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Previous thread is way past bump limit. >>9802684My comm leader is turning 30 this year, and is worried she may be forcibly removed, as is tradition.
>>9806753>tfw when looking forward to cons isn't suppressing the desire to eat a bullet any more
>10 pounds overweight>half the cosplayers I see are fat af>still feel bad about MY body
I just found out my comm-mate's older brother is a 32yo kissless virgin, so we're bringing him to tea to shop for a gf. Wish us luck.
>>9806767You can lose it anon. You could be the waifu of your own dreams. 10 pounds is doable in 2 months without getting extreme.>>9806793You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. There's a reason people stay like that so long.
>>9806753>tfw finally lost a fuckton of weight and am now thin for the first time in my life>put off cosplaying since high school because of confidence issues, can't wait to get back into it now>spent all my money on buyfagging and travelling to europeI used to have so much disposable income, even when spending like crazy.That trip blew all my finances and now I'm flat broke.
>enforce dress code for meets>girl shows up in a JSK and a shirt that says "I eat more pussy than cervical cancer"
>>9806840Do not blame her, it's almost all-lesbian community, she's just trying to be in
>don't really keep up with youtubers in my country>only hate two of them, don't really care for the rest>one of them got invited to two cons I went toGoddammit, he's just so fucking boring. Like, yay, you can sing anime OPs and watched cartoons and anime from, the 90s and early 00s. Big whoop. I noticed that crowds mostly don't care for him either.
This place changed a lot over the years. I still just really love lolita, but I don't like cgl that much anymore. I think my time has finally come. Goodbye gulls, see you "tomorrow".
Just bought a dress for a friend, one she really liked and wanted, and for half the price of the previous listing we saw. She's just starting out in lolita and I'm excited to help her build her wardrobe, added bonus I will finally have someone to twin with! Today is a good day.
>>9806963That's so nice of you, anon!I've done something similar for a friend once when she started out; she was very excited about it but never even thanked me once. I hope your friend will openly appreciate what you're doing for her!
>>9806825Don’t regret the trip, anon. As long as you enjoyed it, it’s a great idea to trave why your young. Cosplay will always be there, but the energy and flexibility to travel internationally might not be
TFW a Chinese girl in my comm sees my older brother and offers to take him to China for a week.
I used to do cosplay lewds because it's what I saw a lot of the big-name cosplayers doing. I'm not proud of it, but I put it behind me and focus more seriously on my craft now. I was messaging my dream photographer about shooting with him and he all of the sudden stopped messaging me back. I'm scared that he googled my name or reverse image searched me and found my old trashy lewds and hates me now.
>>9807146I want to see these lewds
>>9807146A lot of places will take them down if you ask nicely!
>friend texts me that his little sister has loads of things she wants to do at the con>try to reply "Such as?">phone corrects it to "Suck ass?"
>me and my girlfriend both have depression>endless cycle of sadness >arguments aren't even arguments, just heated attempts at understanding each other more >always end in us both repeatedly saying sorry and that we'll try better next time>she dissociates>I maladaptive daydream We both need therapy
>>9807146>>9807156me too>>9807210maybe, that's one of the things what the little sister wants to do
>>9806904Lol. Am I right that this guy? Is haha, couldn’t get enough of it, but I’d let her if she wanted me to.
>>9806970I'm sorry your friend wasn't too thankful about your gesture anon, that kinda sucks :/ at least she was excited about it, right?
>put on cosplay to see how it looks as you're working on it.>feel a rush of happiness when you see yourself in the mirroralso>basically only had contact with family for the past 3 months or so, as well as texting college friends (studying abroad in late march-early august so I've been chilling at home)>realize I don't really need many friends>TFW you know nobody IRL to talk about cosplay with though
Bloggers whine about sexy characters "alienating" female fans, but then the conventions are full of SS Harleys and MeMeMes. I don't think critics get the fans at all.
>>9806893If you're talking about PelleK or Erock, we're fighting.
>>9807491>>TFW you know nobody IRL to talk about cosplay with thoughthis, after college I have no where to go to talk to people about it.
>tfw someone cosplaying a leotard character doesn't wear dance tightsThat Cammy White cosplayer was very pretty, but I did not need to see her ham-wallet.
>>9807631how do they not feel that? At that point wouldn't it be riding up into her cock chute?
>>9807631>>9807637>ham-wallet>cock chuteWtf is wrong with you people?
>>9807658When you literally spend every waking moment of your life thinking vagina and talking about it with your m8's, 'vagina' and 'pussy' lose their luster. You've got to get inventive ya know? Ham-wallet, honey pot, cock chute, gash, badly packed kebab, know what I'm sayin? Pink fortress, baby cannon, tampon tunnel, and wizard sleeve - capiche? Variety is the spice of life when discussing the great billowing expanse. To keep this on topic, anyone know how to deal with partners that aren't receptive to the hobby? Seeing this stacy rn who keeps tip toeing around it.
>>9807210>typing a bunch of shit and the mashing "send" as fast as possible without checking for autocorrect fuckupswhy
>tfw last parent finally died so I can kill myself without hurting anyoneIt's almost over gulls, thank god
>>9807671Good hurry up and kys
>>9807658>>9807665You forgot "In-N-Out Burger".
>>9807671Please seek help. We're here for you.
>>9807691Working on it. Selling off most of my stuff and getting my will finalized. Hard to find a charity to donate my money to that isn't corrupt though. >>9807695Tried. Doesn't work. Some people are meant to just be forgotten.
>>9807708We all feel this way sometimes, but you need to reach out to your friends about this.
>>9807718I did, you guys are my friends. Thanks for trying to help, but it's for the best.
>>9807671I feel you anon. Not wanting my parents to bury me is one of the reasons I haven't kms yet. The other reason is that I want to see the end of Detective Conan. As long as you're sure you're going to leave without regrets, then good luck.
>>9807671Hey anon, as your boardmate & friend I'm telling you that you should call 18002738255.
>>9807736Thanks anon, I'm pretty sure this time.>>9807739I've called hotlines before when I was freaking out, I don't really know what they could do for me now. Thanks for the concern though.
>>9807723>>9807736You must have irl friends you can talk to. Please don't feel like you're bothering them.
>>9807775Not really any more. Moved away and a lot of my friends ignore me now.
>>9807796Why do you feel so unfixable? You aren't.
>>9807775I do, but I'm just tired. If I had energy to talk to them and unrepress my feelings, then I wouldn't want to give up my burando and die.
>>9807811Not really worth fixing. I don't have anything more to look forward to and no obligation to stay alive any more. Thanks for your concern though.
jfash part >see cute bustier skirt >waist a couple cm smaller than my own >decide to risk it>waist fits fine but dress slips off my flat fucking chestany cutsews that come with cutlets?>>9807823does it have to be that all-or-nothing, though? i've had a couple suicidal friends and, while i'm not assuming your life is the same, sometimes what helps is just sitting on the floor together or briefly saying hi sometimes until it feels normal to talk again.
>>9807823Sleep on it. Don't make a bad decision. Seek help.>>9807826This is wrong, and I guarantee it.
>>9807830>>9807858No worries, I'm going to off myself yet. It's just that I know I'm going to end up doing it at some point, probably after my parents have passed on like anon's. The brief moments of happiness are nice, but they're within a grand scheme of bleakness and I'm really just tired.
>only have like two friends>my best friend and my boyfriend>best friend has been growing distant because of stuff happening in his life>we don't play MMOs together anymore and every time i see him, he immediately unloads all of his whining and self-pity onto me>i kinda don't wanna hang out with him too much anymore>feel bad but...I've tried so hard to give him advice, to point him in the right direction>he insists he knows best and ignores my advice or plain out does the opposite>for simple stuff, too! ex: doesn't have money for lunch or time to make it in the morning before he goes, tell him to just make a batch and freeze it for the week>doesn't do it, keeps on buying outside food>complains again that he doesn't have money for food>igiveup.png>but i don't wanna because he's my friend...we used to make cosplays together, we used to make plans of character we could cosplay together and it's all just suddenly gone>ontop of that....if i don't contact him, he doesn't contact me at all>i know people have to move on every now and then, it wasn't gonna stay like that forever, but i didn't want it to end like thisI just need new friends, at least one. Having a boyfriend and an additional friend cannot be healthyEvery con I go to I tell myself that I'm gonna try to be more friendly, smile more, be more welcoming but it doesn't work out for me.No one I meet ever passes the realm of 'acquaintance.'
