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"how do I explain to my family that I am not like my pacifier-necklace wearing cousin"-edition>Disregard bait>post /cgl/ feels
Ive been feeling less and less inclined to be part if a comm. i dont really talk to any of the members and meets feel awkward being surrounded by strangers and only being able to contribute small talk. I really love wearing the fashion regularly but it feels like an obligation to be part of a group and go to meets and cons. I made a few friends in the beginning but several have since left the fashion. Does anyone else feel this way? Like being in a comm is an obligation yet you mever really want to hang with these people?
>none of my friends want to cosplay>no more college to find people>NY gulls discord long dead, never really alive>want to make friends who cosplay but don’t want to be creepFug
>>9915606I'm 31 and feel too old to be cosplaying which sucks because I only got into it a few years ago. Feels like 90% of the con goers are teens or under 24, so I end up feeling like the only "adult" there. I see a few adults my own age or older but they seem really spergy or autistic.
>>9915606May I ask what makes you feel it's an obligation?I'm in a comm, I don't go to meets often because life doesn't always allow me the free time needed for that so I mostly see my closer friends when possible and that's it, I wear the fashion on my own otherwise; and I don't feel guilty about it at all. It's a fashion first and foremost, you can socialize through it but you don't have to. So what makes you feel that you have to interact with and be a part of your local comm?
>>9915607Go to a con and socialize, boom. I've gotten invited to cosplay groups by random people I meet there, and then you just gotta chat more and make friends.Another way is facebook groups. Find local facebook groups of people who like to cosplay or check the posts on an event page to see if anyone's looking to meet people.>>9915606Yeah. I don't really get the whole deal. I'm enjoy the fashion enough wearing it by myself and going out with friends who aren't into Jfash. I mean, I also understand if you like hanging with your comm or whatever, but I feel like people who need a comm to enjoy lolita don't "truly" love it.
>>9915623It sounds silly but its one of those ‘everyone does it why arent you’ kind of things. Lolita makes it sound like you have to have a comm, or you have to go to meets, and i just dont really want either of those. Sure id love more lolita friends but its not really vital to me. >>9915625I actually really like this idea of not truly liking it if you have to be in a comm. i already dont understand reservingthis fashion to meets and cons only and i feel thats what i see the most.
>>9915630>everyone does it why arent youYou can say the same thing about wearing alt fashion, to be honest.>everyone wears jeans and t-shirts, why aren't you?Do what makes you happy, anon. Fuck what everyone else is doing, it doesn't matter, you do you. Same goes for people who only wear it to meets and cons; it doesn't matter that you see it often, it doesn't affect you personally and doesn't mean you have to do what everyone else is doing. I mean this in the most encouraging way btw. If you're happy wearing lolita in your own free time and being a lonelita then that's perfectly okay, and unless someone from your local comm actively pushes you to come to meets and socialize with them, there's no real pressure to do what doesn't appeal to you.
>be me, a depressed sweet lolita gril>really bored, start talking to myself>discover that I'm really good at talking without moving my lips aka throwing my voice aka ventriloquy >have been making my stupid ass literally laugh out loud while practicing because I find it so ridiculously stupid but amusing>this is my first time having sustained positive emotions in weeks>kinda wondering why it took me nearly two and a half decades to figure out I have this talentNow I just want to get a cool dummy commissioned and try my hand at some comedic skits. I'm thinking of a cat dummy with a top hat and a monocle. It'd be extra fun to get to wear lolita while performing, I feel like there's a way I could tie it into the performance. I don't even care if this is super cringey, I'm truly happy for the first time in such a long time.
>>9915648This is so strange but at the same time so fucking cute. You go, ventriloquist sweet lolita, get your cute dummy and do your thing.Ngl if you started a youtube channel, I'd watch it.
>>9915648I'm rooting for you, sounds cute, would watch.Please tell us if you do start a youtube channel featuring your perfomances.
>>9915648I never knew I wanted this. Follow your dreams.
>>9915648This is such a wholesome post.
Man I just really love cosplay
I feel so utterly jealous when people have siblings to share their hobbies, particularly cosplay, with them. I have never got along with my sister and she has always just looked down on me and my hobbies. I know these sisters in my comm who are best friends and they cosplay together. I never had a best friend even as a child.
>>9915661I know that feel, except I don't have siblings, but my mom never understood my hobbies, and my "friends" discovered a new obsession every three weeks, and I kinda stopped trying to catch up with them. the only "best" friend I had was a girl I was kinda forced to be best friends with because our parents were friends too.how the fuck do people best friends?! I want someone to obsess over nerd shit with!
>>9915663Instead of getting friends that like all the same hobbies, make a good friend or two in each hobby. Much easier.I have friends I talk with about fashion. Other friends with which I talk about music and go to concerts with. Again other friends I talk about history with.The more closer I get to people, the more I also talk about other stuff. Goes automatic. But generally, I just make friends based on one thing and rest goes automatic or it stays an acquaintance like friendship.
>>9915661Same. I used to get along with my sister when we were kids, but we had different interests and hobbies as teenagers and now we're radically different in personality and opinions too now.I love her and I know she loves me, but we barely talk to each other because there's nothing to talk about, every times we start discussing things it blows up into a full-blown quarrel.
>>9915648Haha this is pure. Don't feel like you're alone though. I'm not good/into ventriloquism (definitely had a phase when I was a kid) , but I do love puppetry. I don't play with my stuffed animals like when I was a kid, but still talk through them when I'm bored and by myself. I kinda wish I could hang out with you and do improv skits with our puppets
>>9915661Same. My brother and I get along, but he's such a normie. We both have the right build and skin tones to do a Chun-Li and Sagat cosplay, but I don't think he'd be too keen on hanging out around a bunch of ( anime) nerds. Idk.
>>9915661My brother and I used to not stand each other but we got close when I started browsing 4chan and he got into Jojo, so now we're both 4chan meme weebs. I helped make his first cosplay and I'm thinking of getting more toned so I can humour him and do a Jolyne Kujo cosplay.
I have a hard time appreciating ouji because I see so many failed attempts at places like CoF. I'm a knicker and history loving HEMA fighter (relevant because it makes ME wear knickers all the time, so comfy), but they just look bad so often. It's a shame as I've seen some really great outfits that makes me know it's not the style in itself. But why do so many look so bad?
>>9915696As I just realised knicker is more used as a wear for underwear in modern days aside of western swordfighting sports (who use the term "fencing knickers" regularly), let me clarify I mean knickerbockers when I say "knicker" and not underwear.
>>9915656>>9915655>>9915654>>9915674Thanks gulls. Unfortunately, my dad noticed me doing it, and began mocking me by copying whatever I said while practicing. When I told him to please stop, he acted like I was the bad guy, and said he wanted to try ventriloquy too. My mom swooped in and defended him and told me I should teach him how to get better. He has no interest in ventriloquy, he just doesn't want me to feel comfortable doing anything ever, he's a terrible narc who feeds off my misery and actively tries to deter me from doing anything I enjoy. Back to being depressed, wish me luck on getting out of this hellhole so I can finally be happy for more than 12 hours at once.
>>9915619I find the opposite is true. All my con buddies are 25+.
>>9915699Man, that sucks to hear. Good luck on getting a place on your own, even nice parents can get tiring to live with, especially if they don't get your hobbies.
>>9915699please dont give up anon, nothing pisses off and discourages people like that more than people seeing people not give in to their mocking. i love you and i hope you can move out soon, im in a similar situation myself so i know how it feels but you can get through it!!
> Had a major depressive relapse a week ago over the dumbest shit> Start diet and try to motivate self> Lose a solid 8lbs in less than week> Get a good haul in stuff for itabags today> Get complimented on makeup when out public> Getting back into wearing lolita more> Silly heartwarming moment in the DD threadEverything feels good again and I'm glad I'm getting back into a positive self. Also if the gull in the DD thread sees this, I genuinely hope you find your dress! We can be fun Meta flight attendants together!
I've been having really bad anxiety lately and I look back on all my coordinates realize my face ruins all my outfits>Be me, have droopy eyes that make me look like I'm high in photos>I have a long face and not many wigs look good on me>my nose isn't very big but in certain lighting it looks bulbous >I can't show my teeth when I smile because even after braces I have fucking horse teeth. I think from now on I'm just going to slap a damn sticker over my face so I can stop having horrible anxiety with this issue.
>>9915856iktf. In mirrors I mostly look fine, but photos are just awful. I look so man faced because of my stupid jaw that needs fixing again; in spite of my never ending love of the fashion and for being around for so long, I still feel like I'm not kawaii enough for it. I also look high in photos. My eyes aren't droopy, but the facial misalignment makes it look like that in photos. Years of going to the orthodontist apparently did jack shit besides removing my teeth and emptying my mom's bank account. I'm sure that the problems run deep, but have you messed around with light contouring?
My dream the other night was about getting banned from /cgl/ for posting hentai.I asked a Mod to unban me. I took him to a high tea with a baroque interior. After eating macarons, he decided to unban me forever.I have no bf, Mods. Date me.
>play game I've wanted to for a really long time, love it fallout: new vegas>want to cosplay one of the characters >games from nearly 8 years ago>worry if anyone will ever know who I am>I don't even know if any of my 3 real life friends would actually go to a con with meAre there any good cons in Michigan anyways? Iirc the last one was Youmacon, and it was a total mess, from what I've heard.
