Does being /fa/shionable actually make you attractive to girls? can we have some mirin stories

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Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:19:27 2016 No.11397089 [Reply] [Original]

Does being /fa/shionable actually make you attractive to girls?

can we have some mirin stories

>>	Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:26:14 2016 No.11397113 who is she

Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:27:18 2016 No.11397115
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>>11397089

no real story but yes when you wear something cool as fuck you tend to feel pretty fucking confident and girls(usually tumblarina types) mire for sure.

you can tell they are interested in you from eye contact and maybe a smile but you quickly remember deep down you are still autistic so actually talking to them is the complicated part.

>>	Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:31:58 2016 No.11397127 >>11397115 i feel this so much dude copped geos from the ssense sale and was confident enough to ask a qt from uni to hang out

>>	Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:46:20 2016 No.11397169 >>11397089 girl here yes it makes you look like you've got your shit together. Women who know how to dress usually attract more men too. It goes both ways

>>	Anonymous Sun Jun 12 23:48:09 2016 No.11397174 >>11397169 post feet

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:12:38 2016 No.11397239

>>11397089
Grill here and no, not necessarily. If you don't have a 10/10 personality I might dig your style but that's as far as it goes. My bf of 4 and a half years wasn't effay at all when we met and I never really cared, but over time he let me help him find his own style and now he dresses pretty well. It's not a priority in terms of relationships.
That being said, if you DO have an awesome personality it can be a good conversation starter.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:18:07 2016 No.11397253 >>11397239 >10/10 personality well fuck.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:24:56 2016 No.11397263 >>11397239 >10/10 personality how don't understand how anyone can expect this when the vast majority of women are incredibly vapid and boring

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:29:32 2016 No.11397277 >>11397089 I get way more looks when I wear a ttigh henley with my man cleavage showing than when I'm dressed nicely. Protip: work out

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:30:27 2016 No.11397280

>>11397089
Depends on the person. Really, people shouldn't care about how you dress, but we all know they do to some extent. Dressing well isn't going to do anything if you are anxious and not willing to present your full self to others. When you start putting that out there people will start to gravitate towards you.

Some people are more materially invested than others. Personally I love the image of a couple, dressed in all black, very skinny, with coffee and cigarette walking through some downtown. Does it matter terribly if I get that? Eh, it's not a big concern. But, maintaining a certain image might be important to others, and they might be able to look past a slow-to-open person because of their style.

Stories:

Couple days back I heard some teenagers saying "So cool, so artsy" as they past me.

Get a lot of complements on my outfits in general. Also my demeanor, have had people say I have a good energy, for what it's worth. Clothes go part of the way with that, they at least make me look comfortable and confident because I wear shit most other people wouldn't.

Currently seeing a girl who was attracted to me because of my hair and outfit. She even said hi first, so it might get you somewhere, but if I wasn't confident and comfortable within myself it wouldn't have made a difference.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 00:31:27 2016 No.11397282 >>11397263 Vapid and boring women don't even give a shit about personality at all, just whether or not you're Chad. Women who have standards other than looks are generally not boring.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 02:14:01 2016 No.11397477

My personal opinion is that When you start your goal is to achieve what you want to transmit to everyone who looks at you, this implies a fit or well fitting body, this has to be in sintony with your personality and looks (hair color and type ecc. Then you'll start to dress to your body. Then your personality will be fed by all the poor personality people seeing you don't give a duck about them. You'll grow up as an misanthropic cool guy for tumblerinas and someone people are scared of. Sure, maybe you'll fuck a lot, maybe you'll be successful but all this process will cause a drop in your human consideration in general. Sad story senpai

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 02:45:48 2016 No.11397547 >>11397282 Thiiiiiiiiis. Most of you guys clearly do not come into contact with enough women

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 02:51:20 2016 No.11397559 >>11397174 Aye ^^^

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 02:55:19 2016 No.11397566 >>11397089 WHO IS THIS SEMEN DEMON

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 02:58:17 2016 No.11397569 No but being /fit/ does

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 03:01:25 2016 No.11397574 >>11397547 This is my problem, but I don't know where to meet girls that are interesting

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 03:11:50 2016 No.11397587

its not clothes its not muscles.
its mostly what u say to them and how u interact when u talk to them.
also u have to do practice that shit , if u stay in ur basement all the time u are not suddenly gonna have game when u finally come out.
I got laid in the most retarded outfits possible.
It takes confidence , have u never noticed how some of the hottest chicks date/fuck these wacky looking dudes.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 03:25:55 2016 No.11397598

>>11397587
Actually though this. My boyfriend is a chubby geek with no fashion sense (I happen to think he is perf and adorable but accept that most other people would disagree) and I love the shit out of him because he's sweet as fuck, makes me laugh, and he's intelligent and interesting as a person. He also loves me and makes me feel wanted. It's not that hard people! Put down the protein shake and get a personality, you'll be golden.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 03:30:00 2016 No.11397602 >>11397115 >you can tell they are interested in you from eye contact and maybe a smile but you quickly remember deep down you are still autistic so actually talking to them is the complicated part. are you me?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 03:57:27 2016 No.11397645 >>11397239 >10/10 personality Post feet

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:06:38 2016 No.11397661 >>11397598 >implying you wouldn't drop him at a heartbeat as soon as a Chad comes along and talks to you

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:09:05 2016 No.11397663 >>11397661 /thread

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:11:37 2016 No.11397667 >>11397598 >just b urself :^)

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:18:31 2016 No.11397671 File: 143 KB, 437x336, 1465750894480.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397169 nah. If woman with 10/10 face idc what she is wearing i just wanna hit that. u feel me

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>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:28:00 2016 No.11397682 File: 9 KB, 300x300, 1465738506450.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397598 >>11397239 stop spouting all this nonsense.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:29:39 2016 No.11397686 File: 21 KB, 70x80, スクリーンショット 2016-06-09 22.59.03.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] no full rick no raf no yohji will liberate me from crippling anxiety spill de la spaghetti

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 04:40:00 2016 No.11397697 >>11397598 SHOO SHOO MEDIOCRITY GOBLIN

>>	pervert Mon Jun 13 04:57:38 2016 No.11397721 >>11397169 post thighs

>>	pervert Mon Jun 13 04:59:30 2016 No.11397723 >>11397277 this. girls notice you more when you are handsome and built well. when i wear tight shirts alot of shawties mirin.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:01:29 2016 No.11397724 >>11397547 wrong. more like, a majority of women are vapid and boring.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:03:42 2016 No.11397726 >>11397598 hahahah are u dating videogamedunkey?

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:07:10 2016 No.11397729

A girl saw my uc x kajima takayuki hat laying around the room and was in awe. Impressed that it was rabbit fur. She knew her shit. Then got mad because she thought another girl had left it over. This is what my friend told me. He had to explain to her it was his effay friends hat and not some other effay girl he was banging. I never even had a girl in my room.

Oh but once i was in uniqlo and a girl who worked there said she liked my jacket. But she was like a 4/10.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:14:31 2016 No.11397737 >>11397729 faggot

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:16:43 2016 No.11397739 >>11397686 THERE IS NO YSL THAT THEY COULD SELL

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Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:23:41 2016 No.11397749
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>>11397169
>Women who know how to dress usually attract more men too. It goes both ways
It doesn't simply go both ways, hygiene and style is a basic requirement for girls, unless you're trash class. I mean, some people get off on hoes and fucking downwards, but I don't date dumb women and only dumb women don't know how to dress.

>>11397587
Girls are attracted to power, period. Not muscles or clothes or taste, yes, but money and "confidence" is just misattributing a correlation.

Sometimes they fall in love, too. That's a different deal. I can't help you with that, though my gut tells me cultivating sincerity and, what's the word, holiness? angelicness? not partaking in any of the 7 deadly sins, etc. is your best bet

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 05:39:10 2016 No.11397775 >>11397729 that gay ass hat tho lmao

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 06:36:23 2016 No.11397863 >>11397239 >If you don't have a 10/10 personality I might dig your style >over time he let me help him find his own style and now he dresses pretty well are you sure your 10/10 isn't just someone you can mould? That's what it sounds like

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 06:47:36 2016 No.11397880 >>11397115 why am i laughing but i still relate to this

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 06:58:45 2016 No.11397898 Had a random girl at college ask if im a model yesterday, when i said no she said that i should be. I think it might of had something to do with my clothes too

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 06:59:47 2016 No.11397902 >>11397671 This guy gets it tho

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 07:06:11 2016 No.11397915 >>11397671 This i would marry a hot girl even if she only weared potato sacks

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 07:09:35 2016 No.11397919 >>11397915 i get extremely turned off if a girl dresses badly even if shes hot. an ons all she get

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 07:13:18 2016 No.11397926 I only like slim girls that wear the stuff you see in the "muh-dick core" threads

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 07:15:04 2016 No.11397927 I wear really weird shit. Not the normal taste of /fa/ I make half my clothes. Gets me laid, but i guess you have to go case by case

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 08:06:11 2016 No.11397994 I've only had gay dudes compliment me t b h

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 08:28:39 2016 No.11398024 >>11397115 this is so me

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 08:49:11 2016 No.11398051 no, it's all about genetics and manners. I dress like shit but I get lots of attentions because I'm handsome, I have speech skills and I'm kind of detached when I talk to chicks.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 08:58:55 2016 No.11398065
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>teach uni
>always have a few hot freshman babes
>can tell when they mire
>specifically get chinos that make my ass look nice for when I stand at chalkboard
>know I could get laid
>afraid to lose my job which is how I make sick cops
>pic is me eventually

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:05:31 2016 No.11398074

>>11397089
No. One of my more artsy sjw type female friends commented on a friend of mine she doesn't know being hot and he dresses in sweats, adidas running sneakers, and t shirts almost exclusively. He just happens to be a very objectively beautiful person and attracts a lot of girls that way
>nohomo

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:09:14 2016 No.11398084 >>11397280 post fit

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:17:59 2016 No.11398099 >>11398065 i wish you were a female

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:20:34 2016 No.11398108 >>11398065 you're living the dream man

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:23:13 2016 No.11398113 >>11397566 fucking this. Oh my god. I don't usually get weird over internet picture girls.. BUT FUCKING 'ELL MAN SHE'S PERFECT.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:24:54 2016 No.11398117 >>11397282 Not really. It usually comes down to >I need him to be interesting and entertaining but I don't want to return the favor

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:39:27 2016 No.11398145

>>11397089
Not in my experience. I used to think I'd care. I come from preppies. My dad is very into fashion, grooming, exercise, etc. I thought I wanted a dude as well turned out as that. But no. I wound up with a dude who wears only baggy Gap jeans because they're comfy and does not care if he is covered in lint or crumbs or animal fur. I buy him nice shoes, he wears them until they get literal holes in them. I try to replace them, he says no because they only just got comfortable when they broke in enough to get holes. Oh well. He's brilliant, fun to hang out with, thinks I'm hilarious, and is just my type. I don't need a guy who is into clothes, or even a guy who cares enough about them not to wipe pizza sauce on them. He's great. I'm all good.