>>9807902How did you meet your friend and bf? Just meet people that same way
Obligatory>Tfw no gf>>9807902I know this feel both from your point of view and your friend's. My guess is he doesn't contact you on his own because he feels like he's bothering you. At least that's why I didn't contact my friends. On the flip side, I know all about people asking for advice and promptly ignoring it. I am the automotive authority amongst my friends and family. Every time one if them is in the market for a new car and asks for my advice I ask them for whatever criteria they need to meet and then I tell them exactly what to buy to meet those needs, then a week later I find out they bought the exact opposite of what they need. Ex. Friend says they need a car that's reliable, practical, and easy to maintain for under $5k. I tell then to get a Corolla because they're dirt cheap to run and you can find them everywhere. Instead they go and buy a beat-to-shit Mini Cooper for $7k because "It's so cute!" and then complain to me a month later that the CEL is on and the engine rattles. On the plus side I make a shitload of money off of their bad decisions.
>>9807932If s/he's anything like me, the only way to make friends is to occupy the same space for a prolonged period of time with no escape. I haven't made a proper friend since high school.
>>9807932>>9807936My best friend I met in high school and my boyfriend I met through friends from high school. So yeah....>>9807933He is the type to think he's bothering me... Funny to think that since we've been friends for 10 years
>>9806753"Hide your powerlevel" is a load of shit. All it ever did was make me afraid to approach people with my hobbies and I found out too late that the "normie" I had my eyes on was a low-key weeb who wanted to cosplay.Take my warning: If people judge you based on what you like, they aren't worth your time. I wished I learned that a long time ago.
I wonder, what's gulls' opinion on people juidging your SO for dating weeb/gal in childish dresses?
>>9807987don't give a shit, if you love them then you love them
>>9807671Don't do it, anon. Don't you have things you still want to do? Things you want to give a shot at? Give yourself some time. Try to do the things you never thought you could do. Even if you fail, what does it matter? Think back on all the times you thought "I should visit here" or "I should go see that" or "I should try to do that someday". If you die, you'll never get to try, so why not do it now before you make that final decision? Give potential solutions to your seemingly unfixable problems the ol' college try?Do you know what Ken Baldwin said his thought was at the moment he jumped off the Golden Gate bridge? "I instantly realized that everything in my life that I’d thought was unfixable was totally fixable—except for having just jumped." Don't you think it's worth trying to fix that "unfixable" before it's too late?
>>9806843As a lesbian, nothing turns me off more than gross itas. I'd rather fuck a man than an ita.
>>9807979I try to hide my powerlevel because I find it's my enthusiasm that alienates people more than my actual interests. I don't understand why people have to apologize for their hobbies and for enjoying things, no wonder everyone is so depressed nowadays. But I have genuinely put people off things by being overenthusiastic, it really sucks. I just want to bask in other people's excitement and enjoyment, and share mine with them too...
>>9807987I worry someone will think my boyfriend is a pedo and report him or call his workplace about it. We're both 22, but he's been yelled at for holding my hand in public multiple times before.
I'm in an LDR and I'm starting to wonder if it was a mistake. >Used to be a friendless lonelita, made a New Year Resolution to change that this year. >Started doing CrossFit and going to lolita meets. >Finally made some friends within driving distance. >Been asked out by two guys and another lolita and I really want to try going on some actual dates. >Boyfriend in another country is meant to be working towards moving here but hasn't really made any progress in two years since he last visited.>Seems like he just drinks and plays Overwatch all day.I want to break up with him but he's the only romantic relationship I've ever had and I'm afraid I might end up alone again. At least he's good company on Discord.
>>9808046>hasn't really made any progress in two years since he last visited.You're a side girl.
>>9808060The more I think about it the more right it seems, anon. What would be the least painful way to break up with him?>>9808062He spends most of his time on Discord with me so I really doubt that. I think I would have heard if he had another girl there with him
>>9808064>What would be the least painful way to break up with him?Call him. You can't really do it in person because it would just get his hopes up just to hurt him. Don't do it through a text or discord. He'll just keep looking at the text on the screen afterwards. Think about what you're going to say and call him. Make sure it's final. Don't do that "I still want to be friends." bullshit. It's just going to give him hope that there's a second chance for a relationship prolonging the denial part of the grieving process to a point where he might get stuck there. End it with a quiet not angry "It's over." It hurts like shit to hear but it helps the grieving process a lot.
>>9808064Preferably over Skype/video call so you can actually talk to him rather than doing it over text. I had to break off a 4 year LTR relationship when I was younger and honestly it was the best decision I made. I wasn't really living my life as my whole world revolved around sitting on a computer so I could speak to him. Sure, you might be lonely at first because you won't have that person there to speak to, but you can go on the dates you mentioned and makes new friends in real life.
>>9808064>I really doubt that.Deny all you want but if he actually wanted to be around you, he would be there more than once every two years.Do you really think he's putting in his best efforts for you?You sound like you already know "something" is wrong with the relationship, or you wouldn't be asking about it here, would you?
>tfw traveling by bus to anime cons
>>9808091>tfw watching all other congoers and cosplayers do the walk of shame from the train/bus to the con while i blow them full of smoke with my rx-8
What/Who does one sacrifice to obtain the Meta D. Walkure set?>will never achieve cute military coord
i'm bidding on my dream item on yahoo auctions and it ends soon, im gonna get into a bidding war and spend way too much i just know it, fuckin kill me im so nervous
>>9808108>RX-8Kek, the drunken one night stands of sports cars.
>>9808151At least the car is probably old enough to be legal for that one night stand.
>>9808148i lost. it got ridiculously expensive. hold me..
>>9808167I'm so sorry, anon? May I ask you, what piece it was?
>>9808171Omg, mistyped question mark (._.)
>>9808108You need apex seals, my friend.
>>9808171Thanks anon. It was a second hand h.naoto skirt, which usually go around 5-15 pounds, and it was edging up to like 80 pounds. Not much but I'm a massive poorfag
I think I'm going to kill myself soon. I'm a failure. I can't do anything right. School is too stressful for me and has taken over my life. I want to live happily, but I can't, I'm trapped, so I'm taking the easy way out.There's no point in living if all it is is stress and sadness.
>>9808195They have pills for that you know?
>>9808197For killing myself? Yeah, I know.Or do you mean for this intense stress/depression? I'm already on a shit ton of pills. Nothing will change the fact that school is ruining my life. Nothing will change the fact that I was raised to believe anything lower than a 90 is failing and that I'm an idiot without perfect grades. Nothing will change the fact that I'm too stupid to understand basic math...
>>9808199That sounds entirely surmountable with a change in perspective. If you finally experience failure before you kill yourself you'll realize life has many more chances after a single failure and being afraid of failure to a visceral level seems quite silly after the fact. Keep trying and if you don't fail you'll be fine. If you do fail try again and you'll be fine. Most importantly if you continue to live life you will be fine. It gets tough at times but there's nothing you can't do.
>>9808155Old cars are best cars.RX7 is in fact, better than an RX8.
>trying to lose weight>Absolutely cannot control myself in binge eating when out with family/friends>Have barely made progress in the last month Help me
>>9808211Try intermittent fasting. Cutting your eating window down allows bigger meals during the times you're allowed to eat.
>tfw you got into cosplay hoping for a bunch if crafting discussion >It ended up being a bunch of kids buying cosplays and commissioning people so they can dress up for parties>Tfw pretty much every con you go to, more people care about getting smashed and laid than actually needing out or dressing upSucks
>>9808213I actually do IF, eat at 2PM and last meal is around 7 - 8. My usual goal is 1500 calories and I lift too. All that kind of goes out the window when I have a board game/d&d night and eat a full pizza pie + package of Oreos + sodas + more chocolate + family sized bags of chips + pls fucking kill me
>>9808219Sounds like you need to train yourself to not associate gatherings with food. Try making green tea during gatherings and drinking only that. It will give you something to do and keep your stomach full making self control easier.
