/ck/ - Food & Cooking

>>10713556
It's a bit rapey tbqh

If she's a nice girl she'll appreciate it. And that means you should appreciate her.
Best of luck, buddy.

>>10713556
if you are a single male that has a home that is clean enough to invite a girl over.... you will probably be happier with her brother.

Why do you want a gf? Stop pursing sex and validation

>>10713561
>first date
>goes for a ""home cooked meal""
>nice girl

she a ho

>>10713556
would mention you cook on the first date and gauge her reaction for suitability

>>10713564
i think you should see a doctor. your balls should have dropped by now.

>>10713572
Maybe there are girls on both ends of the spectrum who go for the homecooked meal. The ones I've had at my place were nice girls but I can see what you mean.

>>10713578
no sex drive is a blessing tho

>>10713556
On a first date? Confirmed roastie.

>>10713558
>It's a bit rapey tbqh
This. It's too soon. People need a little time to know if a person is crazy. Given enough hours with someone and effective conversation, you start to pick up on the clues that a person doesn't respect key boundaries, has unusual or extreme feelings about topics, or touches of disrespect or anti-social tendencies towards others. Treat a new prospective partner as if you are interviewing them for a job of being worthy to trust for the long term. It can be subtle and slowly learned about a person, truth be told. A really disturbed higher thinking sociopath is more gifted at hiding the signs of instability or scariness. In fact, most of the prolific serial killers were considered charismatic, handsome and quite likable by the casual acquaintances they met or were neighbors with, but coworkers, exes and family members had figured out their shit.

Getting too close to someone too soon, is actually a sign of your own poor social adjustedness as well. Don't try on amoral behaviors like a hat, because it displays whatever insecure chip on your shoulder you don't want others to see about you. If you have great self esteem and respect for others, you wouldn't be the type to try to sleep with randoms on first dates, eww, like that. Your behabvior tells people about your personality in a big way. Take it respectfully. Slow down, don't waste your time on someone who might not be good material to have an oops baby with, and don't insist anyone come over until they are ready. If they want you really fast, they might be crazy too.

>>10713618
so you have been turned into a human drone?

>>10713636
following your basest instincts is dronemode

>>10713556
Restaurant food is disgusting.

>>10713556
>asking /ck/ anything about women
Lmao, you'd get better responses going to /r9k/ than asking this board full of incels

Depends. If you're >>10713564 and have cum stained stuffed animals, piss bottles and unfinished suicide notes strewn about the house then yeah

>>10713556
Generally first dates shouldn't end up inside either party's home at all. Second date all bets are off depending on how well the first one went.

>>10713640
>cum stained stuffed animals, piss bottles and unfinished suicide notes strewn about the house

patrician as fuck

>>10713637
>bee analogy
this is true. the no sex anon is just a worker.

>>10713657
>no sex anon is just a worker

so what are you, a non-virgin NEET master race? seems like a paradox

>>10713666
ok satan, school me on paradoxes.

>>10713556
If she's already someone you've known irl as a friend or coworker or something for a while and she knows you're not a creepy racist, it can work. If it's someone you don't already know well, it's a bad idea.

>>10713556
wtf that foods raw??

>>10713742
it's called sushi, gaijin

Anyone who says inviting a "date" to your home the first time is a good idea is a retard.

even having dinner on a first date is a bad idea
should meet for pizza in the afternoon, that way its a quick 15 minute interaction if it doesn't go well
minimal wasted time and money for everybody

>>10713742
>>>10713556 (OP)
>wtf that foods raw??
>>10713752
>it's called sushi, gaijin
It looks nothing like sushi. It looks like a table with the grill in the center, such as you get in a Korean restaurant, where you are served marinated RAW beef, to cook yourself with the given tongs, enjoying conversations and little
bits of condiments while you wait to eat what you last cooked, and set up and prep the next cooking steak, all the while drinking something and serving each other. It's kind of a food trend right now. Japanese teppanaki places, chinese hot pot soups, and even chains like Melting Pot have a social aspect to cooking food at the table in a bite by bite courses aspect.

>>10713786
i thought the point of restaurant was that someone cooks for you

do americans really go to restaurant and pay hundred bucks for a piece of raw meat that they actually have to cook by themselves and do they really tip after that

>>10713556
Yes, public settings are better for multiple reasons especially if it goes south

>>10713578
Or hes had sex in the past day or so

>>10713786
>even chains like Melting Pot
I work at a Melting Pot
I had never even heard of it before I got a job there, but it's pretty popular despite being overpriced and taking forever.
It's not a chain though, there are no corporate locations, all are franchises owned by independent investors.

