/cgl/ feels thread

[Anonymous No.7549873]

Old thread on autosage.

Post all cosplay/lolita/jfash rants and feels here.

[Anonymous No.7549881]

>missed dream item just last week
>tfw literally missing another dream dress right in front of my eyes right now, PM'ed seller too late
>tfw scrolled past her fb comm post about it because she added it 30 minutes after posting her initial album, and when I checked it wasn't in the album.
>tfw anxiously waiting on her reply to my PM, but I'm 90% sure it's gone already

why.

[Anonymous No.7549893]

>didn't start cosplaying until I was 26
>thinking of all the characters I will never be able to do because they're too young for me now

[Anonymous No.7549902]

Reposting from old feels thread

>lone Lolita
>decide to change that
>go to first meet up
>too scared to go alone, so I went with my best friend
>everything went better then expected

>new meet up
>want to go, but I would have to go alone
>scared as fuck, don't know half the people attending the meet
>what do

It was easier with a friend, because I was more open, less awkward and kept the spaghettis in my pocket. But I did not really make a close contact to any of the Lolitas (we only saw each other for a few hours, and I am not the kind of person who is able to open up so fast), and now I am scared I would end up alone.
I am especially afraid since we will visit a nearby castle, and will take pictures. We will do a group photo, then we seperate to make our own pictures for about an hour. And I am so afraid I will end up alone or as a third wheel and awkwardly stand next to some strangers and will not even have my picture taken because we do not know eacht other and I would not dare to ask for pictures.

[Anonymous No.7549905]

>>7549881

Oh, that sucks, Anon, I am very sorry for you!
I wish you all the best for the second dream item, you might still be lucky and get it!

[Anonymous No.7549922]

>not a lolita
>have been lusting after lolita clothes since I was 14
>26
>just got an AP mini skirt off mbok to work into my wardrobe

[Anonymous No.7549926]

>>7549881
>>7549905
I GOT IT.
It was so cheap too. NWT for almost half the amount that it usually goes for.
The lolita gods are shining upon me today.
This is my first brand dress. I better start planning for ILD!

[Anonymous No.7549928]

>See dress I really like on lacemarket for pretty cheap
>Bid even though I can't afford it because I know someone will outbid me cause it's so cheap and popular
>It's been 4 days and nobody has outbid me
>I'm kinda okay with this

[Anonymous No.7549929]

>>7549928
also

>Been scouring all secondhand sites for anything delft lotta
>Take a 20 min nap
>Wake up and delft lotta skirt in blue was posted and sold for $40 during my nap
>god damnit

[Anonymous No.7549930]

>>7549881
>>7549905
I GOT IT.
Thanks so much for the luck anon, it worked!
It was so cheap too. NWT for almost half the amount that it usually goes for.
The lolita gods are shining upon me today.
This is my first brand dress. I better start planning for ILD!

oh boy I feel like I'm on a high right now. This is my first time "snatching" a dress and my first brand main piece.
All my other pieces were obtained from taobao so it wasn't as nerve-wrecking.

[Anonymous No.7549933]

>>7549893
I'm pretty much in the same boat. I'm 25 but with the right makeup can look 18-ish, so I'm scrambling to do all of the 14-18 year old characters on my list before I get too ancient. If you're not crazy uncomfortable with it, try playing with some makeup, and maybe you could squeak in some of those younger characters, too!

[Anonymous No.7549935]

>>7549929
Are you still looking for the arabesque dress?
Found one on egl-sales-comm but it was from a month ago, not sure if sold.
I'll drop the link in your tumblr message box.

[Anonymous No.7549936]

>Has pretty bad social anxiety
>Has been a hermit for the past year.
>ILD coming up and went last year.
>Really wanna go.
>Too nervous even though last year went better than expected.

Last year some seagulls took me under their wing because I was awkward and quiet, but now one of them's moved away and the other (the one who invited me to last year's summer ILD) is so popular in the comm that I barely got a chance to talk to her.

[Anonymous No.7549938]

>>7549930
Congrats, anon! What dress is it?

[Anonymous No.7549939]

I'll never own Holy Lantern OP.
But that's the least of my worries.
I just want someone to help me and motivate me with cosplay. Maybe I can even call them a friend in the future.
But for now, my loneliness and depression is killing me

[Anonymous No.7549940]

I'm very talkative and I tend to mindlessy chat about nothing for hours, I feel like some people in my comm think I'm stupid. Like, they will not talk to me or they would look at me with that awfull pity look, you know, that one any 'adult' would give you as child, like 'I forgive you, you're just a child". Fact is I'm 140~IQ, I just contain my anxiety by chatting and I try to make the easiest contact by talking about basically everything, the lowest common denominator. It makes me cringe that people diss me as childlish, wouldn't talk to me about certain things and mock me just because I try to be friendly and fail.

[Anonymous No.7549941]

>>7549935
I want it so badly, but since I'm probably gonna end up buying the lacemarket dress + the dress I'm paying for on payment plan I wouldn't be able to afford it. Thanks though!

>>7549939
Where are you located anon? On the off chance you're in Toronto I'd be your cosplay friend, I love having sewing parties with people

[Anonymous No.7549944]

I think I worked myself in a nasty spot now. I'm 16, and will be starting my study after summer holiday. And I realized I barely have ANYTHING to wear. I always wear full-out lolita to school now, as our entire school is crazy (lots of weird art projects like metalworking, kids with meme or fandom shirts, all of our walls are red, yellow and purple) and barely anyone says something about it. But I have like two non-lolita dresses. And that's it. And I don't think I dare to wear my usual clothes to a college, not when it's a HUGE one. I went to the info day thing in sweet lolita, god I've never felt so awkward. Girls with blonde hair and uggs giving me death stares continiously. Eep.

[Anonymous No.7549945]

>>7549930

Oh my God, Anon, congratulations!!
I am so happy you got not only a dress you really wanted but your first brand dress too, and had such luck with obtaining it! I hope you will have fun wearing it! What dress was it?

[Anonymous No.7549946]

>>7549940
>140 IQ
Yeah okay.

[Anonymous No.7549947]

>>7549944
4chan is 18+, you should probably delete your post before you get banned

[Anonymous No.7549949]

>>7549941
Fuuuuuuucccckkkkk. NOOOOOOOOOOOO
I'M IN MONTREAL.
That's just a huge kick in the face.

[Anonymous No.7549951]

>>7549938
>>7549945
IW Patisserie de Paris high waist JSK in beige!
It's not my preferred cut or colour (i like the just waist in green the most) but I got it for only 85 usd shipped.
SO STOKED.

>>7549941
Ah okay, I'll keep an eye out for your other dresses just in case!
Diff anon but, c-can I be your cosplaying friend too? I'm not very good at sewing though and nowhere as good as you.

[Anonymous No.7549952]

>>7549946
In fact 138 according to my doctors, but honestly I don't really know what it means. I'm just socially awkward and I'm a quick learner.

[Anonymous No.7549953]

>>7549952
> socially awkward
> high IQ

ah yes it's an asperger

[Anonymous No.7549954]

>meet qt lolita girl at uni
>we start talking and we have almost everything in common
>text each other constantly because our schedules don't match up
>she wants to hang out with me at the local con coming soon
>mfw worrying if I'll screw up somehow or someway

I guess I'm just too self conscious sometimes, I just want someone to cosplay with.

W-what do I say to a Lolita?

[Anonymous No.7549955]

>>7549949
I'M SORRY ANON FRIEND WE CAN HANG OUT AT OTAKUTHON THOUGH DON'T BE SAD

>>7549951
Yes let's be cosplay friends!! I'm pretty shit at sewing so it's all good.

[Anonymous No.7549956]

>>7549952
IQ's are generally bullshit, and something people quickly throw out to "prove" how smart they are.

Not gonna lie, I don't know what IQ is really supposed to indicate either, just that it's not THAT great of an indicator of intelligence. (For the record, I'm below average, around 90-something, and I regularly out-smart a friend of mine that boasts being 150+)

[Anonymous No.7549958]

>>7549953
It's not, apparently. I made this IQ test because I was already thinking about it, I've no autismal disfunction detected. I'm just awkward, and even if I try hard I can't be 'normal'.
Sometimes I think about saying I have some sort of asperger or dyslexia/ligh psychosis so everyone would stop being so harsh to me, but I don't want to be dishonest so I just suck it up.

[Anonymous No.7549959]

>>7549954
When you first encounter her, start off with commenting on her dress and how well it suits her. Afterwords, just make small talk about things you notice at the con.

[Anonymous No.7549962]

>>7549956
In fact you have two or three sort of 'IQ'. One is logical (maths etc), one is social qnd the other I can't remember. Docs explained it to me when taking the test. It's way more complex than internet IQ test and they have to do some heavy calculus afterward to find the final IQ number.

[Anonymous No.7549965]

>>7549958
I'm similar; a friend thinks I have schitzotypal disorder, though. She said it's because I try to get along with people, and while sometimes I do, I stick out like a sore thumb no matter what.

Also, I'm a nervous wreck around new people.

Still, I can't recall what she said that made her think I was a schitzotypal, but I'm inclined to agree. (Though I usually avoid outright saying I have it. Also, said friend is an aspie that has a fascination with mental disorders. Odd, right?)

[Anonymous No.7549968]

>>7549958
don't worry anon I was just joking a bit, tho it feels like a lot of doctors and the alike think that if a kid is somewhat smart and also happens to be socially awkward, it must be autism.
And trust me you don't want the autism label it sucks people start only seeing you as a person with it and treat you like that too.

[Anonymous No.7549969]

>>7549954

Oh god Anon, exact same situation here, exepct I am on the other side...

>girl from a Lolita forum contacts me
>we go to the same Uni, she recognized my outfits
>we start talking
>met twice, chat on fb
>chance to meet her at a local con coming soon
>mfw worrying if I'll screw up somehow or someway

I-i just want a qt3.14 Lolita friend to chat with and to go to meet ups...

So, all I can say is: She is just a regular human being, and probably as worried as you are. Just be yourself, if things went well and you have so much in common, I am sure you will have a lot of fun at the con with her, and become friends!

[Anonymous No.7549973]

>>7549955
It's okay! I'm just glad you offered !
I hope to see you at Otakuthon.. Do you have a way I can contact you ?

[Anonymous No.7549974]

>>7549962
They also don't usually use hard numbers for IQs, typically prefer to put people in a range. Standard Deviations is the term I usually hear in more serious IQ discussions, which is also a term used in statistical analysis.

[Anonymous No.7549975]

>>7549973
Yeah, add me up on skype, believeintheheartofthecards so we can make awkward conversation with each other!

[Anonymous No.7549977]

>>7549956
That's because there are different type of intelligence, anon.
There exists great documentary proving that IQ is scam; some scientist in the US even founded a sperm bank or something with only Nobel Prizes or PhD owner, and there was one in the 80's that proposed to massively test student, and those that wer under a certain score would be offered money to be castrated.
Also, IQ was partly responsible of the lack of real education program for all children in the US for years.

[Anonymous No.7549979]

>>7549975
I added you!

