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Last one got deleted for ot. >>9314641Wig cap too tight? Petticoat deflating? Share those cgl-related feels here!
TFW no cgl gf
>>9320815Why would you ever want one of those.
>tfw some ita in your comm ruins the aesthetic by wearing a thong
>>9320874Because having a companion who is into weeb shit, and posts on 4chan sounds pretty cool.I think.>>9320875How were you even able to see her thong? She must be really dressed like shit, if you can see that much.
>>9320875>at tea>tights need adjusting>wait until everyone else is looking at something else>accidentally grab my thong along with my tights>pull>give myself the wedgie of a lifetime>shriek loud enough to scare the whole roomWhy would you remind me of this?
>>9320807>still undecided between death of the endless or batgirl cassandra cain>con is in two weeks
>>9320889Most of /cgl/ treats relationships and their partners as tools to be used for free money and service, and to be disposed of and replaced the instant they are unsatisfied in absolutely any way for any reason.You don't want one.
>superhero-themed pub crawl this Saturday>don't know whether to expect weebs or normiesI guess it might be nice to meet cosplay people, but what if it's full of frat fucks in shitty Party City costumes?
>>9320895How is that even a debate? Death is way easier, do her
>>9320899It'll be a solid mix of the two, wear a normie super hero outfit but add something special that only weebs would get.I did that for a college crawl and found a few normies that hid their power level
>>9320875are you from one of those countries that refers to "flip flop" sandals as thongs, or do girls actually show their panties at your comms meets?
>>9320904I was just gonna be an X-Man, but I'm afraid someone will try to have sex with me.
>>9320902I'm too way asian-looking, it would look silly
I wish that lolita fashion didn't attract so many weird autistic middle aged ladies who sperg over fabric quality. I also don't understand why lolita attracts so many girls with terrible teeth and poor bone structure that makes them appear not to have a chin. I mean, yeah, I do understand. It's a weird hobby that attracts outcasts and weirdoes. I just wish I could have a meetup one day for only aesthetically pleasing neurotypical girls.
>>9320899Pub crawls are usually normie-infested events. Go anyways but don't expect much.
Anon from a few feels-threads ago. We were talking about relics of convention past for a story I wanted to write, and the thread got deleted with no trace.Anyway to find that? I was going to come back for screencaps but fuck
>>9320935>neurotypical girls 100% agreed, I'm so sick of all these chicks with "mental disorders" showing up to meets.. There's always some bitch having an 'anxiety attack' or saying shit like 'oh sorry my anxiety started to kick in' I'm so sick of it all.
>>9320935>>9321004What do you suggest someone with anxiety do? Sit at home and never even try? Isn't it better that they tell you why they suddenly had to leave instead of leaving you to think they just hated the event?No, honestly what do you want? I have pretty bad anxiety, and sometimes I am sure I can go to a meet but once I am there things go downhill. What would you have me do?
>>9321047because they don't actually have "mental disorders" which is why anon put it in quotation marks, they're just doing it for attention
>>9320935>I wish that lolita fashion didn't attract so many weird autistic middle aged ladies who sperg over fabric quality. ...anon were you perhaps at a meet today? Because you literally just described a woman at my meet that wouldn't shut up about dress fabric.
>>9321058how do you know they don't really have them though?
>tfw no tall weeb gf
>moved to a new city to transfer schools, no friends>suffer from depression, but it wasn't too bad all things considering.>even find a friend from my high school who was interested in cosplaying!>she wants to have a weeb night!>start feeling better about moving.>queue winter break>depression hits me like a brick, don't know why.>high school friend drops off the face of the Earth for a bit>person I was interested comes back from break and is now completely ignoring me>actually was going to tell him that we shouldn't be friends anymore, but at least I wanted to have the decency to have that awkward talk.>try getting involved in school to combat depression>mainly just want to skip rehearsals for something I forced myself to do>just feel even more alone>the two cons I was looking forward to need to be cancelled because of lack of funds-- work has been few and far between>too afraid that friends will hate me to tell them>but also if I don't tell them, they'll be angry>one's actually already angry at me because she thinks I don't want to cosplay with her anymore.>I shouldn't even be upset because she was being a bitch about the cosplay group I would have to bail on (hilariously, I'm still the furthest along with the costume).>know that she'll throw a fit because I'm going to a different con in two months, despite the fact that I'm working there, getting paid for it, and it's super close to my dad's house so I'll crash there instead of a hotel.>person I liked's friends start talking to me>not sure if double agents or if he didn't tell them>really don't want to find out because they're really nice to me and are actually my sunshine right now.>kind of just want to roll over and kill myself, though.I'll admit, I won't. I've come a long way with my depression and suicidal thoughts to know that shit's temporary, but I don't like the constant envisioning of myself jumping off a building or throwing myself in front of the train. Shit gets really vivid.
>>9321047Work on your anxiety by going to therapy.
>>9320935Welcome to alternative fashion, always attracts old, ugly and weird people.
>at a tiny con>browsing artist alley while wearing classic>find accessory table>"hey anon, it looks like you could use some cat ears!">points out cat ear headbands that are outlined with fake flowers>awkwardlaugh.jpg>"nah I'm gud"I'm so sad there wasn't another lolita nearby to hear what happened but it the irony was too delicious not to share
>Christmas present last year: Money, because my dad didn't get paid in December and when he finally did they had no time to get any presents for me>Birthday was right after and I got more money>Decided to place a FromJapan order using 1/3 of those moneys to show my parents so it feels like they bought something nice for me anyway>1 day after I began my order, they stopped taking Mercari orders temporarily>Have over 20 items bookmarked that I want to buy from there>Time is running out, 2 weeks later and it's still not possible to buy anything from theregdi FromJapan, get it together.
>>9321156I already do. Why do you assume I don't? I also take meds and practice all sorts of fun techniques that only do so much good. You sound like a huge bitch though, that is also something you can go to therapy for btw, and I suggest you do.
>>9321185Just use a different SS then...? I haven't used FromJapan myself but judging from the SS thread a lot of people seem to have had bad experiences with them recently.
>>9320935>I wish that lolita fashion didn't attract so many weird autistic middle aged ladieswell now at least I know what people will think of me if I ever try wearing lolita. thanks for the honesty I guess.
>>9321202I am considering it, only reason I'm trying to be patient is because I have a running order with them right now as well as an order from Taobao right now, seems insane to place an order with a third shopping service too. Giving it another week before I close the FJ order and go elsewhere for the Mercari shit :<
>>9321004I understand the frustration with anxiety becoming a buzzword with pubescent teens and attention whores but there are people who actually have it and as >>9321047 says it's better to be able to just outright say what the problem is than have to evade the topic when most people probably picked up on the reason themsleves anyway
>>9321201more or less this.>>9321156agree, but also I can confirm that therapy takes time, and meds and relaxation techniques only go so far. at some point you really do have to actually get out there and do shit whether you're "better" or not, because if you don't, you never get better. therapists will literally tell you that.>go to meets>feel anxious, other lolitas don't like it>random lolita tells you to go to therapist>go to therapist>therapist encourages you to go to meets and other social eventsbelieve me. if we could work it all out on the holodeck instead of having to go out in public and risk having our therapy, meds, and relaxation tricks all fail us in front of everybody, we would.
Got home late after an evening lolita meet. Went to put away my shoes in the cupboard today...a bow is missing. Devastated :(
>>9321217It's not so much having these disorders is the issue. It's that so many lolitas who have them (or claim to have them since apparently mental illness is a cool accessory and a facet of your personality now) shoehorn them into discussions at meets and make others uncomfortable. It's one thing to mention it in passing. It's another thing entirely to boast about your meds or loudly proclaim you're having a panic attack.I deal with this stuff, too, gulls. I know how badly it sucks. But don't force your comm to be your stand-in therapists. Do your best to get yourself out there and politely excuse yourself if you need a minute or if you need to leave. If someone doesn't understand or is an ass about it, fuck 'em. You've done what you could.
>>9321213I think Mercari might be cracking down on SS's so I wouldn't put too much stock in it.
>suffering chronic lack of motivation>need to clean out sewing room>need to finish half done cosplays>need to start working on next competition piece>can't bring myself to do any of iti'm so fucking burnt out.
>>9320996>>9321005https://www.google.com/search?q=cgl+archive gives rebeccablacktech & warosu
>take a number at cutting counter at Joann>wow it's really backed up for this time of day>lady a few numbers ahead of me is having two carts' worth of fleece cut>even after it's cut and off the bolt it still overflows>feeling annoyed>rest of the line is also clearly annoyed>wonder if it's fair to be annoyed; what if she's doing one of those things where they teach chemo patients to sew soft hats? Have to ask or it'll bug me all day>after she finishes cutting, ask her what she's making>she looks at me, despair in her eyes>"thirty-seven Lion King costumes for my daughter's play">awe ripples visibly across the crowd, cranky faces opening into amazement and respect>the crowd around the cutting table parts for the lady with two shopping carts, watching this sewing martyr on her way to her doom
>>9321047for what it's worth, i have kind of shitty anxiety as well and it always put me off meet-ups until a couple of years ago. at first it was real fuckin' awkward and felt like nobody wanted to talk to me, but after a few times remeeting the same people, I started remembering names and hitting it off with a couple of the other girls and it became a much more relaxed environment. I found out later that the first impression i made wasn't very good, because i tend to unconsciously pitch my voice higher and softer when I meet new people and everybody in the comm thought i was some kind of 'kawaii anime girl' wannabe lifestyler. so yeah! just keep in mind that there will probably be some rough patches at first, but persevere and think of it as gaining social experience.
