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Last thread >>9603862
Stay on-topic, and don't respond to bait.

>> No.9608606
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>Finally building a lolita wardrobe after years of wearing casual jfashion and lurking
>Want to use amino
>Have technically enough to make 3 coordinates for adult EGL, but they won't be great and I don't have enough experience to contribute
>Respect and understand they don't want newbs
>Guess I'm sitting at the kids table

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Last thread has gone off the rails big time.

I don't know if I want to dedicate myself to learning Japanese and realize my full weeb potential or if I should go for another language like French or Spanish that would actually help me in real life. I know I can learn more than one, but I don't know which one to prioritize... If I learn Japanese, it seems like it'll be much easier to practice since I can look up raws of manga/anime and practice with other weebs at cons. Spanish I could practice with coworkers (I live in Texas). French I could practice with two of my fluent friends. I just... dunno...

Japanese would only be useful in my hobby, so it doesn't seem like it's worth it. Anyone else wanna weigh in on this?

>> No.9608610

French will be less useful than Japanese, unless you intend to move to a French speaking country. At that point you might as well learn something at least relevant to your hobbies.

Spanish is dead useful, though so that's also a good choice.

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>Find video of my lolita crush modelling latex

>> No.9608631

Why not both?

>> No.9608653


She's a slot

>> No.9608658

I feel suffocated by my comm

>> No.9608664

You could just learn Japanese as a hobby, right? It doesn't have to be useful. It's not like everyone on this board dressing up in froofy clothes or weird costumes do it because it's useful, but because they like it. If you want to learn Japanese, and you like it, do it!

Unless you specifically want to learn something BECAUSE it's useful for you, and not because you want to do it just because, I'd learn Spanish. It would also make it easier to pick up on other Romantic languages, later, if you did decide to learn French.

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Thanks, folks. I'm gonna adult and prioritize the more practical option. I'm going to go with Spanish first and then Japanese later!

>> No.9608765

Oh god is she from the UK?

>> No.9608791

Anon, I know the struggle of wanting to learn more than one foreign language at once. I live abroad and want to (and need) to get better at the native language here. But I also want to practice French because I'm ~B1. But I also want to practice Japanese for my hobbies/trip next year. But I'm a teacher and my colleague teaches Mandarin son now I want to learn that too--

It's a shit show. But definitely go with Spanish. I'm from a half Mexican family but never learned Spanish and I've always regretted it!

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I crouched down in heels at meetup and one of the heels went straight up my BUM it was horrifying

>> No.9608806

Math book cost 150
Ruining my plan of buying more lolita and fairy kei

>> No.9608810

She's perfection.


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>posting this
>not posting the video

>> No.9608875
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>Find out internship has been extended through the year
>More money for brand
>Find out teammates are secret weebs
>Think I'm actually making friends
>Ghosted today
Well, it was fun while it lasted. Maybe it's for the best; I started accidentally fantasizing about my coworker yesterday and felt so guilty

>All my tights I ordered came in today
>Actually might have a semi-completed coord for my first meet Saturday
>Still have no idea what I'm going to wear

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I couldn't do that. She posts here.

>> No.9608892

Man I had the opposite problem, I leaned French because I was good at it and because "muh heritage", and now that I've gone full weeb I wish I had learned Japanese instead. Japanese would also be far more useful for my intended career than French.

I don't know what reasons you'd have for learning French, but imo Japanese or Spanish are more useful in today's world.

>> No.9608899

Goddamnit, I just gave 20 dollars to a panhandler. This isn't even the first time. How do I bring myself to say no?! Right now I'm feeling just as guilt-ridden and regretful as if I'd said no. Should I just avoid the local hangout spots?

>> No.9608906

>stop carrying cash.
>realize the only reason they want it is for more drugs

>> No.9608912

Realize that they'll forget you ever existed 5 seconds after you tell them no since they're already looking for the next person to take money from

>> No.9608918

can I have some money, anon?

>> No.9608920

Animo is a waste of time

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This is why you learn a foreign language and just jabber at them
>tfw you sound sinister just by speaking your native language at Americans

>> No.9608937


Work at my clinic and realise just how truly scummy they are.

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>> No.9608949

Im a Spanish teacher so Im biased. But hey
>2nd most spoken language in the world
>Language with greatest number of countries that has it as their official language

>> No.9608957

Just remember, they're using it for drugs, not food.

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>mfw my hours at work next week were cut from 40 to 12
Goodbye, con money.

>> No.9608968

How loose is your butthole and why aren't you wearing underwear?

>> No.9608994

spanish is BY FAR more useful, but it's no harm to learn 2 languages! it's enriching and you don't have to learn both at the same time

>> No.9609029

I'm having a hard time figuring out how to feel and what to do about two people I know getting together.
Friend A is one of my closest friends. We started out as FWB and ended up as platonic friends, and we're closer after we stopped seeing each other. He knows what lolita is, he thinks it's nice, and appreciates the work that goes into it.
Friend B is a girl I know from a sister comm. I've never met her in person, but from what I see online, we're similar, and we're pleasant when we do message each other.
They both live in the same city, away from me. Friend B messaged me and told me she had apparently met someone I know, and that they were on a date!! I was shocked, and it felt bad. I stopped sleeping with Friend A because he had a bad habit of being unclear with his expectations and keeping his other partners a secret because he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Or his other partners feelings. Or his next partners feelings. I've witnessed him sneak around on multiple women, and all I could do was call him out in private because I didn't want to be That Crazy Ex who blows the whistle publically. Why am I still friends with him? He's a wonderful platonic friend and dance partner.
Both friends messaged me privately to let me know that they had met someone I know, and they both told me that the date went well. Friend B showed up in lolita, Friend A recognized it, and that's how they figured out that they both knew me. I asked Friend A privately what he planned on doing if Friend B wants to further their relationship, and he says he's willing to be truthful with her even if it means hurting her feelings. I want to trust him... but I'm afraid he'll clam up when he has to talk to her.
I want to tell her myself, give her the warning I would have appreciated before I slept with him, but I'm afraid she'll decide he's not worth her friendship, and I'm afraid she'll be upset that I would butt in and try to sway her choices.
Sorry for the longass post. Advice?

>> No.9609058

Y'all are fucking retarded

>> No.9609059
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>save money for cosplay materials and stuff
>have cash
>get robbed
>bye bye cosplay plans, nice meals and my $300

>> No.9609062

Well it's not cgl related so gtfo

>> No.9609092

This isn't related to CGL??

>> No.9609095

>what is reading comprehension

What do you do about a cheating petticoat chaser?

>> No.9609103

She was going to buy thongies with that money.

>> No.9609113

Damn. Thought of going to grad school, but then I remember this bullshit.

I was going to suggest book rentals and checking if the library has material, but then I remembered that college math books do that fuckery of making you buy a software sometimes.

Even though some classes "require" the new edition of the same book they teach out of every semester, do keep book rentals and the library in mind though. It usually saved me a lot of dough. There are tons of shops online these days like Amazon, eBay, cheapbooks, chegg - shop around once you sign up for classes. Most of the time, you'll end up finding books locally from last semester's students. Some teachers go out their way to print out or send you digital reading materials. I hope your professors are kind enough to do so. I know it sucks, but I'm sure you'll be able to afford lolita eventually. It's pretty common for people to give the fashion a hiatus.

>> No.9609114

I was robbed at gunpoint 3 weeks ago, anon... I know how much it fucking sucks. I'm out about $800, they stole my phone, purse, and killed my car battery/wrecked the seat (yep they stole that too). I had to use all the money I was saving for my plane ticket to Japan...

>> No.9609120

Her thong diaper broke.

>> No.9609136

The book does have to be new unfortunately, because you have to write in it. I hope the calculator is cheaper.

