/cgl/ - Cosplay & EGL

[Anonymous No.9351555]

Last thread. >>9346683

Let's share those cgl-related feels. And remember: Derails get threads deleted.

[Anonymous No.9351564]

i dont knoe cuz im a man kek

[Anonymous No.9351573]

>>9351555
I'm an angry neck beard that no one will fuck, pity me /cgl/

[Anonymous No.9351577]

Just spent at least £200 today on Lolita and other stuff I didn't really need but kinda wanted. I have the money (student loans) and it's not like I'm completely spending all my money, I just always feel guilty about spending money on big bulk purchases.

However, I've now bought a pair of dream shoes: DreamV's Cup of Tea My Love platforms, and a dream bag: AP's Sugar Hearts Pochette so I guess it's money well spent? Also got a really cute and I think kind of rare Sugary Carnival cardigan, so I can't wait for that to all arrive!!

[Anonymous No.9351581]

>>9351577
>I have the money
>student loans
taking out a loan means you don't have the money, some else does, hence the loan.

[Anonymous No.9351586]

>>9351581
Not them, but I often said "student loans" to refer to my amalgamation of grants and scholarships when I was in college. I figured, it's my money earned through my 4.0, I can spend some of it on fun stuff if I want to.

[Anonymous No.9351593]

>>9351586
>£200
>college
>4.0

At least try to keep the location of your bullshit stories consistent.

[Anonymous No.9351598]

>see dream dress on LM in right size
>not in my preferred color way though
>would give my left tit for the piece in the right color way but have never seen it on LM
>could afford the piece on LM, but don't know If i should do it
goddammit, when will i ever see the black colorway? is it worth it to buy the white color way? what if i stain it?

[Anonymous No.9351602]

>>9351593
Already said I wasn't that anon. I'm an amerifag, they probably aren't.

[Anonymous No.9351607]

Face Off inspires me to sew, but also I want to watch the screen while it's on.

[Anonymous No.9351615]

>tfw see other girls with huge groups coordinated

>tfw no weeb friends to cosplay moeblobs with

>tfw all alone

I just want to die

[Anonymous No.9351619]

>>9351615
I feel this anon

All I want is 4 other girls to cosplay Walkure from Macross Delta with... I literally only know guys who are into it.

[Anonymous No.9351623]

>>9351619
I haven't even watched the show but I would cosplay it with you if I could. ;_;

[Anonymous No.9351624]

>mfw my thrifting-fu kicked in today and I found some cute shoes that look like they've never been wore at all.

[Anonymous No.9351629]

>>9351598
Just buy the white one now and be careful and don't stain it. When the black one comes your way, sell the white.

[Anonymous No.9351632]

>>9351615
Check out the forums of whatever con you are going to, or groups on Facebook that are cosplay centered. Usually you can find several groups that need a member for whatever reason

[Anonymous No.9351634]

My Ex wants to take me to one of her lolita meetups where we will both coordinate our outfits. Where I will be wearing Dandy and she will be wearing classic

The thing is, we haven't been in contact very much and one month after I landed a very high paying job is when she started contact with me again. I didn't really broadcast my new job, but it wouldn't be impossible to figure out. Am I right to assume it's very likely her renewed interest is because of my money?

[Anonymous No.9351635]

MFW I feel like a bit of a downer wearing my usual black to a Valentine's themed meet but f-a-m, I don't like pink or pastels.

[Anonymous No.9351636]

>>9351634
Yea.

[Anonymous No.9351637]

>>9351635
Do you have any way to coordinate some red into it?

[Anonymous No.9351643]

>tfw just had major changes to body but still feel really fat and have a wide back and nothing fucking fits and why can't I just be petite and fit in to everything I want dammit why

[Anonymous No.9351651]

>>9351637
I could wear a brooch with red stones but it seems sort of just added on for theme, and that's something I see gets some shade when people do it. I could wear a white blouse and plain white tights. That still ends up looking more severe than festive but that's just my style so I'm stuck this year. Maybe I can look for a red print later this year to wear for Christmas and then Valentines next year and sometimes in the summer.

[Anonymous No.9351657]

My taobao order is stuck in CNY limbo and I'm so distressed, only ONE of the sellers I bought from didn't ship out to my SS in time, but they were my favorite. Now I don't know if I'll get half my order, none of my order, what have you

I log in to taobao trends every day, waiting to see if my stuff has arrived. They're not really back from CNY yet, but they should be soon.

[Anonymous No.9351680]

>trying on a Cammy White cosplay
>mfw a zipper rips out my pubic hair

[Anonymous No.9351683]

>>9351680
Good thing you weren't out in pubic

[Anonymous No.9351741]

>>9351643
I feel you anon. Super wide back and shoulders and nothing ever fits like it does on narrower people...

[Anonymous No.9351742]

I'm so.... fucking sick...... of tea party dramu.

There's this one bitch who wants to ban a girl in our comm for having a penis.

[Anonymous No.9351751]

>>9351742
ban a guy in your com*

[Anonymous No.9351755]

>>9351632
But I'm scared. They're all so cliquey and know each other and they're cute and I just... ;_; wah

[Anonymous No.9351756]

>>9351742
Is her penis not feminine enough?

[Anonymous No.9351758]

I hate 4chan but I'm here lurking cgl (am into jfash) because I am so lonely and isolated right now that I am resorting to this for human contact.

I have one friend but we've gotten distant and I haven't even heard from them in days.

I wish I could be like Momoko and go all "I don't need friends I'm happy alone." I'm an introvery but between life sucking +mental illness + isolation no ammount if introversion could make this tolerable.

Here is a super cute picture to distract from me being whiny.

[Anonymous No.9351760]

>>9351758
>introvery

Oh no I just cracked myself up upon realizing I made this stupid typo.

[Anonymous No.9351763]

>>9351760
>>9351758
There is a friend finder thread somewhere in the catalog, if you want friends go ahead and look through it and add people who have similar interests.

[Anonymous No.9351766]

>>9351741
How do you manage?
I just lost a lot of weight so I'm more normal sized and could technically fit in to a lot of things, but every time I see my shoulders I die a bit inside.

[Anonymous No.9351770]

>I'll never look manly enough to cosplay manly men
>I'm barely 1.56
>I pretend I don't want to bind my chest because I think it could hurt me but the real reason is that I think if I did that I would stop being (more or less) comfortable with my body and being a woman
>I don't want to stop being a girl, but I wish so badly I could be a boy just once, because I'm jealous of how handsome they look in their clothes
>I don't like genderbent male characters

Why does all this make me feel so depressed?

[Anonymous No.9351783]

>>9351742
Is it a ~ ~ trans ~ ~ girl, or an actual trans girl?

t. a transman who always gets asked if I still have my vag

[Anonymous No.9351813]

>>9351770
>I'm jealous of how handsome they look in their clothes
What men's clothes do you like?

[Anonymous No.9351839]

>>9351783
I'm not sure I know the difference.

She looks pretty legit to me.

[Anonymous No.9351852]

I just now 'got' how clothing sizes work over in Japan. It's weird imagining a place that no 'bigger' people exist. Picture related to my feel.

[Anonymous No.9351855]

>>9351852
They do, but they have to shop at boring stores.

[Anonymous No.9351856]

>>9351766
Not that other anon, but I also have wide shoulders. I avoid anything with shoulder frills like pic related and with shirt with puffy sleeves, I make sure that my skirts/dresses always have good volume. If I wear pants, I go for wide straps on tanks.

[Anonymous No.9351865]

>>9351813
Elegant clothes, like suits, uniforms and dress shirts.

[Anonymous No.9351876]

>>9351855
I feel so silly now. I don't know why it took me so long to grasp this concept. It might have to do with I live in Southeastern America where the biggest people in the world undoubtedly exist. It's just so bizarre to me.

[Anonymous No.9351912]

>Giant box of frills waiting for me at parents house
>Can't retrieve them until Monday
>Want to wear them for Valentines date, won't have enough time to wash/dry by then
>Still so excited to feel cute again

[Anonymous No.9351972]

>>9351839
The difference is those people who are genuinely trans, those who do it for special snowflake points™, and people who are just cunts and want puss. If she's the first, tell people to fuck off. but if she's doing it to meet girls and get laid tell her/him/it to fuck off

[Anonymous No.9352101]

When the dress isn't long enough to hide your balls.

[Anonymous No.9352111]

>purchased first item off aliexpress nearly a week ago
>order still not processed
>realises that I don't know how the site works or if the seller is even active
>no fucking clue what I've gotten myself into

[Anonymous No.9352171]

>>9352101
That means it's a shirt not a dress you stupid fuck

[Anonymous No.9352216]

>>9351555
>joined an eight week challenge at the gym
>finishes on my birthday
>finally gonna shed the holiday/new med weight gain
i WILL feel cute and comfy in my frills even if it kills me dammit.

[Anonymous No.9352310]

>>9351766
Like the other anon who replied I try to avoid things that add volume to my shoulders and try to wear bottoms that create more of a balance between my top and bottom. And sometimes I just bitterly accept that certain clothing articles aren't made for me (like almost every dress shirt on the planet) and go on with my life.

[Anonymous No.9352323]

>>9351770
>short girl walking around trying to look and act manly but can't and getting flustered when people call her cute in spite of wanting to be manly

[Anonymous No.9352327]

>>9351770
I get those feels anon.
I am 99% sure I'm trans but I really don't want to transition. I just wish I could be comfortable in my own body. At the same time, I want to be a man, just once.

[Anonymous No.9352339]

>>9351770
>>9352327
I didn't want to feel this feel today, but here are the three of us, feeling it.

Goddammit this sucks. If the universe would just give me a chance, I swear I wouldn't even try to windmill the first time.

[Anonymous No.9352345]

>>9351770
You have mountains more choice as a woman. Relish in the freedom you have as a woman. Hell wear a female suit. They look just as good.

[Anonymous No.9352349]

>valentine's meet tomorrow
>spontaneously contract food poisoning
>most recent pepto bismol I could find expired in '06
Guess I'll just die.

[Anonymous No.9352352]

>>9351634
Go with your ex there and see if she's asking you to buy things for her or mentions your new job, if she doesn't she may not know, but if she does you know she knows and is not worth because she wants you for your money.

[Anonymous No.9352355]

>>9352323
I wouldn't get flustered though, I would get pissed or sad.
>>9352327
Yeah, even though I try to feel 90% good with my sex, there are times when I wish deeply that I was a man and get really depressed.
>>9352345
Well, I can try, but crossplay doesn't give me that option.