>been feeling like shit all month>just want to go home and sleep instead of work>come in to work and find out my last pay period was 112 hours with 12 of that being overtime. Going to buy myself something nice with the extra money.
>>9321241>don't force your comm to be your stand-in therapiststhis is accurate. we've had way too many girls in our comm who seem to think it's some kind of frilly mental health support group. while that attitude did create a certain amount of bonding amongst the initial members of the community when we were smaller, it's not feasible to show up to a tea party with 10+ total strangers and expect the same atmosphere. and it can also be ultimately a shooting-yourself-in-the-foot kind of move, if you're someone who is in need of therapy. one of the founding members of our community was a compulsive liar, for instance...I remember going over to her house for the first time and being fed all these lies like 'oh i'm an ex-ballerina' 'i used to model' 'i design wedding dresses' 'i'm a professional sfx makeup artist in hollywood' etc.it made me really uncomfortable because I could tell that all of these things couldn't be true, but I was trying to be polite and didn't want to question her. eventually another member of the comm took me aside and told me the situation, but man...later, that same girl moved to a new city and a new community and I heard she basically got totally ostracized as a result. she was used to being coddled by her initial group of friends and not called out, but when she tried to pull the same stunt in a new city, everybody was really offended when they found out that she was lying and none of them want to associate with her now. even if it's nice to have a supportive group of friends, getting professional help would have been a better move in the long run.
>showing off my latest outfit to my dad>he compliments it as usual, encouraging and supportive, dreamy and wonderful as always>weird forbidden feelings for him start flaring up again>cold rage and resentment towards my mother starts bubbling up againWhy does it never stop?
I've done this before, but I feel like I want to move away from cosplay and start doing more J-fashion again. My problem is my con season is starting soon and I've committed to cosplay groups, and I get this feeling sometimes, then sell cosplay stuff, then regret it. I also have been out of J-fashion for so long that I don't know what's what of it anymore. IDK what to do.
>>9321335Oh, it's you again, anon. I-Is your dad hot....?
>>9321294What is this girl from? I see her in rule 34 all the time.>>9321335I hope you're adopted at least. Ffs.
I never wear my lolita anymore because I feel ugly all the time :\
>>9321047Stop being such a special snowflake.
>>9321387>feel ugly all the timeSaaame
>>9321381Haven't a clue, sorry anon.
>>9320935Nice! Not only do I have to worry about looking ita, but I must have an aesthetically pleasing bone structure as well! I also must be mentally healthy like 100% of the world, right? No time for feelings. Here anon let me reconstruct my entire bone structure for you
>>9321387>>9321392Just wear lolita and feel prettier. Works everytime. Or go on Youtube and up your hair and make up game, wear lolita, feel pretty and fantastic.
>>9321381>What is this girl from?Kimi ni Todoke
I can't take it anymore.I want to cuddle ALL LOLITAS.
>>9321047>>9321413>>9320935 here. I wasn't really talking about people with anxiety here, I was mostly referring to people with autism. Thanks for showing off your huge victim complexes though!
>>9321444I'm an autistic lolita. Should I stay home.
>>9318695Late reply, but the Miku costume is for the bride.I'm making it for her, and it's almost finished!
>>9321462Cunt of the year.
>>9321413well if you are at least willing to try and change how you look
I just want a friend I can make costumes and/or lolita stuff with ;_;
>>9321335You need therapy. Now.
>>9321488:( where you based anno maybe one of us will be near you?
>>9321366He's a dream but that's just my opinion. If you're into big older cool-as-a-cucumber strongfat guys with a goofy sense of humor then you might like him too.>>9321381Nope, my mother painfully popped me out as she is quick to remind me whenever I do something that displeases her, I ended up looking like a taller bustier clone of her for added insult.>>9321392I love my daddy and I'm also in love with him, which also makes me detest my mother more than I normally would. It's been this way since the onset of my puberty, while there are objective reasons why I'd desire my dad and want my mother dead I realize it's not normal but I can't help it. I don't go to therapy because my mother is part of the local medical community and as far as I'm concerned all doctors are pedantic dickheads fueled by scotch(or red wine if they're women) and eventually word would get back to her that I'm after her man. She'd kick me out and cut me off which I can deal with, but she'd also turn my dad against me which I could never deal with.
>>9321047If you can't handle being out and about for a few hours without breaking down and having a fucking meltdown anytime you're slightly uncomfortable don't fucking go. Other people shouldn't have to put up with your bullshit and when any of you special snowflakes do that you ruin the meet/event. You people are so desperate to make sure EVERYONE knows you have something wrong with you.
>>9321577well fucking said
>>9321461>dressing as white Miku for your weddingFuck, that's a really cute idea, and I feel like weeb trash for thinking so.
>>9321047>once I get to a meetup things go downhill pretty obvious answer to me what you should be doing but whatevs
>>9321047wait, if you know for a fact 'things go downhill' once you get to a meet why are you even going? that screams attention whore to me, like you know you won't be okay at the meet and still go? pretty obvious that you want people to deal with your anxiety attacks and like >>9321241 said, don't treat the comm like your therapist. why should we have to deal with your mental problems? ones that you seemingly like to show off. everyone has problems, you need to learn to deal with yours
>>9320899Just go in a nice outfit, and if it's filled with nornies you'll be the star of the show and get poon.
>censoring electra-chanCome on, it was just getting goodPls bring her back
I know this isn't cgl related, but I just have to let this out. I can't stand being autistic anymore. It's really hard to talk to people, and I can never tell if I'm being annoying or not. Someone can be telling me I'm annoying and I won't notice, and other times I think someone is annoyed by me when they never were. I often just don't talk to anyone to avoid the chance that I'll annoy them. And I have memories of myself as a little kid that make me want to shoot myself every time I think about them because I was so retarded. I'm a lot better than I used to be, and I'm still getting better, but I'll never be normal, and that really depresses me. I always see normal people talking to each other and having lots of friends, and they look so happy. I'll never be like them.
>>9321719Make friends with other autists yoAlmost all my friends are fellow autists and it's pretty fantastic because we get each other
>>9321728I have friends who are autistic too, and they're the best friends I have. Maybe I'm comparing myself to others too much instead of enjoying what I have. I don't have to be friends with everyone. I should appreciate the friends I have more. I think I'm just depressed because I'm always surrounded by people who aren't autistic, and it makes me really feel how different I am. It sucks being different. But I have friends who are like me, and I feel normal around them. That's what matters. You're right about me having to just be friends with other autists to be happy.
>>9321743>Maybe I'm comparing myself to others too much instead of enjoying what I have. I don't have to be friends with everyone.Probably. I'm not autistic, and don't have many friends. Some people are social, some people have lots of friends, some people enjoy staying in Friday nights. I think it has more to do with what kind of person you are, rather than having a social disability or whatever autism is considered.
>>9321719Get therapy. It will help. No need to suffer in silence over your awkwardness.
>>9321743Hey buddy, I was in a similar boat as you a while back. Idk if the way I dealt with it is the healthiest way, but it worked for me. I realized that me and my autistic friends are, at the end of the day, way better people than almost every non-autist I know. We're more genuine, interesting, and in generally we're waaay smarter than neurotypicals. Also, the whole lack of empathy thing is BS, we just don't empathize with people in ways that are deemed socially acceptable.Realize your superiority and then laugh at how basic all your non-autist friends with your fellow autists.
>>9321743Hey buddy, I was in a similar boat as you a while back. Idk if the way I dealt with it is the healthiest way, but it worked for me. I realized that me and my autistic friends are, at the end of the day, way better people than almost every non-autist I know. We're more genuine, interesting, and in general we're waaay smarter than neurotypicals. Also, the whole lack of empathy thing is BS, we just don't empathize with people in ways that are deemed socially acceptable.Realize your superiority and then laugh at how basic all your non-autist friends with your fellow autists.