>>9808222That's definitely true, even before the session starts I'm already thinking of what kind of calorie laden cheat foods I'll be eating. I think I'm just going to bring a gigantic thermos full of coffee or tea next session and see how that goes. Wish me luck, I really want to get to the point of cosplaying Reg with a decent body this summer.
>>9808228You can do it, gull. I believe in you.
>>9807613Nope, those are fucking celebrities compared to the faggot I'm talking about
>>9807622How the fuck do you find cosplayers in college? Im in school in fucking Boston, the city of colleges, and I have no idea how to find other cosplayers.The anime club is a disgrace as expected and full of autists about anime, not cosplay. I want the real primo autists that'll bash my cosplay and help me improve and vice versa
>>9808010Nah, at least nothing that's realistic. I've done most what I can do with my life and am tired of it. Thankfully finishing out the last two weeks of my job now.
>>9808195>>9808199Your weakness fills me with disgust.Try being born into wrong body. Every day having to live a lie, pretending to be someone else. And if you try to be yourself, you are constantly conscious about something being off about yourself. I had courage to do that twice, both times I got to experience weird looks. I don't know if I was doing something wrong, if I was too brave clothing into lolita, or if I just looked so off and disgusting. Every day I'm thinking why I'm alive, every day I'm considering suicide. I don't know if I can be myself, if I can ever be happy. I'm fighting every day against odds. I dropped out from school due to depression, but I got up, got a job, tried to live. Now I'm risking losing it all, trying to become myself, trying to grasp happiness. I'm still fighting, I'm still trying to live.Not getting high enough scores? It's just school. Get a hold of your life. Find someone to talk about your problems with, a professional. Talk to your parents about their expectations, because you might have false image of the situation; I don't think they care about grades more than about your happiness.You definitely are an idiot thinking that killing yourself is a good idea.
>be sukeban lolita with gangster bf from prior thread>still haven't told him because i need to maintain my tough girl image>get drunk together>start watching Versailles>all bets are off>my drunk ass can't shut up about how cool the rococo movement is>he jokes about dressing like king louis if im so into it>fuck it, we're in>show him my lolita insta>tell him i'm kind of embarrassed and meant to keep it a secret but drunk>"damn, you're really into that 17th century shit huh? that's cool. you don't need to be embarrassed. you dress however you want.">"and if anybody messes with you about it, you call me.">continues to listen to me rant about dumb history stuffwe did it, gulls. i'm pretty sure he's only been involved with instathot types while i've only been involved with nerds but we're gonna make it work.
>>9808308>Le I think I have it worse so no one can ever be sad or depressedThat doesn't help at all
>>9808311Congratulations. Are you going to participate in the turfwar on horseback?
>>9808314Killing oneself over school is stupid. It's something you have control over.
>>9808037you should get one of those Sims costume headbands and replace the plumbob with a sign that says "legal adult"
>>9808317But going into some whiny monologue about how people shouldn't be depressed because you're a tranny and SO much more depressed isn't helpful at all even if their reason is stupid
>>9808308boohoohoo im a big tranny so no one else can ever have problems
>>9808315unfortunately not, but we did joke about keeping a strap under my petti
>>9808339Get him to dress as a yakuza and come with you to meets
>>9808354All of this!
>>9808216this is truly the biggest i've felt with someone else on /cgl/>tfw no BFF to browse fabric stores with and talk about fabric choice/techniques>tfw the scene is people scrambling over each other trying to get more instagram followers with shitty taobao cosplays while you just want to make others happy when they see your work
i just looked at a picture of myself from when i started wearing lolita 2 years ago and i was so pretty and happyit's not like anything has physically changed but i don't see the same pretty happy girl in the mirror anymore and it makes me so sad. that girl would have been in awe at the wardrobe i have now. she would treat everything with care and have all kinds of ideas. she only had 3 dresses and she never would've thought she would have the following she has now. i'm who she desperately wanted to be but i'm miserable and i hate it. i want that glimmer back. i miss her.
>>9808400I wish I had someone to craft with other than my mom... I'm trying to get my sisters into cosplay but not much success yet :( Why do my cosplay friends all live so far?
>>9808413>posting SP/VRNice.Anyway, why are you miserable? Asking seriously; do you know what makes you feel this way? Do you feel like you have to look perfect all the time? Do you not have any good opportunities to dress up? Did the fashion just lose its magic as time went by?
>>9808425some of the things in that book hit hard anonmy answer is a lame and longwinded one, so sorry: i started wearing lolita when i was 16. i dove into it headfirst. it was a huge part of my life. all of my friends were lolitas, i went to events, i met my lolita "idols" and favorite designers, and it was my greatest source of joy. i even modeled for them once and it was a dream come true (don't mean that as a brag, just showing i peaked early). i had never had so many friends before, and had never had so many people like me since i was a loner.then i just kind of grew up and real life started happening. i work and school fulltime, like a lot of adults have to do. i still like the clothes and wear them when i can, but they've lost that unattainable magical feeling they had when i was a little younger. i post my looks on social media, but when the likes roll in i feel nothing in comparison to how happy i used to be to get any interaction at all. i don't have much opportunity to keep in touch with my lolita friends (they're growing up and have their own lives too), and the person who introduced me to the fashion left me in the dust. wearing lolita reminds me that we'll never be friends again. lots of people see me but i'm very alone. so after that blogpost, i think i just miss the way things used to be with my friends. i also miss the capability of feeling excited and hopeful about things. now i hardly feel anything. i've achieved every goal and ticked all the boxes but i'm just a sadsack busybody in cute clothes.
I want to join a lolitacomm here in SoCal but i'm scared i'll be all weird and retarded or can't communicate well since i'm a foreigner and to be honest i haven't had (good) friends since high schoolIt's gotten to that point i see lolita related nightmares often and i'm losing all my courage to even tryHow should i even approach people at a meetup?
>>9808466Aww, I'm sorry, anon. Regardless of the ties to fashion, losing friends is never fun. Having said that, I don't quite understand the issue of "peaking" early, or at all, in a fashion that's meant to be a form of self expression. Maybe you need to look at it in a different way, because in truth there's no real "goal" to this fashion beyond making the wearers happy.I do agree that making a lot of friends, meeting your idols, modelling for a brand or several are all amazing experiences, but are there really goals? Are these the things you hoped to achieve with this fashion? Sorry if I come off a bit judgmental, my intent is to suggest a different perspective. What made you want to wear this fashion when you first discovered it?>>9808555>How should i even approach people at a meetup?Introduce yourself on the comm's FB page before you meet up with them, it can help. When you do get to the meetup, pay compliments to girls you want to strike a conversation with;>wow anon your op is amazing! I always thought it looked nice in pictures but it's even better in real life>I love your makeup, how did you do it?>did you make your headdress yourself? It looks great! Have you been hand making your own accessories for a long time?These are just a few examples, obviously you should try coming up with your own depending on the people you meet. It's really not that difficult. If English is your second language and you're self conscious about it, being straightforward about it can help too.>sorry if my English is a bit weird, I'm not used to speaking itOr something or other; most people are a lot more forgiving than you think.
>>9808216People only going to cons to get drunk really grinds my gears. Why even fucking bother? Especially my friends who just hang out with their local group at the con. You're literally paying hundreds of dollars extra to spend the whole time wasted in the hotel room with the exact same people you get wasted with at home on a regular basis.
I’m so fuckin tired of being so fat, I just want to stick to a diet and try to lose weight but I’m a stupid piece of shit and always hungry or I turn to food if I get depressed. At this point I’m better off just purging everything I eat.
>>9806753>love the idea of full-body cosplay>really want to create this>have to cross the line of full degeneracy with no option to return>will forever be associated with a crazy personI have ideas too :(
>>9808064Personally, I think you should make an ultimatum before breaking up for good: Sort his life out or you walk.
>>9807139Post pics of bro pls
>>9808581Don't purge anon. Improve your diet, exercise more, anything but that.I have bulimia. When it used to be a lot worse I was really chubby. I managed to stop/tone it down a lot for many months and lost a ton of weight just by not purging. I've gone back to it recently out of stress and have gained a few pounds. It's not worth it, you gain weight and you fuck up your body and mind all for an illusion.
