/ck/ - Food & Cooking

>>5731507
Furthermore, this little bastard is 135 lbs and 6'1''. Not a goddamn ounce of fat on him. As his girlfriend this drives me fucking nuts. That's not healthy. Either you have a tape worm or you're not eating right. So I try to make stuff that is healthier and has more calories, like linguine with vegetables and put spinach and onion into the mac and cheese but then he fucking complains. Only success I've had is getting him to eat an entire cheesecake every week. While this is failing for him, now I'm gaining weight! I spend all of my free time cooking his specified food, I don't have time to cook anything else! That and I'm taking 19 credit hours of classes this semester. I have told him all of this and he doesn't do anything! He says stuff like, "Why don't you teach me to cook?" "You don't have to take care of me!" Bitch. I've tried to teach you to cook and you act like a spoiled brat while I do. I already have to make food for myself and if you don't like it you bitch at me for it. I'm really at the end of my rope, guys. How do I get him to fucking eat?

tl;dr- my cunt of a boyfriend won't eat healthier, I'm gaining weight trying to get him to gain weight, how the fuck do i fix this?

dump him

this is a 100% money back guarantee that will fix every single one of those problems

Well you don't seem to like him very much, if that's the case then leave him.

Or you can choose to accept him, as he chose to accept you even though you are a control freak.

People have different preferences on things, weird I know.

>>5731518
Ohhh boy I have thought about it.
This and his playing too much video games are pretty much my only big problems with him though. Other than that, we get along fine.

Also, I signed another 1 year lease with him.

>>5731540
Staying with someone because of an apartment lease is ridiculous. You stay faithful to someone because of a piece of real estate? Fuck that shit makes me mad. Out of convenience you're together, not for any real reasons. You're talking about him like he's a car "the breaks kind of screech a bit, but other than that it's a good car!"

>>5731537
I understand preferences. It's his refusing to learn to cook and share the burden of cooking and refusing to eat anything else other than what's on that list that is my problem. It eats up what little time I have and I'm eating all this higher calorie food because I don't have time to cook anything else. That's the problem.

You're not being persuasive enough. Positive reinforcement is the only way to get a manchild to respond.

>>5731511
If you harbor resentment or anger at him you're willing to project to people you don't know online my first suggestion is to go to go to your school's counseling center with him and try to work your communication issues out.

>>5731548
What happens when you simply stop making meals for him?
He's an adult, he won't let himself starve or anything

>>5731548
you don't have to cook for him you know. If you put him in a position where he has to cook for himself, then he will, he's not going to roll over and die. Just cook yourself food and tell him he's too picky. I doubt he'll make very healthy food but whatever.

>>5731540
>I signed another 1 year lease with him.
you dun fucked up gurl

Try talking to him about how you really feel about this issue; if he doesn't want to compromise and you want to keep your own eating habits then your relationship probably won't have much of a future. Food is a daily part of your lives and the resentment will gnaw at you forever if something doesn't change.

Alternatively treat him like a child, cook your food however you want and he can eat it or leave it.

>>5731507
When you continue to make him food(that is ultimately affecting you in a negative manner) you're stuck in a attenuating feedback loop.

To change your circumstances, one side needs to react differently so you can create an amplifying feedback loop, which would lead to a change in the way that your relationship functions, and possibly less difficulty later in your relationship.

I suggest:

sublease to a guy who will enjoy the experience (!) and you get out

or

stfu - you no fun

Sorry guys I have to go to class, I'll be back in an hour.

>>5731507
>Also, every fucking thing features cheese. Besides his quesadillas,

what kind of shitty quessadillas are you making?

>skinny tall bastard

just grill up some greasy ass burgers and call it a day. you cant fuck up cooking meat patties

>>5731628
You don't know the difference between a comma and a period, do you?

>>5731650
you don't know how to read do you...?

he was quoting OP, that's how the section was typed out in the OP, and the commas and periods were use correctly

>>5731650
P.S. you're an ass

Stop cooking for the man child immediately. Do not feed this kind of twisted behaviour.

>>5731507
Stop babying him. He continues to act this way because you reinforce it. Sure you try to talk about it to him, but all he sees is that you are still cooking so why should he care? Tell him you want to be with a adult, and to man the fuck up cause you are not going to hold his hand any longer. Either he will make a effort and try, if not for you then his own sake or he will continue being a bitch. Either way he sounds like a man child. I would dump immediately.

