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Fishing with friends Edition

>> No.9864074

good game
sad game

>> No.9864083
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>tfw a discord group is trying to monopolize these OPs
Row row fight the power

>> No.9864088

Feels thread revolution when

>> No.9864090

Why do guys go out fishing? It seems soooo boring

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>> No.9864099

cause they want fish

>> No.9864100

I want to get into nanchatte but IBS is making that difficult. I just got my first "real" nanchatte skirt today and it destroyed my stomach and I don't think it even looked very good on me. I thought nanchatte was suppose to be comfortable and casual but noooope. Fuck IBS. It made me give up on my Lolita fashion dreams and makes wearing anything remotely dressy or nice impossible.

I feel fat and ugly (and old), too. I hate being me. I'm about ready to give up on alternative fashion because even though I've been into it my entire life, obviously I wasn't fucking meant to be pretty or cute or cool. My wardrobe is a mess, my body is a mess, and I don't even know what I want anymore.

>> No.9864103

Trying to make sure that a certain thread gets created ONLY by a discord usergroup is about as retarded as tripfagging for the purpose of identity on 4chan
I don't even hate Discord

>> No.9864112

Me too. My ex rommates were all about getting married and giving a birth, they could talk about that all day long. They were so deprecating about every single thing. I moved out, but I feel like that words just stucked in my head. Whenever I see kids around I feel that "why the fuck you don't want them" in my mind. When I look at lolita, I feel them making fun of me or saying I'd better get those for my kid. They fucking poisoned every thing I liked, so I basically don't want anything anymore. I feel nothing, just kinda trying to spend my time the way I can. Being alive is so gross.

>> No.9864115 [DELETED] 


Having a Discord group make threads ensures a certain quality and that duplicate threads don't get made accidentally. Discord group means that new threads get made right away when a thread reaches the posting limit. The image, subject, and "edition" of the thread is decided long before it gets made.

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>> No.9864119

Pretty antithetical to a fucking anonymous imageboard, maybe you'd be better suited to Plebbit

>> No.9864120

This is why I stopped coming to this board as much. Fucking newfags and crossboarders started acting like they in the place and need to change everything

>> No.9864123

either share the server link or get out with your elitist shit
preferably the latter

>> No.9864127

I'll only say this anonymously but I want a wife so badly it drives me nuts when I think about it, but what I really know is that I want the emotional benefit that a good marriage brings, just because I really yearn to have a female best friend, not because I feel like it will fix me or something. I'm fine being patient and picky, I just wish that my search would be over already

>> No.9864139

If you have to ask, you'll never understand.

>> No.9864141

Because it's doing nothing with your buddies or yourself while also not wasting time because you've got a goal of catching fish.

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Marry me, anon! I'm gonna be the best wife you could ever get!

>> No.9864154

a cat is fine too

>> No.9864160

To get away from you and everyone else. But mostly you.

>> No.9864163

As someone with IBD, I want you to know that you're not alone. Make sure to get the right treatment, and it'll make an incredible difference to your standing. I know this might sound too saccharine, but damn it, if a girl wants to be cute she ought to be cute!

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>> No.9864168
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I'd really like to get married as well. Too bad I'm severely stunted.

>> No.9864175

Like emotionally? Physically?

>> No.9864176

>apparently pretty attractive
>broke and commuting to school for a difficult major
Guess I'll just live out my youth when I'm fucking 30.

>> No.9864189


>> No.9864196

Well what do you do? What are you like, what do you like to do?

>> No.9864199

I really want to get married and have children too but I'm so broke, and there's this trend for intelligent, wealthy men to want intelligent, wealthy women. And I'm always tired from work so I hate talking to men in my free time.

>> No.9864200

I'm 3 courses short of a degree so I'm a worthless piece of shit. I need to finish up but I'm out of money and can't get money because I'm worthless shit that doesn't have a degree. Like the courses aren't even related to my field of work but I don't have calculus so i'm worthless.

>> No.9864205

Straight up, if you want to be a devoted wife and mommy, guys like me will cherish you forever. A marriage requires everyone involved to work hard to make things happy, but I've got no problem being a successful solo breadwinner

>> No.9864207

I'm you from the future. It gets better

>> No.9864209

Does it? I'm scared of missing out on my 20s.

>> No.9864212

If you're me, the who am I?

>> No.9864225

Your early 30s are very similar to your 20s as long as you take care of yourself. You can do everything you wanted to do in your 20s, and you'll have more money than the average 20 something to do it

>> No.9864226

get a student job

>> No.9864228

How do you find one?

>> No.9864274

Thanks for the kind words. I've been going to my doctor for a while now and it just doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I'm jealous of all the people who don't have issues that prevent them from doing the things they want to.

I'm just so angry right now. I don't have much going well in my life right now and wearing alt fashion is the one thing I have to look forward to.

>> No.9864278

ah nah, no worries there that's a lot of people. You just gotta find someone else stunted and agree that married taxes are better than single ones.

>> No.9864324

Me too man, me too. Waiting until I hit 25 to hit Catholicmatch.com.

>> No.9864371

It's probably harder if you're a man

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>some chick actually went and created a discord to try and regulate feels threads
And they say women can't be autistic

>> No.9864383

Usually your school has a lot of connections or in-school jobs that get posted somewhere. Mine emails us about new job opportunities. There's also an area on the website that's specifically for available student jobs. If not, minimum wage slave for a bit and save up?

>> No.9864384

women aren't autistic, they're just insane.

>> No.9864388

anon, you could at least try to hide how much of a newfag you are

>> No.9864389

I always thought men got this power trip from being a sole breadwinner in relationships, even when dating. I guess it’s different this time around. Goddamn millennials.

Yet it still weirds them out that I offer to split the check whenever I go out with a guy. I mean, you’re not my boyfriend so why pay for me?

>> No.9864391

Do you play videogames by any chance?

>> No.9864392

It's called signalling theory. Got nothing to do with power trips. The guys just want to show you he has an abundance of wealth and is altruistic which are attractive traits.

>> No.9864411

What's your point?

>> No.9864415
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>that moment when the Star Wars cosplaying community in your area is 85% made of 30+ year old people

The rest are made of teens like me, and girls who don't want me for a different number of reasons, and some of these reasons aren't related to me.

God, just why I couldn't get to have some sort of socialization skill so I didn't need to cry at night because I never had anyone?!

>> No.9864416

What you are suggesting is not only foolish, but difficult

>> No.9864417

Nigga, you've got you whole life ahead of you. Start hitting the gym and getting your shit together.

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But my shit is together - except for my romantic life.
I could use hitting the gym, yes.
But you don't get me, bro. My father by now thinks i'm secretly gay and every time someone that I know in the cosplaying community (since I pretty much only do SW, I know most people who do it) sees me talking to a girl, they all think i'm trying to hit on her.

Heck, i've been told 'let's get you a girl, anon' before. Not to mention the embarassment i've had when I said something around the lines of 'I don't get girls, so I substitute it with cosplaying' at an event and a bunch of close friends heard it.

>> No.9864424

Want some honest advice from an oldfag, as in an older dude who took his sweet ass time getting his shit together and is still not 100% there? Escorts, set up your budget so you can get it 2-3 times a month and do it. Your life really gets into perspective after that.
You're a babby, you can still turn it around

>> No.9864425

mate who cares?