[Anonymous No.9352418]

>>9351619
Try looking for girls who still cosplay Sheryl and Ranka from Macross F, maybe you'll get a bite?

[Anonymous No.9352602]

>>9351619
Where are you from? I would happily join you!

[Anonymous No.9352635]

>sell a ton of dresses
>mostly sweet, just not my thing anymore
>turn to old school
>prepared to shell out a ton of money per dress
>see dresses I love
>all either around $100 or lower
>HAPPY DAY

[Anonymous No.9352647]

>>9352635
What a great feel! Enjoy it, anon!

[Anonymous No.9352740]

I bought my husband and I matching Pokemon shirts for Valentine's Day and he doesn't like his. I spent the morning in bed crying.

[Anonymous No.9352751]

pls rember that wen u feel scare or frigten
never forget ttimes wen u feeled happy
wen day is dark alway rember happy day

[Anonymous No.9352766]

>>9352740
Wtf that's messed up. Fuck him.

[Anonymous No.9352770]

>few years ago
>browsing LM when I see chocolate rosette for dirt cheap
>missed out on deals like this before for not being aggressive and jumping on the deal
>BIN and immediately message seller
>very smooth transaction, seller very quick to respond, friendly, says she's swamped and can't maill for a week
>also busy so no problem
>10 days later get the package in the mail
>why didn't she let me know? oh well
>rip package open and pull dress out
> . . .
>lace is hella scratchy, looks way shorter than it should, bust is insanely tiny, fabric feels cheap, whole thing kind of flimsy
>wtf is going on, is the dress really this poorly done?
>look for AP tag
>tag isn't there

>SONOFABITCH
>seller has since deleted the account, bitch is long gone
>report her to mods
>be salty af with shitty replica
>try selling it, nobody wants it
>decide to dismantle is and turn it into cute bag or some shit

[Anonymous No.9352786]

I'm 22 but too ugly and old to cosplay

I was literally broke and repressed as a kid until probably 20, my parents didn't let me have friends or leave the house (super conservative) so I never got to have fun and live out the golden years. Literally the first time they let me leave the house on my own was at 17 to go to work, and I had to be back within 30 min of my shift ending.

Now that I'm free of that... I'm too ugly and old to cosplay. My mental and physical health problems from years of isolation took their toll on me, I guess. Funny how that works.

I'd do anything to look like the average cute weeb cosplaying their favourite character. Instead I look like an old lady trying too hard. I wanna go to my first convention in May and cosplay there, but I'm going to be alone and embarrassed.

[Anonymous No.9352787]

>be me, lolita
>generally well-liked throughout several comms and social groups
>active on social media but not e-famous and never want to be
>people who seem to like me rarely approach me personally
>when they do approach me they admit to having been scared of me
>"i can't believe somebody like you is so nice!"
>"i was too scared to talk to you all this time!"
>mfw

i'm pretty nice to people so i'm always confused and surprised by this reaction. i'm not really popular and i don't think somebody like me could be very intimidating. i just want friends, gulls

[Anonymous No.9352795]

>just decided to make an instagram account to post cosplay
>not trying to make it big, just a a somewhat anxious and awkward girl pushed by other cosplaying friends
>finally starts to realize that behind the boob wars that is instagram cosplay there are some great people too
>posts a few pictures, just makeup tests
>"hey this might not be that bad"
>10 seconds later
>stranger sent you a private message
>"u wet?"
>block
>5 minutes later
>another creep sent you a private message
>"You're cute. Where do you live?"
>block again
>anxiety
>deletes most photos

I know I'm such a big pussy, but still. Can't help but feeling uncomfortable.

[Anonymous No.9352801]

>>9352786
The best part of a convention is not giving a fuck because you're around like-minded people. Go for it anon, if your cosplay is truly ~that~ bad, just don't take any pictures of it! We shame anons here for taking creep pics of bad cosplay and itas, and people at the con won't single you out as terrible because there's a sea of congoers there having a great time in terrible cosplay.

Also, cut it out with the 22 is too old shit, you do know this board is 18+?

[Anonymous No.9352802]

>>9352787
I've seen this phenomenon before with some friends - shy is often perceived as aloof and intimidating.

[Anonymous No.9352808]

>>9352355
Pissed + Sad = Flustered

[Anonymous No.9352810]

>>9352795
You honestly sound retarded. Or like, 12. Welcome to the internet.

[Anonymous No.9352814]

>>9352786
What the fuck did you do to yourself that you're now old and ugly at 22? 22 is a great age to be and an even better age to start cosplaying. Early to mid 20s is when people finally start having enough money to really pursue their hobbies. And you know, you can drink and stuff now. I'm 22 and I got given a kids menu last time I went out to eat so I'm honestly wondering what kind of combination of bad genes and unhealthy lifestyle have made you look so terribly old at 22. It's probably all in your head, though.

And cut it out with the golden years bullshit. Your 20s are your golden years. Honestly if somebody's golden years were when they were a teenager, said person is either still a teenager or a total fucking loser.

[Anonymous No.9352824]

>>9352801
> if your cosplay is truly ~that~ bad, just don't take any pictures of it!

I think my cosplay will be fine, I am resourceful and my body is decent. But I'm cosplaying characters that are young and I'm pretty sure I'm going to look out of place amongst the sea of 17 year olds. I have a literal potato face that looks incredibly too old for my age, and is even worse looking on camera.

>>9352814
>What the fuck did you do to yourself that you're now old and ugly at 22?

Went on really bad medication that ages people. I needed it.

My jaw has also gotten way bigger. I have an embarrassing moon face that I didn't have when I was 16-17. Even though I didn't gain much weight.

[Anonymous No.9352825]

>>9352770
You paid through Paypal though, right? PP covers buyers for items that aren't as described, and selling counterfeits is illegal. Unless the seller also deleted their PP account, you can file a claim and get your money back at least.

[Anonymous No.9352842]

>>9351680
Why does your leotard have a zipper in the vag, you slut?

[Anonymous No.9352858]

>>9352824
I didn't even start cosplaying until I was 23.

I see people in their 40s and 50s at these cons. Once in a blue moon, I even see elderly cosplayers.

[Anonymous No.9352876]

>>9352824
What meds? Have you considered getting botox or fillers if it's that bad?

Jaws grow as we age. Mine actually softened up as I got older so now I actually look younger compared to what I looked like 5-6 years ago when I was around 16. If it really bothers you there's always surgery.

You can always just cosplay mature characters, though, no changes needed. There are tons of them. You don't need to be a kawaii loli princessu

[Anonymous No.9352880]

>>9352825
at the time I was afraid PP would turn it around on me saying I purchased illegal merch. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous No.9352884]

>>9352876
I don't want to say what meds bc its kind of embarrassing. I've had fillers before but it costs a lot of money, and surgery costs even more. It's just not an option at the moment.

I think I could pull off slutty titty monsters really well, or even mature characters. I just don't want to. I like frills too damn much.

[Anonymous No.9352908]

>>9352810
You okay, anon? Had a bad day or something?

[Anonymous No.9352915]

>>9352880
Oops, I don't know how I missed the
>few years ago
part. My bad. That's awful either way though.

[Anonymous No.9352918]

>con grill wants to have sex with me
>turn her down because I'd never be able to wear this cosplay again

Did I do the right thing?

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.9352989]

>>9352808
pissed + sad doesn't equal flustered, anon

>>9352786
>22
>too old
You're definitely not too old, anon! Like other anons said, thinking you're too old or too ugly is more likely than not all in your head. Cosplay will probably do some good for your self esteem, if you give it a shot and see how fun it can be.

>>9352795
You should definitely make your insta private, anon. That way, you won't have to feel nervous about random creeps staring at your photos.

[Anonymous No.9353014]

>>9352918
cringe.

[Anonymous No.9353017]

>DD is in closet child
>for a reasonable price too
>must resist
>need to save money
>REALLY need to save money
>but also I haven't done anything that made me happy in a while
>whygodwhy.jpg

[Anonymous No.9353028]

The two fattest chicks in my comm just got married and I'm still single

[Anonymous No.9353053]

>>9353028
you can marry me

[Anonymous No.9353057]

>>9353053
Are you a grill? I'm lez.

[Anonymous No.9353058]

>>9352216
Let's kick ass together anon!

I'm mid-way through a 12 week program and holy shit I tried on one of my problem lolita dresses- It fit so much better and is giving me more motivation to keep going

[Anonymous No.9353066]

>>9353057
I am a 7 foot hairy bearded man

[Anonymous No.9353097]

>>9353066
I don't think /cglgbt/ is the right board to pick up girls on

[Anonymous No.9353102]

>>9352786
>>9352801
>>9352824
>>9352989
Yopu're not too old until you hit 30, relax.
I'm 34 and miss the cosplay and convention scene, but I can't do it anymore because I have nothing in common with the kiddies and it's just not enjoyable to be the weird older person.

[Anonymous No.9353105]

>>9353102
I mean I'm 22, and like I said, I feel so out of touch with all the 17 year olds. Like. I'm scared to even talk to any groups online because there are so many children and I don't wanna come off as a creepy older perv.

[Anonymous No.9353107]

>>9353105
Exactly. The problem isn't just that we're getting steadily older, but that the demographic is getting steadily younger. In a few years it'll all be geared toward middle-schoolers and 18 will be too old.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.9353108]

>>9353107
I feel like the demographic at most conventions is still early-to-mid 20s most places, though. Sure, you'll find some cons with a bunch of highschoolers, but there are also cons with folks over 30. It depends were you're going.

[Anonymous No.9353110]

>>9353102
>tfw just turned 29

yeah, great

[Anonymous No.9353112]

>>9353110
Maybe we should start an over-age-25 con.... with blackjack and hookers.

[Anonymous No.9353113]

>>9352787
I like this image a lot because that's actually s guy in the thumbnail.

[Anonymous No.9353123]

>>9353105
Really? I'm 22 and I'm constantly befriending people who are younger than me nowadays (like 16-19). It's especially odd considering when I was a teenager most of my friends were in their early 20s.

[Anonymous No.9353124]

>>9352787
It seems to me that it's just one of those "facts of life" that people are going to have weird, nonsensical assumptions about you when they don't know you that well.
Weird compliments that don't seem to make any sense are something I've encountered all throughout my life too, though mainly on my looks. Maybe I just don't really understand other peoples' standards or lack of them.