>>9321759>and in generally we're waaay smarter
>>9321761>waaay smarter than neurotypicals>realize your superiority thats why yall bash your heads into walls when you're frustrated and can't function in society, right? i sure as hell believe you're autistic, anon
>friend and I get together one afternoon to put together a modelling app for me for con>send it in 3 weeks before deadline>no confirmation but that's not out of the ordinary from past experience>wait, wait, wait>message department after holidays and deadline>We haven't received any app for Anon, pls re-send it to head department's email, we'll let the designers know>o-ok>wait, wait, wait>start seeing friends post about being models for diff designers>still nothing in email>message department>All Models should be notified!>o-okWell, good to know I'm either a) an ugly piece of shit who should just burn all my jfash and kill myself or b) the con is some true disorganized bullshit.And now I have to buy a fucking badge at this full expensive fucking price. I'm so frustrated, I'm nearly in tears, gulls.
>>9321779>Forgetting that autism is a spectrum
>>9321788There's a chance they didn't get your application, but there's the chance that they simply got lots of applications (very likely) and that the overall standard of applications was high. Also the con organisers don't choose - the designers do - and maybe they have something really specific in mind e.g. JetJ always seem to have tall Pre-Raphaelite looking models, and you didn't fit that mold for whatever reason. That doesn't mean you are ugly, or don't have good taste anon. I've been roped into fashion shows at the last minute because someone else dropped out, and although I wasn't as good a fit for the image the brand wanted, they had to compromise. This has happened twice now lol.
>>9321788Don't kill yourself and burn your jfash, anon. After having to send it in a second time a lot of slots probably filled, and it wasn't a matter of you being unattractive, but just getting your info in a little too late. Sorry you have to pay more, but don't be too upset.
>>9321499Atlanta. Pretty big scene here, but I've been away for a long time and just got back. All my friends dropped the scene, moved away, or some other shit. Kinda sad, maybe I'll start doing commissions.
I have a really great group of friends, we go to local conventions, do day trips to large game shops/comic shops/nerd destinations.. But i'm the only one into cosplay/lolita. I really want to go to a large convention with them all and make all their costumes, but none of them are on board with the idea. I'm the youngest in the group, so maybe that's why I'm more starry-eyed about conventions, but it still kind of sucks, ya know. And then when I go to groups on campus that are into Jfash and all of that, I suddenly feel like the boring one. I'm not hyper like most of the members are like I feel like the normie, and I just feel kind of embarrassed. Has anyone found the holy grail of friends that are into CGL related hobbies but are still adults? If that makes sense.
>>9321805>>9321806Thank you for the comforting words, gulls. I checked and badge prices aren't as bad as I thought so I'll be going. Just gotta swallow my pride and try to support my friends at the fashion show.
>>9321461Oh wow, maybe not a white cosplay but I'd love to have a cosplay wedding dress.Too bad I'm an old spinster of 28 who'll never marry.
Is one ounce of paint enough to cover size 14 sneakers.
>>9321702It's fine gull, not the first time a mod has put me down because of my condition.Boys are allowed to discuss how much they wanna bang their moms, dickgirls and vore; but the minute a girl mentions her unusual fetish we gotta sound the alarm and quarantine the area.Catch you around
>>9321869Do you know what an ounce is?
>>9321788Maybe you shouldn't be applying for things if you can't handle not being picked.
>>9321906That's not an answer.
>>9321879Don't fuck your dad. Get therapy.Or just find a handsome older guy who DIDN'T create you with one of his loads.
>>9321869i know this feel.
hate being unable to wear knee socks because they go waay above the knees
>>9321869Such a relatable feel...Shoo shoo >>9291738
>>9321869Heavy feels, anon.
>>9321444Gotta say anon, you just sound like a massive cunt. Maybe you should jut stop going to meets, sounds like they'd be better without you.
I have so many dream dresses being sold second hand but no money ;-;
>>9321450No, you deserve to be happy just like everyone else. All the lolitas I know are sweet girls who are actually very inclusive.
>have con coming up in two weeks>haven't done any work on costumes>friend asks if I'm going to another con in a month>start daydreaming about cosplays for that con>no brain stop that>planning out those cosplays>no go work on->buying materials for those cosplays>but you have to finish->start cutting pieces for those cosplays>WHY ARE YOU LIKE THISI'm so sorry, costumes that I only have twelve days to finish. I have no self-control, and Impulse is my sadistic master.
>tfw you're starting to wonder if your severe social anxiety is actually some kind of undiagnosed autism or aspergersI just want to make friends who are into cosplay and jfash, but I tell myself people dislike me and avoid meets because of it. I always thought my struggling to connect with other people was due to awkwardness from being shy and anxious, but I'm wondering if maybe it's more than that. My brother's an aspie. Maybe it's in both of us.
>tfw your con crush gets married to a girl way bitchier than you
>>9321381Mimi ni Todoke, really cheesy shoujo romance about a socially awkward girl, but in a good way.
>>9321850That's sad, anon.>>9322239Thanks, but how did you reply to my post hours after it was deleted?
>>9322288Because my 4chan scripts show posts that have been deleted.
>>9321837You'll have loads of fun watching the show anyway- especially if your friends are in it. Maybe focus on trying to get some nice pics of them so they can see how they looked without waiting for the professional photos to be released.
>>9321869Probably, but I would get 2 anyways. If the color difference is great or if the shoes are textured/pieced, def. 2
>>9322108It's a spectrum, that means everyone is on it.
>>9321450Yeah pretty much
>>9320931no it fucking wouldn't. the Endless appear in different forms depending on who is looking, and Jill Thompson used asian influences (chibis and manga) when she illustrated. then there is Amano-sensei's contributions to consider.
>>9321047I suggest someone with fake 'anxiety' just chill tf outIf they can't do that then idk take a few shots or smoke a little before you show up
>>9322446and anyway, even without asian-influenced designs, the fact still remains that the Endless have endless iterations according to who encounters them. you have SO MUCH FREEDOM when cosplaying from this series.
>>9321467Is /cgl/ supposed to be a polite board?I'm new here
>>9321266this is a cool story, gull
>>9322108not all awkward, anxious introverts are autistic. there are so many ways someone can end up a misfit, and if you jump to the autism conclusion without a proper diagnosis you might never treat the real cause.>>9322449there is no hivemind, newfag. there never is.
>>9322449Commonly yes, but honesty goes above politeness. If your outfit looks hideous we'll say so, but if you look hideous yourself we won't make unnecessarily nasty comments.
>>9322452Yeah but most boards have their own 'culture'Even if they're not a hivemind
Any time someone mentions any AP chocolate print, this secret comes to mind. EVERY TIME with the voice. Scrolling through wardrobe posts/wishlists is a nightmare since I cant get it out of my head.
>>9322449>Is /cgl/ supposed to be a polite board?laughingwhores.jpg
>>9322453>hideous yourself we won't make unnecessarily nasty comments.*unless you're fat or a genuinely ugly white person
>>9322460i appreciate the realness of this post
>>9322454here it is more like different threads have their own standards of politeness. feels threads go all over the place. threads based on doing something productive (draw thread, crafting threads, coord help thread, Secret Santa threads, etc.) tend to be pretty polite with a dash of salt. threads based on evaluating content from off-site (Amino, online comms, CoF) tend to be gossipy saltfests. "Bad X" threads are equal parts humor, pity, and salt.some rules enforce a type of politeness due to /cgl/ needing to be disciplined by the mods to keep from becoming a festering hole of stalking and harassment, i.e. do not make threads targeting someone, certain people/topics tend to get deleted even if not explicitly disallowed (Behind the Bows), and we usually censor names in screenshots.
>>9322491Is it just because less influence from /pol/ and /b/
>>9322452Thats true, and I'm certainly not going to go self-diagnosing or anything. It's just something I've been thinking about recently, and reading some of these feels made me wonder even more. I wouldn't say I'm an introvert, though, more like an extremely socially anxious extrovert. I like people and attention and have fun when I do go to meets and cons, but I'm a nervous wreck beforehand and end up crying afterwards every time because I convince myself everyone I interacted with would probably rather suffocate to death than ever be in the same room with me again.
>>9322496no, those are containment boards. hobby boards have less tolerance for shitposting because we are trying to improve skills and network with other hobbyists
>>9322502>Hobby boards have less shitposting
>things are going well, depression is getting way better,finished studying for my exams and working on getting better at drawing>overhear mom and dad arguing>my dad's an asshole and plan to leave her after having 4 kids because she "imposed" him that and he wants "freedom" yadda yadda>my mom says something along the lines of "anon1,anon2,anon3 and anon4 were artifical inseminations, we had to make that choice, and you were pretty damn consenting!!">drop pen>i'm fucking 21 and they never told me>proceeds to feel terrible>if this asshole leaves we probably won't be able to live because of financial problemsWhy did i have to be born as some useless asperger? Why were my brothers plagued with some kind of illness too? I should probably sell all of my lolita in case something happens, so at least i can be useful.
My friend called me really adorable! I've been feeling worried about not being able to wear fairy kei and sweet lolita when I was younger, but now I feel better. I think I can definitely continue to wear it for the next 10 years as long as I take good care of my skin.
