Somebody I thought I knew well was recently revealed to have raped a girl, and the whole situation really has me worked up. I heard both sides of the story, and while I completely agree that what he did was totally wrong, the circumstances were such that I can almost understand how it happened and what was going through his head at the time. The difference between a awkward moment with no harm done and a rape was one momentary decision, and that's really scary to think about.
The thing that really gets to me is that it seems like the profiles for a conventionally attractive man and a rapist are almost identical. Self-assured, confident, assertive, popular, etc., all traits that men are encouraged to have, not least by women, and yet it's those exact same traits that lead to pushing on when consent isn't clear instead of backing off. I don't see how this situation can resolve itself without a huge change in social dynamics and until then society and especially our little community are going to be broken as fuck.