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is anyone else a regular at a place and wish they would just leave you alone and stop trying to be so friendly

im here for the food, please stop noticing me

>> No.15049343
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>>15049312
It depends, the cute girl at Old Chicago that says hi to me is great. A while back I had to work at a weird location for a few months and the only place around was a firehouse subs. After about the 5th day the guy there said "aren't you tired of these things yet?"

>> No.15049368

>>15049312
I'm a reg at a couple of places and don't get more than the standard greeting at most of them. probably because I'm always alone and have resting serial killer face

>> No.15049391

>>15049312
The cashiers at my local grocery store recognize me but they also know i dont like small talk so they dont bug me

>> No.15049401

>>15049312
No, I like chatting with the staff at a place where I'm a regular, it's fun and sometimes you get free stuff. I just moved recently and don't have a regular place anymore and I miss it.

>> No.15049407

>>15049312
Do you live West of PA and South of Maryland? Nowhere have I had this issue

>> No.15049408

>>15049312
There’s a bar I go to just to play the slot machine. One time I won like $2000 and gave everyone in the place $20 and bought everyone tons of drinks. Now I feel weird when I go back. I don’t remember any of the other regulars’ names and they all know me as the autistic money fairy.

>> No.15049435

I've become well acquainted with the owners of my local Thai restaurant, and since then have never once paid for an appetizer. Even when just ordering for pick-up they recognize our voices/number and load up our bag with apps and often an extra noodle entree. It has gotten to the point where whenever my wife bakes for the holidays, we make sure to make a bunch just for them.

>> No.15049456

>>15049312
Why is interacting with people so hard for you?

>> No.15049462

>>15049312
Yes I want to die once a week I go to
my local jack in the box and get large curly fries because I’m an autist and there’s this qt Latina who is always working there so when I come in now she just orders it without me asking and smiles T_T

>> No.15049533

>>15049456
I feel like they are always mocking me and making fun of me because I get the same thing everytime that now when I call in they just ask me if it will be the same and it's embarrassing

>> No.15049662

>>15049533
This is a problem with a lot of young people.
You are not the center of the universe. They don't care about you. There are other customers that do the same thing. To them you are just "whatever you order" guy. In fact, they probably like you. Since your order is predictable it is easy to fill.
Maybe you would mock others for getting the same thing every time, but don't project this upon other people who probably forget about you immediately after you leave

>> No.15049668

>>15049312
>P-please *gargles cum* stop! noticing *swallows semen in your path* me!!!
>is op
Do you not see the irony of you baiting on this board and then claiming you dont want attention?

>> No.15049955

>in college
>no friends, don't fit in, failing classes, fucked up on pills, life's a mess
>the only highlight of my day is getting a muffin and milk from the campus cafe and eating them on the dorm bathroom floor before dragging myself off to class
>the cafe cashier starts making sarcastic comments about my order
>she's probably just joking but she has this monotonous voice that makes everything sound serious and I'm already on edge and paranoid
>brings her kid in one day
>smirks, looks at my muffin, and says, "he eats this every day"
>kid starts laughing
>almost die of shame
>never go back
>start going to the lunch hall instead
>the front desk lady goes out of her way to greet me by name and ask me about my day
>can see her eyes well up with pity every time she sees me
>almost die of shame
Fuck college, man.

>> No.15049964

>>15049312
Only time i enjoyed being a regular was when i went to a bar on Wednesday's, i went because i wanted to drink in peace without people talking to me, they respected that and knew my order. Based

>> No.15049976
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>>15049312
Yes. I deliberately shit my pants in a seafood restaurant so they would leave me alone.

>> No.15049993

>>15049668
>>15049662
>>15049456
Normies get the rope

>> No.15050033

>>15049662
It isn't young people, it's socially awkward people (that ironically whine about a lack of friends or social connection but then make zero effort into creating them).

What's the harm in being a little social? Stop reading your usual misdirected autistic bullshit into every two-minute encounter. Who cares if it's some cashier at a bookstore, the manager of a restaurant you frequent, or some gas station clerk where you usually stop for coffee? Common courtesy has value simply because it has become so uncommon. Aside from actually connecting with others, it has the added perk of paying off extra from time to time. In the last months of my mom's dementia, I'd stop by a Papa Murphy's once a week for her favorite pizza, and I can't easily count the number of times I got it half price (or free) just because I was always polite and was known as a regular. What did it cost me? An honest answer when a cashier commented that I must really like their pizza.