[Anonymous No.7549980]

>>7549965
I can totally understand her. I'm currently taking several test both on my mental and physical health because I have so much going wrong yet no doctors see anything. Well they see it, but can't diagnosize it so it's pretty much worthless. And as your friend I'm pretty fascinated by mental disorder and their complexity, though I would never ever take the risk of self-diagnosize or worse, doing it for a friend. That can really be counterproductive.

Do you have agoraphobia ? Because I also have that to an extreme degree (I need to plan how much time I'm going out and I can't wait for someone if I have no clue of their arrival time, I suffocate, cry and ultimatly have spasms and faint). Now that I also have ligh hallucination, I'm going to talk to my doctor about schitzotypal disorder because it would explain so much things, and I could actually have an hope of being normal one day.

I'm tired of being a wreck, and as I don't want people to pity I don't talk about it un-anon. It makes me so sad that some people don't bear me because of that, even though I make so many efforts. I just honestly want to have friends.

[Anonymous No.7549982]

>5'10"
>Large hourglass frame
>Constantly playing the game of "Will my dream dress ever fit? Let's lose 10 pounds."

I just want to be a petite qt3.14 you know

[Anonymous No.7549989]

>>7549980
>re: self diagnosis being dangerous
Which is why I don't outright say I have it; it hasn't been done by a professional that's licensed to diagnose my problems, so it's all just speculation at this point.

>re: other mental issues
I occasionally hallucinate, both auditory and visual, but I have no problem being in public or open places. (In fact, I usually trounce around like I own the place.) The problem I have is approaching people I don't have any business with; I can't just speak with somebody because they look like an interesting person, or have something relevant to my interests.

Now, the clerk behind the counter of the store, or the salesman asking me if I need help? I can answer them easily without my spaghetti falling out. Just don't expect me to strike up a conversation with somebody just because. (This is why I no longer visit bars, I would just sit there awkwardly as I nursed my beer.)

>re: wanting to get better
My awkwardness always bothered me, but I could never bring myself to get therapy or visit psychologists over it. I just kind of learned to get used to being alone.

Moreover, if I'm going to shell out money to get some of my ailments fixed, I'm going to worry about my heart-disease first. (I have high blood pressure.)

[Anonymous No.7550005]

>>7549989
In my country we have free healthcare, so I don't have to worry about money but I can totally understand.
I think visit a psychologist really worth a shot, just pin-pointoing what's wrong or just releasing some stress can be helpfull sometime.
Personally, as these things are really encroaching upon my life I'd rather have it monitored by a doctor. I though I could get over it, but it's only going worse and worse so...I don't really have the choice.

Sorry for all those life details gals.

[Anonymous No.7550009]

>>7550005
Sometimes physical ailments can cause mental ailments, and vice versa. My mother stated that she became a lot calmer after she was put on blood pressure medication.

So if you can get one problem under control, everything else should start falling into place.

Anyways, yeah, we've hijacked this thread long enough. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous No.7550011]

>>7549952
IQ has nothing to do with actual intelligence though.

You can have a fairly high IQ and still be a dumb bitch.

[Anonymous No.7550012]

>>7549952
People are making fun of you because of what a flawed metric IQ is for intelligence and how it is often used by speshul snowflakes since it doesn't really mean anything/can be easily made up.

[Anonymous No.7550014]

I'm currently feeling mindblown right now.

[Anonymous No.7550021]

>>7550014
I do not understand.

[Anonymous No.7550032]

>sees btssb scepter in stock
>order scepter, everything goes well
>afterwards realize email I put in is different from my PP
>afraid of BTSSB blacklisting me for using a different email from my PP

Am I screwed or will BTSSB understand that both email adresses belong to me if I explain? My name is the same though

[Anon's Sister No.7550036]

>start cosplay months ago
>thin and barely any hips
>fast foward
>suddenly huge hips and pudge
>mfw
I-I should have paid more attention to my weight. I didn't think much of my bra size going up despite my age. I thought having a job where I do nothing but sit all day would be great, but nope. It bothers me since the characters and outfits I chose for upcoming cons are all really skinny and what fit me in January is now too small. Of course my mom's all like "that's so cuuuute" or "now that's hot." But I've developed a seagull mentality of a sort and I can't help but judge what I do to the fullest.

After the con, and if I have enough money, I'm gonna get a membership to this overpriced gym that's right in my neighborhood for a month or 2. Wont be back to my old self for this con but I can get a 6 pack by July for the next.

I have an intense fear of being over 130lb and it not being from muscle.

[Anonymous No.7550039]

>>7550032

My email with btssb (the one I use to sign into their website) has always been different from my paypal. When I remember I tell them my paypal is different, but I've forgotten at least twice now.

I haven't been blacklisted at all, everything is going well.

[Anonymous No.7550041]

>>7548619
Someone?

[Anonymous No.7550043]

>tfw amazon

I can't fit into most asian clothes or even American skirts and dresses

It hurts to live

[Anonymous No.7550046]

I really, really want to wear wigs since it would make some of my outfits 100 times better.

but tbh I'm too much of a pussy to actually wear one in public. I have a closet full of amazing wigs and I really just wear them at home.

[Anonymous No.7550048]

>>7550046
Same here. I don't wanna be harassed or asked if I have cancer or something.

[Anonymous No.7550051]

>>7550043
I feel you anon, those cute taobao dresses were just never meant to be...

[Anon's Sister No.7550056]

>>7550043
I know. Not tall but a little busty (38C). So even when I order an XL of something I can't squeeze into it.

>>7550041
I think you're over thinking it. There's ways of wearing make up and still looking natural. Plus, lies are just what people appreciate. Singers have special equipment, models are like dolls, and actors act. Porn stars related.

I wouldn't think that deeply into it. If you have fun doing it, then do it. If it feels wrong, then maybe it's just not for you. If you want to do it but just have reservations, take care and treat yourself until you look like a perfect doll and wont need an abundance of make up. It'll be long, hard work. But in the end you could get away with light foundation and some mascara.

[Anonymous No.7550064]

>>7550039
thanks for letting me know :)

[Anonymous No.7550072]

>>7550046
What kind of wigs do you have? Most people don't even take notice. A lot of people who even know me sometimes mistakes them for real hair. Just say something about how it is populair in Japan and that it's instant great hair day or something

[Anonymous No.7550093]

>make large taobao order
>half of the things ordered are out of stock or have been refunded

Fuck dude. I just wanted blouses and some hair pieces.

[Anonymous No.7550094]

>>7550072

I have 3 long brown, pretty natural looking wigs, two of them are curly. I also have a few pastel wigs, I really love my curly mint one.

Meh, my friends keep telling me to just do it and act like I'm just really good at dying my hair or some shit, haha. I might do it when I'm feeling confident one day.

[Anonymous No.7550100]

>>7550093
TAOBAO WILL ALWAYS BE A STRUGGLE.

[Anonymous No.7550174]

>been cosplaying for 3 years
>finally turn 18
>look like 15/16-year old
>want to get laid at a con
>no guys hit on me because i look underage
;-;

[Anonymous No.7550183]

>>7550174
I have the opposite problem.

>20
>Looks twelve.
>Even gets asked if I can sit in emergency exit seats on planes still.
>Gets hit on by creepy old men at cons
>End up telling them I am underage to try to get them to go away
>mfw it doesn't

[Anonymous No.7550198]

>>7549952
You seem to have very poor grammar judging from your posts here, which is something someone with an IQ of 140 should have a decent grasp of.

[Anonymous No.7550199]

Reposting from the other thread:

Any of you seagulls that has focus or motivation problems on doing daily or regular tasks, be it studying, drawing, reading a book, doing exercise, sewing, and that WANTS to get over them, just send me something with the task(s) you want to work on (can be very specific or rather general), your country (state/city if you're USA, as to establish timezones), the hours where you'd be free to talk and work, and possibly the name of an IRC/chat service that would be adapted

This'll be sort of motivation reunions before you doing the task, with some kind of collective report after, and an organization nightmare done by an amateur for manchildren. I'll contact you back and set that up.

We still need some people to make it a real group! Sessions will start asap

[Anonymous No.7550212]

>browsing lolita comm
>girl posts an outfit in AP's musee du chocolat
>tons of compliments, newbie asks where dress is from
>"Oh, it's a replic by Oo Jia. It's so well made! The print is so nice and looks exactly as well made as the other AP dresses I own!! I want the original but i couldn't find it anywhere, so I bought the replica instead!!"
>"It looks so great!!!1", "Burando is so expensive lol XD", "I would never buy a $300 dress anyway!!"
>mfw
>mfw said newbies also constantly ask "Whats a replica??", "Where can i get a petticoat?!?!", "Guys I found this blose at a thrift shop so Loli desu ne?? :3" and ask if it is safe to order from Clobba, Bodyline or milanoo sock puppet

Fucking newfags everywhere, I hate it. Why don't people do a 5 minute research of the fashion before participating?? Also dat fucking replica excuse man. I don't fucking care if you wear replicas, but please stop defending them in such a retarded way.

[Anonymous No.7550218]

>>7549873
>Bad feels
>Nah
Exams are on the horizon and I can't wait to take them so I can start my cosplay and meet up with old friends at a con, it's just
>tfw shit skin
>tfw spots errywhere on my face

[Anonymous No.7550221]

>>7550198
Or maybe are they foreigners ? The internet isn't american only, dear.

[Anonymous No.7550246]

> 22 years old
> look like a 16 year old
> people go apeshit when I tell them my real age (OMG NO LIAR YOU CANT BE 22 !!1 )
> no curves or tits
> will probably never look hot in any costume ever

[Anonymous No.7550254]

>>7550246
But do you have a pretty face?

[Anon's Sister No.7550255]

>>7550212
Well then why don't you lend them a guiding hand?

>>7550246
Just turned 21 recently and people still card me for booze. I get mistaken for a high schooler often too. I'm glad. I want to savor my youth for as long as possible.

[Anonymous No.7550257]

>>7550246

>19 years old
>big boobs,narrow waist, big hips
>got called "Big mama" at school, multiple people told me how I already look like a typical italian mamma, my friends sometimes say "Oh, you feel just like a real mother!" when I hug them or they sit on my lap
>still get mistaken for my now 5 year old sister's mom since my sister was born
>will never feel hot or sexy despite tits because everyone associates me with a mother rather than a sexy young adult

What the hell am I doing wrong

[Anonymous No.7550267]

>>7550255
>Well then why don't you lend them a guiding hand?

I try, but they just won't listen. Seriously, there are a million links in our forum to basic info blogs, shopping guides, where to shop, where to shop on a budget, where to buy a petticoat... Everytime we have answer these questions, another newbie comes up one week later only to ask the exact same question that has been answered three times now.
It's just exhausting, and honestly, I am annoyed by the sheer number of people not even knowing the most basic stuff, and not even trying to look it up, even though it takes 5 minutes on google or even on the fucking forum to look for the answer.
I will be happy to guide and help new members, but there is a limit to my patience. The newbie girl I now mostly talk to at least know the basics, has a certain sense of fashion, tries to solve problems on her own as best as she can and is open for advice.