>>9808466That page always hits me so hard. That one and this one.
>Trying to lose weight> Won't really change my crappy face> or the fact I am missing teeth and insurance won't cover getting any kind of bridge, etc> Can never smile in cosplay, if I do it looks weird... and open mouth smile isn't possible
>tfw a sissy follows you on Instagram
>>9808618B L O C K
>>9808618Just do what >>9808634 says. Life is too short to bolster your follower count with degenerates.
>>9806893Why do you care about them at all if you "don't keep up with them"?I apparently ran, literally, into Jessica Nigri, twice apparently, and both times I had no idea who she was save another bottle blonde white girl.The people who I was with had to point her out, and I kept walking.
>tfw arab hook nose>tfw never look good in cosplay
>saw an auction for a dream item from moitie on lacemarket>FUCK YEA IM BIDDING FOR THESE ON THE LAST MINUTE>had a shit week, i was highkey looking forward to getting this and would do anything in my way to do so>patiently waits days for auction to end, stalking the page constantly and dreaming of coordinates already with that item>the last minutes arrived, got my bid price ready>some other person tries to outbid me>FUCK NO>sets a higher bid>PERSON SETS A HIGHER BID>I SET AN EVEN HIGHER BID BUT MY COMPUTER WAS TOO SLOW>mfw the other person won the bidgoodbye rare moitie otks, hopefully in the name of mana we will be reunited again someday
>>9808706It'd be one thing if I didn't know him but he was a good host. He was just shit, people barely reacted to him, the guy can't seem to get a live crowd to care.
>>9806840Aye ask ur friend where she got that shirt...for uh, research
>tfw trying contacts for the first time at the optometrist soon cause i need some for cosplay>irrationally afraid of being allergic to the contact fluid for some reasonwhy can't i get this out of my head?!
>>9808716bullshit gull, semite nose is qt, just have the milkers to back it up.
>>9808091You are there, anon, who cares how, unless you exchanged a ride for buttsex and everyone found out.
>>9808108Is this Landau’s faggot ass?Shouldn’t you be manipulating your gf into making everything for you so you can take credit for it
>>9808219What D&D do you play?I'm still the sucker that runs 2e/4e.At least my group is fucking awesome, we just wrapped up a 3 year Dark Heresy campaign.I 1v2'd the Inquisitor and the Sororitas when they came to sanction my quintuple heretic guardsman.
>>9808339>keeping a strap under my pettiYou aren't the first one I've known to do that.
>>9808219Bring healthier snacks or pre-binge on healthy food before you go. Find a diet soda you can tolerate, and don't eat the fucking oreos. Shit, just show up with a vegetable tray and snack on that instead.
>>9806843I haven't came out as bi because I hate the gay community honestly
>>9808771i'm a dude
>miss out on local weeb con AA table because lottery>get e-mailed asking if I wanted a table at big comic expo>splitting with it with a craft idol of mine
>>9808780>diet sodaYou’ll regret that one, it fucks your hunger cues
>>9808898I'd rather have a diet soda and a healthy 200 cal snack than a regular soda. I personally drink sparkling water instead of diet soda though. Was just giving recommendations. It doesn't matter if it makes you hungry when all you end up doing is stuffing yourself with veggies though.
>find a girl who does super cute makeup that always looks well done>consider following, scroll down her feed>mfw there’s a pic of her in the cheapest party city wig and the crappiest Daydream Carnival replica I’ve ever seen someone wear>sad
>>9808898No it doesn't lol. Just fat people that have trouble controlling their diet drinking diet soda fucking up the studies.
>>9808898If you're already aware of what it does, it's not going to have much effect.
>want to put a crappy thing that happened to me years ago that made other issues snowball behind me>try talking to two people I trust about it>it's not particularly helpful
>be depressed from a whirlwind of family/work/ex bf related bullshit>feeling especially hard on myself because I've put on a few lbs out of stress eating but nothing terrible that would make stuff not fit>but my self depreciation is really bad, call myself ugly/fat/worthless in the mirror or any passing reflection and nitpick the shit out of myself every day>haven't worn lolita in a while>dress up for shits n gigs and go out for a bit>feel like a rock star when i look at myself in my floor mirror>get a ton of compliments just walking around a store >start to like my own face again I had forgotten how good it felt and how comfortable lolita is to me.
>>9808413>>9808466>>9808611What is this from again? The art is familiar but I don't think I've ever read it.
>>9808904If only you could force yourself drinking actual raw water instead. It accelerates metabolism and also nice for your skin. Kinda nasty for the first time tho, but if you get used to it it would be better.
>>9809009>regular fucking water>nasty
>>9809009Versus boiled water, which is shit for your metabolism because it's not ~raw~.
>>9809012¯\_(ツ)_/¯ what can I do, I must be addicted to cafeinated stuf. Also it's cold, it's not really comfy to drink something besides tea or coffee
>>9809009The difference in drinking sparkling vs regular water is negligible. It also tastes fairly good when you add a bit of lemon/lime juice or get ones that have citric acid as flavoring. I think it is probably easier for someone to kick a soda drinking habit with substitution than by switching to only plain water.
>>9809018That's weird because after 3 cups of coffee I need like a gallon of pure water.
>>9809021Nope! I have to balance my coffee and water intake otherwise I get dehydrated and my body craves water.
I SPENT TOO LONG BEING DEPRESSED THAT I FORGOT AN EVENT IS COMING UP IN 2.5 WEEKS AND MY DUMB ASS THOUGHT IT WAS A MONTH AWAY STILL.>bought dream dress>bought a few taobao accessories>submitted order to SS yesterday>realize today it's already march 7th what the fuck>oh god i hope everything arrives in a week>i'll ems it over here just in the nick of time>fuck me>i want to die>it's not gonna make it>more depression
>>9809012I have to say that I find the taste of water nasty as well. I've tried different bottled water brands to see if it was an issue with my local reservoir, but it still had the same 'taste'. Does water really not have a taste to you? You aren't the first person I've heard with that reaction to the idea, but I think it's interesting how some can taste water while other people cannot. I don't know, but maybe it is akin to how a few people can taste an extremely bitter aftertaste when eating peanut butter that the majority cannot.
>>9809039Obviously water has a taste, when I was a kid I also thought water was gross, but I got over that because it's childish and dumb. Anyone who claims to want to lose weight and does not exclusively drink water and/or tea is a joke to me.
>>9807823At least sell your burando so you can buy loads of food before you go and eat it all.Anyways, please don't do it anon.
>>9809038mfw event at the end of the month, started taobao order late February, the service is slow as fuck and some of my orders haven’t even been ordered yet by them because it takes them 24 hours to reply to one message
>>9808046I've been feeling this way. I love my boyfriend when I'm around him, but he's so far away that I forget what being with him is like. I don't want to break up, I just want to feel that closeness again.Can't break up anyways, he owes me like 2 grand.
>>9809044>when I was a kid I also thought water was gross, but I got over that because it's childish and dumbWhen people say something childish about their feels, it doesn't mean they don't bear that because it's good for them.
>>9808775Nope i'm a broke ass slavic weeb who likes to shit on other weebs>>9808151It's a nice car but for a fuckmobile it's waaay too uncomfy >>9808173Just swapped the whole engine block. Good to go for another 100k
>>9809052More than year ago I met really cute girl at the con. She lives far away from me, and I miss her so much. Actually, we talk online like every day, but it's nothing compared with being able to talk to her irl, cuddle her and so on. She's the most adorable creature I've ever seen, and I don't want to break up, but sometimes having her so far is unbearable.
>>9808775One more thing: whos that guy? Pls give me the story
>>9809059An RX-8 is a terrible car.It's like everything nice was taken out of the RX-7.And Mazda wonders why the Wankel died off.
>>9808716Find hook nosed characters?
>>9808219Replace sodas with unsweetened fruit juice, bring healthy snacks. I love golden raisins, you can get diet crackers, fruit slices or small fruit (apple slices, blueberries, grapes, cherry tomatoes, tangerines), baked or air-fried chips (less fat than regular chips), dark chocolate, cashews, hummus and pita, etc. There's really such a wealth of options!Also, tell your friends that you're trying to eat healthier, if they also bring healthier stuff you won't be tempted by the oreos!
