/fa/ - Fashion

they are a chore tbqh

Im afraid of being locked in and feeling obligated to a girl
So I just go on dates and fuck the same girl without calling her my gf

Also, I'm aloof but possessive, insecure. I get my heart broken easily. Fuck that, it's much easier to be alone.

I'd strangle the bitch. Me being without gf is safer for everyone.

none of the girls i know share the same interests as me

I don't put any effort into that

Didnt realize im good looking till recently, never really learned to socialize as a kid, difficulty focusing when speaking to more than 1 person, and im a coward.

>>14174858
I'm gay

>>14174858
it's mostly a chore, and i usually lose feelings for people quickly unless they really got my attention and i like to talk to them consistently

I’m gay

>>14174858
I want to find a girl who will let me make her stylish - clothes, accessories, hair, makeup - a whole aesthetic. But they all think it means I am gay, or that it is controlling.

I'm too cowardly to talk to girls. I also am embarrassed that I am underpaid.

I had one for 5 years that drove me crazy then she got her shit together and dumped me as soon as she became enjoyable to be around.

>>14174962
me too.

I have absurdly high standards but fall in love way too fast, my romantic life is a long series of me refusing to give women the time of day and then smothering the one I do like until she leaves

I think I’m afraid of emotionally investing myself that much into one person for fear of being turned on. Plus I’m terrible at reading hints and signals and bring aware of that makes me write off aby signs of interest girls (hypothetically) show me.

Also my standards could probably use some broadening but hey, I like what I like.

>>14175093
Same here.

There's a girl who was super interested to me at work but I decided to brush her off. Romance in the workplace is a no-no for me and I've seen the shit it can do.

I'm too busy reaching my goals right now to connect with anyone at such a deep level.

>>14174858
Girls in my country are extremely jealous.

As a fashion student, I get to be in a lot of fashion show backstages helping models change, this means being around lots of girls with their breasts out.

It's been 3 times already that I have to cut off something because they go wild when I'm on one.
As if a model would flirt with me.

I also don't have much free time + money to give to someone right now / don't find a lot of girls attractive / don't know if I'm already over my ex (first one to complain about backstages)

My first girlfriend was crazy about me. She was the one who pursued, who tried to win me over, who initiated.

After that, going back to women who expect you to bend over backwards for them to even condescend to give you a chance just seems... crazy. Every other girl seems to view the attentions of a man as a nuisance; like you have to prove you're worth their time. It's so empty. Having a person who sought after me and reciprocating that feeling in turn kinda ruined me for the normal dynamics of how shit works with other girls.

>>14174962
>>14174970
>t. janny

>>14174858
>reasons why

>>14174885
and what interests would those be
>>14175176
that alone should be attractive enough

i wish i did but i never go anywhere where i could meet new people, free time or work
i don't have friends to introduce me to girls, haven't been keeping contact with anyone from school times

recently installed tinder and i have been getting some good matches, don't know how to start a conversation though

tldr; lonely virgin autist

>>14174860
fpbp, focus on yourself, never chase a bitch, when you do something with your life, the hoes notice and before you know it you have a harem of groupies

>>14174868
Good thing I have a badass 9/10 latina chica who loves asphyxiation instead of some basic generic npc default bitch

>>14174858
Because Rin isn't real :(

well i WAS going to have no gf and instead just have chicks i date and fuck with nothing serious but then i became a religiousfag again

i would like to live in a society where every person is this innocent virgin but sadly that's not reality anon, women are whores and men are whores. that's all it comes down to

I'm saving myself for shiburin

I'm afraid to ask and I don't know anyone.

Ugly, lack of confidence, feared to be rejected, shy

People also find me weird by my attitude, but I don't know why, personally I don't think I'm weird

>>14174858
I have unrealistically high standards and in general dislike and distrust women. I've had a lot of fairly attractive girls latch on to me but I usually just lead them on and then drop them unannounced the moment I find something that I have an extreme distaste for. I tell every girl that that's what I do but they just think it's cute and don't seem to expect it when it happens to them. Im a romantic at heart and believe in love, very little regard for casual sex or pointless relationships but I can't help but flirt.