[Anonymous No.7550268]

>>7549953
138 is pretty normal.

[Anonymous No.7550271]

>>7550254
I think I kind of do, I just look very young. I rarely leave the house without make-up.

>>7550257
You're probably not doing anything wrong. It really sucks that people treat you like that, anon.

[Anonymous No.7550272]

>>7550268
top kek

[Anonymous No.7550279]

>>7550257
>Post body shot
All I really want is a qt motherly GF

[Anonymous No.7550285]

>>7550257
I kind of want to see what you look like now, anon.

[Anonymous No.7550287]

>>7550271
Well that's all that really matters, to me anyway. Cute face > everything else.


Now just get visible abs and a short haircut and you'll be my ideal girl.

[Anonymous No.7550288]

>there will never be a buff guy to do a joseph joestar cosplay justice

[Anonymous No.7550289]

>>7550255
I'm a hobbit, 24, look fourteen, no tits, no ass, not even cute, and am constantly lectured for going places by myself ("Where are your parents?!!!! Can you pay for that yourself? Do you even have any money?") and constantly patronized by condescending asswipes who use baby talk with me.
I legit wanna move to a hole in the ground and smoke weed, there seems to be no other way for me to live when I'm constantly shit on for looking young.

[Anonymous No.7550291]

>>7550287
I'm glad you think so, hahaha. I wish I could look badass though. Oh well.

Also - check, and check.

[Anonymous No.7550297]

>>7550289
Don't be depressed, anon.
I know a doctor who looked like she was 16 until she got her first-born. During her first years, she had trouble with people because they didn't really trust someone so young-looking. So she had to wear a lab-coat even if she was a GP at the countryside, to look older.

[Anonymous No.7550305]

>mfw i will never find a cute irl trap to crossplay ryo akizuki for me because they don't exist

[Anonymous No.7550308]

>>7550271
I know, but I just want to feel sexy ;_;
And being considered "motherly" doesn't sound very appealing to me.
It's gotten worse since I got into Lolita and cute clothes in general and dress in frills and lace and cute girly dresses; not only is Lolita a fashion not made to look sexy, but people try to rub it in your face too. "How will yo attract dem boys while wearing all these silly lacy dresses?!?!" and "You look like a granny!!" "You look so antiquated and prudish!"
I hardly care though, it's not like boys flew at me when I wore low necklines, so I stopped giving a fuck by now.

>>7550279
>>7550285
Well, here you go.

[Anonymous No.7550317]

>>7550308
Better bra (look at the bra general if you haven't already) and better fitting clothes would do wonders for you, 'cause I have to be honest, what you're wearing in that picture really does scream "mother of five kids" to me. I'm really hoping those are your "lazy day" clothes.

[Anonymous No.7550318]

>>7550308
Here I was expecting some kat dennings quality, I am disappointed, you're terribly average looking.

[Anonymous No.7550325]

>tfw bought dream dress
>tfw description said no visable flaws
>tfw there's a faded part in the fabric
>tfw

[Anonymous No.7550342]

>>7550317

It's what I wore to climb mountains during my vacation in Italy, those are surely not my best clothes (and I was wearing a bikini top underneath...). But it was the only full body shot besides my Lolita outfits on my laptop. I try to put a little more effort in my daily clothes, pic related.

>>7550318

So sorry to disappoint you Anon, really.

[Anonymous No.7550349]

>>7550308
What if I told you.. you look like a mama because of your clothes. I second getting new bras. Also don't wear your hair like that, especially without bangs.

[Anonymous No.7550355]

>>7550325
PP claim that shit

[Anonymous No.7550356]

>>7550308
>>7550342

I think you're a cutie tho.

[Anonymous No.7550359]

>>7550355
I sent them a email so i'm awaiting an answer.. I just feel so dissapointed

[Anonymous No.7550376]

>>7550349

Seconding you on my hair style choice. Guess I should lurk the bra thread now too.
Regarding the clothes, that is your opinion, and fair enough. Although I honestly don't get it. Maybe because all the real mothers I know wear practical clothes, meaning pants and t-shirts, usually have short hair, and would never wear such a childish dress.

>>7550356
Thanks! I think I am pretty average, but I want to try to learn now how at least to make the best out of it.

[Anonymous No.7550405]

>>7550291
pls be in NJ

[Anonymous No.7550412]

>tfw i am a lolita bully

[Anonymous No.7550428]

>>7550376
That top has too low of a neck. I have your neck + collarbones, and anything too lowcut makes it look like my boobs are too low. Also those shorts remind me of tourists, try shorter shorts instead. I think they'd look cuter on you!

[Anonymous No.7550438]

>>7550428
>Also those shorts remind me of tourists, try shorter shorts instead. I think they'd look cuter on you!

No way, Anon. My legs are chubby, and full of cellulite and stretch marks. I only wore shorts because I was hiking in Italy while it was 40+°C (also, these were the only shorts I had, and the only ones I did not get bad chub rub in). I usually try to avoid anything short, especially without tights.

I think it looks so bad because I was not wearing a proper bra. In my opinion, lower cut necks look better on me; anyting with a high necklinemakes my boob looks even bigger and more saggy, and my face even more round and matronly. It just does not suit my very well.

[Anonymous No.7550506]

>comm is gearing up to do a Taobao order
>mostly hoping I'll order cute gothloli blouses
>browse Taobao and find freaking nothing in the way of cool gothic blouses
>everything is sold out in black or darker color ways
>sigh and end up ordering some white blouse for shiro
>oh wait, that's a pre-sale item and it's waaaay more expensive, haha

Is it because it's summer or what? I was so excited since my wardrobe has been leaning more goth lately...

[Anonymous No.7550540]

>>7550405

Haha, sorry. I live in the Netherlands.

[Anonymous No.7550556]

>>7550506
I've always been disappointed in the selection of gothloli stuff on taobao tbh, but maybe I wasn't looking hard enough before and there used to be more

[Anonymous No.7550565]

>>7550438
Re shorts, look for ones with flared bottoms? I have the same issue as you, in fact i'd say my thighs are bigger, and short shorts look way better on me than the long kind you're wearing there but they need to have flared bottoms.

[Anonymous No.7550580]

>Know this cool cosplaying girl on Facebook.
>Added her because a friend of mine commented on her funny status about autistic bronies.
>Everything she says is based.
>Super pretty.
>That feel when I've never even met her.

I'll never be able to come up with an excuse to meet her off of facebook that isn't pathetic.

I don't have this weird creepy obsession with her or anything. But I did dream about cuddling with her once, and that's what made me really notice her. I wish I could talk to her once IRL so I could find out she's just like all of the other hyper weeaboo spergs that conhop and kill my dreams, and go back to being content with being lonely.

I'm crushing on you so hard, kitty-sempai. Please notice me.

[Anonymous No.7550583]

>>7550565
ETC shorts are good for this, in my experience. They're longer but look cute.

[Anon's Sister No.7550588]

>>7550580
>tfw lusting madly over cosplayer
>tfw it's a seagull
>mfw feeling like a total creep
How can I purge this wicked feeling? They seem like a nice person and I feel terrible for having such perverse thoughts about them.

[Anonymous No.7550591]

I'm sick of SJW content in the lolita world.

I feel like a bad feminist for saying this, but I can't help but feel like the all-girl world of lolita has become a harbour for feminazi activity. Not all white, straight guys are assholes, and not all gay trans PoC are angels. So many fucking lolitas seem to be ignorant SJW that don't understand that equality does NOT mean spreading hated.

[Anonymous No.7550600]

>>7550591
that fucking ita ass muslim girl who wears jeans under her skirt and nobody says anything because they are afraid of being racist

[Anonymous No.7550601]

>>7550591
SJW are literally a cult.

They take in young confused teenagers and give them some of that sympathy kool aid and they get hooked for life.

They take their insecurities about their sexuality and their skin color and they turn it against people they don't like, which the order of the day demands white straight men.

Feminism is the same thing but vagina inclusive.

Throw it in the garbage.

[Anonymous No.7550604]

>>7550588

Why don't you just admit your feelings? I'm assuming you know this person in real life. Not on facebook like myself.

[Anonymous No.7550605]

>using vacation time at my job is like ripping of finger nails
>usually use it all on conventions, and a week off to California to see my boyfriends family...because you know they live on the other side of the country and we never get to see them.
>Mothers day dinner with my parents
>Oh hay we want to do a big family vacation next year
>They want to go to North Carolina.
>there is nothing in North Carolina
>besides hot
>sand
>sun
>Salt water
>crocodiles
>Mosquitoes
>rednecks
>I like all of these things equally
OH THERE WILL BE INTERNET! they say.
So they want me to beg and plead to use a week of vacation time, to sit on a beach and do fucking nothing for a week?
Probably hide inside on my computer all week like I used to when I was a kid and they forced me to go? maybe go to a pool?
And I would have to cut out half of my usual conventions, or not do my usual California trip.
HAHAHHAHA no. fuck no.
I don't understand why people do beach vacations? We could go see the sights, see things we have never seen before, go to an amusement park, visit a foreign country....And you want to sit on a fucking beach and do nothing but get skin cancer and sand in your crotch?
What is the appeal anons I don't get it.

[Anonymous No.7550609]

>>7549893
i'm on the opposite side. I'm 24 and look 16.

[Anonymous No.7550612]

>>7550601
The moment I catered all of my desires towards my boyfriend my relationship improved immensely, and I'm happier than ever. Feminism is a lie.

[Anonymous No.7550613]

>tfw no gf

[Anonymous No.7550615]

>>7550605
I should mention I would have to pay for myself also...So I would have to spend money to do something I would never do willingly, and cut out the things I want to do? I wouldn't be so fucking mad if they were not so guilt trippy with there "ITS A FAMILY THING WE DO AS A FAMILY!" bull crap. I am not paying a small fortune to be miserable for a week.

[Anonymous No.7550618]

>>7550615
Stop being a little bitch and have fun with your family. Your dad might die of ass cancer a year from now, jesus. I bet you fuck niggers.

[Anonymous No.7550628]

>>7550618
no, anon fucks the Japanese. it is much, much worse.

[Anon's Sister No.7550632]

>>7550604
Not at all. Just saw some cosplay photos and my heart wont stop pounding every time I see them. Total creep and I feel so unclean. I highly doubt they're even single (if by some fluke I managed to talk to them to find out) and I'm not going to bother even getting their name.

[Anonymous No.7550634]

>>7550628

[Anonymous No.7550637]

>>7550601
I said SJW-brand feminism (i.e. radical feminazi beliefs) were fucking stupid. Normal, honest equality/feminism isn't garbage.

>>7550612
I want to say you're a dumb troll, but honestly if you're happy and not hurting anyone else then who am I to judge.

[Anonymous No.7550641]

>>7550637
No real talk. The moment I submitted to him I felt completely happy and fulfilled. We never fight anymore. :)

[Anonymous No.7550647]

a-anyone n-need a bf?