>>5731511
If he's the one paying the bills then you're coming across as a whiny twat. It not as if you're married, not like it, leave.

>>5731560
>>5731561
this. You don't have to cook his food! Just cook for yourself. Fucking women trying to be martyrs

My boy friend was the same. Through making my own food and then ridiculing him when he refused it, the situation was fixed. Don't fight, just laugh.

>>5731683
Every woman thinks that it's her mission in life to change us guys, at the cost of their pussy.

>>5731507
Did you know how picky he was before moving in with him? Did you also set the expectation you would do the cooking and conform to his eating habits?

I have a wife who is somewhat picky about what she eats. I told her I would try to incorporate her eating habits to a degree. I also told her that she'll need to suck it up at times when I want to branch out. I did all off this before moving in with her. You can't be pissed at him if you set the wrong expectations.
If you didn't set any expectations about what you would cook, then tell him to eat a dick. You're cooking your way and he can take it or leave it.

>>5731507
>>5731845 here


Also try making a meal with multiple side dishes. I make one side I know my wife will like and another as test run.

>>5731547
Apartment lease isn't the only reason I'm staying dude. He's my best friend. I like him a lot. He's just frustrating a lot of the time now that we're living together.

>>5731560
>>5731561
Very true. I've thought about this before but I was to scared to not cook for him before because he looks like a hungry skeleton. Now I'm past caring about it, I'll try this out.

>>5731636
I'm a vegetarian. If he's going to eat meat, it better be deli meat or him cooking the meat. I'm not touchin that shit.

>>5731679
Everyone keeps telling me to dump him. It's been 4 years and I'm still waiting for him to grow up but I don't want to just give up on him, you know? I want to help him be a better person. I know that sounds stupid and I should dump his ass but I guess it's just a little hard for me to wrap my head around not having him around.

>>5731698
Well, if it worked for you, I'm definitely going to try it.

>>5731845
We moved in together my sophomore year of college to split the rent and utilities. We already spent all of our time together anyway. I knew he was super picky before that. His mom was a fucking wimp so she didn't make him do anything he didn't want to do. She even does his laundry. I had to teach him how to do his own laundry. It's a wonder he can wipe his own ass. Anyway, he knew I liked to cook and bake though and he knew I would do my best to make him happy with my cooking so he took advantage of it.

He's a fuckboy, break up with him.

>>5732079

You really don't sound happy OP. Do you think he is good for you generally?

>>5732118
I have trouble with the 'happy' thing. I don't know what this is supposed to feel like. Long story short, I grew up in an abusive house where my sister tried to literally kill me and beat me to shit on a regular basis and my parents did nothing but yell at each other about it. I don't really have much perspective to go on, do you know what I'm saying? Anything is better than that so I feel like anyone who puts up with my fucked up shit is the greatest.

>>5732079

Oh, it's just one of those relationships that's more out of habit than anything else.

Just break up, goddamn. Enjoy the single life eating and cooking whatever the fuck you want.

>>5732130
Also, I keep waiting for some sort of pay-off. We all had that moment in our lives where we picked ourselves up and manned the fuck up. I want to help him get to that. His parents sure as hell didn't help him grow as a person, so he's a bit underdeveloped so now I want to make up for that.

>>5732135
Dude, I ain't sunshine and goddamn rose if you couldn't tell. I have PTSD, depression, bouts of violence and crying, huge mood swings, and other things. He's patient with me and takes care of me when I have flashbacks or a bad day. Out in the real world, people aren't going to do that. He's a rare sort of person with endless patience and love for me. Not to say it like he's the only reason I function, I've functioned for years without him. He has stuck around though. I think that says something.

>>5732079
You have already given him four years. If he hasn't made a effort to change for you, even though he knows it upsets you, why do you think he will change now? He won't learn unless you take action. You are a adult and deserve someone who will respect you enough to actually care about what you say and make a effort for you. He obviously doesn't care enough. Dump him

>>5732136
You're pretty cool, thanks for giving that dude a chance.

But really, quit cooking for him, like other anons have said. He'll eventually learn to do it himself, just remember to enjoy it and laugh when he fills your kitchen with black smoke.