>been struggling with health for a few months now>just got put on oxygen >have to lug around a machine everywhere I go>just want to stay at home and wither away >don't have any motive for getting dresses because I can't even work now>can't dress up in lolita which is the one thing that ever made me feel truly pretty for 8 yearsGuys I hate this. I feel like I'm not even human any more. I wish I'd just finally kick it from whatever this is
>>9915661>tfw slowly had to cut out everyone from my family because initially of parents divorce then because of falling out with the rest of my family constant and unnecessary criticism under the guise of "We're only doing it because we care."I have no one. I just want to find a girl and have her family adopt me as their new son.
>>9915904This is very sad, I'm sorry to hear this anon. How old are you? Do they have any idea what's causing your health problems?
>>9915904>tfw no very sick gf to coo over and look afterI might be fucked in the head but I've always wanted to find a girl with a chronic illness or disability but I end up only getting suicidal girls (and one bullumic) who just leave once they're better. Like a paraplegic just so I can take care of her and make her life better. Let me love you sick anon.
>>9915925Constant seizures, sleeping 12+ hours a day and nosebleeds/vomiting aren't kawaii anon. You may think you'd want to take care of me but you don't.>>9915924I've had several head injuries in my life and a week or so before my first symptoms showed up I flew for the first time since my last head injury. They think it allowed whatever underlying problems caused by the multiple traumas to surface. And me spiraling into a depression where I'm unable to properly take care of myself and eat added onto how bad the situation is
>>9915936You make my heart ache. It's not that I get joy out of seeing someone sick but I love being that bit of unconditional love and care that someone really appreciates.You have my heart anon but chances are we don't live on the same continent.
>>9915925Yeeah that's like a red flag for most people with chronic illness...like you love someone for their illness not for them? That's kinda what most of them want to avoid.
>>9915657man i just really love lolita
>>9915904I truly hope that you'll be able to recover or at least improve your condition. Nobody deserves to go through that.
>>9915972Man I just really love my Mr Yan bodypillow
My comm saw my boobs. Can I ever go back?
>>9915856I feel you anon, I cut my face out of most of coord pics. I can't smile in pictures because my eyes disappear and I look high, and the prescription on my glasses makes my eyes look even smaller. I also have an airplane forehead and I have bangs to cover it, but phone pictures make it look like I have an alien head. And I'm skinny but have a hint of a double chin (shitty genetics) and it makes my face look bigger and more potato in pictures.
i just made a complete ass of myself in the draw thread. i'm hiding forever.
>>9916047You're not hiding too well by posting in the feels thread, anon. Just stop posting and keep a low profile for a while.
>>9915970I understand that.
>dropped about 1k on lolita in just the last few days>legit think I have a proper shopping addiction>browse sites daily without buying anything, then do a sudden shopping spree and feel horribly guilty afterwards, rinse and repeat>addiction hasn't actually caught up to me yet because my family is rich, but I'm probably getting cut off soon because graduation>terrified I won't be able to stop by then since it's my coping mechanism for anxiety>still haven't brought myself to block sites yetFor those of you who managed to stop spending compulsively, what worked for you? I haven't been able to talk to any of my friends about it because it's such a first world problem, and I'm scared it comes across as bragging.
>>9916182It's not much but this is what helped me: *Make a specific list of what you want to buy. If you don't have a wish list, make one, and force yourself to stick to it. Don't buy anything that isn't on your list.*Stop browsing shopping sites as much as possible. If you browse every day, try browsing every other day as a start. Slowly reduce the amount of time and frequency of your browsing and find something else to do in your free time, preferably something that doesn't cost you money.*Get real help for your anxiety. The first two tips are temporary fixes just to stop you from spending compulsively on anything that catches your eye; they won't last or help for very long, and if your anxiety is so bad that you can't control yourself, you need actual help. Remember that retail therapy is fun but it's not real therapy.I know it's not easy, I actually struggle with the bullshit that is having shopping as a coping mechanism myself and breaking this habit is a struggle; but you can do it, I believe in you.
>>9915699Lol time to make all his food at dinner talk. Then when he mocks you offer super helpful corrections. Make sure this is all in front of your mother because then "Mom I'm just helping him like you said!"
>>9916187Thanks, anon. I think I'll have to give therapy another shot to fix the root cause (although I'll definitely need to hype myself up for it first).I really hope it gets better for you too.
>>9915900Youmacon is a good con. Did you mean Shuto?
>have dealt with passive-aggressive remarks from my friends and cousins since puberty for having small breasts>fall in love with lolita in part because it flatters my figure so much better than normie fashions do>finally get my hands on a jsk from my favorite brand, Mary Magdalene>try it on>breasts too big
>wanted to check the price for the shipping on a Baby order>mfw I accidentally ordered itfuck what do I
>>9915936You're in my thoughts and prayers anon. I'm truly wishing for your recovery.
Anon from the last thread with the crazy roommate who refused to shower. We made the mistake of carpooling to the con with this girl, because she offered and she seemed nice when we first met her. She’s gone psycho over the weekend and now she’s threatening to leave without us, which would leave us stranded in a different country (Amerifag at a Canadian con.) What do gulls? (We already loaded our shit in her car before she started threatening to leave without us, so I’m wondering if she does take off if we could call the police and report our stuff stolen.)
>>9916222If you have the cash you should be able to get an Uber from Canada to USA. I love to chat with my Uber drivers and the number of them who have made trips to Canada is astounding. Just be understanding that they made need some time to run home and grab their passport if they weren't expecting to make a trip across the boarder.
i'm a healthy weight, bmi about 21 but i still feel too fat for cosplay or j-fash or anything. my tummy is pudgy and my thighs don't rub together but they feel big. is this normal or should i aim to drop to a bmi of 18 or 19 or so to feel better about it? i feel like i'd still feel too gross at that point, too, though. i used to be a bmi of 25.i don't want to be an ana-chan but i feel like a fatty. sorry if this is the wrong place to complain about this.
>>9916249>caring about BMI in relation to fucking fashionSeriously anon just measure yourself and compare that to brand sizing, and then maybe pitch a fit. What does BMI have to do with anything? >my thighs don't rub togetherSorry if I sound exceedingly mad about this, I just find the stupidity in your post mind boggling. Your thighs don't rub together, really? Congratulations, how the fuck is that relevant?Also afaik you can't be too fat for cosplay unless you only plan on cosplaying characters with revealing outfits or you're literally too fat to move.
>>9916250i'm very insecure and was worried about looking ridiculous in a fashion style usually aimed at smaller girls. my thighs used to rub together and cause chub rub/damage to some clothes around that area so i thought it might be relevant, but i guess that was silly. thank you for your input
Ed anon please check your email.
>>9916047If you're the girl that posted the same picture oriented weird, don't worry about it I don't think anyone /really/ cares>tfw got the popcorn out thinking I was about to read someone being hissy about not being drawn or getting criticism or something
>>9915670This is good advice.It took me literally 20-something years to learn this. I wasn't making many new friends and I realize now it was because I was trying to find people who liked every single thing I did. As you get older, this gets less and less possible. Have friends for different things, anons. It's soo much easier.
>>9916182This isn't intended as sarcastic as it might sound, and I suggest you get help if you can't stop on your own instead of waiting for this to happen, but here is a thing I learned to be true:Become poor. Get cut off. Spend all that money and find out what's it's like to not be able to buy normal food and worry about having to worry about having a roof over your head. You'll learn. You have to when the bank account hits its limit.I buy in anxiety as well as sad feelings. Gives me something positive to think about. But I learned to be responsible the hard way, and altrough it sucks, experiencing it is the best teacher. When you know what's its like to have nothing and vent for yourself you'll make less stupid decisions. Either that, or you'll end as a hoe or something similar. Responsibility becomes a very nice choice suddenly.
>>9916217fake your own death
>>9916182>what worked for you?I went bankrupt.
>>9916182Set a budget limit that you ABSOLUTELY cannot go over (shipping cost and taxes included in the limit). Limit your buying to once every 2 months or even more time. Find a different coping mechanism (gym, running, swimming, dance, friends). But as >>9916335 said, the best way to learn to manage your money is to not have any. When you get cut off you'll have to crash-learn, so it's better to start now so you won't suffer.
>decide to get into cosplay again after ~5 years>all my favorite wig and cosplay stores are dead or on their last clearance sale with wigs from 2013 animeIt's an abstract kind of feel
>>9916028Yes, as long as you mogged them with either your massive titcow udders or perfectly firm and petite breasts. Otherwise never go back.
>Get mugged at work>Get stabbed>Recovery makes me lose job>Move back in with parents>Take odd jobs apply for college>Actually get in>Sell most lolita for tuition>Get scholarship last minute>Pick up cosplay again>Followers double in a month>Life is good
Had a dress custom made while I am losing weight cause man I just really love lolita fashion and I still wanna wear it even though I'm pretty heavy atm. Process takes way longer than anticipated and now that the dress has arrived its way too big. It's a conflicted feeling, I mean I'm happy I lost so much weight already but now I have yet another dress I can't wear.I'm gonna get it taken in, I just wanna wear pretty dresses again.