>>10713558
>>10713633
That's a legit point if we're talking a first date with a chick you barely know. The decision to end up at your place after a date on more neutral ground ought to be hers. Starting off just steps from your bed is presumptuous at least, and creepy to some grills. But it's also very much a judgment call. If the grill has already made it pretty clear she's into you and the date is really just pretext for the impending hook up a meal at your place and a couple bottles of wine fit the situation perfectly. You just have to be able to read whether or not that is the case - plenty of guys fuck up by imposing their own wishful thinking on the situation.
>If you have great self esteem and respect for others, you wouldn't be the type to try to sleep with randoms on first dates, eww, like that. Your behabvior tells people about your personality in a big way
This makes absolutely no sense to me. I don't know what planet you're from, but I'm happy I don't live there. I'll agree than an inability to keep your cool when closing the deal makes you look desperate and pathetic, but passing on a hook up that just falls into your lap is stupid unless you're a fucking Mormon.

>>10713556
I don't think that it's weird but it could be uncomfortable for her. A restaurant is a more neutral location instead of being in someone elses home on a first date.

>>10713556
I'd assume u jizzed in muh food.

>>10713881
It could also be the Bill Cosby swish.

>>10713556
Just take her to your restaurant and cook for her there. I prefer the restaurant anyways since the kitchen is bigger.

>>10713914

helped open a small restaurant in seattle and the chef/owner was a bro and let me take a date there when they were closed.

it felt weird, like i wasn't really enjoying myself cause i was at work literally working (cooking food and cleaning up shit) while trying to enjoy myself with a date.

i obviously got a good blowjob but idk if it was really worth it.

>>10713946
>i obviously got a good blowjob but idk if it was really worth it.
A good blowjob is usually worth it.

>>10713802
>this uncultured

>>10713828
used to go to the one in philly every year w my french club

>>10713556
It depends on how well you already know each other. Girls need time to get to know a guy before going over his house alone, so they feel comfortable that he's not some sort of creep or criminally insane person.

If you've spent a significant amount of time together before deciding to date, then a home cooked might be fine. Do note though, that some girls might feel that you're trying to pressure them into sex by having it at your house, so make it clear that nothing is expected of her.

If it's a blind date then definitely have it in a public place.

>>10713556
>>10714290
Also to add to this, talking to them a lot online or having a single conversation at a bar doesn't count as spending a significant amount of time together.

>>10713556
It's not weird at all, and it makes for a good litmus test to weed out the women just looking for a free meal at an expensive restaurant.

>>10713563
Nice way of trying to justify being a slob.

>>10713854
Wait a second. Inviting someone over for a meal doesn't really imply you expect sex, does it? I may have implied the wrong things to a certain girl if that's the case.

>>10713556
if you're already friends or you know her pretty well or she's been to your place already for whatever reason, go for it. otherwise, listen to >>10713558

>>10714979
>Inviting someone over for a meal doesn't really imply you expect sex, does it?

to me it doesn't, but there are some people who make all kinds of wierdass assumptions.

>>10714992
nah, don't listen to the robot, being worried about how something may be perceived by a potential date, may get you somewhere in the short term but if you're looking for something serious be yourself out of the gate and damn the consequences

>>10713804
I can't hear over the sound of your stomach growling europoor, hurry and get some cabbage water to quiet that thing.

>>10713556
Based alpha

>>10715062
Not really

>>10715062
Look closely at the chick's profile image. Mr. """Alpha""" is about to get fucked up the butt by a horse sized strapon.

Second date is a possibility but not the first.

Just tell her that you want to cook her a meal, you have to give her the out though. I understand it may be too forward, if you're not comfortable we can go to a restaurant, I understand. I agree it would be better to wait until the second or third date though, because in her mind it implies sex.

>>10714979
It can. If it's just the two of you and there's been some flirting that's gone well an invitation accepted for dinner at your place could be her saying, "Yeah, persuade me this is a booty call".

