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Last thread. >>9573642Share your cgl-related feels, and don't devolve into petty slap fights.
>been cosplaying with little sister every year since 2008>mfw she's getting married and moving awayI need a new cos-sidekick.
>>9579314Welp. It now seems as if my comm is holding their monthly meetups on a weekday every time, so I can't go to any of them. I assume this day was decided based on the frequent attendees' schedules, so I won't bother fighting it; I haven't gone in a while and I don't want to be that one person that expects the comm to bend to their every request despite inactivity. Guess it's time to bow out and finally become the lone lolita I was probably always meant to be.I can have fun by myself, r-right guys?!
>>9579370I feel you anon, ever since I started working my current job I can never make any meets and I feel so disconnected from my community. It also kinda showed me who I was friends with and who I was "lolita friends" with.
>>9579370You can't make your own meets?
I got drunk and had sex with my boyfriend in lolita. I feel like I shouldn't sell this dress after doing that in it.
>>9579314A few months ago I was in a financial situation where I could buy brand frequently. But my situation has changed and I don't have the funds to buy much of anything, even secondhand and taobao stuff...I'm worried I'm never going to be able to buy Lolita again.
>chatting with the beautiful girl in your sister's comm>mention "you'd make a great Mulan">no replyOkay, maybe she just didn't have a reply, but is it insensitive to tell your only Chinese friend she should be Mulan? Btw I want to be her bf, big time.
>>9579314A few months ago I was in a financial situation where I could buy brand frequently. But my situation has changed and I don't have the funds to buy much of anything, even most secondhand and taobao stuff...I'm worried I'm never going to be able to buy Lolita again. It's killing me inside.
>>9579314can you imagine people actually putting this on their children and the baby shitting itself?Poop would seep out of all sides and probably travel up from the pressure being put on their little assholes, causing a god damn squirrel tail. >>9579430get it steam cleaned and you're fine. people are disgusting all around and sweat in their lolita. As long as there aren't any jizz stains I think you'll be fine, it's no different than sleeping on your parents bed after knowing they've been diddling each other; the sheets are clean and you're not actually touching it. It's just the thought.
>>9579469never is a long time, anon. i know it sucks to not be able to buy whatever you want anymore (i went through a similar change recently) but both of us know that you definitely will be able to buy lolita again someday. it might take saving or working more or sacrificing other things, but you'll be able to.good luck!
>>9579468if she's never shown an interest in the character, yeah, that's pretty shitty to type cast her as the oriental Disney princess. >>9579469you're going to be fine anon, if you were able to buy it in the first place, you'll get back on your feet. Let it motivate you and don't let it stress you out too badly; I was in the same boat after getting a settlement for a car accident I was in and after a few years was broke as fuck, couldn't even purchase food and went to food banks for help. Now I'm back on my feet and doing good, and you will too.
>>9579468depends on the context. I'm not an SJW by any means, but being told things like "you're so pretty! ... for a(n) [race] girl." or "you'd make a great [only princess character with the same race as you]." gets annoying. It doesn't feel like a thoughtful compliment. How did you even end up meeting the girl in your sister's comm is more what I'm curious about.
>>9579475>people are disgusting>they SWEATFilthy pink hairless apes...
>>9579489t. your cat
>>9579489are you okay, sweaty-chan?
>>9579475Not to be a dick, but that's why I prefer buying from Japanese lolitas. Many East Asians don't produce strong body odor, and sometimes barely sweat at all. Not all of them, but I've never had that problem buying secondhand from Japan yet. The most recent dress I bought from the US reeked.
>>9579482>cosplaying Kaito>girls asks me something in broken english>turns out she wants a picture>become Facebook friends
>>9579500god I'm sick of this "east asians are perrrfect they don't do anything gross" shit. what a load of bull.
>>9579500a dress i just bought from mercari smells of cigs and slight BO. also as an east asian, i call BS. some people just don't have the decency to wash their clothes.
>>9579507>>9579510As an East Asian (specifically Korean) as well, it's actually true. Not in every case of course, but it's very common. We lack the ability to produce body odor based on a gene, it's a mutation I think? Sorry my English isn't great. It's why in Korea, you won't be able to find deodorant, and if someone finds out you use it they laugh in your face. I think there is more useful information online than what I can provide.
>>9579507From wikipedia on body odor.> East Asians are genetically predisposed for the allele associated with the dry-type earwax and a reduction in body odor. East Asians (Chinese, Koreans, and Japanese) have fewer apocrine sweat glands compared to people of other descent, making East Asians less prone to body odor.We do not even stock deodorant in our convenience stores because no one uses it.
>>9579519ADDING: That does not mean you won't get a BO-stanking dress, it's just a much higher chance that you won't. Sorry to mercari anon who lost lottery there.
>>9579468Reminds me of when I introduced this guy to my Chinese friend and he started talking about how much he loves Kung-Fu Panda.
>>9579507sorry you didn't luck out in the gene pool desu
>>9579505>cosplaying kaitoC A L I F O R N I A
>>9579536I don't understand.
>>9579557He's hoping you're from california so you can have sex because you cosplayed a character he has an unhealthy obsession with.
>>9579557hoping you're based in california because (if its the kaito I'm thinking about) people don't cosplay him enoughWhich Kaito did you mean exactly?
>>9579569Regular Kaito. I'm in Nashville TN.
>>9579571You've passed your incel penis inspection, Ma'am. Have a great day.
>>9579575I always pass my G(uy)I(n)R(eal)L(ife) tests!>>9579573Anon I meant Kaito from which series.I assume you meant Kaito as in the Vocaloid since you said regular?
>>9579581Yee, Bokaroids. My sister wanted to be Gumi.
>>9579507Sorry anon, but body odor is not a social construct. Time to wake up and live in the real world.https://youtu.be/1-_QKyipj_Y
>>9579370How many comms actually meet on a monthly basis?
>>9579399I could, you're right. It's just that I already have a hard enough time forcing myself to come out of my shell... idk. Upcoming meets were my way of motivating myself to get to know the comm.I feel like I've been looking for an excuse to distance myself from my comm for a while. I don't appear to have much in common with the regular attendees. Everything is too awkward for me to bear.
>>9579468>I want to be her bf, big timeYOU DUMPASS
>>9579519Are you kidding? In Japan there's millions of deordorizing products - laundry soap + extra additive (nanox, etc), wet tissue packs, different kinds of sprays, roll-ons, etc. Most of it is liquid type vs Western stick-form. The thing that isn't common is anti-prespirant
Someone on a somewhat obscure website I hang out on made a poll where people can vote on their favourite ~kawaii lolita dress~. But the girl who made it isn't a lolita and most of the dresses in it are ita af...I'm the only Lolita on the whole website so I'm the only one who knows. It's painful. It's physically painful. Do I say something?
>wearing Squirrel Bithday>accidentally run over a squirrel>scream all the way to work>get home later that night>the squirrel is liquid at this pointFugg.
>>9579594I've often wondered. My current comm has at least two meets per month, but previous comms, we were lucky to get enough people together for a meet every three months.