>>9916401best response desu, really the only two kinds of boobs that matter
>>9916410>get mugged at work
>Packed up all my J-Fashion stuff because I'm living abroad and can't take it with me>Feels bittersweet>Feel like a weight has been taken off my chest that I didn't know existed, but sad that I feel that way>Am studying in Japan though, so can buy it if I miss it hugely
>>9915900New Vegas is still a popular game, especially if you do a popular character or armour. NCR Ranger outfit comes to mind.
>>9915900>>9916442do it bro, I wanna do a Ranger for NYCC this year.
>>9916294much appreciated, i still feel like an autist though. i get legitimately stressed irl remembering shit like that, where's that meme with the kitty paw?
>>9916467Well the good thing about being anonymous is the fact you can just stop posting and pretend it wasn't you who fucked up, and unless you continue to dwell on it and post about it, no one will know it was you.
>>9916028Big deal. Two girls in my comm have banged my bf and I go back every week.
>>9915699I will fight your dad. Believe in your dreams anon, and just know your dad is a fucking lowlife that doesn’t deserve happiness.Some feels> G-sized titties despite being 10lbs from underweight> Finally have the courage to tell my boyfriend I want a reduction> He’s completely supportive, so is best friend and parents> Parents offer to contribute to the surgery (I can pay for it myself, but the offer is sweet)> Emailed the surgeon to make an appointment todayThis has been years in the making, but I am super excited. My breaking point was that my lolita has trouble zipping half the month because my breasts swell, and they’ve been slowly getting larger. My classic-loving ass will finally be free.
>>9916209Story of my life
>>9916036Are you me? Even at my most ana-chan, any pics taken below my boob line are double chin central.
>>9916022Man I just really love your Mr Yan bodypillow
My mom recently found out I'm bulimic and started monitoring my eating and bathroom breaks after. I get it's for my own good but it's making me really stressed out because I'll gain weight and my favourite dresses won't fit me anymore, especially since I'm still not at my target weight either. I'm also really uncomfortable with how much I'm being watched, it's making me anxious, can't move out anytime soon either. seriously want to die
>come to cosplay for cosplay threads>in the last few weeks, lolitas have invaded every thread I kind of liked on here>they just shitpost like crazy about people they hate and derail the shit out of everythingwhy are lolitas so fucking bad? like, they don't want to let cosplayers have anything I guess.
>>9916624What cosplay threads do we even go in? Most of us aren't even interested in your boring shit. Sorry you're dying out and we've been using the board rather than letting it go to waste. Learn to share or go suck Hiroyuki's dick and maybe he'll give you a board of your own.
>>9916598God just take it to lolcows feels thread. Your eating disorders are barely cgl related and you know it.
>>9916598I understand the feel. It sucks real bad when one of your parents is watching you non-stop.However, I want you to know that being bulimic is not good AT ALL. I'm going to go cliché on you but seeing a therapist might help. I hope everything gets better for you.
>>9916624Go to the archives around 2010 and say that again. We are harmless compared to the sheer shitpost festival this board was when the majority were cosplay threads.
>>9916598Please get help anon. Don't die.
>>9916625in recent times, the Bad Cosplay thread, the Crossplay thread, the Anime Midwest threads, the Chicago area threads, and the Cosplay help threads have all had lolitas come in and shitpost to derail the threads recently.>>9916629you make it sound like lolitas deserve to be cunts and bags of shit now.you're derailing cosplay threads with your fucking drama you cunts. fucking knock it off. I get that you hate cosplay and think you're better than cosplayers, but you have to share the fucking board with us. It's bad enough the janitors are biased and let lolitas do whatever the fuck they want
>tfw I started getting double chin at a BMI of 18.5Shit sucks. I hate how my face is the first to put on weight if I get anywhere near normal weight. I've got such bad asian moon face and i hate it. I can't even work it off. I'm not plum chan but think of my face as slightly stretched out in photoshop in comparison to hers and you get the idea. Also doublechin, fuck.
>>9916635You can get lipo for your chinflab you know.
>>9916642im chicken and hate the idea of surgery unless it's urgent. its entirely my neuroses but yeah.
>>9916643It's not like you're really doing anything but sucking out fat, and it's not a large area like your stomach or arms so it should heal faster. Stop being such a little bitch.
>>9916644That's a really inspiring argument for lipo but nah, I'm good, thanks tho.
>>9916647>I'm goodThen why are you bawwing about your non /cgl/ related fatchin feel?
>>9916217You're stuck for it unless you want to be blacklisted by baby. If you don't really want the stuff, resell as soon as the items arrive.
>>9916635I know that feel. :( I dont have moonface, but often i feel like i have a double chin. shit sucks, i wish i had a cute chin.
>>9916217How the fuck do you accidentally check out.
>>9916648Chill out anon it's the feels thread, that's why they're "bawwing" and appearances are heavily related to both cosplay and jfashion
>>9916656I was in a blouseless coord (summer) and they feel out.
>>9916633I'd understand being upset over lolitas in the Bad Cosplay thread and the Cosplay help thread, but the area/con threads are fair game. The crossplay thread isn't even just a crossplay thread it's also for crossdressing, so that's fair game too. Lolitas can go in there. I haven't checked the other threads but but the cosplay help thread looks pretty on topic and the criticism in the crossplay/crossdress thread is perfectly reasonable.
>>9916697the problem is something I brought up in the last threadthe midwestern/chicago lolita comm has ALWAYS derailed and shit up any attempt the midwestern gulls have had to organize meets or make threads for local cons. We just had a thread for Anime Midwest get derailed because lolitas threw a fucking temper tantrum that there was no tea party even though the organizers had a primarily lolita based convention 6 months beforehand and said this one was anime themed.they shit up the thread so much that they claimed the con chair was a pedorapist and he had to actually fucking come in to dispell rumors about the convention. Our entire experience dealing with them has been a shitshow where they never really let us have anything without their constant bitching about "itas" and "normies". We're fucking sick of them. We're fucking sick of lolitas turning every single fucking thing into drama, especially when they make 0 effort to come to our meetups and always trash them after, even though none of them actually fucking showed up.Lolitas are cancer anon
>>9916706the guy who runs AMW is a sexual harasser. nothing is lost with no major lolita events. just wait for the Midwest Megameet. at least we won't have thirst lords cosplaying Goku creeping us.
>>9916706It sounds like you're really invested in anonymous opinions about your cosplay group on a Chinese basket weaving board especially since they don't bother you much IRL - ie, they never come to meets. You need to take a break from 4chan.
I'm a nosy bitch and want to know what happened in a group of girls from a nearby comm to make them stop being friends, and obviously there's no tactful way to ask for drama details.
>>9916719no, I just would like to have a fucking thread about a local convention without lolitas getting pissed off and derailing it. They're pissed off so they decide no one gets to have anything.Really reflects poorly on the Chicago and Midwest Comm that they keep doing this to Chicago area threads on here
>>9916715>no major lolita eventsKopf literally just held a convention in December with 4 japanese brands as guests, and multiple tea parties and fashion shows. I didn't hear any fucking whining then, it's just when he says "ok it's time to give anime fans and cosplayers attention" that y'all start throwing a fucking tantrum.
>have an Instagram where I post pics of events I attend>haven’t gone to one in a while>keep thinking “well, surely someone will post an album of cosplays from the event”>most of the time, I can hardly find picsFuckAt least I will be free to go to cons again in July
>>9916683It's not related to lolita or jfash. fuck off. this shit is why feels threads get derailed so often
>>9916728Honestly I think the biggest issue is literally that cons have in the past been a good way for lolitas to meet, especially ones who are also equally interested in jfashion, cosplay, etc. When some of the only venues available to us are ran by people who don't care about us, who are preying on the young cosplayers, and are running cons that could honestly be a hundred times better, I'd rather not go and support that. I want to feel welcome and I want my cosplay friends to feel safe! I don't care if they stop hosting lolita stuff, couldn't care less desu. I just don't think they're good people
>>9916693>Doesn't wear a sheer blouse>Can't handle wearing a halter topShowing your comm your tatas is probably the least of your problems desu
>>9916779Kopf literally held a convention 6 months ago with a large Lolita focus. Idk what you're hammering on about "doesn't care about us" when he just featured 4 brands at his last major con and bringing up some predator shit when it's all based on a Tumblr post about a police report where charges were never pressed.
>>9916785Nayrt but Honestly I know the whole blouseless coord thing blah blah blah and it makes sense but also I feel like usually the people who complain about it have never been in swampy ass regions where anything you wear is going to get soaked in sweat if it's more than 1 layer thick. Dry heat is completely understandable, you should wear blouses, and it can keep you cool, but in 100 degree, 90% humidity weather I refuse to wear more than a jsk, hoop petti and short socks desu >in b4 baitI will literally suffocate from heat stroke if I coord "properly" in the summer, kill me abt it
>>9916791Okay kopf-chan if that's what you want to take from my concerns :V
The man who sexually assaulted me when I was wearing lolita has messaged me wanting to meet, and I haven't been able to stop crying several days later
>>9916797This is just the worst, I'm so sorry anon and I worry for your safety. I hope you don't run into him and I hope he leaves you alone, you'll be in my prayers...