I own 3 fucking dakis and haven't seen a girl in a year. My step-dad keeps saying "You're a handsome looking guy, why the pillow girls?"

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These are highly expensive in my area. Plus the spaghetti factory would hit me hard on such an event - and I'd be poorer, since i'd need many more hours to get calm with the escort.

I realize that sex isn't life-changing. Plus, I would not be able to 'live' with myself after hiring an escort.

At least you've seen a girl?
Dude, I can count in one hand the times i've been intimately close to a girl. Two of these were kisses. The other three were drunk humping on a party I didn't want to go but I was dragged to.

Honestly i've become so damaged that i'm not caring about it, but the desperation is still buried, alive, it's there. I try to hide it, but I know it's there.

>> No.9864430

Eh. I've had two long term relationships and one short term fling. Girls really aren't that special unless you find the right one. I guess I can understand where you're coming from, you have this fear that you're missing out on something.

From my perspective, I don't want to have sex with girls all that much unless they're both physically and emotionally attractive, which is a difficult combination to find. Otherwise it's just shitty sex. I'm more keen for holding hands and playing with each others hair. Much, much nicer.

>> No.9864431

We've all been there our first time with a pro, it's weird and awkward and it's in her best interest to make it better for you. Yes you'll feel guilty and disgusted and disappointed and even depressed for a while after the first time, the second time it gets better, the third time it gets even better. By the fifth or sixth time you'll think nothing of it and you might even want to branch out and try other girls.

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I'm going to turn 20 this July. Yes, I know I am young, but still. I'm constantly regarded as more mature than my true age - i'm part of a international fanclub where people like me a lot - hell, i'm even part of my local group's command chain.

I feel like i've went past a time where I could go on one-night stands and go to parties and kiss a lot of girls, and i've 'missed' a step. The next step would find a nice girl that understands and likes me, but since I never had even the silly teenager things with girls, I feel like i'm missing out. Perhaps i'll never be able to fill that void in my past.

I just wished that I -knew- what sex is like, how it feels.

I'm not wasting my money on escorts, anon. Honestly. I know how addictive that can get.

>> No.9864442

A discord dedicated to feels threads? That is a recipe for sadsack city and endless drama.

>> No.9864444

Mate if you want to know what sex is like, do what the other anon is saying. Just get an escort. I think it's going to continually hold you back in your endeavours with girls because it's going to be a drain on your self-confidence.

I mean, there's an escort for whatever you want. Dress them up as your fucking waifu or whatever if it makes you feel more comfortable. I'm on the lookout for a girl who matches my waifu's body type just to fulfil some weird fetish shit.

Just don't fucking sit around and feel sorry for yourself because you'll never get past this speed bump. That's all it is, a speed bump. It's fucking nothing. Just do it.

>> No.9864445

Those teenage days of glory are gone, get over it. That one time your begrudgingly showed up to your friend's birthday party, met a cute brunette you had never seen before, spent all night talking her ear off in the balcony, then walked her home only to get invited inside and lose your virginity and find yourself with a girlfriend all of a sudden? Not happening any time soon.
Take the escorts, trust me, your mind will get right back on track after that.

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>tfw attracted to fat girls
>tfw can't help but find Momokun hot even though she's clearly reprehensible
It will never happen but I'm worried that one day I run into her at a con and she finds me attractive, starts orbiting me, and tries to sleep with me or something and I feel like this would be life ruining

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You fucking disgust me.

>> No.9864449

She's a bitch, there's no two words about it, but I still want to tap that ass. How do I stop being attracted to fatties?

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I can't accept that, anons. I am not going to spend a hundred dollars for six hours with someone whose job is having sex. God knows i'm a emotional little fucker so i'm going to get attached to the girl, too. Not to mention i'll probably tell her about my fucked up childhood and teenage years like I do with nearly every girl I meet.

I know my huge curiosity on sex holds me back, but the way I see it, the desperate options don't work - in one end, it's doing fucking nothing. On the other end, it's escorts.

I know that magically I won't get my virginity lost. What I lost is my hope, in a way. I admit the possibility of paying a hooker sometime, but now, I cannot fathom it, anons, do you get me? It's the only tiny bit of honor, and hope, that I still have somewhere.

And thus I am in this sort of existential limbo: while I have the desire to have sex, and to have relationships, I can't have sex or have relationships, and that makes me not want to have sex or relationships - but I have the desire. And it goes on.

>> No.9864453

Same here, I feel like I'm ready to get married and start a family. I have a management level job, a decent salary, and a big nest egg of savings. Problem is it feels like every "fandom" girl either hates kids, uses cats as substitutes, is self harming or bpd or some other disorder, is an instagram narcissist, hates the idea of marriage or being 'tied down', or is neck-deep in the SJW cult "masculinity is harmful" mentality kool-aid; whether it's anime/comics/scifi/cosplay/gaming or other hobbies.

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You're trapped in a paradox, a virginity ouroboros. And I get where you're coming from, I still wish I could go back in time to relive the magical teenage days and re-experience the night I met the bubble-butt brunette, or the skinny redhead with the cute big nose that came after her, or the delicious brown medschool that was my college sweetheart. Life doesn't work that way tho, outside of sci fi or really shitty anime you don't get to do a repeat. You gotta focus on the now and the coming soon.

And your now and your coming soon look pretty awful from where I'm standing, you'll keep spinning in your wheels waiting for *something* to come shake you out of it but again, outside of shitty anime that just doesn't happen.

Grab the escorts, hit the gym, start socializing, go to bed at a sensible time, be responsible with your obligations, get yourself in order.
Finding a girlfriend will not fix up your life, but fixing up your life might just get you a girlfriend.

>> No.9864463

Yeah, I see myself and my own issues in the past as having been an obstacle preventing me from dating, but now I see that being single is a defense mechanism these days.

People who are obsessed with wanting sex and intimacy will only be disappointed. I get where you're coming from, but I'll wait for a real girlfriend who's got prospects of being my wife, thank you very much. Personally, I feel like it's better to find someone who's more casually into the fandom world, because there is something inherently immature about putting literally all of your waking moments into a hobby, and I say this as someone who's been involved with pro gaming

>> No.9864465

Holy fuck you're fucking 19 chill out.
I'm also 19, I have 3 close male friends. Only one of them has lost his virginity. You know what he did because he wanted to have sex? He went on tinder. If you're that desperate, just go on there.
The other 2 will enter their 20s as virgins and neither of them are this spergy about it. It's not that big a deal. My boyfriend lost his virginity to me at age 25.
And if you want to go out and party, just do it. Go out and make friends, they'll introduce you to people. Assuming you're in school it should be easy.

>> No.9864473

>go to Sakuracon
>cosplays are good
>meet a guy who’s wearing a Felix cosplay
>he looks r qt
>hit it up with him
>we hit it off
>takes me back to his room
>”no is here for hours. let’s have sex”
>give him anal with no condom
>make out session was p hot
>3 weeks later
>have trouble urinating
>every time I pee it burns
>pus is coming out of muh dick
>go to the doctor
>doctor tests me
>I have gonorrhea

Always use a condom, Anons.