[Anonymous No.9353133]

>>9353108
That's the thing, the things I'm interested in are populated by children. That's the problem. I'm not interested in niche 90s anime that only 30 year olds are interested in.

I'm just super extra salty because when I was 16-17 A) I didn't get the opportunity to cosplay (or have friends, or leave the house) B) cosplay wasn't even a popular thing amongst young people in my area. Now I see cosplayers fuckin' everywhere, and they're all 16-17.

[Anonymous No.9353137]

>finally get a lolita gf
>she keeps eating all my chapsticks

I've had to buy like ten this week.

[Anonymous No.9353138]

>Looking for Persona 5 cosplay
>One for the Main protag
>Phatom outfit for when they go the palace
>Found it
>scared b/c size chart and china
>has money but on tight budget.
I wanna cosplay so bad. my last two visits at my state con made me want to. I have friends that do it as well. I know it's not necessary but damn anons.

[Anonymous No.9353148]

>>9353137
I feel personally attacked by this post.

[Anonymous No.9353180]

>>9353148
Sorry. Are you a chapstick eater too?

[Anonymous No.9353199]

>>9353112
I don't get why you need black jack, but the hookers are fine as long as they're dressed up like jnig. Maybe have a sake tasting panel, actually get to look at the doujins instead of judging them by the cover art and maybe a booth that sells anime themed adult toys

[Anonymous No.9353200]

>>9353105
What gets me is that certain communities (Tumblr) treat anyone who's 20+ as some kind of creepy predator even though most people that age are just slightly more mature teenagers. I've seen quite a few posts that say stuff like "you have to unfollow me if you are 20+ or I will block you and you HAVE to lose your age in your profile" and it seems so incredible weird to just isolated yourself like that...

[Anonymous No.9353203]

>>9353199
It's a Futurama reference, sorry. I'm aware that referential humor is terrible, but this is 4chan after all, and memes are what we live on.
>>9353200
The majority of people who act like this are themselves creeps. Tumblr is not a happy place.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.9353204]

>>9353200
This reminds me of that "people over the age of 18 have no business talking to people under 18!!" post

[Anonymous No.9353207]

>>9353105
>>9353133

I feel this, I'm 24 next month, ages 16-20 were a massive clusterfuck for me, went through homelessness twice because of shitty abusive home, bullied nonstop at school. Spent most of those years a depressed empty mess so it's as if all that time was wasted for me, I have barely any memories of those years.

I'm really young looking for my age though, and I often struggle to work out how old someone else is. I just assume people I meet at cons are the same age as me so it freaks me out when I find out they're super young. I have so many younger sisters too so I naturally get on with younger people, but I question the boundaries.

Like I worry they'll freak out when they find out my age, I actually keep it hidden from people because I've had really shocked responses in the past. (People seem to think I'm around 17-18?)

But honestly, there are plenty of older people in cosplay and no way in hell is 22 too old.

[Anonymous No.9353209]

>>9352824
Kinda sounds like something immunosuppresent. I developed vasculitis as a teen and was medicated with a bunch of shit for years and I'm 21 today but I feel so damn old these days...

[Anonymous No.9353210]

>>9353200
I've heard 16 year old girls in idol cosplaying groups openly talk about older (20+ girls) being "old hags" and "have no business cosplaying 16 year old anime characters"

>mfw

[Anonymous No.9353219]

>>9353137
Chapstick is my trigger.
>had well over $100 of expensive chapsticks and use them all the time
>every morning in the afternoon before I go to bed when it's cold outside after I get out of the shower
>lips softer than a goddamn chinchilla
>put chapstick on one day
>wait why do my lips itch, clearly I need more chapstick
>itch turns to irritation then to searing, ungodly burning, the pain becomes unbearable, entire face covered in hives
>go to doctors
>suddenly developed an allergy to all known chapstick
>every chapstick causes horrific allergic reaction

Tell your gf to think of me next she eats one of your wonderful chapsticks :c

[Anonymous No.9353221]

>>9353207
I have this problem at my local college. I have people talk to me, and I think everything is going great. Suddenly, they ask me my age after something comes up like how long I've been smoking (cigarettes) or living on my own, I tell them 25. I've noticed they kind of drop their jaw then stop talking to me after that. The majority of people in my town are between 18-21 years of age. It's flattering, but I hate that they don't want to hang out with me due to a 5-7 years difference at times. My favorite is actually when 18-21 year old boys talk to me, eventually I tell them my age with a smile when they ask and I'm suddenly referred to as 'Miss'.

Once I got pissed though because a instructor kept given me hell actually calling a little girl repeatedly in class. I finally told them one day out of class, 'You realize you are calling a 25 year old a little girl, right?" They turned bright red and stopped calling me a little girl after that. 25 isn't even that old I guess.

[Anonymous No.9353222]

>>9353210
Remind them those 16 year old anime characters are designed for 30 year old men to jack off to. Profit.

[Anonymous No.9353229]

>>9351635
vampires are always appropriate for valentine's day.

goths have the market cornered in eternal romance.

assert your dominance. maintain all black.

[Anonymous No.9353232]

>>9353222
They like that shit. It's probably 90% of the reason they're into anime in the first place. Daddy doesn't give them enough attention.

[Anonymous No.9353238]

>>9353221
That sounds so weird and annoying. My uni class has a pretty large age span (I think it's 19-32 or so) but most of us occasionally hang out together and all of us get along just fine. It's not like you don't have anything in common just because you aren't the same age...

[Anonymous No.9353242]

>>9353232
Suddenly I feel okay about being an elderly cosplayer of 27.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.9353251]

>>9353207
>I've had really shocked responses in the past. (People seem to think I'm around 17-18?)
I know that feel, anon. Last con I attended, I was befriended by a 14 year old girl who didn't realize we weren't the same age until I told her I was meeting friends at a bar later. Granted, I also thought she was at least 16 since she was taller than me and had decent makeup.

[Anonymous No.9353259]

Would it be weird to just not mention my age unless asked directly? I don't want to creep on your girls I just want to fuckin' cosplay ffs

[Anonymous No.9353266]

>>9353259
It's probably the smartest idea.

[Anonymous No.9353267]

>>9353259
why would you tell people your age unless asked directly

people don't introduce themselves like "hi i'm anon and i'm 57." as long as you don't lie you're fine

[Anonymous No.9353268]

>>9353267
these days people have their ages stated all over their social media like >>9353200 stated.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.9353269]

>>9353259
I think it's weirder to volunteer your age without being asked or anything. The only time age is really of any importance at a con is if the friends you made want to go to an 18+ rave or bar.

[Anonymous No.9353310]

>>9353102
You should graduate to cruises anon

[Anonymous No.9353314]

>>9353133
Anon, how can you possibly know who will be at the con if you don't go? JUST GO AND CHECK ONE OUT.
You will probably be pleasantly surprised to find its all a bunch of weirdos with issues just like you. That is what is so great about cons.

[Anonymous No.9353316]

>>9353219
Kek you know Chapstick is made to dry your lips out so you keep using more and more right?
I never use it and my lips are silk. The real secret is making sure you drink enough water and training yourself not to lick your lips

[Anonymous No.9353320]

>being older than 2x years older.
>hanging out with people <21

[Anonymous No.9353327]

>>9353320
Yeah I don't associate anyone who can't legally come to a bar and drink with me, personal rule.

[Anonymous No.9353338]

>>9353210
>tfw I look younger at 22 than I did at 16

who's the old hag now, bitches

[Anonymous No.9353341]

>>9353338
It's true... I am slimmer and fitter than a lot of the teen cosplayers out there. I've seen some horrible landwhales.

[Anonymous No.9353346]

>>9353341
Same, plus my hair is in way better condition and I have a far more flattering haircut. My skin is clearer, and I'm better at doing my makeup.

MOST people I know look better in their 20s than they did in their teens, to be totally honest. It's one of the reasons I cringe when I hear guys talking about wishing they could/wanting to bang teenagers... Like, why? Because they've probably seen less dick than a 20-something and are more likely to be impressed by your micropenis? That's the only valid reason I can think of

[Anonymous No.9353354]

>>9353346
Ahh, all of that except minus the hair! My skin is practically crystal clear (I don't even need foundation or concealer except during my period in one spot)

But yeah, there is one group of cosplayers in my area that cosplay idol shit, they're 16 and they are overweight. So obnoxious at every con and they wore bikinis at a con in December (it was like -5 C.) Fat 16 year olds in bikinis is not something I want to see, to be honest. In fact, I don't really feel comfortable with anyone whose body isn't chiselled from months in the gym in bikinis...

I also feel a lot more self aware than I was at 16. At 16, I'd wear croptops even if my stomach was untoned (I was thin but it was just skinnyfat). Now, I wouldn't be caught dead bearing my stomach unless I had some visible level of abs going on and utter flatness.

I mean there is a reason why the most popular cosplayers are always a bit older (tits), but anyway... this is what people don't get. It's not an insecurity issue but a maturity issue. I feel so AWKWARD around people that age.

[Anonymous No.9353356]

>>9353346
>MOST people I know look better in their 20s than they did in their teens, to be totally honest.
Well yes, physical maturity and a lack of acne combined with knowing how to present yourself makes a huge difference.
> It's one of the reasons I cringe when I hear guys talking about wishing they could/wanting to bang teenagers... Like, why?
I suspect that they haven't had to be around teenagers for any extended period of time and don't remember how annoying and cringey they themselves were at that age. Youthfulness has a definite appeal for biological reasons but you have to temper that with enough maturity to make a person tolerable.

[Anonymous No.9353384]

>been planning to go to a con for months
>first time at this con, super excited
>hype it up to out of state friends, they agree to go
>cosplays almost finished, just a few more touches
>badge purchased, bus ticket obtained, only thing left is paying for the room
>this semester/life in general for the past couple of weeks has been really expensive and my bank account is hurting
>mfw con is this week and I can no longer afford hotel room so no con for me

[Anonymous No.9353433]

>>9353238
You might have replied to the post I deleted since it wasn't really on topic. That's not my university town at all, for some reason the majority of people are 18-21, a lot leave to other colleges by the time they hit 22. Likely because unless you are interested in a sustainability program, there's no reason to stick around if you don't have to. There's two people in the whole school who are 30. I'm not even joking. Oh, I know that, I've just noticed they talk to me less once my age is mentioned. Maybe I'm worrying they feel they have nothing in common with me is the reason they stopped saying hi while they actually stopped saying hi worrying the same thinking they were annoying me. It's perhaps miscommunication. I don't mind hanging out with people no matter what age they are. It doesn't matter to me.