[Anonymous No.7550649]

>>7550647
You really don't want to date any of the "women" on here. They're some of the most disgusting, drama seeking people on all of 4chan.

[Anonymous No.7550651]

>>7550649
yeah but i live a drama free live so it would balance out

[Anonymous No.7550654]

>>7550641
>being completely submissive in a relationship with a man works for me
>it must be true for all other women
>stupid feminists why fight your destiny

[Anonymous No.7550657]

>>7550591
I'm feminist, loving Lolita fashion and not a feminazi at all. The real feminists hate the patriarchy not every fucking men. Real feminist want to make better men and women equal to them, not to kill or dominate men infact. It's hard to explain but if you see some stuff online you would get the idea.

[Anonymous No.7550659]

>>7550654

Anon you're just bitter because you're a feminist with a sandy cunt who hasn't completly devoted her life to her boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.7550660]

>>7550654
>she doesn't have a man to devote her life and love to.
>laughing_lolis.jpg

Look at this fatty and laugh.

[Anonymous No.7550661]

>>7550657
>It's hard to explain but if you see some stuff online you would get the idea.

Yeah, people who interact with the kinds of feminists you can find online are not going to come away with an impression that feminists don't hate men.

[Anonymous No.7550664]

>>7550659
Nah, I'm a feminist in a relationship where both my needs and my partners are respected equally. Pretty okay with my choices and can recognize that yours work for you and that that doesn't have to make you any less of a feminist; you just clearly don't know what actual feminism (aka not this 3rd wave, tumblr sjw bullshit) is.

Polite sage for feeding a troll.

[Anonymous No.7550668]

>>7550612
I would prefer to consider also my desires not only his if i were you. For me feminism isn't a lie, it has saved me from potentially abusive bullshit from men. So if you say feminism it's a lie, let's return like when the women hadn't the right to vote, they coudn't study or go to college and get better careers, not having access to abortion unless illegal and dangerous... That was liberating! Feminism has ruined lifes not liberating!! Well if feminism wasn't created, women would be like the ol'ages dominated totally by men and no rights at all.

[Anonymous No.7550669]

>>7550657
> The real feminists hate the patriarchy not every fucking men. Real feminist want to make better men and women equal to them, not to kill or dominate men infact. It's hard to explain but if you see some stuff online you would get the idea.

You realise trying to prove this to people is like trying to prove there are nice, normal people in the Westboro Baptist Church, right? It doesn't matter because the craziest, worst people are the ones in charge and the most vocal and in the public eye. Abandon ship, it's too late to reclaim the name.

[Anonymous No.7550671]

>>7550664
Well said anon!!

[Anonymous No.7550675]

>>7550664

I-i wasn't OP, I was trying to be ironic... S-sorry Anon, I thought the silly gif would make that clear.

[Anonymous No.7550677]

>>7550669
Me would never abadon the feminist ship, i only take some stuff for myself and my life. I don't do blogging or spit poison on tumblr, this stuff has only improved my life and make my eyes open about how is real life and being a woman in the 20th century. I know there are lots of them making only wreck and confusion but i just don't care.

[Anonymous No.7550682]

>>7550675
Whoops, sorry, my connection is shit and images aren't loading for me. I apologize for ruining your funny with my srs.

[Anonymous No.7550684]

>>7550668
Not the same anon, but it's debatable that women had more power than they do not in the pre-feminist days.

Before feminism, everything men did was specifically catered to the protection of women. Now women have to take care of themselves, and their families. Men aren't expected to treat us like ladies anymore, and some feel we aren't worth sticking their necks out for. Which is why rape and other crimes against women are more rampant than ever.

Maybe Hotdog anon has a point. Maybe you end up in abusive situations because you're a salty nagging cunt?

[Anonymous No.7550685]

>>7550682

Nah, don't worry, just wanted to clear that up. I agree with everything you said though!

[Anonymous No.7550687]

>>7550684

[Anonymous No.7550695]

>>7550687
BTFO
T
F
O

[Anonymous No.7550705]

>>7550684
No, i'm not a" salty nagging cunt" as you have said! There are lots of girls ending in abusive relationships and they aren't even into feminism or just angsty girls, most of them are just "ordinary" girls. I can say just every type of girl can end into a abusive relationship if she doesn't recognize the first red flags before the relationship starts. Well i don't need to be protected by a men nor i need a man to be fully woman, i prefer to stand out by myself and i don't care how you call me or if you say rape is increasing by liberation of women, it's only the SEXUAL liberation of the 70s with porn and the mainstream of sexualising the woman figure i.e. objectify these bodies, this is what cater men to rape more. In the past that wasn't non exisistent but well rape or abusive stuff occurring in relationship, it's just women were more afraid to talk and they would also consider "normal" to be mistreated by men. I can say, even the ones who can act gentlemanly and protective can mask an abusive mask, most of them do this to bait girls and not show their true colors to the start of the relationship. I'm sure there are still lots of true gentleman in the world who treat well ladies and not consider woman inferior.

[Anonymous No.7550720]

>>7550687
Damn, i have replied...but oh well i will leave this topic. Well it's cgl, it's normal you can't say a serious thing...

[Anonymous No.7550722]

>>7550705
y don u have a bf then?

[Anonymous No.7550724]

>>7550722
It's not of your business.

[Anonymous No.7550732]

>>7550198
In later posts, that anon seemed to imply she wasn't from the United States.

[Anonymous No.7550737]

>>7549939
i wan so badly 2 give u the d

[Anonymous No.7550780]

>>7550540
Come to America. It's nice here. We're only like, the 3rd fattest country in the world.

[Anonymous No.7550783]

>>7550580
Just hit her up and ask to hang out. I've done this multiple times with friends of friends.

[Anonymous No.7550870]

>>7549933
>>7550609
I look like I'm in my early twenties, but that's not going it any easier to cosplay a character who's supposed to be fourteen.

[Anon's Sister No.7550939]

>>7550870
>supposed to be fourteen
I think you should phrase that as characters who look 14. There's plenty of occasions where 12-15 year olds look like they're 20. If a guy them Cromartie High is perfect.

[Anonymous No.7550959]

>>7550737
Why?
Why would you do that?

[Anonymous No.7550981]

>>7550870
Nobody really cares if you're the same age as the character you're dressed as. Think of all the 14-year old girls that dress as 20-something bishonen characters. Same thing, but in reverse. Your age is actually a benefit, since you have more experience behind you. You probably also have more money than a kid trying to pull off the same costume.

Hell, I'd look really fucking awkward if I cosplayed characters my age (29). Most of them tend to be a lot sexier or more mature looking than I am. I tend to stick with late teenage girls/boys (17-20). Most people can tell I'm older than the character (which has more to do with how I behave, since I'm not a screaming retard), but no one has ever given me shit for it.

[ValleLator !nCGvC6eOuQ No.7550986]

>>7550870
EVERY CHARACTER IN ANIME IS 14
NO ONE WILL CARE.

[Anonymous No.7550990]

>Waited around too long on ordering
>Month till con
>Still need a petticoat and blouse

God damn it I hope this shit gets here on time. I am officially the biggest idiot.

[Anonymous No.7551025]

>>7550981
Really seconding this, anon. I was 14 when I did my first Sailor Mercury cosplay. I looked young, sure, but I was terrible at sewing, didn't know much about makeup or wigs, and didn't have a job so couldn't really afford nice materials. I'm finally remaking it at 23, and yeah, I'm going to look more mature, but I'm also going to look 1000x better thanks to the income and experience.

/cgl/ is the only place people might give you shit, and even then, it will be minimal if you do it right.

[Anonymous No.7551110]

>>7549982
i feel these feels, except I'm on that 6'2 flow.. take solace in the fact that there are some people even farther from the qt3.14 dream than thou anon

[Anonymous No.7551149]

>>7550246
I'm 21 and look like 14-16. I'm almost flat chested, have a tiny waist and am probably just under 5 feet tall.

I make the guess-my-age into some personal game. It will benefit you in the future though. While other people try to stay young looking with botox and shit, you only need a bit of make up.

I guess I got that younger looking than my age from my mother, she's 47 and people still think she's 10 years younger.

[Anonymous No.7551267]

>wake up this morning
>way too tired, decide to skip first class
>go back to sleep

>wake up later
>finally have my blouse for upcoming con in the mail
>try it on
>It is too small and looks horrible
>no alternative
>throw dress and blouse on the floor, almost cry out of anger and self hate
>get ready for class I have to attend
>dressed, hair made, make up apllied
>think about all the things I should have done for today but didn't do
>think about that blouse, feel fat and disgusting
>feel guilty and panic
>couldn't make it out of the door
>go back to room, write this

why

[Anonymous No.7551271]

>>7551149
> tfw 19 year old amazone

c-can we trade anon? People stopped thinking I was a minor many years ago..

[Anonymous No.7551276]

I worry that after finishing uni and working for a year has aged my face somehow. I never used to have eye bags and now I do which makes me look tired and older. I think my face looks more mature somehow as if it's structure has changed and I'm also slowly gaining weight. What the fuck happened.

Is this just what happens when you're 24? Fuck, maybe I just need a new haircut.

[Anonymous No.7551278]

>>7551271
Why do you want to be mistaken for a minor? It doesn't necessarily mean you're cute, because there are plenty of plain or ugly youthful looking people, and there are plenty of gorgeous mature looking people/people that look their age if that's what you're worrying about.

[Anonymous No.7551280]

>>7551278
True, and I meant it more in the sense that I wished I looked more like my age, tho it's not as bad now since people my age aren't that much shorter then my anymore

[Anonymous No.7551283]

>>7551149
tfw I'll never meet a flat chested tiny waste girl who is under 5 feet who isn't under like 18

Man now you're making me have the feels. Don't do this to me, I can't handle these feels.

If it's any constellation prize, me and I'm sure others would cherish your body type. No pedo tho.

[Anonymous No.7551285]

>>7551283
>Waste
Totes meant waist.

I guess this is what I get for trying to post a comment at 3:25 in the morning. I even forgot the image.

[Anonymous No.7551288]

>>7551283
>constellation prize

[Anonymous No.7551292]

>>7550056
Thank you. I'll try and focus on my skincare routine for now and keep the makeup for special occassions until I feel more confortable with it
I like the big transformation about it, that's why I always use a lot. But all the "fake" and "slut"-shaming lately got to me, I guess.

[Anonymous No.7551293]

>>7551288
I'm too tired for this shit, I'm going back to making pudding.

[Anonymous No.7551294]

>>7550267
I admin an Asian fashion fangroup, and we have to guide newbies who keep asking "Is there any local shops that only sells Asian fashion clothing??"
Man.... We just have a lot of documents, lists and a pinned post with most of the info in it.
We don't get those questions as frequently anymore

[Anonymous No.7551308]

> chubby, not fat, feeling almost ok with my body
> most AP fits me at absolut max or with little room left
> stupid honey cake jsk too small/ steching absolute max
> feel like a whale
> too stupid/lazy to lose weight

I hate myself, every diet I attemp only lasts 2 days. I'm a stress-eater and I have so many exams..

