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>3 seperate invites to go do cool stuff on halloween night tonight
>come up with stupid frivolous excuses not to go to any of them
>now sitting at home in front of the computer

>mfw avoidant personality disorder

are normal people like this?

also social anxiety/feels thread

>> No.7171122

>>7171106
don't worry about it, you're not special

>> No.7171131
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>are normal people like this?
Not really no. Unless you're either lazy or have some kind of thing that cripples you from interacting with people you need to go have fun and work on getting better, anon.

It'd probably be okay too if you had work tomorrow but even then you could discipline yourself and head back at a decent time.

>> No.7171133

>girl I met at a haloween party last week wants to go clubbing tonight.
>tell her I'll take her.
>don't really want to take her.
>tell her I'm about to leave
>get a text saying i'll have to wait a bit longer.
>call her complicated.
>mfw i got out of doing shit tonight.
iktf bro. I started taking medication the other day for it.

>> No.7171143

>>7171133
what medication do you take?

what does it do?

>> No.7171147

>normal people

Not really such a thing, I think. That said, fuckin' avoidance.

>> No.7171151

>>7171143
An SSRI. Helps with social anxiety.

>> No.7171159
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7171159

>have multiple girls I talk to on a regular basis
>they all hate each other and get jealous of each other
>tfw some of their anger is directed at me and I'm mediating all these different situations like some psychopath manipulator

>> No.7171162

When I was in the uni I used to go out almost every night of the week, parties all the time, super social. Then I got bored of partying and started staying at home.

I think its pretty normal, some people just prefer to stay at home rather than going out

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7171179

do you avoidants seek to be around people, but do not do so for some reason?

>> No.7171194

>>7171179
Yes.

>> No.7171227

i don't understand the american condition of succsess.

in the united states, education and fiscal independence are not valued.

it's how many women you socialize with, and getting drunk every weekend

i don't understand it.
i've been called a loser several times becuase i don't maintain freindships with people male or female. enguage in small talk or participate in the act of "texting".

i don't like people, people don't like me
why do i have to spend time around these people?
supply them with alchol and drugs since these people generally don't have any money?

supply them with food and beverage?

why?

if i am a loser because i don't go to parties, pay for every female's meal, or supply females in the region with the attention they constantly crave then so be it.

>> No.7171244

>>7171106
iktf. I'm the same way.

Thing is I'd probably have fun, but I've already hyped myself up for playing scary games on Halloween night.

>tfw now sitting in front of my computer not playing these scary games

>> No.7171261

>>7171106
>implying avoidant people get invited to parties in the first place
stop bumming off others people's illnesses

>> No.7171299

>this thread
>my feels
;_;

>> No.7171318

>that feel when lonely and want friends really badly
>that feel when finally hang around people but end up not liking any of them because they're annoying
>I miss my old friends where we could say any shit we wanted to and were comfortable around each other

I know that feel OP

>> No.7171332

>>7171318
>>7171318
man hanging out with ppl you've just met sucks

sometimes they get better tho
sometimes it's the same shit no matter how long you know them

you rlly do have to find ppl you like. it makes it all worth it

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7171360

>tfw no qt p2t gf to coord fits with in your dark room and watch fashion docus while doing fat lines and smoking weed and cuddling.

>tfw people will never see you n your gf 2gether in all black rickxannxjulius fits n think "oh how mysterious those 2 are did they just come back from the badass convention?" while u r quietly making fun of everyone else in the supermarket.

>> No.7171356

>>7171227
education and fiscal independence are not valued
being charismatic and wealthy are valued
socializing with women often, and having the luxury of being drunk every weekend are indicative of being charismatic and wealthy.

>i've been called a loser several times becuase i don't maintain freindships with people male or female. enguage in small talk or participate in the act of "texting".
Unless you deal with a bunch of complete fucks, then these are not the reasons you are called a loser. They are part of it, but would not be primary reason. More likely, the primary reason is that you're a dick. It's not that you don't engage in small talk, it's that you do not understand small talk. When you attempt to, you end up being awkward, aggressive, annoying, childish, etc. Thus, people get offended and go out of their way to (try) to offend you. If you actually understood how not to interact with people, (and I don't mean go woods) no one would insult you. No one would hate you, no one would care about you. You would simply be ignorable. That should be your goal, if you don't want to deal with people.

>> No.7171370

>>7171356
>fiscal independence
I took that to mean independent of others (loans, parents whatever)
but I'm wrong
fiscal independence is valued, I have no idea why you would think otherwise unless you, like me, failed to understand the term.
Unless of course you're stupid enough to believe that the 1% nonsense is anything legitimately significant.