Broke up with her a month ago. I miss her but freedom and not having to deal with her bullshit family problems is so great. Been talking with this girl too since then and we’ve done stuff but she knows I’m not up for a relationship

https://youtu.be/8usZpqEtDv0

Asian girls don't date half-shitskins.

>>14174858
I don't really hang out with anyone at uni, but I don't really crave the human interaction either. Have girls obviously flirting with me after classes or at coffee shops but I take no interest.
Think somethings fucked up in my brain.

>>14174858
Well I do, currently, but it's very rocky, and she cheated -- chatted with some dude, not fucked (even though I don't know if there's really a difference in practice) and I moved on and forgave her, and tried to move on and maybe act more romantic, but she's still not happy and claims to just be anxious around me, so it's probably ending soon. At first I hurt about this, but as of this moment, I don't feel too much pain. It could be the coffee. I just wanted to have a family and kids, but maybe that will have to wait

>>14175966
Would you be able to provide for the kids though?

>>14175970
Yeah, I can do AC installations and easily make over a thousand a week on the low end, so the providing thing is no issue. I don't work that currently but I have and am capable of it. Obviously the main issue would be the woman though. I'm starting to just view women as just things to pass my genetic legacy and not things to "fall in love" with, because if you do that you will get hurt.

>>14174860 is correct, as is >>14175363
I love boxing, and will be focused on meeting new crowds and people as well as moving up in fighting

I've been self sabotaging my own relationships since I was 16 because I was scared of a girl realizing how unexperienced I am sexually. Now I'm a 19yo virgin and losing my hair.

>>14175187
Same, but then she left me and now I just feel empty desu

>>14174858
I hate everyone my age desu

>>14175187
>first girlfriend
>going back
huh?

>>14174858
because im a terrible person, without redeeming qualities, sucidial.
and im gay.

Did you honestly post this on every board

>>14175997
To be fair, it''s relevant to every board.

>>14175927
I am literally half black and dating an Asia girl. We're both master students.

>>14176008
You have to realize that most rules either work differently or don't apply at all to the higher sections of society.

>>14176015
Just climb up nigga. My single mom was literally a cleaning lady. We got dealt a shit hand by our circumstances, and maybe our races but we can climb.

>>14176055
I'm up already. I'm not that guy, I just see a whole lot going on with others that I don't deal with because I'm making it.

>>14176015
>higher sections of society
>tfw someone considers me to be in a higher section of society

>>14176008

>>14176008

>>14176092
Objectively, if you get a good education, you are already above most of the population. The fastest way to not see myself as a fucking loser is to talk to somebody on the street. Then it's back to hentai and video games like the fag I am.

>>14175248
Janny probably enjoys his job and looks good on resumè

I want a bf but I've never been interested in people who like me. Maybe I need to stop being pretentious and dismissive of people who seem too basic but I feel like I'm undermining myself to get heavily involved with a person I couldn't have a mutual intellectual connection with.

>>14176171
I'm in a very complicated position right now, due to university and money, and feel like having a serious relationship at this point would be a chore.

I'm not a sperglord autist, though and will probably find someone when I'm in a better position. I'd say my only problem in that regard is that I have trust issues.

Thanks for listening, bros, wanted to get that out of my chest for a bit.

>>14176182
You need to get past the basic shit. Nobody opens up with a serious conversation in most normal scenarios,so you don't actually know what you're rejecting until you've spent some time with the person.

>>14176189
Oh shit didn't mean to quote that post my b

>>14174858
because she broke up with me over a week ago

Because I want to be the gf

>>14175972
Update on this: I am now single.

>>14176193
I said the same thing myself but I'm 4 yes outta uni and made no real gains

>>14174858
girls have high standards, they are intimidating, they hate ethnic men like me, they have better male choices anyway, they very rarely have a similar character to me nor do they share hobbies, etc.
you have to be either good looking or be an absolute normie personality wise to get a gf. I will just die incel

I'm not that likeable and I'm really shy. I don't blame anyone else though

>>14175438
this would be my cologne if it were possible.

>>14176015
I kind of see your point, but it's not that far away or unattainable. I just studied a little.

>>14175187
Be glad you ever experienced it to begin with, anon. Not all of us are that lucky.

