/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

>>10305016
It's okay to buy something that makes you happy if you have the money for it.
The use can just being "making you happy by looking at it" instead of wearing it.
If you don't like the dress anymore then obviously don't buy it, but if your issue is that you worry you wouldn't wear it, I say go for it.

presenting feminine doesn't mean you are a woman.
Asking someone what they're pronouns are should be standard. Someone's gender identity is not something to assume.

I just really love lolita. My dedication towards the fashion and subculture is affecting my life in a positive way. I used to struggle performing even basic hygiene because of depression. Now I tell myself that beautiful clothes need someone worthy enough to wear them, and that includes things like regularly taking care of my skin, hair, nails, and teeth.

Lolita has encouraged me to quit smoking. Not because it's "unladylike" or whatever, but because I've found something that I live for and I want to be around to see it grow for as long as possible. I quit smoking so I have a chance at seeing influxes of new lolitas reviving the fashion and bringing the excitement in the future. I quit so that when I'm old and gray, I can happily pass on pieces that I've grown out of, from my hands to the hands of an excited beginner. I want to live to see my clothes make other people happy, too.

Wearing lolita has taught me what it means to be my own woman. The independence and confidence that I've grown as a direct result of wearing lolita is invigorating. I'm young now, but I hope that I have the opportunity to mentor and spread the joy I've found. I hope more people feel this way.

>>10132830
Reactions like >>10132846 are mostly just the incels who larp here because it’s the closest they can get to touching a girl, and maybe some jealous women. Do what makes you happy, if it isn’t hurting anyone. That’s what lolita’s about, right?

>>9961052
I believe it is the best way to live life. "If it makes you happy, do it." People spend their whole lives trying to live to society's standards, and they can still end up divorced, resented, or jobless.

Some might say, "What about attracting a man? Don't you want to have children?" I can only smile while saying nothing because they would have no way of knowing I am unable to have my own biological children. How can life be harder regarding something that wasn't possible in the first place?

With employment in mind, it is clothing, and it does come off. I would not wear it to a funeral nor would I wear it to a workplace that does not allow me to do so. I can change back into what I love when I get home.

So, it does not make my life harder. Happiness cannot make somebody's life harder. I do not expect everyone to understand my choices. I do genuinely wish the world was a place that everyone felt comfortable expressing themselves whether that be wearing 'silly clothing' or investing in one's dream home gym. It doesn't hurt anyone, and it's a shame to deny oneself happiness.

>>9829044
listen, Lillith Gray wears gothic and has the most youthful, cherubic face I've ever seen.
stop unnecessarily limiting yourself. if you're not doing what you like and dressing for yourself than your involvement in the hobby isn't rooted in the right place. people can say w/e but you've gotta hold onto what you like once you find it. hopefully your insecurity will pass!!

>>9752470
Because being happy as myself, while wearing the clothes that make me happy is my fetish.
t. poster in tights and BtSSB skirt

>>9750933
I've been in the fashion for eight years now, and I go through phases like that. I always want to love lolita, but I've come to accept that I actually can't always love it. I guess one thing I'd say is that even if you quit, don't pull a Tia and sell all your clothes unless you need the money. Keep them as normiewear, step back from the social media, and after a while, you may find yourself craving it again. It has happened to me several times... Once I even quit for two years, but here I am, loving it again, and it feels great!
Also, it sounds like you have a lot of compassion for newer lolitas. Have you considered mentoring one? I have a mentee at the moment, and I'm vicariously enjoying her exploration and enthusiasm. Plus, I'm helping her improve and it feels great to see her get better!

>>9743876
If you like her and she seems like a good person, you might as well date her. From what you said it doesn't sound like anyone would know unless one of you says something about it anyway. Also, no, you're not bi. You clearly see her as a woman, so you liking her seems pretty lesbian.
>Also, caring about your "lesbian card" being revoked when the vast majority of lesbians have dated at least one cis man before

>>9735493
You should say something, anon! But perhaps something more direct.

>>9712517

I'm so tired of seeing people complaining about BtB/lolitasecrets's lack of content. If you want it to be more active, submit more secrets FFS!!

They still upload every week so you have no excuse. If you don't try to make it active, you have no right to whine about it being inactive.

>>9682801
DO IT

>captcha just made me complete 6, even though all were correct. whyyyy

lifestyle lolita feels

>tfw finally achieved my dream of wearing lolita every time i leave the house
>big collection of tasty teas and cute tea sets
>currently working on making doilies and tea pot covers in case i ever have company
>nearly done beautifying my home
>began knitting mittens for myself and other lolita friends to suit their style

a while ago i thought everything was ugly and sad, so now i'm forcing it to be beautiful. it's working.

>>9501018
people have called me an ageplayer for wearing toned-down sweet before, it just kind of happens and when it does there's not much you can do about it besides laugh. it's the new buzzword here and you should try to brush those things off. buy it if you like it, don't if you don't.

>>9290474
>>9290479
Thanks for the encouragement! I'll really do it, as soon as I find a nice old school or goth piece on my price range.

I'm 24 years old so I'm a bit scared of starting in the fashion just now, sometimes it feels like I might be too old for it. I've noticed though that the majority of lolitas online are around that age range, so it comforts me to know that.

>>9261210
come to the frilly side!! why not?

Where I live there is no Lolita comm. I have tried sneaking Lolita into every-single-normie event I can, even daily, but given that the events are normie, I try to tone down the outfits.
When I'm home, I dress with my sweetest more OTT ideas, but I never really wear that in actual events. I'm not a con fan, and there are no tea parties close by.
Anybody has suggestions on what to do as lone-lolita?

>>9110112
Well, is it depression speaking? Is it your menses and hormones speaking?
No? Maybe you should look into drinking more water, changing some eating habits and encouraging better behaviors.
Anon, you still want to cosplay, you're just letting your body image get in the way of your happiness.

>>9094762
First of all, congratulations on losing that much weight! That's a lot of work and you should be proud of yourself Don't let insecurities stop you from having fun anon
>>9094802
Buy a mooncup. Seriously

>>9089325
Congrats anon! That salopette is absolutely lovely.
>>9089920
That's such an amazing haul. If it's causing you so much trouble maybe getting counselling for it will help.