[Anonymous No.7551316]

>>7551308
Throw away all the unhealty food and make sure you have nuts or raising to eat when you want a snack.
Do 10 min excersise, like dancing around to good music.

[Anonymous No.7551320]

>finally begin to lose weight hoping to get into lolita
>medical issues spring up
>medication makes me blow up like a balloon

Oh well, it's not like I wanted to be cute for once anyways.

[Anonymous No.7551324]

>>7551320
Are you me

[Anonymous No.7551336]

>>7550014
Are these faggots cosplaying Selena Gomez and Justin Bieber?

[Anonymous No.7551340]

>>7551316
ilu anon

[Anonymous No.7551341]

>>7550218
if you can afford to go to a dermatologist then do so. it was the best decision for me. I was a pizza face but now I have just average skin from the prescriptions and creme I got.

[Anonymous No.7551343]

>>7551316
I actually do those Vocaloid or Animu dances, it's fun.
I probably do a 1-2 hours of them, I learned Renai Circulation and Romeo and Cinderella in a week.
(Not the chubby anon l)

[Anonymous No.7551346]

>>7551343
I dance myself and I think it's good to just start for 10 mins and then keep going if you feel like you have the stamina for it!
I usually do more ballet-esque moves so I don't do it for too long

[Anonymous No.7551355]

I just found out that the lolitas in my city have been having meetups without me. One of them was my best friend before she suddenly stopped speaking to me at Christmas. I have no idea what I've said or done to make them hate me.

I mean the "leader" of the group is a total lolcow, but I've never spoken about her because I wanted to avoid drama.

Guess I'll just be a lone lolita forever.

[Anonymous No.7551359]

>>7551355
lolcow leader probably talked shit about you

[Anonymous No.7551366]

>>7551359
I corrected her a couple of times on our facebook page when she said dumb shit, so probably.

To be honest though, I'd put up with her just to be friends with the rest of the girls, they seem really nice, and my ex-friend was lovely before randomly dumping me.

[Anonymous No.7551377]

>>7551366
Stalk their facebook and show up at meets uninvited

[Anonymous No.7551382]

>>7551377
That would be fucking hilarious. Almost tempted.

[Anonymous No.7551390]

>>7551382
You should, look fab too.

[Anonymous No.7551411]

>tfw you're a meanie pants

[Anonymous No.7551426]

I spend more money than I should trying to keep up with the girls in my comm and it's getting me down.

It's not too dangerous, yet; I'm in a low-income household and we do struggle regularly, so I try not to go out and spend when we need food to last two weeks til the next paycheck, or there's a bill that needs immediate attention.

I'm slipping, though. Since I've joined my local comm and added a lot of the girls on all the social media sites, all I see is their purchases. The hauls, the excitement over a reservation. I'd been dressing up on my own for about two years before I took the plunge, and in that space I had about... four dresses? And one skirt. But since joining the comm mid-last year, my wardrobe has expanded: I know own ten dresses (including my old ones), with an eleventh in the mail. It might seem like a paltry amount, but seven new dresses have all been brand - only one was purchased second hand. I have stretched out bill deadlines and juggled who gets paid when. It doesn't help that I have a boyfriend who, though he only makes a little bit of money, can afford to help me when my estimations are shit and I need money immediately to see us through the week.

It's shitty behaviour, and I am aware of it. I tell myself everyday when checking here or scrolling through my newsfeed, "You're not employed like they are, you do not have the disposable income they do, it's okay, just keep looking for work."

I've been long-time unemployed, though, and live in a really unfortunate area for it. I've been told that I'm too old for McDonald's (I'm twenty-five) and other fast-food chains, and just too old in general for the other work I've looked for. I never went to college because I couldn't afford it, so I have nothing that can make up for the lack of experience or the old age.

It wouldn't even be so... defeating, if it wasn't for the fact that I love hanging out with the girls in the comm.

[Anonymous No.7551428]

Doing that takes money, either for the event itself or because I am so conscious of the fact that I have to repeat outfits. I am not a big skirt wearer (I'm too top-heavy and it makes me feel frumpy), so all I have are dresses, and it's harder to hide their rotation.

I am worried, too, because I don't want to become one of those people who just spend what they want and have other people pick up the slack (which in this case would be my boyfriend, who doesn't have much for how hard he works). Add this to the fact that I'm a bigger girl makes me think that I should just step back from meetups and comm news until I can get work and lose some weight.

My friendships with the other girls aren't strong enough to survive a total lolita-blackout, though, if that makes sense - all they post about is lolita, and when we do something together, as apart of the comm or not, it's *in* lolita. I have had precious few friends left since finishing high school and I really enjoy the interaction. But I like dressing up, too, and it seems like I can't really have one without the other.

The whole situation is just... catching up with me, I guess. I needed to rant. If there's two things that you can't really talk to people with without it being a blind "it'll be okay!" it's money and weight issues.

[Anonymous No.7551431]

This ita, cgl. This ita is griding my gears. She's trying to sell this replica for over $110. She states it's in PERFECT condition. Until someone approaches her with HER OWN TESTIMONIAL which says, amongst other things:
>The dress is SHIT. I'm VERY disappointed with it. The print has run out entirely and it has stained my things and my purse. I would never buy a DOL replica ever again.

Yet she fucking wants 110 dollars for it and when someone politely asks her to low the value since it's such a damaged dress she answers "if you don't like its price, don't buy it".
What a greedy bastard. Don't try and fool people for money, asshole. Specially when you're a fool yourself.

[Anonymous No.7551436]

>wish I had more friends to cosplay with
>wish I had more friends period
Only way I can do this is do a meetup at meet.com and the closest anime get together is in Chantilly.

I make friends at cons but..they're only people I know at cons. I don't want an online friendship, I want someone I can call and say "HAY GRRRL YA DONE WITH YOUR HW? YOU DON'T WORK TODAY? Let's kararoke/GOCLUBBING/SIT IN YOUR BASEMENT IN OUR FUGLY YOGA PANTS AND MAKE SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL/OTHERINTERINTERESTS"

[Anonymous No.7551439]

>>7551431
Regardless of the quality, you can't force her to lower the price. It's her dress to value, so if you don't like it, don't buy it. You yourself called her an ita, why do you want it?

[Anonymous No.7551441]

>>7551436
I know this feel. I have no friends into the fashion online or offline, and I'm scared to join the local comm because it's full of thrift store/joann fabrics itas who spout weeaboo shit all the time. Not to mention there's only maybe 4 or 5 active ones. I wish I lived near a big city with well dressed girls who weren't such weebs. I even love anime and games, but I don't even want to let on that I do because they're so cringey.

[Anonymous No.7551444]

>tfw brand is too big for you
>tfw not even underweight, just 4'11" and a tiny frame

I guess it could be worse, I can always get it altered down, but it still sucks and I hate it.

[Anonymous No.7551447]

>>7551439
Are you blind, girl?
>wearing detachable sleeves as armcovers
>as if arm covers weren't ita enough
>obvious classic shoes worn with entire sweet coord
She's ita alright.
No one can force anyone to do anything. What I'm saying is that she's beeing an greedy bastard. I have a right to call her that, don't I? Since she's selling a damaged dress that's not worth half that price new.

[Anonymous No.7551453]

>>7551447
You can call her on it, and she is ita. I'm just saying that if she thinks someone will buy it for that amount she can list it for whatever she wants. It's shitty, but it's not like she's a business.

[Anonymous No.7551456]

>>7551444
Ah no I bet it looks adorable on you

[Anonymous No.7551460]

>>7551441
I don't dress lolita, but I don't care. I'm so desperate ill take an ita weeb. Or a weeb in general

[Anonymous No.7551461]

>>7551267
Anon it's okay, you're not alone.
Just make small, manageable goals for yourself and find someone to talk to if gets too much.

Don't feel guilty for things you didn't do, just focus on what you can get done.

[Anonymous No.7551463]

>>7551453
I feel so bad for the brazilian comm. Shipping to South America is so damn expensive, girls have such little information and yet these bitches still want to scalp newbies on a shitty dress. We should be helping each other but, instead, we're supporting this kind of behavior. I don't buy from thaat group anyway, I just feel fucking bad for brazilian newbies when this happens.
If you're her, or her friend, you seriously should consider lowering the price or talking her into it. It's bad for her to be known as a scalper. We're a small comm, you know...

[Anonymous No.7551466]

>>7551366 >>7551355
>my ex-friend was lovely before randomly dumping me.
Always make sure you get the full story first, have you tried contacting or hanging out with your friend in a while? Is she the kind that would accept any social event out of politeness?
Maybe she didn't contact you after not from you for a while or something, these things do happen.

[Anonymous No.7551467]

tfw going home from university tomorrow
tfw cant wear lolita or sew cosplay around parents because of crazy strictness
tfw I can't wait to be independent so I can further my useless hobbies

I'm dependent on parents for money for everything, so I can't disobey them etc. boo.

[Anonymous No.7551470]

>>7550540
Gull I think I know who you are.

[Anonymous No.7551487]

>>7551276
The same thing is happening to me, anon. Two years ago (when I was 20) I could easily pass for a 15-year-old but now that I'm 22 I suddenly look my age. I think it's mainly due to stress and just general 'maturing' that happens to all of us eventually. Some people get it when they're 16, others when they're 30.
On the one hand I'm saddened that I can no longer pass as a cute loli but on the other hand maybe people will take me more seriously now as I work on my career. Like that doctor another anon mentioned upthread, looking very young can make your professional life much harder.

That doesn't mean I'm going to stop my skincare routine or anything, though. I still want to look cute, just not chased-out-of-the-liquor-store-because-they-think-my-ID-is-faked cute.

[Anonymous No.7551493]

>>7551487
Aw, thank you for that, anon. Not the original anon but I appreciate my first signs of age a lot better now.

[Anonymous No.7551506]

>>7551487
>>7551276
My dear anons, same here.
I'm 23 but back when I hit 22, all of the fat on my face suddenly jumped downwards, transforming a babyface into jowls and wrinkles.

I think it was the stress of finishing uni, plus I've never had a decent skincare routine. Even the skincare threads on cgl seem so split that I never know if I'm doing t right or wrong.
Although they do say every woman comes to the time where she has to choose between her face or her ass, so I might just give up on this butterface and protect the real assets,

[Anonymous No.7551511]

>be lone lolita
>everything is fine
>decide to join comm
>comm only has like 3 meets a year
>went for every one of them
>no common topic other than lolita with any of the lolis there
>add them on facebook
>today i look through their photos
>they've been holding so many tiny little meetups all over the place
>not invited because i'm not close to them
>still lone lolita

[Anonymous No.7551512]

>>7551470
Wait I'm also dutch! Now I want to know too pfff

[Anonymous No.7551522]

>>7551470

Hello friend.

[Anonymous No.7551532]

>tfw you're going to receive negative feedback on EGL for backing out of a sale.
>tfw your reasons are genuine and you honestly cannot afford to buy a luxury garment because you just had to lend a family member a tonne of money
>tfw there were some communication issues with the seller beforehand, so now i'm pretty sure she thinks I just want to flake

I know it's just a mark and how no affect on real life, but i'm still feeling a bit upset by this. It's so fucking frustrating they she won't believe me.