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You know what's the problem, anon? From a work/college point of view, i'm fine. From a socializing point of view? I'm making slow improvements. In a year i've became a proeminent cosplayer in my area, and i've made friends that I know I can trust, and they like me genuinely. Two years ago I could never imagine that.

Heck, i'm going to events full of people at least once or twice a month. It's great to have such a horizon.

I'll be honest with you, i'm seriously fearing being some kind of eccentric Jay Leno of Star Wars cosplaying (with the cash to be that eccentric) but literally without gf at age 30.

>He went on tinder. If you're that desperate, just go on there

Oh man, I did. For years. Never really worked out. Probably because I tell nearly everyone about my problems.
And i'm at the university already (and i've had problems before because of socializing issues, related to obligatory group projects).

I've tried to chill out, but something inside (and sometimes my dad) buzzes me to try and fuck a girl, dammit.

>> No.9864485


why are guys so obsessed with fucking girls yet also obsessed with girls not fucking.

if you fuck a girl she's literally fucked

what the fuck is up with guys

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>Having sex with a catboy
That's where you fucked up, next time go for the pure paladin

>> No.9864490

Makes sense

>> No.9864491

Speaking of focusing on sex and physical intimacy leading to disappointment, take a look at this and come back in five years to see if she's still single.

>> No.9864493

There's no reason you can't do both, hiring an escort twice a month won't suddenly turn you into a whoremonger. It can be your little secret you never tell anyone about, not even your eventual girlfriend. Consider it, man.

Are you familiar with the Mass Effect series?

>> No.9864494

uhhhhg I could get past a minute of that shit, even the fact she owns a daenerys targaryen wig disgusted me

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>> No.9864497

>tfw you are cashier and ask girl how she is
She says good (no good thanks, and you?) and leaves it
Random guy or girl comes up and comments on something they’re buying
The two of them suddenly become best friends.

>girl is interested and appears to be miring
You flirt with them and they say ok and stop talking

>girl flirts with her boyfriend
Look I just want to Putin’s your shit in a bag, take your ,only and let you go home and do whatever.
Can you please not squeeze your girlfriends ass for 3 minutes?

When women walk around you.

>> No.9864499

Do me a favor real quick and compare the available waifus for male players to the available husbandos for presumably female players, at least up till Mass Effect 2.

>> No.9864501

I don't get your post.

'twice a month'
Bro i'm on a third world country where one hour with a prostitute is nearly 20% of my salary. I can't afford an escort.

>> No.9864502

>Look I just want to Putin’s your shit in a bag, take your ,only and let you go home and do whatever.
Are you OK, anon? I think you had a stroke.

>> No.9864503

I get you, I work cashier in a place that sells restaurant supplies downtown. All the cute girls around my age that walk though the door didn't come there out of their own volition, they're setting up a new smoothie place with their boyfriends/husbands. One hundred percent of the time. It's soul crushing.

>> No.9864505

BR or MX?

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>> No.9864511

Stop being a trash human being, simple.


>> No.9864512

MOTHERFUCKER, sure the cream of the crop are prohibitively expensive and only affordable to american and european tourists but there's plenty of supply in your price range, really cute supply in a variety of colors and shapes.
By the way, look into jumping to Portugal.

>> No.9864514

>Probably because I tell nearly everyone about my problems.
>For years
Maybe, you know, stop spilling your guts and your spaghetti to any female you talk to? Anyone would be freaked out if you air out all your dirty laundry the instant you meet them. How can you recognize this is a problem but not stop doing it?

>> No.9864519

>How can you recognize this is a problem but not stop doing it?

If I knew the answer to that question, my life would be better now.

>there's plenty of supply in your price range

Sure, there is, but I won't feel comfortable, bro. And they'd be hookers. I'll have to buy 6 hours and waste a month's salary just to get laid? I can't do that.

>> No.9864522

>6 hours
Don't get ahead of yourself, start small. Do keep in mind they're people too, people who need to eat, most of them probably have a little son waiting for them back home so your satisfaction is important to them.

>> No.9864524

Bro, the problem isn't with them, the problem is with me. I'm proud to pay the bills at home and pay for the maintenance costs of my car, plus what I spend to do events. I can't afford a hooker.

>> No.9864526

You're a nerd in a third world country, you buy expensive shit that that gringos take for granted, you know your way around budgeting and spotting a good deal. Apply that same skill set to hookers.

>> No.9864535

The feels thread is sure interesting these days.

>> No.9864538

It's pretty much just CGL off topic which I'm honestly ok with.
Speaking of which I'm a depressed piece of shit someone make me less depressed.

>> No.9864540

Do you like guns and going on adventures?

>> No.9864541

One thing that helped my depression was to order stuff online. It made me feel better knowing something was coming in the mail and kept my thoughts off of bad stuff.

I also listen to music a lot to take my mind off things and I use ASMR to treat my loneliness.

>> No.9864542

watch this video

>> No.9864543

Sexually frustrated sadbois galore

>> No.9864544


I mean it's just slightly different from the usual gender wars and 'how do i get lolita gf pls' because now they're talking about brazilian hookers.

And I'm sorry but whenever i feel depressed i compensate by going on wild lolita shopping sprees so I can't really help you. It's a bad habit.

>> No.9864547

Guns can be fun and I'm ok with non-dangerous adventures IE not the military or like peace corps or something.

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Can the pity party and get some attention too please?

I'm not a virgin, but I lost it nonconsensually. For years I deliberately avoided opportunities to have sex and forge relationships out of fear and resentment. It wasn't until recently that I made any effort whatsoever. Upon doing so, I only rekindled my fears and anxieties. I've started booking appointments with therapists in my area, but it sure feels like I'll always be this way.
>tfw your own handsome face, love of sports, and kindness actually made you terrible with women
>tfw I never be a real life version of a 1980s tough guy action hero, because I am neither tough nor a hero

>> No.9864549

Yeah I would do that but I don't have the money. I just got my tax refund but I need to save that for my car inevitable costing me 2k for repair/maintenance.

>> No.9864550

weird question anon but have you tried keto/low carb? I've heard anecdotes from friends that it has solved many intestinal issues, with the added benefit of the whole weight loss thing too

>> No.9864552

>non-dangerous adventures IE not the military or like peace corps or something
Oh no. My adventures are usually finding someplace way out of the way to shoot without bothering anybody and/or avoiding game wardens.
Next question: Do you live in Washington?

>> No.9864553

Getting butt-raped when you're a little boy is something that you'll always carry with you for the rest of your life, to the grave. But you can't let it define you, just let it be one of many parts of you.
I'm not big on shrinks or quacks and how lazily they'll stuff you full of pills, but it helps. Avoid medication unless it's strictly necessary and talk to her, pour your heart out and make her earn the hundreds of dollars she's charging you.

>> No.9864555

Nah I'm near boston.

>> No.9864556

Don't do this. If you're male, see a male mental health professional. The same goes for women and female mental health professionals. There are a great many things going on in your brain that only somebody of the same sex will genuinely understand.