It probably matters more or less to some people, though. I've never seen my sister with a guy who didn't look like an ad for Trunk Club.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:40:11 2016 No.11398147 File: 833 KB, 2573x1709, yG7RRhu.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11398084 I like this outfit but with an oversized Chapter button-down. Makes the look feel more relaxed, but this is good too.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:46:39 2016 No.11398159 >>11398147 great fit though

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:48:45 2016 No.11398166 >>11397115 /fa/ in a nutshell so accurate so painful

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 09:49:03 2016 No.11398169 >>11397089 yes but it won't do the whole work. it will be "oh anon dresses nice/cool/etc".

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 10:56:27 2016 No.11398320 Maybe To a certain standard, yes But if you dress too well, no. You just look homo and like you are insecure/care too much about yourself.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 11:09:04 2016 No.11398346

>>11397115
>Tfw objectively good looking, dress basic by /fa/ standards but very well by shitty town i live in standards
>tfw still never get girls bc im doing as shit and dont know what to say
Sometimes I wonder how Ive managed to have gfs in the past.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 11:14:34 2016 No.11398363 >>11397566 >>11397113 looks like saxon sharbino

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 12:20:22 2016 No.11398510

>>11398065
This desu. That feeling when I was rather cool but a little shy guy during my BSc, who concentrated on his studies. Thanks to that I got accepted to a noice grad school, and after I got this position I started working out, made substantial progress in my social relations and style (kinda preppish). Now it's a third year, I'm 6'3", 202lbs, I became easy going and chilled guy, but I don't have much time for social stuff, since I have to concentrate on my research and most of my friends here also grad students who basically don't give a fuck about going out (but nevertheless are nice people to talk with and stick around at the department). It might seems rather comfy but trust me that every semester is a fucking hell. I am conducting exercise classes and if you could only see these freshman girls hngg. They are making eyes at me for 90 minutes and once the class is finished coming to me and asking stupid questions, that I have already answered for a few times, and giggling at the answers. It happened already for a few times that they asked whether we can meet to discuss stuff later, but every time it made literally no sense, since we discussed everything that we had to, and it seemed at least sketchy, so I was too afraid to not refuse. I hope that soon I will find some qt because it is getting unbearable.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 12:39:51 2016 No.11398567 >>11397645 kekkeroo

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 12:50:47 2016 No.11398604 >>11397726 fucking hell beat me to it

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:14:56 2016 No.11398692

>>11397115
>you can tell they are interested in you from eye contact and maybe a smile but you quickly remember deep down you are still autistic so actually talking to them is the complicated part.
Too real.

Also being an uncaring asshole does not help.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:20:18 2016 No.11398708 >>11398065 >>afraid to lose my job which is how I make sick cops lel'd

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:29:59 2016 No.11398741

>>11397598
This is completely plausible.

The only guy in my group of friends who has a long-time loving girlfriend is literally exactly like you described, with the addition that he spends most of his free time playing videogames.

The rest of us are more "athletic" and "outgoing" and one of us is a proper gym jockey, but the only girls we seem to attract are hypersexual bimbos.

((And even then my eccentric or as we say it here, autistic personality actually prevents me from getting laid))

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:35:06 2016 No.11398760 >>11397598 >just be yourself guise :) <3

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:57:37 2016 No.11398826 I once wore this kickass Adidas crew sweatshirt and got complimented by grills the next day when I wasn't even even wearing it. I think it goes to show the style really is important and that people really do notice.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 13:59:52 2016 No.11398833 >>11398147 thats a dress

Patrick Bateman !!eZg4ZGkAk6j Mon Jun 13 14:16:53 2016 No.11398888

>>11397089
Depends on the girl. Some girls tend to find overdressed guys to be a bit off-putting, as it implies they try too hard. Some girls tend to like it, as obviously there's a bit of an appeal to the look (and, for the Tumblerina types, it hits the right spots for them aesthetically).

Generalizing is thus a bad idea.

With that said, I will say that - regardless - your personality matters exponentially more. I'd rather be poorly dressed and friendly/fun than well-dressed and a proverbial stick in the mud.

Case in point: was at an outdoor event this weekend. Some fucker brought an $800 Tumi duffel filled with designer clothing, and both were promptly wrecked by weather/etc. His whining and overall "nah I'm not gonna go swim because the water might fuck up my designer swimsuit" attitude was unquestionably parodied by the girls attending.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:18:05 2016 No.11398897

>walking to work downtown
>qt wearing colorful raf sneakers
>"nice shoes"
>instant date mode
>she's in town for a photo shoot
>model from sweden
>had to go to work night shift
>she leaves next day
>check her instagram
>had a Chad hockey player bf
>tfw almost cucked a Chad

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:25:34 2016 No.11398932

If you stop being afraid of rejection you'll have a much better time. Women really do not care at all about what clothes you wear and barely care about how you look.

If you want a grillfriend just find a cutie, talk to them for like a day, and then ask them out. Ez as that. If they say no, then oh well, you probably still made a friend, time to move on to the next girl.

Clothes aren't going to get you laid or get you a gf. Women are usually more anxious than you are and are not going to make the first move regardless of how much Rick you wear.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:28:22 2016 No.11398946 >>11398897 That never happened m8.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:29:19 2016 No.11398950

ITT: idiots getting butthurt when someone says personality matters
You fucking wish there were an easy way to get women like dressing well or getting ripped because you don't want to work on your internal character, that shit is hard. The truth is that the types of women you attract with superficial things are the types of women you complain about; promiscuous, shallow, boring, etc. Just because Kayla Marie broke your heart in high school doesn't mean each and every girl will leave you for Chad like she did. It means you attract the wrong women. If you work on your personality, it doesn't fucking matter what you wear or how nice your bod is, women will like you. Shallow women want Chad, but worthwhile women want personality. Go be somebody.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:32:10 2016 No.11398966
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>>11397115
oh honeyboo, you'll be okay. c:

>>11398932
>If you stop being afraid of rejection you'll have a much better time.
I agree with your sentiment, but the keyword to this whole thing is rejection.

I believe nothing makes us quite who we are without hitting bedrock. Because seriously, the first time you endure rejection, it will sting you in the hart. Afterwards, you'll try again and it will sting less.

Then, in a michaelis menten-type kinetics graph you'll feel that rejection (difference between vmax and v(0)) and it will never be zero (v(0)=/=vmax) regardless of how many times you try, but everytime it becomes less.

That said when long relationships end they will drill that ass past bedrock.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:32:13 2016 No.11398967

>>11398897
>walking to work because I forgot my bus tokens
>trudging along with my head down, playing on my 3DS
>accidentally knock into some girl, she drops her phone and latte
>peer up to see who it is, really hot girl
>*dick retreats into body cavity*
>"watch where you're going, please!"
>bottom lip is trembling, don't know what to do
>keep looking down, see her shoes, lightbulb.
>"n-n-nice shoes...where'd you c-cop them?"
>she smiles, says she's a model
>"word...w-what's your insta?"
>hesitantly, she gives it to me.
>5k followers; wewlad.png
>keep walking to work, psyched because grill gave me her insta
>like first few pics, dm her about her shoes again
>three hours pass, getting slow at 7/Eleven
>no ones been in the store for almost an hour, 11pm.
>Lock the front door, go to employee bathroom, catch a beat to one of her bikini pics from summer 2014
>accidentally like it mid-climax, try to make up for it by liking one on the same time scale
>realize she's in a relationship
>switch from Instagram to Opera on my S4 (with minimalist tiles and greyscale theme)
>post story to 4Chan

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:34:24 2016 No.11398977 >>11398950 I'm sorry Kayla Marie did that to you anon. Jokes aside you're right.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:35:16 2016 No.11398979

>>11398966
Rejection is obviously going to be horrible the first few times but you just have to not fear it. Expect it, and realize that if you do get rejected then it had to happen and it happens to everyone. You will feel awful for a little while but if you didn't try then you'd alone forever.

