Cons and sexual urges

[Anonymous No.9688533]

How can i possibly focus on having fun at a con when all i get are new discoveries of sexual fetishes and urges?

I've never molested someone but I spaghetti hard talking to girls they usually end up thinking im a weirdo.

[Anonymous No.9688552]

>>9688533
>they usually end up thinking im a weirdo
There's probably good reason for that, nonny.

Look there's nothing wrong with having sexual urges, everyone has them, every man and woman and attack helicopter on 4chan has them, the problem is wearing them on your sleeve. It tips us off and it makes you go in our eyes from "just a dude" to "thirsty, creepy and possibly dangerous".
Learn to be subtle and get better at small talk, good luck.

[Anonymous No.9688564]

>>9688533
I'd be careful about your sexual fantasies at cons and hitting on others if it will cause drama. Especially late at night when people get drunk. Look at Louis C.K.,, Max Weinstein, or Kevin Spacey. They all did some sexual harrassment or just talk about it openly and 30 years later, it bites them back with defamation, job loses and destroys their name in the long run.
Only takes 1 false accusation from a popular person to ruin your life.

[Anonymous No.9688595]

How easy are the pickings at cons?

[Anonymous No.9688597]

>>9688595
If you're the kind of guy that can pick up girls at the bar, pretty good. If you're a pathetic loser that creeps women out, they aren't gonna loosen up because they're cosplaying your waifu.

[Anonymous No.9688609]

>>9688552
this

Stop buying into the Chad bogeyman and work on yourself

[Anonymous No.9688616]

>>9688597
I normally go to bars to watch football and play pool, but I seem to hot enough to get away with things I shouldn't. Conventions here I come

[Anonymous No.9688624]

>>9688533
> "they usually think im a weirdo"

I don't know, i'd think someone who made a thread like this was a creep too.

[Anonymous No.9688625]

>>9688533
Desperate weeb

[Anonymous No.9688635]

>>9688533
>>9688616
Don't. You don't want to get accused of sexual harassment, do you?

[Anonymous No.9688638]

don't go to cons

[Anonymous No.9688647]

Make the friends and hold yo urges until later.
Youre more bound to get what you want in your needs if people are okay with you before hand unless you go to some party to hook up n do weird shit.

[Anonymous No.9688650]

>>9688533
>but I spaghetti hard

[Anonymous No.9688655]

>>9688533
...i realize there are usually a lot of scantily clad ladies at cons, but there is generally a lot of completely nonsexual content to explore and appreciate as well.

How hard up are you that sex is the only thing you think about the whole time?

[Anonymous No.9688669]

Be black.

White girls at cons be all over that

[Anonymous No.9688684]

>>9688669
actually black
Cant relate

[Anonymous No.9688686]

>>9688684
You need to offer em weed.

[Anonymous No.9688696]

>>9688655
That's what repressed American upbringing does for you

[Anonymous No.9688700]

>>9688686
Nah, wouldn't matter even if i offered them a Mercedes.
I just compliment the Cosplay, ask what its from if i don't recognize it, take a picture and leave. Simple

[Anonymous No.9688713]

>>9688655
>be heterosexual man
>spend all of your time around other men or alone
>suddenly women everywhere
>get overwhelmed my the shear volume of pussy around you
It's not just nerds this happens to. Soldiers, sailors, or any men in lines of work away from women experience this

[Anonymous No.9688773]

>>9688655
It's called being a man.

And come on, a lot of cosplayers are semi-naked, what would you expect?

[Anonymous No.9688783]

>>9688552
Pretty much this.

I go to a lot of cons and I see a lot of attractive cosplayers. Like really attractive. But you always, always, ALWAYS have to remember: they're there to have fun, and harassing them, bothering them, hitting on them is not fun.

To have desires is fine. To act on them in a way that hurts others is absolutely not.

[Anonymous No.9688784]

>>9688533
>they usually end up thinking im a weirdo

Because you are? There's no saving you now. You'll never be successful with anyone.

[Anonymous No.9688824]

>>9688773
if this is really what being a man does to you, why the fuck should we want you people around?

[Anonymous No.9688825]

>>9688773
It really has nothing to do with being a man. OP has a issue.

[Anonymous No.9688835]

>>9688824
>>9688825
Consider women have 5-6 fertile days per month while men have 30, while women don't want to reproduce 75% of the time men want to do it every fucking day and are ready for it, now put them in an environment surrounded by girls wearing costumes of their animu fap material.

[Anonymous No.9688838]

>>9688835
Yet all my male friends and I behave normally at a con.
Are you sure you're in the correct board?