>> No.9864557

I think it's intimidating to be hit on by random people when they are in a place where they aren't expecting to be hit on. Bar? Party? Con? Yes.
Grocery store where I just want my shit and want to go home? Definitely not.

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>Guns can be fun
>Lives in MA
My condolences.

>> No.9864559

Christ, you REALLY want me to get a hooker huh?
I'll look around. I'll try, but I don't promise anything. You know my opinion.

>> No.9864560

ill give you attention anon
the fact that youre going to therapy is a great start
and if it gives you any hope my girlfriend has the same issues and we've been together for six and a half years so dont let your fears stop you from trying to forge a relationship! you can do it!

>> No.9864561

You got a better idea? Other than suffering? Look mate if you keep filling your head with shit that's all you'll ever be.

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I would recommend a female one due to the buttrape angle, if he was just some lonely inadequate dude going through the hardships of life for a bottom-of-the-barrel men in the 21st century then a male therapist would be dandy, but given that he had his innocence taken away from him early and it fucked up the rest of his life then the female quack would be ideal since she probably has kids too.

>> No.9864566

While someone forced you to have sex, I was trained to not even look at girls, thanks to my feminist mother (and to my father who worked his ass off back then).

Hard to let the past die, man.

>> No.9864569

My assailant was actually female. I do appreciate your reply though. I have found the women I have spoken to have had an easier time understanding, but the I've mostly just looked into male professionals

>> No.9864571 [DELETED] 

Don't knock it till you've tried it.
Have than one first time, lay naked in bed after she's left and keep staring at the ceiling, then have a week of quiet contemplation. Re-evaluate things from there.
Chances are you have a very extensive waifu image folder, mine has over twelve hundred pics. Try crossrefencing it with the escort pages you look up.

>> No.9864574

what are you even talking about

>> No.9864576

Don't knock it till you've tried it.
Have than one first time, lay naked in bed after she's left and keep staring at the ceiling, then have a week of quiet contemplation. Re-evaluate things from there.
Chances are you have a very extensive waifu image folder, mine has over twelve hundred pics. Try crossrefencing it with the escort pages you look up.

>> No.9864577

replied to the wrong guy, sorry

>> No.9864579

man I just fucking hate robots

>> No.9864580

Aw, thanks
It's funny you say that. My mother had something similar happen to her as well, in her quest not to raise a man like that she ended up giving me a lot of wrong ideas, because she just didn't understand how a young man without context would interpret such things and I didn't tell her about the incident

>> No.9864583

That might make things difficult, unless it was your big sister sodomizing you with a broomstick or something they'll try to rationalize it and convince you that you wanted it on some level or whatever. A female rapist is a "hard sell" even for professionals, but at least they'll give you the time of day and listen to you in the first place instead of just telling you to stop complaining like a little bitch the way anyone else would.

>> No.9864590

Mana makes my heart race

>> No.9864608

I was wondering why this thread went boring and nauseating so soon, but this explains everything.

>> No.9864611

Feels threads are just where male crossboarders come to offload their problems now

>> No.9864612

Man I just love ironing lolita.

Only reason my wardrobe is an unironed mess is because there's too much, and I love ironing out each wrinkled ruffle. Rip.

>> No.9864613


>> No.9864618

Nah, it's just full of robots, who desperately overestimate themselves

>> No.9864622

I love steaming lolita

>> No.9864646

I hate it. It's just males talking to males or females (males).

And I don't care about their problems. They are boring as fuck. They know nothing about jfash or cosplay and constantly complaying why they can't get laid. Maybe if you all stop being whiny pussies on /cgl/, you'll get some v.

>> No.9864684

>Ordered wig on amazon a week ago
>Hasn't shipped yet
>Money spent on wig refunded to account
>Amazon still says it's awaiting shipment
>Con in less than a month
I don't even know what the hell to do, feels fucking anxious.

>> No.9864689

same! I also love repairing it. It's such a nice feeling to find something old and give it some love and care to bring it back to life.

>> No.9864692

amazon doesn't always have the correct tracking, especially if the seller was someone other than amazon. if you were refunded then you're not getting it.

>> No.9864694

>if you were refunded then you're not getting it.
Fuck me... is there any way to get a wig on the fly?

>> No.9864704

You could try ordering it from another seller? sometimes multiple people sell similar things on amazon, just check around.

>> No.9864705

Yeah, I guess I'll have to try that. Thanks for the input.>>9864694

>> No.9864708

Same here. It may sound odd, but I love my older pieces more than new ones. Idk, maybe because all of the memories related to them. That feels really nice :3

>> No.9864752

Man I just really love lolita

>> No.9864755

>being a successful solo breadwinner
I think it's important for 1 parent (m/f) to take care of the child but unfortunately middle and working class people need 2 jobs to survive

>> No.9864816

I'm not sure what you consider middle class or not but depending on where you live and if you play your cards right you can live comfy with one income. My husband makes 50k a year and we have a kid so I just stay home with the kiddo. While we can't afford every frivolous thing we want but we still live pretty comfy, own a house, and are able to spend a little here and there on our hobbies and events we want to go to. We live out in the middle of bumfuck nowhere in the south though but it's perfect for us.

>> No.9864817

Arda always has really fast cheap shipping to me. Wigs always get to me in less than a week. I'm in the US though so I dunno how fast it would be shipped elsewhere or if Arda is out of your budget but their wigs are always worth it to me.

>> No.9864825

I would not call living in the middle of nowhere comfy. Obviously you can make ends meet but you are pretty low middle at best.

>> No.9864844

As someone who has lived in the city, suburbs and rural. They all have their charms. Don't knock them.

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>Skinny enough to comfortably fit small brands
>Massive calves from hiking and exercise
>Never fit into brand socks without them stretching uncomfortably
Time to kms

>> No.9864864

Yeah this hooker talk is a new low, I bet they don't even visit /cgl/.

>> No.9864865
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Thicc>sticc but thicc=/=fat
Thicc is sexy, fat like Momokun isn't

>> No.9864867

Just wear western tights anon

>> No.9864868

I'm close to starting a holding company with my Dad for real estate and other investments, I want to improve my situation more, but between that and my current career, I know I'm on track to be able to support a family in the future, and take care of my cosplay costs without being paranoid about saving money

>> No.9864871

Male here, thicc is a meme meant to lower our standards to lazy fat women who would rather make excuses than try to improve

>> No.9864876

This desu. There’s nothing wrong with being round in the right places, but I’d much prefer a skinny girl with a modest ass and C cup breasts to some braaphog or milk trucc

>> No.9864877

When I hear thicc, I think of muscular thighs, ass, and arms with a tight core along with a natural hourglass or pear shape. Why the fuck do so many of you associate thicc with fat?

>> No.9864879

I just looked at Momokun's unphotoshopped face, I don't like fat women anymore

>> No.9864887
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Me too anon. Pic related is thicc. Momokun is just flabby and gross

>> No.9864891

>Out with a friend from work
>Get talking about weeb stuff since she knows about my secret anime life
>Tell her I'm going to be cosplaying
>She asks what character
>Tell her and show her a picture
>"Anon, that's a girl. You're a boy."
>Try to explain crossplay
>"So, are you gay?"
>Kind of stumped here. A 22 year old man wanting to dress up as a girl in or out of context just seems really weird

It's weird discussing this stuff with normies.