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It didn't go all the way, I just kancho'd myself

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TFW my ex is getting married at the con.

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How trashy and tacky must one be to get married at a convention, holy shit.

>> No.9609198

I feel an unhealthy desire to die for something else

>> No.9609264

adult egl is kinda dead, the "main" lolita amino is meh but there are a few cool peeps there that are fun to talk to in the adult lolitas chat

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>want someone to do couple cosplays with so badly
>see it everywhere
>hate that i'm obsessed with this shit
>actually fucking despise it holy shit

I have never hated myself so much.

>> No.9609271

/goes into thread to share a feelsy story
/scrolls through a threadful of shitslinging
/closes thread

>> No.9609294

I'm anon from some thread before.
>don't have my own money due to studing and moving to another city because of my bf's work
>bf's complaining about my lolita shopping
>talk our shit together
>decide to split his salary
>gonna repay him after graduating and finding a job
>buy some small things from aliexpress without feeling guilty for the first time in a long time
>find some native teacher to improve my english
>can save for burando for Xmas

All of that happened because of you. I love you /cgl/ and I wish you only happy feelings.

>> No.9609336

I've spent months lurking here feeling hopeless because I'm a fat fuck who has no hope of fitting brand or looking half-decent in handmade. BUT...the pounds are slowly, finally starting to come off. I don't know how long it will take, and I'll probably have to have alterations or custom blouses or something because I have always had cowtits regardless of what I weighed...but there is a glimmer of hope here that someday I will fit (not squeeze, but truly fit) into something pretty and maybe even look nice in it. it's a good feeling, and good feelings have been hard to come by these last years.

>> No.9609375

I feel so bad for your boyfriend. He's obviously not happy with you spending so much and then to just take half of it saying you'll pay him back later? The amount of stress and resentment that'll build up from that for him. Find a smaller part time job to work while you study, even at a fast food restaurant or something to buy shit you don't need. I just can't believe you think it's ok to demand so much money for things you don't really need from someone like that.

>> No.9609401

Nice job, anon! Keep it up and you'll be to your goals in no time! Once you start noticing weight coming off it seems to come off faster and faster. We're rooting for you and many of us have been there at some point, myself included. I went from not fitting anything to being able to fit unshirred pieces from most brands. It took about three years, but I lost 75lbs and feel fantastic. If I can do it, then you can too!

>> No.9609406

>tfw you'll never be some brandwhore's paypig


>> No.9609409

I'm a lone lolita with no community nearby and no interest in conventions. And it's getting lonely. I wish I had a friend to go to cute cafes with or museums. I'm getting desperate enough I might join a meetup or set up a tinder just to meet people even if it's a date, but I remember in the last thread how bad that worked out for another lolita. And I've never used online dating so that could be a huge mistake.

Have any lolitas had success making friends or dating through social networking-media? Did you tone down your coords in your profile?

>> No.9609411

Where do you live?

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>> No.9609413

>rewind to freshman year of uni
>befriend one girl, she's into cosplay and some jfashion (fairy kei mostly)
>realize quickly that her parents buy everything for her and she isn't very good
>tells me she only does it to get famous
>overall manipulative and gross, end friendship
>fast forward two years
>shitty ex-friend from uni posts on her facebook constantly
>posts about finding 'the perfect Lolita dress'
>wan die

I just hate knowing that while I save up for months for a dress, her parents will gladly shill 300+ for a brand dress that she's going to destroy because she knows NOTHING about lolita. Why is the world cruel, gulls.

>> No.9609415

Asia. People know what lolita is and I know there are people interested in J-fashion here, but it's still hard to make a connection.

>> No.9609417

Wtf, dude. You are not him so you have no idea if he's happy or not. We've been together for 7 years and he can dump my ass whenever he wants because we don't have marriage, kids or loans.

Also, I didn't say we are splitting his money in half. I'm getting about 1/5 of his salary for groceries, cleaning products and my things.
I wish I have some time for part time job, but I'm not a robot and have to sleep and rest.

Why are you even here if you think that cosmetics, accessories and cute clothes are unnecessary? Yeah, I can make some dresses from plastic bags and call it 'j-trash', but I think that my bf prefers me to dress nicely.

>> No.9609434

Rationalize spending someone else's salary on clothes all you want.

>> No.9609439

>depression hit hard yesterday
>Had semi breakdown eating taco Bell in my car during lunch break
>Close to the end of the work day feel slightly better
>Bought new pair of jeans I like and they fit well
>Also think I looked not-ugly in the mirror and my hair was perfect
Ok I guess?

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>half-jokingly tell my bf he should buy me socks from lacemarket
>he actually does it

>> No.9609447

Thanks for the encouragement!

>> No.9609449

he is a good egg, keep him

>> No.9609458

I hope that you also find bf/gf that can support you, anon.

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>see a stunning 1999 dress but too broke to bid on it
>fast forward a few months
>it appears again
>win it for 16k yen less

>> No.9609467

Ah, delighted for you anon & wish the both of you the best! I'm the girl who did the split our fun money in half thing with my partner while he was looking to get a job in my country.

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This is a good feel, anon. I'm so happy for you!

>Finally on a budget and only buying what I need
>See old school dress that perfectly fits the criteria for an item on my wish list
>Not enough money left in the budget to buy that budget
>Convince myself that if I wait I can find something similar
>Dress comes up AGAIN in same month, this time slightly cheaper but not enough
>Never seen this dress before, can't find on lolibrary, the gods are playing me
>New budget cycle
>Sees the same dress again, I am even better colorway
>Half the price because of minor, fixable damage

I feel blessed

>> No.9609470

Anon a 300lber would fit fully shirred meta.

>> No.9609473

you could also buy Maxicimam lovely, just looked at one of their jsks and it stretches up to 140 cm bust

>> No.9609474

I have a 90cm bust/waist and I was able to put on a quarter shirring Meta JSK without undoing the zipper.

>> No.9609491

I've been into lolita for almost a decade but I'd still say that cosmetics, accessories and niche fashion clothes are unnecessary. They're luxuries and you don't need them to live, or even to enjoy your life. They're fun extras for those of us with the income to afford them.

>> No.9609494

Language teacher here- motivation is hands down the most difficult part of learning a foreign language as an adult. We all have opportunities to learn another language around us, we just don't take them because they're not interesting enough. Go for Japanese, it's very employable language and having that cultural interest will be a huge help- plus you'll be surprised how much you already know.

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>Halloween approaching
>my favorite time of year, always make a big deal about costume
>no idea what I wanted to wear this year
>panic and despair
>look through related thread today
>suddenly reminded of character I loved as a child
>inspiration: GOT

I'm so hype right now. now I get to buy a few things and plan my make.
I'm so happy, gulls. I wasn't able to celebrate Halloween growing up so it's been a big deal for me as an adult. having this to look forward to is wonderful.

>> No.9609555

Religious parents?

>> No.9609558

That's great to hear! Halloween/Christmas are such fun holidays

Hope I get invited to a Halloween party this year now that I have friends

>> No.9609583

>recently obtained the elusive lolita SO
>really excited and happy, planning to coord together, maybe even go to a loltia con next year
>but... it's a little complicated
>new partner is poly, which is good, because I'm already in a relationship
>long-time partner and I both really like new partner and they like both of us, so we're giving it a try
>not sure how everything works but it's going well so far I think!
>haven't told anyone about this exciting development
>have a friend who was seriously crushing on new SO, will probably be PISSED that we "took" them
>will probably never be able to explain to family or coworkers that I have a new partner, but no, I still have the old partner too, nothing is wrong
>upcoming con where I'm going to be around long time SO, new SO, and a lot of my friends
>don't want to be secretive, new SO doesn't deserve that, I don't want to seem ashamed
>this is probably gonna be a little awkward
I don't even know why I'm so afraid that my friends are going to object, they have no real grounds to. And if bitter-chan gives me the cold shoulder for dating someone she wanted to date, I guess that happens.