>> No.7171376

>tfw index finger and thumb keep twitching involuntarily
>trying to find papers denoting potential of early onset parkinsons

>> No.7171395

>>7171356
americans dislike old money, class or sophistication. anyone who would be defined as a MAN in their own right in any other nation other than canada, the united states or australia are automatically disliked.

americans value stupidity and ignorance above all else, and im not the only one saying it.

i do feel ashamed of this culture being american, but i would cease to defend this nation shall it be invaded.

children on /fa/ value being drunk every weekend on another's dime, charisma isn't defined as being dependent on women which you guys very clearly are.

i think that america is a nation of boys, who have no real direction in life dependent on booze and women, seeking out a replacement for their mothers

>> No.7171435

>>7171106
I feel you OP :c
except that I don't even get invites

>> No.7171437

>>7171395
americans idealize sophistication (but often do not understand it)
americans do dislike class and old money however, but this too is because they fail to understand what old money is and what it means. Generally, it is perceived to be unearned, unfair and comes off the back of the working class. The last is probably true, to be fair, but their aren't that many ways to go about it and it's often quite indirectly.
americans also don't really dislike education, but rather they often put 'street education' on a higher pedestal. But not really street knowledge either, it's more of the knowledge earned from doing physical labor. The educated tend to be perceived as weak frail and overly specialized. It doesn't help that many people with minor education believe themselves to be far greater than those without, and sometimes even on the same level as those who are actually educated (those with minor education simply haven't attained the specialization in the same field, but have done equal work in their own.)
But really this is just the ideology of the poor and the stupid, whohave greater self-valuing in america than elsewhere

>children on /fa/ value being drunk every weekend on another's dime, charisma isn't defined as being dependent on women which you guys very clearly are.
ok but both again are indicative of wealth and charisma. Obviously they are not the only ways to go about it, but they are still very clear signs.

and the last sentence is just really fucking stupid

>> No.7171498

>>7171395

man you complain about America a lot. it's not impossible to move, you know? get the proper education that allows you to get a desirable job, and you can move anywhere on this earth you would like :)

>> No.7171511

>>7171498
no u dont understand he has to be consistent with his brand

>> No.7171526

>>7171511

yeah. I don't follow him much, but he likes to call others out for being poor while living off of inheritance, it seems? or at least that's his story? really dumb.

>> No.7171663

>>7171332
Yeah. First semester of uni so I'm not too worried it's just that this time in between sucks

>> No.7171690

>>7171159
FUCKING THIS. Being a male nurse listening to every women's drama is draining and stressful. Can't women just get along and work.

>> No.7171696

feel u op <3 i avoided my way right out of therapy

>> No.7171703

>>7171261
not really true. lots of contingencies in this world

>> No.7171716

>>7171703
Believe me, I'm a pro at this. Avoidance is a way of life, not just being a pussy and not going to a party. I can keep people from interacting with me without saying a word. Get on my level.

>> No.7171853

>>7171716
>I can keep people from interacting with me without saying a word
Isnt that all it takes? To say nothing to people so they'll leave you alone

>> No.7171887

>>7171853
no
somepeople that run their mouths 24-7 feel like everyone in the world wants to talk to them

>> No.7171895

I haven't had friends since I started high school

>> No.7171958

>>7171887
tru.dat
gotta use my psychic powers to letem know when to stop
i don't remember the last time i actually spoke i usually just use my mind powers

>> No.7172009

>>7171887
it really doesn't take much effort if you know how to handle situations
hell even if you're completely retarded you can resort to headphones.

>> No.7172020

>>7171360
tfw used to have the privilege of doing this
tfw barely any friends any more and live far away from all of them
tfw you want your life back but can't motivate yourself to stop being neet and get a car

>> No.7172022

>>7171106
I worked and then went to the gym tonight.

I had already worked shoulders this morning so I did abs, spin bike, and danced. The girl I like at work clocked out 30 minutes before I clocked in.

>tfw I just wanted to dance to this with her

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pEq8DBxm0J4

but the bitch is crazy and every time I go to ask her out she's in a bad mood. I think she liked me before and I blew it

>> No.7172033

>>7172020
meant to quote op

>> No.7172073

I'm pretty avoidant, and so is my girlfriend. We're both happy. I don't think it's a disorder unless it's affecting your life drastically (not being able to work or go to school etc) If you're just avoidant of parties or whatever then it's more like a tendency. Some people are just less social.

>> No.7172092

>>7172073
this thread isn't about people who avoid others
this thread is about stupid fucks who can't appreciate being alone and can't understand basic social structures so they're stuck in their shitty little rut

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>7-8/10 skinny qt girl asks you out to the halloween party her school organizes
>"Uhh i'm really sorry i can't, i have to go to my aunts house, it's her birthday.

tfw i am actually sitting at home doing absolutely nothing wondering why i am so socially awkward

>> No.7172710

>>7171106
hw did you get the aurelie curie full res

>> No.7172714

>>7171227
you don't have any friends? at all?

>> No.7172730

How do you even go out and meet folks when in uni?
I've been to a local student favorite club once, nobody even noticed me. It's like everyone already has a huge social circle in which you will never ever fit in under any circumstances. It's impossible to start knowing people if you are lonely from the way I see it.

>> No.7172744

>>7171227
you forget that different kinds of people appreciate different things, and that these people tend to congregate no matter how small a niche they are

it just so happens that a lot of people appreciate being social and boozing over anything else, I won't pretend to understand why

if you want to find people who appreciate your successes, the best place to look would be around those with the same kind of accomplishments, no?

