/fa/ - Fashion

I've been going out with her since last year and honestly her awful taste in clothing and unwillingness to revamp her wardrobe is starting to get on my nerves.

She's rather socially awkward to begin with. Despite being naturally pretty, she really doesn't do herself any favors aesthetically insofar as she gets the majority of her clothes from fucking charity stores and with few exceptions, most of her wardrobe veers between what one might expect to see on a frumpy mom and a twelve year old girl with no semblance of a coherent style.

The problems also go beyond fashion sense to a general apathy regarding personal grooming and hygiene, which is arguably a much more serious issue, but I do think getting a new wardrobe which actually looks good or at least just passable would be a positive step, as I do think her fashion sense (or lack of) is a symptom of poor self esteem and other unhealthy thought patterns.

I have a hard time approaching these topics head on because I don't want to seem mean or superficial, but when we do talk about it, she normally dismisses fashion as mindlessly conformist, and insists that she wears what she actually likes. Problem is it isn't so much an issue of just wearing what other people wear for the sake of fitting in, but rather just having a sense of taste and aesthetics. What she wears mostly isn't just not the norm (like say, adopting a particular subculture's style) it just shows an ignorance of what looks good and what suits her.

Am I being selfish and superficial? Perhaps. I'm a self conscious person by nature, and sometimes her lack of self-awareness gets on my nerves, but frankly if I were a superficial person, I wouldn't be going out with her. I do that because I like being with her generally, and whilst this isn't a deal breaker, it does annoy me.

Anyway, sorry for all the agony aunt bullshit, basically how do I nudge her in the right direction fashion wise without coming across badly?