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>new partner is poly, which is good, because I'm already in a relationship
>long-time partner and I both really like new partner and they like both of us, so we're giving it a try

>> No.9609681

>befriend qt azn cosplayer at local con
>says she's half japanese
>find out she lied, she's actually filipino
I'm so confused, why lie about that? Doesn't change how she looks
It's not a big deal, but makes me wonder if she lied about anything else.

>> No.9609683

Because filipinos are like the mexicans of asians. It looks better if you lie and say your heritage is of spain.

>> No.9609684

>I'm so confused, why lie about that?

Weeb cred. Also what >>9609683 said

>> No.9609686

people don't really like peenoise

>> No.9609687


The entire story is a red flag. Can't wait for the fallout in the next feels thread

>> No.9609694

I feel like I don't really belong anywhere and I just feel so lost and sad.
To put it simply whenever I join somewhere like a discord chat or something I always feel like i'm that one person nobody likes/pretends to like/...
Doesn't help i have low self confidence. I always feel like the ugliest/weirdest/.. whenever i'm out with friends.

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basically this

>mfw I'm mexican but a lot of people mistake me for being asian

It's kinda of fucked up but I milk that shit

>> No.9609704

I'm curious why you're both so pessimistic about it. Sure, it's not the most usual situation, but it's not impossible to have a relationship with more than one person, as long as there's good communication. We've already discussed that we're essentially giving it a trial period to see if it's something we would want to maintain longer term.

>> No.9609706

Because it only works if it's one man and multiple women. Men tend to fight for dominance.
They almost never work out either way though.

>> No.9609708

Going from past experiences. Don't think I've ever known anyone who was 'poly' or in an open relationship who didn't have at least a few screws loose. They never end well from my experience either. People are jealous creatures and paranoid creatures

>> No.9609717

Eh, fair enough. I'm not going into it assuming it's going to be easy, or necessarily last forever. My only real goal is that if/when we part, it's amicable, which I think we're capable of. There's definitely more obstacles than a two person closed relationship, but I think it'll be a fun time for as long as it lasts.
I suppose though, I won't let you down, anons. If it does come crashing down, I'll post it in a feels thread.

>> No.9609719

Same. Even when hanging with friends I love I feel like they'll ditch me and all I can think of is "I can't blame them"

It's a shitty feeling, and it's so hard to get out of that shitty mindset. Best of luck, and I wish you the best, Anon. Self confidence is a hard thing to build.

>> No.9609721

>I suppose though, I won't let you down, anons. If it does come crashing down, I'll post it in a feels thread.

Good post. Thank you anon.

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>hosting a panel
>ask if there are any questions
>friend raises his hand
>asks me "When are you and [girl who broke up with me three years ago] finally getting married?"
>he was dead serious

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>bring bananas to the con
>they come with a sticker pack to turn your banana into a Minion
>turn around for one second to put on my wig
>husband is wearing the stickers on his boner

>> No.9609764
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>find dream dress for great price, pic related
>wait weeks for processing and shipping
>buy other items to compliment it, practice hair styles, plan out my coords
>dress finally arrives
>way too fucking big on me, looks like shit

It's not even easily modifiable. This sucks, gulls.

>> No.9609765

Pffft this is a cute story, anon

>> No.9609770

Start eating

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>really want nice feminine nails
>my own nails bend like crazy and even the doctor couldn't help me
>"some people just have bendy nails anon lol"
>thinking about getting acrylics but last time I tried they gave me big giant instagram claws
>mfw I freaked out so much I tore them off

I just want nice nails gulls but I get so spooked when I attempt to get them and always end up just saying yes to everything

>> No.9609811
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Can I be real for a second?

This community is fucking atrocious right now. You're all acting like a bunch of whiny, entitled little babies. Ordinary women spent their money on fancy clothes for you to marvel at. They made it for YOU, and they're going to wake up tomorrow morning and see that instead of enjoying it, this community of "fans" picked out the 3 or 4 things that weren't perfect and are using that to fucking riot.

Guess what? No coord was never going to be perfect. It was never going to live up to your hype. It was never going to be everything you'd ever want in a lolita.

What it WAS meant to be was a fun way for girls to feel angelic and pretty, and I just checked the #lolita tag on Tumblr and it was exactly that. What more do you want?
Is the coord blouse-less? Sure. Is it wig-less? Maybe. Are the tights purchased from Spencer's Gifts? Sure, fine.

But holy shit what do these people OWE YOU?
How fucking entitled do you have to be to witness this painstakingly-crafted Jfash and then say "yeah but..."

We should all be fucking weeping in our chairs right now at the sheer size and scale of the achievement. We should be showering the people behind this thing with the praise they deserve for pulling off one of the most elegant fashion trends in recent history.

Lolitas don't owe you their beauty. Yet they gave you 18 QUINTILLION blogs of it.

If you have the fucking audacity to complain about it then you don't deserve it and you were never fans in the first place.

>> No.9609812

I have bendy nails too, anon, and so glad I got acrylics. You don't have to get the fake nails, just have them put the acrylic on your natural nails so they don't bend or break while you grow them out.

>> No.9609813

Sorry you got posted in the ita thread.

>> No.9609814

Admirable effort in repackaging that No Man's Sky pasta, anon

t. /v/

>> No.9609815

Lol if you're getting dressed up for other people, you're doing lolita wrong

>> No.9609823

Someone needs her thong diaper changed.

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>> No.9609831

Very true and I've been checking out their stuff a lot lately. I really like some of MAM's blouses. I think if I can shave off a few more pounds I might treat myself to something. Gives me something to work towards.

>> No.9609853

>post is obvious pasta
>think nobody could fall for it
>then remember 99% of gulls don't even realize other boards on 4chan actually exist

Well played anon

>> No.9609863

Ignore the salty gulls, anon. I think they missed the part where you're studying to practice medicine? and will eventually be making bank. You and your bf will have double income no kids and you'll be able to pay him back with a month's salary. They're probably angry and jealous because they think you're a gold digger, but gold diggers don't study day and night and go to grad school. That or they're jealous because they're doing the same thing but don't have a s/o that would spend a dime on them.

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>go out with BFF a couple of days ago
>talking about cosplay and stuff because we're doing a group cosplay at a con next weekend with her, my boyfriend, and myself
>she starts fishing for my ring size just out of the blue, think nothing of it
>immediately whips out her phone once I give her an answer and starts texting furiously
>still meh, whatever, I'm looking at stuff anyway so I'm more focused on that
>"Anon, are you suuuuure it's 7?"
>tell her yes, she starts texting again
>Holding her phone to handle gps back at the car I see my boyfriend's name pop up on a text message
>be good friend, don't snoop, immediately just sorta try to brush it off, but when we get to dinner...
>"Anon, which day are we going the group again?"
>Friday and Saturday, duh, I told you a million times
>"Just wanted to be sure, I wanna be there for this."
>Try and press about what "this" is but she blows me off about it

I've been suspicious my boyfriend has been planning something because he's been very secretive about his money. It isn't 100 percent my business so I don't press, but he's bad at hiding things because he gets all playfully defensive.

I think I'm gonna get proposed to the con we're going to next week. I'm gonna say yes if he does, and we're still gonna have a great time even if he doesn't. I'm happy where we are but if he wants to take a step further I am really happy and flattered he does.

TL;DR I'm excited and nervous and worried but we're gonna have a great time, and also might be proposed to in cosplay at a relatively large convention in front of a ton of people

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I still don't understand why this board always talks about thong diapers

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>> No.9609991

I just got rejected from a job offer on the same day as my interview. it makes me feel like they barley even considered me even though I have more than the required qualifications. I really need an adult paying job.
>feels bad.jpeg

>> No.9609998

Good luck, please post if it happens!