>>10713563
>Not tidying up right before she gets there and shoving clutter in another room

Unless you are a hoarder or fucking that bad of an autistic NEET getting your place presentable with the chance of pussy isn't that difficult

>>10713556
i would feel uncomfortable going to a girls house for a home cooked meal for the first time, becuse ye she might be annoying, a disastrously bad cook, a psycho, therefore no it isnt really ideal i would say, unless u and this bitch really click or something

>>10713854
>The decision to end up at your place after a date on more neutral ground ought to be hers

Soifaggot confirmed for spread your femgarbage elsewhere

>>10713742
>>10713752
>>10713786
>>10713802
>>10713804

at this point i can't tell if im the only one on this board and every else poster is a CIA psyop bot desgined to gaslight me

>>10714290
Why would you not want to pressure her into having sex? If you want sex pressuring her to do it is proactive and women love confidence

>>10713640
Excuse me, but those are plushies.

>>10713556

>cuckold
>financial domination

are there literally any fetishes more beta than these two?

>>10716031
It should imoly sex though that's the point it's straightforward, why must women play fucking games about everything?

>>10713563
Because we all know girls love guys that live in filth caves

Prep a meal beforehand and a a small charcoal grill to the park. Put it in the passenger seat and make her sit in the back. Then just cook for her in a public setting.

>>10716113
That's fine, just be ready for no sex. And then it kills any possibility of future sex. Really depends if you give a fuck about the chick or are just looking for a hole.

>Invite a girl to dinner at your place.
>Set it up with all the fancy plates and silverware.
>Perhaps a nice glass of wine if it suits the meal.
>By the time everything is said and done you stop, help her out of her chair and offer to pay.
>In her confusion, simply smile to her and insist on paying, telling her that "It's my privilege."

>>10716134
>excuse yourself to restroom
>crawl out window and leave her to pay bill
>never return to your house again

Here you go /ck/, you can thank me later:

1st date: café for coffee, and casual lunch/dinner if things are going well
2nd date: some kind of activity during the day (not a fucking movie), followed by casual lunch if things are still going well
3rd date: dinner at a restaurant or cook at home followed by drinks and/or sex

And from there on you should decide to either be a couple or FWB

>>10713666

Not that guy, but incidentally I am a non-virgin NEET, and my current girlfriend lives with me in the apartment my parents bought me. I'm 29 and been NEET for about a year.

Living the dreammmmmmmmmm

>>10716154
The most dastardly plan!

>>10716154
Not quite the same thing but I was on a date with a guy once and we stopped at a supermarket to use the restroom and he ditched me there. I even asked them to do an announcement over the PA system to see if he was still there.

>>10716126
No I understand what you meant I was just wondering why the fuck women have to make such a natural thing difficult and complicated

>>10716187
Damn.
That's a real supermarket sweep.

>>10716187
Kek what a lad

>>10716192
Logic and women don't mix.

>>10713563
>implying I don't want to fuck both her and her brother

>>10716187
That's called the Kenny Powers.

For a first date? Absolutely. You keep the homecooking for 2nd or 3rd date so you can get her into bed with some red wine and steak.

>>10716187
>I even asked them to do an announcement over the PA system to see if he was still there.
lel rekt

>>10716187

Sorry, I don't come here very often, just curious, do women actually post here without harassment or are you a homosexual male

>>10713721
>and she doesn't know you're a creepy racist

ftfy

>>10713558
100% this. going out to eat first is so that you can meet in a public place, and then a few dates later you can invite her over. This is doubly important, since you dont know if she happens to be rapey either.

also, this allows you to watch how she treats the waitstaff. How she treats them is exactly how she'll be treating you in 6 months.

>>10716187
Was he a fucking maniac or maybe you are? I can't imagine ditching someone like that unless they were literally crazy and I had to sneak away.

>>10713556
You would invite a perfect stranger into your house? I mean, I would because I use Grindr, but your heterosexual courtship rituals are so much more sophisticated than that!

>>10716187
>I even asked them to do an announcement over the PA system to see if he was still there

Wanna know how I know he ditched you because you're clingy and insecure?

>>10716443
10/10 homoposting

>>10716443
He didn't even mention the hetero ritual dating dance.

>>10716407
They are common enough around here to pass by unnoticed unless they are obnoxious or someone randomly decides to start raging.

>>10716094
I'm CIA

>>10713556
>>10713558
I would say it's quirky not wierd, but the concern as mentioned is it comes off as rapey. It might be better to so something in a public place. Maybe invite her friends?