>>9916797If you need anyone to talk to or if you're in IL and need a gull to break a mans neck let me know
>>9916217Doesn't baby only send you the shipping cost once they've confirmed your stock and sent you the invoice? Unless you're talking about Baby SF, I'm not sure if they work differently but either way you're probably stuck with it now anon.
>>9916633You say this as if cosplayers don't shitpost in lolita threads to derail them>hurr fat girls shouldn't cosplay>do you girls wear this shit outside of conventions>is this some lolicon shit??Yet you don't see us crying about meanie cosplayers bullying us and ruining threads.
>>9916222I’m mostly home from the con. Now that the con is over, all my anger is coming through. I want to grab this bitch by her greasy hair and drag her Asherbee-rat-hybrid face across the pavement. I don’t get angry easily but I’ve never met someone so self-centered and psycho. I’m going to post everything that happened with her this weekend in the horror story thread after I finally get some sleep. Basically, key points from today/tonight:>She did let us get in her car>We did make it across the border>She dumped us in a random Meijer parking lot that was still hours from our house
>>9916693>not wearing a braBE GONE THOT
Anyone ever have extreme misfortune in lolita?Saturday alone I saw a dead wolf outside the meet and later I got kicked in the crotch. By accident?
>>9916635not cgl related, take it to your blog
>>9916917Idk if this is extreme but I spilled onions sauce down the front of my dream dress the very first time I wore it out and didn't realise for a few hours. Thankfully it washed out after a few tries, still have the dress seven years later. I've learned to cover my lap with a napkin just in case.
>>9916940idk why it corrected onions sauce to onions, new filter?
>>9916940no idea why it corrected s..o..y.. to onions, this has to be the weirdest filter I've seen on 4chan to date
>>9916792>East-Asian has high humidity. Sometimes over 75%.>traditional East Asian wear has sleeves, some even long ones for summer>lot of modern people still wear sleeves every day, also in summer.>Japan (part of East-Asia) made up lolita, and altrough some don't care, there are enough who do always wear sleeves of some sort no matter heat or humidity.I stick to a point I made more early. Blouseless is an aesthetic choice. If you learn what fabric and cut to wear which season, you're actually better off with sleeves than without. They protect you from sun and can keep a layer of non humid air trapped in between making you feel less warm. Only reasons people have this is that many Westeners have the misconception that less clothes always means you're less hot no matter the circumstances.
>>9916940>>9916943lmao Afaik it's from /fit/ so you can thank them for that. Glad you managed to clean your dream dress though!
>>9916948>They protect you from sunSunscreen. Sunscreen, anon. I appreciate your dedication to the aesthetic but there's no point in suffering if you can't deal with long sleeves in the heat. To be honest, I'm pretty shocked that we're still having this discussion in 2018. It's clothes, not a uniform.
>>9916953>my dedication for aestethic>by noting the right sleeves make a person less warm even in humid weatherSorry, sunscreen doesn't make me less warm in humidity, so it's not as useful as using the right sleeves. Also, direct sunlight feels warm, that's also part of the protection I mean. Sunscreen doesn't stop that warm, after a while burning feeling when you have to walk in full sun.I don't even hate blouseless. I do hate bad coords tho. And sadly, a lot of blouseless coords are bad. But there are also those I like. Generally, those are styled to be blouseless instead of looking like you just forgot the blouse.The only thing I'm hating on is this endless argument of "but it's too warm for sleeves", because it's simply not true if you grab the right garment and itas use it as an excuse to try to get away with a bad outfit way too much.>shocked people in a fashion community care about looks.Kek
>>9916953>>9916966Nayrt, speaking as someone who lives in a very hot and humid climate, if the heat is really bad I ditch the blouse and wear a lace or chiffon shawl on top to cover my shoulders. It looks good, provides a shield between my skin and the unbearable sun (also important: a parasol), and keeps me cool with the lightest breeze. The blouseless JSK look is actually acceptable in my comm because of the local climate, but it definitely feels much nicer to wear some other garment rather than just a JSK.
>>9916966Have fun sweating all over your brand, I guess.
>>9916972But if you wear something like a shawl you're still making my point. As you said, it still provides the protection, which is part of the reason I do recommend wearing it. And I agree, parasols are great.And like I said, I'm not against blouseless coords in general. There are some i really love. I'm against using it as an excuse for a bad, unfinished looking outfit while if you choose the right blouse (or other things that cover) the heat is easier to stand, not harder. >>9916974Have fun staying an ita with bad excuses who'll keep hearing to wear a blouse. I'm fine btw, no sweaty brand after years even tho I wear something covering my arms.
>>9916979Shawl anon here - I wasn't arguing against your point, I was agreeing with you. Notice I ended my post with>it definitely feels much nicer to wear some other garment rather than just a JSK.
In a few days, I have to make a decision on whether to go overseas for university and what to study at university (in my country, university starts at 19 for most). Frankly I'm at a loss. I'm trawling through forums but every sector seems so saturated. I want to earn decently to afford brand, but with the amount of competition out there and my grades, I don't think that dream is possible anymore. I'm starting to realise how sheltered I've been and that I should've worked harder.
>>9916990Oh anon you're still so young, don't think your dream is impossible just yet. Do you have anyone you can consult about this? Someone who actually knows what they're talking about?I can't advise you on what you should do, other than the fact you shouldn't give up on your dreams so soon.
> Ywn meet a cute but extremely tall girl who cosplays and get to bully her because none of her outfits fit correctly
>>9915735> Lose a solid 8lbs in less than weekwhats your secret
>>9917067Become depressedmostly water weight though
>>9917075I'm already depressed but gained 6kg insteadguess I'm doing it wrong
>>9915648I'd so watch that channel, anon. Follow your dreams, I believe in you!
I hate summer. I want to do a cute bikini cosplay, but as soon as it gets hot I get the world's worst butt acne. It doesn't hurt so I don't notice it but it's so unsightly. It's also ruining my confidence when I go on dates. I don't know why it happens, I've had it since childhood and I shower every day and straight after exercise. I'm so frustrated.
>>9916983Excuses. I was only half awake and the "my comm is fine part" confused me in my half sleeping condition. Reading now I'm awake makes it clear you where agreeing. Have my apologise.
>>9917094Maybe it's sunallergy instead of acne? Sunallergy causes red bumps and I never had any notable feeling from it either, and it would explain how you only have it when it's getting warm (as long as it's getting warm because of sun).I got it this summer, it sucks.
>>9917109That sucks so bad, I'm sorry you got it too. Fuck summer. I think mine might be that or a heat rash. It's so bad, I'm considering just wearing an older and less revealing cosplay to my local con. Also I've been seeing a new girl and I'm really scared because I was planning to sleep with her after pride but my butt is too embarrassing.
>>9916888Is she a borderline? Sounds like a borderline. Post some of her unflattering shots to fph.
>>9917094>>9917109Could be a sweat allergy/irritation too. Does your butt get sweaty in the summer (nbd, if you live anywhere south of the 60th parallel it's gonna happen in the summer).I only ask because when I was younger I did karate, and would sweat underneath those plasticky-covered foam pads you had to wear. Wherever the pads touched the skin, I would get a bumpy rash after sparring and getting hot and sweaty
>>9917079stop eating your feelz ffs.
I like the heat. It feels good
>He say "Do you love me?">I tell him, only partly.>I only love my brand and Misako, I'm sorry.
>>9916917My friend almost walked in front of a bus wearing melty donut.>>9916943The turbo-neckbeards of pol, r9k, and tv use "s*y" or "s*yboy" as an insult to non-neckbeards. It was originally about SJWs, but now it extends to anyone who didn't hate Last Jedi enough.
>>9917190A good friend of mine literally got red in the face angry with me because I didn’t hate TLJ as much as he did. I didn’t especiallly like it, but I didn’t hate it hard enough to rant about it for 20 minutes and that actually made him angry. What the fuck, though.
>>9917190I understand blah blah estrogen blah blah blah pseudoscience, but man, fuck them for taking the word to describe my favorite bean away.
>>9917198just type soi. how often would you actually write s o y on 4chan
>>9916917I was standing behind our comm stenographer when she pooped in her thong diaper.
Threadly reminder that classic lolita is superior>sweet lolita is literally abdl fetish wear>goth lolita worships a sissy fetish guyYou know classic always wins baby
>>9917213Classic is garbage grandma fetishizing. Try again. Sweet is the most popular for a reason.
>>9917216Sorry you still have unresolved daddy issues, sweaty <3
>>9917213Lick my fuzzy, diapered cunt.
>>9917224Sorry you're an old saggy grandma
I may have just torpedoed the best long term relationship because I said stupid shit while streaming drunk with buddies, I thought my so had gone to bed so I was talking to friends about how I thought it was silly he got upset about some shit or another it doesn't even matter, the point is he heard the whole thing and we haven't talked sinceNow I'm awake and sobor and ready to sudoku, fuck I'm such a retard why do I ruin everything good in my life this way
>>9917190>>9917193>>9917198Neckbeards ruin everything.