The greatest social skill is making others feel respected and valued, however limited the interaction. If there was a magic pill for social interaction, it's 100% this.

>> No.15050083

>>15049462
god i want to fuck all pretty latinas

>> No.15050092

>>15049368
you might be my twin

>> No.15050110

>>15050033
>The greatest social skill is making others feel respected and valued, however limited the interaction. If there was a magic pill for social interaction, it's 100% this.

fucking checked! Incredibly wise post anon, any younger anons should heed his words, this is priceless wisdom and some people never understand this

>> No.15050191

>>15050033
This post fills a knowledge gap that like 90% of 4chan ignores.

>> No.15050209

>be a regular at some place
>totally okay being friendly with the dudes and cute girls
>hate interacting with fat women but I still feel obligated to be nice to them but I really don't want to because I know they'll read it as me being attracted to them

god I fucking hate fat women. they're so volatile to interact with.

>> No.15050233

>>15049312
No, but I wish my friend would. He's like, "I'm the only white guy these mongs save my order for!" every fucking week. I'm sick of egg rolls, and I'm asian.

>> No.15050235

>go through McDonald's drive thru almost every day for months on end
>get a mcdouble and an iced coffee every time
>extremely cute latinx girl always works the first window
>one day "So you just get the same order every day huh?"
never went back

>> No.15050255

>>15050191
That's what autism is. It's like trying explain colors to a blind person.

>> No.15050261

>>15049343
i would have lit him on fire

>> No.15050280

>>15049993
But if a mob of artists tries to hang us, all we have to do is engage them in conversation and they'll freeze in their tracks.

>> No.15050304

>>15050033
It's always kind of sad when some cashier or food worker asks me how I am today and I respond "I'm well, thanks. How are you?" and it makes them pause because hardly anyone ever asks them that.

>> No.15050322

>>15050235
I hate that I know this feel

>> No.15050330

>>15050033
>The greatest social skill is making others feel respected and valued, however limited the interaction.
Damn, that's some good ass advice

>> No.15050354

If it's a place I call and place an order I don't mind spending 30 seconds exchanging pleasantries. Unfortunately a few of my favorite places you can only order there and wait. Then it's awkward trying to make small talk for 10 minutes, especially if I'm the only customer.

>> No.15050357

>>15049312
I remember being so fucking autistic when I worked in food service. We’d have regulars all the time but I never knew how to make conversation so I would act like it was our first interaction every time. Hopefully he was like you and I made his day a little better

>> No.15050375

>How are you?
>This is the worst time in human history to be alive, yourself?

Just learn to cook. You can get by seeing grocery store cashier every 3 weeks.

>> No.15050518

>>15049312
You know of your a regular and you're friendly you get better deals, free shit and larger portions, right?
At my bar regulars automatically get double shots of everything

>> No.15050532

>>15049312
When I was at college I became a regular at a local Lebanese place and the Italian grocer/deli. If you're a regular you eventually get discounts and/or free add-ons.

>> No.15050538

>>15049312
the worst is when I'm a regular somewhere and one of my friends is too and they just ignore me and bug my friend a lot. like if you decide to leave me alone then leave both of us alone. it's insulting to be ignored and to see how you treat others when I'm not around

>> No.15050659

>>15049993
You don't have to be one of them to successfully live among them.
Git gud, scrub

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>> No.15052357

>>15049312
Doesn't happen to me when I'm at home because I go to different restaurants, but I travel for work fairly often, and once hit the same restaurant that shared a parking lot with my hotel for a good 2 weeks, mostly out of laziness. Bartender (because eating at the bar is ideal if you're going out alone) figured out my name after the first few days and would make small talk on slower nights, and I ended up sleeping with her before I left. Good shit overall.

>> No.15052363

>>15049312
I'm a regular at a bar or two. It's nice sometimes, but it hurts because I'm just a lonely 30 year old borderline alcoholic.

>> No.15052374

>>15050033
>Who cares if it's some cashier at a bookstore, the manager of a restaurant you frequent, or some gas station clerk where you usually stop for coffee?
It's only really a problem when the cashier at the liquor store recognizes you. Then you know that *you* have a problem.