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This is going to be a controversial and immature feel, so here's your warning to get those trigger fingers ready.

I secretly dream of being famous and well-liked within the lolita/jfash community. If I'm going to have fifteen minutes of fame, I'd love it to be in my hobby rather than my career or some other aspect of my life.
I am a fairly seasoned lolita, am decently attractive and cute, have a small but nice wardrobe that I wear regularly, enjoy typical lolita hobbies, have lived in glorious Nippon and speak the language, and in general feel like I'm a fairly likable person.

For obvious reasons I am very ashamed of my desires, so I don't really participate in online communities. My lack of a large expendable income/kawaii surroundings would also hold me back.

I know this is dumb, but it would be nice to know that one day, I too, could be a role model or inspiration for someone like my favorite lolitas have been for me.

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>Not cool enough to sell through the Lolita Collective

>> No.9610055

Wow, who pissed in your petti?

>> No.9610068

Ive gotten up to the point that I'm skipping meals just to save some bucks for lolita.

>> No.9610071

e-fame is nothing anon. people only look up to your image, not the real you. and if you're ever lonely or in need, you can't look to your followers because most people will only like you on a very shallow level. focus on making friends and lasting relationships. the only feasible "benefits" are likes, reblogs, and occasionally free things, but none of that matters or has improved my life. i have many followers but no friends.
>t. sad, lonely, and minorly efamous lolita

>> No.9610114

>My name is minion number 356754
>I don't feel so good

>> No.9610120

>not meal prepping where meals literally average $2-$3 each

>> No.9610125

fuck really? I was just lurking their website earlier thinking about asking them about consignment. They have some pretty shit stuff/artists on there what the fuck I thought they had low standards

>> No.9610141

>mexican that looks asian
Be my esposafu pls

>> No.9610150
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idk, I sent them an e-mail almost 2 weeks ago and no reply.

>> No.9610201

Tfw parents are so normie that when you try to wear a didney little mermaid sundress from fucking hot tooic to the beach/out to dinner, they whine that were not going out to a fancy dinner.
Tfw i color coordinated everything already.

>> No.9610224

Asked if they could stop criticizing my fashion. Got told absolutely not like I asked if I could have a hooker and blow orgy in their bedroom.
Im just going to sell my wardrobe. Itself makes me so happy and I love the way I look in them.
But my parents and sister tear me down so hard I end up feeling worse.
I now panic anytime I even step out of the house in lolita and just wind up even more hikki than before.
Sage for double.

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>> No.9610233

Don't sell your clothes. You don't dress yourself to please them or anyone. You dress for yourself. Next time they give you a "critique" tell them that you dress for yourself in the way that makes you happy and that's the end of that. Even better, don't react. Just ignore them with your phone or something when they start whining about you dresses.

You don't have to drab yourself down just because your family has shit taste. One thing I've learned about clothes is that if you're not confident or happy in what you're wearing, you're not going to look good. If lolita and little mermaid dresses make you feel happy and confident then wear them.

>> No.9610240

dump their ass and move out

>> No.9610255

I'm so stressed out and can't stop buying stuff, but it only makes my problems worse. I wish I could just hide under a rock and disappear.

>> No.9610269

>only a year on HRT
>Too big to play anyone you like
>Not big enough or dyke enough to play anyone big-framed you like

I don't have the boobs for Power Girl, the muscles for She-Hulk, the hair for Zarya. Fuck, man

>> No.9610283

Working on it. I had a decent amount saved up and then my car went kaput.
Then i bought another car. Was good for a few months. Then it needed about 2k in repairs, which wiped out ny savings

>> No.9610292

What did you honestly expect being in-between?

>> No.9610293

Do a blonde ponytail wig and do Zarya's summer games skin?

>> No.9610295

You have bigger problems to deal with than cosplay choices, famalambourghini

>> No.9610355

I bought some cosplay items last minute and i'm stressing that the everything but the dress will come in on time. I even wasted money on the fastest shipping option

>> No.9610466

Take me with you anon, i can be your sex slave maid

>> No.9610488

One of my favourite Japanese brands 'Stigmata' is going to be stopping production after the middle of September, due to the designer having to take medical treatment (japanese is vague about what this means). Quite sad because I hadn't gone to any of the pop-up shops while I was living in Japan for nearly 2 years, and now I kinda missed my last opportunity before I moved out in July. I hope the designer gets well and her brands (another brand noisenoisenoise) come back in the future.

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>tfw can't decide whether to waste money on lolita or on husbando merch

>> No.9610494

I don't remember posting this.

>> No.9610511

I cant- my dream is to be kawaii house waifu.

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>> No.9610519

Do it.
Two christmases.
Its a winwin.
And i think your dad will leave your mom for your waifu.

>> No.9610529

Who's your husbando, anon?

>> No.9610538
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Here he is

>> No.9610740
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Holy shit, WHY??!!

This is why I only look at cartoon booty.

>> No.9610797

>implying anyone has this good of taste on cgl
It was funny but don't get my hopes up.

>> No.9610806

don't be silly
Goto-chan a cute, would use him as ouji accessory

>> No.9610838

>Holy shit, WHY??!!
He thought I was still dating her, apparently.

Dumbass. I'm glad she wasn't in the crowd, at least.

>> No.9610850
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>Harassed and stalked by a cosplayer about a year ago
>bothered, but ultimately did nothing about it
>tfw now they've become really popular and well known
>tfw I can't ever call them out because I deleted all messages trying to move on
It's like reverse schadenfreude. I hate seeing someone like that get so much love

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Nice pasta.

>> No.9611035


The second reply already named it as pasta. At this point I'm absolutely certain gulls reply to bait because they're bored and can't think of better things to do.

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>want to wear something silly like pic related
>don't have the boobs to fill it out
Sadness covers me like a blanket.

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>had a big blowout with my cosgroup last year
>still mad about it
>finally think "you know they didn't really care about you nearly as much as you cared about them to start with, they probably moved on a long time ago"
>friend then sends me FB screencaps of them laughing about "improving" old cosplay group photos by cropping me out or otherwise removing me from the photos

>> No.9611091

We were not meant to be then anonfu

>> No.9611126

what did we learn from this?
>fwb is bs that never works well irl, don't do it, it's hoe shit and if you do it, be prepared for awkward shit
>if you can't handle awkward shit, don't fwb

>> No.9611129

Those are just shoops anyway.

>> No.9611132

Plus the girl's breasts are clearly fake.

>> No.9611273
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>need 15 minutes to write a short feedback for a nice seller
>need 20 minutes trying to answer a question to one of my sales
>need 25 minutes to politely ask a seller if they combine shipping and ship international
>need 30 minutes to write an informative reply to an anon
>need an hour to ask someone from my comm where they got their shoes from
>need a whole day to come up with a message to clear issues with a SS
Is there a solution for this or should I just sudoku myself? At this rate I'm going to spend 50% of my life trying to string words together.

>> No.9611280

Sorry anon, there is no solution to having a low IQ.

>> No.9611282

Sudoku it is then. Though I didn't have problems with this a few years ago.

>> No.9611286

Not a bad idea. Doing sudokus will help your mind to stay active and might help you with your problems in the long run.

>> No.9611294

iktf anon
It gets a little easier the more you do it, but some of us are simply doomed to be anxious messes.
>need to reply to message on LM
>fingers on the keyboard but no words come out
>know that the longer I take, the more likely I'll get neutral or even negative feedback

lol anon I'm doing a PhD in molecular neuroscience and writing my thesis is going really well, yet I still spend half a day fussing over an email to my supervisor. It's a form of social anxiety and has little to do with intelligence.