>Tiny friend is cleaning out her closet>Friend used to be fat and not so tiny>Has now changed lifestyle for good>Lost a lot of weight, yay her!>Be me>Be bigger, aka average size>Might fit into her clothes>Offers to give me whatever fits for free>Heck yes>Trying clothes out>Her short/fat size matches well with my taller/normal frame>Asks if I would mind a lolita dress>Avid /cgl/ lurker, but never tried>Pulls out Bodyline Chocoberry in pink>Uncertain.jpg>Pulls on, not convinced >Readjust shoulders>...>Offers me to try with her petti>Apply floof>Holyshitwhat.webm>Marvel at the feeling of being kawaii>Pray her roommates don't see me when using the mirror in the hallway>Jeans, t-shirt, pink cheap dress with petti>Don't look right but feel beautiful>I own this dress nowI think the fashion was ignited for real in my heart today, gulls.
>>9322685Nice to read a happy ending.
>>9322685Welcome to lolita anon.You made a good first choice, it's a pretty decent and cute dress to begin with.
>>9322685That's sweet but that dress is hideous
>take ADD meds to help me finish cosplay>get super-focused for like five hours, then masturbate uncontrollably for fourI feel like such a failure
>>9322108I wouldn't worry unless you have noticed a inability to feel empathy. You sound anxious. Like... your anxiety is so bad that you are prematurely writing off that people dislike you before even meeting people. Anxiety is a very real mental illness despite not being the main ones you hear about. It prevents people from actually going out to live life once they begin acting entirely based off anxiety issues.
>>9320935You realize mentally ill people can be neurotypical, right? You may want to rephrase that.
>tfw your lolita space gets invaded by age-players
>>9323184Ok fine, how about if I call it "normal"?
>be me, wear Lolita casually but also wear normie shit>Mum hates it, uses it as a scapegoat for the stupidest shit.>Take my road test today for my full driver's license>Fail for garbage reason (Not checking right. Except I do. Whatever.)>Text mum, tell her>"WERE YOU WEARING LOLITA?">MFW I was wearing pants and a sweaterI don't even wear Lolita when I have to drive longer than 15 minutes. Let alone a fucking road test.
My roommate and her friend were super curious about lolita stuff so they asked me to show them my two dresses I'd brought from when I'd moved out, which I was super scared of because I thought they'd make fun of me like literally everyone else I'd shown them to but instead they were weirdly supportive to the point of getting me to try them on again for the first time in almost a year. It was really nice and honestly unexpected from them (they're very normie college party girl type) but now I'm missing the fashion, and I can't really afford to go back to it right now. I would be fine with settling with digging up my fairy kei stuff again until I get more money, but I've got short hair now, so I'm scared I'll look very "tumblr" no matter how well coordinated the outfit is.
>Meet con crush outside of con>We're hitting it off super well>See a movie, go to arcade, eat dinner>Briefly mention that it's getting late and my house is pretty far, but I don't wanna bother him to drive me all the way there>Please say "crash at my place" please please please>"I don't mind, I drive long nights to cons across the state all the time!">He drives me all the way to my house>"Oh man, I feel bad still. You don't have to drive back, you can stay here and go home in the morning.">omg how bold of me, I said it!>"Sorry, need to feed my cat. I'll see you at the next con though, right? Tell me what you're cosplaying and we'll maybe plan something together?">Cry myself to sleep>Except I can't sleep>I'm here on 4chan at fucking 3 AM shitposting about him
>>9323641Don't beat yourself up about that. While it might feel like shit right now it's not like all hope is lost. It sounded like you had a great date, he just wasn't up to sleep over. That's a good sign if you ask me, because he seems cautious of not getting into anything much too fast.Although, if that hanging out was not outspokenly "a date" you're right to feel bad. Unclear motives leave anyone in a shitty crush-limbo. I sincerely hope you were honest and upfront from the start because if not you're pretty fucked.
>>9323641>"how bold of me">didn't just ask him to bang if you wanted to so badDoesn't sound bold to me
>>9323671yes, because anon was being 100% serious and not being light about the situation at all...I swear, autism must be caused by 4chan, I need to leave before I too can no longer read between the lines and understand basic subtle humor.
>>9323641Don't worry I'm that stupidly oblivious to hints as well - I've been straddled at a party and still not got the hint (admittedly I was a bit drunk).Just keep talking to him about shit, maybe organise that pair cosplay like he said?Literally nothing to worry about, you got this.
>>9323674That wasn't funny at all and your reaction is incredibly overblown.
>>9323641Does he have a cat tho? Cos he's earning brownie points in my book putting his wholly dependent small helpless companion's needs ahead of everything else. And he asked to plan a cosplay together, so you didn't entirely bomb out, just talking to him until he gets the hint.If he has no cat .... well, at least you know where you stand...
>>9323641Should have said "My cat needs to be fed too" if he wasn't getting the less subtle hints.
>>9323146I get this feel too anon, at least you did some good work beforehand
>big autistic head>If I put caps on correctly, my head is strangled>put caps on incorrectly, they slide offWhat the fuck do I do now?
>>9323641As someone who's deeply attached to an extremely picky cat (that fucker won't eat dry food and needs to be fed wet food 3 times a day), not being able to stay the night without making previous arrangements for the cat seems pretty valid. It could have been you, anon, but it also could have actually been the cat.
>>9323641>>9323740As a person with a pet, this. Idk where I am if I don't have a plan in place for my pets I am going home.
Paying 130€ custom fees on my taobao order makes me want to die.
>>9323358I'm 99% sure that this chick in our comm wears a diaper to meets. I hear it crinkle.She's one of those lolitas who insists on talking like a loli.
>>9323948yuckthat's so fucking awful. I wish we could ban people like this from meets
>>9323506You had to fail a couple things to not pass your drivers test so it wasnt just looking right. Also. Your moms weird like a lot of other moms.>fucking ott coord so hard you fail your drivers test. You should have said "yes, but why?" when she asked you.
>>9322808No, it's really not
>>9323506If you start acting like a normal adult and do responsible adult things she'll leave you alone.Source: I finally got a job and a boyfriend and my mom actually likes Lolita now.
>>9323641It's not a bad sign that he didn't sleep over. It might be a bad sign that he didn't make plans before the next con though. When's that going to be?
>>9324004>he didn't make plans before the next conor he he's willing to reconsider them to make plans with anon
Just booked my hotel with a friend for Wondercon! I'm so excited, its my first time staying at a hotel for a convention and I'm going with my favorite cosplay partner. I feel kind of bad though. I have some nerd friends who have joined me at previous conventions who I'm purposefully not telling about buying badges and booking hotels. I'm sure they'd be excited to go, but after two cons with them and having a group that was just too big to function I just don't want to deal with that hassle again. I'm also a little nervous that my cosplay friend might ditch me to do photoshoots (she's much more into the scene than I am) but even if she does, I think I'll still have a great time.
>>9323974The examiner claimed I failed to look right multiple times. I think the problem may have been that because my car is so short (less than 3m long)and fishbowl-tier I don't have to look over as deliberately to check my blind spot. I can see out the rear window quite easily.Like I said, whatever. I have another test booked so it's not the end of the world. I'll be more deliberate about it next week.I did briefly consider telling her I went all out, as she gave me shit me not two days ago about wearing casual sweet on a coffee date.>>9323997You mean adult things like getting my full license?When I worked during my co-op she complained to me about spending any of my money on my hobbies. She's just mad I'm not doing what she would be doing if she were me. Lately she's been complaining about never having grandchildren. I don't worry much about what she thinks. The only reason I'm late taking my final road exam is because I took extra classes over the summer. If I were a penniless NEET you'd be on to something, but I'm not.Maybe things will change once I finish my degree.
Why is everyone else so debaucherous? I feel so out of place in social settings
I'm working on a cosplay for a con, but I feel like it looks terrible. Someone else posted their cosplay of the character and I feel so unskilled in comparison. It's not even a really difficult costume. I want to start from scratch all over again... What do??
>>9324414Hey. Don't feel bad about your cosplay compared to someone else's cosplay. Are you happy with the work you've put in? Could you do better? Have you made the best cosplay that you can make with your skills, time, and resources? If you've worked as hard as you can on your cosplay, don't worry about it. Not everyone can create godtier cosplays. Focus on improving your skills and doing the best you can. Don't beat yourself up over mistakes, learn from them. Now, on the other hand, if you've done a shitty job and you know you can do better, decide if you have the time and money to finish it before the con. If you can, start over. If you can't, finish what you've started and do better next time.
>>9324214I know that feel, anon. Drugs, cigarettes, excessive drinking and promiscuity are for degenerates. It's sad to feel out of place but know that the reason for that is that you're one of the few decent humans around.
>>9322685I bet your not average All fat fucks say that they're the average body typr
>>9323948The next time she sits down next you loudly exclaim 'What was that?? Anon! I think you sat on something! I heard crinkling??' and just keep bringing it up until the cunt leaves.
>>9323641What the fuckDo you want his car to starveJesus fuck
>>9323641Did you give him gas money for driving you home?
