>serious question though, are you supposed to use your hands
No, you don't use your hands in a restaurant unless your meal started with a hot steaming towel. Just politely ask for a knife and fork, and cut around the bone. It is okay in etiquette to remove a bone from the mouth with the fingers, however. You may not know that it is acceptable with chopsticks to bite off food and leave some on the chopsticks, which isn't at all alright in fork culture to bite off food and hold some on the fork. So, if you don't want to use chopsticks to gently separate poorly cooked food before picking up a bite, then pick up pieces to chew off and hold the second bite in the air. Depends on your comfort level and if your company is asian and used to seeing people being "rude" like that.
I know you can pick up BBQ ribs, drumsticks, and enjoy with fingers, but you'll encounter a lot of refined families that it was never okay that if it was indeed possible to use a knife and fork that you'd opt for fingers for fun. Remember you don't want to offend people, that whole point of etiquette. Maybe this item is your guilty pleasure to dine on alone at takeout and you devour it like chicken wings, who knows? Suck on the bones with lots of lipsmacking, like the rat-eating lady on that one episode of Survivor.