>> No.9611333

Fffffffff - the feels right here

> also an academic
> also riddled with anxiety
> also hate checking my inbox even for the most mundane/non-consequential things

thanks brain!

>> No.9611338

Another anxious anon here
Do you guys have anything that helps with that? I've found that it takes me less time if I don't try to act friendly/social in any way (not even a "hello"). I feel impolite as hell but it beats staring at the screen for an hour

>> No.9611354

You dodged a bullet anons. Their pretty bad about managing your shit and getting payments to you anyway. Plus the owner is a pervert.

>> No.9611363

Does kilo shop kawaii in Paris stock actual Japanese clothes or just "weeirddxD harryjookoo fashion" from all over the place? I rarely see cute jfash pieces modeled there, just crappy yukatas and western alt fashion modeled by edgy black people

>> No.9611381

Somewhat similar feel in trying to communicate with taobao sellers since I don't use an SS. There are days I spend hours trying to translate properly and say things that are readable and polite sounding. At this rate I really should use a SS, but most taobao sellers are kind and ship really cheap to the US.

>> No.9611385

>don't try to act friendly/social in any way
Some people might get the wrong impression and not want to buy from you again. People are so used to obnoxiously friendly service that acting neutral is seen as rude.

>> No.9611408

>someone has big boobs
some people have big naturals, stay salty gulls

>> No.9611425

They do actually. I've got some Liz Liza, BTSSB and Pink Latte from there.
I just got lucky with these finds i guess

>> No.9611483
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How many of you are fat?
Be honest!

>> No.9611492

Similar feels here, I try to develop a template for emails/messages and just stick to that.

>> No.9611499

I was wondering where the weekly weekend incel trolls were.

>> No.9611500

Being purposefully short with people helps with me too since most of my anxiety comes from worrying how people perceive me, so simply throwing that out the window is a quick way to deal with it. Like >>9611385 said though, it's not a good idea in situations where you should be pleasant or professional, so I rarely take this route.
Another thing that helps me is getting drunk or doing it in the middle of the night when the rational part of my brain has gone to sleep. This is shitty advice. I'm sorry.

>> No.9611567

Some people are great as friends, and shit as partners. Those are usually the people who prefer to keep things casual, since they have a rough time with relationships. If someone says they prefer to keep it casual for no real reason, watch yourself, because there is a reason and it's not a good one.
If having an fwb makes you happy, and you can stay happy, and there are clear boundaries and expectations, cool, stick with it. If it drains you, or if they have bad habits that hurt you, RUN.
The situation here isn't so much awkward as much as it is a moral quandary. He has a long history of cheating. She's new. What does the witness do?

>> No.9611595

I lost a lot but I'm still fat.

>> No.9611633

>really popular cosplayer happens to be a total scumbag
>has screwed over many people and yet refuses to own up to anything because they know they can get attention and validation as the drop of a hat

These people sicken me. It's almost as if they think they're celebrities.

>> No.9611697

>follow a bunch of cosplayers who have patreons and post lewds and revealing stuff
>realize they make their money, possibly a living, off of thirsty guys
>realize i'm one of them

He who fights monsters...

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>tfw you come home from a long day at the office, take off your thong diaper, and dig into BtB.

>> No.9611717
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Why are 3d girls so disgusting

>> No.9611816

oh no, i did not hear about that. wishing the best for them

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When Jessica Nigery is coming to the con.

>> No.9611831

>be me, junior in uni with severe social anxiety so 0 friends
>muster the courage to wear lolita on the first day of the new semester
>gets approached by nice people and now have new friends with similar interests
looking like i won't have friends in my classes still, but it's so nice to actually have people to talk to for once.

>> No.9611850

What makes me more mad is when you have the really good cosplayers who do all they can to build others up, yet get jack shit attention wise.
Know a girl who uses her patreon funds to run a charity to help people who are victims of sex assault at cons/while is cosplay and gets 0 acknowledgement for it.
Meanwhile Yaya Han and Moomoo-kunt is just LOOKIT MUH TIDDIES. And they get fucking bank, and act like their the best thing to happen to cosplay since the circle lense.

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>mom talks about wanting matching tragus piercings
>been meaning to get one for gyaru amongst other things
>suddenly tells me today she changes her mind

>> No.9611875

>getting drunk
I do this too

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>Meanwhile Yaya Han and Moomoo-kunt is just LOOKIT MUH TIDDIES. And they get fucking bank, and act like their the best thing to happen to cosplay since the circle lense.
Well, Yaya is pretty hot. And Moomoo appeals to fat fetishists and other obese women.

You just need to find an audience.

>> No.9611938
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I think a REALLY pretty girl from my little sister's comm has a crush on me, but she's had three breakups this year, which makes me think there may be something wrong with her.

Should I go for it? She likes all my Fb posts, with hearts.

>> No.9611944

>girl who uses her patreon funds to run a charity to help people who are victims of sex assault at cons
Who? Google led me some girl named Trickssi

>> No.9611961

>uses her patreon funds to run a charity to help people who are victims of sex assault at cons/while is cosplay
That's a weirdly specific charity. Is it that much of an epidemic?

>> No.9611965

The fact that people need to be told that cosplay is not consent leads me to believe that it's happening all the damn time.

Who knows if it actually is. But it's at least relevant or related to the hobby.

>> No.9611973

What does the charity do?

>> No.9612017

Only one way to find out, anon. By which I mean scour every form of social media to reconstruct her past

>> No.9612020
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>I'm getting about 1/5 of his salary for groceries, cleaning products and my things.
>I'm getting about 1/5 of his salary
>I'm getting
>about 1/5 of his salary
Thats literally being a gold digger. If you rationalize talking to him about it till he gives you literally 1/5th of his salary I bet your entitled and delusional. Giving a gift is different than being coerced into it. Maybe he prolly feels terrible for you being financially dependent on him. Not dumping you because he's content, and not dumping you because he feels bad are two different things.

>> No.9612026

Any woman whose primary interest in a relationship is material benefits. A woman who cares more about a man's bank account than she does about the man.

TRUE gold diggers go for guys who are rich beyond their means and would be able to buy closetfuls of brand before batting an eyelash.

t. an actual gold digger

>> No.9612158

What's the best way to ask a Instagram cosplayer to be Facebook friends?

>> No.9612164

You're not fighting monsters, you're feeding them. Don't kid yourself.

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>ywn make a full time income by simply existing and asking for money while you play video games
Male privilege my ass

>> No.9612174

No, the full quote is "he who fights monsters should see to it that he himself does not become a monster"

I'm saying I'm one of them.

>> No.9612176

I dunno, why are you alone?

>> No.9612211

Going to cons is just not fun anymore. I have acquaintances, but whenever I see them I say hi for a few minutes and run off. They're all busy and have their own friends, and I feel like they'll resent me if I stick around. I try to find cosplay groups to join, too, but I feel annoying trying to join those as well.

I'm actually really depressed in general, like I used to be into video games and art and fashion but those things barely get me excited these days. I've recently got my associates degree in something that I realized I don't actually care about, and I'm just kind of a neet at the moment.

tl;dr life is long and empty why am i here

>> No.9612258 [DELETED] 

>why am i here
To let some guy fuck you.

>> No.9612262
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Just accept what we all know already.
Tits = attention.
No matter how hard you work on your stuff, tits will always trump it.

>> No.9612269

Is that a morph?

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Jnig doesn't need to shop her images because she is a natural beauty anon.

>> No.9612271

read a lot of books in your spare time and befriend someone with great charisma/speaking skills and copy them like a parrot

>> No.9612275

Holy shit I thought that was fanmade. Truly cancer in human form.

>> No.9612276

being learned is not proof of intelligence

>> No.9612279

this tbqh, many academics are pretty stupid.
just because you can memorize something well doesn't mean you are actually smart.