>super lonely because bf broke up with me>want to meet up with local lolita comm to make friends>they allow other jfash so I'd show up in mori>tfw afraid that they might turn out to be bitches
>been lurking lolita for a couple of years>just finish school and want to buy brand>apply for jobs for 3 months. nothing. not even an interview>I dont have any experience besides volunteering at various places - charity kitchens, childcare, etcIs it really this hard gulls? I just want to fulfil my dream of wearing brand let alone lolitaAlso other things happening>don't know what to do with life now that I have left school>only 2 good friends because all the other ones at were edgy emo shits>can't afford to go out because I have hardly any money>chip front tooth and had to pay to get it fixed>toe nail breaks after faggot dropped their suitcase on it>now woke up to explosive diarrhoea >i just want to be cute ffs
>at local Asian festival with friends and boyfriend while wearing lolita and introduce my main friends to my lolita friends >slutty girl in my comm gives my other friend her number who is also my boyfriends roommate >ask her to please don't try to date my boyfriends roommate because it'll make things awkward for me and even more awkward if things don't work out>she says she won't>fast forward 3 weeks on the weekend >cuddling on the couch while watching a movie>hear some girl talking>hear a giggle the sounds like comm sister>front door opens and see comm sister holding hands with boyfriends roommate >talk to her calmly and ask her if i can talk to her in private >go outside with her and ask her what the fuck is she doing not only i asked her to not whore around with my friends like she did other girl in our comm but THE PERSON i asked her not to date >says shes her own person and she'll fuck who she wants>boyfriends roommate is gross AF and actually autistic >she storms off and kisses my friends goodbye CALLING HIM DADDY>present day >their not talking anymore >he's a calm mess because she told him she was't plaining on dating him for a long time anyway>he told my boyfriend his crotch feels itchy and is going to get a STD test tomorrow>really worried she actually gave him a STD or something TL;DR slut member of anon's comm fucked anon's boyfriends roommate after anon asking her to please not also its not that i think my friends are my people to own just i know she's not the best person for him, plus i don't want my normal friends mixing with my lolita friends and i don't want my comm sister maybe hearing me moan or getting a dicking on the weekend
>>9324623We cannot tell people who they can and cannot fuck. Anon has no jurisdiction over their boyfriend's roommate. That's silliness. Sexually transmitted diseases are not a silly matter however, and that really sucks. He won't know until he is tested. Unless he's got bumps growing, unexplained 'zits', weird discharge, or general fatigue, he's likely in the clear. It might just be a UTI or yeast which men can sometimes suffer from. Also, ask him if he has shaven recently. That could also explain an itchy crotch if he was just trying something new.
>>9324623Sorry anon but unless someone is in a relationship already it's not your place or anyone's place to stop people from having sex with each other. It's none of your business. He's probably fine though. Probably just ingrown hairs from shaving (wouldn't be surprised if slutty girl made him shave) or a UTI. Honestly most STDs are pretty easy to cure, just embarrassing and inconvenient.
>>9324643>>9324634yeah i now realize its pretty pitty of me to tell her not to sleep with my boyfreinds roommate i just knew it was gonna make things awkward at cons with us while i meet my comm friends also i really hope about the hair or UTI thing
>>9321850Over here we call your type 'Christmas Cake' Just saying, I love Christmas Cake.>o bby
>>9324623Gross.Now your bf has to live with that autistic std ridden boy.
>>9324643>Honestly most STDs are pretty easy to cure, just embarrassing and inconvenientlmao what's with this attitude?
Why are almost all guys who show some interest into lolita absolute creeps? I swear every single one of them is into ageplay/sissy shit and it's gross. Either that or they're just some smelly weirdo who thinks everyone who wears lolita is a slut. Just click on any male profile commenting on a lolita video, even the ones making innocuous comments and I GUARANTEE their youtube likes will be some SISSY T-GIRL TRANSFORMATION garbage. I hate it.
>>9324659Because the only males who will have an interest in something as thoroughly feminine as lolita are going to be outcasts. Honestly, did you really need to be told this
>>9324657Not sure what attitude you mean, anon is right. Most STD's are easily treated, and they are embarrassing. Or are you one of those morons that thinks everything is Herpes?
>>9324618do you mean high school or university? if high school swallow your pride and work at mcdonalds or do factory work if you haven't found anything in 3 months (and have actually been looking for a job), if you just graduated uni and have nothing but volunteer experience that's entirely your own fault for not taking uni seriously
>>9324670Actually HPV is bad because it is not curable. Men are mostly asymptomatic, but it can sometimes result in issues such as 'itching' or small fleshy bumps. HPV is bad because the man now deals with the fact they can potentially spread it to any other partner, and that partner risks developing cancer and infertility as a result. Herpes is a very common STD with one out of 5 people on average having the disease. (I'm talking about the genital kind.) It's certainly something to worry about. Unless you keep it a secret, both things can be deal breakers in finding a partner. I think that's why most people freak out concentrating on those two diseases. Yes, syphilis and gonorrhea are easily cured. HPV and genital herpes are not curable through modern medicine.
>>9324670Anon is right, I wasn't questioning the pathology of STDs. I was laughing at her attitude. I guess what I meant is:>lmao you're so flippant about STDs.
>>9324623I mean, in return you'll hear her moan and get the dicking. In fact, why not just fuck in the same room and stare each other in the eyes while banged from behind? That happens all the time in my Japanese mature audience cinema.
>Study design>Not really a travel person>Don't even think abut going to exchange>But...>Today get an e-mail from our teacher>Japan is looking for a person in my field>Open for everyone, not only students>It would be 1,5 month exchange with all living costs payedGulls, what should I do? I don't think I even have a chance since there might be professionals applying but should I try?
>>9324585if you keep being afraid you will kill your opportunities for friendship.
>>9324886try. embrace the opportunities that come your way because once you graduate you won't have any time left to experiment
>>9324894I think your lifestyle is boring and wanton. What are you going to do about it, dweeb?
>>9320815>tfw I know that feel brother
>>9320891You should have saved yourself by screaming reeee lolita normies
>>9321089hey look you are me in female forms, no worries life gets easier. The future is blend and boring enjoy the people and the drama and the feels of depression. Because one day you might feel nothing and get stuck in your motion of daily life.
>>9324943Well, I will keep on living while you die early because you have abused your body for to long as I kept my body healthy to live past the human life force and decent as a super being called bothers of fit. Drugs and other substances are for sad people that don't know how to live and enjoy life the way they are. You need to seek help my friend. You need to become fit.
>>9321761yeah no wonder all of the leaders of the free world are totally autistic
>>9321761https://iancommunity.org/ssc/measuring-iq-autismanyway here you go spergo perhaps your autism smarts made you forget that reality might have a different opinion than you
>That feel when you want to get into cosplay but the only character you can cosplay as is Rude b/c you're fit and more importantly baldAt least I already have the suit.
>>9325112What about pic related? He got so /fit/ that he lost all his hair in the meantime.
JAP'S PIG FACE,Ingress's account name is SkipAway.This man was to watch out in injury and burglarizing in Tokyo and Soka, SaitamaSkipAway raped many people and hurt many people with violence.ジャップの豚顔、イングレスのアカウント名はSkipAwayです。この男は、傷害事件と強盗を東京都と埼玉県草加市で起こしました。SkipAway はたくさんの人々をストーキングや脅迫、性暴力を起こしました。
>>9324425>judging people worth on the substances they took and the sex they've had>not about their empathy and sense of justice>decent>>9324623Lol you're such an entitled person. You literally want to ruin an autistic boy chances for relationship because he's your roomate bf? What in the hell?
>when u try on ur pride and joy costume for the first time in six months and it still fits despite suspected holiday chub gain.THANK DOG.
>>9325118But I have the suit.And I'll never seen that show. I really should though.
>>9324623You sound like a mother hen and who the roommate or comm girl fucked was really none of your business. I can't think of one scenario of how her fucking the autistic would effect you in any way whatsoever.Tell the autist to scrub his dick, probably cheeto dust and dick jam.
>>9325127>judging people worth on the substances they took and the sex they've had>not about their empathy and sense of justice>decentWholeheartedly seconded. I'm a pretty "innocent waifu" type myself, but some of the biggest assholes I've ever met were holier-than-thou straightedges, while THE most wonderful sweetheart you've never met is a pot dealer.
>>9325160>judging people on substances they took Drug addicts are fucking trash, they're a waste of space and resources.
>>9325164Drug addiction is an illness and you are part of the problem, not the solution.
>>9325164You're a waste of space and resources.
>>9324943don't be a doofus, the only wanton thing about my lifestyle is my wanton disregard for terminal punctuation>>9325112wigs are a thingalso post in the suggestion thread, there is definitely more than one fit baldy in the world>>9325160>some of the biggest assholes I've ever met were holier-than-thou straightedges,isn't it weird how so many people who claim to have the moral high ground seem unable to demonstrate compassion or basic human decency to others? it's almost like thinking they're better than everyone else gives them the perfect excuse to be an avaricious fucktard.