>>9809107Nayrt, but future with no chocolates in it seems so macabre!
>>9809113Dark chocolate is pretty good! I actually eat dark baking chocolate all the time. Also, it may sound weird but lightly salted dark chocolate actually tastes really good! You can also get dark chocolate with various nuts, dried fruit, or other flavors like orange zest. And you don't have to get 90% cocoa either, 60 or 70% cocoa is still healthier than most chocolate snacks.
day like 140 of my life changing workoutmy fergus mac roich cosplay is probably gonna get nixed in favor of prisma illya shirou
my mood has been so shitty for weeks, don’t know what to do to make it bettereating doesn’t help, watching videos is temporary, angry at people for unnecessary reasons, angry at the world and myself for being what it isbuying dresses isn’t helpingwhat should i do
>tfw your bff thinks you're too excited in general
>>9809178Have you tried taking vitamin D? I mean, not that it would fix all your problems but vitamin D deficiency is a big reason why people feel tired and cranky in winter
>>9809227I love excited people. They're so positive and bring light into your day. Don't let negativity bring you down, Anon. You're perfect the way you are.
>trying to save up for Fanimecon>keeps buying takeoutGoddammit
>>9809248Me too. I guess, that's my type, when a person is loud, but also really soft :3 People like this attract me just immediately!
>>9809246Despite living in a gloomy cold place I always forget about this I’m gonna try taking some, thank
>>9809256I need a friend like this. Most of my friends are all really ambitious which I like but also very cool personalities so they don't get excited easily. I guess that comes with the territory when everyone's trying to get youtube/instagram/whatever famous. Me personally I don't ever want to be famous. Too much hassle. I just want a core group of friends that are positive, excitable, and happy people but that's a rarity these days.
>>9809260>everyone's trying to get youtube/instagram/whatever famousThat sounds awful and I'm sorry for your loss.
>>9809263It's not great and not terrible. Most of the time it comes out of a superficial need to be accepted but I already think they're cool people. They just have an urge for thinking becoming famous will fix their lives but I see that as running away from their current lives. The moments we share connections are more important than the number of comments on a video. They're just people though so you can't really fault people being people.
>>9809260Honestly, I'd like to be insta famous, but I just don't have any effort worthy concept atm, and having just basic "cute clothes - cute foods - a bit of landscapes - HAULS" insta seems prety boring to me.
>>9809059Rotaries don't have blocks.>>9809073Rotaries were killed by emissions regs, which is also why the RX-8 was so terrible.
>>9809268It's a bit of luck and skill from what I've seen. You have to not be shit at it, not that you are but some people really are bad at it, and you also have to get lucky that the magical computer algorithms spotlight you so people can see you're not shit at what you post. Being different is a good risk to take as you'll get points for originality but ultimately your fate is designed by a computer with code that even the people that made it don't know how it works. Just try to find what makes you happy and if that's numbers then so be it.
>>9809227Man, this is what I'm afraid of. I'm very talkative and excitable, and I spend a lot of time worrying that it overwhelms or puts people off. >Doesn't help that I'm an American who moved to a part of Europe where people are a lot more stoic.
>>9809273Your friends will forgive any transgressions you make and if they don't they're not really worth being friends with. Keep being you.
I love my lolita friends and have gotten good at suppressing my social anxiety, but whenever I go out with them, I struggle to eat and feel nauseated if I do. It's definitely not because of weight or shame, I think it's my social anxiety coming out. It's weirdly embarrassing, I wish it didn't happen.
>>9809256Me too, I'm pretty introverted and I don't talk a whole lot, but I love listening to people, especially when they're passionate about what they're talking about!
Dreamed that I went to my 10th high school reunion in lolita and was banned for being ita.When I woke up, I wanted to puke I was so sad.
>>9809260>Core group of friends that are positive, excitable, and happy people>Tfw this describes my lolita friendship circle
>>9809365That's great. I'm happy for you. Keep them close.
>>9809370.... and keep fat itas who only wear replicas even closer >_>ugh, I'm sorry, nayrt
>>9809370I hope you find a happy group of lolitas soon, too!
I've felt like shit being so short my whole life (4'11, idk if i've grown) but after discovering sweet lolita and especially salopettes i don't feel so bad about it anymore
Whoops. I got too excited and bid before the cost really hit me. I'm excited about the item, I'm obviously going to pay and I know it'll be 100% worth it, but I really need to be better with my money in the future. Lolita is great, but I need to eat and pay rent too.
>>9809444As a tall anon I am vicariously happy for you. Rock those salos they are so fucking cute
>tfw I'm never going to find a bf who's into cosplay unless I meet him at a con, and if I do meet someone, chances are he doesn't live anywhere near me since the nearest con is a three-hour drive from where I liveIt's not like I have high standards, I just don't really want to be a in a relationship with someone that I have so little in common with.
>got sick and ate nearly nothing for 3 days>lost 5 pounds>not sick anymore>skip breakfast and lunch>not hungry at dinner >force myself to eatEver since I got sick and lost so much weight I’ve felt the need to not eat, I’m not even that fat I was 144 after losing weight I’m 139, I’m 5’9”. I don’t even like how skellys look and I don’t want to land myself an ED but not eating makes me feel better. Help
>>9809504>thinking you're even close to skelly/ED tier at that height and weightdon't kid yourself anon
>>9809504I'm an inch shorter than you and weigh about twenty pounds less, get on my level.
>tfw 5'2>110 pounds from stress eating>used to be 95lb 4 months ago.I wish i carried more fat on my legs and thighs instead of my tummy and arms. I can never do midriff cosplays because I got a little muffin top.I wish I didn't love food so much.
>>9809507>>9809513Fuck it you guys are right, I’d rather not eat and be skinny than be the fatty I am rn
>>9809520>5'6"ish>115>stress eat a shit ton of salty foods>gain 20lbs in a month I'm an overachiever. To be fair I'm sure a lot of it is water weight since i've literally poured salt on everything but I still know that feel
>>9809504You're well weighted at that height, try to maintain a healthy diet and do some regular running and you'll be just fine. Kind of jealous, desu. Don't listen to these other jealous or bitter gulls, they're just being catty because they dislike their own bodies and have their own issues, and it's difficult being overweight and reading or hearing about people complaining about being underweight. Just focus on yourself and your own body and most importantly, remember >tfw no cosplay/lolita gf. Things will be all right. Take care of yourself anon! Don't develop an eating disorder! I'll be rooting for you!
>>9809504Same. Honestly, I don't feel that hungry after being sick and don't a lot. From how I rationalize it, it's fine though? If you were sick, you were probably not doing much physical activity anyway. As long as you're not consistently losing weight for months, I wouldn't worry about eating less here and there.
>>9809615Aww thank you anon
I only have like 4 friends who cosplay, and they're all going to different colleges than me next year. The one I did early decision for I'm not even sure I want to go to anymore. The only people I've seen who are going on the Facebook group are Stacy's who all like the exact same things. They don't even have a club for anime, so I'm putting myself into a corner thinking I'll meet nobody with similar interests when I go. I know it's stupid but I honestly can't stop dreading it now.
>>9809684Having friends may be an important part of a college experience, but keep in mind that it's not your primary purpose there. If this college is the best for your educational needs and future career, it's worth it going there and putting up with shallow friendships for a few years. You might also find people with shared interests without going through a club. There could be plenty of those people in the college, they're just not advertising themselves as weebs online.
>>9809696I know that college isn't all social, but I honestly have no idea what I want to do for a career. My idea for a major honestly doesn't sound appealing at all now, so I thought I might as well think of something else while I figure out my life plan. It's more of me afraid of being alone for however many years.
>>9809273You're awesome, pls keep it going anon, and bring excitement to the less interesting parts of the world!
I bought my first COD item from Fril via my usual SS over a week ago and still haven't heard anything. I know it's probably nothing, but I can't help but think that the seller will probably never ship and I'll never see my shoes.