>> No.9612297

I know, it's not exactly an obscure quote. It just doesn't make sense in this context because you're not fighting against anything at any point in your story.

>> No.9612300

>thinking a PhD is about memorizing things

>> No.9612305

At my college it's literally about sucking professor dick so yeah not something that requires intelligence.

>> No.9612308

I'm sorry you're going to a shitty college, anon.

>> No.9612451

Doctors don't make bank anon
They make less than most jobs for the first 5 years while you sit under 200,000 dollars in debt
The only doctors that make bank as you put it are insanely good specialists or 60 year old private practice doctors

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>be houstonian dealing with hurricane Harvey
>haven't gotten much flooding in my area but the dykes aren't built for this kind of bullshit rain so may have to evacuate
>don't have room to take all the burando and costumes so just taking the expensive/ hard to replace ones
fuck this gay ass rain senpai

>> No.9612508

I kinda wish I was dead

>> No.9612518

Three more days before I leave for a con, and I'm about 75% done with my cosplay, but I'm working every day till I leave. I believe I'll finish no problem, it'll be some long evenings since I still have to sew them up. I'm just so tired, more tired than usual since I've been waking up early to work on the cosplay and have been avoiding naps on my days off. I'll just pass out on the bus to catch up on rest... I do look forward to the surprise reaction since I haven't told my SO about this cosplay project.

>> No.9612520

Water proof cases exist. Even if your house flooded they'd be safe.

>> No.9612521

same, but the burando is too good

>> No.9612569

Won't do me much good now as the city's underwater but good info for next time. Thanks anon.

>> No.9612573

I know a lot of my issues stems from low confidence/self esteem but the only way it's going to be fixed is by living up to my own standards and not believing the opinions of others as fact.

I want to be the charming funny person people like, and I do become that on very rare occasions, but getting to that point is just going to take time, improvement, accepting aspects of myself, and not being controlled by the fear that comes with my insecurities.

Sorry about the self-rant, just needed to let off steam on my lunch break. Will probably be back at square one tomorrow.

>> No.9612574

You forgot to add in doctors who come from a family of doctors, those are also usually rich so they pay off medical school easily and reap the benefits of connections.

My family is like this.

>> No.9612590

If that anon had rich parents like that they wouldnt need to take a chunk of her bf's salary to buy brand and food
This whole situation sounds like it never happened

>> No.9612594

does it matter what length the natural nails are? I can barely grow mine to the tip of my fingers before they snag on something and the white just peels off

>> No.9612603
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Thoughts on these? I heard lots of people find them trashy but i think they look really nice.

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>tfw crush asked me what dress would suit her better and sent me 3 actual lolita dresses pics
>tfw crush says she wants to wear it along with me one of these days
>tfw she likes gothic and will probably look even more stunning like that
i'm not sure my heart can take it gulls, also she made a joke about us pretending to be soon-to-be married so we could try out wedding cake sample and i started fantasizing about being married to her.

>> No.9612618

> Have great OTT coord in mind which will look regal af
> Two events coming up, one medium J-fashion event and a really big con.
> Don't know which event to wear the outfit to

>> No.9612625

holy shit anon are you me?
You can do it though, take it one step at a time and I hope you can become the 'you' you want to be!

>> No.9612628

Pornstar nails.

>> No.9612635

Just get a French fade/"Baby Boomer" styled nails. They have the feeling of French tips without the trashy associations. Plus they're so much cuter.

>> No.9612636 [DELETED] 

There're some country with free education AND high salary for M.D. The world is bigger than US.

>> No.9612640

Thot nails for sure

>> No.9612641
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Do you automatically assume any girl with french tips does porn or something?

>> No.9612642

No, French tips are just ugly.

>> No.9612644

Thanks, Anon, Godspeed to you too. Gonna start back the gym today so hope that helps a little bit.

>> No.9612652

you're ugly

>> No.9612654

Yeah, or they're trashy
They're kind of like chokers, but on your fingers
Usually just trashy girls or girls who have never worked a day in their lives have them

>> No.9612655

>t. Bearer of Trashy French Tips

how's your filming of Backdoor Sluts 9 going

>> No.9612675

dont listen to the haters, if youre not trashy they dont look trashy. also who cares if you want them, get them
>but i'm a secret gyaru so...

>> No.9612679

lots of fun! thanks for asking :)

>> No.9612681

just saw someone wearing my dream dress. its really rare ive only seen it worn twice and its making me extremely sad. there are very few dresses id drop stacks on without a second thought
i think when im having a shitty week little things bother me a lot more and this is one of those things

>> No.9612709

chokers used to be cute then all the fucking instathots made it look trashy. Thots ruin everything.

>> No.9612714

Larme started it, take it up with their thread

>> No.9612733

100% this

>> No.9612770
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I have some really shitty feels that aren't really Lolita related and a bit specific, so I guess I won't be posting about them... Life sucks.

I haven't been interested in Lolita for a while now. I kinda came to terms with how unrealistic it is and gave up on it. I really want to get back into it again though. But nothing is inspiring me, and the clothes are so uncomfortable and cumbersome that I don't feel any motivation to wear it. I wish it was 2009 again. I'm so sad.

>> No.9612773
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>mfw I found out my con crush went to Dashcon

>> No.9612783

I am always so happy to see my dream dress out and about. Of course it bothers me when it is coorded badly, but it's great to get to see it in motion, if that makes any sense. I hope your week gets better, anon.

>> No.9612836

Let her wear her big girl bloomers and make her own questionable choices. You don't know her well enough for it to be anything but weird to bring up. Saying this as someone who gravitates toward the choice I'm advising against. It won't be pretty if you do it.

>> No.9612855
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There's a con coming up soon and I'm not really... feeling it. I'm not that excited for it. It'll be the same as usual. I go and cosplay, don't feel too confident about myself, then struggle with two sides: one side that should be complacent and content with the lack of attention I'd get, and the other side that shouldn't be and should want more. I acknowledge the latter and ultimately just finding a purpose in life and actually doing stuff would get me out of my slump, but it's a matter of actually getting out of that slump to begin with.

Just... seeing other people who seem to be happy and fulfilled and have purpose. I see other people who are way more confident with themselves, cosplay all sorts of cool stuff, they're driven, ambitious, and keep at it. Knowing that I'm nothing like them... I guess that's what's bringing me down.

Of course other people are probably not truly happy and they've got their issues, I don't doubt that. But still. Who knows if I'll go to that con. I'll probably just go, try to enjoy myself, then end up hating myself until the next con. That's the cycle I live in. I kind of want to die, but I realize that doing that would probably maybe hurt some people. I just have nothing to live for. But nothing to die for I guess. Maybe there's an escape to this cycle that doesn't involve death. I don't think I'd kill myself. Probably too much of a hassle. At worst I'll just be stuck in this sort of purgatory until I figure out my life, start being more confident and start actually doing shit. Until then... I'll just keep being useless, I guess.

>> No.9612868

>tfw first transaction on lacemarket and first positive feedback

Really basic, but it feels really nice and exciting - like this is finally my first "mark" in the community.

>> No.9612895

I feel you anon. It happened to me lately. You might need a little break until you feel like it again. Don't force it, it'll come back by itself! Don't sweat it.
I do wish it was 2009-2010 again but also really not because life was even shittier for me back then and now brand is cheaper than ever secondhand!
Hope you'll find solutions to your problems (lolita and unlolita)

>> No.9612929
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>tfw your friend's sister trips going up the hotel stairs and you see butt-cheeks on full display

>> No.9612934

I wish I could give some deep piece of advice, but honestly just try to look inside yourself and find an answer if you can.