[Anonymous No.9353436]

>>9353338
>>9353341
>>9353346
>>9353354
>ITT: insecure old hags try to compare themselves to teenage girls

[Anonymous No.9353450]

I was suppose to have a lovely weekend of shopping online. I can't enjoy it because I'm running the first fever I've ran in about 10 years. This sucks so much. I just wanted a lovely weekend of online shopping, not a fever and feeling like I'm about to faint at any moment.

[Anonymous No.9353464]

>>9353436
it doesn't take insecurity to know that you look better than a fatass pimply teenager.

[Anonymous No.9353517]

>sent friend request to hot guy
>mfw no reply

[Anonymous No.9353597]

>>9353517
You just made me remember that I sent a friend request to a bunny girl last year and got no reply. FUCK

[Anonymous No.9353604]

>>9353346
An ex-friend of mine liked to troll around the 18/19 range for weeb girls. He was a pretty big creep and after a while it became blatantly obvious that he was just taking advantage of being the "cool older guy"

[Anonymous No.9353626]

>>9353450

At least you got to save money

[Anonymous No.9353635]

>>9351593
>"Not them"

[Anonymous No.9353644]

>>9353517

Maybe you should try being QTer

[Anonymous No.9353661]

I leaft my artist alley table for just 40 minutes to take a dam dump and some janitore threew my shit in the trashed. I'm fucking pissed.

[Anonymous No.9353672]

>>9353604
butthurt old hag detected.

[Anonymous No.9353711]

>>9353661
>40 minute dump
You what?

[Anonymous No.9353731]

>>9352323
That feeling when this is me ;_; I'm 5'2 ouji

[Anonymous No.9353744]

>>9353731
Would head pat.

[Anonymous No.9353757]

>>9353744
Why? I'm already insecure about my height, as is

[Anonymous No.9353758]

>>9353464
but the greasy skin and scalp, and the awkward half-assed personal hygeine, and the hormone-hijacked brain, and the total lack of discernment teenage girls have are so much cuter than getting rejected by an adult who can recognize what a failure i am

[Anonymous No.9353759]

>>9353661
>40 minutes to take a damn dump
>janitor threw my shit in the trash
fify also, don't shit on the con floor and the janitor won't clean it up. you are not a dog. use a toilet.

[Anonymous No.9353767]

>>9353017
Stop browsing shopping sites for a while if they tempt you.

[Anonymous No.9353774]

>>9353757
Unless they're like sub 4'10 (aka a legal midget) why would women ever be insecure about being short.

[Anonymous No.9353785]

>>9353774
Other lesbians love tall chicks. I'm practically doomed. Not pretty enough to be femme, either.

[Anonymous No.9353790]

>wanna lose weight for a con fashion show
>say to myself that 7lbs will do but it'd be nice to lose 15
>lose 7lbs in a month despite only eating at a 350-250 kcal deficit
>weight loss has now completely stopped
>salty as hell even though this was supposed to be my goal initially

[Anonymous No.9353796]

>>9353790
If you find the solution please tell me. I have tried to eat a bit healthier and exercise more but it hasn't done anything in the long run. Sometimes I get more motivated and starve myself (it's not healthy, I know) and work physically but still nothing. However, no matter how much I eat junk I don't gain weight either. I guess I will have to wait until I'm able to drop meat and most dairy and try to just exercise more before that.

[Anonymous No.9353811]

>>9353316
Yeah that's what some of my friends said that never use chapstick, but I drink a ton of water and still have dry lips. I've been trying to use coconut oil but that doesn't do much at all.
(And even if chapstick companies are slimy bastards I miss my Burts Bees collection :<)

[Anonymous No.9353825]

>>9353796
Well, other than this current rut, I usually find that i lose weight easily when I cook a lot of Korean food- the stews and hot pot meals are full of fibre, very little fat and sugar, and spicy so they keep your bowels moving. Swapping out stodgy western dishes for that is definitely a good move.

What calorie deficit are you aiming for, and what kind of food do you usually eat?

[Anonymous No.9353827]

>>9353796
Do some food tracking and see if you are eating unbalanced macros. Too many carbs even if your calories are in check can sabotage you. Also do strength training. You don't have to go full gym rat, but some bodyweight exercises go a long way towards energy and preserving as much muscle mass as you can while on a calorie deficit.

If you are planning on cutting out meat, please research plant proteins and make sure to include foods that contain essential amino acids aka the proteins your body can't make itself.

[Anonymous No.9353830]

>>9353825
Any recommendations for Korean dishes/good websites to check out for recipes?

[Anonymous No.9353833]

>>9353830
Maangchi and Crazy Korean Cooking are good websites, I also have a recipe book called K Food which I would highly recommend. You'll need to invest in some Korean cupboard staples such as gochujang, gochugaru, kimchi etc, but once you have all that at home, ingredients tend to be reasonably cheap. I would recommend chamchi gochujang jigae as a nice easy beginner's dish, and it's a very clean meal.

[Anonymous No.9353838]

>>9353833
Thanks! Trying to lose my fatty-chan title so I'm always looking for healthier recipes.
>making broth with anchovies and kelp
Whew my kitchen is going to stink

[Anonymous No.9353842]

>>9353838
It fucking reeks, however if you have a cat they will love the anchovies after you drain the broth. My cat goes crazy when I make anchovy broth, runs around the kitchen crying until she gets anchovies.

[Anonymous No.9353864]

>>9353604
oh god this.

i know 16-17 year old girls who specifically state over tumblr "don't talk to us if you're older than 18' and rage at 18+ girls that accidentally do

meanwhile they're hanging out with 35 year old "photographers" every con and having internal drama over who gets dibs on the 28 year old they just met

but yeah i'm sure it's the 22 year old girls that are creeps for wanting to talk to you about cosplay :) definitely not the 28 year old herpes carrying loser :)

[Anonymous No.9353868]

>>9353758
true. all it took was like 3 years for me. when i was 17 i would've gone for any guy that paid me even a morsel of attention, and i did (ended up with a fat unemployed loser much older than me). now at 21 my standards are very high and the guy i'm dating is basically perfect. i wouldn't give overweight unemployed weeb trash a second glance, i'd prob laugh in their face.

[Anonymous No.9353909]

>>9352842
>vag
oh my sweet summer child

[Anonymous No.9353919]

>>9353102
>>9353110
>>9353112
There's a lot of cons that do skew older, especially game-focused ones like Magfest and PAX. At my local anime con I have found there are still some events that are presented by or cater to older fans. In my case I still watch some of the new things coming out as well as the good old 80s and 90s classics so I don't feel completely out of touch.

[Anonymous No.9353921]

>>9353210
Hahahaha I look so much better at 25 then I ever did as a teenager.

[Anonymous No.9353923]

>>9352740
Was it an ugly/cringy shirt?

[Anonymous No.9354001]

>>9353825
>>9353827
I'm a Northern European so I cook for myself and for my other family which makes this a bit harder. I can't make anything too spicy or make as much adjustments to my diet as I would want to . My only goal for now is really just dropping the crap for good and not fall again and trying to replace carbs with more veggies. I already use a lot fresh vegetables and chicken but also too much dairy. I will hopefully get away from this awkward living situation soon so I can start making decisions for just myself. I will definitely search the vegetarian diet before going into it. I really should start keeping detailed track of my eating, it would probably help me to eat more regularly and keep up. However, I'm a bit concerned I have some kind of medical contidion behind this all because mt hair has starting to shed like crazy. I was actually going to go to doctors for my tiredness and shaky as hell hands. I don't think my diet is that bad honestly but something else is wrong definitely.

[Anonymous No.9354006]

>>9352740
Sounds cute AF. Im sorry that happend.

[Anonymous No.9354010]

>>9352842
For dicks.

[Anonymous No.9354014]

>>9352740
Gonna need pictures.

[Anonymous No.9354026]

>>9351634
Update: her renewed interest was because of my money

[Anonymous No.9354038]

>>9354026
deets anon

[Anonymous No.9354043]

>katsucrunch
>spray priming armor
>work in half-indoor but well-ventilated apartment stairwell because it's snowing hard and can't work in parking lot
>leave primer coat to dry
>come back 15 minutes later to check
>fucking millipede somehow crawled onto armor piece, got stuck, died
>mfw I have to pry a fucking millipede off my armor, sand it, and re-prime it
>but keep thinking: where did it come from. are there more. it's february in new england they're supposed to be dead

[Anonymous No.9354045]

>no cosplay friends
>everyone grew out of it
>ask friend if she'd want to cosplay from the series
>"uhh.. I dunno anon ive never done it before"
I'll help with EVERYTHING just PLEASE

[Anonymous No.9354046]

>>9354026
I hope you don't mean you're letting some bitch use you for your money, anon.

[Anonymous No.9354057]

I'm overweight and I've been trying to lose weight for a long time, but with no success. I just found out that a medication I'm taking causes weight gain. I remember losing a lot of weight easily before I started taking it, but ever since I started taking it I have never been able to lose weight again. Sometimes I'd lose a little, but quickly gain it back. I almost got an eating disorder because of this. The good news is that both my doctor and my therapist agree that I don't need this medication anymore. I'm finally going to be thin again! I can't wait to be able to wear lolita, and I can't wait to finally have confidence in my appearance again.

[Anonymous No.9354060]

>>9354001
Tiredness combined with hairloss sounds like a b12 shortage anon-chan. Please get it checked out and be healthy!

My feel. Sick all week, stay in bed resting. Meetup today. Able to make it there by miracle! Halfway through period starts a good 1.5 week too early. I've got a pretty heavy one. I hope no one thought I was grumpy because of them.

[Anonymous No.9354063]

>>9354057
if it's an anti-depressant, not all of them cause weight gain. Prozac made me gain weight but zoloft made me lose weight like crazy.

[Anonymous No.9354069]

>>9354057
If its an anti depressant some of them have a weird delay effect too. I lost 5kg when on Prozac, but when I came off I gained 15kg. And then some have like a cool down period where you still have no sex drive, and can't loose weight.

[Anonymous No.9354073]

Had a dream that I was at a con and my Sailor Moon cosplay was on point, but I had a raging boner. It was nearly two feet long, and threatening to rip my skirt right off. Con security eventually tackled me for indecent exposure, and sent me to auditorium to be jerked off on stage. All my favorite VAs were looking at me in disgust as I came all over the front row.