[Anonymous No.9688839]

>>9688773
>>9688835
>maleposters

[Anonymous No.9688841]

>>9688839
its not being male, its just someone preaching out of their containment board.

[Anonymous No.9688843]

>>9688838
I agree OP is a weird fuck, but you are lying to yourself if you think your friends don't lust after cosplayers as much as him, they're just as good as your average male at pretending while OP isn't.

[Anonymous No.9688849]

>>9688838
He and OP are clearly autistic, you're not.
Are you sure you're on the correct website?

[Anonymous No.9688851]

As a mostly well-adjusted guy with a mostly well-adjusted gf I have to say the /r9k/ guys aren't wrong, we really do think about sex 24/7.

It's just that most of us have enough common sense and social awareness to know it's not appropriate to voice that out most of the times, every dude is like this. From the greasiest neckbeard, to your dad, to the ouji you think is so moe or whatever, to the gay guys.

It's just how it is.

[Anonymous No.9688853]

>>9688635
>You don't want to get accused of sexual harassment, do you?
If they don't know any names, nobody to complain about.

[Anonymous No.9688854]

>>9688851
Idk I'm a guy and I don't think of sex 24/7. Is there something wrong with me, or something?

[Anonymous No.9688859]

>>9688825
He's undersocialized and isolated from women. Once he is in an environment surrounded by attractive women, he really, really wants to stick it in one. However, he's a socially inept nerd who can't keep a lid on himself well enough to do so

[Anonymous No.9688863]

>>9688854
There isn't. That guy is just /pol/ posting.

[Anonymous No.9688867]

>>9688863
I thought /pol/ shitposts were mostly about alt-right politics, not male libido?

[Anonymous No.9688869]

>>9688867
It’s crossover incel shit

[Anonymous No.9688871]

>>9688869
Ah I guess it makes sense

[Anonymous No.9688874]

>>9688854
Well, it could be a progesterone-producing tumor.

Do you consider your balls smaller than average or your boobs bigger than they should be?

no homo

[Anonymous No.9688875]

>>9688854
Some dudes have lower sex drives, it's rare but it happens. Either that or you're getting old.

>>9688859
Come on, that was unnecessarily hostile. He might be annoying you but why hit him below the belt like that?

>>9688863
>pol posting
It's true tho. Life isn't like those weird manga you girls read where the guys have super long limbs and huge hands, just as much as life isn't like the porn we watch. Reality is kinda lame, but that's what makes it interesting.

[Anonymous No.9688885]

>>9688875
>hit him below the belt

Only the facts were stated.

[Anonymous No.9688890]

>>9688885
>facts
Not really, just a bunch of conjecture hastily thrown together to form a caricature that's easy to mock and easy to dismiss.

OP might make you uncomfortable but he's still a human being and he deserves respect and the benefit of the doubt, or that's what I think anyway.

[Anonymous No.9688895]

>>9688890
>he's still a human being and he deserves respect

He's a sex hungry man, who are not worthy of respect in the slightest.

[Anonymous No.9688903]

>>9688895
>He's a man
ftfy

I'm sorry you hate half of the world's population, it must make life difficult for you

[Anonymous No.9688906]

>>9688903
Again, the facts

OP says all he can focus on at a con is sexual fetishes and urges = he's a man and he's sex hungry

He has to say he's never molested someone, there's a story there I'm sure, and he's worried about coming across as a weirdo

He's a sex hungry man.

[Anonymous No.9688920]

>>9688906
So? He's hungry for sex, so am I, so is every dude at the con, so were the jap character designers that first came up with the waifus being cosplayed at the con.

The problem is not his sexual urges, the problem is him not keeping them under control. It makes girls around him uncomfortable and it makes him unhappy. We should try to help him, not crucify him. But that's just my opinion.

[Anonymous No.9688927]

>>9688920
He's beyond help though. What more can you do aside from just say "don't bother these girls, they're not here to be your waifu and you are not entitled to their time"?

[Anonymous No.9688933]

>>9688927
>He's beyond help though
Is he tho or do you just wanna believe that because you think he's beneath you and not worthy of your time?

[Anonymous No.9688947]

>>9688933
He is.

[Anonymous No.9688982]

>>9688947
Suit yourself, all I'm saying is if you girls don't help him out and give him some closure he might come back, maybe angrier next time, maybe with friends next time.
I don't care either way, this isn't my board, I just lurk here sometimes for fun.