The worst part is I got him into cosplay, he is so handy and good with foam. Literally the cosplay SO dream. We were gonna do a couples thing at blizzcon, now I've got a halfway done bodysuit and I'm not even sure if we'll actually go because I couldn't just keep my stupid drunk mouth shut
>>9917251>>9917258What did you sayIs there any way you can talk it out with him
>>9917216Yeah it's popular because a lot of people have shit taste
Why is england losing
>>9916917I once crashed my motorscooter whilst wearing Holy Night Story. Shooting across the road as I came off may have scuffed up my bike gear; but there wasn't even so much as a pulled thread on the dress. I was super impressed.(To clarify, I wear full protective riding gear even in lolita. I would just have it so the skirt would always be on top of the trousers. It's hilarious to look at, but at least it's safe.)
>>9917259He got upset because someone I was in a tf2 lobby with was talking with me and like I get turbo aggressively friendly when I'm drunk and like I get people pming me all sorts of stuff when I play online and I guess I didn't really discourage this dude pmingBf is kind of insecure about himself but really cute but that was the first thing that kind of upset him and I get that, I should have reeled the friendliness in but I was like a growler deep at that pointThen after he said he was going to bed I told my friends about the whole thing which made him super upsetAnd that's how I ruined my 7 year relationship in one night of drinkingI'm kind of an awkward sperg so idk what even to do at this point except like give him some space, I've already apologized because honestly what I said and did ended up being the shit that got his insecurities with laser precision even though I didn't mean to
>>9917117Ehh desu, my lifestyle changed a lot in the past year and was the main contributor to my weight gain. I'm starting to impose some habits I used to have on myself again but lack of motivation gets in the way and being depressive and lonely makes me snack on things I shouldn't.I do miss being thinner and fitting my cosplays/clothes way better, I just need to get motivation and enough self esteem to care enough. Someday
Got sick over the weekend. I've got shit to do, but I should take it easy. I better be over this in time for next weekend's meetup. Bleh. No energy and I want to try on coords.>>9916943Wtf. This better not be a filter in /ck/
>>9917270Same here gull, I hope you get well soon! There's some kind of gross sinus infection going around my office, and despite my constant use of hand sanitizer I guess I couldn't avoid it.Lots of rest, cabbage soup, and carolina reaper beef jerkey have been my saviors the past few days.
>>9917268I gained a fuckload of weight when I had to be on prednisone for a horrible eczema outbreak, I legit put on 35lbsIf you can cut down snacking and sneaky calories like sodas, juice, etc along with even being a little active that will make a huge difference. I'm still skinnyfat because I'm horrible at actually going to the gym but I did get back down to my pre-prednisone weight by cutting full calorie soda and between meal food
>>9917262Because we always do. Also, nice /cgl/ feel m8
>>9917262Still tied man, got 15 more mins
>>9917266>I'm kind of an awkward sperg so idk what even to do at this point except like give him some spacesounds like you need to do the opposite honestly
I'm super fucking tired of people mini-moddiong and getting their panties in a bunch over "not cgl related" but otherwise harmless feels that clearly aren't bait. Crossposters suck, but the feels thread has ALWAYS had cosplayers and lolitas venting problems that aren't always directly related to cgl. Honestly, if you're a cosplayer or a lolita, your feels are cgl related. Where else can they anonymously share feelings with like minded people??
How did "dragon dildos" become so closely associated with lolita fashion?
Why are lolitas so fucking disgusting? During the winter when I was still a new babbylita I purchased a jsk described as "very good" off of lacemarket. It looked kind of dingy to me but I didn't have the mind to check for damages because I was dumb and new, and figured the print was just like that because why would a seller lie, right? I never wore it and just put it in my closet.Recently I finally decided to wear it and upon inspection it's fucking covered in random yellow streaks, tiny stains, and greyed areas. I tide pen'd some of the yellowing out which just pissed me off more because they aren't even all difficult damages to get out, the seller was just too nasty to clean her shit. I'm going to throw it in the wash and see what happens.It pisses me off because this isn't even the first time this has happened to me, it's just the worst case. So many sellers list their shit as "like new" or "very good" and say there aren't any damages then the piece arrives with pilling or stains or whatever else. I always try to detail every little damage on my listings and I'm pretty sure me listing stuff as "minor damage" because of a tiny stain instead of just saying it's "like new" like every other dishonest seller puts people off from buying my things.
>>9917266I don't think you should "give him some space", I think you should try talking to him about it, explain to him what happened, etc. you've been together for 7 years, right? you should know that being honest to each other is important in a relationship.
>>9917326>listing stuff as "minor damage" because of a tiny stain instead of just saying it's "like new" like every other dishonest seller puts people off from buying my thingsI don't know, I list any and all damage that my items have and price them accordingly, and people buy them no problem even though they're damaged. I'm actually having issues selling some pieces that are actually in very good and like new condition; not sure why, but here we are.I've yet to have the misfortune of getting a disgusting piece in the mail but I've heard plenty of horror stories about people sending their shit in absolutely horrid state, or just openly admitting that they never wash their clothes supposedly because they think brand is going to fall apart in the wash. Vile.
>>9917324I'm looking to get a BD dildo, any recommendations?
>>9917333Get the T Rex one.
>>9917331True, that last part was more just me trying to find something to be mad at because my stuff hasn't been selling as quickly as it normally does. I honestly would prefer if people just said they don't wash their stuff in their listings. It makes it easier for both of us. I'd obviously expect it to be priced accordingly though.
>>9917335>T-rex oneLink? I could use a laugh
>>9917335alright, thank you friend
>>9917337It's okay I get it. It's alright, it takes some patience sometimes.And yeah, see, saying that they didn't wash their piece and pricing it fairly is the right thing to do, but I imagine they're too embarrassed or too greedy to admit that their expensive frilly piece is dirty or damaged and lose money on it. It's shitty but some people are like that, unfortunately.
>>9917266You need to talk to him about it.It's natural to get jealous, but the better and more mature action to do about this jealousy is to talk about it, and talk about what you can change from both ends to make it work. I'm not going to preach black/white here, because it's always more complex than 'my bf doesn't like me talking with other guys therefore i can't talk to them' or 'dump his ass,' but you need to be honest with each other about what made him mad, if it's reasonable, and what you both will do in the future to resolve this conflict.
>>9917342Are nsfw links allowed here? You can find it by simply googling "bad dragon t rex".
>>9917353>google it>confronted with a video of a guy showing its as long as his arm and three times as thick before shoving it all the way in his assJesus. Anyway, as long as you don't post the pic I've seen others link NSFW shit before.
I got major attention in the feels thread month back. Today all of the good advice finally paid off. I have bangs now. Thank you /cgl/I took the advice to think happy thoughts whenever confronted with a mirror. The sheer effort of doing just that showed how deeply ingrained my self hatred of my face was. But... I feel better now.Today at the hairdresser she remembered me. Last time she cut my hair was a year ago, so I'm very impressed. I put my trust in her, and the bangs came out great! To be fair I used verbs like "fear" when discussing how to make them and what kind to get. But she understood my point, so my new bangs are super light and fluffy. I'm touching them a lot.I thought another horizontal line would make my face look more square. It turns out that my glasses and bangs combined actually makes my chin look less square. It's like my old long hair, swept behind my ears, made this vague pyramid illusion of my face. With that gone, I feel like the triangle has been flipped vertically. Things could not have turned out better.This post feels a bit disorganized, but the anons who know will know. The other anons who told me to go see a doctor for dysmorphic-stuff, I know you meant well. Either way, I'm so grateful I got to connect with you all. I am cuter in bangs!
>>9917366I didn't see your original post, but this one makes me feel fluffy inside. Happy for you.
>>9916972See I do agree with >>9916966 about how a lot of blouseless coords do look like they forgot their blouse. I think if it's styled right and there is thought into it, it shouldn't have nitpicks about OMG NO BLOUSE! it's like picking a blouse, you pick the wrong one, it won't look good. I think it's more than an aesthetic choice though, I personally will overheat and end up pretty sick if I wear a bunch of layers (partially because i have a low body temp, I overheat fast and anything touching me feel like I'm suffocating). But I plan my coord according to the weather. If it is cool enough for me to wear a jsk with a blouse I will, otherwise I'll go blouseless or wear a short sleeve op.
>>9917366I remember you! I'm glad you took the plunge and tried out bangs, and I'm so happy to hear that you're enjoying your new hair style! I'm sure you look fabulous!
>>9915619I'm feeling increasingly out of place too. Is this what a midlife crisis feels like?
Honestly people who shit on others for no reason need to reevaluate themselves. Why the negativity on people who haven't hurt you?
Everything in my life is going so badly right now i can't even enjoy lolita. I dont even dress cute everyday like i usually do and i started crying myself to sleep again.
>>9916182Stop browsing sites for weeks at a time and find something else that consumes your time. Pride yourself on having not bought anything and saving money instead, especially when you hear about people in your comm talking about spending the last of their money on lolita. It should make you anxious to hear about people in poor financial situations, and make you feel good about your restrictive spending habits and subsequent savings. Personally, I love to feel smug about my fat savings account that doesn't *really* need to go anywhere specific at the moment from having stopped browsing sites and buying all the time.
>>9916948East-Asians don't sweat or smell nearly as much as Europeans.
>get told that my nose is ugly and the tip is too big for my face and my lower eyelids are puffy>I've never noticed this before>It's all I see when I look in the mirror anymore>Really, really unhappy with how I lookI asked for an honest appraisal but I did not expect this.
>>9917699lmao the delusion
>>9917707>delusionI have a bunch of east-asian friends, have an east-asian girlfriend and live in east-asia.