A few weeks of sadness over rejection is better than a lifetime of loneliness and suffering.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:36:35 2016 No.11398983 >>11398510 Lol the stupid questions after class are the worst (best?) >excuse me professor, can you show me how to do [simple task] on my calculator? >sure anonette, start by showing me your calculator instead of your cleavage

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:41:30 2016 No.11399003 File: 255 KB, 707x698, 1439431771951.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11398363 mah nigga

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:42:03 2016 No.11399007 >>11398833 Hakamas actually, but yeah they look a skirt. I don't know what that's really supposed to mean, you just made an observation.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:42:17 2016 No.11399011 File: 51 KB, 640x420, PvcLXKM.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397115 fuck man

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:43:45 2016 No.11399015

>>11398977
>I'm sorry Kayla Marie did that to you anon.
Jokes on you, pal. Any girl with two first names is guaranteed to be loony.

>>11398979
>A few weeks of sadness over rejection is better than a lifetime of loneliness and suffering.
I'll agree with this, but it's still the wrong way to approach dating. Rejection infers that you're not a good match with one person on this Earth. To waste precious time on mourning the ill-outcome of a few weeks of courting and paying for shit, doesn't make sense. You've just been rejected by 1e^9something of the population, a blip on the fucking radar.

You look over what you did, trying to figure out what their actions and reaction was, and chalk it up as a learning experience.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:44:18 2016 No.11399021 >>11397115 I leave for my first date for a year in about 1 hour. She doesn't know I am completely fucking insane and autistic yet. This is going to be bad.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:45:58 2016 No.11399031

>>11399015
A lot of people don't have as good of a grip on their emotions to let them not be sad about being rejected. I don't particularly care when I get rejected, but I know plenty of people who's sweet little baby worlds would be shattered if they were to get rejected by someone.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:48:05 2016 No.11399038 >>11399031 I understand emotion, man. Like when Paul Walker died out of nowhere, I was ripped up for weeks; took two days vacation and holed myself away watching the series twice over and drinking myself to sleep.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:48:11 2016 No.11399039 >>11397115 Someone screenshot this for the future

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:48:55 2016 No.11399042 >>11399021 >This is going to be bad. If you tell yourself that it will be. Get the fuck off 4chan and spend 15 minutes on your outfit and 45 minutes meditating. That's an order!

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:49:35 2016 No.11399043

>>11397598
If you're content with mediocrity that's fine, most people are. Naturally more people are going to be fine with a person who doesn't want to strive to be their best self. People are afraid of living into a better them. If you are content to just exist with a person who can love you as a person just getting by then fine, whatever.

I would not date a person who is not interested in being better than they were yesterday. Continual improvement is important to me, I expect a lot of myself and I expect a lot out of a partner. This has to be in a more real and tangible way than beating new levels and improving vidya skillz.

You describe a relationship that works, not a relationship that strives. You can find a person who loves you and makes you feel wanted and genuinely wants the best for you. I would argue that does not include being cool with you wasting your time on video games (that's a value judgment, you're free to not believe vidya is a waste of time, but to me, it gives little or nothing back for the time investment).

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:51:47 2016 No.11399051

>>11399042
Meditating for 45 mins is probably a bad idea if he hasn't done it before. Just try 5 minutes of focusing on the breath now, then another 5 just before the date. Would probably be more helpful and practical.

Spend the rest of the time looking up some good questions to ask on a first date. Don't just read a list off, but get some ideas going in your mind.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:57:04 2016 No.11399075 >>11399042 Shit good idea >>11399051 I actually meditate all the time, thank you very much.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:59:06 2016 No.11399086 >>11398977 >>11399015 Kek I know, I've never actually been heartbroken by a Kayla Marie but it is undeniably the most basic white girl name on the planet. I know at least 5 of them desu.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 14:59:09 2016 No.11399087 >>11398983 lmao

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:00:30 2016 No.11399093 nah not really just dress properly and don't run around in some sith lord core assortment of garbage and you'll look fine

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:02:18 2016 No.11399102 Does anyone else here serial date? I mean, more than 3 dates a week with different people?

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:03:24 2016 No.11399108
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>>11399015
>Rejection infers that you're not a good match with one person on this Earth.
Somehow you have the feeling >>11398979 and I are implying that people should go out and set as a goal to be rejected. This is not the case. We're saying that it's the best experience to get used to the idea and is a natural part of the dynamics of finding a partner.

>You look over what you did, trying to figure out what their actions and reaction was, and chalk it up as a learning experience.
this is sound advice

>>11399011
pic made me snort my tea out
luckily it was PG Tips egh

for good measure I'm ousting myself (pic related) so you know who's talking

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:05:25 2016 No.11399116 >>11399075 Cool, good luck with the date then! Don't think!

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:08:40 2016 No.11399125

>>11399043
Idk nothing about my relationship feels "mediocre" just because my boyfriend doesn't dress or look like Chad. I also mentioned that I think he's perfect, I would literally not change a thing. Other people might judge us for being an awkward pair (I'm very fashion conscious and have even done some modeling in the past) but that doesn't bother me at all. I also think people are misinterpreting what I mean by geek. He's introverted (around everyone but me) and smart, he works in IT and knows a lot about computers. He isn't a man-child. I don't know how that means neither of us strive for improvement. We just love one another authentically for who we are and not superficial reasons.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:10:39 2016 No.11399141 >>11399039 >Someone screenshot this for the future I did screenshot it, but it's not the trip really. Someone posted as him. >>11397115 this is not u, what are you doing?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:13:13 2016 No.11399147 >>11398967 lol i wish it was that funny just work at a bar downtown, got her name/cell pretty standard. did stalk her online later haha not going full retard she might be back in town soon

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:14:04 2016 No.11399151 >>11397994 Holy fuck are you me also my Chad friends girlfriends compliment my fits too and find me interesting nevertheless I've been sexless since last December.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:18:11 2016 No.11399162 >>11399021 Whatever you, don't do that thing you'll later regret.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:19:38 2016 No.11399169

>>11397994
Being the straight guy in a squad of gay guys is legit; don't snooze on this. Everyone's on the same page as you (fashion, healthy lifestyle, cultured), there's never an occassion to not drink, and they throw compliments at you all the time. They'll low-key try to mold you into the ideal gay partner, but cannot blame you for not having mutual attraction because it would be hypocritical if they did. Plus, free drinks almost every time I go out, if I put up with a little cheeky banter and ass grabbing.

>>11399147
I'm terrible at those, slow day at work.

>>11399108
>Somehow you have the feeling >>11398979 and I are implying that people should go out and set as a goal to be rejected.
That wasn't my intention either, but I see how it could have been misconstrued like that. I see dating like a competition; the better you are, the more often you win. If you lose, then it's something you did or you were outplayed, doesn't mean there isn't another race in the future. At some point, you retire and look back on your victories and defeats and reflect on them all.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:32:03 2016 No.11399200 >>11399125 literally a bait

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:35:08 2016 No.11399208 >>11399200 The sad thing is it isn't. You idiots just refuse to give anyone the benefit of the doubt and keep yourselves miserable

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:42:46 2016 No.11399237 >>11397115 >implying i have the mental strength to look girls in the eyes

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:43:24 2016 No.11399241 >>11398950 how do I work on my personality anon?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:43:34 2016 No.11399244 >>11397927 Interesting. Care to show some of your work?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:55:05 2016 No.11399288 >>11397927 yea I wanna see this, too!

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 15:58:17 2016 No.11399298 >>11399102 >Does anyone else here serial date? I mean, more than 3 dates a week with different people? nah. I feel like I'm cheating on my dates if I do this. silly, I know, but I only work on one dating prospect at a time

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:31:44 2016 No.11399442

>>11399298
That's admirable though, probably better in the larger scheme of things to focus on one person rather than juggle the multitude of tedious facts between multiples.

>cruised the Smithsonian with this 7/10 blonde sorority girl
>she asked me where I lived in NYC when I was there, answered and asked the same, since she goes to Columbia
>"I don't go to Columbia...I go to UVA"
>mixed her story up with the asian qt I went out with the night before
>sircrustacean.gifv

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:36:13 2016 No.11399464 >>11398363 >17 years old >looks at least mid 20s

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:36:45 2016 No.11399467 File: 51 KB, 415x392, 1465422575318.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397598 >I date men that make me feel like the better in the relationship. Dadbod plz go

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:37:50 2016 No.11399473 >>11397089 Being fashionable doesn't really help get you girls, unless you're into art school girls. Confidence will always be the #1 factor.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:50:45 2016 No.11399500

>>11399125
I'm not saying it is. I am saying you are probably mediocre people. That's cool, not everyone cares about being the best them, nor do they need to. I don't use mediocre as an attack, I just use it as an example of a state, not living up to a full potential.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:55:50 2016 No.11399520 How do you cope with having no empathy? I really want some sex but i cant never get myself to give attention to a girl i just met without shrugging it off or just completely forgetting about her the next day.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:56:56 2016 No.11399525 >>11398147 Dunno if you are still here, but I love this fit! Can you tell me where did you buy the clothes?

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:57:23 2016 No.11399528

>>11399241
Strive to be a question person, not an answer person. If you are always open to asking questions, seeking new ways of seeing the world, then you will expand beyond your current capacity. This isn't to say that you shouldn't use judgement, be very skeptical and critical of all information you receive.

Read a lot, be critical, ask questions. Write about what you read. seek out other question people. Seek out others who want to improve themselves and those around them. Try to be better today than you were yesterday, even if that means you failed and learned something new, now you can try again tomorrow and either get it right or fail and learn more.