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>> No.9864900

Dude even among weebs crossplay from m to f is still kind of sketch. How do you lack social awareness to the point you think this'd be okay??

>> No.9864901

Hot desu

>> No.9864906
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Let me use a land analogy to explain it:
Between this two options, what would most men prefer?

>be the first guy to discover the land, plant your flag, declare yourself King Anon the First and mold the land according to your vision
>show up 500 years later when the land already has a flag, a constitution, customs and traditions; and being content with being just one more citizen

>> No.9864907

I'm a virgin girl and I agree that girls shouldn't have a ton of partners but this comparison is just stupid. Women aren't property to be claimed and "molded" to how you see fit.

>> No.9864911

Tell that to the primal caveman instincts that are deeply ingrained in the brain of every man. It's not chad chauvinism or neckbeards wanting pure waifus, it's human nature.

>> No.9864914
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I keep saying I'm going to not buy any more lolita, I'll wait until next month, but then I do. I'm not going broke, but in most other aspects of life I'm a huge pennypincher. Goddamnit. I justify it in my head by thinking of those gulls saying they spend 5k a month or something on lolita, and I feel a bit better.. I just can't resist the beautiful clothes. I know I'm not speshul and this is common though, anyone else have spending guilt?

>> No.9864915

Ignore the other arguments in this thread, men and women should both remain celibate for each other.

You have no idea why you feel the way you do, but let society fuck with your perception anyway

>> No.9864916

No that doesn't work either since the same primal instincts also operate on women, only in their case it tells them to find a strong mate who will protect her and her children. Which more times than not translates to wanting a dude that's tall, squared jawed, charismatic, successful and sexually active.
Again, nothing wrong with that, it's just human nature.

>> No.9864918

Man I just really love cosplay

>> No.9864920

Please stop

>> No.9864927

What if I want my boyfriend to be a virgin before marriage too, huh?

>> No.9864930

this plz
don't give our wanna-be discord overlords any excuses

>> No.9864931

You'd be going up against human nature and would probably end up getting burned in the end.
Kinda like a guy marrying a retired pornstar but not quite the same.

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This sounds like a false flag

>> No.9864933

I know country living isn't everyone's cup of tea but it's comfy to us. After living in a not so nice part of a bigger city for college it's nice not having to hear about and worrying about muggings and break ins constantly. Also the city isn't /too/ far I may have exaggerated a little by saying we live in the middle of nowhere. We live 30ish minutes from a medium sized city and 2 hours from a big city and there's a super tiny little town that has Walmart, a few restaurants and such about 10 minutes away.

>> No.9864982
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Man lolita just really loves you

>> No.9864991

>that feel when you got kicked out of the friend finder thread because of your drama and endless cycle of complaining

At this moment I get kinda happy that i'm a loser that can't even kiss a girl. Oh man this amuses me more than it should.

The idea of reaching 30 years old with my parents having lost all hope of me marrying someone while I managed to be sucessful financially is stating to amuse me - because it is likely my destiny to remain alone, virgin and without any girl in my non existent romanticl ife.

>> No.9864993

you sound like a combination of Chris-chan and Elliot Rodgers desu
please just go back to your incel hugbox

>> No.9864996

you sound like you have no friends. work on that first

>> No.9864998

Yeah, your life sucks.Now more than ever I'm so glad I happened to meet the most marvelous woman ever, so I'm gonna live chill happy life with my wife and her cute kitties.

>> No.9865005

What incel hugbox? I have none. Plus, /r9k/ is toxic even for someone like me.

I have friends, but they are all way older than me. I've thought that perhaps i'm not being patient - girls don't pop up all of a sudden. Trees take a while to grow fruits, why humanity would be much different?

You're not going to make me jelly, i'm immune to that shit. Go for it, bro, enjoy what you have, i'm happy that you got a wife to be your faithful companion. Get out of 4chan while you still can and go be happy with her.

>> No.9865012

I implore you to refrain from your present actions

>> No.9865013


Oh anon, you don't have to. You could have just asked.
Do you want me to stop the drama, is that what you want?

>> No.9865019

That anon is not alone. Chill down, man, you're embarrassing yourself.

>> No.9865021

Fine. I'll surrender. I could only talk about myself until a point i'd just repeat myself over and over.

If anyone wants to talk to me, my information is in the friend friender thread. I'll just go offline now and do something else.

>> No.9865023

Nobody wants to talk to you tho

>> No.9865027

I'm basically doing that right now, actually. I can't tell if it's helping or not so I'm assuming it's probably not doing much.

>> No.9865036

Good to know, thank you kindly.
Have a nice day.

>> No.9865042
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>mfw i was stupid to trust an anonymous message board to not get overrun with the whole 'hurr a lock that can be opened by any key is a bad lock' debate for the millionth time this year. I refuse to be baited by any of you bitter neckbeards.

anyways my feel:
>be me, a lolita who has never cosplayed and never wanted to
>watch new cutesy comedy show
>relate to a character so fucking hard
>for the first time in my life, I want to cosplay something (I have no clue how, but that's my next move)
>look up cosplays
>all are sexy cosplays
>mfw character is not sexy in the slightest and is just cute
I don't mind sexy cosplays when they're relevant, and I know sex sells. All the comments on this stuff is like 'WOW YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL!!!' from men palming off to this shit. I can't hate the girls for doing this stuff, but it's a wee bit confusing. I don't follow any cosplayers or interact with them at all, but is this a regular thing? Every cosplay is a sexy cosplay? I'm sure it's not the same for everyone, but it does seem to be a trend in my uninformed opinion.

>> No.9865044

>Why the fuck do so many of you associate thicc with fat?
Because of all the retards spamming THICC at every lubbery mass.

>> No.9865046

Please do the cute cosplay. We need more cute cosplays.

>> No.9865053

Because sexy is what appeals to the mainstream/normies. The ones actually dedicated to the craft are more low-key because pshh can't fap to 30 photos of resin casting or sculpting work.People cosplaying for themselves because they like the hobby usually aren't as focused as marketing themselves. They also don't hop on flavour of the month trends for the views. The list or reasons goes on and on but really anon, do what you want.

>> No.9865067

A girl from my comm recently got herself a new fancy piercing, and I feel so envious. Not for the ring actually, but basically for her being able to enjoy her appearance and adorn herself in different ways. Somehow I gave up on maintaining my own appearance. I feel like no matter what I wear or what kind of make-up I do, that would look so secondary and boring. I just lost my heart for that, so I wear no make-up and dress super plain. I just miss the times, when all the fancy stuff made me feel nice and excited.

>> No.9865072
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Really want to go to a IDL/general lolita meet but i don't have any local friends and i'm scared of going alone because i have severe anxiety and my hands shake
It's really annoying because i don't notice the shaking myself (have it as a ptsd syptom and i'm used to living with it, but i've almost given up traditional drawing) and someone always goes like "why do your hands shake so much??" or "oh don't be scared!!"
I get even more nervous and selfconscious when someone points it out

How am i supposed to drink tea and be elegant with (potential) friends like this?

