Sorry for blogging, but I need to vent.
It sucks being at least a little disciplined and surrounded by those who aren't, especially in cosplay. Most of my friends would rather complain than change. If you don't like how fat you look in your costume, go to the gym and eat better. If you don't want to be pulling late nights and rushing your costume only to be unhappy with it, start working earlier and more diligently. It's hard to properly be empathetic to my friends who want to complain to me because yeah, it sucks, but you and only you can fix it. They'll also complain to me and then act like I wouldn't understand because I'm in good shape and will "look good in anything". I'm in good shape because I work for it, and my costumes look at least decent most of the time because I don't shit them out last minute. Hell, even friends who also study Japanese brush my progress off as "you're just so smart" rather than acknowledging that I study for at least an hour every day, often more, while they're doing the bare minimum to pass their classes.
I know that discipline is hard, but whining about it won't change anything, and you can't develop discipline unless you push yourself. Health problems aside (and I do mean mental health, too), the only reason you're not achieving the things you want is because you make excuses instead of being honest with yourself about how hard you're trying. And, like, as someone with severe depression and anxiety who used to be the least disciplined person on earth, I just don't buy that these friends of mine caaaan't because it's too haaaard. At the very least, don't complain to me if you're only going to be shitty to me about it. My only options are to say yeah that sucks, lie to you and tell you you look great don't worry bb, or try to help, and even if I'm not going to be an asshole and bluntly give negative opinions, I'm also not going to say what we both know are lies to make you feel better.
>tl;dr i wish my lazy friends would do better