/fa/ - Fashion

My last girlfriend was 40, but she passed for late 20's all the time.
Some aspects of the relationship were refreshing - there was an openness and the sense of being beyond the childish games of youth. She was very street smart and called me on my bullshit.
She was too bitter, though. Too tired of the world, too over everything. The whole concept of sexual market value also poisoned the experience for me, I feel like she was more about locking down a long-term partner, but driven to find one more because she was afraid of being alone than she desired a true human connection.
There may have also been a big cultural difference. She was an old school Hong Kong girl - She told me she'd never seen her parents express physical affection for each other once. I didn't believe it myself until her sisters confirmed it, and added that he never hugged them, either. There seemed to be a real emphasis placed on keeping a cool facade at all times, even when you're dying on the inside. Me, I let my emotions carry me away when they get too strong. I suppose it's immature but it feels better.

I'm rambling, I know.

I guess what I'd leave you with, OP, is that there are plenty of women out there who are objectively beautiful well into their forties and personal connection will always heighten that. You are a fresh young thing to them and it's pretty great to be an object of desire for once.
But at the same time, it's easy to fall in with someone who's been living wrong for far too long. We tend to assume that people figure it out when they get older, but that's not what I've seen. A lot of people just fuck up and never come back; their lives become a knotted burl of missteps, confusion and little bad choices that always add up to failure at the end of the day.
It's really easy to get hooked on someone whose approach to life is just wrong, and before you know it their bad habits are yours. Their age or experience might even have you convinced that they've got all the answers.