>>9325165Give me a fucking break, how is being a drug addict an illness? Cancer is illness, pneumonia is illness, the stomach bug is illness, choosing to do drugs isn't a fucking illness.
>>9325183Actually certain kinds of drugs do cause physical and mental dependencies and often need medical intervention in order for people to stop completely. Some drugs rewire the way the brain chemically functions. Then that person needs to actively avoid said substances for the rest of their life.>sage for OT derailment bc you're a big stupid dumb dumb
Proposal anon from a few threads back - I'm struggling with what to put the damn ring in/how to actually do this. The only person I could talk to about this is my partner's best friend and they'd probably kill me if I made them keep this secret. My partner loves LOZ, so those ring boxes would definitely be amazing, but it's not something that's as important to me. Would it be romantic to use that or not? If not, what we do both love that has had an impact on our relationship in some way would be Naruto. [My first delusional plan was surprise matching Yuri on Ice cosplays but then I realized he might think we're just acting out the characters]Please save me from just throwing the ring it my partner's face mid-con.
>>9325336I'll say the first step is making sure the ring is something that the person will actually wear their whole life. I think a themed ring box is a wonderful idea, but I'd suggest buying a ring that does not allude to any sort of show. The only reason is because this is a ring they need to feel comfortable wearing in their late 20's all the way through their 80's barring huge fluctuations of weight or edema. You can just throw it in their face, but make sure you do it in an area that you guys won't be getting knocked into or too noisy. If you are for real serious, possibly speak to the convention staff about what you are planning to do? Engagements don't happen everyday and niche events and venues often will have ideas or suggestions to make the engagement perfect. For example, if the convention has stage events, you might can set it up to actually go up on stage to present the ring to your beloved in front of everyone near the end of the stage event. They won't be expecting it. More important is just have something fun planned afterward, not that a convention isn't exciting enough. What's important is making sure the public realizes this is not a farce so when offering the ring, absolutely make a point of stating their real name, don't just say, 'Will you marry me?' Say, '*insert name*, will you marry me?' or something like that.
>>9325364Oh my god yeah no I stuck away from themed rings bc a) they're pricy as shit b) they're all way too OTT and/or ugly. I kept getting ads for these Pokemon ones that have tiny 3D Pokemon around the gems like how impossible to clean is that. The ring is simple and understated, but with just enough of a flair that it's not another solitaire. I hadn't even begun to think about what to do afterwards, so thank you for that. I just don't know what we could really do other than a nice meal, just us, and then maybe a room party? some of my roommates are friggin broke so I can't take everybody out for dinner bc it would ruin the atmosphere. I'm planning on Friday so we have time to do something. The problem is that all of my engaged/married friends are older than us or normies, and none of them got engaged at a con bc they aren't as important to the couples. I only know one person who had a con engagement and it was really awkward and didn't look like a great memory to look back on in my opinion. I don't want this to be a big thing, but I want it to be beautiful enough that looking back on it is sweet for everyone and not like I got in someone's way or stole the opportune photo spot from an entire group just to propose. (Landing the gazebo would be ace though)
>>9325050>>9325180I misunderstood. I though you were fedora tipping for not being into promiscuity, drugs and binge drinking
>>9324422Thank you Anon, you actually made me feel good enough to work on my cosplay again today. It's just that I haven't worked on anything in the past four years and I feel like a newbie again. I'm going to do my best to make it into something nice and if the end result isn't what I want, I'll try again! You're absolutely right in that learning from mistakes thing, I've already learned a lot from making this costume.
>>9325364Oh god if my fiance proposed to me on stage at a convention I'd absolutely hate him for it. Proposanon, please make sure your partner would actually be okay with something like that before you plan it out.
>>9325515Hooray! Go forth and create! And have fun at whatever event you go to.
>>9325521He would murder me and also I have stage fright so that is NOT HAPPENING. Whenever we would see those "flash mob proposals" we agreed that they're cute but please never do that.
>>9325165You life is an illness, I shall not give a fuck if those human trash have no self control. I do not drink or do drugs and I did them before you don't see me being addicted. Those people are weak, and the weak should fear the strong.
>graphic design and art as a living>7+ hours a day on computer with tablet>left hand on keyboard for hotkeys>left shoulder continually flexed>cramped all day every day>2 large projects deadlines coming up>one commission I got last week i still haven't started due to the two large projects>massive chronic shoulder paina-at least I'm getting paid desu
>>9325533>>9325521I'm assuming somebody would know if their partner would be okay with that. Hence why I gave other options. It's also still worthwhile to contact the venue to see if there's any options they can give you or inform you about ahead of time such as privacy.
>>9325745If you can afford it friend, please go see a doctor. You won't be able to keep making a living if you totally fuck your shoulder. Do physical therapy, learn ergonomics, whatever, but learn to draw without hurting yourself. It will be better for you in the long run.
>>9325197People can take drugs and not get addicted just by not being dumbasses. I did it, loads of other people did it, and the only reason drug addicts aren't doing it is because they lack reason, intelligence and self control. Mainly that last one.Thinking it's anything akin to an illness is only enabling these people to play the victim card.>>9325538>>9325183These people know what's up.The thing is that once you find out doing a certain drug is, unsurprisingly, loads of fun, you will be happy to take that victim card, call it an illness, so you can have your excuse to not stop.Believe me anon, I have a lot of experience with drugs and drug addicts, and the worst thing you can do is pity them, baby them and make them think it's not their fault. Because it is.
Also, is the convention at a hotel? Venues can be accommodating, but if it happens to be held next/at a hotel, the hotel staff can be far more accommodating since engagements and wedding related functions such as parties and honeymoons are nothing unusual. The hotel would also have far more private options then anything a convention could offer. If they are together, that would be a great opportunity to take him aside to a predetermined private location when the con is slow. Maybe a meal already delivered or something. You'll have to pay extra usually, but hotels can set things up. Have them set up a meal, a TV playing Naruto episodes if that's relevant, and privately propose, eat meal while watching Naruto and laugh, go back to con. You might could even decorate the room or patio, wherever it happens, ahead of time.
>>9325770Looks like someone needs to brush up on their neurology!
>>9324623update: he got tested and got a yeast infection,iv'e never had one so i don't know how bad it is for a guy but i still feel sorry that i introduced them both>>9325158the OP of the post hereas i said in the text,i don't want my lolita friends and my normal friends mixing and i also don't want her hearing me get a dicking
>>9325127Hedonism is inherently selfish
>>9325770i can agree with this post when it comes to pot, cocaine, or molly, percs…ya know, low key drugs. or low key to me.but herion/dope/roxys are a completely different horse of colors. those have harsh physical withdrawals. i can't vouch for xnanax bars or lean because i have no tried those.i don't believe you can get addicted to shrooms or LSD, but for the sake of your stomach i suggest maybe don't try shrooms.
>make friends through fandoms online>plan meetups irl>week of meetup>suddenly try to find every excuse not to go every timewhat's wrong with me
>>9325952Social fear or nervosity? If they are decent people, get over yourself and meet them anon.
>>9321185I placed two orders from Mercari with from Japan. I order from other Japanese websites often but it was my first time with that one. I waited over a week and it still said order pending, so I messaged them, I don't think I got a reply back the first time but the next day they had put that notice up saying they weren't taking orders from mecari. So I messaged them again and ask to cancel and got a reply and they refunded.
>>9321814im in buford?? handmade lolita too
>painting shoes for tea party>put on face mask>mfw I'm forced to breathe my own burps for 20 minutes
>>9325836>>9325947>>9325770Here a educational video about addiction, and how if you have strong self control and in a good environment addiction never settles in. meaning addiction is a myth and people who are addicted should get a life. http s://youtu.be/ao8L-0nSYzg
>>9326146how are you burping so much that you can't go 20 minutes without doing it?
>>9326163Same thing when I eat mexican. Never eat Mexican specially at con. Trust
>girl in our comm dies>four years pass>her mom is still posting her pics to the group at least once a week
A friend of mine told me she wanted to wear lolita after seeing my first coordinate. I didn't want her to at first since she's one of those "Body positive/ tumblr/ fakeboi" types, but I decided to guide her into the right direction and send her links to blogs like fyeahlolita and stores like bodyline and taobao to get her started. She didn't listen to me. She bought milanoo maid dress trash. 2 or 3 dresses, normie blouses, and some beat up Mary Jane type shoes. The dresses didn't even fit. Nothing fit. On top of that, she started talking in a loli-voice; nails on a chalkboard it sounded like. I was upset because I wanted to see her blossom into a beautiful lolita, and she just totally disregarded everything that was readily available to her. When I asked her why she bought what she bought instead of stuff from taobao or bodyline since they were having a massive sale, she tells me "She couldn't afford it and none of the clothing were her size." There are taobao stores that do custom sizing. Sure, it's expensive, but the fashion isn't cheap and it costs more when you're a plus sized girl. I told her that I don't want to be seen with her if she's going to portray herself so sloppily. And she said that "she's doing lolita her own way and she doesn't have to waste money on brand" I just said fine. I told her that I didn't want to be seen in public with someone who portrays themselves that way and until she learns how to dress, I want nothing to do with her. I feel really bad because well.. she was my friend and I've been crying because I feel really stupid for even thinking that I could make her into this beautiful lolita and I want to apologize to her because of how mean I was. I feel extremely bad...