>>9917707They don't though... South East Asians sweat/smell about the same amount though.
>>9917707"While only 2 percent of Europeans lack the genes for smelly armpits, most East Asians and almost all Koreans lack this gene, Day told LiveScience.No one knows exactly why gene prevalence varies so much between populations, but its absence in East Asia suggests that being stinky was evolutionarily selected against there over the last several thousand years, he said."https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/people-without-underarm-protection/
>mfw my lolita IG account gets flooded with shameless spam followers after I comment on Emilia Clarke's instagram like a normieTicks me off because every time I have a follower i get excited and then I find out it's some MLM bullshit.
>>9917721It clearly evolved to assert our dominance over the noses of others. Nobody is gonna wanna fight me if I shove their face into my rank pits
been depressed as hell for the past year, nothing is going well for me, start getting into rock and metal- just slightly. suddenly i miss my all black wardrobe from my middle school days. what is wrong with me. sweet lolita going goth is kind of bizarre, not that I have the will to go through that change though but i cant help and be a little happy when i look at goth coords
>>9917811Sweet lolita to goth isn't bizarre at all anon, I know a lot of sweet lolitas who are super into metal and dress in gothic fashion outside it. If you want to switch to gothic lolita you could always try out wearing "edgier" sweet pieces first with motifs you'd see in gothic like coffins, crosses etc and see how you like it on yourself before deciding if you'd like to take the plunge, or maybe give yourself the courage to do it.
>>9917347Meanwhile, on Japanese secondhand market:>I once coughed in the same room as this dress>Better sell it for 4000 yen because it isn't new anymore
>get crush on girl in my commute>feel guilty and tell bf>"alice? yeah i like her too">we both discuss lewd fantasies of her>ends with me roleplaying as her in bed wearing a dress she owns>feel super guilty after but I enjoyed itwtf even is this, i don't really want to BE her...at least my bf bonded with me over this
>>9917830And this is why the Japanese market is superior to LM.
>>9917811I ran a metal/punk diy venue, my favorite bands are mostly heavy slam/sass/grind and i wear sweet and other hyper girlie styles. I go back and forth with my styles, and id like to practice coording sweet with a more edgy undertone to it in the future
I realized a dress I loved so much before I bought it looks god awful on me and I'm mad I have to sell it
>>9917326That's why you don't trust people and inspect proof foto's really well. Unless it's a company like wunderwelt and closet child I expect second hand wear to be described badly.Maybe exception if I know the seller.Also, I leave honest feedback. If you deliver me something undescribed that can't be the postal office fault (you can see the difference if you pay attention), I'm gonna tell it in your feedback.
>>9917833I have a pretty comm friend named Alice. I'm now going to be suspicious of everyone else in the comm. Thanks.
>>9915600> Amateur photog> Look at how bad old photos look> reeeeeeeeeeeI mean it's good that I improved as much as I could but noticing the problem areas now...
>>9917366Anon this makes me so happy! It's really amazing what a good hair style can do for someone's self esteem. I had really bad self esteem issues my whole life until I finally cut my hair how I wanted to and got bangs and it made a world of difference. I always just got my hair cut how people suggested because I figured they knew better than me but I'm so glad I started cutting it how I like it. Bangs make me feel so cute I'm glad yours make you feel cute too!
>>9915904I hope you find some way through your struggles. I don't know how, but you will. The only way we can go is forward.
>>9917366Show us a picture!
>>9917366Show us a picture anon! I really want to try bangs myself but I'm far too afraid of asking for them, and even more afraid of what my parents would think of me if I did it. I get enough trouble from them for long hair as it is.Would we be able to see how yours were done? You can blur out the face, I'm just very curious what your hair looks like.
>>9917699Even for those for who it's true (there has been talk about some gene that makes them sweat less which is reasonably common in Asians), that still doesn't change the things I said and that it would help Westerners jus as well. If you actually read you notice using the right sleeves (fabric and cut) help keep you cool, which means your body will sweat less to begin with because you're not as warm as it would be when held directly in the humid air and direct sunrays.Showing more skin is a reasonable modern thing, and mainly a Western thing (and in the past, we didn't do it as much either, like I said, modern thing). But less clothes meaning feeling less warm is a huge misconception. Considering that wearing sleeves made from the right material and in the right cut (or else shawls, capes, etc) is actually better for staying cool, I do consider it an aesthetic choice to go without. And that's fine, but make it look good if you do.
Recently I've been feeling more acutely aware of my mortality and it's prompted me to purge my wardrobe. I'd been such a hoarder until now but realizing that I can't enjoy these clothes forever has made letting go easier. A little morbid maybe, but I've left instructions for my final coord. Idk if this is a sign of depression or anxiety flaring up again but hey it's cathartic.
>>9917266Geez what did you do, give a blowjob over a voice chat?I can't see anything being so bad that would put off an entire 7-year relationship just by being drunk on VC.
>>9916558This feels halfway to fetish b8 but best of luck anon
>>9918145I could definitely see getting super drunk and bitching about him to random people, while not doing anything about then flirting with you would torpedo a relationship.That's what girls who have had enough of their relationship do. Getting excessively flirty and drunk and reacting positively to guys talking shit about your boyfriend and flirting with you is definitely not ok.Though it's about an 80% chance this is a made up story because I can count on one hand the number of tf2 streamers who both play competitively and also cosplay and I doubt the op is one if those 3-4
>>9916410>recovery makes me lose jobMr. Shekelstein smells a lawsuit
Im just so miserable and depressed. I just want to fully cut myself off from society, gather up all my burando, and go live in a van down by the river.
>>9918162That would make you feel worse
>>9918155>play competitivelywhere in anon's story is this
>Make post about being a /fit/ crossboarder in a feels thread a while back, and how my cosplay options are limited because of my hair and eye color>Femgull responds with ">tfw no pyramid head bf" as an example of a great cosplay for someone like he>Look into doing him>Body dysmorphia kicks in>"Lul you're small dude, do you really think you could pull it off with those skinny arms">Get discouraged>Use that to hit the gym harderT-thanks random seagull>tfw no seagull gf
>>9918168>Tf2 lobbyLobbies are competitive pick up games
>>9917067I did keto and intermittent fasting. I walked 2 miles after dinner every day and didn't eat anything after that except drink water. I basically ate 4 times a day and that was it and stuck to a meal plan. >>9917075 is right that it was mostly water weight but it still felt good.Goodluck anon! I think the biggest contributor is snacking for most people because you don't think about it when you do it.
>>9918172Oh my, that was me. If it's any consolation, the only Pyramid Head that matters i.e. the one from SH2 isn't super muscular like the other ones, you can pull him off quite easily as long as you're toned.Either way though, please don't be discouraged anon, you can do it!
>>9918183But the guy in the movie was 7 feet tall and ripped.What kind of guy would I be if I said that the reason (and it would be) I'm not doing the swol pyramid heads was because I couldn't get big enough?
>>9918162Same. >>9918163 is right though. I think about deleting everything and crawling into a hole every time I’m having a particularly hard time but am always happy that I didn’t do it afterwards.
Dude I came to this thread with the intention of venting about my life but holy shit, just staring at the text box deciding where to begin overwhelmed me. I'm overworked, underpaid, and have some mental health issues that cause what most would call laziness when it comes to being healthy. It's more like apathy really, but I have these lucid moments where I'm so unhappy about my job and my weight and the overall 'state of things' that it makes me want to rip my hair out.Some days are better and I'll have the energy to cook some healthy meal prep for the week and maybe get a work out in, but I'm really not making any substantial progress with my weight loss and it's bugging me out. Sometimes I wish I could just cut all the fat off with scissors and throw it in the garbage.It sucks because I know what I need to to do lose the weight, but I just can't make myself do anything most days.
>>9916209what? how big are your breasts?
>>9918191Suit yourself anon-kun, it's your cosplay, but imo only basic normies go for the movie PH.
>>9918209Respond to my email already you fuckin' baka
>>9918211Misfire? Or just mistaking me for someone else. I never posted my email here.
>>9918212Brainfart, I posted in the wrong fucking thread too. I need to go to sleep
>>9918213Lmao good night anon, get some sleep, being sleep deprived isn't kawaii.
>>9918209>but imo only basic normies go for the movie PH.Patrician taste. The only way it could get any more patrician is if you also agree that SH4 was shit and the beginning of the end for the franchise
>>9918209>tfw Pyramid Head was the first ever fictional character I found attractive I guess things started going wrong early.
>>9918224I don't know if I'd call it shit, I actually prefer it over the garbage that followed it; but I do agree it was the beginning of the end of SH.>>9918230It's okay, you're not alone.
>>9918230>>9918236>first fictional videogame crush is someone who's first spotted violently abusing and raping obviously female figments of your subconscious guiltGood on you girls
>>9918243Hey now, no kinkshaming allowed in the feels thread. :^)
>>9918204Been where you are anon.My solution was to just stop eating until I stopped the weight, I'd recommend intermittent fasting if you don't want to worry about starving
>>9918250>kinkshamingYou fuckin' serious lad? I approve. (as I'm sure the missus herself would too)
>>9918258I'm the original PH anon - I like you.