Be open and accepting of people. This isn't to say you should accept anyone into your life, be critical of those who you do, but you should strive not to "other" other people. When you create a wall between yourself and others you are more likely to judge them unfairly, especially for superficial reasons. Understand almost all anger and negativity comes from a place of anxiety or fear, seek to understand rather than judge.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:57:47 2016 No.11399531 >engaging in fashion to make yourself more attractive >not engaging in it for rigid self improvement and personal development fuck other people, fashion is about you nigga

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:57:58 2016 No.11399532 >>11398147 you have face and hair for wearing suits i dunno why. it just tells me.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:58:28 2016 No.11399533 >>11397598 sieg pls go

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 16:59:38 2016 No.11399541

>>11399525
Hakamas are Yohji! Shirt is Ovate and the cardigan is Knomadik. You can find Ovate on their website, hakamas on Grailed (they are stupid expensive, but there are other brands). Knomadik is cheap (relatively). Check out The Last Conspiracy for the boots, but there are a lot of brands that do similar.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:00:14 2016 No.11399544 >>11399298 I thought I was the only one who thought about it like this. Everyone I have talked to sees no problem with it. Glad to know someone else understands.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:02:05 2016 No.11399552

>>11397089
Nah. My boyfriend couldn't care less about clothes. I love clothes, but I've never seen a guy and gone, "Those are some great pants. I have to hit that."

I think only one of the guys I ever dated could be considered stylish. For the most part they've all just been jeans and button-down guys.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:03:33 2016 No.11399560

>>11399532
I could probably pull it off, but I wouldn't get close to a traditional suit. I prefer unconventional stuff, things that I feel and look comfortable in. I don't like clothes that feel restricting. Even if a suit is not physically restricting I would feel psychologically restricted by it. I wouldn't wear a tie, it's like a noose for me. I could explain the feeling, but I'm more of a romantic so I go with what feels right, the reason is only important if it leads to action.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:32:58 2016 No.11399635 >>11399473 >unless you're into art school girls. dude though they're hot af

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:35:32 2016 No.11399642 >>11397547 I honestly don't know nearly any interesting women

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:37:19 2016 No.11399649 >>11399241 Read literature. It let's you have life experiences that you would otherwise never have.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:38:21 2016 No.11399652 >>11399038 lmao anon pls be bait

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:48:13 2016 No.11399681 >>11397598 hahahahahahaha hahah hahahaaha ha >listening to womyn's advice about attraction >ever

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:50:30 2016 No.11399689 >>11397547 yeah out of hundreds of women I've known maaaaybe like 5 interesting ones plenty of others are sweet and nice and not vapid whores, but they always get snapped up instantly its a numbers game to catch one desu

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:53:08 2016 No.11399697
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>go to a party
>wants to pick a girl that i was in love with
>qt tells me that i was looking really gr8 and my clothing were awesome
>fails to pick up the girl i liked because even though she and her boyfriend had broken up she wasn't really sure if she wanted to leave him
>get sad and go grab a drink
>qt comes to me and asks if did get to pick up the girl i was in love with
>i tell her that no
>she offers me a kiss
>i start making out with her
By the way, the girl i liked actually came back with her old boyfriend and i dont give a fuck about her now. i used to be an huge autist, but could come out of this somewhat thanks to /fa/ even though it wasn't the goal, i just really like fashion. I have a /fa/ qt gf now, but we have an open relationship and i fuck other bitches once in a while. If someone asks i used to dress in monochrome-core in the time of this story.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:54:25 2016 No.11399700

>>11397089
absolutely not

it makes you seem like a cute little gayboi for them to pity and maybe toy with if you're not too gross

if you want to be attractive dress in clean, simple, well-fitting normie clothes and be fit and confident

of course all they have to do is have a vagine and not be grossly overweight or actively have a dick in them at the moment of your meeting

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 17:58:41 2016 No.11399719 >>11399531 this tbqh

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:04:23 2016 No.11399736 >>11399697 What the hell was the point of your story?? You made out with an opportunistic chick who clearly had the hots for you.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:05:33 2016 No.11399746 File: 2.73 MB, 600x396, 1448559737139.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397661

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:06:27 2016 No.11399751

Even though I had to wear a binbag later that day, I was at a party and some girl said "Anon I never noticed this before but you are really good looking, like you could be a model" and then I heard her and her boyfriend discussing how they thought I looked good later on. Another girl started complimenting me at the party and said I sounded like a funny guy because of the things I posted online.

Everyone was on molly, though. I am a 20 year old virgin.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:08:00 2016 No.11399766 >>11399736 i was an autist kid who never picked up a girl b4. I knew her before that and she didn't really find me attractive until i put the monochrome on.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:10:28 2016 No.11399772 >>11397089 if you're cute, ye

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:19:51 2016 No.11399817 >>11399681 Nobody here does and that's why they'll be forever alone while I'm happy in a fulfilling long term relationship ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:20:31 2016 No.11399820

grill here-I'm more inclined to talk to a guy with good style (even face/body could be 5/10) bc I think we might have things in common but personality is wayyy more important. 1st impressions only go so far if you have the personality of a spicy dog shit

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:28:45 2016 No.11399869 >>11399820 I agree completely. But of course no one is going to take us seriously because 4chan doesn't trust women. It's almost like it offends their fragile egos when we say that personality matters most.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:34:06 2016 No.11399893 >>11397661 Chad tries to talk to me and I tell him to fuck himself because I'm very content in my relationship sorry Chad

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:49:08 2016 No.11399950

>>11399169

Nah the gays in my area require too much "safe space" and are generally hard to deal with for extended periods of time. Not going to lie, tried this. Most of them dress like shit and were surprisingly uncultured to top it off.

Had to break it off when I got a gf because they were getting way too clingy.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 18:50:00 2016 No.11399954 >>11397927 show us something

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:17:29 2016 No.11400638
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>>11397749
>Girls are attracted to power, period.
underrated post. people saying "good personality" when they can't even define it don't know what they're talking about, might as well be saying "just be yourself". That's not how it works

also, taking girls' advice on attracting girls is dumb af. just like asking a girl for fashion advice. what they say they want and what they actually want are never the same

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:27:12 2016 No.11400660
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>>11399528
>Read a lot, be critical, ask questions
This is actually really solid advice. I'd add: develop personal ideals and follow them closely - but don't judge others against them, only yourself. also, make sure you extend that criticality to yourself, constant questioning of your actions and ideals, constant self-improvement.

If you want a place to start, read through Montaigne's essays. Avoid self-help ala Carnegie like the plague.

Be warned, middle class normies are like crabs in a bucket and want everyone to be dragged down to their level. You kind of have to hide your "power level" because they get insecure around people with visible discipline, respect, honesty, etc. as if you see yourself better than them for having it.

And if you actually do, that's a problem. Pride is as bad as envy.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:31:11 2016 No.11400676 >>11399869 no what offends our fragile egos is the "just be yourself" meme that women love to spout also any male who is a fat slob (b-but he has a great personality!) has shit self-esteem that will manifest in a shitty personality

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:33:45 2016 No.11400686

>>11400660
>Avoid self-help ala Carnegie like the plague

classic bucket-crab advice

self-help shit may be mostly common sense, but I've never met anyone who has good common sense in every area.
It is an absolute prerequisite to fill in your gaps before moving on to more complex ideas

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:34:49 2016 No.11400689 File: 63 KB, 460x288, weird animal.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397598 how can i get a personality?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:35:20 2016 No.11400691 >>11399817 >>11400638

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:40:20 2016 No.11400706

>>11400660
Yeah, read some self-help, but only stuff you can actively implement. I think How to Fail at Everything and Still Win Big is fantastic modern self-help and would recommend it for a quick, persuasive, and easy-to-incorporate read.

I'd also recommend philosophy (practical stuff, ie Stoicism [please don't take everything too seriously], and Zen [take it very seriously] & modern stuff like Alain de Botton and John Armstrong) and psychology to understand yourself and others from different perspectives.

Yeah, I agree about keeping your ideals to only yourself. I have very specific taste, it takes a lot to impress me, but I don't judge people who don't. I just let them be. Someday I hope to be able to incorporate compassion in the same capacity to everyone, but for now I am looking for superior people who can help me grow.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:47:36 2016 No.11400740

>>11400686
Carnegie might have some good advice, but it's very much crafted to a business environment. It has specific applications that may be useful in daily life, but I don't know if it's the best way to spend your time. Biggest thing I got out of it (what actually stuck after 2-3 years) was: be genuinely interested in other people, be humble, let others do most of the talking and really listen.

Might be just as useful to read the wiki summary and really try to implement one of the strategies a week or something. I just have a suspicion there is a better way to use one's time than reading the whole book.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 22:51:40 2016 No.11400749 >>11400740 agreed about carnegie, but there's plenty of other worthwhile self-help books out there

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:16:45 2016 No.11400797

>>11400691
>>11400689
>>11400676
Okay I'll try to explain this as best I can.
To me, a good personality means authentic (don't bullshit me and pretend you're something you're not, we can see through that crap and tell you're trying too hard), compassionate (give a shit about other people, don't be an asshole), interesting (learn to carry a conversation and CONTRIBUTE to it rather than just "yeah" "haha" "okay"). Have opinions, but be open to new ones as well. Ask me questions. Be genuinely interested in me - if you're not, don't bother, that isn't authentic. Play up your quirks, regardless of what they are. I personally find quirks of all kinds extremely attractive, because it shows me you're an individual. Things that make you weird. For example, my boyfriend has freakishly double jointed thumbs that I find oddly adorable, I love to play with them and bend them around when I'm bored. I hold my pen in an unusual way, which is something my boyfriend likes about me for some reason, and I have a permanent freckle-line (like a tan line of freckles) on my shoulders that he's obsessed with. These are just a few examples. Talk about things you are passionate about! If you've got nothing, FIND something you're passionate about. Watching someone talk about things that make them truly happy is extremely charming, even if I have no interest in the subject. I could listen to my S/O go on about computer hardware for hours (even though it bores me to death) because I love how passionate he gets. Teach me new things that I might not know. About literally anything, whether it's how to do something or trivia or whatever. Tell me funny anecdotes from your childhood and all the things on your bucketlist. Tell me what you are thinking.
So there you go fellas, a personality consists of (but isn't limited to) any of the things I listed above. You don't have to have money, power, status, a 6 pack, or even dress well, just show me who you are, and boom - you have a personality. Good luck.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:18:40 2016 No.11400799
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>>11400740
Carnegie isn't common sense. It's a very narrow, dishonest, demeaning understanding of people that's only effective on a certain kind of narcissistic and uneducated normalfag. It's design is a lot more towards making the reader feel undeservedly confident at the expense of other 'sheeple' (aka selling smug, a tactic taking up wholesale by the modern airport nonfic industry - think Ilya Prigogine vs. Malcolm Gladwell) than it is effective conversational skill. There is a bit of genuine common sense: memories of individuals are blurred with the emotional impressions at the time, people like to talk about themselves, etc. but it's shrouded in layers of counter-productive ('toxic') shilling. Toxic because Carnegie's primary advice simply doesn't work on the average, cultured, self-aware individual; the only friends you'll win & influence are the same kind of narcissistic middle class trash that he exploited; everyone else will see through and avoid you, or manipulate you in turn.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:21:52 2016 No.11400805 >>11400797 what if im a autistic fucking retard with nothing going for me WHAT NOW?