>>9320891>dressed as Spider-Gwen>five-toothed Naruto asks for a pic>strike a spider pose>suit stretches; pulls my underwear up my vagina>let him take a quick pic, then dash toward the bathroom to unclog the drain
>>9326175>pulls my underwear up my vagina>let him take a quick picOf your vagina??
>>9326170ditching a friend over clothes seems really stupid. She may have been dumb, but she is better off without you.
>>9326208I agree. Yeah, ditching her for clothes was pretty messed up. I just want her to do better since she was doing so well and all of a sudden presents me with a mindfuck like that. I will apologize to her, I know I hurt her feelings
>Want to get into Lolita>Know fuck all about make up, colour co-ordination, what's a decent burando of dresses or wigs or anything>Live in Australia, shipping costs are insane, conversion rates are worse (1 Aud is 75 cent American)>Worried that some of my more douche bag friends will accuse me of being into age play>My sewing ability has dwindled into nothing, haven't done anything since secondary collegeI really want to get into it, I want to look pretty as all fuck and be happy.
>>9326284These are all things you can learn and get better at. Just sit down and read; reliable sources of information are posted and reposted all the time, all you have to do is dedicate time to it.As for shipping costs, I don't live in Australia so I wouldn't know but you should check if buying directly from Japan is easier for you than importing from the western market. I can tell you that shipping aside, it's definitely cheaper.>my more douche bag friendsI'm sorry but why are they your friends at all?
>>9326289Friends of friends who hang with the friendship group. One of them is my Best friend's on again off again boyfriend, he tends to laugh at my hobbies/interests a fair bit, like Godzilla and JoJo's Bizarre Adventure (He called me a furry for the first one and said that the anime looked like a bunch of gay buff dudes who do nothing but look weird).I'm definitely looking into buying from Japan, and I'll definitely look into it some more. Sorry for such a long reply, thank you!
>>9326291>a bunch of gay buff dudes who do nothing but look weirdWell... he's not entirely wrong.But in all seriousness, I know that getting into lolita can be overwhelming but try not to worry about it too much; you have every resource you can possibly need at your disposal (for starters, if you haven't checked it out yet: http://thelolitaguidebook.tumblr.com/)And if you feel like you really need to, you can ask questions in the lolita general thread or in the stupid jfash question thread >>9297988You can do this, anon!
My friend was trying on her new burando and a stray frill ripped her nipple ring right out. She showed me her nip today and it looks pretty fucked desu. I hope she can still come to the lolita pub crawl tomorrow.>>9326166Aww, this bummed me out.
>>9326476>nipple ringServes the slut right
>>9326476Was her piercing new or something? I know when you first get one done, you are suppose to stick to really loose shirts and even go without a bra if possible until it's had decent time to heal.That sucks!
>>9326476What, no bra?R.I.P. nipple
>>9326284>conversion rates are worse (1 Aud is 75 cent American)That is not how currency exchange works...
>>9326170Maybe just explain to her that you are really sorry about what you said. Do tell her that you really don't want her to start getting involved in the community only to end up getting bashed based off her appearance. You may have been mean, but strangers can be meaner. Just tell her that getting into lolita might take more time then someone who readily fits into the common sizes since she is bigger. Tell her to take it slow, and it might mean not having a whole closet full of coordinates. She's going to have to work slowly to acquire her outfits. She's going to have to start with getting a fitting dress, then move on to the blouses, the socks, the petticoats, and finally all the little accessories. Tell her it is better to have one solid good outfit then 3-4 outfits that will not work at all. For each outfit she completes, she's one step closer to buying another.It's likely not that she didn't 'listen' to you, but may not have had good examples. Maybe pull up the plus size lolita thread(s) in the archive or on an outside archive so she can see what can be achieved splurging on clothes that actually fit her. She will not be judged for taking her time to amass her outfits.
>>9326175>walking through con>overhear some girl dressed at the thong rabbit (the girl in the sailor suit? I see it all the time) on her phone>"I've had a fucking pussy-wedgie for hours.">make awkward eye contact and duck into the dealer room
>>9326175>walking through con>overhear some girl dressed at the thong rabbit (the girl in the sailor suit? I see it all the time) on her phone>"No, fuck you. I wedged this thong up my pussy all day for you.">make awkward eye contact and duck into the dealer room
>>9326047I always find something slightly off or wrong like attitude or varying levels of tumblr-unstable, which I guess is bound to happen when making friends online. But I still find excuses for avoiding the normal nice people. I like talking about fandoms online but not necessarily in real life.
>>9326476>lolita pub crawlThat sounds awesome!Tell your friend to keep her nipple clean. You don't want an infection for sure.
>>9325773I actually figured out a great location and setup go get him away from the crowds and somewhere that's nice and well lit, and I'll propose in Thursday since it's just prereg pick up. I managed to suck up the guts to tell one of my good friends and she let me bounce ideas around. We're going to do a couples photoshoot because we don't have a lot of photos together - I'm often awkward and shy and just wander off when people ask for photos. He's very excited at the idea of couple photos already, so I think I've got this in the bag! Now if anyone can help me figure out the mechanics of a ring box inside Naruto's frog wallet...
>>9326504Top fucking kek, anon. I assume you're talking about Shimakaze.
>>9326504>the thong rabbit
>met a hot guy at the con>ask him out over Fb>tells me he's already in a green car marriageShould I got for it anyway?
>>9326504Lol. When guys bring their normie gfs to the con.
I regret cutting all of my hair off. All I want is to be a kawaii waifu again.>rip ;~;
>be me>be lonelita>have no irl friends>parents always at work/at events>spend 2 hours primping every morning>do online coursework for college>read>lounge around>talk to online friends>knit>shop online>read>drink tea all throughout>rinse and repeatit is a lonely but happy existence
>>9326711It'll grow back anon don't worry
>>9326643Probably not. No is no regardless of the reason. They might have just been using that as an excuse to say no.Also there are plenty more hot men in the world.
>>9326732get a job?
>>9326643>he's already in a green car marriageIf my wife drove an ugly-ass green car, I'd dump her. Go for it.
>>9326170>>9326222You know that Simpsons episode with The Big Book Of British Smiles? You need to show her The Big Book of Fat Itas, and then examples of good plus size outfits with the price difference.
>Move away from home for better job, living with BF >BF has shit eating habits and after working most days I'm so tired I don't want to decide what to eat, just eat whatever he'll provide >Gain an unsure amount of weight because there's no scale in this house>No energy or privacy to work out either>Con season is coming up and I have a closet full of unworn cosplays I won't fit into>Tfw
>>9326841That's a much more humorous to say what I was trying to imply. I'm dying of laughter now.
>>9326834i applied but i'm waiting for responsesi'm not that worried about it though because i don't need the money and i have enough to do at home
Good feels incoming!>sudden motivation at 2 am to crank out resume and cover letters for dream job>close to home and I have attended the campus before I transferred>already have experience as a student assistant to same job in the first place>so confident I'll get contacted and interviewed right now it is literally the first time in 2 years I have felt so proud of myself and it's just an application>thigh highs for costume finally came in and my legs look so good and they're comfy af>ready to attend ALA with friend visiting from TX really soon and just so happy right nowPLEASE DON'T BUM ME OUT WITH THE CURRENT STATE OF THE WORLD I JUST WANT TO ENJOY MY ANIME AND THE JOB I'M A SHOE IN FOR
>>9326846Here's a tipEat less
I'm going to a cosplay-related pub crawl TOMORROW, and I'm so excited. I may faint.There are probably gonna be qts there. I hope nobody thinks I look fat. (I ate cashews tonight.)
Some prominent girls in our comm went to protest in DC today. I hope they didn't get kill.
>>9327054I hope they did. This society is better off without all these petulant children running around in adult bodies who are THIS incapable of accepting they don't always get their way.
>>9327072i hope you aren't implying that right-wingers wouldn't have done the same exact thing if their candidate hadn't won
>>9326732how boring. part of the fun of lolita is the reactions from normies.
>>9327074I don't need to imply simple fact.There were no conservatives literally crying in the streets like fucking babies during Obamas inaugurations. Modern liberals are complete children.
>>9327077>I don't need to imply simple facttop kek
>>9327082At the very least they had reasons (albeit stupid illogical ones) to be protesting. If Obama actually wasn't born in America that would invalidate his presidency. What are liberals protesting exactly? On what grounds do they demand Trumps presidency be invalidated? Because they don't like him? He triggered them with offensive language? Because it was "her turn" and him not just letting Hilary win because she was a woman was apparently a crime?
