inform others of their popularity.

[Anonymous No.3523127]

>>3523103
if the op was a woman she'd get constantly propositioned by indians asking to see bobs and she wouldn't need to ask /ic/ about it.

[Anonymous No.3523193]

>>3520363
If anything I've noticed the opposite trend. Every time I see PSAs about artists not wanting random friend requests and such they're male and tend to be a little jerkish about it.

[Anonymous No.3523200]

>>3520483
I never understood this kind of thing. Maybe I'm a bit autistic and can still relate to the dweebs. Yes you value your own time and self above all. But not even giving them a chance seems pretty rude.
If you saw someone in public and decided to make friendly conversation because you saw they wore a shirt of your favorite X or something, and they just shut you down immediately, not even gave non-committal responses, it'd be super rude. So I'm not sure why being online suddenly gives people, artists especially, this kind of view set.
It's like they're okay with making friends while tweens and as soon as they stop being cringy and get popular they all just shut down and stick with their old friends.

[Anonymous No.3523214]

>>3523193
Males will outwardly act like jerks. Women will frequently act caring and kind outwardly, but in private will be extremely cruel, manipulative, cold, etc. Men do not act like this

[Anonymous No.3523219]

>>3523214
Start posting on this board again when you’re over 18

[Anonymous No.3523224]

>>3523219
I don't care if you reject reality. You're only going to cause problems for yourself.

[Anonymous No.3523227]

>>3523224
When you get out of high school you’ll understand reality

[Anonymous No.3523445]

>>3519724
>being this autistic

[Anonymous No.3524539]

>>3523445
Why are you on 4chan if you're not Autistic?

[Anonymous No.3524547]

>>3519724
if you give in to these kind of kids even the slightest bit, they will NEVER stop bothering you and it'll just get harder to get them to let go the longer you wait

learn from my mistakes anon

[Anonymous No.3524548]

>>3519724
>hey i saw you drawing art over in /board/
>im never online when you're posting
>can i put in a request for the future?

this is why i stopped putting my username on art i do for fun

[Anonymous No.3524578]

>>3519724
>ask artist to be my friend
>left on read every time i message him
>try to strike a conversation
>Seen by Anon
>apologize and delete my social media
>go onto /ic/ to escape the embarassment of this encounter
>see this thread

[Anonymous No.3524591]

>>3524548
>hey i saw you drawing art over in /board/
>im never online when you're posting
lmao this. Some wacko keep messaging me in tumblr back when I used to draw for /co/.

[Anonymous No.3526299]

Networking is good.

[Anonymous No.3526473]

>tfw no art friends
>tfw no friends

[Anonymous No.3526487]

>>3520459
haha that was probably me

[Anonymous No.3527072]

>>3526473
>tfw no art friends
>tfw no friends
>tfw no one can distract you from drawing

[Anonymous No.3528115]

>see this
>go to check their profile
>a bunch of posts asking to draw their oc and retweets from others who fell for his free OC begging
don't ever do this lol

[Anonymous No.3528151]

>>3520476
This!

There is a "depressed" guy who wants to talk to me. Half his messages are him adding dots after each sentence or typing mmmmph

[Anonymous No.3528171]

>>3519724

Well a needy person like that it not someone you' d want to be friends with anyway. They'll attach like leeches upon you if you give them anything at all to work with. Feel gross just reading this.

[Anonymous No.3528178]

>>3519724
Hmm, viewing this thread I now remember the time I became infatuated with a popular but underground local music artist. I found her snapchat on her instagram, and added her and kept sending weird messages for many of her stories. Also she posted her tits on her story so i recorded that. Anyway i think she blocked me eventually, or just read but didn't respond at all to anything i wrote so that i grew mad and deleted her.

I felt that i knew her because i was so intimate with her music and vision and stalked her online, but i really didn't and was only creepy

[Anonymous No.3528258]

>>3519724
Obviously, you only reply if its a cute legal grill so you can have an arthoe fan gf. Just don't be like the Ren and Stimpy guy.

Anyway, we all know that getting laid is the only reason we are all drawing for.

[Anonymous No.3529985]

>>3519724
OP, post work I want to suck your pee pee too

[Anonymous No.3530153]

>>3520363
Thats because women can see through their fake bullshit you mung incel

[Anonymous No.3530162]

>>3528171
This.

I’ve got some of these too, and without fail theire clingy as fuck and mega demanding.

Theirs not bringing any interesting attributes, but just out of the blue messaging you asking to be friends. That’s awkward as fuck.

I just ignore them.