[Anonymous No.9688986]

>>9688982
>if you don’t help him out
Not my responsibility, not our responsibility, not your responsibility. He is responsible for his own actions and his own outcomes. It’s not our job to prevent someone from acting a certain way. Leave that to the cops or the media.

[Anonymous No.9688997]

>>9688982
It's not up to women to help men control their sexual urges. That shit is strictly on you guys as individuals.

If he comes back angry, or with friends, it's in no way our fault for not being luvlies and bending over backwards to fix his problems for him.

[Anonymous No.9689001]

>>9688927
The best thing I can think of to help him is for him to learn to care enough to talk to women and take a few risks

[Anonymous No.9689007]

>>9688533
asuka a shit
rei too for that matter

[Anonymous No.9689014]

>>9689007
t. Katsuragi

[Anonymous No.9689019]

>>9688835
How sad

[Anonymous No.9689028]

>>9688595
there's a surprisingly low amount of casual sex going on at cons (at least the ones I've been to and know the goings on at), and nearly all of the people getting laid are with their SOs. out of the remaining 5%, 4% of them are fat/ugly people banging each other and 1% are genuinely charming/attractive men hooking up with slutty women.

basically like real life.

[Anonymous No.9689029]

>>9688669
nice try, shekelberg.

[Anonymous No.9689045]

>>9688669
>wanting westernized white girls

[Anonymous No.9689071]

>>9688986
>Not my responsibility, not our responsibility
It's not anyone's responsibility. That's why it's called 'help'. Don't be such a stuck up hoe.

OP is asking for advice. If you dislike him asking for assistance, then assist yourself out the thread.

[Anonymous No.9689083]

>>9689071
It's not anyone's responsibility to help him though. He has to figure that shit out on his own. If he's THAT socially inept then that's his own goddamn fault. He's not entitled to anyone's help or time.

[Anonymous No.9689085]

>>9688783
This is true. Even the scantily clad ladies are there to have fun, not to hook up with neckbeards.

If women are put off by you talking to them you need to work on either your body, your hygiene or your conversational skills.

I used to weight 300 lbs due to a combination of working desk jobs and alcohol consumption. Today I weigh 220. As the weight comes off, people, especially women, treat you better.

Hygiene is one of those things that get difficult when driving to a con and wearing costumes during the summer when you don't have a room to go back to for freshening up or changing. Bring a handkerchief for wiping off excess sweat, a deodorant spray to reapply midday and always chew gum after every meal. If you insist on having facial hair make sure it is well groomed.

As for your conversation skills? Work on just talking to women without the context of having sex with them. At most cons you should already have some common interests with the cosplayer that they can't talk about in their daily life. But keep in mind not everyone is totally into what they're cosplaying. This is where you have to watch out for "gatekeeping." Nothing comes off as creepy neckbeard more than trying to quiz someone about their interests.

Now I'm going to tell you a little secret here about cosplayers. Most of the more serious ones have two facebook pages, a personal account and a cosplay account. Consider this the difference between getting a business card and a personal cell phone number. I'm friends with 5 very attractive cospayers that DO NOT date a guy until they've seen his facebook profile, where they can see who he's friends with and what he generally posts about.

[Anonymous No.9689121]

>>9689085
>Work on just talking to women without the context of having sex with them.

This is already tough enough

I don't even really want to fuck, I just want friends. But every time I talk to a cosplayer I just get their picture and then I'm too fucking stupid to stick around and try and chat, either about what they're cosplaying, about the con, whatever. These thoughts run in my mind like

>they're probably busy
>i'd probably annoy them
>they have other people waiting for them elsewhere
>just take their pic and leave, don't bother them
>you're bothering them holy shit

It's maddening.

[Anonymous No.9689152]

>>9689071
>It's not anyone's responsibility
>>9689083
>It's not anyone's responsibility
That's literally what I just said woman. You can't tell me that you've never needed help or advice and some random person hasn't helped you. We're on an anonymous image board full of weebs. There's literally no logical reason not to help him.

[Anonymous No.9689159]

>>9689152
>woman
uh bad news

but for real I'm not saying we shouldn't help. I'm saying he is responsible for his own actions. two different things.

[Anonymous No.9689178]

>>9689159
>uh bad news
Make up your mind trap

On a serious note, he is responsible yes, but if we know he's doing something wrong and don't try to correct him then we're no better. If he doesn't take the help then at least you tried instead of putting him down more.

[Anonymous No.9689179]

>>9689178
>if we know he's doing something wrong and don't try to correct him then we're no better

Wrong. It's on him to be better and fix his mistakes. If he can't, then that's on him. If his actions hurt people, then yes, other people need to step in.