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:24:19 2016 No.11400806

>>11400805
Better kys
Either that or find a female autist you can bond with over all the autism you have in common

forreal though, my boyfriend and I ended up bonding over our shared social anxiety. Now we avoid all parties and other human beings *together*. It works out.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:27:02 2016 No.11400817
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>>11400749
I don't disagree. Robert Greene's Laws of Power for example isn't bad - but any sufficiently engaged reading of Sun Tzu, as well as other writing on war (ie Clausewitz, McNeill) would provide a more densely packed, insightful and nuanced understanding of the same concepts.

Likewise, 'self-help' as a genre is well covered by moral, ethical and spiritual works of genuine scholarly, not commercial, merit, while still equally accessible such as suggested here >>11400706
i.e. I could recommend the stoicism of Aurelius, the orthodox spirituality of Staniloae, etc.

Pop nonfiction is simply unnecessary for the majority of the social sciences, there's no trouble parsing the jargon or methodologies of almost anything outside the marxist/crit theory flavored readings. Prigogine's writings, cited earlier as true pop nonfic of a bygone era and not 'selling smug,' is justified as chaos theory is genuinely difficult to understand for any nonspecialist, scientist or not. It does not, however, target the uneducated and those happy to accept incredibly loose rigor and diluted theses for the sake of confirming preconceptions.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:27:21 2016 No.11400818 >>11400797 wow congratulations that's the most honest and useful dating advice I've ever heard from a woman in any format, written, spoken, or otherwise this is exactly true in my experience you should still lift and groom yourself though

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:28:00 2016 No.11400822 >>11400806 since the second option is never going to happen because i sit behind my screen all day... t..thx for the tip

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:30:15 2016 No.11400827 >>11397282 I don't care if a woman is interesting. She just needs to be reliable, and not make my life more difficult.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:37:13 2016 No.11400842 >>11400806 Female autists are great. I dated one for. A few years. It makes your life stagnate. But it's a good indulgence. Too bad most females aren't autists.

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:37:30 2016 No.11400843

>>11400818
>just be yourself
That's not useful advice, anon. All she said was authentic, compassionate & interesting. Compassionate is something everyone should be as a rule, and authenticity is a lifelong struggle to confirm/cultivate/maintain for everyone with a shred of authenticity but probably the main thing most people here suffer with.

Everyone is 'interesting' when they drop the mask, what she refused to define is what's key - what counts as positive interesting? You'd come closer to finding genuine advice beyond >just be yourself, if you pressed her on that.

The rest is just her in honeymoon phase with her bf dolling over quirks. It's probably her first real relationship, and judging by her geekiness, there's a good chance she cucked him into being a lapdog and 'loves' him for that more anything desu.

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:41:01 2016 No.11400851 >>11400797 And do you think you have an interesting personality for him?

>>	Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:42:49 2016 No.11400853 >>11397239 all of /fa/'s dreams crushed in an instant

Anonymous Mon Jun 13 23:53:06 2016 No.11400877

>>11400843
Except not at all. We've been dating for 5 years. We've lived together for over 2 years. That's well past honeymoon I would assume. I promise you there is zero "cucking". Make all the ridiculous assumptions you like, it doesn't change the fact we're happier than you.
You have a sad, sad outlook on love, anon, I'm sorry someone hurt you enough to make you feel that way.

As for the "what is interesting", that will vary person to person. Women are individuals, and have very different likes and interests. Personally I find a lot of things interesting which is why I kept it vague, there is no "magic key". I thought I made that pretty clear that it doesn't matter WHAT you talk about but rather that you can be engaging. I mean what do you want me to tell you? That if you say one specific magic word girls will drop to their knees and worship you?

>>11400851
I hope so. He seems to think I do, though I'm not a particularly confident person so I couldn't tell you for sure.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:01:40 2016 No.11400893 >>11400877 What is your personality like? I'm interested in how it compares to his.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:30:16 2016 No.11400972

>>11400797
Thanks for the well written-out post.

When does something stop being a quirk and becomes plain wrong? There's a few things that I'm really ashamed of.

I don't really have any opinions. Well, I kind of do, but they're mostly memes based on what people say and have nothing to really be based off, and can easily change depending on the environment I'm in.

Also, how and when is it appropriate to show elements of authenticity, I mean like talk about your quirks, things you're passionate bout, thoughts, etc... I mean, should I just tell people that I spent my day browsing a chinese cartoon imageboard?

btw, I don't want to get into the dating game right now, I don't think I'm ready. I maybe never will since I spent too much time on /r9k/. I'm more interested for more general advice for being authentic and stuff.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:30:44 2016 No.11400974 >>11397115 I choose to believe this is true.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:31:19 2016 No.11400976
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>>11400877
Fine, then you're actually in love. It's hardly good advice to tell people "just be yourself, maybe you'll make someone fall in love"

>I mean what do you want me to tell you?
Common things I've heard in terms of action:
>working with hands
>devotion to or mastery of a subject
>wide breadth of knowledge/experience (ie polyglot)
>ability to lead/inspire
>well recognized within one's field
are the kinds of things girls have told me/their lovers seeing it caused them to crush hard/fall in love

in terms of behavior:
>charisma
>sincerity
>compassion/empathy
>resoluteness/stoicness

I would say these aren't things that launch cupid's arrow, but are generally what would give the same longing in your heart that I would seeing a girl who's, say, elegant or melancholic, or the appreciation of a friend who demonstrates loyality, even if I'm not necessarily sexually attracted to them. Would you agree?

>You have a sad, sad outlook on love, anon, I'm sorry someone hurt you enough to make you feel that way.
Appreciate it

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>>11400976
>It's hardly good advice to tell people "just be yourself, maybe you'll make someone fall in love"
You know actually maybe it's not. Now that I think about it, it's what I've been doing these last few months after quitting chasing empty relationships and guilty hookups. more focusing on my personal projects than 'being myself'. maybe it'll work out, maybe it's just justifying a 'break' from women that was more out of circumstance than my own volition.

my brother's ex admitted she fell in love seeing him code rapidfire in archlinux with a 4-window terminal grid. isn't that great? someone appreciating you for doing what you do? except it ended because it turned out she was hiding a bf in another state the entire time. what's the lesson here

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:38:09 2016 No.11400997 >>11399766 > until i put the monochrome on embarrassing

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:48:00 2016 No.11401022 File: 30 KB, 650x366, la-la-ig-rick-owens--16-jpg-20150717.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11399766 >no one cared who I was until I put on the monochrome

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:50:09 2016 No.11401029
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>job interview at a grocery
>do my hair, wear nice fitting shirt, apcs, dbs
>walk out the store and pass by two lady employees there
>"god he is so fine"

>mfw i could hear them

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:57:02 2016 No.11401041

>>11400976
I would not be surprised if any of the things you mentioned would attract someone. I was only speaking for myself and the things that appeal to me personally. To me, having a wide breadth of knowledge would probably be impressive, and make someone a good conversational partner no doubt, but so is having one specific passion, which is basically the equivalent of "devotion or mastery of a subject". I did in fact mention having a passion in my original post, as well as sincerity and compassion. PERSONALLY (speaking only for myself here) the ability to lead and be well recognized/charisma aren't things I actively look out for, simply because I am a more introverted type and tend to gravitate toward more introverted personalities and those things to be correlate with social status. However, I can see those factors being majorly impressive to someone who possesses those qualities and values them more than I do. You can roughly assume which areas of your own personality to play up when getting to know someone by matching it with your impression of theirs, without being inauthentic.

>>11400972
It truly depends on the person. If you told me you spent your day browsing a Chinese cartoon image board, I'd be like "HA me too! We're both losers, let's connect over this!" But it could just as easily be a turn off I guess. I know a lot of women, including myself, can appreciate when guys are open about slightly embarrassing things, especially when they own it. Like, "How was your day?" "Well, honestly I wasted my day on 4chan. It's rather embarrassing." That way even if she doesn't find that particular quirk cute, at least she knows you know it's weird. Haha.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 00:59:11 2016 No.11401046 >>11397282 redpill pls go

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 01:00:12 2016 No.11401048 >>11397661 >chad you need therapy

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 02:50:27 2016 No.11401314 >>11401041 I am the anon who thought that you are a bait. You are a good human being gurl. Good luck for you and your bf.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 02:50:37 2016 No.11401316 >>11397598 You definitely outed yourself as a dude trying to pretend to be a girl

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 03:32:30 2016 No.11401405 >>11397282 the only thing wrong here is >i'm not like the others you're all vapid and boring, and you all want Chad, and that's not necessarily a bad thing.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 03:48:30 2016 No.11401445 >>11399635 not denying that

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 03:55:10 2016 No.11401459 >>11401316 >>11401405 Leave it to guys on 4chan to decide exactly what every single woman alive wants in a partner. Honestly, it's hilarious how hellbent you are on defending your narrow world views.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 03:55:33 2016 No.11401460

>>11400797
You sound awesome, and all I can think of when I'm reading this post is that I legitimately know very few girls who are like you....that is, who are smart enough to realize what makes a person great and pay attention enough to discern their true personality and appreciate their idiosyncrasies.