>> No.9865084

I'll do it! I have no knowledge of cosplay though, so I have no idea if the outcome will be any good. I'll give it my best shot though.

True, I guess it's confusing when it's all I see. I don't follow many (any) cosplayers so I have a very limited view.

>> No.9865086

You mean ILD? International Lolita Day.
Anyway - Are you getting treated for your anxiety and PTSD? It's not something that's going to go away on its own, and if you visibly shake then it doesn't sound like you have it under control.

Do you have a local comm near you? Have you connected with them on social media?
Most comms have FB pages, I suggest you join them there if you haven't yet, and just take an opportunity to go to their upcoming meetup. While there's always a chance they'll be shitty (you can never really know what people are going to be like), more often than not your anxiety is lying to you and people are actually a lot more forgiving than you might think.

Also, just a tip, in case you do go to a meet and you're self conscious about being visibly anxious and someone points it out: Just be honest, and try to stay calm.
>Anon why are you shaking like this?
>Oh sorry, I'm just a bit anxious, that's all.
Drink some water and take some deep breaths if it does happen, excuse yourself to the bathroom for a few moments if you'd rather do that in private, and try to look at the situation realistically; i.e. you're not in danger, the other girls aren't judging you, they don't hate you, you have no logical reason to be afraid.
Easier said than done, I know, but CBT methods like this help me a lot so it's worth a shot.

>> No.9865102

Please seek professional help. You might say to yourself that you're fine and you're managing, but you're clearly not. What ever past trauma you endured is interfering with you ability to enjoy life and maintain interpersonal relationships. I ask you to please to the steps to overcome this for the sake of your own happiness and that of those who care about you. You can overcome this. You are stronger than what happened.
As for the meet itself, just get yourself into a good headspace beforehand and focus on having fun. Give yourself permission to have fun. Allow yourself to accept others' kindness. Make a conscious effort not to focus on what makes you feel anxious if that's what it takes. If someone asks about your hands, just say you're nervous around new people; it's not like you'd be lying.
I know you can do it

>> No.9865133

>Want to make friends
>So you complain about not having a girlfriend
I'm sure GFs love that

>> No.9865159
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A girl from the con seems to have a crush on me, but I'm not sure if I really feel a connection with her or simply want some arm candy for cosplay.

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>when the new girl farts on her period and the red mist stains everyone's dresses
How do you even handle this? Forty lashes?

>> No.9865214

What is up with these anons’ fascination with period blood and shit?

>> No.9865223

Yes. Stick forty fake eyelashes to her.

>> No.9865224

There's a grace period for your body to adapt (I think like 2 months?), so I hope maybe you have some luck soon, but if not... good luck finding the right foods for you! :(

>> No.9865227

That's like the opposite of my type, good try tho

>> No.9865231

Are you saying you like guys who are short, lack a chin, are antisocial, are broke and are virgins?

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>that picture
>not attractive females complaining about DVA bodysuits

I bet it's because they would look horrible in them, or because even a dude would look hot in them while they wouldn't look any good.

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>"Still going to Momocon?"
This is the first thing I've texted my ex since the breakup last week. Hoping for a positive reply.

>> No.9865256

>my skin is getting better after dealing with acne for 10+ years
>bf comments on it, saying it's improved so much
>doesn't know I've been taking meds for it

Do I tell him?

>> No.9865263

Why wouldn’t you? Does it really matter? I guess I don’t understand why you’d be torn over sharing that. Also, what meds? I have had low key acne since I was 13. Sick of it after 14 years...

>> No.9865264

That's like saying I changed my hairstyle because it looks better, because I want to look appealing. You'll be fine.

>> No.9865272


He's against meds.

>> No.9865279
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>With help from my girlfriend I found awesome velvet Black Peace Now shorts.
>Order them. If they don't fit me they'll fit her, right?
>They're too small for me and too big for her.

>> No.9865290

>mold the land according to your vision
No, that's not how it works. My first serious boyfriend thought this way and it made me wonder what was wrong with me because I didn't enjoy his vision. Now I realize we just have different tastes, and that he's a piece of shit.

>> No.9865291

As a fat person I dislike it when people record me or take pictures at me at meets ups while I am eating. If you are going take some shots of a EGL meet up please have decency to include in shots that don't include me eating. Don't just show me eating a meet up.

>> No.9865294

Nayrt but I find girls a lot of time tend to mimic their partner so much so that they become their partner. Girls in general are just much more malleable than guys are.

>> No.9865298

I see good women and good men changing to like their partner's interests more because they like each other, it's just a good trait to have

>> No.9865299

Sounds like you need to read some Red Pill and stop being a beta bitch who tells Tinder girls your fee-fees. It's making you look weak and scaring away everyone.

>> No.9865309

If it's visibly helping and it's making you happy there should be no reason for him to deny you your happiness. If he does, then he's just being a shitty person and doesn't care enough about you to get over himself. Hopefully he's understanding if you do end up telling him.

>> No.9865310

>Actually recommending the Red Pill as a thing that will help people
Don't do this to yourself. All the Red Pill and manosphere will do is make you even more depressed and angry. It'll convince you that everything is out to get you and that you're doomed to be alone unless you look down on people who are different to you. It'll make you feel like life is some sort of game where the decks are impossibly stacked against you, but won't offer you any solutions beyond blaming everything on other people and society. All you'll do is be angry on the Internet with other lonely angry dudes. If you want to live your life in a self righteous fury, then fine, go with it. Personally, it was fucking exhausting and made me feel hopeless. Nothing has been better for me than leaving that toxic crap alone, going to therapy, and working on the things I didn't like about myself. Accepting that you're a bit shit and working to improve yourself is a million times harder than blaming the world and complaining about how everything sucks, but it's worth it.

>> No.9865312

Sounds like you never got out the anger phase.

>> No.9865313

Nah, m8. I'm just buzzed and typing too much.

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I had a good night tonight. Spent the evening drinking with cosplay friends and planning our next group. We didn't finish with clear plans other than "We want to do Tron: Uprising" and "We need lots of EL Wire" but we had a nice time. Hoping all you seagulls had good nights too!

>> No.9865348

>mfw someone yells out their car that they love your dress

Thanks atelier pierrot

God tier burando. I got so many compliments today. Normally just stares is all

>> No.9865350

> cosplaying a federation solider from gundam.
> people are loveing it.
> 2 guys show me their gundam tattoos.
> finally one aspie sperg starts yelling hey feddie boy.
> runs up to mee and yells zeig zeon in my face over and over.
> I look at his friends abd they just kinda shrug and walk away.
> verbally assulted for 5 min by this guy
> begins his space nazi apologetics routine.
> God this feels like its gone on for an hour.
> want to kick his ass but dont want to get thrown out.
> tell him his friends went off already, tell him I'm busy, tell him I'm kinda sick and not into this.
> he still wont fuck off.
> Finnally tell him to fuck off.
> biggest look of shock ever on his face. Its like nobody has ever spoken to him like this before.
> starts to walk off but comes back.
> Quiety tell me he will be in Zeon cosplay the next day if I to take a pic with him.
> walks off for real.
Jesus this guy was an ass. First cosplay experience and he nearly ruined it.