>>9918272>that filenameI like you too, gull. Come play with me~
>>9917298>the feels thread has ALWAYS had cosplayers and lolitas venting problems that aren't always directly related to cglBut that's simply wrong, stop pretending like you were here from the start. It started out directly cgl related. Look at how it used to be only 4 years ago. Almost every single feel was directly cgl related, not just "I have depression/eating disorders/relationship drama btw con btw lolita dress". >>/cgl/thread/S7549873>Where else can they anonymously share feelings with like minded people??Literally any other imageboard you dumb newfag.
>>9918209>tfw basic normie in disguiseWhat can I make the sword out of so that it has some real weight while not being dangerous so it can actually go into cons?
>>9918288I'm sure you can find tutorials for that if you google them. If that fails, you should ask in the cosplay help thread.
>>9917833I just find this so damn funny for some reason
>>9918230desu, I love girls that look like they could die any minute. Pale and thin, but not spooky skeleton.
>>9918288Nylon with metal grip? Like BlackFencer wasters (see picture, you could dye the Nylon if you wish). These wasters have same weight and balance point as real federschwert, but are fake enough to not count as weapon.A real federschwert is too weapon-like for most weaponlaws, but if the con allows it, I would suggest thick, blunt, tempered steel like federschwert are.Note that these are training weapons and hit hard and get heavy if you have nothing to put them away at and carry them all day. But it's defiantly the least dangerous way to make a fake sword that has weight and such like a real sword.
Gave the majority of my lolita items to charity shops around my city today. Sure - I could have sold them but I simply couldn't tolerate the arses on sales groups/ lm. I hope that a random lolita slowly starts stumbling on them and loves every item as I once did.
>>9918313Nice, I started donating my lolita items too because people on lacemarket are too much of a hassle to deal with.
>>9918313It’s more likely that normies will buy them to use as costumes or turn into children’s clothes.
I'm a healthy weight but have a really big chest, so I've been trying to lose weight to shrink it down a few cms. I usually bind my chest for lolita so it looks more flattering on me. I was getting depressed since my weight on the scale went down but I haven't seen any visible differences on me, and almost gave up until today where I received one of my dream dresses as an early birthday gift and it fit me with room to spare to my shock without me having to bind, and prompted me to re-measure myself and find out my bust and waist both went down a couple cms!! a small thing but I'm geninuely overjoyed right now gulls, pic related
>>9918294I will anon, thanks.>>9918303This is very helpful as well, thanks a bunch.
>>9918313Thanks for the heads up anon, will keep an eye on goodwills online shop
>>9918327I'm not american, sorry!
>>9915699If you give up what you like, he wins. Don't let him win, anon.
>>9917520Please, try going to a doctor. Helped me. Been depressed for most of my life, but with the right meds I am finally getting better.
>>9917366I want bangs but I'm afraid to cut my hair because if it looks worse than now I have to wait for it to grow back. I don't know any hairdressers so I don't know who to use that won't fuck up and give me a cut that shows to much of my huge forehead.
>>9918358WHy not buy a cheap clip in fringe and experiment to see what looks good before you take the plunge?
>tfw all this pyramid head talk got me hot and botheredDamn it gulls
>>9918299Man you must love ashley isaacs
>>9918379https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P4kouEOE7OMGet in the closet and watch me?
My partner and I just got into a big fight because of something petty and she brought up me wearing lolita and how embarrassing it is to be seen with me because it makes me look like a six year old and I'm really fucking upset. Im thinking about just selling off my whole wardrobe, it's not even huge but I feel like I should stop while I'm ahead and end up with too many dresses
>>9918398i rarely jump to this answer, but dump her. She sounds nasty and unsupportive of your interests. If my parter hated my hobbies I'd leave them.
>>9918398What the fuck? Why would you sell your frills because your s/o took her anger out on you during a petty argument? That's not a reason to stop doing something you love, not at all. Talk to her and try to resolve it, it's entirely possible she said that in the heat of the moment and didn't actually mean it. If she did mean it well that's a whole other matter, but try to talk it out with her before you throw out your frills. Don't be impulsive, you'll regret it.
>>9918398>how embarrassing it is to be seen with me because it makes me look like a six year oldSweetcuck BTFO
>>9918410Whenever I see these posts I automatically assume they aren't made by people who actually wear lolita.
>>9918411Or would you rather be one of the ones out of the closet?
>>9918358Prenatal vitamins have been recommended for growing out bad haircuts. I have not used it, but heard about it on here. Consider it a backup of your hairdresser messes up.On that note, ask people you know if they can recommend a hairdresser. Family, friends, coworkers, most of them have hair after all. Or just check reviews online? You're stressing about pretty basic stuff.
>>9918431Inb4 'but prenatals cause constipation a-a-and are EVIL' anon shows up.
>>9918451M-making me hot and bothered now too...
>>9918463Start working on your Pyramid Head cosplay and fit muscles anon-kun, you terrible tease. I'll be your bubble head nurse and handler, if you're up for it. Can't guarantee that we're even in the same continent but you never know...
>>9918472>normie movie-version Pyramid HeadYou were doing so well
>>9918479There's only so much nice content for SH2 PH out there, please bear with me.
>>9918481Okay, I'll let you away with it for now. I'll get /fit/ just for you for the stand and carry
>>9918484I'm proud of you, anon.
Wait, is this a thread for finding vidya husbandos now? I'd like one Collector bf please
>>9918486Gotta drop that continent now, though.>>9918487Where do I find my Regina gf?
>>9918472I was the fit anon not him reeeeeeeeee... I am game for this though
Feels weird as a visitor from /vg/ seeing that even other parts of 4chan are full of people trying to hook up with other people. I've cosplayed as Eraserhead and Junko from DeSu2 but I wasn't happy with eithers quality so I can't say I'm cgl worthy. 4chan truly never changes, even when predominantly full of femanons.
>>9918527Nobody cares. Fuck off with your blogpost.
>>9917266update: all yesterday was some fresh hell but we had a good talk and things seem to be sort of OKHe clarified ending things wasn't on the table, that was just some fucked up shit I thought was happening. Feelings are still kind of hurt all around (he thinks he doesn't deserve me while I frantically try to explain that I wouldn't be here if I wasn't into him) but at least we're still together so I got that going for me, which is nice.
>>9918534>inb4 b4nny's gfSo weird hearing about tf2 on cgl though...
>>9918549Not really, there tends to be a thread that pops up once in a while, you are also now aware that tf2 is 10 years old.
>>9918527Everyone cares. Continue with your contributions.
>>9918559Extremely aware, I still play it because it's one of the few game I'm really good at. Played comp for quite a few seasons.Too bad the comics are probably never gonna get finished :(
>Have a gf who I absolutely love and adore with all my heart>But like most people, sometimes I fantasise over others>Have a secret pinterest on my computer that is filled to the fucking brim with a single cosplay/makeup artist/fashion girl who's quite popular and well known, at least on cgl>Gf is kind of close to how this girl looks but not exactly>Today she asked to use my computer for a second, nothing out of the ordinary>She goes onto pinterest>I'm still logged in>She didn't know I had a pinterest>Goes through my photos>"Anon, this is [girl's name] and why the fuck do you have hundreds of pictures of her?">I know at this point there's no chance of getting away with lying>Flat out tell her I find her attractive but it's just a fleeting fantasy, a celebrity crush at best.>She goes off the walls at me, crying and screaming that I don't think she's attractive and that I only chose her because she looks close to the girl, asks if I masturbate to her pictures>I don't know what to tell her, anything I say is just going to be thrown back at me. Tell her that I do actually enjoy how she dresses, does her makeup and her cosplays are really cool.>"Oh fuck off, you just get off to her. You only find me attractive because you want me to be her.">Just stay silent.>She says to me "You better fucking delete every single one of these before I get back or we're fucking done." and she storms out.So I just saved them all to my external hard drive and deleted my pinterest because I'm not getting rid of the pictures. I'm just kind of shocked at her reaction though, I thought girls would be understand of getting fantasies over others.
>>9918607>hundreds of pictures of a girl who isn’t a porn starthat is pretty fucking creepy anon
>>9918607Do not underestimate a woman's jealousy
>>9918607There's a line between having a celeb crush and saving hundreds of pictures of a girl who's semi popular in a fairly small niche community. You sound insane.
>>9918607ya that's weird bro, like jerking it to your facebook friends weird. just put yourself in her shoes and imagine her having a whole hidden album on her phone of a guy that looks like a slightly more attractive version of you that she flicks her bean to; that's how you made her feel.delete the pics brotha
>>9918607Please don't tell me it's Anzu
oh lol in that case bro you dumb af why don't you just follow her on insta or something
>>9918633Your gf was probably just upset about your shit taste
>>9918633>having an anorexic photoshophag as your waifuI hope your GF dumps you
>>9918636She shouldn't be. It because of my taste in women like Anzu that I like her. I like Anzu because she just looks like a different version of my girlfriend, not the other way around.
>>9918641You know what she looks like without the shoop right
>>9918646And you're saying your gf is less attractive? Has your gf been raped with the ugly stick?
>>9918649I didn't say she was less attractive at all. Just a different version. It's like saying my gf is less attractive without makeup. She isn't. It's just a different version of attractive of her.
>>9918651But anzu isn't attractive at all without the shoop. She looks like a dying balding rat
>>9918651Just to reiterate, you are attracted to this right?