I'm a grill btw. No irl penis.

[Anonymous No.9354079]

>>9354073
I hate when that happens.

[Anonymous No.9354085]

>>9354063
>>9354069
It's more of a mood stabilizer, but it can also work as an antidepressant. I think it made my depression worse though. My doctor did suggest a different antidepressant for me, and after doing some research it looks like it isn't likely to cause weight gain and is actually more likely to cause weight loss.

[Anonymous No.9354089]

>>9353864
lesbo creep detected butthurt they can tell your real intentions

[Anonymous No.9354092]

>>9354038
First some backstory I suppose. I'm not too good at telling stories though.

>dating for 4 years
>I am in Uni, for those four years while also working
>She also works, but her mother is sick so a lot of her money goes towards mom
>Not much money for her lolita, but I put aside things I want to try and make her happy
>one thing we always kind of talked about was coordinating outfits once we were settled down
>by now I have my B.S. degree (I need a masters for my dream job)
>her parents health gets worse, so now the money I spend on her lolita goes to her mothers health issues
>She eventually wants me to stop school and get a full time job. Granted, I could find an okay job but I'm so close. I tell her everything will be better in a year.
>Flies off the handle, and in the following weeks we break up after lots of fighting

I suppose 4 years of financial struggles took it's toll, and at the end she was just unhappy. Ended up dating a guy who she thought had money. He didn't help out with her mother though, so she came to me and asked for help. I did help her, but only because her mother was an angel.

Fastforward to now. Yesterday we went out to eat, mostly to catch up. She mentions that my friend told her I got my dream job. I asked when and she told me about a week before she got into contact. So at this point I know it's because of the money, and I asked her if that's why she is talking to me now. She said no (which we all know is bullshit), and at this point I felt pretty dead inside. Told her I had no interest in dating again, and said that if she wants my money then I'll just pay her for sex. She got up, went to the bathroom and I paid the bill and left.

[Anonymous No.9354101]

>>9354085
lithium? I just doubled my dosage to 300 mg

[Anonymous No.9354103]

>>9354085
and did they recommend wellbutrin?

[Anonymous No.9354110]

>>9354103
My therapist did, actually. My doctor recommended Effexor.

[Anonymous No.9354124]

>>9354110
ohh fuck, okay. Be careful with that anon. Do NOT /EVER/ quit it cold turkey. I stupidly did so at 175 mg. One of the worst weeks of my life, I became so sick.

I hope it works for you, meds are so tricky to get right. I'm on 350 mg lamictal, 300 mg lithium, 35 mg trazodone, and 15 mg buspar and in the past few months I've finally started to stabilize! It only took a year lol.

[Anonymous No.9354164]

Started a cosplay group because coordinated cosplay groups get more attention. It's becoming shit because it feels like I'm the only one taking it seriously. The other people in the group can't even be bothered to come up with an idea for what they want to cosplay and they had 6 months. Now the con we will attend is like 3 weeks away and they still haven't got shit done.

[Anonymous No.9354172]

I'm tired of cheapie-chan lolitas who fuss because they can't get their coords together due to being poorfags, then fuss more if a meet outing or an elegant restaurant is not always inexpensive.

They can't expect the whole group to function at their low-budget level. Let them host cheap meets of their own if that's what they want.

[Anonymous No.9354178]

>be me, riddled with neurological disabilities
>try to become helpful Lolita guru
>for first time in years my health declines
>back off on online presence, stop showing up to regular meets, fall off the bandwagon with producing content
>want to offer an explanation, just so people have a logical explanation of why I have become non-existent
>but can't figure out how to do this without looking like a pile of pity

[Anonymous No.9354234]

>>9353626
Oh ho, no. The shopping is still happening. It's just not very enjoyable.

[Anonymous No.9354266]

Every time I try to take photos of myself I end up feeling depressed. My face is really unfortunate but even worse in pictures. My nose is huge, I have totally fucked up teeth and jaw and the worst eye bags. I'm so jealous of people who won the genetic lottery. I look hideous and can't afford plastic surgery for years. I just want to take cute and flattering pictures of my coords and maybe try cosplaying some day but not with this face.

[Anonymous No.9354274]

>>9354266
this is me
kill. me.

[Anonymous No.9354276]

>>9354178
How many subscribers do you have? If under several hundred, probably no one is going to think it's a big deal. Just do a text video notice that your health isn't 100% so you are taking a break, thank them for their support and if you hope to return, a short message about that.
Your health and lolita lifestyle should be secure before trying to be a lolita guru for others.

But honestly people also won't stay interested if you aren't doing regular content even if it isn't every week, it's important to make regular content if you want to do YouTube. That's what people subscribe for.

[Anonymous No.9354279]

>>9354274
>>9354266
I'll still be your adoring sugar daddy

[Anonymous No.9354281]

>>9354266
I'm sorry to report that it just gets worse the older you get, especially if you never get surgery, it's expensive, risky and results aren't foolproof. Do your thing and have fun, learn some makeup to flatter your face, learn camera angles, learn a few photoshop tricks but don't overdo that either. If you wait, you'll end up wasting your life by wishing it away. Plenty of ugly girls make good lolitas.

[Anonymous No.9354318]

>>9354043
nah senpai i just killed one the other day. fuckers take shelter where they can, and it has been unseasonably warm until this blizzfest.

[Anonymous No.9354323]

>>9354110
>Effexor
DO NOT SKIP DOSES
DO NOT QUIT COLD TURKEY
EFFEXOR DOES NOT FUCK AROUND M8

[Anonymous No.9354334]

TFW all I want is cute Merlin merch and this is all I can find on Taobao

[Anonymous No.9354338]

Why are you all fucked in the head

[Anonymous No.9354341]

>>9354338
they are women

[Anonymous No.9354349]

>used to be on a metric fuckton of meds to control mental bs
>said fuck it and went off all meds (w/doc help and recommended lower doses)
>a year later feel so much better w/o meds
>still have trouble with feeling miserable and having weird emotions
>deal with it with coping methods I've learned

Medication isn't always the answer, for people reading this thread. Before anyone jumps down my throat obviously some people NEED their medication, but not everyone does. Honestly I feel like being on so many different meds the past 10 years made things worse.

[Anonymous No.9354353]

>>9354338
normies gtfo 4chan

[Anonymous No.9354360]

>>9354349
This is generally the case. Doctors don't really care much, and will throw medication at you to shut you up and get you out. Doesn't help that the cosplay and lolita community wear their "medical disorders" like a badge of honor and use it to as a scapegoat at any given opportunity.

[Anonymous No.9354393]

>>9354334
I'm dying anon.

>>9354073
I'd wank all night if I had a dream like that.

[Anonymous No.9354402]

>>9354334
So you bought it immediately, right?

[Anonymous No.9354470]

>>9354402
No, not overly fond of the artwork and I don't have a mouse or the desk space for it

[Anonymous No.9354490]

>>9353790
>>9353796

Increase your decficit, by either eating less or working out more. It's really that simple

[Anonymous No.9354492]

>>9354266
Makeup anon. And smile with your mouth closed.

[Anonymous No.9354497]

>Order from antaina in early-mid January
>Still wasn't soon enough to compensate for CNY
>Shoes not here in time for Valentine's day trip (leaving Monday morning)
I guess I'll just have to be a basic bitch and wear black shoes with a red and pink coord ;_;

[Anonymous No.9354533]

>in near suicidal levels of pain in all of my joints
>out of pain meds and may not get anymore
At least I have my purchases to look forward to. I have a jsk in the mail, another on preorder, a bag, a wig, a headbow, and tights coming soon.

[Anonymous No.9354543]

>tfw you see that amazing cosplay girl in her natural habitat after the con, and she just looks so normal

[Anonymous No.9354547]

>Tfw wonder sometimes if it'd be easier to just end it all

[Anonymous No.9354549]

>>9354547
Nothing's easier than not existing.

[Anonymous No.9354556]

>>9354073
I had a dream that there was some sort of chemical leak at a con I went to, rendering everyone in the building sterile.

It was announced over the PA, and immediately an orgy broke out.

[Anonymous No.9354560]

>>9354497
Related feel: my wardrobe is finally at the point where I've stopped depending on planning cords to include things still in the mail that may or may not arrive in time. Magically, no more stress about meets! Sometimes things do arrive in time so it's a bonus.

[Anonymous No.9354574]

>>9354547
Please don't. It's not worth it.

We're here for you.

[Anonymous No.9354577]

>>9354549

I dunno this ANON has a good point

>>9354574

See above

[Anonymous No.9354603]

>>9354360
That's what I began to notice and that's when I backed away from medication. A lot of medication is just temporary, or you constantly have to shake it up because you aren't responding to something, or you become dependent on the medication. Instead of handing out pills like snake oil, doctors should be teaching coping methods and understanding yourself with your mental illness and how to conquer it/live with it. I mean Jesus a few years ago I was on three different doses of Risperdol and Ambien to function and I felt awful, it was like my doctors were prescribing more medication to deal with problems caused by the medications themselves instead of dealing with my mental issues.
The message should revolve around surviving day to day with your whatever instead of constantly trying to cover it up and never addresses how to DEAL with it. Like a bandaid over an arterial bleed.

Again, I know some people need medicinal help, and to anyone who is really feeling like offing themselves, please get some help and talk to someone. It's so devastating when someone takes their own life, you belong here and deserve to be happy.

[Anonymous No.9354608]

>>9354603
Gotta push the pills for them corporations to make their money. It's not like doctors make enough you know!

Honestly ask your doctor if there is any non pill treatments before you go for the pill solution.

[Anonymous No.9354623]

>>9354603
>>9354608
Without my medication I'd be dead thanks. No amount of hard work (amd believe me there has been plenty including four months of intensive inpatient mental health "rehab") would create those chemicals my brain is lacking.

Medication may not have been something you actually require but stop acting like people who use it are weak and that nobody needs it at all to stroke your pretentious hippy e-peen.

[Anonymous No.9354638]

>>9351651
Late reply but wear a single rose as a hair accessory or rose-ette.

[Anonymous No.9354647]

>>9354623
This. Ugh, I hate it when people act like taking meds for mental illness means someone is weak.

[Anonymous No.9354667]

>>9354623
You are weak though. If you didn't have medication you would be dead. If you have kids, you will make weak offspring. Enjoy your pill breakfast and side effects while I just deal with my bad day without needing happy pills.