>> No.9865354

Ah, man, he was sperging and wanting to rp with you.
He should have taken the hint, but if you do see him again, just take a picture with him.
Aspie is the worst form of the -tisms, they just really don't fucking get it.

>> No.9865369

I sorry. I am skinny and when I was in high school the other girls would try to sneak pics of me changing.

>> No.9865370


I expected the stock 'lock and key' answer, but this is just incredibly inane. Go knock up some caribbean island, I feel like you'd get more satisfaction out of that instead of a relationship with a human.

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I was waiting for a friend outside the con and an ant bit my ass-cheek

>> No.9865375

I did feel bad about it. Saw him tg2e next day in his cosplay. I was in another with a wig so he didn't recognize me. Felt like i dodged a bullet.

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Don't get mad at me, that's just how our minds in conjunction with our dicks work. It's universal in all men, from the most dreamy perfect prince to the lowliest nastiest neckbeard.

You girls probably have your own thing as well.

>> No.9865435

Roleplayers, either fetishists or just gross, and probably not even girls.

>> No.9865439

That sucks, anon, but it's not all for lost - Did the store/site you bought it from listed its measurements? If it did, use those for future reference; if not, measure the shorts yourself and, again, use the measurements for future reference when you buy another pair of shorts or trousers in the future. Also put this pair up for sale secondhand.
If nothing else, this is an opportunity to learn and do better next time. You can do it!

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>mfw you have no face
I love AtePie, they're so good. What were you wearing, anon?

>> No.9865460

This was about how over sexualized they thought that zoomy Brit was, and how the Frenchie is just a caricature of herself or something. Not necessarily about the suits or cosplaying.
The husky dyke they added later was to make feminists happy, but they hate her to so w/e

>> No.9865462

daily I like a girl but she has a boyfriend post.

>> No.9865482

R u thick?
Theyre complaining about kill la kill

>> No.9865500

Like, do they get that the costumes are a joke in of themselves and that they actually get called out in the fucking show?

>> No.9865518

I hate it when attention whores start new threads for their own stupid question when there's already an entire thread dedicated for that topic.

>> No.9865544

Dudes crossplaying is so hot your coworker is dumb

>when will I find my crossplaying bf who wants to date a girl
>if I find my crossplaying bf I will introduce him to jfashion so we can one day twin in lolita
>Mfw this will never happen and I'll die alone

>> No.9865551

I don't lack social awareness. I know it's weird. It's why I tell very few people outside the community of my hobby. It was just a perplexing moment of relativity I'd thought I'd share. She wasn't mean about it or maliciously judgemental. She's just blunt and says what comes to mind.

I'll pray to Mana-sama for you.

>> No.9865568

Man, I miss wearing lolita regularly.

>husband gets a good job in another country
>planning to immigrate after him, but it's taking a while because filing immigration papers is expensive
>paying for two sets of rent and utilities, budget stretched pretty thin
>meets would be doable, but paying for a babysitter on top is tough and don't want to bug acquaintances to watch the kid, so I skip out on a bunch of meets b/c not kid friendly
>and meets keep getting cancelled due to low turnout anyway
>bored and lonely at home a lot can't just find a shitty retail job quickly because I can only work hours daycares are open
>do an employment program just to get out of the house and get a breather
>manage to get a full time 9-5 job out of it, living quality is going to improve a bit and husband can save paperwor money faster, good stuff
>will have more money now but even less free time
>miss wearing lolita so much
>worst part is that when I move, I'm going to lose my comm and they're like family to me
>husband working middle of nowhere
>god knows if there are even lolitas in the city
>picked an apartment that isn't even serviced by buses, have to walk 25+ mins to closest stop
>only roommate has a car and he's a salty cunt about lolita

I'm happy and hopeful, but so incredibly sad at the same time. I was feeling optimistic because I have a hard time making friends, and I thought I could count on lolita to always help me connect with people. I just wasn't expecting we'd move somewhere there wasn't really an active comm.

>> No.9865572

where is he working and as what?
does the new country have a good cosplay foundation?

>> No.9865574

Anyone else find it almost impossible to start on their own projects? I either end up procrastinating/idling, or running around like crazy helping other people out.

It's been a problem my entire life, i'm energised and dynamic when doing for somebody else, but i feel completely drained when it comes to doing something positive for myself.

>> No.9865583
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>tfw no cgl bf

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>op mentions lolita
>anon asks about cosplay

>> No.9865585

he's a software developer.

I was keeping it vague, but fuck it: it's in Indiana. I know there's a lolita comm for the state and Indianapolis has Indipopcon, but idk how active cosplayers and lolitas are going to be in the area we live.

I'm using to zipping around the city on public transport and being fairly independent even without a personal vehicle, so it's going to be a very difficult adjustment for me. I'm either going to be paying out the ass for cabs/uber or depending on rides from other people. Either way it limits my options.

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Are you having a good time being a nazi on /cgl/?

>> No.9865588

>he's a software developer.
Could you not do any better than that? Is he a fatty too?

>> No.9865589

if you're cute I'll let you let me put my head in your lap and you can run your fingers through my hair until I fall asleep.

also pay me

>> No.9865590

or like buy your own car?

>> No.9865593

>buy car
>her husbands job gets outsourced to india like all software development jobs
>now have to pay for car with no job
not a good idea desu

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Pointing out you're retarded makes me a nazi?

>> No.9865596

I'm sad

>> No.9865598

Did a software develop hurt you, anon?

awfully cynical, but you would be correctly that buying a car won't be an option for a long time lol.

>> No.9865599

What manga is this? Reverse image search shows nothing.

>> No.9865600

Me too, anon. Why are you sad?

>> No.9865602

In all seriousness when someone says programmer you always imagine middle aged balding guys with autism. If your husband is different then good for although i don't believe he is.

>> No.9865604

>when someone says programmer you always imagine middle aged balding guys with autism

>> No.9865606

kill yourselves

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I want to cosplay for the first time, but the more I look into stuff like wigs, the more I wish I knew anyone who actually did this stuff. I have no idea what to use, or how I can make any aspects of the outfit myself.

>> No.9865611

Nothing good is happening and all the bad is happening even though I'm trying my best.

Soon anon, soon. I don't want my family to sit on funeral bills.

>> No.9865613

You first, anon-kun

>> No.9865615

what do YOU imagine when hearing "software developer"?
ripped guy with massive amounts of money? i think not!

>> No.9865618

If youre looking for a girlfriend start by being friends with girls and maybe one of them will like you.

If you're looking to be degenerate trash and just have casual sex then get an escort.

Girlfriends dont happen overnight

>> No.9865622

Do what all us loners did. If you fail, try, try, try again. Just be willing to make mistakes that may be costly.

>> No.9865626

Look up Polnareff cosplayers and do the opposite of what they did with their wigs.

>> No.9865633

Anon, you're so silly. All middle aged balding guys were once young, and some of them even handsome.

His program churns out hundreds of graduates every year, majority of them quite average. Some are the nerdy or chubby nerd variety, sure, but there's even cute girls thrown in the mix. Hard to believe, I know but I've seen them with my own two eyes at the graduation ceremony.

Not everything has to be in absolutes. And no, I could absolutely not do any better than my husband. I love my husband a ton for all sorts of reasons.