>>5732136
>His parents sure as hell didn't help him grow as a person, so he's a bit underdeveloped so now I want to make up for that.
The only way to do this is by leaving him. Moments of personal growth don't just come because you want them to. They come when you face adversity and challenges. Mr Picky Eater is not going to grow from Ms Damaged Goods feeding him Campbell's tomato soup and cheese crackers like he a fucking five year old.

When I first met my husband, he was just like your boyfriend. Malnourished, tall skinny manchild who ate nothing but Subway.
His father cleaned up after him and fed him trash food until he moved out, and then his sister did it for him. She even folded and put away his laundry.

When I came into the picture, I accommodated his pleb tastes until I realized we would be eating nothing but bread and cheese if he dictated the menu. I stopped asking him what he wanted, and began introducing him to foods. Once I made him a grilled cheese with real cheddar and he balked. He'd never tasted anything than Kraft singles.

What I did was I sat down with him and came up with a list of things he liked/didn't like/never tried. I kept working on the list and challenging his disliked. He went from 125 to 160 pounds. His skin cleared and he noticed he had more energy. Also, all our talking and experimenting with food was a bonding experience for us. He began to take an interest in the kitchen and how he could make food more to his taste. Now he begs for exotic mushrooms at the grocery, he asks for specific dishes and suggests sides, he even makes his own salsa.
This took years, however.

This is what you must ask decide:
It's a fuckload of work changing someone's eating habits. Is he worth it? Is he willing to change?

If he's worth it, and he's on board, then you two need to sit down with a notebook and seriously talk about food and nutrition.
What are your goals? What are his goals?
Brainstorm more menu items. Push his boundaries constantly. Ask him questions when you two eat, ask him what he likes about the flavor, the texture, the combinations of ingredients. What he would change about it. Ask him what he doesn't like about the things he's tried.
If you two tackle this like a project you can rehabilitate him. But he has to decide he wants to, and you have to be willing to do a lot of work for this.

>>5732157
>if your significant other is having trouble in life you should abandon them

Are you a woman?

>>5732156
>a chance.

"a" chance? 4 years is an eternity of chances. chance after chance after chance.

>>5732152
Dudes, all I'm saying is that dumping seems a bit dramatic. Both of us are barely adults and we both got some growing up to do.

>>5732166
>4 years is an eternity

Shut the fuck up, you have no idea what you're talking about.

>>5732158
You're husband sound more likely to take charge than my boyfriend, but maybe this will work. In comparison to what he used to be like, we've definitely expanded his tastes. The shit they make at his family's house is disgusting and at least now he knows the difference between good quality food and crap food. What I really need is competent help in the kitchen though, if I'm going to pull this off. How do I get him interested in cooking?

>>5732079
how's he gonna grow up if you keep babying him

cook what you want (most of the time anyway) and he can either eat it or not. you're not his fucking mom. i mean, you started out your post complaining how his mom raised him; don't reinforce it

>>5732184
Your*
btw, Thank you for the very thought of post, I appreciate it.

>>5732185
Yeah, I determined that I was going to do that early in the thread.

>>5732161
Nope. Just a dude who has been around the block enough times to know it's not worth sticking around in a relationship if things get fucked up. Life is too short to put yourself through that.

In the context of OP's situation you have two severely damaged individuals, and they're not happy together. Relationships are hard enough when one person is crazy, but it this case they're both. Look at the fucking menu she posted - that's absolutely nuts, and it's the sum total of what they eat. That is nowhere normal. That's what happens when the inmates run the asylum.

Damned right I think she should leave.

I'm not a picky eater, but I'm not a fan of goat cheese. good for him

>>5732200
That's one good thing I guess. He's picky but at least he's picky for good quality food, even though it's pretty much just different variations of starch and fat.

>>5732195
You guys are really quick to dump. What's up with that? Can I also say that my boyfriend and I generally get along about most things? It's not like you guys are getting a whole picture of my relationship and life here.

>>5732195
It could be best if the two nuts stay together and keep the rest of us out of it.

>>5731511
You honestly just sound misguided.

I'm 6'2" and 130 and I'm a very picky eater, too. Taste is a personal preference and I in particular think most vegetables are gross. That being said I make my own food if I don't like what is provided.