[Anonymous No.7551534]

>>7551466
I've contacted her a couple of times since she ignored me at first and I'm still getting nothing from her.

I met her at a con recently and it was very awkward. She introduced me to her new bestie, and then when I suggested we have a proper catch up she kind of brushed me off and walked away.

We were going to take transport to the most recent comm meet together but she dropped out, I don't know why that was but it hurt a little that it was after me asking on the event page if anyone was getting the same train.

I feel like maybe I should ask her straight out if there's a problem between us, maybe I did something offensive by accident, who knows.

[Anonymous No.7551537]

>>7551511
I know your feel anon, I'll be your friend!

[Anonymous No.7551561]

>>7551534
>I feel like maybe I should ask her straight out if there's a problem between us, maybe I did something offensive by accident, who knows.

I would ask her straight what is wrong with her.
But I would not expect much of it. She sounds like a childish jerk. Even if you did something wrong, she should have told you instead of acting like a four year old kindergartener. This is not how best friends or even andyone over the age of 15 usually behaves.

[Anonymous No.7551578]

>>7551436
Same feel here. I moved to a new city about a year ago and am still struggling to make any real friends in general, but I'd especially love cosplay friends or even just other nerdy friends other than my boyfriend. Buh. Goal for this year.

[Anonymous No.7551591]

>>7551110
I'll cry for you tonight friend

[Anonymous No.7551666]

>>7551537
but anon, we're so far away

i just wanted loli friends to hang out with every weekend or something. i haven't worn loli in two months. what's a good excuse to wear loli out for? i'm too broke to shop (all my shopping is done online now, ha) and my normalfag friends dont like the attention from lolita.

[Anonymous No.7551678]

>>7551487
>wanting to look like a 15 year old rather than a 22 year old
Why are so many seagulls like this

[Anonymous No.7551710]

>have depression
>doing pretty well for several weeks, finally working at a steady pace on cosplay after being too sad for months
>woke up this morning wanting to die
>spent most of today in my room crying
>fuckme.jpg

I just downed some coffee and am going to force myself to finish these costumes in time for the con because I just don't have the time for this shit, but fuck if I don't hate myself and everything in my life at the moment. I was doing so well, too.

[Anonymous No.7551716]

>>7551710
You can do it anon!

[Anonymous No.7551717]

>>7551532
I had the same thing when I had to back out due to very sudden and unforeseen medical bills. I sent the ecs mods images of the bills and they still gave me negative feedback. It's bullshit and I was really angry at first, but I've learned to not care. I mostly use mbok and Lacebook anyway. Don't worry too much, EGL comm sales won't last another two years.

[Anonymous No.7551728]

>>7550246
i know those feels
> go to bridal show with mom
> 'you're the bride!? I thought you were 16!'

> go to friend's 25th birthday
> other friends of friend I don't know (all early 20s)
> 'you're engaged?!'
> 'I thought you were in highschool'
> mfw I'm the oldest at this gathering

gotta be genetics or something.

[Anonymous No.7551732]

>>7551678
Because if they are into lolita or cosplay, they think they have to stop because they look "old". I have never seen so many people obsessed with looking like young girls until I got into Lolita.

[Anonymous No.7551736]

>>7551717
>tfw you will never be a member of lacebook because you live in the middle of nowhere and have no lolita friends

[Anonymous No.7551743]

>>7551736
I think that OP meant Lacemarket though

[Anonymous No.7551744]

>Use to be into cosplay but in a chill way (1-2 cosplay per year).
>Meet this person I end up having a gigantic crush on.
>Thanks to them influence and in order to impress them, end up doing like 3-4 cosplays per month.
>Person doesn't seem to notice my feelings and I start to get posessive and jealous as fuck when I see them talking to another people.
>Shit is tiring (both having time to sew and the situation) and so were my friends about this.
>Have a little fight with friends because I refuse to hear their advises.
>Time passes and we grow apart.
>Have an argument with crush. We stop talking.
>Alone and sad as fuck.
>Friends forget the fact that I treated them like fucking shit and help me to overcome the situation.

I know I'm a piece of shit and I don't deserve people like my friends. They've already forgave me and I've also explained them everything.

However, I still have crush on fb and I still can't seem to delete or even forget them.
I see how they upload all their new cosplays and I've started to hate the hobby so much. Because of that and the trouble that I caused my friends I'm seriously thinking about never cosplaying again.

[Anonymous No.7551748]

>>7550246
I'm 22 and a teacher. Today I mentioned my sixth form class to an 11-year-old student I teach and her friend said "But aren't you a sixth former?"

>mfw I've been working at this school for a year now

[Anonymous No.7551751]

>>7551744
That's what friends are for, anon.
Your friends are lovely. cherish them.
I'm sure they don't want you to stop cosplaying.

[Anonymous No.7551760]

>In cosplay and ouji
>Grill,19,looking pretty young
>Has a big depression,anxiety bullshit and school phobia because of high bullying
>Feeling alone all the time
>Kinda "popular" but no real friends
>Only people I talk to besides my qt.3.14 super busy gf are mostly never there or always depressed
>Bad for muh depression
>I feel so alone all the time,so empty,so fucken sad,feel worthless
>mfw I just want it to go away it's been year

[Anonymous No.7551765]

>>7551760
I meant "popular on the internet" not in real life.By kinda popular it's like,I got 200 likes per pic i post,compliments,people telling me that i'm one of their models...it's all nice and i reall try to not deceive them but i'm so sad,i'm crying while writing this i'm so pathetic

[Anonymous No.7551774]

>>7551743
Yeah I meant Lacemarket. I'm tired as fuck.
>>7551736
You're not missing much anon, it's a ghost town with dead forums and sporadically updated pictures.

[Anonymous No.7551784]

>always wanted to try cosplaying
>no cons anywhere nearby
>any cosplay i do would probably just look stupid because i'm short and look young
>no cool bros to go to a con with anyway

fug

[Anonymous No.7551868]

>I will never hug a girl with a loli body irl ;~;

[Anonymous No.7551876]

>>7551748

To be fair, the difference between 18 and 22 isn't much. Especially to an 11 year old.

[Anonymous No.7551928]

>>7551744
>advises
People always spell this word like this on cgl
Is it some sort of in joke, or just a really common misspelling for cosplays?

Also, your friends are golden. But you should delete or at least unfollow/hide your crush, you'll feel better once you've not seen or heard about them for a while.

[Anonymous No.7552017]

>>7551868
Become a gymnastics coach. Little girls will crush on any male figure in their life.

[Anonymous No.7552100]

>>7551876
This is true, although my main issue is that I've been working here for almost a year and she hasn't noticed that I'm a member of staff. It's a pretty small school....

[Anonymous No.7552139]

>>7551728
Oh man. I'm 29, married, and pregnant with my first child.
>coworkers always ask if I'm old enough to pour the beer(park policy is, you're under 21, you can't handle the alcohol)
>One asked me if the father was in the picture when I said I was pregnant.(Even though I was wearing my wedding ring) Apparently she assumed I was in my early 20's. I just told her that, he is considering we're married.

[Anonymous No.7552790]

>>7550612
This only works when the other person is not an asshole. Your situation applies to both sexes.

Most people are retarded and assume that they should support themselves because the other person could fuck them over, while other parties have experienced giving in and had the favor returned by their partner.

>tfw someone was making sacrifices for me and I blew it by being poor

[Anonymous No.7552792]

>>7552017
I can actually confirm this.

[Anonymous No.7552795]

>>7550705
If women would stop trying to suppress their sexuality and learn that sex feels nice, there would be fewer rapes.

[Anonymous No.7552796]

Just a general announcement, none of you 25+ year olds claiming to look 16 is true. That is all.

[Anonymous No.7552817]

>tfw when I've literally never looked young because I have Ehlers-Danlos syndrome.
>get mistaken as being an adult all through junior high and high school
>creeped on by dudes way older than me
>bullied all through school because of sagging skin and age lines
>try skin care items for aging and they make it more pronounced
so shut up babby faced gulls

>it get's better.png
>sophomore year of college suddenly nobody seemed to notice anymore and I got hit on all the time
>now more confident about having a mature, sexy look
>positive side effect of EDS is having velvety soft skin
>if all else fails I can I can join the circus

[Anonymous No.7552821]

>>7552795
MRA fedorabeard detected

[Anonymous No.7552828]

> Upcoming con.
> Nervous, knees weak, palms sweaty, for some reason.
> Arms spaghetti, most likely.

No idea why, but I'm a bit nervous about an upcoming con. Maybe I'm just really worried the weather isn't going to be good, maybe I'm worried my cosplays won't be that great, or maybe it's... something else.

[Anonymous No.7552857]

I often feel inadequate as a cosplayer because of my skin color. I know that people say that cosplay is something that's for everyone, and I but I just can't keep shaking the feeling that I'm never going to be good enough, or that I just don't belong at all because I'm not White/NE Asian/etc. Seeing Tumblr basically asspat people for being "poc" makes it so, so much worse. It just feels like I wouldn't get straight concrit on my cosplay because "QT POC YES YOU ARE SO CUTE" or whatever.


I don't know. I feel like an Idiot.

[Anonymous No.7552869]

>>7552857
I empathize, anon. As a cosplayer who's got tanned skin, I feel weird about it sometimes. But I have to say, as harsh as this place can be, this is your best bet for concrit. I've never seen anyone do so on Tumblr, ever. Especially not to cosplayers who aren't white, maybe Asian of some sort. Here, you'll probably be poked fun at by like, one person or two. I have, once. But try not to take it too personally, and I'm sure there are also people here that wouldn't care about that and give you the advice you need. Just do your best and keep up the right attitude, and I think you should be fine.

[Anonymous No.7552922]

>>7552795
>well if you'd put out when I asked, I wouldn't have to rape you!

lel get out reddit

[Anonymous No.7552952]

I had been feeling bad for spending so much money of late of lolita while I was suppose to be saving up all my money for the new flat I was going to be moving in with my bestie.

After I had done all the filling out of forms and even rejecting offers of other friends who had a place available for me to live in. The jerk has changed their mind even though they made me promise to move in with them knowing I desperately needed to move to a more suitable location for my health. Heck I even got told I was a shitty friend for thinking of going on holiday with a few friends to japan, I was only thinking if it was a viable option and not had agree to go.

Safe to say, I don't consider them my best friend anymore. Spent the rest of the money on more loli in attempts to fight the depression I had already been fighting.

[Anonymous No.7552969]

>neither tall nor short
>complete washboard and no ass
>manface
>unfunny as shit
>0 friends
>tfw I'll never be a qt lolita
Should I just kill myself?

[Anonymous No.7553004]

>>7552969
i feel u

[Anonymous No.7553067]

>>7550613

>tfw no bf

[Anonymous No.7553088]

>>7552969
Become a man.