>>9579687Comment in a non condescending way that your personal favorite ~kawaii lolita dress~ is [insert decent piece]. Maybe mention a few others too. If they take to the idea, maybe steer interested posters towards better brands and resources. If they comment something like "AP is expensive and elitist!" abandon ship.
Is it possible to be lolita and naked?
>>9579706Honestly I don't think they even know what AP is. It looks like she just googled "lolita dresses" and pulled off whatever Milano garbage stood out to her. I thought about making a poll of my own but lowkey commenting about a decent piece may be an even better idea.
>>9579712if you wear a tiara
>>9579742on your soul
>>9579655Yikes!>>9579689Antiperspirants are so unhealthy, I've successfully made the switch to roll on crystal deodorant. I only switch back to normie stick for heavy duty emergencies.
>>9579507Didn't you hear anon? Japanese girls NEVER get STD's. Like, ever.
>>9579712>>9579744The true lolita wears frills on her heart.
>>9579655Deodorant is almost always referring to antiperspirant though? How stupid are you?
>>9579748It's because they don't smoke weed
>>9579765...Deodorant and antiperspirant are two way different things, anon. Antiperspirant is shitty for your body.>master race crystal roll on
>Do couples cosplay with gf>It's deepened our relationship>Plan on doing King and Queen of Cosmos>Plan to become each other's King and Queen
>>9579784You got me anon, bless you and yours.
>living in Japan>been sad and too nervous to wear Lolita out and about by myself>dont have any friends here that wear Lolita >stop by the mall today to see whats new and check the sales rack>Baby, Meta, and AP are having events/tea parties >the clerks recognize me and invite me to join even though I'm not wearing the fashion today (part of a big summer sale the whole mall is doing)>actually manage to make friends>get invited to tea next weekend with some local Lolitas >walk away with a new OP that was 60% off from AP and lots of new contacts on line and instagramI'm just... so happy. I was just posting the other day in the comme thread how I've been struggling to make Lolita friends here. Every one was really sweet and I managed to get by ok with my limited Japanese. I was glad at the very least even if I wasnt wearing any of my coords my outfit was cute as hell today.
>>9579765They are different products... Are you ok?Deodorant - stops you from smelling (due to sweat/bacteria)Antiperspirant - stops you from sweating
>>9579780Yeah they just use amphetamines and the pull-out method
>>9579794This was so heartwarming to read. Happy for you, Anon!
>>9579712Your underwear must be burando
>>9579794When mana-sama listens to your prayers
>>9579500I think it's more that East Asians are more nitpicking on their items. Odors and other things are drastically lowering price, or even considered unsellable (or just rude to sell). They also are more neat in mentioning such thing, making the change of it happening unexpected harder.Also, they sweat just as bad, but they generally just know better how to stay cool, because it's more often warm (and humid, making things worse). There is a reason it's normal to wear a parasol there and people look like you're a fool with an umbrella in the sun here.
>>9579515Body odor is not made by body. It's made by bacteria on the body who use the sweat. Genes have nothing to do with it, but perhaps bacteria in these regions are different, making the long term stay cause less odor.
>>9580004it's caused by a combination of bacteria and genetics, certain alleles have been found to affect BO
>>9579765no. Deodorant is just something that smells nice to mask the smell of sweat. Antitransparant stops you from sweating, but is far worse for your body. Only use it when deodorant is not enough to mask your smell, or if you would end up with big wet stains otherwise.
>>9579794Going to move to Japan for finishing school/work for a half year, might stay afterwards if I can get a job (field I want to work in is almost Japan-exclusive). When reading such things I always wonder if bosses and such won't look weird/badly if you wear this (in your free time). Like, all I ever hear is Japanese people think you should dress "normal" as an adult. Care to enlighten me on the topic?
>>9580001Yes, they sweat just as bad, it's body odor some of them don't have did. Did you read the replies? Also, they mainly use umbrellas to protect their skin and not tan.
>>9580004Apparently some East Asians lack the gland that attracts the bacteria causing body odor. Which is why, for them, they sweat but don't smell at all.
>>9579815>>9579841Mana sama answered my prayers indeed! Praise be. >>9580018Dont wear it around the office probably. But honestly in your personal life no one cares as much? And to be frank as a gaijin you get a lot more leeway with a few things like that. Some of my coworkers have scene pictures of me wearing Lolita and think its pretty cool. Same for my cosplay pictures. I just wouldnt wear Lolita to work or to work events. I do live in a small town though thats close to the city (hour by bus) so I usually dont wear it around my town and just save it for the city. I mean I'd prefer my students dont see me in Lolita but if it happens it happens. (I dont think they'd care so much its just a personal thing.)
>>9580034I read them later on. Took some time to get by from my last visit. Parasols are for sun protection, but part is against sun damage and tanning, other part is making shadow so you're not so hot.>>9580036Makes sense. I understand it now. Thanks for explaining.
>>9580078Yeah, I figured it wasn't going to be smart to wear it to work, or work related events. But I'll probably be living and working in Tokyo (my school has connections with Tokyo University so I can finish my school there), and shopping dresses will also be in Tokyo (mainly), so I'll always keep that change people from work see me, and considering my job would have nothing to do with clothes, I feel like I'm expected to be a serious, well-mannered adult. Especially because it's some higher university work I'm gonna do. I'm also tattooed, and have one piercing, so on one side I'm really exited, on the other side I'm worried. I understand I'll always be a foreigner, but I do want to fit in enough to have a somewhat normal life you know?I'm also fearing I need to rid myself from my last few Bodyline main pieces. I sold most in favor for brand and TaoBao, but I have 2 skirts I like, but all I ever hear is it being seen like some sketchy sexshop and I wouldn't dare wearing it there.The whole situation makes me nervous and excited. It can be pretty hard to find some decent information about the general opinion in Japan on certain things. Politicians trying to ban everyone with tattoos from living there (some time back, around 2010) and such, and companies supporting it don't comfort lol.
>>9580109Yeah the chance is always there. But also remember Tokyo is a VERY big city, I'd reckon the chances of your coworkers seeing in the city is less likely than you'd think. You can totally have a normal life and be a gaijin. I mean I'm th
>>9580109Yeah the chance is always there. But also remember Tokyo is a VERY big city, I'd reckon the chances of your coworkers seeing in the city is less likely than you'd think. You can totally have a normal life and be a gaijin. I mean I'm the only non japanese person in my town. There's a few things I still feel very separated from, but my town seems to accept and like me pretty well. I've made good friends with the obaa-chans that live down the street from me. If you make the effort to connect with the culture and the people around you that honestly makes all the difference. Outside of work you dont have to be super serious. You can enjoy your lolita and they generally wont say a thing. None of mine have said anything besides being happy that I'm interested in Japanese fashion. Same goes for tattoos, you probably wont need to cover them when you're not at work. Especially if you're in Tokyo. Drop me an email if you want! I know how you feel, I was both super terrified and mega excited right before my move. But honestly I'm happier than I've ever been in my life living here.
>>9580123Out of curiosity, what type of job do you have? I've been looking into moving there for a while, but I've been blatantly denied from working as an English teacher in Korea because i'm Chinese. When the parents come, they want to see some white teacher. If it's the same case in Japan, I'm not sure I'd be able to find work when my Japanese isn't fluent.