[Anonymous No.9689194]

>>9688863
>>9688869
>It’s crossover incel shit
No it's fucking not. /r9k/ just latches on sometimes because they think that a more traditional culture would (probably) help them find a girl. We have no real involvement with them.
t. attractive guy who goes there for happenings and memes.

[Anonymous No.9689198]

>>9688982
lurk less.

OP, please do not talk to girls until you learn to control your urges. Talk to people with the goal to make friends, not the goal to have sex and you won´t come off as creepy. You might still be awkward, but at least not creepy.

[Anonymous No.9689205]

>>9689121
Try to talking to people who aren´t cosplaying. Just other general anime/game fans. Cosplayers aren´t the only girls there and are more jaded about getting hit-on

[Anonymous No.9689218]

>>9689179
Not that anon but wanted to interject for a moment; It's up to you to fix yourself sure, but sometimes people need outside advice and there's nothing wrong with asking for it. If you don't want to help him why are you here other than to shitpost like a fat robot neckband would shitpost to a woman posting in their territory for advice?

[Anonymous No.9689219]

>>9689218
Neckbeard* kek

[Anonymous No.9689224]

>>9689179
>Its his fault he doesn't know better
Wrong. If he is never taught better then how will he know?

I didn't magically become a man after I hit 18.

[Anonymous No.9689228]

>>9689121
Do you have male friends? The best girls to meet are through a social circle that's become established in your life, go out to places other dudes hang out. Surely there is something that you like that can also translate to meeting people even shut in socially awkward nerds can find each other by going to comic shops a local library or whatever

[Anonymous No.9689243]

>>9689121
The main thing you need to do is stop caring about the outcome. If you have a don't give a fuck attitude, women (and people in general) will respond well to you. Be a laid back guy not a nice guy.

[Anonymous No.9689271]

>go to cons frequently
>usually wearing coords
>guys talk politely to me at first but get slightly creepier as time progresses
>inevitably ends in them inviting me back to their room or a "party"

You guys know you really botch your attempts by trying to move too fast right? Don't come off as a desperate leg-humping dog in the first hour ffs. Its disappointing because alot of the time Im enjoying the conversation too...right up until you make some really, really stupid and creepy proposal.

[Anonymous No.9689310]

>>9689121
Sounds like you create body language issues. If you're breathing heavy or acting nervous, it gives off a vibe like you're going to do something you know you're not supposed to do. In your case, you feel like your not supposed to be talking to cosplayers or take their pictures but they think it's gonna be something worse so they become guarded. Then you pick up on that body language and reaffirm that you're bothering them because you are unintentionally. That reaffirms your initial concerns. It's an ugly cycle that's hard to break. It sounds like you need a confidence booster. For me, that's my own cosplay. People talk to me and ask for pictures. This helps me affirm that I am approachable and thus can approach others.

However if you're a normie that wants to "befriend" hot cosplay girls, sorry but your are sexualizing them and are going to get placed in the creeper zone.

[Anonymous No.9689338]

>>9689310
>acting nervous

Goddamnit. Although I'm not acting... I am nervous. So... fuck. I guess I do need a confidence booster.

[Anonymous No.9689406]

>>9689271
>inevitably ends in them inviting me back to their room or a "party"
Due to this unless a guy is a fan of what I'm cosplaying and talking about the series with me or is obviously gay, I am very wary of talking to guys at cons cause it always turns out like this.

Cosplayers are sick of being hit on, just want to have a good time and a good 80% of cosplayers I know are either in relationships and/or lesbian so there's no guarantee you're even talking to someone open to the idea of dating you.

[Anonymous No.9689416]

>>9689406
>80% of cosplayers I know are either in relationships and/or lesbian so there's no guarantee you're even talking to someone open to the idea of dating you
This. This so much. The worst of it is that also I enjoy talking to people and sometimes its a guy who comes up to talk to me and I will talk to him and enjoy myself, but then he asks if I have a boyfriend or if I wanna go back to his room and I say no sorry Im not interested then he usually blows up at me like *I* lead him on??? You guys bitch so much about how hard it is to talk to girls at cons but you have no idea what its like to be on the receiving end of your downright bipolar behavior. I want to be friendly, I want to talk with you about whatever show or movie or whatever, but its finally gotten to the point where I just dont talk to dudes anymore at cons, Im so tired of this shit you guys.

[Anonymous No.9689431]

>>9688552
>Learn to be subtle and get better at small talk, good luck.
....or you could just be direct? It is said that sometimes the easiest way to tell if a woman is DTF is to simply ask them.