As long as he's getting proper nutrition you really don't need to worry about him being healthy.

Just tell him that you're tired of the same boring food and cook things just for yourself. He'll either learn to eat what you make or get food himself.

>>5732214
>You guys are really quick to dump. What's up with that?
Two words: you're young. Which means your chances of easily finding better than Mr Picky Pants and his control freak shit about your diet are pretty high. You have no reason to put up with this.

If you were middle aged, and in a decades long relationship that was just now hitting a rough patch I would not advise leaving. But that's not the case here.

If you left now you'd both be seeing other people in a matter of months. And like I said, your chances of finding better are pretty good.

>>5732167
I'm a femanon as well. And there is a major problem in your relationship. He doesn't care enough to change for you. Someone he has been with for years. To me that's a deal breaker. He doesn't listen to you, doesn't care enough to try to work on his problems with you, pretty much just stays the same and lets you baby him.

>>5731511
> I'm gaining weight trying to get him to gain weight
let me guess, you're "chubby" right? but totally not fat or obese, because that would shatter your fragile world view.

Is picky eaters the new shitposting trend on ck after they got tired of vegan spam? I've been seeing way too many picky eater threads popping up lately.

>>5732241
I weigh 129-133 lbs and I'm 5'4''. I typically weigh 125 lbs.

>>5732236
Does anyone here have experience in break ups of relationships that lasted 4+ years?

>>5732184

Get him to come with you into the kitchen when it's time to make a meal. Tell him flat out that you need help, stroke his ego and compliment him as he helps you by washing dishes, rinsing/chopping vegetables, even stirring the pot. You probably won't be able to get much useful help out of him at first but persist. My husband was afraid of making mistakes in the kitchen because of his inexperience, so he would often scoff or refuse to do something because he didn't know how. You'll need to reassure him that he's doing okay because he won't like to be humiliated.

To get his interest up, really I'd just talk to him a lot about food, maybe start watching Masterchef or something. Show him recipes and ask his opinion. Let him sample foods you are cooking and ask his advice. Open the spice pantry and let him sniff and taste spices. Ask if he can guess ingredients and spices within dishes you've already made.

Before embarking on this, you should have an in depth talk about cooking and foods. This is a serious undertaking! Good luck.

>>5732245
sure you do

>>5732273
Beta as fuck.

If your not happy with your partner, tell them you are going to leave them if they aren't willing to change - Don't be hanging about trying to change them. This applies to females and males

>>5732214
/ck/ hates it when people find someone.

You would have loved this place back when the first 20 post after yours would have been
>btw im a grill >:3
and
>Not your fucking blog princess cuntbucket

>>5732292
that's some low quality bait, bro
you ain't going to catch any fish with that

>>5732314
I'm glad that no one was giving me shit about being female. That's so fucking common on some boards, I think I got used to it. Sick of it.

>>5731507
Sucking his dick every time he eats a plate featuring veggies or even a new food.

I'm serious, I would start eating mayo if my gf would suck me off in return.

>>5732301
I don't think of it as changing him. I'm teaching him something. It's not as if his eating habits make up his entire self. He's still going to be the same dude after he gets over this picky eating thing.

>>5732988
It's funny that you say that, because he doesn't like blowjobs. He says he feels like he's using me or something and doesn't like it.

>>5733003
Come up with another incentive then. I used to never eat veg, and my mom straight up paid me every time I did. So of course I started eating better, and saved up to buy that sick Transformer, and learned broccoli wont make me vomit.

>>5733003

your boyfriend is a fagot.

>>5731507

Nice entitled manchild you got there, I hope you enjoy doing all the work in the relationship!

You're not going to change him unless he wants to change. You've been with him for 2 years, so why is this such a big issue now?

Just think: how would you feel if he called you an entitled fat bitch and demanded you lose weight? It doesn't feel nice to be commanded to do something.

Either accept his quirks, hope that he wants to be more open or leave him.