>>9580138Sadly from what i've read of others experiences it is that way in Japan too. I am looking to teach English there and have read a lot of people saying they really just prefer Americans even over British or Australians because the accents they have can be too over powering.Of course that's not to say they cant get the job, but from the people i've talked it, it can be harder for anyone not just plain white and with little accent
>>9580145>>9580138Oh sorry meant to preface this with "NAYRT"
>>9580123My biggest thing with tattoos is how I read everyone sees them as criminal, and you won't get into a bathhouse, swimmingpool, sportplace or any other place you would have to undress/redress, and the ones that do allow it are full of Yakuza.I defiantly want to make a effort to connect and do things the "Japanese" way so to say. It often sounds stressful, but it's pretty much a dreamjob kinda case, and the market is really small in Japan, even smaller outside of it.I'll send you a mail, hearing stories from people already living there is defiantly nice!>>9580138If you're moving to Japan, learning Japanese seems a good idea. At least learn enough to have normal conversations. For me, it's just that I want to write humanoid AI for android robotics. pic related, it's Hiroshi Ishiguro's ERICA. Also, what I've heard, there are places that only want Americans who thread them well, but the companies that allow non-Americans to teach generally thread their people badly, because many otakus want to go to Japan, so for you, there are many others.
>>9580138>>9580145There is a bias yeah. I'm a teacher over here (on summer break right now though) yeah. You'll still find other asians (Japanese descended and from other parts of Asia) working here as teachers but you're more likely to get a job teaching with a company than going for a private hire right off the bat. The bias against asian english teachers is a lot stronger there. But I can say that a good chunk of my training group was asian and a lot of my friends here are. You're going to have better chances looking for hire with a company that does hiring out of your home country, like Interac or JET. The accent thing is another story. A lot of companies hire from England or other English speaking countries fine. But the students will struggle to understand you for a bit. Also be aware that all grammar you teach will be using American english. And as a side note on the learning Japanese thing. I was told by many sources before moving here that you don't have to speak any Japanese and you'll get by fine. Bull and shit. Not saying you have to be fluent mind you, I came over only knowing Katakana Hiragana and some rudimentary stuff, but I've been studying really hard since I got here. Being able to communicate and make Japanese friends can go a long way towards building a happy life in Japan. Don't overlook that.
>>9580200>>9580148>>9580145Thanks for the information, I'll look into it a bit further. Also, I should have mentioned, I did take Japanese all four years of high school. I'm not fluent, but I know enough to be able to hold a conversation. I'll look into companies more.
>>9580148>tfw your peerless beauty doesn't preclude you from being a self loathing sack of shit
>tfw can't become a cute English teacher because you don't have a degree
>tfw you can't be an english teacher because you're already in your mid twenties and have a salary job in america
>loving nerd boyfriend occasionally Cosplays with me when we can find someone for him>both into bnha rn but we can't figure out who we want to cosplay. >we don't fit anyone physically. >he's muscular and pale>I'm thin and brown>his dream cosplay for us is Guts and Casca>I haven't read Berserk.I just feel bad. We have a con coming up and he has no plans. He just keeps picking me up and chanting "ALLMIGHTOOO" but I don't know if I'd make a good Deku. That mask is sketchy.
>still no lolita gf to kick me in the balls repeatedly and use me as furniture
>>9580477drop some contact info
>>9580424Be ready to find out about his choking fetish.
>>9580424honestly, it sounds like you two might make a cute Tenya and Uraraka. he's pretty built, and quite pale; especially good if your bf's either up for leg day or already has really muscular legs. and if you're really, really thin, it might not be the best because I know she's described as having a round face at one point, but I bet if you puffed out your cheeks a bit in photos and didn't contour them, you could get the same effect.granted, if your bf's more muscular in the arms/chest, he might be onto something and All Might and Midoriya might be the better way to go; I'm sure you'd make a cute Deku anon. you could always go for his everyday or gym outfit instead of his super hero outfit if you're worried about doing his weird bunny mask.
>>9579794I saw your old sadpost and I'm so glad things worked out for you in the end! I'm really happy for you, anon.
>been looking at Lolitas on jewtube all day>never met any Lolita IRL>never seen any Lolita in town>will never get a Lolita gfwhy even live
>>9580479don't leave me hanging bby
how the hell are all these people meeting bfs/gfs in cosplay?seems like every con I've been to no one really talks outside of their own group they came with or are rooming with, and putting that you like anime or cosplay in a dating profile seems like it's social suicide.is there some secret code or something people use to communicate this shit?
>>9580509I met my bf in cosplay (been dating for a year now), we talked to each other while waiting to participate on the contest. He was nice and friendly so we engaged in small talk, and later I saw him hanging with a girl I knew, so we talked a little more. When I arrived home I asked the girl we both knew about his FB and well, that was it. Just strike conversation casually (you could talk about the character he/she's cosplaying, or the anime, videogame, whatever) and if there's good communication, ask for their FB or social network of your choice. That's it! Good luck anon!
>>9580509Cosplay from an anime you like.Go talk to people who are also cosplaying from that anime
>>9580514I have been doing that but based on my body type and the characters I can cosplay with it, the only people who usually try to talk to me about it are 15 year old girls talking about their husbandoand I'm not about to go to jail
When I see someone do a make-up test with no cosplay and badly photoshopping some details in getting loads of appreciation and several thousand likes, compared to the cosplay I put a lot of effort into making, I can't help but feel really bad.
>get dress I've been looking for for a while>Way too big>Not even alterableI thought I could make it work with the corset lacing, but no
>>9579526I remember reading somewhere that Kung-fu panda was actually pretty popular over there to the point where the government ended up starting a board to try and figure out why.
>low on cash>con is coming up in September>have to order stuff online even though I'm broke just so it arrives in time for me to make my cosplayWorst part is my hours are getting cut in half next month.Also>in-laws are visiting for a weekKill me.
>>9580544I just had this happen for the first time as well. Bought my dream dress locally and relatively, I knew there was going to be something wrong. It's huge on my shoulders. I can't even alter it.
>>9580520uhh, you're not going to jail by just talking to and being friends with a 15 year old. I have 14 year old con friends. When you have even young friends like that, it can still help you make older friends.If you are old and she is talking to you, she probably talks to other older people who she can introduce you to.
I cant stop thinking about this cute Link cosplayer I met. We spoke for a bit and got some pics but i forgot to ask for his instagram. I'm dumb.
>>9579314ok, since noone else is asking...WTF is that picture for??
>tfw no cosplay/lolita gf
>>9580802Try doing something really old fashionedly romantic like sending flowers or getting her a victorian-style valentine for no reason as a surprise.
>>9580784it was from the last thread, something about thong diapers and getting kicked out of a comm because of that
>>9580808For who, exactly?He just said he doesn't have a gf.
>be me, lonelita and a shut-in>want to try going to a meet again>plan a cute coord that matches the event and everything>meet is in about a week>probably not going to actually go because i'm too shyi went to one meet last year and everybody was nice, but i held in so much anxiety and cried a lot when i came home. i don't want to come off as a weirdo because i don't talk a lot and i stutter when i do. i'm okay with not being part of a comm but i just want friends.