>been depressed p consistently for 2 years>try not to talk about it cause I don’t wanna be an attention whore>happy for a bit>grandma gets sick>she’s about to die >dog dies>more depressed than I have been in a long time>every time I’m happy something bad happens>why can’t I just be a cute happy lolita >wear lolita almost daily and it’s one of the only things that can cheer me up anymore>get hate for lolita>why won’t the world let me be happy>exhausted all the time>if it weren’t for my boyfriend I’d just kms
>>9809703Get all of your general requisites out of the way and at least get an associates degree to lock in your credits. Then work for a while and then travel to figure your life out. When you're ready to go back you'll have lost nothing and be wise enough to know what you want to do for at least the next twenty years. Remember that people change fields in their career so you might be going back to school later and every degree counts toward the new one if the credits are prerequisites so you just have to focus on your major whenever you decide to go back. In short at least get your associates degree and it will put you head and shoulders above where you were if you focus on a vague major aspiration before you're ready.
>>9808199What level of school are you in?
>waiting to watch cosplay contest at a con>people behind me tap on my shoulder to ask me about my dress>start touching it without asking to see the print GET YOUR FILTHY WEABOO HANDS OFF MY BRAND REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
>>9809504>I’m 139, I’m 5’9”Yeah that's a healthy weight for that height. I'm not saying that in a feel good tumblr body positivity way; that's actually a good weight to be at.It sounds like you're conscious of what you eat, which is a good thing. The mistake that a lot of people make is assuming that eating less = healthy, when in reality eating at TDEE for maintenance is far better(when you're at a normal weight and want to keep it, obviously). Anyways, hope you feel better from whatever sickness you had!
>>9809684What kind of college are you going to? Differently sized schools can be drastically different, but I'd say that nearly every school has enough people in it that virtually every interest is represented in the study body.
>195lbs 6'1" large frame>Lost gf and job>get depressed>drop to 165>get a night shift job, fucks me up buy money is really good. >drop to 160 less if water level drops. >can see my ribs now.Hold me. If i didnt have muscle I would be underweight.
>>9809877how is this related to cgl at all
>>9808771Ben Shapiro sister is mi waifu.
>>9809879Just wanted to join the girls snd bitch about weight. Real feel is that I am going to my first con in a month snd all the ppl im gonna room with haven't registered yet. Its not a big con but they are worrying me that I might have to go alone and be stuck covering the hotel all myself.
>>9809881Yeah but there's a connotation to fitting into burando when girls are talking about weight.
>>9809905Interesting. Didn't think just the gender could mean that much to you. I thought you were mad avout me being underweight instead of overweight. I bet most gals would love to have that problem.
>be on my period>come to cgl>see this banner>burst into tears because I know these cuties would be massacred in a fightIt hurts. By the way, is it true that watching mukbang YouTubers can help fatty-chans?
>>9809227>>9809248>>9809256>>9809260>>9809273Is it weird that I'm a withdrawn loner that secretly likes the company of upbeat girls? Because if I was dating a girl with my personality, I think I'd kill myself.>>9809745Fucking this. I wasted so much time because I forgot to get GEs out of the way.
>>9809937Makes me hungrier unless it's a really gross amount of food, honestly.
>>9809905I'm getting ripped and putting on weight to look good in cosplay as a male. Feels threads are mostly off topic, no need to complain about the worst threads on the board.
Why am I so afraid to be happy?I want to ask out the cute girl I met at con, but my brain won't let me.
>>9810005If you try to be good, you might be good and, sometimes, happy. If you strive to be happy, you are unlikely to be good and you will rarely be happy, either.
>>9810005What makes you think waiting will change her response? The only thing you're doing if it fails, is letting other chances slip by you.
People commented on my cosplay pictures calling me fat and I made myself throw up. I thought I was over this.
>Finally have a nice group of lolita friends, wearing lolita clothes daily, depression getting better, etc.>My boyfriend, a medical student, is assigned to a hospital in the ass end of nowhere.>Like 4 hours away from my lolita friends and no big cities or nice comms nearby.>Rural place, I won't be able to find work. >We'd be stuck for two fucking years, and maybe longer. I'm heartbroken. I really don't want to break up with him, we've been together for five years and he's pretty much marriage material. But if I move there, I'll be wasting the second half of my twenties sitting depressed in a field of sheep. I love Kamikaze Girls, but I don't want Momoko's shitty-ass life.Knowing myself, I'll just go with him and be lonely and low-key suicidal for the next two years, but dammit, I was actually starting to enjoy my life. I worked so hard to put myself back together after a horrible time at university, and now I worry it's all going to go backwards again. And I love my comm and lolita friends... I don't want to lose them. This is pretty much a nightmare.
>>9809276Sometimes people overproduce acid in their stomach when they're feeling anxious. Have you tried taking an antacid? It might help with your nausea.
>>9810093>What is long distance relationship?Two years isn't that long, really. And 4h drive is something you can take every other weekend. If you're really that depressed your bf will understand you don't want to go with him.
>>9809493I met my gf online, our friends wanted us to date because we "both like them animoos xD". Well we texted for some weeks, i asked if we could meet up. 5 months later we're dating for 2 months now.Don't give up hope. We really have nothing in common, just occasionally watching animu together and reading. She is the hardcore weeb type, who cosplays a lot, while i'm the more normie laid back type. Rediscovered my passion for wood and metalworking tho by making props for her. So even if you don't have anything in common, my point is to just listen to your partner and try to express interest in each others's things.
>>9810175Thanks for the suggestion, anon. I think that for many people it's a good choice, but I don't want to go back to being in an LDR. I'm not good at being alone when I could be with someone.
>>9807826Anon, we're all going to die anyway, there's no point going the DIY route prematurely. You are at rockbottom now, but there may be surprises in the future, experiences that you'll be glad you've had.
>>9810080I'm so sorry hun. Take a step back, do some self care, and do your best to ignore comments like that. If you developed any tools that really helped you with your previous recovery please try to utilize them. You can get through this!
>>9808123>mfw I have Jewish friends and don't want to offend them
>>9808199Sounds like your parents are garbage, anon. Fly away and be free! Seek adventure!
>>9809273The biggest problem that mainlanders have with Americans and sometimes tumblrized brits is that they think they're telling us things we don't know yet. If you don't go in there assuming you're the great enlightened SJW savior who will teach the savages things, you'll be fine.PS: mainland Europe has running water, electricity, and high speed internet, for a while now.
>>9810093that sounds like a bitchload of first world problems.
>>9810243That's a hell of an assumption, anon. I moved here years ago partially because the standard of living is better and the universities definitely are. I'm here to learn, not preach shitty American social policy to locals. The things I get enthusiastic about are my hobbies and my field of study.
>ordered from a cute store while living in an African country>get an email from the store saying their shipping service doesn't ship to my country>they apologize and offer a refund>okay.jpg>next day, they tell me they actually managed to convince their shipping service to send it>mfw>all I had to do was pay an extra $10 in shipping>my dresses are on their wayYay
>>9810275That's a good feel. I'm happy for you.
Is it easy to make new cosplay/weeb friends? I been in the same friend group for a couple of years and everything spiraled down becoming more toxic and the last few cons we all went to always ended up as a drama fest. I just wanna find people I can get along with but I don't know where to start. >tfw they're so draining not even cosplay is fun anymore
>>9810247/cgl/ is one of the most "first world" boards on 4chan. The majority of these threads are nothing but first world problems.
the seller didnt give me a tracking number because they are lazy so i have to campout everyday for the mailman so i could MAYBE sign for the package and i hate living
>be lolita with small online presence>tfw there's a person who buys/posts WTBs of the exact cut and colorway of every dress i post myself wearing not long after i post>tfw it's someone who's expressed disliking me before so i'm extra weirded outi wrote it off as coincidence or just inspiration for a couple of months but it's been a while and it's getting creepy
>>9810377Some catty bitches hold some grudges over petty shit.
>>9810005"Who dares, wins".Get your ass out there now.
> tfw never been into lolita celebrities, so I feel a bit guilty for being like "meh, whatever" when people are so excited about Mana arrival
>>9810402Misako is attending an event i'm going to and I feel the same way. I never got the hype.
>>9808318Pleb-tier. Make him wear nothing but a diaper and a giant bib that says "Mama's Big Boy". It's the only way to truly equalize the situation.
>>9810247Sorry. I guess I did go over the top with it. In the end, I might even like the shithole we're moving to. Hard to not feel pretty destroyed right now, though.
Man, I just really love lolita...