[Anonymous No.9354671]

>>9354667
Go shove some bleach up your ass and choke on kale like the filthy hippy you are.

[Anonymous No.9354675]

>preodered a bunch of shit for all the months of this year almost
>guess I better work some OT just to pad bank account in case of something happening
>friday: fatigued, but not terrible
>yesterday: sudden onslaught of pain all over my body, head exploding, chills, feel like actual death is upon me
>lower back pain due to constipation worsens, drink a bunch of prune juice out of fear and cry for two straight hours when I get home because of pain in every crevice
>today: back pain lessened due to prune juice but now I have a leaky butthole every time I consume two or three saltines, still feel like ass
>missed work I signed up for, coworkers will be shittiing on me
>didn't even make that much extra money for my items

I-I'm not frustrated

[Anonymous No.9354678]

>>9354623
Wow it's like I said that some people DO need medication or something
Way to get offended over absolutely fucking nothing

[Anonymous No.9354681]

>>9354623
And nobody said people who used medication are weak, that's just your insecurity showing

[Anonymous No.9354721]

>run a jfash valentines page
>at least once a month we get a vain newbie who sends in random pictures of herself expecting us to put on a nice caption for her
>politely explain the rules to them and how the page works
>they drop off the face of the planet because they don't have anything nice to say about anybody else, they just want free asspats
EVERY fucking time. We get so few actual valentines submissions these days and idiots like that are just a kick in the teeth and a reminder that most people in this fashion only care about themselves and aren't interested in supporting anybody else.

[Anonymous No.9354727]

>>9354721
what are the rules and how does it work

[Anonymous No.9354735]

>>9354727
You send in a picture of somebody you admire with a message, people might say things like 'I love your hair', 'you inspire me', 'I love this outfit' etc. Then we post it for you so that you can anonymously gush all over your faves. It's a lot of fun, both sending them in and getting one about yourself. The idea started with Lolita valentines but it caught on in other jfashions later too.

[Anonymous No.9354750]

>log off all messengers
>don't boot up steam for games
>making preparations for suicide
>friend messages me via text after two weeks of me being MIA
>she never talks to me wtf
>just humor her a little and play games with her
>she gifts me stuff "this is a sign of our friendship!"
>tfw I know she probably realizes I'm about to kill myself
>don't tell her though
>don't want her to get suspicious so go back online for a month
>duck away again because I want people to gradually forget about me before I off myself
>she contacts again
>cycle repeated 3 times by now, she never talks to me but out of nowhere does when I duck away

makes me feel worse, like she has to babysit me and is taking the responsibility of making sure I don't die.

[Anonymous No.9354752]

>>9354735
That sounds really cute anon, hope you get a surge with v-day coming up so close. I'm sure people appreciate the love they get, despite it being slow.

[Anonymous No.9354754]

>>9354750
Why do you feel this way

[Anonymous No.9354757]

>>9354754
Feel what way?

[Anonymous No.9354760]

>>9354752
It's really lovely when we get valentines posted for girls with low self-esteem or girls who have had a bad week, they always share the picture with a big emotional post so we get to see how it made their day. Sometimes I do cheat and post a few myself when I can see that a few people need a pick-me-up.

[Anonymous No.9354762]

>>9354757
Suicidal

[Anonymous No.9354764]

>>9354757
Not that person, but I'd ask why do you want to kill yourself?

[Anonymous No.9354774]

>>9354762
>>9354764
>29 years old
>thoughts of suicide since childhood
>depressed to the point where nothing makes me happy
>my moods are apathetic, depressed, anxious, or content at best
>meds default me to apathetic
>therapy is null
>I've never been in a relationship
>I've never been intimate with anyone
>only ever fall for those out my league
>work all day and then come home to either sleep or refresh cgl ritualistically because it's all I do
>just fell again for someone I could never be with and can't deal with knowing I'll be unhealthily obsessed with them for at least 6 years like the other times
>just want to end the cycle already

friend who keeps messaging me is an old romantic interest of mine. I'm not bitter towards her at all but it does feel a little bit like salt rubbed in the wound.

by now I've fallen so deep that I find comfort in my own sorrow; in the sense of not even wanting to break out of it if i hypothetically could because it wouldn't be "me" anymore. I'd rather die than have my body hijacked by feelings and emotions that are so alien to me that they may as well be someone else.

not seeking help, but figured I'd feed your curiosity a little. after a certain point, it only follows logically that suicide is the best answer. this isn't a "permanent fix to a temporary problem" scenario. my life is a permanent problem.

[Anonymous No.9354776]

>>9354774

>I've never been in a relationship
>I've never been intimate with anyone
>only ever fall for those out my league

I guess this will be me in 4 years.

I'm 25 and in the same position.

[Anonymous No.9354780]

>>9354776
delete this

[Anonymous No.9354782]

>>9354774
Well, curiosity sated. Coming from someone who knows people who have tried suicide, I'd simply ask that you don't. They regretted it and it just made everyone around them sad that they would think that was their best/only option.

Clearly you have thought over this a long time, and you've given it plenty of thought, but I don't think suicide is ever worth it.

Your friend seems like she genuinely cares if she goes through the effort of hounding you down every time you try to go off the grid.

I don't know what it'd take at this point, but I hope you find a way to enjoy your life in some capacity.

[Anonymous No.9354792]

>29 years old
>I've never been in a relationship
>I've never been intimate with anyone
>29 years old
>Almost 30

Lmao yeah you're done

[Anonymous No.9354794]

>>9354774
I'm impressed you've been trucking along all this time since this has been a lifelong struggle. I also hope you continue to do so.

Find something to challenge you and occupy your time. Write sappy poetry or start painting a picture. Practice and get better. Force yourself to go to open mic night and read what you've made or join a painting class. Maybe you'll meet someone you like.

Since you haven't had a relationship, I think you should address that and try it out. If you think the problem is because you go for people out of your league, then try someone you think is in your league. Give it a go, you really have nothing to lose. Take is as an opportunity to learn how relationships work. It doesn't have to be perfect. These are only ideas and it's up to you to try to try it out, but just take baby steps. It's up to you to find motivation and sustenance in your life.

[Anonymous No.9354841]

>>9354774
Anon I hope you feel better, I truly do. Though I know advice often feels useless and stupid (especially in a situation like this where the advice-givers don't know you), I still want to try, because I've been where you are.

First try to stop thinking about "being in a relationship" because friendships are relationships. You clearly have at least 1 friend who goes out of her way to show you she cares, and there are probably more who would do the same thing for you, if they had the opportunity. These are relationships you are in! People who care about you and love you dearly and who would miss you if you were gone.

Second of all, if therapy isn't cutting it, maybe try a service like 7cups? They have a free option where you can just talk to someone willing to listen actively, and if therapy hasn't done it for you, then that might be more beneficial.

Finally... shake things up a little. Nothing drastic, because drastic is fucking hard when you're depressed, but instead of refreshing /cgl/, (seriously we're so fucking slow that has to be like watching paint dry) why not make a really small commitment? Like: watch 1 episode of an anime you know a friend likes per day? Ask 1 friend for a recommendation per day? Re-read a book you really enjoyed? etc. Just ideas.

[Anonymous No.9354862]

>>9354774

[Anonymous No.9354874]

>>9354862
I know you're being an edgy 4channer but man that article is sad. It's obvious that it was mostly losing her mom that pushed her to it, and loneliness can be a terrible feeling when you desperately want companionship.

It's awful how so many people feel 30 is some weird cutoff date, especially because 30 is still so young.

[Anonymous No.9354918]

>>9354874
>It's awful how so many people feel 30 is some weird cutoff date
It's not like it's a completely arbitrary number. The biological clock is a real thing. Women's fertility rate peaks in the mid 20s and severely drops off by the mid 30s. By the mid 40s you're not going to get a healthy baby in 50 - 80% of the cases. That would leave her a 5 year window to ideally find a mate who will father her children. Realistically, that puts her in a really bad spot since we have culturally shifted to having kids/getting married/starting families at a much younger age giving her a smaller pool of single men to choose from. Not to mention 30 is the age that a man clearly defines his career path, for an ambitious career oriented man, it's the worst time in their life to settle down. Of course there's always the option to adopt or find a donor for artificial insemination, but some people are old fashioned and find it hard to accept those as substitutes for the traditional way of starting a family.

[Anonymous No.9354938]

>Ex appears to be spreading lies about me.
>Three creepy stalkers have come out of the woodwork.
>Mother and sister keep bullshitting each other about how awful I am to be around, then turning around and acting like my best friend.
>Have been told that I'll 'have' to start 7-day weeks at my job that's 1.5 hour away.
>Guy I like keeps going from "teehee ur cute" to acting like I'm a chore to talk to.
>The dog pissed on the rug a week ago and I'm too busy to move everything off of it and throw it out but my filthy hoarder mother won't clean shit.
>Brother in law offered to help fix my car up if I left it at their house but instead it's sitting there getting sun damage and I can't even work on it myself.

Fuck everything.

[Anonymous No.9354960]

>>9354938
your family sounds like shit

dump them

[Anonymous No.9354962]

>>9354774
can i request that before you an hero, you spend some time and energy, for say a year, volunteering some place? you could make sure your life has at least that much value. even if nothing changes for you, others (people, animals, nature, whatever you choose) will benefit. if you are a numb husk anyway, might as well be a useful husk.

[Anonymous No.9354977]

>have to choose between travelling + getting cosmetic surgery and lolita
>pick the first option
w-what am I even doing here anymore

[Anonymous No.9355012]

There's this girl whose taste is so identical to mine, she keeps outbidding me on auctions and buying stuff on my wishlist and then I see her posts on CoF. The worst part is that I can't even be mad because she's a great lolita.

[Anonymous No.9355045]

>>9354977

>Cosmetic surgery

What a damn waste

[Anonymous No.9355055]

Pretty lonely where I live now, no friends

to share weeby things
>inb4: 2cool4skool
Decided to make friends online, blogging
Finds out I'm not as fun/exciting/different as I thought I was.
It is harder to be speshul/different/appealing
There are thousands out there who only want attention too
no real exchange
Feel even more lonely
May as well be anon forever

[Anonymous No.9355058]

>>9354874
I'm turning 28 this year and I don't feel young at all.

I'd say I relate to the woman in that article, but at least she had a good job.