>>9580830Be my gf pls
>>9579840Where exactly does one purchase frilly lolita underwear?I try to keep an eye on the normie underwear shops to see if frilly is the current fad, since they occasionally get not entirely inappropriate 50s style retro stuff, but lately the range is not only cheaper in quality but really.......Kardassian.
>Be me, depressed and lonely, but not enough to do anything about it apparently>gets bored and checks IW site>summer sales>Attempts to fill the void in my soul with brand>only feels worse for spending money impulsivelyHonestly why am i like this
>>9580830Do you have a throwaway email/contact info?
>>9580482>oops that's my kinkWell....guess I better get to readin'.>>9580483>Tenya is also my kinkI was hoping to talk him into doing Iida brothers but I also don't want encourage creepy incest fangirls at cons. I know I can convince him to do stuff with armor. He's a skateboarder so his entire lower half is perfectly scupted. And Uraraka is his fave girl so maybe that could work out.Thanks anons!
>>9580784It's a joke photo from a parenting blog years ago. It happened, at least from what I understand, in response to the fact that some store started selling toddler-sized thongs. I think it was possibly A&F or Hollister, I can't remember.Regardless, it's not a real product, but it's become a symbol on cgl of ageplayers or some shitposting. Emphasis on shit.
>>9580874i threw it in the name field but i should warn you i'm boring and bad at talking to people>>9580845sorry anon i'm in a dedicated relationship with my wardrobe
>>9580902Where do you live?
>>9580938I wanted to woo you into becoming my shy lolita gf, but you're too far away 3:
>Been watching a listing on lacemarket>Getting paid 2 months salary today. Haven't gotten any money in 2 months becauase of summer, super broke>Think that I finally can buy the dress today since I get money>Last time checked the dress before went to bed>The first thing in the morning, I open lacemarket and plan to buy the dress>Someone bought it during the 6 hours I slept>Been waiting for 3 weeks to get money to buy that dress and right when I get money, someone else decides to buy it right before meFeels sad man, I hope it got a good home...
>>9579612>I don't appear to have much in commonAfter the second meet I've ever had, it was obvious to me that we just liked the same type of clothes and that's it. They're the same normie bitches I see everyday. Not entirely unexpected.
Good feels anons. I lent a coord to my lolita friend. She looked so cute and happy. I am so happy I could help her feel good and be a good friend when she needed me. She has been going through a rough patch and I am so happy that she was happy, smiling and feeling good about herself. Sorry for valentines post but I am so hiappeh. I am really looking forward to lolita'ing together.
>>9580963Do you engage in any other online comms? Bit off topic but I am sure that there must be some other lolitas around the world who have similar interests that you could befriend. What sort of things do you like? ~from: always happy to make a new friend, recently but no longer lone lolita anon chan.
>>9579430It's ok anon. I won't sell the dresses I've had sex in either, because it's pretty much a taboo topic in lolita community and I don't want to offend people like that because in essence I'm a decent person. The reason I've had sex while wearing is not the fashion itself as a kink, it's just that we live together with my boyfriend and I dress everyday and sometimes I've just wanted to go for a quickie without having the patience to remove all clothing. It's that simple and at core there's nothing wrong about it since I'm not a ddlg shitbitch but it still feels wrong, offensive and dirty somehow? Ahh, idk.
It's been a feely weekend>Birthday was Saturday>Mom got me burando>Actually came in timeI've been trying to drop hints for years, it was something simple but I care more that she took the time to actually learn a little about my hobbies.>Wear OP I've had for a while>oddly snug>oh no I've gotten fat>realize at the end of the day the corset lacing was pulled all the way inI feel a little silly now, but I was concerned for a while there. I had just washed it too, so I had the fear it somehow shrunk.Finally:>finally feel confident enough to go to my first meet>maybe I won't chicken out of this one>join event>immediately friended by comm's resident mtf I really prefer at least talking to someone first before adding them on social media, so I just kinda...rejected it. Tangentially related but what is it about Lolita that attracts trans women? I'm relatively knowledgable of my state's trans community (as I have friends in it) and Ive never met this women before in my life. Every comm seems to have at least one, too.I'm too socially retarded to figure out if she's just really excited to have "girly" friends or if she's a sissy.
>>9580988>what is it about Lolita that attracts trans women?I think you know the answer to that question anon.
Tfw i don't have a comm because Im too far south for NJ frills but too far east for frilladelphia...I just want people to hang out with and wear frills...
>>9580990But how do they always seem to find the comms? It's just amazing to me
>>9580646nayrt. but even at 19 I find talking to someone who is 15 really unrelatable and awkward. There's a lot of experiences they don't quite have yet. The age difference is small but it feels much bigger than that
>>9580899There was also an SNL skit about thong diapers, but I can't find video anywhere online.http://snltranscripts.jt.org/03/03ahuggies.phtml
>>9580830I feel you anon. After my first meet I came home and cried because I had been so tense and nervous the entire time. I've gone to a couple meets since then, though, and it's gotten slightly better. I believe in you, anon!!! You can go to the meet!!!! Be strong and live the frilly life you were destined to live!
- send two anons links to their dream dresses in the dd thread- both thank me and seem genuinely happy- check later - both dresses are marked as soldfeels good man, I really hope those two anons were the ones that got them, I've been in this situation when someone pointed to my dd being sold someplace I was not aware of, now I always try to share stuff I find from someone's wtb posts or dd lists.
>start running on a weekly basis>increase amount of days per week that I go running>lose a fuck ton of weight>dresses are already fitting better>still have double chinI know I gotta just keep at it but I'm almost starting to feel like it was easier to hide the fucking thing when I was fatter... why??
>>9580802>someone posting shiro on this board that isn't me>tfw>>9581116Its just like talking to anyone else to me. Age difference doesn't matter much when talking about anime and lolita.
>It's another episode of guilt over the amount of money spent on your hobby, but still refuse to cut any corners or compromise
Lots of cosplay feels>Finally finish dream cosplay>Sign up for my first costume contest, thats how proud of it I am, do t care if I win>Post lineup on con FB page, lots of girls message me to set up pictures togetherThat last one in general, even if they just want pictures, really boosted the ol self esteem.
>Get new Btssb dress in the mail.>Expect sleeves to be short, it's from 2003 and I'm a tall/long person.>Sleeves hit perfectly at wrists just like they should.
>>9581242Same here anon, I just always feel weird about spending money on myself in general so it's rough sometimes
>>9581231CGL:>Dudes in their mid 20s talking to teenage girls are grossAlso cgl:>Dudes in their mid 20s who don't want to talk to teenage girls are mean, age doesn't matter!
>>9581347It's almost like there are multiple different people posting on here.
>>9581347CGL isn't one person dumbass.
Wtf is wrong with people? Why would you post this??