>>9810451I don't anymore, I just keep coming here out of habit
>>9810462What made you fall out of love with it? I think I may be falling out of love too.
>finally found a Nordic goddess gf who hates Muslims and will let me fuck her in cosplayI'm finally gonna make it, gulls
>>9808791Call it out for what it is: a cult.
>>9807584Critics are all angry man-feminists and other Jew golems.
>>9807826If you don't have anything to look forward to start writing about your past. I fucking love ("love") dwelling on the past.
>>9810054>>9810074>>9810398Thank you for the replies. I'm just afraid to make a move, since LDRs tend to fail horribly.
>>9810466I can't think of any specific reason, and I'm not saying it's necessarily a bad thing. Like, I still see dresses and think they're pretty, but I don't really want to wear them myself anymore. Might just be changing tastes
>>9810451Man, I just really love cosplay
>been drafting patterns + making them out of bedcloth sheets>this latest pattern seems like it needs extra stabilizer in the shoulders since it has a standalone standing collar>the actual material I'll be using is much thicker, so I think it should theoretically support it.wish me luck gulls, hopefully it won't be a waste
>>9810243>high speed internetSomething most of America still doesn't have.>>9809273I wholeheartedly welcome you. I really hate myself how most Europeans are grumpy, never smiling at strangers, and pretty dull in general.I guess it's one of the things I'm jealous about America's society. People tend to be much more open and friendly to strangers.>>9810252Which country are you in, or at least which part of Europe? I assume somewhere in the west, since you mention higher standard of living.Already lived in 2 EU countries, having another one over the border and visiting for shopping regularly, I can say that Eastern Europeans/Slavs are still infected with this negative post-communist attitude, but it's improving younger generations. Germans on the other hand are more orderly, but also much more stoic and neutral as you say.
Bought something on Bodyline's Rakuten storefront and immediately cancelled the order, but I just received a confirmation email with shipping and handling.Honestly at this point I don't even care if the purchase goes through or not (which is why I haven't contacted customer support), I'm just confused and weirdly nervous that I'm going to accidentally fail to pay for something I already indicated I didn't want to pay for.
>>9810093Stop being a child because you are no longer one. You said it yourself, he’s marriage material, I assume you love him as well. Are you going to bail on him now for something as fleeting as ‘fun’? You should support him because he’s damn well going to be supporting you. You can still keep in contact with friends, you can still visit them every now and again, but at the end of the day you’ve built an already long and successful relationship with this guy, are you really going to throw away 5 years like that? You are going to throw away a future for that?I don’t mean to be rude or pushy but this kind of this is pretty sad to watch unravel. My cousin did something similar, left her long term bf because he had to go to Honk Kong for a year to work and she didn’t want to leave her life here. He’s now married to a Chinese bombshell and she found out when she tried to reconnect with him. She’s 32, goes to her wage slave job and then comes home to watch anime in the basement of my house where she passes out and does the same thing the next day, on her off days she’s looks for dudes on tinder. Please consider your actions carefully.
>>9810093This does sound very unpleasant. I get how worrying backsliding can seem, but if it was only for two years, could you potentially just go and move back near your friends afterwards? Do you have a job now that you're worried about losing? I don't think friends is a good enough reason to abandon a good relationship, but it is your life and your decision. Just whatever you choose, think it through carefully and calmly later, you sound too upset right now. >>9810624Some might say that ignoring her own wants and letting herself be passively dragged somewhere by someone else who she'd be relying on is more childish, anon.
>>9808036I love people who are overenthusiastic and passionate! It makes any conversation so much less boring.
>>9810655The choice is up to her so arguing it is pointless but she needs to decide which is more important. Her boyfriend or her friends. Long distance relationships don't work, someone moves in or cheats.
>>9810093Lmao is this that one underage girl who spent weeks bragging about how he boyfriend was gonna be some super important rich doctor and buy her a ton of shit?
Going to the philly flower show tomorrow with my friend. It's her first time out in lolita. I'm hoping her coord comes out okay.I'll be at her house tomorrow to help, but I'm nervous that she does not have enough pieces.(I"m bringing over some things of mine but we're different styles and vasty different body types.)I'm hoping that a blouse will fit her, because I may be skinny but I got some tiddies. She's rather fat but has a wider frame.
>>9810093You'll be able to find work. It might not be great work, but you'll be alright. The rural places love people from the city because you have so much more experience then the local people. Also, if you can afford brand then you'll be able to afford the occasional excursion to the city. The city is a vacation once you're stuck in cow town. No, you won't get to go out there on a regular basis, but certainly you can make the trip a few times per year for big events. You'll get a room in a hotel, stay a weekend, hang out with your fellow frilly folk, eat a nice meal, and it'll all be okay. Also, you'll have plenty of opportunity for some sweet photography. Please, calm yourself. Don't do anything rash.
>>9810655I agree it might be best to stay if there's a professional degree job behind why she 'won't find work'. However, if that's not the case then she'll be able to find work. >>9810690I would make the move personally, but a long distance relationship can work if it is only a 4-hour drive. The lady who owned the bakery in my old town had an 8-hour drive from family to work. She worked during the week for 4 days, and would drive up on the weekend right after she got off work. That's a manageable trip if it is only a 4-hour drive. They could work during the week, and stay with their boyfriend when they're off.
>>9810093This is honestly a question of priorities.Which is more important to you, your boyfriend or your social life? Because one or the other is going to be put on a long-distance-relationship for two years no matter what. This isn't a question of doing LDR or not, it's a question of who you're going to do it with. Friends are relationships, too.You also have to weigh priorities on mental health. Are you healthier being with him, or being in a city? Are you healthier being with him because you love him and he is important to you, or because you're codependent and have a minimal sense of self worth? If it's the former you'll find a way to be happy. If it's the later, you need to talk to a therapist about it because the small town isolation will make it worse, which could put more stress on your relationship than going LDR would.More priority questions: What do you want out of life? What's you're long term plans for happiness? Are you family centric, wanting a husband and a family etc (which is valid, not knocking it!) ? Are you invested in your career or what you went to university for, and do you need to be taking steps to further that? If you do travel with your boyfriend, what comes next after his two year stint in the boonies? Do you travel with him to the next city, or does he travel with you to where you want to go? What will make you happy?Don't impulse this. Talking about marriage means you think this is a decision that will affect the rest of your life, so put it in the context of the rest of your life.
Damn it my boot fell apart
Today I got a big stain on my white royal cards jsk, I have no idea what it’s from and it won’t come out
I have a very unfortunately placed bleach stain on my white bloomers.I always wear my thong diaper, I swear!!
>>9810624>>9810655>>9810762>>9810772>>9810824Thank you all very much. I'm sorry for freaking out so embarrassingly, I was really upset when I found out and posted literally ten minutes after. I've spent all day coming to terms with the situation, and I feel much calmer now. Regardless, you all have given me some very valuable advice that I'm saving in a Google Doc to think about (and discuss with my boyfriend) over the next few weeks. I genuinely appreciate you all, and while I'm not sure what I'm doing yet, I want you to know that I'm not going to make any impulse decisions. Also, special thanks to >>9810824, this is probably the most thoughtful and sensible response an irrational post like mine could recieve, and was a lot more than it deserved. You are a lovely person and I appreciate the hell out of you. >>9810692No. I'm 24, and my boyfriend isn't going to be a super special doctor. Just an average one. He's not going to be particularly rich either, we're not in America. Also I prefer to buy my own things. But I can see why you thought it might be her, my post was very childish.
>>9810852Then don't show off your bloomers at the con. And switch to full-rear-coverage diapers.
>>9810853Your boyfriend is likely going to land a nice job. Is he aiming for rural medicine, and is this his end goal? Even if he spends 1-2 years in a rural place, it may not be where he ends up unless he really wants to end up there. In most places, doctors can go anywhere. Now would be a really good time to assess where he wants to live, what his aspirations are. If they don't fit with yours, it may just be you may not be a good fit with each other. Some people want to be that 'small town doctor,' and in that case, if you prefer a more metropolitan life, it may be a good time to re-evaluate that goal. I'd freak out too. I don't think it's childish, but not evaluating what the future holds for you if you decide to build your life around him would definitely be.