I feel you when it comes to seeing other people's live when compared to your own. It's a shitty mindset, but one that I'll probably be dealing with the rest of my life. Doing better, but I can't think of a single moment or trick that fixed it, it's just something that happens with improvement over time.

Also please don't kill yourself, it's a waste of life. Give yourself 10 more years, at least.

>> No.9612945

I've been working on losing weight all summer and I just realized I'm going to fit unshirred brand soon if I keep it up. Feels good man.

>> No.9612981
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I've been crazy about my con crush for ages, and now that we're finally together I feel so damn disappointed compared to my expectations.

I did this to myself by waiting so long.

>> No.9612990

This happened with my friend's little sister when she was dressed as 2B. I nearly fainted.

>> No.9613038
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Maybe I'm just dumb for feeling this way.
>terrible at speaking up and getting into social groups
>as a result often feels forgotten
>cosplay comm no exception
>think I can get closer to and friends with some photographers who I've known since last year
>said photogs seem to suck up to cosfamous more
>feel happy for my photog friends since they're moving up in their profession, but also sad because I feel as if I'll never be "enough" for them to treat me as they treat cosfamous
>feels bad too because I realize how selfish I feel and sound and feel like maybe i'm just whoring for attention
>yet I never can really say anything since i myself am really nothing in the big picture that is the cosplay comm
I really hate that I feel this way sometimes...it would be better to speak up I guess but I feel as if I'll be looked down upon.

>> No.9613045

i definitely didnt feel any ill will towards her for having it but ive only ever seen it twice, ill probably never own it and ive cried out of frustration about it before

>> No.9613059

>pls be hospitality doll-chan

>> No.9613063

So like for the first time ever I've fallen in love and I have to ask... why do people glamorize this? It's absolutely terrible. I keep smiling for no reason and look like an idiot just standing there giggling to myself, I keep worrying about everything I do because I care what someone thinks of what I do now, and I keep feeling sad when I think about the fact that they've been hurt before.

How do I turn this off? I refuse to be part of it. Like I actually would rather be dead.

>so it's not entirely off topic this person actively tells me I look cute in Lolita and seems to like it on a non fetish level
>also been compulsively spending because of him, gotta get more burando to be cute in

>> No.9613072

Larme is just Japan's answer to the nymphet fuck me daddy thing that mainstream fashion has been heading into for a few years now.

>> No.9613078

Get your heart broken, that way whenever you feel the flush of love and breeding hormones you cynically remember that massive disappointment and return to normal

>> No.9613091

Considering killing myself after my next overseas trip. Cosplay has been one of the only motivation to move forward in life for the last few years but I just can't see a future anymore. I've also been seeing professionals for years too. It feels cruel to just exist because others will be sad if you don't. /cgl/ related because I'm pretty well known and people would probably laugh about it here if I did.

>> No.9613094
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>Meet a boy at a convention and start to long distance date him
>only get to see him rarely including meeting up at said con where we met
>be an artist with lots of dumb oc characters
>During a video chat bf says he wants to cosplay one of "my characters"
>think he's joking because who would do that no one would know who or what he is.
>few months go by and he has already put together a wig and had his mom make the costume I had designed for said character
>go to con and feel extremely embarrassed while he tells confused on lookers he's supposed to be one of my own OCs

>> No.9613098
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I can't get my heart broken if I keep my feelings locked inside in unhealthy manner while simultaneously obsessing over the person to create a cocktail of self loathing and depression.

>> No.9613103
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that's funny as fuck

>> No.9613127

I had an ex that was going to propose to me at a con
>we had only been dating a year

>> No.9613169

There's usually an important distinction. People glamorize the idea of the other person feeling the same way. And if they do, that's what makes it... worth it, I guess?

And when they don't.... then you're stuck with feelings for someone who doesn't feel the same way. It's then on you to destroy those feelings and that's not the easiest thing at all. Sometimes it can take a few years, sometimes it can take more, sometimes you can never really destroy them.

If you're feeling this way, fucking tell the person and get it the fuck over with because otherwise it WILL consume you. I have the most horrible habit of letting this shit consume me for years and I would absolutely not advise it for anyone. Don't feel this unless you know for fucking sure the other person feels the same way.

>> No.9613186

14 year poly veteran here. Going to try and keep this brief/avoid writing a how2poly bookpost by only addressing a few things. You mention that you and your more established partner like new partner. Are you each planning on dating this person? In my experience, power imbalances between the established pair and the new person can make it quite difficult to date 'as a pair'. It's also a common mistake made by people new to poly that are interested in the lifestyle. The reason I say 'mistake' is because a version of the following scenario often goes down and most people new to poly don't have the emotional intelligence or knowledge needed to work through issues as they come up. Example:
New person will click better (or only) with one of the two which can lead to negative feelings on the part of an older partner (esp if that person is the one that introduced the dynamic). This doesn't take newperson's other attachment(s) as you didn't mention them as being part of your arrangement.

It's generally easier to explore poly in the context of being a person that sees other people instead of being half of a pair that are both starting a new relationship with one person at the same time.

Polyamory can be wonderful and fulfilling when it does work out. I wish you the best in your new journey.

>> No.9613189

Is the sex good at least?

>> No.9613191

>studying corporate finance and banking
>"you need to have the newest edition for the exercises!"
>half of the book is just shilling myfinancelab and half of the exercises are behind a paywall
Pearson is cancer

>> No.9613196

>finally got together with con crush
>be together for a little over a year
>put on some weight
>bf never really seemed to care about it
>last month he dumped me for some conslut saying "I've let myself go too much and he wants a girl that cares for her body"
That's bs tho, i'm sure he just dates her because she has bigger tits.

>> No.9613206

Those are pretty! The key to good overlays is making sure they fit the scale of your fingers.

>> No.9613208

That's actually... So, so adorable. Really supportive partners are my jam, especially when they'll do something cringey for you. I'd probably be embarrassed as hell too, but it's endearing.

>> No.9613211

Myblanklab needs to die in a fire. I miss actually learning shit in class instead of learning lessons to pass the homework assignments.

>> No.9613212


>> No.9613233

>graduate with my degree + license to teach, high expectations for attending a great grad school because my school record/resume is bomb
>family matters bring me back to my home state instead of going straight to grad school
>I'm secretly relieved to have a gap year (overloading classes every year took a toll) and work for a nonprofit, easy peasy job that is related to my field
>start looking at grad schools again after a year, but unexpected expenses cut into my savings severely
>I /should/ start teaching so that I stay in my field + make more money, keep my resume strong for grad school
>buuuut friend of mom's can get me a job making more than I would teaching as a server, since my state is service industry heaven
>I could afford so much, no living like a pauper as I save up for school! New burando! More cons! And fin aid wouldn't be as huge as a consideration for grad school
>my only hesitance is I know my friends will give me shit because they already think my nonprofit work is stupid, "you got your degree to make X amount? wow," and they turn their noses up at jobs outside of their field even if they'd make more money (like I said, service industry heaven, but it's below them)
>I always thought job prestige isn't important (wouldn't go into the field I'm in if I cared about prestige and money), but my pride is already hurting because I'm doing something I could do without a degree
>it's bothering me that this bothers me, I know I'll do it, but I am not looking forward to the snide comments about me working as a server

>> No.9613236

Nice wall of text on those totally /cgl/ feels bro

>> No.9613247

i feel like i did this to a lot of people in my ryuko syncronized cosplay. Kinda glad I sold it.

>> No.9613253
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>tfw you finally find a guy that doesn't think cosplay is just a fetish

>> No.9613297
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>finish putting on my cosplay
>leave the bathroom
>mfw the rest of my crew is lying around watching TV naked

>> No.9613315
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>when girls under 14 take ahegao selfies

>> No.9613316

Remember to report all incelposts that are trying to destroy our safespace.