[Anonymous No.9355141]

>mental health talk
I increased my lithium dosage and while I am not experiencing physical side effects, I suddenly burst out crying at random times over nothing. I think I'd prefer the nausea and thirst!

[Anonymous No.9355165]

>>9355055
Find your blog niche, what is something you consistently like, do, follow, write about that you can develop into a sort of signature and write often/write a series about?
Are you a sweet lolita who is always in pursuit of the perfectly accessorized sweet coord?
Are you gothic and looking for the balance between dark severity and feminine frills?
Do you do makeup experiments with your looks?
Do you chronicle your outings in lolita or wear it when you travel?
Things like these would make good series. Lots of people complain that lolita blogging is dying off so I hope you can find something to keep you going on your blog journey. Poll people on what they would like to see in lolita blogs, start and keep an 'about lolita blogging' topic going here and see what others can contribute. Good luck Anon.

[Anonymous No.9355166]

> girl in my comm has good taste
> gives me advice on how to buy dresses
> helps me buy three dresses she owns as well
> mutual dream dresses
> I wear them to meets
> whole sets
> she gets angry
> accuses me of wanting to be her
> threatens to hurt me physically
> nobody invites me to meets anymore
> fuck my life

[Anonymous No.9355169]

>>9355166
>women

[Anonymous No.9355175]

>>9355169
right? what do?

[Anonymous No.9355182]

>>9355166
> fuck my life

just ignore her!

[Anonymous No.9355183]

>>9355175
Who needs meets anyway?

[Anonymous No.9355184]

>>9355166
Wow, that's petty.

[Anonymous No.9355189]

>>9355166
Speak with your comm mods. Even if you and she don't get along, you should not be excluded from the comm for nothing more than wearing the same dresses as someone.

[Anonymous No.9355192]

>>9355166
Drop their name and the comm lol

[Anonymous No.9355197]

>>9355192
we don't want this thread to be deleted, don't do it!

[Anonymous No.9355204]

>>9355166
Unless the whole comm is very small, good friends with her or crazy, there may be more to the story than this. We have all heard the 'wahh, they are big meanie-pants' stories and then it comes out that the girl crying has pulled some shit. Maybe not but...

[Anonymous No.9355212]

>>9355204
why so negative, she does sound genuinely upset!

[Anonymous No.9355250]

>>9355212
That doesn't necessarily mean it's justified.

[Anonymous No.9355259]

>>9355166
that bitch needs to chill though? most popular lolita dresses will end up on a good lot of members of a comm! So many girls I know have the same wardrobe goals.

[Anonymous No.9355281]

>>9355212
Just a feeling. Usually it takes more than a single disagreement/little jealousy fit with one member to be ostracized completely from a whole comm.

[Anonymous No.9355288]

>>9355281
Seconded, thirded and fourthed- I have a friend who gets ostracised from every lolita and cosplay comm she ever joins, and yet to hear her talk it's never her fault. These things are rarely actually the meanies ganging up on the newbie.

[Anonymous No.9355290]

>>9355281
>single disagreement/little jealously fit
desu I feel like that really depends on the individual. I would maybe make a comment to a close friend in a private setting. But, I do know people who throw shit fits over the smallest fucking things.

[Anonymous No.9355295]

>>9355290
I do too but it's usually not enough to turn a whole comm completely against one girl if ALL she did was trigger someone else's jealous fit.
Most comms are quite a bit more fair to people than that. I'm sure there are exceptions but it's far from the way things usually go in most places.

[Anonymous No.9355300]

>>9355295
I'm the OP. it sounds wrong reading it back, sorry about that! what I wanted to say is that she does not invite me to the meets she organises.

[Anonymous No.9355350]

>Go to tea party
>Make friends with girls next to me, we have a lot in common and have fun chatting
>...they live in a different city a few hours away
>Go to concert
>Meet girl in comm, hit it off and become friends
>...she moves to a different country for work
>Go to various local comm meets
>Become acquainted with comm members, have pleasant conversation, but have yet to really make friends with anyone

I wish it wasn't so hard to make friends with lolitas located near me. It feels like every time I get lucky and finally hit it off with someone, they live too far away. I'm so envious of these girls I see who are good friends and hang out together in lolita outside of meets and such. I want that too but it feels like it's never going to happen.

[Anonymous No.9355362]

>votes for Trump.
>never talks about politics at meets
>still hearing people at meets talking about how people should get punched, depending on who they voted for
>says nothing, is friends with a lot of them.
>hears comments about how "I would spit in the face of anyone that voted for him!"
>says nothing.
>people start 'doxing' who voted for who and that they should be banned from the comm for how they voted.
>stops showing up to meets
>same girls still forward me stories about people getting their property vandalized, while laughing about it
>they ask why I've stopped showing up to events; I make some random excuse.
>I don't feel safe around them anymore.

[Anonymous No.9355368]

>>9355362
For people who scream nazi at Trump they sure act like political extremists.. sorry you have a shitty group like that.

[Anonymous No.9355374]

>>9355362
I swear I can't believe what this election has done to people. Everyone seems like an intolerant cunt over the results, no matter whose side they were on. I just want it all to be over and everyone to shut up about and treat people with differing opinions like people instead of simply targets for hatred.

[Anonymous No.9355376]

>>9355362
I mean, yes, that sucks, but to be that person, now I guess you have some idea what it feels like to be gay. I've had people talk like that around me about my sexuality without knowing I'm a lesbian. So have a lot of my friends. It's sort of hilarious seeing conservatives now crying about this sort of treatment when so many of them scoff at other people disliking it.

[Anonymous No.9355377]

>>9355376
Oh shut the fuck up.

[Anonymous No.9355378]

>>9355300
Well that makes more sense, so it's just her and the meets she plans and not actually

> nobody invites me to meets anymore

Implying your whole comm has snubbed you.
There's a big difference. Your first post sounds a bit dramatic for nothing.

[Anonymous No.9355383]

>>9355376
liberals are so far left that most moderates and even moderate leaning democrats are considered right wing.

[Anonymous No.9355384]

>>9355377
Sorry you got triggered anon.

>>9355383
Yeah, I'm a moderate myself and most of the "alt left" are way too out there, their language is insanely alienating. This is basically what happens when young people get "into" politics though, especially in a post 9/11 world where everything has been polarized to the extreme.

[Anonymous No.9355396]

>>9355368
I'm sure it will eventually calm down. But I feel really weird hearing such passionate declarations and then having to tell myself it's probably nothing. I know I'm not in actual danger, but I don't want to pay money to feel nervous.

>>9355376
... So you're assuming I'm straight? Gay people can vote for whoever they want.

[Anonymous No.9355406]

>>9355396
Things will cool down. People are still virtue signaling as it's the "cool" thing to do nowadays. Wait for some new fad to come up and all the sheep will flock to it.

[Anonymous No.9355407]

>>9355374
Comm mods and meet hostesses need to crack down. Politics and socially volatile/divided topics aren't fit for meets. No one thinks we should be vapid bubble heads sitting about prim and proper with our pinkies up but meets should at least remain pleasant as social gatherings and not make people uncomfortable.

[Anonymous No.9355425]

>>9355376
Fuck off. Never in my life have I heard a group of people say it was ok to hurt, vandalize, or assualt someone for being gay. The issue is not only that there are some people saying its ok to hurt someone because of who they voted for, but that there are tons of groups of people including some very popular media outlets endorsing violence. If you said you would want to beat a gay in a large group of people the vast majority would shun you, unless you know, you live in Saudi Arabia.

[Anonymous No.9355435]

>befriend nice lolita from meet
>brags that she has been in the fashion for 10 years
>shows me a bunch of cof pics
>coords are basic as shit at best
>borderline not lolita as worst
>fucking what

nothing against the girl, but how do you buy and wear this shit for 10 years and still not be capable of dressing yourself well?

[Anonymous No.9355442]

>>9355425
I don't care as a conservative because their doing it is just going to keep making normal people who are against violence of any kind feel estranged from them.

Not that that means there's going to be some kind of rise of Neo-Nazis, it just means the majority of people are extremely moderate.

[Anonymous No.9355444]

>>9355435
You're in for a treat if you have not met or heard of some of the fashion's resident 'perma-itas'. It's not as rare as you'd think to meet someone who has actually been dressing in lolita for years and still struggles with their coords.

[Anonymous No.9355449]

Y'all are going to get the thread deleted if you don't shut up about politics.

Related feels: frustration when people don't know when to shut down the overshare about topics unrelated to LOLITA FASHION & COSPLAY FEELS.

[Anonymous No.9355452]

>>9355449
If the whole thread gets deleted because of anonymous posts then the moderator is abusing his power. He can delete the posts instead.

I'm getting real tired of this cucked janny. I'll probably start spamming /qa/ to complain about him. As I doubt anyone has bothered with his powertripping ass

[Anonymous No.9355453]

>>9355425
Yea, I've never seen this happen around where I live honestly. If anything, maybe at most they'd be privately shunned from bible thumper families in the privacy of their own bedrooms or whatever but never out in a public group.

Go to one of the Muslim countries that are banned from traveling here if you wanna feel oppressed for being gay in 2017; it's pretty damn normalized nowadays even with the controversial underside from the super strict dickheads who won't let the issue die. Seriously, go to one of those countries and announce your queer orientation, heads will roll (and by that I mean literally, your head will roll).

[Anonymous No.9355487]

When people try to sell their used dress on LM for double what it's currently easily found for on Japanese used sites.
It was even half off NEW during an AP sale.
Who are you trying to scam, sale friend?

[Anonymous No.9355497]

>Quit local community/central community in my tiny country around 10 years ago
>Reason 1: Too much drama at the time due to the community being so small.
>Reason 2: Had massive amounts of mental problems that made me feel uncomfortable around my friends
>Reason 3: Had very few people to really talk to about anything weeb related because nobody had any freaking idea what stuff like Jojo's Bizarre Adventure was. It was and still is my favourite thing.
>Result: Distanced myself from all of my friends because I didn't deserve any of them, and joined a new community.
>Community has grown much bigger now.
>Drama is a lot more nonexistent to outsiders like me because there are so many cosplayers in this country now.
>Jojo's Bizarre Adventure has become super popular here after the anime started airing.

I'm super tempted to buy a one day ticket to one of the big cons in this country and just show up for a few hours in one of my Jojo cosplays in hopes of making some new friends.. But fuck, I've never gone to a convention alone before, and I suffer from major social anxiety. Hard stuff.