>write long, emotional post about being excluded from meetup I helped put in motion for no reason that I know of, maybe they just forgot me but idk it hurts>phone fucks up>"you forgot to solve the Captcha">entire post is gone>fuck
>Lolita wardrobe is growing every week>Able to afford getting a main piece every paycheck>Getting a bunch of my dream dresses>Have a sweet bf who loves seeing me dressed up>Going to have more time to dress up and wear my coords out>Life is just good rnA year ago I was broke, depressed, and lonely. Now I couldn't be happier. Stay with it gulls, it's worth it.
>>9581481idk if im going crazy but i swear i saw this posted before.
Where to find nice bf that will love me and like, or even just tolerate lolita? Also will deal with me being shy and having social anxiety?
>>9581481>>Lolita wardrobe is growing every week>>Able to afford getting a main piece every paycheck>>Getting a bunch of my dream dresses>>Have a sweet bf who loves seeing me dressed up>>Going to have more time to dress up and wear my coords out>>Life is just good rnSame anon. I almost quit Lolita for about two years and suddenly I got a bunch of new stuff and we're having so many meetups. Feels good.
>>9581494Me. I have an active interest in lolita and I'm not horribly disfigured. Actually you could probably find tons of guys like that.
>>9581494Kind of sounds like you want a dad not a bf
>>9581508>could probably find tons of guys like thatI guess I've just had terrible luck then. Also the fact that it's really hard for me to talk to guys. >>9581513no.
>>9581521a thousand miles away
>>9581528Guy or girl?
>>9581524>NoYes, what you're asking for sounds very one-sided and very close to a parental relationship
>>9581513nayrt but relationships can have different dynamics where one person is more emotionally stable and acts as a "rock" to the otheri'm needy and like being taken care of and my bf likes taking care of me. not every relationship is 50/50.
>>9581530Guy. Did you want a girl? We can always pretend.
>>9581528Even farther away. Illinois sucks.
>tfw i'll never find someone to bully me in cosplay because i'm a gross fujoshitwhy can't i be normal, i'm kinda cute in female cosplays but i only want to crossplay and do gay shit
>>9581536>>9581539Are you foot fetish anon?
>>9581533>one-sidedI'd do my part too, I was just wishing anyways.
>>9581544I'm the first one, and no.
>>9581533ntayrp but how does wanting to be loved, a hobby to be tolerated, and accepting mental health equal parental relationship? my boyfriend does all of the above and i do the same for him. it's a healthy relationship.
>>9581547What's your fetish? Are you an incel? Ageplayer? Unemployed? Still live with parents?
>tfw I have no friends, and never leave my house other than for work, and meets.>tfw girls at meets talk about all fun things they do, and all i can talk about is lolita
>>9581544>confusing me with a fujoshitDon't insult me so. You can make it up to me by sending me your feet
>tfw your large shoulders will never fit into beautiful MM or VM OPs
>>9581544nope>>9581574your words hurt me so good, anon
>>9581580I'm the other way round anon, tfw my shoulders can only fit MM or VM blouses. Every other brand makes me look frumpy.
>>9581587Because you can't fill them out enough? That's terrible too.
>>9581560Cute girls. No. No. No. No.I make a modest amount at a full time job, go to college part time.
>>9581592Yes, and I find it quite hard to find them in the different styles I want. I can fit IW small but they only do it on some blouses.
>>9581585I'm totally shipping you guys now.
I had to move back in with my parents. And I feel guilty buying burando because I'm such a broke ass bitch.
>>9581587I have very small upper body structure, but medium boobs. Would you recommend MM and VM in that case? I'm having a hard time finding stuff that fits my body type. They either pop the buttons or look frumpy as hell.
>>9581617you should get your priorities straight, anon.it might be hard now, but focusing on your work/schooling sooner rather than later will no doubt lead to more financial success. good luck
>>9581649I've already graduated from college. But web design is a very competitive field.
>>9580830start practicing going out more, just to grocery stores and other places to build yourself up to being around strangers. you have to take it a step at a time, and can't force yourself or you're going to cause an aversion to it completely. integrate yourself slowly, and THEN go to a meet. just keep trying, anon, you'll make it. If i could do it, someone that was diagnosed with agoraphobia, YOU can do it, too. i have faith in you.
>>9581347big difference between talking to a 14 year old about lolita and cosplay and asking that girl to come back to your room.>>9581494Try the artist alley at anime cons. I'm a guy who likes lolita and in the artist alley. I'm sure the one, possibly even 2 other men who actually do artist alley have a higher chance of also liking lolita. It is also easy to talk to someone in artist alley since you have something to talk about, their table.
>>9581787if she's talking about you look just like her husbando, she's fishing for you to take her back to your roomthat's a big danger anon
>found dreamdress cheap>got the order in>cheap air shipping somehow arrives in country withing 3 days. EMS speed for cheap YAY.>customs takes horribly long to get it trough.>still no word from the post office. They do customs there selves and it never takes this long normally, but asking them makes them lie every time (also, a different lie every time).>now I feeling anxious they don't believe I got it so cheap or something and end up with a huge bill (I only expected the import on the actual price obviously, and European import fees are hell).>if I get a huge bill and want to complain I can't pay, which means I will have to wait even longer until I get my dress.>If I get a huge bill and pay I give up my right to complain.>I'm feeling disappointed. I was so excited and it all seems to go so perfectly, and now this.Seems to be a perfect order in every way, until that happened. Now I'm not sure when and if it comes, why it takes so long, and what I should do if I get an insane high bill, and no way of knowing until they send it further.
How do I avoid the temptation of fatty foods? I hear soaking a sponge in bacon grease and chewing on it helps.I don't wanna be a fatty-chan.
>>9581923That sounds fucking disgusting.You develop discipline.
>>9581923Chew them up and then spit them out before swallowing.
>>9581923Look at pictures of whatever kills your appetite when you get urges to eat fatty foods. better yet, look at pictures of obese people eating such foods. i've never had twinkle cravings since.
>>9581923binge until you get sick, or go a week on a 200 or less calorie a day fast and you'll find it's easier to eat less afterwards
>>9581943>https://i.ytimg.com/vi/FtPBHdRSM-s/maxresdefault.jpgwhy the fuck did I google that? was going to save it and add the photo but couldn't.
>>9581944>200 or less calorie a dayI would die.
>>9581923Don't have them available at home, but make sure you have plenty of healthy snacks (raw vege sticks like carrot or celery, small portions of unseasoned nuts). Don't go out to eat. Do your grocery shopping when you aren't hungry, with a list and a meal plan and avoid the confectionery aisle. The other thing is finding healthy alternative recipes that are tasty and enjoyable. If it's bacon you want, use it sparingly mixed with heaps of veges and other things e.g. instead of pastry based egg and bacon pie with grated cheese topping, go for a no-pastry egg white quiche with one yolk for flavour, generous amounts of leafy greens like silverbeet, spinach and leeks and bacon chopped finely, use cottage cheese on top and a sprinkle of something more flavoured.
>tfw no cgl bf to buy me shit in exchange for lewdsbeing poor sucks
>>9581949No you wouldn't fatass. Not for months if you had water.
>>9581979I can do that without being your bf. Or we can go steady.