[Anonymous No.7553098]

>>7553088
Ah that's pretty drastic but if anon has a manly figure there's tons of flattering /fa/ type stuff they could wear, they should try it. I wish I had a less feminine figure sometimes so I could wear stuff that flatters a straight-line body. It's such a good look if someone has the body for it

[Anonymous No.7553119]

>>7553098
No, she should become a man.

[Anonymous No.7553121]

>>7550246
>>7550289
>>7551728

>be 25, going on 26
>most lolis I meet are 20 tops, mostly 18 though
>hang out with them anyway, they usually assume I'm a freshman at uni (whilst I have earned my BA two years ago)
>mfw they consider ditching lolita due to their approaching "mature" age
>or at least moving to classic/gothic even though they love sweet
>mfw they "can't imagine anyone looking good in it past the early twenties"
>meanwhile I'm sitting there looking like a magical girl and they don't even know

I-I consider it a c-complement...

[Anonymous No.7553125]

>>7550246
>>7550289
>>7551728
>>7553121

Women who look like children are weird. Are you ever afraid that the people attracted to you are pedos?

[Anonymous No.7553143]

>>7553125
None of the anon's above but yes and no. Most people my age or older will just pass me over as a someone too young for them- the few who don't are a little on the creepy/weird side but I think they were just weird dudes since they don't piss off once they know your age.

[Anonymous No.7553188]

>>7553125
Meh. It's just my face and height (5'1") that make me look very young, I have very wide hips and DD boobs. They're just completely obscured while I'm in lolita, but my bf is crazy about my figure as well as looks nevertheless. I did meet him at 16 however, I just never really changed in looks in these 10 years.

But that babyface/hourglass figure combo attracted creepers (and I'm not talking boys catcalling, I'm talking old bald men suggesting I should get in their car right now) all my teen life. Lolita and other j-fashions actually freed me of it, since I just look straight-up underage now. And I'm perfectly fine with it, I'm not so insecure that I need validation from strange men.

[Anonymous No.7553191]

What if lolita clothing is actually specially made to turn you into a sour cunt?

[Anonymous No.7553193]

>>7553125
I'm the hobbit anon and I promise you I have never been considered attractive by anyone other than my mum.

[Anonymous No.7553317]

>>7552817
Also, if you ever get into LARPing Vampire: The Masquerade, you'd make a fine Tzimisce.

[Anonymous No.7553326]

>qt Chinese Femboy
>Everyone thinks I'm gay, but I'm straight
>Crossplay at cons
>100% pass except voice
>Want qt girl that likes traps (and I know they exist esp at cons)
>Get hit on by guys
>No homo
>Hit on girls
>"wtf your a guy weirdo"

How do I find the girls that actually want a trap? Neverending sadness

also
>always go to the crossplaying panels at any convention hoping someone is trap scouting

[Anonymous No.7553333]

>upcoming con
>friend wants to cosplay Pokemon gijinkas as a group
>agreed half a year ago
>bought a new jsk last week
>really want to wear it to the con instead

Even though the gijinkas are closet cosplay tier, I really can't find it in me to tell her I don't want to wear it. Hell, she even bought a wig for me (although it was kinda cheap).

[Anonymous No.7553352]

>>7550036
>>>>/fit/

[Anonymous No.7553354]

>>7553326
>straight qt trap
Honey you have come to the right place.
I would kill to have a trap husbando.

[Anonymous No.7553355]

>>7552796
Not claiming anything, just stating what has been said. I even got carded at a friend's wedding recently. Good grief I can understand some college kids have such baby faces. I can see my under eye wrinkles growing.

[Anonymous No.7553365]

>>7551678
Anon you replied to here, and for me it's mostly that people treat me nicer when they don't know I'm an adult. This obviously doesn't go for people who actually know me but strangers on the street are more tolerant of my spaghetti when they think I'm a young teen. Women my age aren't supposed to squeak and stammer when talking to a stranger but for teenagers it can be considered "cute". Same with lolita/cosplay. It's cute and creative when a teenager does it but when an adult does it it's suddenly weird and indicative of some crazy fetish.
Also there's the issue of being totemo kawaii, of course.

[Anonymous No.7553367]

>>7553354

Ahh, but cgl isn't IRL - theres no interaction

How do I spot femboy loving girls at cons? Or find them, either one
I do try to talk to girls, but seagull roris are a minority; even more so who are into my archetype
Most girls at con prefer y'know, men. Not men dressed as qt girls - My attempts too court random girls turn out really awkward sometimes

The fact that I'm indistinguishable until I talk makes it harder as well, some people assume i'm just a girl with a manly voice, so I basically never get approached (by roris)

[Anonymous No.7553388]

>>7553333
Are you only going one day, or several? You could wear them both and just change at some point.

[Anonymous No.7553412]

>>7553326
I do like crossdressers so it's not impossible.

[Anonymous No.7553415]

>>7553367

Different girl here. Being into traps is not a fetish you yell across the room, heck, one does not simply yell one's fetish out loud anywhere, unless you have a severe and horrible case of the spaghettis.

You could try getting on whatever social network your local girls are on, maybe join your local lolita comm, and try to make friends. Make sure you're nice even to dudes and girls you don't want to bang so you don't come across as a creeper who is only hitting on the pretty girls. Ocassionally bring up that you're a guy just to remind everyone (for eg, if you get invited to a lolita meet, remind them you're a guy in a dress and ask if it's okay for you to show up). After that it's a matter of networking and networking to find that one girl who has the fetish and likes you as well.

Option B: Instead of crossdressing, try cosplaying male characters that cross dress, or characters that are a little ambiguous. It would be less surprising when someone finds out you're male, and if you find girls that like your character, well, that goes further towards helping her like you. Do check out the fandom before you pick a character though, boku no pico is probably a bad thing to cosplay from. Princess Princess might be better, but a bit unrecognizeable if there aren't three of you. If you can pull off a good ballgown, Ciel from Kuroshitsuji will attract a fair amount of attention (and weirdos, unfortunately). I think Tieria from Gundam wears a dress, and the female gundam fandom isn't too bad.

[Anonymous No.7553418]

What do you guys do if you can't sleep? People are currently waking up at around this time and I've yet to sleep.

[Anonymous No.7553423]

>>7553418
I force myself to stay awake for that whole day after a night of no sleep (it gets super hard for me around 4 pm), but then I go to bed at a reasonable hour and sleep like a baby. Napping will completely fuck you up though, hence why I'm awake now too.

[Anonymous No.7553460]

:(

[Anonymous No.7553483]

>>7553460
>Posted on twitter

[Anonymous No.7553496]

>>7553460
This is so very sad. I honestly think the thing that would benefit her the most would be working with an excellent therapist/psychologist with a view to getting her life back on track.

Otherwise she'll be forever stuck in this obsessive, endless feedback loop of positive reinforcement and ridicule. It's not exactly surprising that despite her swagger, she has a very low opinion of herself. Girl needs to make peace with her demons and find a new path.

[Anonymous No.7553505]

>>7553460
Gee, I wonder why. It wouldn't have to do with how she treats everyone around her like shit now would it?

I can't feel sorry for someone who brings shit upon themselves.

[Anonymous No.7553521]

>>7553418
I get the fuck off the computer/phone, put them away, turn them off. Then I take a Tylenol PM or Diphenhydramine HCI

[Anonymous No.7553531]

>>7553418
Pull an all nighter.
Whatever you do, don't try to nap. You'll knockout for hours man.
I work from 9:00pm to 5:30am, and its pretty chill...well, most of the time.
My sleep schedule is beyond fucked though, like I try to keep a scheduled sleep from 7am to 2pm but that shit never happens.
Sometimes I don't sleep till the afternoon and wake up at 8 or I just typically pull all-nighters.
Working graveyard does affect you though, I have lately only been eating a meal a day, smoking a bit more, and have lost like 13 pounds.
At least 5'7" and 140 ain't bad

[Anonymous No.7553549]

>put dress up for auction last week because I want some money for a new upcoming release
>girl wins a bid on my listing on lacemarket for a little over $200
>they're overseas
>for some reason they don't inquire about the shipping like it says in my description to do
>whatever, that probably means they can afford the shipping which is usually $40 minimum
>I get the shipping quote which turns out to be closer to $50
>"Actually I only have $240 right now, do you mind making two separate invoices so I can pay you the $200 and then $50 on Monday?"
>no problem
>make one invoice for $50 and one for $200
>she only pays the $50 one
>????
>message her
>mfw
I'm really hoping it's just a mistake and she didn't just do that because she's after the same release I'm after. She should probably have paid the invoice she said she was going to pay so I wouldn't think of her as shady at this point.

[Anonymous No.7553551]

>>7553549
>that picture
I fucking jumped in my chair.

[Anonymous No.7553576]

>get BTSSB dress I've been saving up for ages for
>hang out with friend after she sees I got this dress
>practically humping my leg for cash, asked at least 7 times that night for money
>I know she's in need, so I buy her something, because I feel bad that she's not doing well
>tells me "thanks I deserve it"
>doesn't apologize
>keeps asking for money in the future

I was never a friend, just a financial aspect.

[Anonymous No.7553588]

>>7553418
Take benedryl or something like that.
It can knock me out in less than an hour.

Which can be awful, considering I accidentally took it at a meetup under the impression that what I was taking was a non-drowsy allergy medication.
I spent the next three hours at the zoo in a drowsy, drugged fog before passing out in my friend's car on the way home. I'm sorry, comm.

[Anonymous No.7553590]

I need to call a lot of hospitals and doctors because I'm ill and I still don't know what I have. As we don't have a clue, I need to do a lot of exams but no hospital want to take me because I have no officialy declared illness thus I'm not a priority. It's been three months already, they keep saying I should call other hospitals, I found no one to do proper research on my case. I'm so anxious about phone calls that I end up crying after each rejection. I live alone and far from my parents, I don't have a boyfriend so I litteraly have nobody to help me deal with all of that. I can't wear lolita anymore because I'm effraid to faint in the street and stain/rip my dress, and I'm about to fail my first year of college because I barely can go to class.

[Anonymous No.7553595]

>woke up early to get an auction on facebook
>3 minutes left, cool!
>casually browses cgl quickly
>auction ended

fuck.

[Anonymous No.7553598]

>>7553595
Well that was stupid

[Anonymous No.7553600]

>>7553590
I know how you feel anon. I am going through the same thing but I do have a diagnosis. Doctors can be dicks. You have to be really on top of your game. Research your symptoms and find out what it may be and start pressing for these places to test you. If they brush you off push harder. It took a lot of pressure and time to get my diagnoses and I still have some things wrong that I haven't gotten my doctor to address yet. You can do it but you need to be strong.

[Anonymous No.7553627]

>>7553595
the hell were you thinking?

[Anonymous No.7553629]

>>7553590
damn anon. I'm sorry...

[Anonymous No.7553774]

I've lost a lot of weight this year but I still feel fat and I'm so scared of putting the weight back on.