>> No.15052380

>>15049312
t. friendless autists

>> No.15052445

>>15049312
>Always go to a steakhouse alone and eat my steaks well done, mostly due to textural preference
>Always request the same waitress, really friendly and nice
>Go there for over a year, sporadically but about 50 times that year
>Always alone
>One day I have my first date in years, decide to bring the girl out to eat there, feel like it should be comfortable home field advantage
>Talking with my date and she tells me she always eats it rare, kind of joking about how people who eat it well done don't actually like steak
>Not sure if she's serious or just trying to suck up because that's what most guys think
>Waitress comes to table and takes date's order, then I give her mine but I order it rare
>She comments about how that's odd on account of how I never order it rare before, just gentle teasing
>I completely lose my spaghetti even though my date probably didn't really care
>Date ends, barely avoiding a complete social implosion. Clearly no chemistry.
>Sitting at the table by myself after my date left, absorbing a failure at my once chance in years
>Waitress comes around and I tell her it didn't go well, we have shared enough now so I don't really care
>She is pretty nice about it, but I don't read into it because she's my fucking waitress
>Go off the grid for two months before I start going back
>Finally show up again on a day I'm too lazy to cook
>She is super fucking friendly
>Resume normal rate of going in
>After weeks of semi-autistic self questioning leave my number on a receipt with a note asking her if she'd like to out sometime
>She texts me and says yes
>Go on a date with her and take her to the movies
>The people at the concession counter knew her order the second they saw her
>Relationship still going four years later

Some people just know what they want. Never change.

>> No.15052458

>>15052445
>Haven't married her and put a baby in her belly.
Disappointing fable, amigo.

>> No.15052467

>>15052445
That's sweet, if true

>> No.15052558

>>15049955
It gets better. Finish it, get to the real world with a good job. Don't fuck up your classes; at least pass.

I was working ~60 hour weeks as a fast food manager while in college, 3 hours of sleep was a good night. Drank all the time, got sick constantly, ate like shit, got fat and had long hair and was overall depressed. Socially imploded my second year, lost my girlfriend, so had very few friends.

Now it's 5 years after graduation, I'm considering marriage, making ~$150k/year, own a house, and am essentially stress-free. Lost weight, eating healthy, drinking more responsibly, etc. It gets better.

>> No.15052579

>>15049456
Because I hate them and secretly think they all hate me too because they somehow know what disgusting stuff I do.

>> No.15052589

>>15049662
This is wrong though. I’ve worked retail plenty of times and I very often make fun of and laugh at customers we think are weird. Retail is boring, mindless work most of the time and talking shit about customers passes the time and is often the only thing we have to talk about since most people have little in common.

>> No.15052615

>>15049955
its hard for me to imagine what kind of extra-fragile dweeb gets legitimately owned for ordering the same thing at the coffee shop every day. as far as im aware almost everyone who goes to a coffee shop at all goes pretty much every day to order pretty much the same shit. How is this even possible?

>> No.15052626

>>15050235
>latinx
faggot

>> No.15052628

>>15050304
It makes them pause because you’re throwing off their script and they need to actually think on how to respond instead of just going by rote.

>> No.15052636

>in community college
>give friend a ride to and from school with me
>every tuesday we would stop by taco bell drive thru on our way home
>every time there would be this poo in loo at the drive thru
>ask him for an extra bag because my friend and i would separate our food and take it home
>every time i have to ask for a bag and he would get pissed off every time i asked for one even though i went regularly and asked for an extra bag every time
wtf was his problem bros

>> No.15052644

>>15052363
Can you explain to me the point of going to bars by yourself? I get it if you're Going Out to socialize or whatever but going to some place to spend 5x what it would cost to drink alone at home seems bad. You don't even control the music, whats on tv, etc... pretty much a shitty experience compared to doing the same thing at your own house.

>> No.15052669

>>15052644
Keeps you from devolving into full on alcoholism when you like drinking and know you’d just go through a handle in a couple days if you had it handy and didn’t need to go out for it.

>> No.15052671

>>15052644
>You don't control the tv
I don't pay for cable at home and they'll give me the remote at the bar since I'm a regular.

I talk to the wait staff, sometimes to other patrons sitting at the bar, and just get to be "lost in the crowd" for a little while.

>> No.15052673

>>15050375
>Live in western country
>Have human rights
>Have shelter, heat and unlimited water
>Have better food than medieval kings every day
>Have access to electric power, have countless (and needless) devices catering to my every whim
>Never have to starve
>Never have to be sick without medicine
>Never have to fear for my life

>Read something on the internet that I dislike
>"This is the worst time to be alive in human history!!"

>> No.15052738

>>15049955
>Woman brings her kid in to her cashier job
Anon, you're definitely the winner in this scenario.