>>14174858
Many reasons I guess.

In my early youth, no girl was ever interested in me. I was very misaligned emotionally due to my abusive parents, mainly my violent father, so I was very insecure around girls and tried to overplay it by acting 'tough' and silly, but deep inside I was crying for affection. I remember being incredibly depressed about it, especially when seeing how everyone around me had their first relationships.

During my 20s I was very busy with studying and working and never really had much time. I tried a few times to ask girls out, but was rejected a lot. Very rarely, like every few years, a girl showed interest in me, but I felt we weren't compatible at all so I stayed single. Pic related is a silly pop-up card I made in 2012 for a girl in my class. (they're small chibi-versions of me and her, including the jacket and purse she wore) We exchanged smiles a few times and I thought she was really pretty and funny, so I tried my luck in the only way I knew: like an inexperienced naive little boy. Apparently I misinterpreted her smiles because she had a bf already and judging from her face, she was really creeped out by that card. It was a difficult time, because some people around me got married and started building their lives together, while I was merely a wandering outsider.

Now I'm in my mid 30s and I have long given up. Strangely enough, young girls around 19 to 23 seem to flock to me. I usually have 1 to 3 show interest or even ask me out directly. Last one was probably 4chan's ideal gf: 22 year old depressed Asian chick who only wears black and is super into anime. I'm just emotionally dead inside. Not necessarily in a bad way, but more liberating. I just don't feel attraction to women anymore, because I see the persona underneath and I rarely like it. Also I think at this point the concept of partnership has become so foreign to me, almost surreal. I'm not missing something I never had.

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(felt like rambling a bit)

>>14174858
fuck man i dreamed i was with a girl just hanging out being friends and we got on a two seater bicycle and i asked her why not just date?? we like hanging out anyway and as we rode on the bicycle extended and we kept getting further apart from eachother till it was almost like a rope and i got tangled on a streetlight and lost her... cant remember her face or who it was but it was one of those realistic morning dreams

I'm scared of getting close to women. I have low self esteem, I'm socially awkward and I feel like a creep. I have no idea how to start. How to ask someone out. How to flirt. Seeing beautiful girls in the street and at university wearing revealing clothing makes me sad and horny and angry. All my life I've been avoidant of close relationships and responsibility and having to actually face up to my physical existence is scary.

>>14174960
i do this with guys haha

jeez ur all stupid

too expensive

i do have one. she's very nice and I love her very much. she is not a chore and she makes me very happy. you guys are delusional.

>>14174858
I was homeschooled until I was 18, so I never had the opportunity. I'm 19 now, and going to college, but I have still have hope! I asked two girls out on a date last year. They both said no, but they were very kind, and it hurt a lot less than I expected. I can't wait until I build up the courage to ask someone this semester. It's exhilarating.

>>14174858
because I have a boyfriend

>>14174858

My fiance would be upset if I had a gf

>>14177648

Fucking dating via social media. You're doing gods work Anon.

>>14177470
Damn man

>>14174858
because I have a boyfriend???

The moment a girl starts showing clear interest in me she becomes a lot less attractive.

my standards are probably way too high, especially considering the area i live in
i dont want one either, i wouldnt be able to juggle having a relationship with being a full time uni student, having a shitty graveyard shift job at a convenience store, and working out. i barely have any free time as is
the majority of the money i make now goes towards groceries and bills so then id have even more expenses if i were to get a gf. id also probably gain weight
ill likely look for one when im a little better off in a few years but who knows, ive never been the type to approach anyone. i always tell myself id be content living by myself for a while as long as i have a social circle but maybe the loneliness would eat me up at some point. who knows

Idk lads.
I really don't know.
I'm 6 months before entering wizard hood and I keep thinking about this.

How exactly do I hit on girls?
Can I hit on friends or those are out unless they have some attraction to me?

>>14174858
>fat
>no job
>haven’t got my drivers license yet
>don’t meet girls that often

>>14174862
That’s kind of degenerate desu. If you like her make her yours.

>>14175187
That’s not normal.

Never bend over backwards just for their attention. If she expects you to act that way merely for her attention she’s just an arrogant bitch.

Find a girl who doesn’t have absurd expectations of you.