[Anonymous No.9355512]

>>9355497
Do it. Even if you only stay a half day, it might be fun. And no reason at all it should suck. Just give it a try.

[Anonymous No.9355520]

>>9355425
Wow, you seem sheltered and naive. Nice for you.

[Anonymous No.9355523]

>>9355520
What did he say that makes him sound sheltered and naive.

[Anonymous No.9355538]

>>9355497
Do it! Approch the situation like a challange. Personally, I like spending at least one day at a con completely by myself and the rest of the days with friends. There's just certain things you can't do in a friend group (like spend 30 mins staring at everything at a vendor booth).

[Anonymous No.9355541]

All women are like children to me, their mental state is that low compared to mine.

I don't care what any of them have to think or say, it'd be best if they were just quiet at all times.

The only reason I work to make money is so I can get sex and have children.

My perfect wife would bear my children, have sex whenever I want, and never cheat, I don't care about anything else.

Thinking that a man could ever bond with a woman on the same level is foolish.

Every single heterosexual relationship is just an advanced form of prostitution, the woman would not be with the man if he wasn't providing money/social status (or working towards it), and the man would not be with the woman if she wasn't providing sex (or going to in the future).

tfw exhausted the internet of Yoko cosplay to jack off to.

[Anonymous No.9355543]

>>9355487
A lot of people don't understand how value decreases. Items should always be assumed to decrease in value over time with the changing factors being if it is a form of collectible.

Lolita is niche, so it retains more value then regular clothing, but it can only hold it's original price if it becomes "rare" or super popular.

[Anonymous No.9355547]

>>9355541

Your life sounds rough buddy. You ever consider counseling?

[Anonymous No.9355550]

>>9355541
I'm sure you'll find a nice compliant wife if you offer an attractive enough package and aren't completely disgusting, fat or abusive. She of course doesn't have to work outside the home unless she wants to, you provide a beautiful home, nice car and generous spending allowance.

[Anonymous No.9355551]

>>9355541
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[Anonymous No.9355552]

>>9355425
>>9355520
>>9355523
Before this turns into a cat fight, I get what both sides are saying. It depends on your area, and it's safe to assume original anon lives in an area where it is not okay to be homosexual.

I live in a town right now that, yeah, if you threatened to beat up someone for being gay, hell's fury would descend on you. However, if you went 1 1/2 across the state border to where I grew up, people regularly would get beat up for being gay. In fact, it was only two years ago one lesbian couple got curb stomped for being at Cook-Out on Valentine's Day. One of the girls had to get jaw reconstruction surgery to repair the damage the attackers had done. Sure enough, the attackers were from an area where this type of hate is common. There are areas in the United States that it is not suggested to let it be known you are gay.

[Anonymous No.9355554]

>>9355550
That seems like a reasonable exchange, save for the spending allowance.

[Anonymous No.9355555]

>>9355543
Even if they checked current market value. I'm thinking they are just trying to catch someone who doesn't know how to shop well yet but it also kind of makes them look like scammers too.

[Anonymous No.9355558]

>>9355554
That would need to be negotiated, women spend, have hobbies, like fashion, makeup, like to do outings with their friends.

[Anonymous No.9355559]

>>9355554
She's going to need a generous spending allowance since you don't care what she thinks or says, that's the trade-off. Since you won't be providing her any stimulation or entertainment, she's got to have means to find that on her own time. A generous spending allowance keeps her from flying off the deep end.

[Anonymous No.9355560]

>>9355558
Generous is pushing it. Limited spending allowance is fine. You get the money you need based on what you're doing, not a flat rate.

[Anonymous No.9355571]

>>9355560
Enough for hobbies, fashion, outings, etc. Generous within the household earnings budget is fair to ask. She's a kept woman, right? That requires compensation to keep her happy.

[Anonymous No.9355572]

>>9355560
Tolerating living with a socially inept beta cunt more than justifies a generous spending allowance.

[Anonymous No.9355575]

>>9355571
I got an idea for a new game, it'll be great.

Housewife Simulator.

[Anonymous No.9355581]

>>9355575
That's basically what he's asking for, though he's got a lot to learn about women. Hopefully he'll get one who can gently educate him but actually does want to be a housewife, that would not be the most terrible thing to happen to either party.

[Anonymous No.9355591]

>>9355551
>>9355547
You try to mock him but be honest, if your boyfriend told you he had decided to NEVER spend any money on you again, how quickly would you leave him?

Remember, you can lie to me but you can't lie down yourself.

[Anonymous No.9355596]

>>9355572
I apologize if I gave you the impression that I give a shit about what you think.

[Anonymous No.9355605]

>>9355572
>beta cunt

I am muscular and have a full beard. I don't juice but my testosterone levels are probably not even at natty levels.

>>9355581
What is she going to educate me on? How to be a dumb whore?

[Anonymous No.9355607]

>>9355605
He is saying he wants a dumb whore as a wife.

[Anonymous No.9355609]

>>9355607
Well that's pretty easy, just starting dating a woman.

[Anonymous No.9355611]

>>9355605
How to get along enough with her to get what you want by giving her what she wants too, the art of give and take, tact.
Whenever you piss her off, the pussy fun factory is closed, regardless of what you think of her.
It's a marvelous motivator.

[Anonymous No.9355616]

>>9351555
Well, this thread is kill

[Anonymous No.9355620]

>>9355605
>being this upset at being called a beta cunt
>what is irony

[Anonymous No.9355623]

>>9355620
>taking obvious bait
>retard

[Anonymous No.9355625]

>>9355623
Ooo got 'em

[Anonymous No.9355644]

>>9355552
yeah, this is why i am still closeted. it is not worth the risk.

[Anonymous No.9355671]

>>9355552
I agree that not everyone in any country is safe for gay people but that would be true for anyone. There are just places you don't wanna go if you're some sort of subset of human being. Although I would wager that the vast majority of people in the states aren't homophobic. I'm not talking about tumblr homophobic i.e. everyone. I also think the vast majority would not entertain someone saying that they want to kill gays. Also you saying its regular even in small towns I don't agree with. There aren't ridiculously high violence rates against gays anywhere that you could accurately measure (ghettos are incredibly homophobic but its hard to gather statistics) I agree that these areas are incredibly unsafe, but unsafe for everyone. Hate crimes are generally front page national news and I personally havn't seen regular hate crimes against gay people, but anecdotal evidence is anecdotal.

[Anonymous No.9355705]

>>9355671
You can sit there smug in your cozy chair and wager most Americans 'aren't homophobic' if you aren't gay. But you are blind if you can't see the many ways society is not safe for gay people just because they are gay, how in many places it offers NO support and much hardship for them measured in the depression and suicide rates of gay and trans teens. Gather THOSE statistics.

[Anonymous No.9355713]

>tfw you're a straight white male aged 21-35

[Anonymous No.9355717]

>>9355705
>many places it offers NO support and much hardship for them measured in the depression and suicide rates of gay and trans teens.

Men commit the large majority of suicides, usually over 80% in most places. There is no suicide prevention targeted specifically at men (there shouldn't be).

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_differences_in_suicide

[Anonymous No.9355747]

>>9355717
Are you dense? They were talking about gay people, not gender. Men can be gay.

[Anonymous No.9355765]

>>9355705
Assuming how I live because I don't agree with you. Why are you conflating suicide rates for gays and trans people there are gays as the same thing gay and bisexuals are Round 4-5 percent of the country and transgender is even smaller than 1 percent and I dont know how those stats are gathered (if they are taking it by people saying they are or by people going through the reasignment process) I havn't seen any statistics that show that gay people are over represented in suicide statistics like trans people. If you wanna say suicide rates are what determines if a group is being wronged, trans people have similar suicide rates to jews in nazi germany. Are you saying transgender people face the same stigma that jews in nazi germany did during WWII. Name something that a societal authority does to make life harder for gay people. Also why do gay people need support and in what way? Mental, emotional, financial? Same with transgendered individuals. Also how are you going to gather any info on homophobic people. I'm gay I have not once faced discrimination because of that. I have heard tons of people face discrimination for supporting Trump, do they deserve emotional, mental, financial support aswell.

[Anonymous No.9355773]

>>9355705
Also calling somebody smug and then acting smug as fuck is really fucking stupid of you. Get your head on straight. If you're gonna talk down to someone atleast back up what you're saying. Assuming my sexuality though kek

[Anonymous No.9355777]

>>9355747
The vast majority of those men are not gay. You're talking about maybe 2% of them. Women can also be gay, and they're also included in the female statistics.

My point is that, as a group, males commit far more suicides than females, at a much higher rate than gays Vs. straight, or trans Vs. normal, yet men have no suicide prevention targeted specifically at them.

If gays should get suicide prevention specifically targeted towards them, then men certainly should have suicide prevention specifically targeted towards them, because the statistics show a far larger suicide problem between male and female, rather than between sexual orientation.

This person has probably never considered this, yet they're crying about how gays don't get enough suicide prevention and psychiatric conditioning.

Personally I'm not for any suicide prevention, in fact I'm an advocate of you all killing yourselves.

[Anonymous No.9355889]

>>9355541
Don't fall for the shitty bait.
Hardly even on topic, just slapped the last this in there about the Yoko cosplay just to not get deletes.
Hes just sad because no one will touch his nasty little fish stick.

[Anonymous No.9356022]

>be me, constantly fawning over a cosplayer i've never met before in hopes of one day meeting him
>have been single for way too long
>a few days ago I find out my friend, whom i thought was gay, is into me. a lot.
>holy shit i think im into him
>HOLY SHIT TOMORROW IS VALENTINE'S DAY I DON'T WANT TO BE A CLICHE

im so nervous for real though. in that instant my dreams of a perfect cosplay boyfriend went up in flames, this guy is great yall.

[Anonymous No.9356031]

Men don't need help because they're men, they get the fuck over it. If they end themselves it's because they were some sort of meme man.

[Anonymous No.9356055]

>being alone on Valentines day

[Anonymous No.9356077]

> lose 4kg due to chronic illness
> cheekbone game strong and bony around the shoulders/hips but still cute
> put together coords and excited to see how I look in photos next meetup
> gets too sick to go to said meetup

Le sad

[Anonymous No.9356136]

>>9356031
I agree. Women don't need freedom and the right to vote either.

[Anonymous No.9356164]

>valentines day
>alone
>don't care it's an excuse to dress in lolita and lolita can be my valentine
>also made valentines day cards for all my lonely friends just to see them smile