>>9581923Your body starts craving fat and you do need fat to function (the walls of every cell in your body are made with lipids and lots of vitamins don't get absorbed properly with fat in your diet), so sub with "healthy" fats like avocado.Also just generally it gets easier once you haven't had it in a while, I was brought up on a really healthy diet and rarely crave junk food but I've noticed that if I have a burger or w/e two days in a row I start craving it much more frequently. It's a balance between not denying yourself so much you get obsessed (i.e. once your cravings are at a reasonable/occasional level it doesn't hurt to sate them) but also not going overboard and overeating to the point where you get sort of addicted to it and want more and more.
>>9581992Whatever you want anon, just need the bills drop your throwaway and I'll message you
>>9581979>tfw no /cgl/ gf to sit on my handsome face in exchange for handyman work
>>9579314A girl in my comm just texted me this. I don't understand.
>>9582043The fuck is a jebus.
>>9582049a beta fuck who preys on insecure children
>>9582051I'm omega and like my insecure women of consenting age.
>>9582032Sent you a PM, and also glad you don't like lolis anon I'm 22, but I do sort look kinda youngish..?>>9582055>omega with money to throw around*
>>9582070C'mon anon, don't you want a handsome man to fix stuff around your house and use as furniture. I know you do
>>9582120O-only if you wear nothing but a maid outfit and are slightly fit..and cute...
>>9582142I'm as cute as they come, but welding something back together, going into a crawlspace to fix the pipes, repair the roof, or change the oil would be pretty rough on a maid outfit
>tfw no stupid cuck loser to buy me burando for nothing in return except insults and humiliationi just want to make somebody feel bad about themselves while profiting on their insecurity. it's my fetish.
>>9582176Maybe if you were near me and not online.
>>9582177meh, your loss. it's not like i would let you touch me or meet me if we were nearby anyway.
>>9582179That's fine as long as I could hear you berate me. Plus you can still beat me without touching, yeah?
>tfw social anxiety>Attended a convention this weekend a few hours from where I live>Only accomodation available was a sleeping hall exclusive to badge holders>Result: still exhausted after being surrounded by people and not having any private space for around 65 hours straight>Made plenty of friends throughout the weekend but am really worried I have had more than one run in where I came off as an arrogant fuck because I was so quiet or sarcastic due to the social exhaustionT-there's always next time
>>9582156Are you freaking kidding me that's exactly what I want, battle damaged Maido is a dream come true!L-let me sit on you while you scrub the floor and do pushups at the same time
>>9582186beating you up isn't worth the physical effort. i shouldn't have to lift a finger. i'd rather watch you put on a show and have you beat yourself up for me. it's more humiliating that way. you'd look like an idiot.anyway, this conversation isn't worth having since i'm not getting any burando out of it.
>>9582070I sent you a reply with my actual email.
>>9582192I wasn't quite prepared for this response
>>9582197>tfw having thoughts about having your own ikemaid to sit onanon goddamnit drop your throwaway email maybe this is the start of something beautiful and I don't wanna miss this chance to have a buff battle damaged maid I can sit on!
>>9582206Feel free to drop me a line anytime
>>9582221>Tfw dreams really do come true on cgl
>>9581923Just eat the fatty foods. You can eat anything you want without getting fat if you don't eat too much of it.Train your stomach to not feel hungry as easily. I lost 20 lbs eating fatty and sugary shit every day but still staying under 1200 kcal. Obviously you need to make sure you're still getting the nutrients you need, but otherwise you really don't have to eat like a rabbit to lose weight.
>turned 25>boyfriend grabs my face near to his>looks deeply into my eyes"you have crow's feet"RIP my dreams of cosplaying cute loli characters. I'll probably get surgery to make me look younger in korea a few years from now.
>>9582287You probably still look cute, anon!
>>9582223>>9582221>>9582206>>9582197>>9582196>>9582192>>9582176>>9582156>>9582142>>9582120>>9582070>>9582055>>9582032>>9582015>>9582005>>9581994>>9581992>>9581979I'm shipping you guys! Good luck!
>>9581979i feel you anon-chan
>>9581894Good luck, anon! I hope it works out!>>9581617It's very common in certain cultures to live with your parents to pool income and share resources like food and satellite tv. Prior to the economic boom of the 1950s it was quite common in the US, but it became associated with immigrants and other social undesirables such as poor people as well as being a reminder of the hardships of the depression in the 1930s.
>working on big elaborate cosplay >lose all motivation halfway through>fall in love with a joke character with simple design>make cosplay of joke chara in 2 days entirely from scrap fabrics>still no motivation for the big elaborate cosplayWell I guess now I have something new to wear for an upcoming con but id like to have my motivation back, especially after spending so much money on the materials....
>>9582287D U M P H I MUMPHIM
>be me, struggling with crippling depression since pre-teen years>contemplating suicide for the past week>thinking about selling my entire lolita and gyaru wardrobes because i won't be wearing them when i'm dead lol>go through clothes and realizing that i really love them and they're one of the few things that make me happy>going to wait another week i'm so mentally and physically exhausted
>>9581622My boobs are 32b/c and they fit me quite well.
>>9582287I like the cut of his jib. Its a joke because its your birthday, anon. Dont take it so literal
>too scared to cosplay because i don't know how>don't know how because i'm too scared to tryI can't shake the feeling that I'm too chub to even try cute or sexy costumes. I have a long af list of characters I want to try but I don't know how to sew and desu I straight up hate my body, like I want to give it a shot but what's the point when the cosplay market is already oversaturated with Nigri wannabes?Misery.
>>9582671Commission something and try it out to see if you like it.
>lose a bunch of weight>realise I'm just ugly anyway>tfw no bf
>>9582756I also lost weight but it didnt help me to get girls when i still have autism.please be my gf
I just got a job interview for a job where I would be able to wear Lolita! fuck yes, the storefront is so cute, and I love the company. I am going to do my best to nail this interview. Wish me luck, gulls!
>>9582406see a therapist if you haven't already anon, my first visit is thursday!<3 someone loves you
>>9582941Fingers crossed for you anon! Wearing coords (or even main pieces) daily is such a treat.
>girl on my fb posts pic of new cosplay wig>notice the bangs are somewhat uneven>left a very nice comment about how cute the wig was and then let her know the bangs were somewhat crooked>she deletes the entire postI.... I didnt say something mean did I? I just wanted her to know because I cut my own bangs crooked a lot of times and I know it can be embarrassing when you notice it later.Now I just feel bad.
>>9582987message her about it, tell her you only wanted to help and would gladly help her with it if she really wants it.and maybe apologize and tell her you didn't mean to come off the wrong way
>>9582987I think >>9582996 would make it worse. Some people are going to be turned off by unsolicited criticism no matter how nice or constructive you try to be, best to leave it alone and also stop doing that shit.
any other social anxiety lolitas here???? I live in a capital city where there are loads of lolitas and I know I wouldn't be scared if I had someone to wear it out with. But that involves going out alone and making a friend whilst wearing it.why on earth did I spend so much money on a beautiful fashion if I am too scared to wear it out of the house alone? I wish there was a way of making lolita friends before I went to a meet, but all of the girls in my local comm seem like such a well established friendship group and I'm too anxious to message them (plus they seem older than me to the point where I feel like they'd probably be weirded out by some random girl messaging them). It's a catch 22 in which I never gain friends....