Additionally, to have the open mind to listen to something boring that another person is passionate about. I picture 99% of girls I know to just think that guy is weird/boring as fuck.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 04:13:49 2016 No.11401492 >>11400797 i read all ur stuff and its v good but pls post fit im dying to know

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 04:42:54 2016 No.11401542 >>11401459 A truly staggering amount of text is being spent on "Women are awful and dumb and stupid. Why don't they like me?" Gee. It's a real mystery.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 04:53:42 2016 No.11401554 Attractive? Maybe, but it won't get you any girls, not by itself. It's really just "extra points."

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 04:56:20 2016 No.11401558 >>11398147 holy shit you actually wear that in public?? lmao

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:06:19 2016 No.11401565 >>11401492 Just for you bby >>11401562 no bully pls Also inb4 semen on mirror, it's from a sticker I swear

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:14:49 2016 No.11401568

>>11398979
this.
A girl I loved to death recently left me because I was depressed and withdrawing from coke and was having mood swings and lashed out at her. She showed me what a mutual level of love should have been. I even flew all the way to NY by myself from California for a week to try and talk to her to tell her how much I realized what she had done. she didn't respond but I didn't feel saddened or mad at her. I just felt like, well this shit happens, next time I do find someone, I need to be the best not just for my sake, but her sake as well. And honestly it sucks, to lose someone who loved you but it will grant you a greater appreciation and make you a better person overall.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:19:15 2016 No.11401575 >>11397089 Honestly, rape is the answer for a lot of you. Stuck up arrogant bitches deserve to be raped.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:21:43 2016 No.11401580 >>11401575 Fuckin b8

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:22:37 2016 No.11401583 >>11401565 you look gr8

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:31:46 2016 No.11401597 >>11397089 Most of you are ugly as shit so I wouldn't worry about what you wear or attracting women. Nothing in fashion will ever make up for shit genetics.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:33:43 2016 No.11401602

>>11401568
to add to this, being fashionable will help if the girl you're trying to impress enjoys or can appreciate that shit. I get complimented a good amount of times in conversations. It will build your confidence, but it won't seal the deal, fucking personality is where it's at.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:38:24 2016 No.11401607 File: 200 KB, 480x640, 1461721314346.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11401565 liar

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:45:06 2016 No.11401625 File: 651 KB, 561x1000, 2016-01-4--17-09-51.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] I feel like im on r9k

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 05:50:14 2016 No.11401637 >>11399541 Thanks mate! Appreciated.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:00:38 2016 No.11401658 >>11397115 since alot of people relate to this /FA/ PROVEN TO BE THE KEK BOARD OF 4CHAN /FA/GGOTS BTFO

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:01:14 2016 No.11401659 >>11397927 ur the guy who wears t shirts over dress shirts aren't u. ur clothes are shit

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:03:25 2016 No.11401665 >>11398741 >attracting hypersexual bimbos >bad

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:25:21 2016 No.11401705 >>11398888 Fucking checked

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:29:25 2016 No.11401714
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>>11397089
>at qt's apartment after first date
>she's taking off my navy Brooks Brothers trousers
>"I love your pants anon"
>sucks my cock
I think we were at a point when she probably would have anyway, but she did comment

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:42:34 2016 No.11401723 >>11397915 Are you illiterate

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:57:44 2016 No.11401747 >>11398320 >like you are insecure/care too much about yourself But I am and I do

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 06:59:15 2016 No.11401749 >>11400797 This is not true at all I went on a rant about the Romans and how based Constantinople was before the Muslims took it and how half of the greatest empire in the world is now third world all because of Arabs She broke up with me

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 07:00:27 2016 No.11401754 File: 43 KB, 683x683, 1461298196407.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397115 there are no brakes on the autism train

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 07:14:57 2016 No.11401786 >>11401625 There is a bit of /r9k/ in all of us and when they are ready, they too will have bit of /fa/ in them. also, lurk more fag

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 07:16:51 2016 No.11401791 >>11401607 Fucking creepy that you saved this, probably the worst photo of me ever to curse the Internet. Can't you at least shop some makeup on me or something? >>11401565 Ty <3

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 07:43:23 2016 No.11401834 >>11401607 Fucking creepy that you saved this desu, and you had to pick the absolute worst photo of me on the Internet. At least shop some makeup on me will ya >>11401583 Ty <3

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 08:21:45 2016 No.11401912 Okay this is great advice but why do relationships with guys I've met fail so often but ones with long time friends last so long? I don't want to befriend everyone before I date them.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 08:27:11 2016 No.11401922 >tfw despite years of self improvement ive racked up awful anxiety >even the thought of committing to a party can cause a mild panic attack is therapy /fa/

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 10:50:54 2016 No.11402173 >>11401558 >Caring what others wear unless you like it or want to have a conversation about it Have fun with your insecurity, I bet it is eating you up inside and you you hope to bring others down with you. <3

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 10:54:05 2016 No.11402180 >>11397115 Yes, finally had a hi from super hot girl at school one day when I dressed neat. Talked to her before but not for a long time. Said hi back. Stood there a while silent. Went in to class. Great job.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 11:02:11 2016 No.11402190

>>11401922
It's because you're still not secure within yourself. Instead of doing self-improvment stuff why not just sit down with a journal and really ask yourself why you are so anxious about contact with other people. I have a feeling it has something to do with a lack of trust in yourself.

I know I just prefer not to go to parties. I don't like the atmosphere, often there are too many people, and I don't interact in a "social" way as I tend to just latch on to one or two people and have lengthy conversation. I don't enjoy small talk and mingling very much, so I just avoid it. But even if I am sitting and not chatting I am still enjoying myself. I can enjoy chit chat too, but it gets boring quickly and some people don't know how to or don't want to progress into something "heavy" or w/e.

Gotta be able to ask yourself how you would ideally enjoy yourself if you were anxiety-free. From there you can assess a specific situation that gives you anxiety and try and figure out the root. Also, affirmations will go pretty far in this area. If you're interested try telling yourself "I [Name] will be socially confident and interested in others" for 5 minutes a day or so. I have noticed benefits from it, but I also combine it with other mantras and longer meditations.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 11:03:15 2016 No.11402191 >>11401912 you dont make it clear enough that you wanna fuck

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 11:07:10 2016 No.11402202 >>11399751 >everyone was on molly lol

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 12:02:51 2016 No.11402386 >>11400797 Sarah?

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 12:50:57 2016 No.11402509 >>11400972 >/r9k/ Get out of that shithole. I did and started to hate myself less.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 12:52:55 2016 No.11402513 >>11400995 >except it ended because it turned out she was hiding a bf in another state the entire time. what's the lesson here Been there. Fuck that shit really. Felt like a crushing blow.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 12:56:07 2016 No.11402525 >>11400817 Why the fuck would you read Clausewitz as a self-help book? This is the edgiest thing I have ever read on 4chan. AND I'M A SUPER OLD FAG SO I WOULD KNOW

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 12:56:49 2016 No.11402528 >>11398147 You look like a shinigami from Blecah

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 13:16:51 2016 No.11402596 >>11402386 Nah sorry

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 13:37:43 2016 No.11402642 >>11402528 desu I don't find that comparison unflattering at all.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 13:41:27 2016 No.11402664
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My fashion taste is what some would call "gay". Same with 99% of posters on this board and people into streetwear in general. I don't care though, I don't dress a certain way for others. I dress how I like for myself. The way it should be.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 13:46:01 2016 No.11402686 >>11401607 Lol I remember this thread

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:09:53 2016 No.11402783 >>11397686 Source of the pic?

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:13:07 2016 No.11402796 >>11402664 Holy shit, Femanon here. please post fit for me

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:20:40 2016 No.11402823 >>11402686 I hate this pic so much can we not

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:22:53 2016 No.11402827 >>11402796 Why?

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:23:21 2016 No.11402831 >>11398950 This has motivated me. Thank you

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:23:53 2016 No.11402832 >>11402823 If the other guy saved it he must like it. Even if it's creepy you should be a little flattered at least.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:42:32 2016 No.11402882

>>11400995
>code rapid-fire in 4 grid on archlinux

Gross. Real computer science isn't about speed, plus everyone knows a vsplit with tabs is the most effective, as most screen sizes are calibrated so the terminal is about 160 characters in width. Plus archlinux, obviously stupid, as he doesn't realize he can get a much better, more generally compatible and easy to use system by running a bare-bones netinstall without internet of debian, then manually configuring networking and installing just the things that one needs? Using a fancy, built from ground up linux distribution doesn't even make you better anyways, everyone knows elementary os is the most effay. Geez la fuck.