>>9807613PelleK needs to stop
I will never find a cosplay gf who shares my life plans AND is attracted to me.
>>9811279Tried making YOURSELF attractive first?
>do a lot of secret shopping my husband doesn’t know about >I usually sell a bit and get money through comissions so it isn’t as obvious >waiting for two invoices to show up on my bank account >realize I accidentally used his credit card twiceI‘m a stupid bitch. Now I need to explain how I’m spending so much money when we want to save.
>>9811279Gee, I wonder why
I want to go drinking with a bunch of my lolita friends to drown my shitty week in frills and alcohol, but I don't want the minors in the comm to throw a tantrum.
>>9811320do it in private
>>9811328>hiding from the kids in your commlmao>>9811320Go out with your friends, anon. You don't need your comm's approval to hang out with your friends.
>>9810617I hate how rude people from US are. They are obnoxius, loudly and don't care about manners. I often hear them talking shit about my country in english because they're thinking that nobody understand it there. I really prefer pessimism of slav than american 'I'm center of the universe' attitude.
>>9811377I have the same issue with them. I've been encountering a lot of videos by American youtubers trashing my country for the dumbest reasons ; namely that many things are not in English (surprise, we have our own language !), that random people won't go out of their way to give free language lessons to American students, and that our fruits have seeds in them. I truly don't understand how those people can come to my country without speaking its language and except us to change our culture and customs to pander to them.I did have American students in my classes before who were lovely people (though a bit loud), so hopefully this is just a vocal minority.
>>9811151Cons aren't a problem. But when comm mom has butt hole inspection, I'm sure it will get noticed.But as of now thong diapers are all we're allowed to wear.
>>9811311Yes you are. Now be a good wife and partner, and send those clothes back, and ask for a refund.
>>9811390If you dont know what routine butthole inspections are, you aren't a true lolita.
>>9811377This has gone completely off topic, go to >>>/int/ if you want to shitpost about how you hate Americans so much
>>9811403>talking about cars>tfw no bf/gf>comparing weight&height>talking about being overexcitedI'm sorry I don't like your country, Anon, but stop being butthurt about that. This thread is almost dead anyway.On topic:I'm fucking mad because I couldn't decide if I wanted to buy skirt from IW White or not and now all blacks are sold. I'm buying navy one before it'll be too late.
>>9811403I always love how the irony of telling someone to stop being off-topic in a fucking feels thread goes over some peoples' heads completely. These threads have never been on-topic
>>9811409>>9811414>Other people are off topic so I should be tooThat's a stupid argument. I've tried to keep these on topic for a while now but idiots keep using it to try and bait some stupid shit like trash talking Americans or making up some shit about their boyfriend, and just vaguely having it on topic by using Lolita once in it.
>>9811409Happens to the best of us, anon. A good rule to go by, especially with IW, is if you want something and you can afford it, you should buy it. Don't wait until it ends up on sale because it might not even get there, or in IWW's case, don't wait at all if you can help it.Their pieces went on reservation just this Monday, with these prices it's not surprising that people snatched it up.
>>9811419>Other people are off topic so I should be tooWho are you quoting? Would be cool if the threads were on topic but they're never going to be and there's no point pissing in the wind trying to backseat moderate and tell people off for not being on topic because you'd be here all fucking day
>>9811386>I truly don't understand how those people can come to my country without speaking its language and except us to change our culture and customs to pander to them.That happens in America all the time. Stop whining about tourists, everybody deals with them.
>Looked at the mole on my face today and realized it suddenly looks asymmetrical and blurry af>Nearest lymph node has been swollen for a while (but it always is... I’m forever sick)>Got a same day derm apt It looks really bad, and I’m kicking myself for not noticing. I know statistically unlikely it’s melanoma but if it is I haven’t seen a derm in ages so that could be bad. Best case scenario I get to have surgery on my face, which should be nice and attractive.On topic:>Too stressed to focus on my work and am now therapy shopping
>going to be moving halfway up the country in a weeks time.>worried, stressed about job situation.>seems difficult to get a transfer, this job was only ever meant to be temporary anyway.>want to just take the leap and find a full time, better paying job.>mo money, mo burando.>worried about not finding said job fast enough.>don't want to end up resorting to selling some of my wardrobe to cover costs.>keep seeing things I want to buy but can't because I need to save my money right now.>first world problems.Fortunately I'm making the move with my family and they don't mind me not paying rent for now so that's some pressure eased, but I'm still very stressed and it's getting me down.At least I'm mostly a lonelita so I'm not really close to my local comm save one or two people. I wouldn't mind trying to get more involved with my new local comm if I can.
>>9811557Seriously, use the time at your parents to save up some money. If you have to sell your dresses to cover up your expenses you seriously got a problem. Try to build up an emergency fund that would cover all your bills for 6 months. This is some serious life advice anon. Rough times may come unexpected and I've seen it happen to many people.
>>9811575Thank you for the advice, I have at least three months worth saved and I can reduce the cost of my phone plan easily. Fortunately I don't have too many outgoings and I'm cancelling unnecessary subscriptions/preorders too. I honestly should have had more discipline and saved more sooner to reduce any risk of having to sell stuff. My manager is keeping me on the books for the rest of the month to give me as much time in case I can still land a transfer, in the meantime I'm sending in applications to new jobs as well, so fingers crossed it'll work out. This is the first time I've done this so it's all very new and stressful getting things done.
Tfw baby's stars shine bright
Ran out of Pocky at the con and some dudes tried to hustle me to buy more. Lmao
>get a facebook notification from animacity>next event is in april>think "wait, why am I getting a notification about these guys?">check their past events>realize I liked their page because they had an event in december 2017 that I wanted to attend>but couldn't because I was a lazy faggot>and that could have been my first con everI looked through pics of that event and it looked like it was awesome. Fuck, why didn't I go?
>>9807671I wish this was me right now. Congrats, Anon. I'll see you in Gensokyo some time in the future. My mother takes my college loans if I die since she co-signed them, so need her to peace out before I do.
>>9808010This is always the most bullshit advice lol>Don't you have things you wanna do?Nah. At least nothing that can realistically be done. It's be cool if I could never work a single day in my life again and be a lazy piece of shit since I could burry myself in games and anime. I don't wanna try new things, I wanna do what I always do, but without any financial or social obligations. Not possible.>Give yourself some timeI've been suicidal since I was 7 and it's only gotten worse>I should visit here or I should go see thatExtrovert thinking they understand introverts. Cute.>If you die you'll never get to tryAnd you won't have any capability to regret that anyway, so doesn't particularly matter.>Ken BaldwinNormalfag, unrelatable.
>>9811659Please do not
>>9811666/r9k/ please leave
>>9811666just kys already
>>9808581Don't diet, lifestyle change. Make a daily meal plan and stick to it. Calculate the daily calories you need to be a healthy height/weight.Eat breakfast at the same time every day. Don't vary it too much. Meussli, oatmeal, full-fat yogurt with some hemp seeds and a little honey. Eat lunch at the same time every day. Eat dinner at the same time every day. Get in this routine and you will be amazed at how quickly your body starts getting itself back in order. And please, let yourself have something sweet or salty after dinner if you've stuck to your 3 meals as you should. You need not punish yourself by saying "I can't ever eat cookies again!" Just eat them AFTER you ate all the healthy stuff for the day.After dealing with being overweight, then underweight thanks to starving myself, I have been able to maintain the same healthy weight for 7 years by following the above rules.
>>9809937>I know these cuties would be massacred in a fightHave you ever watched Jinrui? Those motherfuckers rule the goddamn world
>>9808311DawwwwwwwwThat's adorable.Like, storybook/movie/anime levels of adorable.
>>9811666Nice trips. I should kidnap you and make you play a Saw game so you can appreciate being alive.
>>9811659Its really hard to beat suicidal thoughts especially with certian cases like medical reasons. But you can always find away through it. Find out why you wanna do it and work on that issue.
>>9809018>>9809039They taste nasty because your mouth is nasty
>>9807979Wrong, in middle school I was a total weeb piece of shit I never had a bf for the rest of highschool I asked my friend why and he said because some of the guys thought I was a retarded weebI mean they were right but still
>>9809059>Slavplease be my bf