I live in a small town - a few 'local' Lolitas have a little comm, but there's not many of us, and there's not much to do for meets around here except go for coffee or ice-cream, and it gets a bit same-y after a while. I started seeing posts up from the big city comm for my region, and it's like a 4hr drive, but in the end, last summer ILD I went all the way to the city for a big meet up. While I was there, I met this Goth/Gothic Lolita who seemed really cool. I'm the only Gothic Lolita and one of few Goths in my small comm, and most of the Goths here are edgelord dudes 10 years younger than me trying to troll the local Christians (which is most people around where I live.) :/ I was really excited to make friends with her, but then as I got to know her, it turned out she was this special snow-flake, drama-stirring "my life is so hard! UwU" type who liked having stupid arguments over the internet, acting morally superior to everyone (while being really horrible to a lot of people) and now we're definitely not friends any more. She's active in her comm (but not popular, apparently she nearly split her comm a couple years back) and has been telling the big city comm lies about me, so now I don't know if I'll be unwelcome if I go back there. There's one other comm that I know of in my state, and it's even further away, and driving's expensive.
It's not that I don't like the people in my own comm, it's more that we're just limited in options here of stuff to actually do, so I was hoping to once in a while go up to the bigger comm where there's decent museums, a reasonable size art gallery and other interesting stuff, and now I don't feel like I can go back.