Honestly, all this linux name-jerking is dumb. People waste too much time on their operating systems and never get any genuine work done. I guess it's good if you're learning how to do it, cause I wouldn't know half the shit I do now if hadn't, but still. I'm not impressed by arch anymore, I'm impressed by elegantly written code that is simple and effective. I'm impressed with beauty, like the goto code for a fast inverse square root.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:56:58 2016 No.11402930

>>11402832
Nah he's just trying to be ironic because I was asking people to please stop posting my pics pretending to be me. I know it's been used at least one other time since the thread I posted it in originally, most likely by the same person. He also knows it's particularly unflattering which makes it all the more amusing for him.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 14:58:46 2016 No.11402937 >>11402882 Are you trying to prove something m8

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 15:00:34 2016 No.11402944 >>11402930 Ah I remember you saying that now. Well sorry, good luck with that. I highly doubt they'll stop, especially if you ask though.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 17:28:32 2016 No.11403506 >>11402180 stop anon that was way too real >>11402528 >>11402642 idk anything about bleach but the character designs are fashion af desu >>11402664 >tfw qts assume ur gay bc u care about ur appearance man fuck the midwest

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 17:59:02 2016 No.11403618 To the girl in the 5 year relationship with dorky IT guy: do both of your names start with M?

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 18:03:58 2016 No.11403635 >>11399649 Fucking this. Also good films help we this too. It's funny because I'm not a native speaker and because I watched many films in English I'm better at talking to women in English.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 18:38:22 2016 No.11403730 >>11403618 Nope neither of us.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 21:29:50 2016 No.11404209 fashion is trends so yeah girlsll like it

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 21:30:35 2016 No.11404210 >>11397089 Wowowowow

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:25:53 2016 No.11404345

>>11397598
Holy shit, this is literally me 'cept my bf has a decent fashion sense. While I can recognize small, objective flaws, you don't really care about them, you only really see the good things.

>>11397661
>implying everyone is as shallow and insecure as you are
>implying anyone with any kind of intelligence would take a trophy partner over someone they can relate to
seek help

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:27:03 2016 No.11404348 srs question because autism where do you meet qt /fa/ girls

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:30:19 2016 No.11404357

>>11404348
Pick a hobby. Try. If you enjoy it, go to places where other people enjoy that hobby and practice with the,. Have a genuine desire in others and to learn. Ask anyone you think is cool to go grab a drink afterwards. Wait a month or so unless you just click with one particular person (go to the event or gathering consistently for that long, then start trying to hang out with people outside of it).

It is not autism, this society does not teach humans how to properly interact with other humans. You'll figure it out. Also, stop caring about how /fa/ anyone is, it isn't healthy.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:38:23 2016 No.11404375

>>11400822
hop on a """""dating""""" app and just tell them (in a tongue in cheek way) that you're a sperglord and a date for you would be hanging out and watch Extreme Houses for a while

if they block you, w/e you'll literally never see them, if they invite you over, you can see some rad houses then make out for a while.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:40:24 2016 No.11404381
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>>11404348
assuming you live in a pretty big city (if not good luck meeting a girl who can dress herself well)
>techno gigs
>try to get in a boiler room if they happen to throw one in your city (fucking /fa/ heaven)
>any type of underground music venue will usually be packed with /fa/ qts
>find out stores that carry designer shit or nice clothes and talk to the staff there (ask questions about clothes and shit) and keep visiting semi-regularly until youre chill with the staff there
>get a job in a retail store like AA, Forever 21, etc. (obviously if you already have a well paying job dont switch to a shitty retail job, not worth it)
>find out about the underground electronic music artists in your city and attend their gigs, befriend other people there by sharing the same music taste

thats all i care to think of right now lad. hopefully you'll make it.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:45:00 2016 No.11404396 >>11402664 well then don't whine when women aren't interested in you if being a special snowflake is more important to you than sex that's your decision

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:49:15 2016 No.11404414

Friends and coworkers compliment my clothes all the time.

Last week a rando girl on the street said, "I love your style!" as we passed each other. She didn't stop and I was in a hurry as well so I just did a kind of 360 in mid stride and said, "Hey, thanks!"

The point being that people notice and dressing well can be a good conversation starter. It's quite evident when you dress in an interesting way and look like you're comfortable in what you're wearing.

Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:55:16 2016 No.11404432

>>11404381
Yeah, shows are a great place to meet people, especially if you frequent a particular venue or lots of shows of the same genre. I'm big into shoegaze and certain electronic genres and I see a lot of the same people at various shows.

Of course as related to the thread I wouldn't necessarily wear nice clothes to a show unless I was pretty sure there wouldn't be drunk clowns spilling beer everywhere.

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:56:17 2016 No.11404435 File: 931 KB, 3349x2233, 6Z1TAxE.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] Just grab what /fa/ doesn't like and have all the girls like you /fa/ doesn't praise fuccbois,but i am one and it works like a fucking wonder

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:56:21 2016 No.11404436 >>11404414 What were you wearing?

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 22:59:36 2016 No.11404447 File: 34 KB, 360x289, y.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11404381 >tfw you'll never get to hang out at the boilerroom staff parties with sofie

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 23:01:55 2016 No.11404453 File: 778 KB, 777x719, 1460222631613.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397115 so much of this true it hurts ;_;

>>	Anonymous Tue Jun 14 23:20:18 2016 No.11404512 >>11404436 kinda military influenced artisanal shit I think I had on a French army surplus jacket, overdyed indigo raw hem pants by Lost & Found and reverse leather boots also by Lost & Found.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 10:50:17 2016 No.11405864 >>11404396 But he didn't whine about it, Anon. Why do you feel the need to bring it up?

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 11:45:23 2016 No.11406001

>>11397089
To some extent, yes. As some also said, it affects your confidence, which girls are into. But when it comes to a relationship that shit doesn't matter. A girl that I used to date and really cared for, didn't have any specific ''fashion'' garments, she does dress well though, especially thinking about how she doesn't care for fashion, at all. That being said, she didn't care much for my clothes, other than usual compliments and ''oooh is that new? that looks good!''. Sure, fashion can be a common ground, but it doesn't make someone fall in love with you, if that's what you're asking for. Be yourself, some girl will dig that.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 12:24:12 2016 No.11406100 >>11398950 /THREAD

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 12:35:00 2016 No.11406123 >>11397127 fuck dude im having so much trouble with getting my geos. DHL let some randomass person sign for them and now theyre looking for the person. i got refunded by my bank but holy shit this is hard

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 12:35:10 2016 No.11406124 >>11400805 then you deserve to be alone and to not breed. natural selection. why would you want to produce some autistic spawn of yourself?

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 12:58:02 2016 No.11406182 >>11398147 sick hair, dig it

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 13:48:56 2016 No.11406371 >>11398147 lmao jesus christ

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 14:15:31 2016 No.11406461 >>11402190 thank u for this (:

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 14:17:23 2016 No.11406467 >>11399751 i know this exact feel a little assertiveness will probably take you a long way

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 14:28:17 2016 No.11406515
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>>11397598
Will you shut the fuck up for one fucking sec??Am sure the dudes with the hottest gf JUST HAPPEN to have a great body,fashion sense,good haircut AND perfect personality right?Do you even real world?

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:17:41 2016 No.11406716 >>11406515 >hottest gf thats your problem what you want is shallow if all you care about is looks youre going to attract superficial people that only want superficial things.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:18:05 2016 No.11406717 >>11406461 <3 I feel like it was worth the time if I helped one other person. Thank you too!

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:19:26 2016 No.11406722 >>11406371 See -> >>11402173

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:20:43 2016 No.11406727 [DELETED]

There's a wonderful girl I could date if I wanted to. We get along tremendously well, and as far as personality goes I don't think I've met another girl I've gotten along better with. She's pretty by all means, even wears fucking Rick, but she's black. Not an issue ideologically for me, I'm not really a racist. I guess what stands in my head is my vision of what my 'dream girl' always was, for me that has almost always been a tall, pale, porcelain-doll blonde girl. I've been on plenty of first and second dates with girls like that and they've always been too serious or consumerist or otherwise ruined by society or their upbringings.

I think all that's standing in the way is my own personal previous dreams and visions. I think she's just as pretty as any other girl I've dated, but should I really pass just because she's 'different' to what I thought I wanted? I know I can get dates easily with girls who fit that description but I've never even met one who I got along with as well as I do this girl.

Weird situation.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:22:44 2016 No.11406733 >>11406716 You and your boyfriend are ruining evolution. #nomoreuglybabies

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:23:25 2016 No.11406736
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>>11406716

Kinda relevant.

There's a wonderful girl I could date if I wanted to. We get along tremendously well, and as far as personality goes I don't think I've met another girl I've gotten along better with. She's pretty by all means, even wears fucking Rick, but she's black. Not an issue ideologically for me, I'm not really a racist. I guess what stands in my head is my vision of what my 'dream girl' always was, for me that has almost always been a tall, pale, porcelain-doll blonde girl. I've been on plenty of first and second dates with girls like that and they've always been too serious or consumerist or otherwise ruined by society or their upbringings.

I think all that's standing in the way is my own personal previous dreams and visions. I think she's just as pretty as any other girl I've dated, but should I really pass just because she's 'different' to what I thought I wanted? I know I can get dates easily with girls who fit that description but I've never even met one who I got along with as well as I do this girl.

yaboy Wed Jun 15 15:27:16 2016 No.11406750

>>11406736
Dude, black girls are awesome. Like shit they're the ones who are actually fa as hell a lot of the time because they can wear everything. They take care of their skin way better than white people so you don't have to worry about her getting acne. Also she'll let you eat ass.