>> No.9613366

all cute pastel clothes are arriving and I'm not sure if I can even pull it off. I've been so used to wearing lolita and pretty much only wearing black (and occasionally red and purples) that I don't know how to dress other colors and clothes anymore. it feels like I'm a newbie all over again.

>> No.9613462

good luck! I finally branche dour form my darkness no parents color scheme, and I love it so much more than I expected!!

buy a tide to go pen and carry it with you, though. pastels attact stains like ants to candy.

>> No.9613466

branched out from*

>mmm autocorrect

>> No.9613486

Or maybe you let yourself go?

>> No.9613493

This is some strong denial

>> No.9613496

Wtf even is this stupid con crush men?
Is it like kids in high school passing notes
>That 2b over there totally likes you but won't say anything
Is this what that she is?

>> No.9613505

Con crush is just some random hot guy that you want to get intimate with.

>> No.9613588

This happens to me every year. I always want to get to the con asap and they're like 'yea we'll be ready in like....5 hours'

>> No.9613601

The latest i get to the con is 10am.

>> No.9613610

Yea I usually end up ditching them and they have to find me at the con later.

>> No.9613619
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>I didn't get THAT fat...
> He only likes that skinnier girl because of her boobs!
Sure, Anon

>> No.9613620

Good feel sharing
>be terrified of going to London event
>nearly back out last minute but go anyway
>end up making new friends who look for ME to add me on FB and insta and not the other way around
>feel the same spark i felt when I started the fashion in 08 that I hadn't felt in a while
feels good gulls

>> No.9613624
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>meet people that add YOU to FB and insta
>turns out they did it so they can creep on you
Yay you

>> No.9613640

>bf has been asking me to make this couple costume for 3+ years now
>I don't like the design, character, or even the techniques I need to use to make it
>but he loves it, his favorite otp favorite media
>but I really just want to be a princess in a pretty dress instead
>give in and agree
>just moved into bigger apartment
>no room to sew, can't find box with costume project in it
>16 days until event


>> No.9613643

Ganbatte, Anon-chan

>> No.9613645

>when you're a fatty but a skinny girl has bigger tits than you

>> No.9613650
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You'd think that until it happens. You weren't there Anon you don't know.

>> No.9613654

I'd be happy as fuck if someone wanted to creep on me.

>> No.9613668
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My mom decided to move and our shared storage needs to be cleaned out so I searched my area to find my own storage unit and how much the cost ranges

Find an article about storage units that states people who use them are most likely borders and need psychological attention to fix their illness


...but most of my stuff in storage is all Lolita, cosplay, and anime stuff I don't have space for in my shared apartment

I don't know how to comprehend this mixed feeling of anger and shame

>> No.9613669

Post your info on /r9k/ then.

>> No.9613799

Yah I mean people I meet irl not people a million miles away on the internet.

>> No.9613969
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following up on this to say I wasted money on both and I only somewhat regret my purchases

>> No.9613995

thats stupid. People have to put their stuff in storage for a ton of reasons; You have to temporarily move somewhere for school or work and don't want to take all your shit with you, you have to put a friend up in a spare room for a bit while they are hard up, you need to move out of your old place quickly and haven't set up a new place yet, you need to hide your expensive jewelry during a divorce, etc. etc.

Why would having a storage unit make you a hoarder?

>> No.9614002

>eating pizza
>still sad
Eating pizza is literally the best, why is that cat still sad?

>> No.9614003

I feel this.

>> No.9614162
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Work wants me to come in on the con day.

I'mma shit myself, no lie.

>> No.9614165

>that filename
I'm pissing.

>> No.9614186

So say you have plans already.

>> No.9614202

>friends ask to stay at my house for local tea party
>I get excited for lolita sleepover
>made a little kit for them with loliable toiletry items
>they don't notice nor say thanks
>"I wanna see your wardrobe, you have so much stuff!"
>they start trying on my stuff
>remove all the ribbons from the shirring panels
>stretch all the stuff to the max and still don't fit
>leave all my stuff as is on the floor

I wish I wasn't so meek. I like them so much but my dresses are really precious to me, I'm super meticulous with how I keep them.
I'm not sure if they're just thoughtless because they weren't raised right, or if I should reconsider our friendship.

>> No.9614208
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>qt weeb girl in my Jap class that's from my hometown
we're all gonna make it brehs

>> No.9614223

>Finally get to the point I can't stand my hikki tendencies.
>Look up online psychologists/therapists to maybe be a stepping stone to going out to a local one
>not covered by my poor fag insurance
>look up to see which ones are
>double check
>mental health services not covered
>gonna be a hikki forever and only leave house to go to work or get food (till I move to my own apartment and just get blue apron, then it's just leave for work)
>thanks, obama(care)

>> No.9614236

Me friend got his wife ahegao shirt for birthday.

>> No.9614253

>be me
>search for dream dress for months
>about 9 months go by, figure I wouldn't get to it quick enough on J secondhand, would be way too expensive on western market
>wrong cuts/colors keep popping, never my elusive favorite
>wake up out of a dead sleep for some reason
>start browsing internet right as CC updates
>refresh page
>dream dress is there, preferred cut and color
>but that shit at record speed

Feels good, man, feels so good.

>> No.9614254

Anon, which dress is it? I'm curious now.

>> No.9614263

Dozing Cat Hakama in black. The ivory was always popping up but never the black.

>> No.9614272

Take the higher paying job idiot your 'friends' will be jelly poorfags while you bathe in burando

>> No.9614300

It's adorable anon, I love Meta wa-inspired dresses. Congratulations!

>> No.9614345

What a bunch of cunts. I'd reconsider my friendship with those sorts of people and remind them that you didn't spend all that time and effort on your wardrobe to have it pulled apart and dropped on the floor. Any friend who is worth your friendship would catch on to your passion for your wardrobe and treat it the same way you do. Godspeed, anon.

>> No.9614351

he ate too much pizza and got too fat and can't fit burando any more so he cries instead
we are suffering
I'm glad you like it!

>> No.9614401

Been having a really weird interaction with a potential trader. It's been going on for months and I just want to bang my head in because it turns out she thought I was talking about an entirely different dress even though my infographix had the right print and it said the right print name. Among other problems:

>looking to swap for dress
>someone responds they have what I want
>okay cool, I need proof though, and also I want money in addition to the trade since mine is worth more
>they say their camera is dead but will ship it out before I ship mine
>lol no
>they say they will buy a charger
>i wait
>few days later, they say they bought the wrong charger but I WILL SEE photos of the dress, and they also try to talk me down on the price of the trade
>okay sure, i really want to trade so i agree to the price, i'm not even sure it's going to happen at this point anyway
>this back and forth goes on
>today she says she just wants to buy it
>"no, i'm looking to trade only. if i find the dress somewhere else, i'll sell it though!"
>she suddenly mentions an entirely different print
> she thought we were talking about an entirely different dress even though i had been using its acronym and had posted proof photos????


>> No.9614441

Thanks for answering.
I will never invite them to my house again, that's for sure...
I feel like cutting off ties completely or confronting them would be even more of a hassle honestly. I guess I'm too much of a doormat for that.

>> No.9614538

What the hell? I want to slap those bitches!

Sorry that happened anon.

>> No.9614641

Blow them off unless its a scheduled shift. Then hopefully you can switch shifts with a co-worker or talk to your boss.

I always ask for my con off waaaaaay in advance to make sure that doesn't happen

>> No.9615697
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>(I live in Texas)

Hey so do I.

If you want practicality; Spanish.

If you want to impress; French.

If you want something you will actually stick with because you love it; Japanese.

Wild Card; Latin, because I like it.

Good luck anon. The college I graduated from, UNT, taught all those I just mentioned, but I dont know if thats the uni youre going to or not. Most should offer those classes.

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What characters?