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>>15052738
>buy a muffin every single day
>known for this
>also mocked constantly for it, even by small children
>literally live on Mulberry Lane
>mfw

>> No.15052764

>>15052673
our great war is a spiritual war.
our great depression, is our lives.

>> No.15052895

>>15052764
Our lives are not even close to bad though.
People are just living in such unprecedented luxury and splendor, that every tiny insignificant fucking thing seems hugely detrimental.
In reality people are just being spoiled little crybabies with no real problems.

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>>15050033

>> No.15053131

>>15049993
I never leave my dorm and dont speak to anyone. You are the normalnigger for begging for attention and being a hypocrite.

>> No.15053185

>>15052445
>two boring autists found each other
I give my fiancé shit anytime we go to a new restaurant, and he decides to order their chicken tenders even though they're literally just chicken breasts cut up and fried.
Fucking try new things you tards.

>> No.15053224

>>15053185
When I eat somewhere new repeatedly, I go through and try basically everything on the menu at least once. After having done this, I've empirically identified my favorite and maybe 1-2 backup picks, which I will order exclusively from then on.

>> No.15053463

>>15053185
>you're a tard if you know what you like
you're a naggy cunt, aren't you

>> No.15053488

>>15049312
I used to be anti social like you, acting like I didn't like the only people in the world who at least pretended to give a shit about me, on my daily lunch break. Then they closed down, couldn't bounce back from the covid lockdown and subsequent restrictions. Now all I have are fast food drive throughs, dragged by rude teenagers who don't give a shit about anything.

>> No.15053560

>>15050033
>What's the harm in being a little social?
This is what pisses me off. What's the harm in my not being social? How come I get shit for not wanting to talk to people and you don't get shit for talking to people that don't want to talk?

>> No.15053567

>>15049964
i literally got my job at this bar because i came in everyday after my other job for a beer, read my book, and wasnt an asshole.
it started off with just soft banter, then free beers (sometimes on fucked up shifts id run there on my 30, and theyd be at least 40 deep, and already know what i wanted as soon as i walked in the door), to the point where they flat out had someone walk and pulled me behind the bar to finish up that night.
ive never been happier in a job or surrounded by such a kickass team and all it took was not being an antisocial little bitch.

>> No.15053598

>>15053560
Because humans are social creatures and by refusing to interact with your fellow man you're showing incredible immaturity. You want to be alone? Then go build your bunker and fuck off. But don't refuse to do something and then bitch when you're looked upon as the outcast you are.

>> No.15053626

>>15049662
That's right, nobody notices weird people or makes fun of them. Just be yourself. And try to smile once in a while, you have such a lovely smile.

>> No.15053687

>>15049312
The minute I'm asked if I want my "usual" I'll immediately order something new or stop going until it happens somewhere else. Depends on how much I enjoy the place.

>> No.15053702

>>15053598
Humans are also mammals designed to reproduce, yet gay people are accepted. How come this is the one 'natural' thing you think evolution got right? So I'm supposed to change everything about my personality, pretend, lie to you, and put in heaps of effort to make you feel better, but you don't have to do anything for my benefit? Sounds totally reasonable.

I was under the impression that wanting the world to revolve around you and what you like is more immature. I'm sorry you get so angry about one person wanting to act different.

>> No.15053765

>>15050033
Stop attacking me it hurts

>> No.15053808

>>15053702
That's a moot point, homosexuality is exhibited in nearly all advanced species. And I don't give a shit what you do, but you same antisocial retards always bitch about your isolation and awkwardness then refuse to change it.

So... want to try again, you autistic fucking neckbeard or are you going to slink back to your nest?

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>>15049955
In my experience, people on the job aren't usually that up front and rude. She was probably just trying to tease you a little bit. Older women like to do that to young men they find cute. All you have to do is smile back and wink. Maybe try making a self-deprecating joke if you're feeling confident, "I'm too poor to afford any of the good stuff". She might think you're flirting with her and start giving you free shit.

>> No.15054266

>>15052374
Kek. This is me.

>> No.15054308

>>15052445
>people at the concession counter knew her order the second they saw her

Umm guys.. Who's gonna tell him?

>> No.15054670

>>15052673
>other people have problems so yours are irrelephant
stop with the feel shaming anon

>> No.15054696

>favorite place hired a cute girl
>can no longer go there
WHY DID THEY DO THIS TO ME

>> No.15054725

>>15052626
This

>> No.15054840

>>15053626
unironically this

>> No.15054858

>>15052764
based