>long time cosplayer>finally have a established group to cosplay with>feelsgood.jpeg>ex starts getting way too close with one girl in particular >"but im friends with both of you.jpeg"I remember why I liked cosplaying alone.
>>9327075i don't feel the need to show off
>>9327096But the whole point of loli is to make fiends.
>>9327102>make fiendswas that intentional or no? funny either way
>Meet girl online who likes weeb fashion and anime and interested in concentration scene (not on 4chan)>She's a little off but we get along well enough>Talk off and on, I'm not online much because my job has been pounding my ass with hours lately>Meet another girl with same interests, don't talk to her much>Both of them are pretty obviously weird and desperate for friendship with me for some inexplicable reason, but I'm super schizoid and am satisfied with touch-and-go social interaction>Suggest to first girl that I get her connected with second girl since they might hit it off, and I both are online more than I am>First girl gets mad and says she must be a bad friend and that I'm just like everyone else>Second girl still lonely because I rarely am online to talk and when I am, I don't have much to say because she is very self-deprecating >Both miserable and won't talk to meI'm fine with being ignored, but I feel like an assholeGod dammit what the fuck. How did I fuck up something so simple. I just thought it would be beneficial for both of them; I can't be everyone's monopolized BFF all the time. I barely even like talking to others for extended periods. Fuck.
>>9327153Eh, those types of people are really toxic and unhealthy to be around anyway. You're better off without them. >source: Recently cut everyone like that out of my life and have never been happier.
>>9327153>interested in concentration scenewhere do i learn more about thisi could use some concentration
Planners and bullet journals are a new trend in my comm, which is great, but most of those girls don't even have anything to plan and treat their bujo/planner like a pretty scrapbook with shiny stickers rather than a utility. One of them showed me hers and it had stuff like 'Gilmore girls binge watching :)' and 'self-care uwu' in it. It's so cringeworthy, I get decorating your planner but at least have stuff to plan?
>helping clean up after tea>find a pair of panties on floorHow the fuck do you lose your underwear at a tea party?
>>9324659I've only seen lolitas with normie bfs and this is probably why.
>>9327440I mean, a guy can appreciate the way you're dressed and like the things you wear but if he was into a hyperfeminine fashion like lolita before you met and/or got together with you because you wore lolita I feel that's a big red flag. I feel like the best thing would be a guy who's into alt fashion himself so he understands your struggle and probably doesn't care that you look "weird" but not a guy who's specifically into lolita. I know I could never date a normie, but I guess definitions of normie differ and just because they aren't into japanese shit it doesn't necessarily make them a normie.
>tfw going to see Sailor Moon R alone>asked all my weebs friends but didn't get direct answersI'll try to fight my social anxiety to chat with the people attending, but it'd be nice to know if they're going or not.
>>9327054My friend was supposed to come to a lolita event with me today, but the Burger King where she works called her in because the women's march is eating all their food.
>>9327560>going to dead-end job on your day offWhy?
>>9321210If that's your train of thought, lolita isn't for you anyway.
>>9327084Yeah, but they're not crying, assaulting people they disagree with and then running away, or destroying property in the name of a political philosophy that died when they stopped killing people.
>>9327628It's pretty hilarious how they try to act like Trump supporters and conservatives in generals are violent and evil, yet every story about any Trump supporters allegedly assaulting people turn out to be blatant lies, and all the cases with indisputable video evidence of people committing assault and other crimes are by liberals against trumps supporters (or just random white people).And they still can't understand how it's this kind of hypocrisy and lying (and of course the crimes themselves) that made people so sick of liberals and vote for Trump in the first place.
>>9327447Holy crap, I didn't know this was playing in theaters! I'm totally going, thanks Anon!
I have severe self image issues, and I am about 20lbs overweight for my height and build and...I hate fat people. I hate them. I can't stand the squinty eyes and double chins and fat rolls. I can't STAND the HAES and 'fat is beautiful' movements. Fat isnt beautiful! But I feel terrible because I have several friends that are obese and if they ever found out that I frequent and actively post in fatpeoplehate and despise the obese as much as I do they'll stop being my friends.
>>9327640>I don't like what people think of me! So I'll pretend to act like a dumbass! That'll show em!Bruh, you basically shot yourself in the foot just to show up some liberals
>>9327662What the hell are you talking about.
>>9327077Shouldn't you be gargling Putin's cock atm?
>>9327261People treat it more like a journal than a planner. It's just a difference in opinion of what the true purpose of the cutely bound paper really is.
>>9327667Are you committing a fucking micro-aggression against non-hetero individuals by implying being LGBTQZ is somehow wrong?You FUCKING BIGOT I'm going to destroy and loot stores in my own neighborhood until you get fired from your job and blacklisted from every industry forever because I'M SUCH A GOOD MORALLY SUPERIOR PERSON!
>>9327261I don't get the planner thing in general because I tend to use my phone to put down events and things to remember, as it tends to update in several different places so I don't forget. I think planners are just a way to pretty up your life. I don't use one but I do buy planner stickers to use in resin because they're pretty cute.
>>9327388If they smell funny you'd know how.Did you find the owner? Hopefully its a matching one so it wouldnt be hard to figure out.
>>9327650>I am about 20lbs overweight >I frequent and actively post in fatpeoplehatelose weight, hippo-critical bastard
>Mfw friends convince me to go back out after I'v already changed out of cosplay, taken off my makeup, taken out my contacts, washed my face, and gotten changed into comfy clothes after a long day in cosplay
>>9327650Keep hating fat people, be more transparent, lose weight
I saw a guy dressed as Bane downtown tonight. It was p sweet.
>>9327182I feel an obligation to people I've reached out to, like I have a responsibility to them after initiating contact or acknowledging their approaches. These hobbies really don't help with the whole not attracting weirdos thing.It doesn't help that I use apps like Amino and Line, which consist of a lot of emotionally frazzled teenage weeaboo girls who assume I'm a male and want me to be their senpai even when they find out I'm not. I don't understand why. I'm accepting and tolerant but I'm also a cold and indifferent autist>>9327234My autocorrect is nearly nonsensical, fug.
A guy who was going to be at our con lost his leg last week. Do you think he still come>? :C
>>9328065100% he'll be there. It was only a leg, anon.
>>9327650Hating yourself is the easiest way to change yourself. Keep on hating fatties, and you'll lose that weight.
How does this Instagram message sound?"Hey, would you like to be Facebook friends? I like to add cool people I meet at cons."
>>9320935Honestly, same. The only people that have RSVP'd to our next meet are literally social rejects. Three girls with autism, four fatties and three of them have attention seeking issues/defend replicas, a brolita who in 99% sure is in it for his fetish, and some supposedly trans ouji fakeboi fujoshit who just shows up in Ciel cosplay. Granted there are some people in my comm who are "normal", but they never seem to go all out on coords and they always seem under-dressed. Polished, but under-dressed.
>>9328048I've met too many people like that and I've just stopped caring. I'm not the perfect being they think I am, nor am I a qualified therapist. I'm already dealing with my own baggage, I don't need to carry anyone else's.
>deal with a really mean, jealous cosplayer last year>this girl is a bitch in the truest form, never met someone so blatantly mean for no reason before>tfw someone(s?) here as a vendetta against her and everyone defends her>she also got quite popular on social media and has a really likeable persona >tfw i wish i could just call her out and reveal her true natureI know it's so petty but I hate seeing someone so awful being perceived as this adorable angel. Vendetta chan, i don't necessarily support what you are doing but I'm sure she was a bitch to you too.
>>9328119>tfw just realized she probably thinks I'm the vendettafuck
Murder me now, fucking hell. Why is there like only one decent mens tails coat pattern out on the market? and the collar looks weird as fuck on it. Eugh. Less than a week till con and the contest... I know I can do this but fuck I need either booze or a sudden kick in the pants right now.
>>9327673I have a planner myself and use it because I forget things if they're written on a screen, this way it just feels more tangible. I just don't get why you need one if you don't use it for anything in particular.>>9327668But if it's a journal then surely they'd fill it in every day? These are mostly empty, save for one lonely event per month that isn't even anything important.
>>9328144for pax south?if so same here anon, i gave myself 3 months to finish my cosplay and only finshed 20-30% of what i have to do and i'm going full time to try and finish it
My squadron found my cosplay pics on FB and called me "Loli" in my naming ceremony cause I took pics with lolitas in my cosplay.
>>9329468>no Air Force cosplay GF
>>9329511Dudefag but yeah it could be worse, my buddy got biscuit. Also Cuckold Corp
>>9323997But she was doing normal adult things??
>>9324618Have you been calling them after you apply? But yeah, Im in the same boat as you
>>9326711Get bangsBangs add Cuteness +3 to any outfit
>>9327447>Sailor Moon RAre you in MD? I'll go with ya
>>9327234Go to the German threads