>>9583002>>9583002Maybe its because I grew up always in hobbies where constructive crit was a constant in my life, but I dont see whats wrong with it?I always thought I would rather know something than look like a fool later because no one wanted to tell me.But now that I know I at least wont do it to this girl again. This is why I generally only make friends with others around my own age, even girls in their younger 20s seem more easily put off.
>>9582516Nice, will look into them then. Thanks!
I met a cosplayer through social media we grew close and eventually i got a crush on them, after i got a chance to meet them i ended up finding out she met someone at a con and she wnted to date them, no biggie, however i did state that i really liked them despite them being in a relationship and if that was awkward i could stop being friends with them, i use to platonically tell them i loved them and it made them uncomfortable so i stopped. We grew apart just from being far away and her being in a relationship, she would still come to me to vent about her relationship which was cool with me until she told me she broke up with her girlfriend for wanting space, and said she did it to see what she would do. I told her thats manipulation and she flipped on me, started crying and says she's not like that. I told her if she liked her to make things up with her girlfriend and apologize, she did and the relationship still fell apart. I gave myself distance from her at this point because of my own personal issues and she'd get upset with me, even going as far as accusing me of talking shit about her. I got fed up and blocked her for a year. Somehow we re enter each others lives, i dont talk to her much at all despite us being close a while back. She suggested we hang out so we made plans to go swimming but instead she took herself shopping and i had to watch her get ballet shoes, something ive been wanting for years, and noticed over time that when she's in a relationship she puts it all over social media. Slandering her boyfriend any chance he would vent about his issues in the relationship to friends online. I watched her say evil things about her now ex boyfriend so by then i definitely showed no interest in being her friend anymore....To be continued
>>9583009Yeah, it's usually because that's how people like that are raised. You know those adults that act like the sun shines out of their child's ass, that they can do no wrong, and they're constantly putting them on a pedestal them for doing minimal effort...sometimes this is how their children end up. It really doesn't have anything to do with age in my experience.
>>9583067I met up with another well known cosplay takisiki, and knew about the relationship she had with my ex friend and how she cyber bullied her, she heard me make a comment about the girl we knew and what i felt about it, i think she's emotionally and mentally abusive and even Confronted takisiki about her bullying her at the time, takisiki says she's not like that anymore, but insisted my ex friend is a good friend despite how she treats me and other people who are close with her. Knowing someone for a few years and actually being around them is totally different. So takisiki took it upon herself to tell my ex friend i was talking shit about her despite the conversation ending the conversation with i know what you do. Long story short takisiki still loves shit stirring.
>>9583072Sounds like YOU love shit stirring and getting involved with dramatic people.
>>9583075Honestly i dont, i just know a lot of people fall in love with this girl and end up questioning themselves after.
>>9583075Oh for the record. Someone invited her to our room. I didnt know who she was until i really looked at her face.
>>9583067>>9583072You sound autistic and your story is going nowhere. You could have typed this in two sentences.
>>9583101Okay, but what are you getting at though. This is a vent thread.
>>9583101Something that doesnt make sense to me is using autism as an insult to someone's intelligence.
>>9583120I didn't call them retarded. Their post is long-winded with no direction and a lack of social awareness. Like an autist.
>>9583121I've known this person for years though, to explain everything in detail of why this happen isn't a story for 4chan .
>>9583006Step one: Ask questions related to lolita. You see a new photo in the comm fb group? Ask something about it.Step two: Find something you're interested in about someone and ask them to tell you more. This could be a style someone collects or a theme they're into.Step three: Brave the wilds and go to a lolita meet on your own. It's exhilarating to go out that first time, and after your first excursion, it gets way easier to just get out into public in your outfits.
>>9583121But what if theyre socially aware that this person is an asshole?
>>9583145I didn't understand the point of their garbage story and lost interest halfway through. So I don't know.
>>9583151Then why respond?
>>9583144I'm sure it would be easier to go out on my own. Hey, wish I'd have thought of that hahaha! But jokes aside unfortunately I am literally too anxious that I feel like something is genuinely stopping me. That's anxiety for you though, always popping up at the most irrational times.
>>9583161I feel the same way
>add bestie to the comm>she starts adding random people into the commI am fucking mad right now.
>>9583166tell her to stop fucking doing that!
>>9583070>doesn't have anything to do with age in my experienceIt really doesn't. I have coworkers in their 30s and 40s who still act this way when given criticism relating to work, especially if the person pointing out their error is younger. It's fucking annoying.
>>9583154To point out how awful the writing was.
Well, kiss that love affair goodbye...Not that I expected anything different however.
>cut down on junk food>suddenly pooping every dayDamn it, I have a con this weekend.
>that joyful, almost giddy, feeling you get when you go to a con, see a cosplay you have no idea where it's from, come home, then see an anime on your "To Watch List" and see that cosplay from the con.So at Anime Expo 2017 I saw a bunch of buff dudes in white shirts and red shorts. They had a tiny skinny girl with a bowl haircut with them and when they took photos of the dudes picking her up like a dumbbell, hundreds of people took photos.Now I just watched the second episode of Mob Psycho 100 and I went IT'S THE FITNESS CLUB.
>>9583382that's healthy, anon. did you know you're actually supposed to poop 3 times a day but the national average is one (assuming you're in the states)?poop in the morning when you wake up, problem solved. or you need more fiber
>>9583430nayrt but holy shit (ha), 3 times a day? who the hell poops 3 times a day? i poop once a day if i'm lucky and even then i want to take a shower afterwards. it's not even runny or anything, pooping just makes me feel fundamentally dirty.i pity the thrice-a-day poopers.
>had to take a break from cons and cosplaying because school >graduated, finally able to go to cons again this year>except the cons in my state are either dead, all at the same time or too far to try and drive to alone >to top it all off, almost all my cosplay friends have stopped talking to me out of the blue>now, I sit alone at home watching other people's con vlogs until I stop feeling sorry for myself Feels batman.
>haven't been to a con in May>sign up to room share at a big con in September>baby's first time going wearing burando of the guests>baby's first tea party>funds dip due to running out of workstudy checks from Spring semester>also planning to take mother to Disney World for Christmas present>shouldn't spend the money on con but have zero local friends and no transportation so no chance to get out or get away for a bit>room owner has personal stuff come up>has to cancel the room, understandable>feel relieved but also crummy>relieved to not have to scramble to pay con costs so soon>crummy because have burando in the mail and was making plans to meet new people and enjoy a tripAt least now I'll have money to set aside to take my mom to Disney because she's always wanted to go but never did because she was a single mom trying to get by for so long.
>>9583429that sounds adorable
>>9583612Wear it to didney.
>had a well paying job that made me miserable but at least I had plenty of time and money for hobbies>new job is a million times more rewarding but pays less and I have no free time.It's been two months so I can't say I'm still adjusting to a new schedule.
>>9583679Yeah I might just because Disney World seems used to lolitas? I don't want to weird my mom out but it would make for some really nice pictures.