>>14175311
Literally just message them.

>>14175381
Maybe a churchgrill? As long as she isn’t just a religiousthot

>>14175966
If she cheated then end it.

It’s shitty if her to say she feels anxious around you because she cheated.

>>14175369
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yskotqNuXI
There's hope

>>14178218
Friends should generally be off limits unless you are deeply in love and prepared to fuck up your friendship.

Just speak to girls. I doesn’t matter where. You could practice talking to random girls in a bar or something, but if you want progress you should use every opportunity you get like in the supermarket.

>>14177470
Im like you but younger

>>14175966
>chatted with some dude, not fucked
how is this cheating?? she's not allowed to talk to other males? god normies are so fucking inscrutable

>>14178540
flirting with another guy you dumb shit

>>14178627
how is this implied by "chatted"?

>>14178733
when I connect cheating and chatting it's implied that she was flirting with a guy, by chatting with him flirtatiously! wow!

>>14174858
I can't stand being around myself, never mind others.

>>14178740
sorry for not being fluent in normie speak. still sounds like you're mad about her having fun without your involvement tho

Small shbepis

>>14178752
>sorry for being autistic, sounds like you need to let her fuck other dudes
ok

>>14178762
now you're getting it

>>14175927
>>14176008
Im also a lightskin (half Norwegian half Trinidadian) and am dating a Korean girl. Literally all of my girlfriends have been Asian because I live in fucking Toronto.

Just b urself and be slim.

I'm short, boring, awkward and live with my parents.

Also I find most girls I come across pretty uninteresting so even on the off chance some chick actually liked my pathetic ass I probably wouldn't even like her back.

>>14174858
Because I haven't met Sarah Gadon yet

>>14174960
You do sound like a faggot.

I do though. We rent a house together. I'll probably propose on a roadtrip this summer.

>>14175258
Some parts hit home

i tried and she rejected me after 3months

>>14178856
Big F for my boy

>>14177470
Oof, that card. I like the card but absolutely, absolutely not for a date.

i dont know. i still want one though

>>14177470
nah

>>14175183
i want to be in your country

Hardly ever leave my house, very shy, wouldn't know where to go to meet people

>>14179608
Femanon here, i was just as shy and reclusive because i was bullied by my brothers growing up but anyway things improved as soon as i got a job and became more sociable. If you dont already have one, when you do, make the best of it even if its a shit job.

I’m picky and shy, it’s a bad combination.

>>14179608
Same but I’m also ugly too.

all ive been doing past 4 years since graduating from high school is working then coming home and shitposting.

i was a big autist in high school, now im not but i don't go out so what the fuck

>>14180089
also i don't really hang out with my friends. i isolate myself like a retard and im either fine with it, or i've convinced myself im fine with it. i have no desire to meet new people because of this. though lately there's been a yearning from deep within to get a move on because im wasting away

>>14174858
NO. Its hard to find a good woman worth dating.

>>14174858
I am shy akward picky and pretentious

>>14177642
Not everybody is ths same as you. Have some empathy for the sad losers out there you arrogant idiot.

>>14178856
zoned out

>>14180911
if you're this upset at someone online maybe there's a reason you have no gf

>Schizoid Personality Disorder
>Social retardation
>Fear of commitment
>No free time 'cause wagey
>Zero intrest in women with whom I have no similar tastes
>"Wierd" look and personality for vast majority of women
>Have a strange speech pattern that makes me sound like a retarted alien
It was over for me before it even had a chance to begin

>>14174858
I want a goth gf but I can't find one that likes me
what do goth gfs like?

>>14178856
Just cut it off. None of this "friends" garbage. She's not interested so find someone who is.

Start to see a weeaboo tomboy after two months she reject me, be her beta orbital for a while tell her i still feel something for her, get reject again, but at least now i could open my eyes and see she was just a bitch, but still feel bad for being her beta orbital and she tell to all her friends i was just a simple loser

>>14181250
I hope you fucking learned from this. No orbiting. You show interest, if it works, good. If it doesn't you move on. Immediately. You can be friends but no feelings.

>>14181596
I know i learn the lession from this and not more being a beta orbital for someone
But how i can be friends but no feelings?