I'm 5'4" and I went from 145 pounds to 125 since the beginning of the year. My bust/waist has gone from 36/30.5 to 35/26.5 but I still feel like a fat fuck. I haven't been eating as much nor as much junk in the past until now. Today I ate a bowl of Doritos, a piece of cheesecake and about 6 chocolate biscuits as well as chicken pasta with spinach. If I keep eating like this my skin will break out AND I'll be fatter. My calves are still chunky as hell too and I feel like a pig.

[Anonymous No.7553779]

>>7553774
Forgot to mention, my waist is almost the size it was at my smallest (25" at 100 pounds) and my bones stick out, but I have a gut and lovehandles still, as well as huge thighs and calves. I like having a big butt but I wish I could get rid of all the other chunk and distribute it more evenly.

[Anonymous No.7553790]

>tfw basically just started dream job
>tfw now have $900 fun money per month
>lolita and cosplayer
>all my dreams will be realized

Oh man, what do I buy first?

[Anonymous No.7553791]

>>7553779
There's only one solution for that: excersize. Seriously, just dieting won't help you with that, no matter how much weight you lose.

[Anonymous No.7553792]

>>7553790
Congrats, anon! What's the job?

[Anonymous No.7553817]

>>7553792
I'm a pastry chef, full time at a restaurant in a popular tourist area of my city. Basically I just have to make cookies and cakes all day and I'm done. I do 35-40 hours a week, but I get to make up my own schedule weekly, so meetups and cons are all set.

I have a small collection of lolita currently, but I'm set to go all out with my first couple of paychecks. Going to get some staple pieces, blouses, shoes, accessories and some nice main pieces, then probably slow down and save con money. The $900 is what's left over after saving $300 and my bills so I really can go all out.

[Anonymous No.7553842]

>>7553790
Congratulations anon!
its awesome to see people working at places they love.
I too am employed at my dream job (or step 1. To get to THE job). But are you saaaying you make 900$ over all or..is that afetr savings/bills?
If its after bills/savings. I would be jealous

[Anonymous No.7553844]

>>7553774
>Today I ate a bowl of Doritos, a piece of cheesecake and about 6 chocolate biscuits as well as chicken pasta with spinach. If I keep eating like this my skin will break out AND I'll be fatter
Fuck, I've been indulging like this for years and I'm starting to get a little squishy.
I'm still just skinnyfat but I guess my metabolism is finally aging. How do people deal with suddenly needing to eat properly and not like a giant kid?

Also anon, how long have you been at the smaller weight? If you've lost weight very quickly, it might be some time before your body naturally distributes itself a little more evenly.

[Anonymous No.7553848]

>Car was just rear-ended this morning
>Lady who hit me doesn't have insurance
>My insurance should cover most of it
>No car for a few days
>Fuck
>So many events at the end of the month
>Need to get cosplay and coordinates done for said events

I have a convention, two meet-ups, and warped tour. Why nooooooow. Fuck dude.

[Anonymous No.7553851]

>>7553842
I explained in >>7553817 post. The $900 is after savings/bills and I actually have quite a bit saved up already, but still plan on putting aside atleast $300 a month.

[Anonymous No.7553857]

>>7553848
In which country are you allowed to drive without an insurance ? In most EU country they can take back your driver licence for that.

[Anonymous No.7553860]

>>7553774
>Tfw 5"3 and those measurements right now.

Fuck anon, I would do anything to be able to lose even 2" from my waist, I can't seem to shift my fat no matter how well I eat or exercise. Feels horrible.

[Anonymous No.7553863]

>>7551666
stop saying loli

[Anonymous No.7553867]

>>7553857
You have to get caught before they can do anything about it.
I assume that anon is from the USA--one of my worst fears is being hit by someone without insurance.

[Anonymous No.7553868]

>>7553857
Same in America. I hope anon called the cops on that lady. She shouldn't be driving uninsured in like 90% of the developed world.

[Anonymous No.7553885]

>>7553857
USA

>>7553867
Mine too, Anon, mine too.

>>7553868
She was the one who actually called the police. She was fined for having no proof of insurance at the time of the accident. I also have all her contact information and phone numbers. She's already lied to my insurance company twice. She gon' git it.

[Anonymous No.7553894]

>promised I'd have three costumes ready for various friends for A-Kon
>procrastinated way too long
>the easiest costume is giving me way more trouble than I anticipated
>haven't started the other two
>cry

I'm trying to keep a steady pace going and to make sure everything looks nice, but I keep thinking "25 days" and start to panic. This is awful. Back to the sewing machine with me.

[Anonymous No.7553898]

Comm just did a group order on Taobao and I want more stuff already. I might just get some shoes from Bodyline (cause freee shipping) to distract myself and start sewing a new petticoat. Which was one of the things I meant to add to the GO...

>sigh

[Anonymous No.7553905]

>>7553863
summer already?

[Anonymous No.7553912]

>>7552969
If you have a square body like kesha you should just give up, otherwise there is still hope.

[Anonymous No.7553915]

>>7552796
Asians and some euros maybe.

[Anonymous No.7553919]

>>7553549
Can't you leave negative feedback for that or am I wrong?

[Anonymous No.7553924]

>>7553590
What are your symptoms? I also have a mystery diagnoses that effects my life, I have friends but they're all male so its not the same.

[Anonymous No.7554687]

>>7553844
>How do people deal with suddenly needing to eat properly and not like a giant kid?
In my case, it was a sudden pain in my chest like my heart was being stabbed that made me shape up.

[Anonymous No.7554703]

>>7553848
>>7553885
Update.
The repairs may cost more than the car is worth and it's a possible lost cause.

So I guess I'm getting a new car. Fucking ugh.

[Anonymous No.7554709]

>>7554703
Make her fucking pay for it

[Anonymous No.7554719]

>>7553848
>>7553885
Reposting without email in the field.

As a general update, costs may be worth more than the car is worth. Looks like I'm getting a new car. Fuck this gay earth.

>>7554709
Oh. She's going to. She isn't escaping this. I will get legal on her ass if I have to.

[Anonymous No.7555012]

>>7554687
I'm a male shut-in so for me it was lack of exercise; standing up, walking to the bathroom, then very slowly losing all the blood to my head. It taking a long time was especially disturbing. I lost control of my muscles, sank to the floor against the wall and hit my head, and involuntarily let out a dying animal sound for like 5 seconds.

Being a NEET is dangerous work, but somebody has to do it.

[Anonymous No.7555034]

>>7553924
It's too various, I don't know what's effectively linked to this mysterious disease and what's not. Symptom number one is fainting, more and more since two or three years, now at least monthly when not more. Since January I started to have spasm attacked linked with that. Since my last stroke last week I'm anormaly tired and I can't go out for more than a few hours, nicely enough the uni is not that far so I can still go, but I can't manage to listen for two hours straight, I'm too tired. My legs hurt a lot and seems too weak to support me.
The thing is, I just want to know what I have, so I could explain my parents why I don't go to classes and arrange a lighter schedule with my school to have my year. Know it's too late, but maybe next year.

[Anonymous No.7555038]

>>7555034
I know*

[Anonymous No.7555044]

> Sellers not shipping outside of the US
> Sellers not including Paypal fees and breaking Paypal's TOS
> Sellers not using tracked shipping
> Sellers with bad feedback
> Sellers without any feedback at all
> Sellers selling replicas, even non-print replicas

I'd like to make a "Lolita International" Facebook sales group, where no replicas at all would be allowed (even non-print), feedback would be mandatory (no empty pages), shipping international would be mandatory too if the buyer can pay for it.
I'm tired of browsing Lolita Sales and Lolita Sales in English, it always feels like I'm wasting my time. There are still scammers in these groups. Also, I'm tired of everybody breaking PayPal's TOS and overcharging buyers for 3.25% fees.
Anybody interested ?

[Anonymous No.7555075]

>>7552857

I can totally relate. Sometimes I feel that I can only cosplay tan characters, when in reality I wanna be the pretty main character magical girl etc etc. However, no matter how accurate or perfect my cosplay could be, a tanned sailor moon, hatsune miku, etc. wouldn't compare to a faire skinned asian cosplayed with an average costume.

[Anonymous No.7555129]

>>7551428
maybe you should try asking the girls to hang out outside of lolita? I became good friends with at least 3 of the loli girls in my comm that way and we hang out all the time now.

[Anonymous No.7555191]

>spring carpe diem time
>clean room
>do 40 pushups
>wake up next morning
>tylenol bottle misplaced
oh my god

[Anonymous No.7555324]

>>7555044
Please do this, I'm tired of sellers refusing my money because I'm not 'Murrican(it's mostly Americans that do this so...)

I'm also tired of seeing the same shitty Oo Jia Strawberry JSK being sold for $120 with a crappy picture of the seller. Actually I'm sick of seeing replicas in general, I'm looking at you plus-size Lolita sales. I understand a lot of plus sized lolita go for Replica but really? Put it in a Lolita Replica sales comm and stop shitting up the page!

I'm also tired of sellers who be like well I will sell you this item but since you are an International buyer you have to pay by gift... I just NOPE back out of the post(have seen this on egl comm sales).

[Anonymous No.7555327]

>>7555324
Another irritating point, a seller on one of the sales sites is selling a petticoat that I desperately need to finish my first coord. Commented about the item and she was very polite telling me details about the item and I was definitely gonna buy it. Asked about shipping to my country and it was silence on the western front.

The item is still up there unsold and it pisses me off because I had the money to pay for it regardless of shipping. Now I have to search for a petticoat seller that's not taobao(can't be waiting forever for the petticoat) however my search is seeming fruitless.

I never thought I'd be so stressed out over a damn petticoat.

[Anonymous No.7555683]

>>7555044
Yes please!

[Anonymous No.7555857]

>Close friends with another lolita for 2 years, initially met at a convention.
>Can have fun with her but she seems to have zero interests outside lolita and anime and no realistic goals for the future. (wants to be a j-fashion designer, despite having only a basic grasp of sewing or a professional blogger)
>She's been unemployed for the past year, has only had one job, very little qualifications but won't apply for courses or volunteer work that could potentially help her, only applies for jobs at sketchy commission only places and gets continually rejected.
>Recommend books and movies to her as she says she's bored and has nothing to do.
>"Sorry anon I don't read and movies are too long for me to concentrate on"
>Mention political party I'm voting for in local elections.
>"I don't follow politics it's too confusing"

I feel like a snob but I'm finding it difficult to maintain a friendship when all our conversations are based around j-fash, anime or cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7555929]

>>7555857
You're not being a snob, she just hasn't grown up while you have. You may end up growing apart or maybe she'll grow up.

[Anonymous No.7555946]

>>7555929
I'm thinking of recommending some easy to read books to her as she struggles with reading but she hasn't read in like 3 years.

[Anonymous No.7556444]

>Tfw become close friends with girl in comm
>Have similar tastes so get good co-ord advice
>Classier than my other comm friends, doesn't sperg out in public
>Arrange to hang out in loli together regularly
>Restaurants, shopping trips, museums and plays
>She's a makeup artist and recommends good products for me

[Anonymous No.7556611]

>>7555191
>tylenol bottle misplaced

I don't understand what is happening here?