>>5731511
>t and I'm taking 19 credit hours of classes this semester. I have told him all of this and he doesn't do anything! He says stuff like, "Why don't you teach me to cook?" "You don't have to take care of me!" Bitch. I've tried to teach you to cook and you act like a spoiled brat while I do. I already have to make food for myself and if you don't like it you bitch at me for it. I'm really at the end of my rope, guys. How do I get him to fucking eat?
>tl;dr- my cunt of a boyfriend won't eat healthier, I'm gaining weight trying to get him to gain weight, how the fuck do i fix this?
>>5731507


he sounds like a little bitch but you are a total fucking cunt.

>>5733028
Being man-child isn't a 'quirk'..

>>5733041
grade A post bro wow

>>5733005
Dude, we already came up with a few workable plans earlier in the thread. I was just making conversation with you.

>>5733064
You sound like kind of a cunt. I hope your boyfriend is cheating on you behind your back with a cheese baroness.

>>5733083
cool story bro

>>5733041

Fuck you faggot, I'm taking 16 credits and work two jobs.

>>5733058
Think about it man, he might be a man child but this cunt wants to be his mom. On top of enabling all the bullshit that drives her crazy which is probably why she does this shit ( got to have something nag about) She's super pissed he's so thin.

So op is a hamplanet who wants to blame her skinny boyfriend because she cant put the fucking fork down and not eat a whole cheese cake.

So here's the deal op go find yourself a nice hamplanet boyfriend who is self loathing and shit will be great for you. You can binge and purge together.

>>5733114
wow please go to the emergency room before you die of such anal aggravation

>>5731540
>Also, I signed another 1 year lease with him.
lel, u goofed

>>5733106
>hurr muh meemz

How's that feminism treating you?

OP, I think you need to lose dat zero n find yoself a hero, gurl! GO RICKI! GO RICKI! GO RICKI!

>>5733129
too much truth for ya?

>>5733003
Holy shit, this guy is simply afraid of pleasure. No wonder he hooked up with an abused woman. You two should do fine as long as you secure a steady supply of Thorazine.

>>5732255
Yup. Girlfriend of 5 years. I was a lazy, entitled man-child who shied away from anything that required effort, including parts of the relationship. I drank my way through college to pull a 2.89 GPA and was working as a handyman for two years when I got out. Then she dumped me.

It's like I crammed 10 years of maturing into the six months that followed the breakup. In those six months, I moved out of my parents house, got a job that actually has growth potential, lost 25lbs by changing my diet (though I was never as bad as OP's boyfriend in that regard) and exercise regularly. Basically, >>5732157 is completely right, in my experience. It still hurts like hell when I think about what I lost, and I doubt I'll ever be has happy as I was then, but I'm a better person for it, so that's some consolation.

That said, if you're still willing to try to make it work, then do that. I doubt everyone comes out of this crap as well as I did.

>>5732233
What does a skeleton like you even look like?

/ck/ food and cooking and journal entries from girls who need attention

>>5733262
nigger what

>>5733114
she already said she was like 130 at 5'4 so probs not hamplanet

oh yeah im sure she enables all that aggravating shit so that she can nag at him. Also 130 and 6'2 or whatever he is isn't just "thin" its fucking Auschwitz mode.

You're probably just buttmad that other people are in a relationship, since you're projecting a shit ton

>>5732255
Oh yes I do, just came out of a five year relationship, started when I was 17. It was awesome, university was awesome together, we were a pretty great couple and had a lot of fun.

Then she got stressed. depressed, pushed everyone around her away, cheated on me, and is now stretching her ears out and being a gross hipster faggot.

I still wake up thinking we're together sometimes, and it ruins my mornings. Still wouldn't have done it differently though

i don't understand how you can resent someone so much for being a picky eater and playing too many video games, especially when they're your SO

get out of fix-him-up mode, girl, and then see how much you really want to be with him

The obvious decision is to dump your man child of a boyfriend.
"But boo hoo feelings"
Either that or just make whatever the fuck you want. If he doesn't eat it, the lil bitch can starve.

>>5735629
Well said, Anon.

>>5731507
>>5731511
You sound really overbearing. You're bf is a pathetic child from the sounds of it, but you are hung up on playing mother to people. I'm sure this is a common trend within all of your personal relationships. Here's what you should do since you are the one who has a problem with his weight:
>learn to cook meat you dumbshit. Your bf needs to eat protein so he's not a hungry skeleton anymore.
>Don't be his mommy
>quit eating his goddam cheese cake fatty!
>don't have kids with him or anyone.
Or you could just dump him, and allow him to enjoy life.