>>14181619
You cant its all a trap they want u to fuk them like bby giv them sum fuk and bby

>>14181033
When ur gf cheats on u I hope u have the self-awareness to realize its cuz ur not really a pleasant person and u spend ur time single trying to be better. :3

Looks: Might even be a 6.5 or 7 face wise and average build/average size. I dress well but I end up looking son-in-law attractive not exciting or noteworthy attractive.
Personality: Usually very composed and polite but in a heated situation or with alcohol my humor gets over the top and I suddenly start pushing for the big effect. Have a pretty big circle of friends from all stages of my life and they love me for bothering sides but I guess it really freaks potential gfs out.
Place in life: Great education and about to enter in a promising career with high earnings potential if everything works out. Live with my parents however as I’m finishing my thesis. Don’t really go out anymore as it keeps me from studying/working out and alcohol doesn’t give that stupid joy as it used to.

The problem is probably that I would consider most girls a chore and my standards on optics and education are too high.
I missed out on teenage love and fear that future partners will only be with my for my money.

Live feels moderately comfortable but incredibly bland. That’s probably the same vibe I give girls.

>>14181695
Btw I don’t even know the feeling of a woman being sexually attracted to me. Never experienced flirting, can’t flirt myself except for a very few times when we both knew we would go home drunk together.
Scored a few tinder dates with super hot and /fa/ girls (even one model) but it devolved into awkward small talk the minute I opened my mouth.

Literally just because I'm shy and my standards are too high. I get hit on a lot by people I have no interest in but I'm bad at flirting with the people I actually want to get to know.

>>14179044
I'm sure you don't want an overly jealous gf that goes apeshit when you're a bit jealous of something regarding her.
Plus, cheating is like a thumb rule here.

>>14181250
uhhhh what do about doomer syndrome bc literally none of these points missed my personality

I'm a bad person, and get enjoyment from fucking with people's heads.

I'd mentally destroy the first girl that gets close to me, I'd rather be alone, plus I'm broke and in debt and rather work to pay my debt and buy things I enjoy than spend my money on someone else.

I just don't like the idea of having to spend money on another person, I don't want to have to take her out and pay for her stuff, or all that corny shit people do in relationships.

Broke, no car, pursuing academia so basically no future, socially awkward. Dope fits though—I get plenty of interest until people get close and realize I'm a complete autist.

>>14178762
>>14178740
>>14178627
God you sound insecure

>>14174858
girls are a meme and only good for making a family

>>14181250
fuck.
i even started smoking two years ago.

>>14174858
Too expensive, and not just financially.

>>14174858
i'm an autistic faggot.

>>14174858
im a manlet and only attracted to tall girls :(

>>14177470
You seem like a great guy and I think the card is cute, but why do you still have the card though or is it just a pic you saved back then?

i have standards its really not a personal failing

>>14174858
ACNE

How do I show a girl I like her without talking to her?
How do I approach her?
She's like a 5.5/10 with glasses and a pony tail.
Look I think she is pretty and unatractive at the same time.
For some reason I like her and I don't know even know why.

>>14174858
I've got one.
She's good. Like her as a person. Improved my life to the point where I'm ready for a relationship.

If you try to get one for the sake of getting one, out of FOMA/peer pressure/thinking you need one to complete yourself, you're just setting yourself up for a miserable fucking time. Will quickly become an absolute chore to deal with.

And don't even bother with hookup culture because that's absolute desperation to be validated as fuckable.

>>14174858

I've never had one and I odn't know how to start at the age of 30

>>14178782
Nice mix anon, your parents sure have an interesting story to tell, also jelly that you smash azn qts.


>>14174858
I don't have a girlfriend because I barely live my house (I leave just for work, go meet parents, meet friends in their houses). I want a girlfriend because I want to smash and I hate that if you don't have one people treat like you are gay or an outcast even if looking at my friends and their girlfriend I don't feel jealous at all. Actually they date abominations but hey at least they got a girlfriend.

>>14176209
sad

>>14182477
ISOTRETINOIN

>>14182521
spot on

>>14174858
I do now for the first time and Im still not feeling satisfied with anything in life. Not that I think having a gf would fix the problems in my life, but I thought it would at least help with the loneliness