>> No.7172786

>sleep 12 hours last night (halloween) just to get to your kop
can I get a feelcheck on this one brothers?

>> No.7172801

>>7172744
those people never leave their house to socialize in the first place.

>> No.7172827

>>7172009
>headphones
>willingly setting yourself up for the burden of eventually having to take them out when some chatterbox targets you

>> No.7172839

>Feel like I'm wasting my life working my 8-7 job that I hate, constantly questioning the logic of it all
>Still do a good job, even though I hate it
>Call in sick for one day, feel like the worst person in the world

Fuck life, I was happy until I got this jobit

>> No.7172841

>>7172730
>nobody noticed me
Then notice people and talk to them. The whole point of common interest groups is to gather people who have a common interest. Common interests are a good starting point for conversation. Conversation with new people is what people there expect. You literally could not be set up easier for getting to talk to a stranger, literally all you need is to just swallow your nervousness and do it

>> No.7172849

>>7172841
How? Absolutely nobody was alone there. More than that, most of the people were in groups of 4-6. Do you just come up to them squeeze yourself in their conversation? It doesn't work like that. My bad language (since I'm a dirty slav immigrant in scandinavia) and not exactly stellar looks don't help the situation.

>> No.7172870

>>7172849
If it's a common interest meeting, they should expect to meet new people, otherwise they might as well have stayed home together if they were gonna stick to themselves. You're not in the wrong for trying to meet people in a situation like that.

If literally everyone is in a group, that is more intimidating. You would just try to find the smallest group you can or just keep at it until you find someone alone. What matters is just doing it. Once you start talking to strangers, it gets exponentially easier.

>> No.7172873

>>7172849

yeah, that shit tough nigga. Just get drunk and hope for the best is my advice, you only need to know one person to break into the circle. Of course chances are they're fucking boring anyway but of well

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>mfw all I want is a prescription for amphetamines so I can stop caring about social interactions and only worry about school

>> No.7172902

>>7172896
until you realize amphetamines make you a fucking social butterfly

>> No.7173336 [DELETED] 

>>7172827
you don't take them out.

>> No.7173351

>>7172827
You don't have headphones in constantly
You put them in when someone you don't want to talk to wants to talk to you. Quietly, slowly and vaguely looking in a different direction.

>> No.7173590

>tfw cuddling

it's been too long :^)

>> No.7173601

Please post excuses I need some more. I had to go celebrate my birthday with my friends last week and it was awful.

>> No.7173609

>>7172801
those people never do anything, the people I'm talking about are completely different

just because you don't appreciate something doesn't mean you cower in its wake

>> No.7173889

>>7171106
>are normal people like this?
Nope

>> No.7173907

>>7171227

hang out with people that arent nazis, liberals are actually quite nice people

>> No.7173953

>>7171261
>2011
>Not panicking before a party and pretending to have just broken your wrist

Had to avoid that whole group for like 3 weeks after that fantastic piece of crunch moment lying.

>> No.7174000

>>7172902
>social butterfly
Whats that mean?

>> No.7174003

>>7171690
I always wondered why women dont get why no one likes them in an office.

They gossip, have fucking drama for no reason, talk shit constantly.

I cant fucking stand them.

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>>7171437
I don't know if you're new here or what but I'd just ignore sieg.
He's a dipshit.

>> No.7174021

>>7174000

that you're exceedingly social

that was my experience with adderall. was talking to everyone around me

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7174027

>>7174000
You flit from interaction to interaction generally without forming any real attachment or bond.

>> No.7174034

>>7174015
w2c

>> No.7174035

>>7171887
You're right sieg. Some people do that..

>> No.7174045

>>7174034
No idea. I want one though. I just saw an image set on tumblr.

>> No.7174057 [DELETED] 

>Meet former acquaintance
>Buy him lunch
>Get told about possibility of getting invite to Halloween party by acquaintance
>Ask about party.
>Finally get invited late at night.
>Go to buy beer
>Takes an hour because of long lines.
>Acquaintance and others leaving just as I get there.
>Lol anon, you can still go to the (half-finished) party if you want.

People are shitty. This is the sort of thing that creates recluses.

At least I made some money working at a kids party earlier that night.

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>cool people who like music and stuff in my class
>one of them adds me on fb and lastfm
>always avoid them and never talk to them

>> No.7174071

>>7174015
i haven't really taken note of any trips other than poet uuuhh and twerk
everyone else I just end up taking as anon

>> No.7174117

>compromised a frenemie's facebook account a few months ago to acquire dirt on him to ruin his life
>use it to snoop through conversations/inboxes etc
>use it to read group conversations I'm a part of without facebook saying "Seen by [anon]"

>depressive streak, not responded to texts/calls/emails/facebook messages, didn't even answer the door when some "friends" came knocking for me last night

>see that I have an inbox, it's a new group chat
>can't see all who's in the group (about 8 people)
>don't know what's being said
>log onto compromised facebook account
>he's not part of the chat
>don't know what's being said and who by

Feels sorta creepy but the guy was a cunt, so I don't feel bad about having access to his facebook without him knowing
His password was barely any better than "password" tbh


to make it fashion related: >tfw wearing thick wooly socks