>>10713556
First date? Depends on the circumstance you met. If it's like a blind date or online, it's a little weird. If you know each other from class or a mutual friend, should be fine.

If you're gonna cook for her, don't go too lavish or tryhard, and don't play up that you're a really good cook or something, even if you are. This seems like I'm over analyzing, but don't cook something that'll make her self-conscious. Examples might include something spicy, overly rich/indulgent, or messy. Also, cook something that you can have ready and waiting in the oven or plate quickly, and don't make the meal the focus of the evening. Get to know her.

This seems like an /adv/ thread, but I hope this helps.

>>10717589
Also, you don't know the girl at all. What if she has allergies? I'd probably either discuss it first, or just go to a restaurant or to get a drink or coffee.

>>10716094
I think the guys who post shitty bait threads and only reply with "Huh?" are bots.

>>10716117
She's seen the state of my car, and can smell that I don't wash my hair often enough. She knows what she's getting into.

>>10717598
Fucking gross.

>>10717577
You are not supposed to invite extra friends on a date you autist

>>10713556
Korean barbecue is kinda overrated desu

>>10717593
Huh?

>>10717812
What the?

>>10717815
Say now?

>>10713556
Why is findom a thing...

>>10713556
Who the hell might think taking a photo of yourself with a giant strapon attached is a good idea?

>>10717817
nani?

>>10713556
Just be cool about it and ask her if she'd rather go to a restaurant or that you could cook her a nice dinner.

>finndom

unironically into findom here
I'm not into as much these days
but it's kind of sad how desperate some of these "dommes" are. most of them are on disability and want you to buy stuffed animals or makeup off of amazon so they can pick up some "alpha" blue collar meathead and live a miserable life

>>10713633
Take your pseudo-pseudo-pop-science horse shit and get the fuck out. Or post some studies for me to debunk because you're jumping through allot of hoops for your /pol/ position on dating.

>>10713558
Romance is dead lol

>>10715062
bretty much

>>10713556
>>10713558
If I think she's long term material, I might back off if she says no to the eat with me, but honestly, if she said yes to coming to my place to eat my food I'd do it and try to smash on the first date. I've actually refused girls after they said they wouldn't eat at my place because I couldn't be bothered to put in effort for several dates.

>>10718043
Yeah I'm with you dude, findom is sexy in theory but then you realize you're just paying for some vapid "dom" to sit on her fucking ass and not work

ARE YOU ATTRACTIVE ENOUGH TO PULL IT OFF?

>>10713640
Robot got rekt

>>10713556
For a first date yeah, if you know each other already it's fine

>>10716094
Yeah, well I think you are a bot >:(

>>10716407
/ck is a cooking board so we have quite a few of dem femanons

>>10716088
Incel detected

>>10716098
Begone thot

>>10713556
Depends, do you plan on killing her later?

>>10716213
Hey, if they’re both cute then why the fuck not?

>>10716088
why, what's your version, rape her right in the fucking restaurant you permavirgin retard?

>>10716187
You poor thing ;-;

I invited my fiance over to my place for indian tacos the first night I hung out with her. Today is our one year anniversary. Depends on the person, I guess.

My opinion? I think cooking at home on the first date is weird. Depends on your relationship with the chick, though. If you're super familiar with each other beforehand (like online, or as friends) or she's into your cooking knowledge it could be totally natural, but in general you want simple, low pressure first dates in public. Inviting a girl over as a first date could sound either "i love you be my girlfriend forever" creepy or "hey babe netflix and chill" trashy.

A lot of women are uncomfortable with dinner in general for a "get to know you" first date. It can be seen as too much of an overture for someone you've just met. That's why basic dates like coffee, brunch, drinks are so common. But that doesn't mean your first date has to be boring. Have something interesting to do before or after the food.

If you're a really good cook and can do a better job than a restaurant, invite her around for that then offer to go out after

>>10717592
>Want to come over for dinner?
>Sure why not , lol ;p
>Is there anything in particular you don't like or can't eat?
>I don't like fish, onions, tomatoes, red meat, pork, poultry, lemons and I'm allergic to gluten, lol, lmao ;))
>Cool, I think I know something you'll enjoy
And then proceed to cook carrot sticks with ranch dressing

That's not so hard, is it?

>>10716407
No, just trannies

>>10718315
>femanons
femanons(male) - fixed it for you

>>10718399
Cool story, reddit

>>10718274
>sexy in theory
it's not that either