Depends on the company you work for. His starting salary is twice of mine for our respective chosen fields, and he really enjoys the work. And this is second hand information, but in previous feels threads I've seen lolitas complaining about horrible dudebros in the tech field, so I guess some programmers are ripped. Stereotypes are stereotypes though.

>> No.9865635

>mouseguard on the bookshelf
Every time

>> No.9865657

>His starting salary is twice of mine
I've always wondered, how much do people in IT earn? How much does your husbando earn?

>> No.9865659

Here's for the US https://www.bls.gov/oes/current/oes_nat.htm#15-0000
but they also vary a lot. IT folks in the SF bay area make considerably more but living costs are also absurdly high.

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so he makes ~100k/year?

>> No.9865752

What's wrong with mouseguard? The tabletop rpg is really fun...

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Nothing, and I absolutely adore the comic and think the tabletop game is pretty enjoyable (BW is better). However, every tybe B personality, pretty princess nightmare girl I knew and the one I dated for 3 years loved that and Saga. It just fits the pretty princess meme and I thought it was pretty funny.

>tfw no /cgl/ gf to take to church

>> No.9865756

>mfw /cgl/ gf
>mfw bf doesn't appreciate he has /cgl/ gf

no one to gloat to except the incels on the feels thread i guess

>> No.9865760

>sees most of my cosplay friends doing cosplay groups, hanging out with cosplay friends and photoshoots
>feels jealous because I want to cosplay but can't because of studies and cosplay groups end up failing

How do I stop feeling like this? I have a group that I'm in but that's not until the end of May. and I have some cosplays I've ordered but most can't be used for groups and the ones that can be used for groups people have recently done groups for.

>> No.9865763

>tfw so lonely but so scared of people
>result to listening to maid roleplay ASMR
>sad part is it actually makes me feel better and less lonely

>> No.9865769

It depends where you live and what you do. IT has different education requirements and responsibilities than coding (what he does), for example. And as anon mentioned, living costs are factored in. The real trick is to find a telecommuting job from a company based somewhere where living costs are high, and then live somewhere where costs are low.

He makes nowhere near 100k yet (remember, starting salary in a low cost area). The father of one of my friends works at a bank, doing coding, and he makes well over 100k, probably even when converted to US funds. He has been with the company for several decades. So who knows how that's going to end up.

All I know is, the average salary for something like developmental services worker or a case worker is like 35k. And that's average, not starting.

>> No.9865774

Lolitas are so fucking mean

>> No.9865776

The world is mean. Pucker up, buttercup, because it's only going to get worse from here.

>> No.9865778

I'm a guy

>> No.9865780

what happened?

>> No.9865781

I'm not going to tell you to "man up" and accept reality, but the truth is people, in general, can be mean. Sad but true.
What makes you think all lolitas are mean? Genuinely curious here.

>> No.9865782

They are closed minded and elitist

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>> No.9865787

Elaborate please.
I know many lolitas who are open minded and friendly, and what outsiders misconstrue as elitism is simply standards for aesthetics and behaviors that we want to maintain in our community.
Did you try to join a comm and were kicked out for not dressing the part or something?

>> No.9865788

But in what way?

>> No.9865792

Everyone is mean you pussy

>> No.9865796

They say things that are close minded and elitist? And they gossip behind backs

I'm not mean

>> No.9865797

>They say things that are close minded and elitist? And they gossip behind backs
Oh you sweet summer child

>> No.9865798

>lolitas are mean
>how are they mean?
>THEY'RE MEAN!!!!!!!111!!
explain better, or shut up

>> No.9865799

Let me guess, you're a "nice guy"?

>> No.9865802

I always thought people were lying about lolitas being mean but it turned out true

I am?

>> No.9865803

give us the details

>> No.9865804

I'm friendly and generous and I want to make friends. But no matter how hard I try I get excluded

>> No.9865805

>they gossip behind backs
Everyone does this, my dude. Literally everyone, everywhere. I don't know what sheltered bunker you came out of but this isn't behavior that's exclusive to lolitas.

>> No.9865806

I don't

>> No.9865808

Are you the same guy from the friend finder thread who's complaining about being a gf-less virgin?

>> No.9865809

There has to be a reason? A lot of lolitas I see online are super super accepting of dudes, even sissies, because if not they're potentially being transphobic, yadda yadda yadda

>> No.9865818

That's literally what you're doing here?

>> No.9865827

>tfw this guy is still here
It's clear that /cgl/ is not the community for him, yet he persists.

>> No.9865833

Lolitas are mean. where are you from? I'll be your friend.

>> No.9865836

>Be dude
>Chicks at work find me attractive but they're all repulsive
>A lot of them say I look like "Spencer from Criminal Minds"
>Most women interested in me are looking for another child support payment
Not /cgl/ but come here because this is the only place to vent feels anonymously without it being a place full of gross losers.

>> No.9865838

If you look like him then heck, I'll be your gf.

>> No.9865839

The fact you try to take yourself seriously while doing this autistic screeching will never stop being funny

>> No.9865840

>get super into cosplay and lolita
>get pretty skilled at both
>try to get semi-weeb friend into both but she shows little interest
>get cool, talented lolita comm friends
>normie friend gets a nerd bf and is suddenly VERY interested and wants to put together a few lolita coords for upcoming con.
>realize friend is still the blouseless, bodyline ita she was last year.
>both normie friend and lolita comm friends wants to hang out a LOT at con.

On one hand, I really don't want to end up posted somewhere because my normie friend is a hyper ita. On the other hand, I've spend a shit ton of time and money building my wardrobe and coords. I don't want to lend her anything beyond a decent blouse just so she can impress the dude she's boning.

>> No.9865846

Anon, what is wrong with your reading comprehension? This is my first post in this thread, and I have no qualms with men on /cgl/ who are genuinely interested in cosplay and lolita. What is annoying is when this boy enters with "tfw no gf" or "tfw I'm a virgin." At least it's fun to read through the small drama, I guess.

>> No.9865847

>without it being a place full of gross losers.
heh Y-yeah. You're right a-about that.

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>> No.9865854

>Having not one, but two groups of friends fighting for your free time to do nerdy shit with
You have no idea how much I envy you.

>> No.9865872

She didn't screech, you did. why are you so mad?

then make friends with non lolitas. this is a cosplay board too

>> No.9865878

why are you stuttering?

>> No.9865879

It's a nervous tell when I'm lying.

>> No.9865881

lie about what?

>> No.9865883

Agreeing with him.

>> No.9865886

I'm a dude and find the >tfw no lolita gf stuff annoying unless it's obviously self-aware

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>> No.9865927

shes was passive agressive and smug, thats like the lolcow version of sperging out

>> No.9866014

You probably do but don't think of it as gossiping.

>> No.9866023

>tfw no gf to punch me in the face

>> No.9866150

I am happy for my scars on the back and shoulders because I can never go out with a jsk and no blouse/cardighan.
But I hate when they bleed through bandages on the blouse shoulders. Sweet kuro lolita 4 life.

>> No.9866940

I haven't made a friend in over 10 years and I've slowly been drifting for my only 3 friends over the past couple of years

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I know that feel.

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