Love what you have

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:37:01 2016 No.11406789 >>11398888 nice quads Bate. Checked

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 15:37:50 2016 No.11406791
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>>11397089
>wear ninjagoth while partyin out inna club with a friend
>girls wanna dance w/ u, get free cigarettes
tru story
>>11406733
who gives a shit about evolution it´s not like you´re gonna be around when that finally happens like 100 000 years later

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 16:34:44 2016 No.11407038 File: 67 KB, 645x460, 15-Fabric-645x460.jpg [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] met my girl cuz she was mirin my suit fit at prom, but mostly because i´m 6´3 /fit/ Being fa equeal a shit ton of gays hitting on you, it just fucking blows

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 16:51:58 2016 No.11407103

>>11406515
Yes, there are indeed women out there who are shallow, as there are men, ugly and attractive and in between. There are also plenty of ugly AND attractive and everything in between women AND men who aren't shallow. I am one of them, and honestly, it's not that uncommon. Maybe you only notice the good looking girls who date Chads because it's what you've been told to believe, ever heard of the Confirmation Bias? If not, look it up because I think it's definitely relevant.

>>11406733
I'm not the same anon you replied to but I'm the one with the geeky bf. Lucky for you neither of us want kids, and I probably can't have them anyway, so you don't have to worry about us ruining your precious natural selection.

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 16:56:35 2016 No.11407119

>>11406123
that's really shitty anon, i think i saw you in the ROG

mine from mrporter arrived today just fine (gonna resell or return them bc i found a better deal on ssense) but the second pair is still in transit, hopefully all goes well.

if things don't work out id sell u my extra pair for what i payed lol, they cost like 630 total so probably that plus shipping, which is likely more than u payed on ssense, but idk watch ROG for the next few days for a link i guess

any yeah gl w all that

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 17:03:26 2016 No.11407149 >>11398065 >tfw will never teach HS and scope teenage butts

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 17:44:58 2016 No.11407310 >>11397115 This looks like vomit and yet I am certain some cringy memeaboo anime nerd girl is going to look at that and think it's cute so I believe what you say is true.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 17:48:07 2016 No.11407325 >>11397169 You've got it wrong. Being fashionable and wearing nice, well-fitting and expensive clothes well is attractive to women. Wearing /fa/ memewear is just advertising your powerlevel.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 17:51:33 2016 No.11407338 >>11398147 >be an objectively beautiful person >dress unironically like a nun to make absolutely sure nobody makes the mistake of being attracted to you because of your mental disorders

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 18:02:57 2016 No.11407384

Wanna know how to get girls? There's like only a few things.

> How attractive is your face and body
> How attractive do your clothes and style make you
> How attractive does your personality make you?
> How attractive does your social status / wealth / other shit make you?

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 18:04:39 2016 No.11407390 >>11406736 if this is her you need to get on that ASAP

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 18:32:10 2016 No.11407497 >>11400706 How can I stop judging people?

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 19:50:53 2016 No.11407831 >>11397661 Actually believing this. Shit son I'm sorry she broke your heart but it's time you moved on

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 20:05:53 2016 No.11407898 >>11402509 I stopped going there. It's just that I was pretty influenced by it as well as just by 4chan/8ch, and I feel like it'll take quite some time for the influence to wear off.

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 20:34:47 2016 No.11407983 >>11397115 wtf are those shoes

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:02:24 2016 No.11408432 a girl noticed once that my shirts always match my socks people often ask "are you from the city" that's about it really

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:10:33 2016 No.11408458

>>11397089
>used to dress like a hipster with vans, chambray shirt and black skinny genes along with kpop boy fade
>together with north Chinese genes; pointed chin, long face, light complexion
>delicious brown Spanish qt: anon you are beautiful, have nice fashion, you take care of yourself
>me: you are beautiful too
>staring competition for 5 seconds
>I autismo out cos I thought her friend was hotter and miss out my chance
>thousands of kilometers of ocean between us now
Prepare to be culturally enriched Europe, I AM COMING

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:11:56 2016 No.11408465 >>11407384 imo personality and attitude are like 90% of the work. To keep the chick, you do need financial stability or some sort of influence or power.

Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:44:21 2016 No.11408551

jesus christ this thread actually made me sad/laugh at how trash you actually all are as people. none of you dress well and yet complain about "normie" girls. none of you have a personality nor any experiences in life or anything that sets you apart from anyone else aside from the money you spent on clothes that don't match, because you don't have style.

kek'd

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:48:09 2016 No.11408559 >>11408551 shut the fuck up you edgy teenager

>>	Anonymous Wed Jun 15 23:56:17 2016 No.11408587 File: 986 KB, 500x280, 1388217227544.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11397115 Well, shit.

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:14:54 2016 No.11408650
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>>11402930
>>11401834
I saved it because people uses those photos to troll & derail threads. it's the same reason i pull up this vid of eliza:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X2ncVvC2oDo

that's not you. you're just enjoying the attention itt you're getting by acting like the model gf who'll fall in love with all the alt quirks of the sweet unique dorks on /fa/, just like one of my indie romance movies. and you had to validate that by faking youre not a guy/hambeast

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:16:00 2016 No.11408654 File: 635 KB, 756x715, 1460294190095.png [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] >>11402525 Laws of Power is specifically about business management, not general self-help

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:22:01 2016 No.11408670 >>11399520 This. Also is there any way to "fake it til you make it" when it comes to empathy?

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:22:25 2016 No.11408672
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>>11402882
I made it up actually, I don't know enough about computers to describe his setup. I know he doesn't use arch but I'm not sure what he's running and he's gone off on me about the 160 characters being the schelling point ideal before, he fucking formats his emails in them

>>11404381
>>11404447
>never been to a boiler gig
they're shit and no one cool is ever there. it's just organizers and shit, people with the mind for office politics. boiler's are like industry mixers, it's embarrassing to admit having gone but everyone takes up the invo for the connections.

probably better in london or something, I've only been to 2 in somewhat irrelevant asian cities that i shall not name

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:36:00 2016 No.11408703 >>11398147 Fucker looks like Kylo Ren

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:39:25 2016 No.11408709 >>11397598 Rebe?

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:40:51 2016 No.11408713 File: 1.02 MB, 212x212, 1462274312152.gif [View same] [iqdb] [saucenao] [google] Clothes can't cure autism, sorry /fa/

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:46:51 2016 No.11408725

>>11408650
Believe what you like but it's me this time. I've timestamped before and while probably half the time my photo is posted it is somebody else, in this case, it's me.
And I'm not falling in love with any guys on fa, did you even read my posts? I was giving advice because everyone here seems to think you have to rely on superficial things to attract someone. I'm sorry that sharing my experiences and opinions gets your panties in a bunch to the point that you can't accept that they are coming from me. Your problem mate.

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:47:59 2016 No.11408730 >>11408709 Nay

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 00:59:22 2016 No.11408782
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i have a qt girl classmate who is basically all i want in a gf (asian, rei kawakubo type hair, effay, thin, and qt face) who always gives me crazy eye contact during class and i want to respond back but she takes the class with her bf and i dont wanna be a relationship breaker so i tend to not respond back. why must the world do this to me guys?

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:21:49 2016 No.11408838 >>11407497 Well, how do you judge yourself? If it's harshly, you'll probably project that onto other people. Try to be gentle with yourself, and that will start to change how you look upon others. Thanks for your question <3

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:23:13 2016 No.11408844

>>11407338
One person thinks I look like a nun, another a priest. Oh, look, that one thinks I look like an anime character!

None of it really matters. If you're caught up on how another person looks you should probably reevaluate how you view yourself.

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:29:24 2016 No.11408859

>>11407384
You'll find you end up with people who either act like you, or want to. If you are not secure in yourself you will likely only attract those kind of people. Where do they hang out? Well, it probably doesn't matter because you'll both be too damn shy to do anything about it.

Not you, but your comment made me think of it.

It's also really important to think about what kind of person you want to attract. I mean, personality-wise. Looks can go a little of the way, but won't really matter if you have interests that go well together. It's really nice to be able to improve yourself with someone, and you can find a lot of ways to do that. But, you'll only find those people if you want to improve yourself.

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:31:05 2016 No.11408863 >>11408551 How's that projecting working out for you? Feel any better about yourself?

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:33:44 2016 No.11408873 >>11408670 You have to really want it. I mean, just think of being empathetic to a person. Now, do that for 5 minutes each day, you'll get there.

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 01:53:01 2016 No.11408925
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>>11408725
>And I'm not falling in love with any guys on fa
I suggested you were fulfilling their personal love fantasies by narrating the gf of their dreams, who will love them for their flawed selves. you're giving these spergs false hope.

obviously it's true everyone is flawed, but it doesn't mean everyone's equally flawed. if they're really having trouble attracting a partner, they should be working on themselves and practicing being better people. I'm not criticizing you for sharing your perspective, it just came off as bait.

>while probably half the time my photo is posted it is somebody else, in this case, it's me.
fine but why did you get so triggered? I'll delete if you want. also, imo you look good there. I'm sure your boyfriend would tell you the same

Anonymous Thu Jun 16 02:18:30 2016 No.11409011

>>11408925
I wasn't trying to give false hope, just *some* hope at all, and correct misconceptions about what people assume every woman looks for in a partner. I realize that I can only speak for myself, but some of the things guys post about women on here make me suspect they've never actually encountered one in their life. My guess is this is due to the confirmation bias.
As for working on yourself I would never argue against that. Self improvement is always a good idea. I just think people tend to think of that as "lose weight and dress well" and never venture any deeper than that, which is where the real work should be done.

>Triggered
Idk man I just get frustrated and fed up with having my identity questioned every single time I post. I guess that's what happens when people practically turn you into a meme, and also being a female on a male dominated board you tend to be mistrusted regardless. Thanks though.

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 02:24:05 2016 No.11409024 >>11406736 u need to get over it man and go for it!!!

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 05:29:50 2016 No.11409429 >>11401022 I laughed

>>	Anonymous Thu Jun 16 10:42:34 2016 No.11409966 >>11404447 >>11408672 agreed mate, i went to the first one in glasgow and it was rubbish

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