>>9918652It's up your personal tastes mang. I think anzu is good looking with and without makeup.
>>9918655Sure. You can hand pick out really shitty pictures of her if you want, doesn't change anything.
>>9918656Yellow teeth bloated and balding so kawaii
>>9918607seriously it's one thing to have a celeb crush or to have a fleeting fantasy or something, but I think most people would be pretty creeped out to discover that their SO has hundreds of picture of some random internet person saved, especially if it's someone who looks very similar to them (at that point it's less like 'oh, I guess that's his type' and more 'why is he so obsessed with this girl/what does he like more about her/why am I not enough' etc.)do you not understand where she's coming from at all?
>haven't been to a con or been around cosplay people in years>get the urge to cosplay for an event this November>stick my head into /cgl/ for the first time in 4+ years>reminded why I hate seagulls and the vast majority of the online cosplay communityThanks for reminding me, I guess. Why are you guys still so mean to each other?
>>9918658The thing is, there are a ton of these. every single non shooped pic of her looks like shit. Are you really that dense?
>>9918662they're chicks bros, they're chicks
>>9918664That's just untrue. You're telling this to a guy who's gone through thousands of her pictures.If you find her ugly, that's fine.
>>9918666Most of /cgl/ is female. Feel free to leave if you dislike it.
>>9918666So am I, but it seems exhausting being so high strung and nasty to people on a regular basis.
>>9918667>You're telling this to a guy who's gone through thousands of her pictures.are you trolling? do you not understand at all why this sounds weird to others?
>>9918668i never said i disliked /cgl/, i'm just answering his question brotha
>>9918667>first it was hundreds>now thousandsLegit insane confirmed. I hope your GF breaks up with you ASAP.
>>9918669that's good, it sounds like you have a healthy level of self esteem brotha. keep on truckin
>>9918673>brothaFuck off to whatever board you came
>>9918671No I know it's weird but I think threatening to break up with someone because they like someone who they'll never meet in their life because the person looks a lot like yourself is an overreaction. I wouldn't be offended if my girlfriend found some guy who looked a lot like me attractive and save his photos. It'd be a little weird but in a cute "oh they like me that much" sort of way. Maybe I'm just retarded and she's right.She wasn't angry at the fact there were hundreds of images, just the fact there were images at all.>>9918674I've seen thousands, saved hundreds. Jesus.
phew what is up with the hostility bros, take it down a couple of notches
>>9918681>Maybe I'm just retardedwell at least you are right about something brotha
>>9918681Still doesn't make you any less insane anzustalker-anon>>9918682>brosAgain, fuck off to whatever board you came from. Or kys, either works.
>>9918660I get it, I do but the anger and jealousy I jusy thought was extreme.
>>9918684don't be so tsun tsun anon>>9918686do you not think having a couple hundred pictures of a girl you've never even met before being a bit extreme...?
>>9918684I understand from the outside it looks really weird but in my head it's just like an extension of how much I like my girlfriend. I do love her dearly.
>>9918690It is extreme. That's why I hid it because it's hard to explain without looking insane or that I want to cheat.
i'm sorry to tell you this bro but i think you might have autism
>>9918694That makes you sound even more mental. Every single thing you say sounds more and more batshit insane.
>>9918698Well then, give me advice on trying to make up to my girlfriend. She just wanted the photos gone but I'm going to assume she'll still be upset.
>>9918699Get therapy. Honestly you are so fucked in the head it's needed if you want to be in a relationship.
>>9918702That doesn't help the immediate situation.
>>9918705Nothing will help the immediate situation besides your hospitalization
>>9918707Did Anzu hurt you or something?
>>9918722No, you're just insane
>>9918633Seriously? Photoshopped to hell bulimia-chan? If I were your gf I would be more upset with your shit taste in spank bank material.
>>9918735I don't even jerk off to her. I don't if that makes it better or worse.
>>9918681From her point of view, it looks like you're with her because she looks like someone. If you can't step back and think things through her perspective, maybe it's best she leaves you.
>>9918403>>9918408So we talked and it seemed like she was putting her frustrations out on me because she had a bad day. We're both Borderline and tend to be a tad dramatic, but it seems like she doesn't hate lolita she's just not sure how she feels about me being 21 and wearing sweet pastel vomit dresses that cost an arm and a leg to afford. She's happy with me doing it as long as I'm happy and not wasting my money on dresses I'm not going to be happy with. Another thing she's been freaked about is how much attention I get while out in public. I'm nervous around people but I love the style so I'm not going to NOT wear it. I'm going to keep my sweet dresses I do have but I want to branch more into old school and gothic so I have more dresses that aren't as attention bringing but still subtly sweet and wear my AP prints to tea parties and meets or special occasions. Thank you guys and I'm sorry I sperged out. I listed a few of my shitty dresses and am going to save up for this btssb dress I really want! ^o^
Lmao heres a funny story>see sweet lolita at my local coord>Be me wearing classic lolita>Go up to her and say SNAP yep this ones going in my cringe compliation>she freaks out and breaks down in tears AHAHAH
>>9918755This sounds like it was written by someone who came from another board and lurked for a few days with no prior lolita knowledge
>>9918768My exact thoughts. Thanks for posting this, you made me laugh.
>>9918768butthurr sweet ita
>tfw no pale skin kemailst gf from Lycia or the Aegean coast
>>9918391>spooky skeletonSorry, I said almost dead, not back from the dead
>>9918681anon it sounds like she might be upset about you using her as a surrogate for another cosplayerSay I was with someone because they looked vaguely like brad pitt, do you understand how upsetting it might be to just be that to someone? Even if you don't mean it that way that's how it's coming off. Just delete the pics mang
>>9918836I already talked to her about it when she came back. I did my best to explain why I did it and she said she understands and thought it might have been something like that because she knows I am a bit strange but I've never done or said anything unfaithful before. She was just sad that I didn't talk to her and kept it hidden. If I wanted her to experiment with her clothes and makeup more, she said I should have just asked nicely rather than building up this imaginary version of her.So all-in-all it worked out. She understand that I didn't mean any harm by it, I apologised for hiding my feelings from her and both of us are going to go do some shopping for new makeup for her to try and going to look at some clothes online.
It's bizarre to save hundreds of photos of ANYONE hidden away like that - it isn't a crush, or a fantasy, it's a literal obsession by definition. It isn't a normal thing to do.I would assume that you also stalk the other aspects of her life.
Well this thread is way over the bump limit so I'm just going to throw this in the ring>Gf and I are having an at home drunk DnM>topic of sex>she asks me to tell her a fucked up fetish I have>Tell her I want to see her dressed up as Yuno, cut me during sex and lick my wounds>Apparently this was too far for her>She's avoided having sex with me for the past 3 daysIf you ain't prepared for the answer don't ask the question
>>9918851I'm not obsessed with Anzu. I'm obsessed with my girlfriend. I like Anzu aesthetically and her outward personality is pretty cool but that's as far as I care about her.
>>9918851Yeah man it's one thing having hundreds of photos of dresses or cosplays in general but why save her shit when you could just.. look at it on her social media? No offense by this but are you autistic because that's the only excuse I can give where that behavior is normal
>Trying to hook up with milf at work>She'd probably be patient with me for my younger dick and willing to cosplay
>>9918841Hahaha wait what, so you supposedly only like Anzu because she reminds you of your girlfriend, but now your girlfriend is doing stuff to look more like Anzu for you?>So all-in-all it worked outAre you trying to get your girlfriend's looks from 'unedited Anzu' to 'edited Anzu'?
>>9917004Nah, no one to consult. My parents believe I'll never make it to uni and their response to any requests for advice is always, "Ha. If you can make it." So...Yeah. I'll check it out if the teacher that is supposed to guide me is willing to do it anytime soon. She's been postponing it for the past 1.5 years.Thank you anon, I won't give it up. But I need to decide on what to major on soon and I'm still very lost.
>>9918841Good for you anon that everything is working out.Your gf seems like a good person and probably can do better than you.>building up this imaginary version of herThis is called a fantasy, anon. Stop trying to think in terms of "versions" and more in talking to your girlfriend about what you like and shit.>>9918853Now, being obsessed with your girlfriend isn´t nice or cute either.
>>9918945If you're dead set in really putting in the work now, a STEM degree is still great, especially tech./g/and /sci/ both have a lot of helpful anons, just lurk first and read the stickys for both
>>9918321Proud of u
>>9915600>Old cosplay partner/friend texts me to say he'll be in town and is going to visit me>It's been six years, I'm excited as fuck because we had amazing times together>He shows up and is a complete asshole, has no money for a hotel room or the theme park tickets we planned on>Wants to wander around Hollywood and Venice Beach instead>Doesnt want to go eat anywhere, brought cereal and milk apparently>Sleeps in his fucking car>Bitches about cons and the people that go to them>Brags about the anime club that he runs at the high school he teaches at>Just tell him I need to go to work that day and leave>Go to Happy Hour with coworkers and have a great timeI dont know whether he changed or I did, but it was awful to know that our stupid con escapades really are over for good.
>>9915600>Tfw your in senior year highschool but your too socially awkward to ask other people to go to cons with youI just want to do a konosuba group cosplay but dealing with the other gender is too scary to me.