>>5732148
Jesus christ, how fucking triggered are you? Please, just leave the guy so at least he can have a happy life. You need help

>>5735571
>oh yeah im sure she enables all that aggravating shit so that she can nag at him

Given how irritable this bitch sounds, I totally would not be surprised.

>It's like you've never dated a crazy chick before

>>5731507
dump the spoiled manchild.

>>5735749

given everything she's told us about herself i imagine it's more a case of her trying to fix him because she feels like she can't fix herself. not all that uncommon, but more complex than just wanting a reason to nag. the nagging is a symptom.

>>5735761
Point taken. I do feel though that even if it started as just a symptom, it has grown to be something more. I believe that it is now cathartic for her to bitch and moan about someone other than herself, that she actually seeks out and creates these problems to keep her distracted from her own blinding faults.

>>5735779
Meant to add, that the original problem is now just a mere speck compared to the monolith of bitterness and self loathing that she has built up around it.

Mentally ill/10

>>5732292
how many girls have you fucked this year m8

It sounds like you both need to grow up.

Tell him he isn't five years old and he'll eat what's in front of him. If he wants something else, he can make it, end of story.

>>5735784
>>5735779
>>5735761

The astute armchair psychology in this thread is awesome

>>5735784
Master's Psych here, that's not a mental illness, at worst it's her displacing her self-dissatisfaction on her boyfriend, who sounds like he acts as a stress ball that she "improves" instead of squeezes.

Not terribly abnormal, could be solved with a few sessions of therapy tops.

OP, if you're still here, communicate with your boyfriend. Explain your feelings towards his stagnation as a person, and that you want him and yourself to both grow and flourish while in a relationship. Make a real effort and for the love of god communicate, you niggers aren't mind readers.

>>5736066
Sigmund pls. she is showing obvious signs of narcisism, sociopathy and grandiose. are psycopaths not mentally ill?

>>5736094
>savior complex=psycopathy

This is some first year undergrad stuff you're arguing. One of the most important things to take into consideration is the magnitude of the abnormal traits. In her case, none of her abnormalities are that severe, just a mild dependence in a habitual relationship and some pretty big dreams to change the guy. Fixer upper dreams are pretty common, there's nothing going on here that raises any red flags.

>>5736119
>implying we are even scratching the surface on this one
Psychopaths hide their traits pretty well. The little bit of crazy she did let slip today is a pretty decent gauge to read how nuts she really is. Being anon allows the guard to slip down a bit.
Absolutely Haram indeed

>>5731511
Just stop giving a fuck about what he eats. Cook for yourself and let him fend for himself.

If he is that skinny I bet he doesn't even eat that much anyway.

>>5731660
>>5731664
you're an idiot. lrn2english.

>>5732079
>trying to make a guy better because you don't want to dump him and bloo bloo he can get better
I've been in the same relationship. Fucking dump him. Trust me, it's not worth it

>>5731507
Throw a metal tin of Oats at his head and walk out.

OP here

What the fuck? You guys are really blowing this way out of proportion.. I appreciate the advice, but we already figured it out pretty early in the thread.

>>5737828
>You guys are really blowing this way out of proportion.
You decided to blog about your shitty diet and batshit crazy relationship here. Now you have to wait until every fucking one of us tells you to dump his ass. Enjoy.

>>5737847
Maybe you should take a nap or something.

>>5737828
I think you guys should stay together and delve into the world of vegetable insertions.
Once you've thoroughly cemented the idea that vegetables are sex toys, you've already won half the battle.
The next stage is simple; making him eat those vegetables.
Now unless your vagina is a bacterial incubation chamber you should be pretty safe.
Start by suggesting licking the fruit/vegetable, preferably doing it yourself to enforce the point that it won't do him any harm.
Eventually, he'll come to associate the taste of vegetables with going down on you.
Theoretically, the next jump is to then slowly wean him off using vegetables as sex toys.
I'd suggest meter long anal beads, but that's just me.
Good luck, OP.

>>5737903
>I'd suggest meter long anal beads
Seconded

/ck/ - Advice

op your so fucked up its not even funny your pretty much bitching that your boy friend is skinnier than you