>also I apologize and don't expect anyone to read this but I need to vent where she can't see it
She wouldn't listen to any of my input, it was just waves of excuses, so in a last ditch effort, after I met the guy he wasn't that bad and I gave him a chance. She backed off.
Months go by, we start having issues, and I'm moving away, so we break up but remain friends. She's also moving away to live with her long-term boyfriend and from our talks it seems like she lost interest in him anyway. He also joined us for the con that year.
Months later, she and her long-term boyfriend finally decide to break up. Several times I visited her and was present for the arguments. She was rude to him, he defended himself, she got upset about it, etc. Neither party was in the right, but she was very clearly the instigator. However, she began making long posts about how awful he was, even throwing an "abusive" here and there. I just began to see this side of her that was just... spoiled brat incarnate, accompanied by the usual post breakup "My life is soooo hard".
Her mega con crush comes back. They're talking again, she's obsessing again. One of our work-con's offshoot cons is coming up and I agreed to help her staff, she agreed to give me a ride. She has car trouble and can no longer provide transportation. Telling me a week before the con, I tell her I can't go anymore, she tells me to find transportation. When I tell her there's no way I can find something for a ~1-2k person con 12 hours away in a week's notice, she gives me sass, acts like its my fault, says I let her down, etc.
I'm already going through personal shit and I don't need that, so I stop talking to her as much. She's still trying to talk to me about her new boy, and I largely dodge the subject. I just... Do not fucking care about whose dick she's trying to tug.
So anyway, more time passes and our major con rolls around.