>>9583699Wearing lolita to Disney is incredibly common. If you tell your mom this, she may be a little more comfortable with it.
>>9583704She's used to me cosplaying so it's not that odd but I'm always a little nervous to wear Jfashion+wigs around my family. I wore nanchatte for my solo trip to Disney and they saw pics and only got the usual "Is that you? Why'd you dress so well?" Because Disney is expensive, it was a lifetime dream trip, and I wasn't about to trot around the most bloody magical place on Earth in shorts and a random tshirt.
>>9583715>>9583704>>9583699Honestly, if you're paying for your mom to go to Disney, she has no business complaining about your clothes.Be a princess.
>>9583716I laughed way harder than I should have but you're right! Thanks for that reminder because it seriously hadn't crossed my mind to think of it that way.
>>9580830There's a really quiet shy girl in my comm, but she's been part of it for a while. Everyone is nice to her and tries to make her feel comfortable, which includes just letting her be quiet. I'm sure your comm will be the same way when they get to know you.
>>9583699Just don't wear something too costume-y. Disney doesn't like adults in costume at their parks.
>>9583788I'm not. I don't do OTT sweet or anything. Pic related is the most sweet thing I own.
>Want to make a costume>Never go to any cons or events>Don't have any friends to go to things with anyway>Get discouraged and decide it's not worth the effort and moneyDoes this count?
>>9580830I feel you anon, if you were near me I'd meet up with you and be your friend
>friend was able to join lolita community no problem since she has facebook.>I don't have facebook>Heard nothing back from them about if I would be able to join and go to meets with my friend.I'd always be going with my friend, and I gave them my other social media, so I don't understand why they wouldn't be ok with me joining meets :/
>>9584067So just make a Facebook?
Signing the lease to a new apartment I'm moving into with my boyfriend tomorrow and I'm super excited. We both love each other very much, but we're in that hard part of the relationship where we both work a lot and have to put in OT hours to make extra cash so being able to see him even just in between shifts is going to be great. Also, I found a cheap L-shaped desk that I'm going to be using for a sewing table so I'll actually have room to sew cosplays again!
>>9583681I was in that boat for a while, I ended up having to get a second job to make ends meet and that cut into more of my freetime. Honestly, go where the money is. If it was cutting into your freetime AND paying more, I'd stay, but if it's you constantly working for not enough money, I'd look for employment elsewhere. Also, "rewarding" is subjective; you might find your dream job where you least expect it.
>>9584076I'll sell my soul to satan before doing that.
>>9584100Then it's your own fault lmao. Don't complain about something that's so easily fixed.
>>9584100You sound dumb, I wouldn't want you in my comm either.You literally just have to make a throwaway with maybe one picture and basic info. If you have other social media what does it matter?
>>9580871>KardassianWhere have you seen Trekkie underwear
>>9581481Are you me? Just bought all my dream dresses from back in the day and got married. Never dreamed I would be able to have so much ap
>be me, a 25 year old fatty chan with a huge hooked nose>shoop photos to hell and back, to make my face look kawaii and skinny, and nose and body look tiny. it's an addiction and it's gotten so bad, my sister didn't even recognize it was me in the photo at first. >posts the shooped photos to cof and other lolita groups. girls who are in my nearest comm see and comment. >can't join comm because too scared nowwhy do I do this to myself?
>>9584126Lose weight? idk what to tell you
>>9584104>>9584105If their reason for wanting me to have a facebook is for safety, then it would be really stupid for them to add someone with a throwaway facebook account.I don't understand the need for a facebook account to talk about lolita.
>>9584147Why are you against it? Facebook is how almost all comms keep in touch.
>>9584149Nayrt but social media just seems kind of pointlessI have them but I never use any of then for anything
>>9583160At least you're aware that it is irrational, and all joking understood... all I can tell you as someone who's been in that boat is to jump out of it. You know what you're doing and where you're going, so it's safe to get out there and do what you like.
>>9584147Okay so Facebook has become the one and only place for most comms to conduct business, like setting up events and keeping track of which members are doing what. It's all done on the mods and members free time too, so if they have to keep track of a FB group and a mailing list for the people who refuse to make things easy for them, I hope you can see why you've fallen to the wayside. Events are done via FB group RSVPs. You see the event page, you click 'going', they know how many people to expect. With dozens or hundreds of members, keeping up correspondence via mailing list is a logistical nightmare! Make a Facebook page and sign up for comm notifications only. Problem solved.
>>9584160It's good for jobs and clearly important if a group uses it to keep in touch.
>>9584173Thanks anon, I really want to and I someday hope I can get over this fear, but even typing this is making my heart palpitate. I don't know why I'm such a pussy when it comes to this. I've been fully ready to walk out the door before, but every time I turn around and have a panic attack instead. It's the stupidest thing and it doesn't manifest that much in any other part of my life.
>>9584086I make ends meet and my bills are going to get much lower soon. This is only my job for at least another four months before I start another insane journey to figure out my future.... again.
>>9584149I just don't like facebook. I don't want all my information in one place.>>9584176No need for a mailing list or whatever, I already mentioned my friend, who i'd doing everything lolita related with, has a facebook and joined the group. She'd let me know when there is an event planned and such, so that isn't a problem.Also doesn't address she said it was simply a "security" issue or whatever.
>>9584254You don't need any important information on there. Comms like to have an actual headcount especially with RSVP or priced/ticket events. Nothing worse than tagalongs and people who won't contribute to the community.
>>9584199You're probably getting hung up on the idea of other people noticing you while you're heading to the meet, and then not making connections at the meet. You can alleviate this by listening to music and keeping to yourself out in public, and not entertaining intrusive folk who demand your attention - you're allowed to refuse questions and comments! You can also make sure you're able to meet people by asking the event host if they can help you introduce yourself, or ask if they can start the meet with introductions overall. My comm does this - it helps people learn names and major interests.
>>9584264Thank you anon, I'm hoping one day I'll meet a lolita in my side of the city that I can meet up with then go to a meet with. As far as I know my comm is pretty huge (it's the capital one and people often come from overseas to the events so it's...BIG) so I'm sure I'd be lost in a sea of already-formed cliques unfortunately. But I'll keep trying! One day I'll post here saying about how I went to my first comm meetup and how everything went fine, hopefully!
>>9583788Will they ask you to change if they don't like what you're wearing?
>>9584126Just wait a few months without posting anything, I'll bet they forget who you are.
>>9579780again with the weed discussion huh
>>9584288They won't let you into the park or they'll ask you to leave.
>>9584288You should be fine as long as you don't look like a character... For lolitas the only thing you need to worry about is accidentally looking like cinderella or smthn lmao. Anything less than OTT should be fine
>>9584271Yes, you will! You sound normal, so I'm sure you'll be scooped up into a group if you show interest. Do you have any social media I can add you on? A throwaway email to get in touch and share details?
>devote time to toning up so I can cosplay Yoko to the best of my ability next year>embarrassed if people I know recognize me at the con because of how revealing her outfit is>don't know how to conceal my identity while remaining accurate
>>9584558use her scarf to cover your face?
>>9579507asians literally just have smaller sweat glands, get over yourself.