Feels thread

[Anonymous No.9153052]

Old one got deleted AGAIN because it was innappropraite.
Keep it on track this time!

Last thread >>9145593

>tfw I am anxious about other girls being seagulls when I got out
>afraid I will end up in a cringe thread or something
What should I do against this?

[Anonymous No.9153074]

>>9153052
I have the same feels. Recently after a meet two of our girls ended up in the ita thread (one really undeserved) and one girl on btb. I'm quite new to the comm and afraid I won't be good enough for this salty gull and will be torn apart the moment I will post a picture.
I just want to share cute fashion with cute girls. Why does it have to be like this?

[Anonymous No.9153079]

>>9153052
>>9153074
Just ignore them

[Anonymous No.9153082]

>>9153052
What happened in the old one or was it another pregnancy teen mom and grilled cheese bait?

>>9153074
I know that feel. I'm so scared to get started because I feel like that would happen. I really just want a friend.

[Anonymous No.9153083]

>>9153082
The first post in the last one was actually teen mom pregnancy bait. It completely derailed the thread from the get-go.
Let's keep it straight this time.

[Anonymous No.9153084]

>Local cosplay comm decides on meet events about a week before they actually happen
>They're always themed like 'summer' 'sci-fi' 'lgbt' 'fantasy' etc.
>Don't have the time to think up and create an in-theme cosplay in less than a week
>Pretty sure everyone else half-asses it but can't bring myself to do the same because it looks so bad

Is this common? I'm still kinda new to my group so I'm not sure if most people have a wardrobe of cosplays ready to dip into or if I just need to git gud or what.

[Anonymous No.9153087]

>>9153084
>it has themes like lgbt
Why?

[Anonymous No.9153096]

>>9153087

Because it was pride. I'm not against the idea itself but it was super difficult to actually choose a cosplay because there's a very small pool of canon, male LGBT characters in anime that you can actually cosplay, especially as most BL characters are just wearing casual clothes.

Hardly anyone went in the end, myself included, so it doesn't matter.

[Anonymous No.9153100]

>need to make money for more brand
>order a dozen bloomers from indie brand for $25
>wear them and eat food to make my vaginal discharges smelly
>sell bloomers for $100 a piece
>all sold within an hour

Guys are so thirsty.

[Anonymous No.9153106]

>>9153100
Please don't get this thread deleted next

[Anonymous No.9153127]

>>9153100
Things that never happened - the post.

[Anonymous No.9153138]

>trying to organise going to a con
>People won't comit and say "wait until x" when either prices will be shit or I will be left high and dry with an empty room

Guess it's a youth hostel for me

[Anonymous No.9153141]

>Seller ignores me for 4 days straight
>posts on facebook and replies to other people asking about their stuff
>I have nor records of being a troublesome buyer, infact I once agreed to a payment plan with said seller

what have I done wrong. I'm extra salty because it's a dream dress for a really good price.

[Anonymous No.9153143]

>normally get really frustrated very quickly and I'm incredibly inpatient
>for some reason I still take on big projects that never get finished
>recently took one up, I'm 5 hours in to it and I'm in love.
>I've never enjoyed making anything this much
>planning my next pieces, ranting on and on to boyfriend and facebook
>so excited I found something I enjoy this thoroughly
>can't wait to do more

[Anonymous No.9153163]

I have a problem with getting extremely jealous of people for no reason. Mostly when people plan group cosplays. Or when people have more money to spend on their hobbies than I do. It's stupid and childish but I can't stop. I've had to completely cut social media at times because it will ruin my day if I see anyone enjoying cosplay more than I am. I wish I could just be happy for everyone. This is probably why I don't have friends to cosplay with in the first place.

[Anonymous No.9153193]

>>9153143
I'm the same way and I'm super proud of you!!!

>planning ball gown style cosplay for Katsucon
>know that it's going to take forever and I will hate every minute of it because I just want the dress NOW
>hopes your motivation and passion rubs off on me

[Anonymous No.9153196]

Haven't been to cgl in a while, huh.

Anyways, my desire to cosplay has dropped a lot since my eyes decided to shit the bed and develop floaters (those crystal things in your eye), which are bad enough that I see them in sunlight and using a bright computer, which is most of my time. I'm depressed that i can't even see outside without having the worms and blobs fly around, and considering I have to go outside in the sun to cosplay, it makes me sad. This isn't even mentioning my crap temp job that can't even get me the money to commission new cosplays.

[Anonymous No.9153198]

>>9153196
are you sure you don't just have actual worms? check your poop, anon

[Anonymous No.9153201]

>>9153052
sauce for that porn?

[Anonymous No.9153224]

>>9153052
>Tfw finally join local comm on fb
>Look through photos
>More than half of them are fat itas

>All events take place at the very edge of our region
>Terrified of driving on the interstate
>Driving on highways would take about 3-4 hours
>Guess I won't go

>Buy blouse from highly rated seller
>Open package
>Looks great
>Go to put it on
>There's blood on the collar
I got it out but wtf

[Anonymous No.9153261]

My longstanding boyfriend dumped me, on the day after my university graduation. Since the summer started, I've stopped cosplaying and having any drive or desire to do anything related to stuff I used to like. What do I do to get my 'mojo' back, seagulls.

[Anonymous No.9153292]

> I wanna post my coord in the draw thread so gulls can draw me
> I've already posted in the same thread a couple weeks ago tho
> mfw

[Anonymous No.9153302]

>>9153292
do it! the thread is dying and i need more people to draw

[Anonymous No.9153304]

>comm is mostly shit but two other girls
>turns out one of them is long time CGL lurker
>have good conversation about it

[Anonymous No.9153318]

Somebody just showed me a picture taken of me from a low angle (I guess they wanted to do some kind of """"""""artistic""""""""""" full body or something?) and I look fat as fuck, fatter than usual, the fucking worst. It doesn't help he's my friend. I want to go out running right now.
At least my face looks okay I guess.

Am I the only one who takes pictures trying to make the other person look nice? Is it really that fucking hard to make a person you are friends with look nice? I always try my best.

[Anonymous No.9153320]

>>9153318
Continuing my ranting, I just want people to look nice, to feel nice. I want them to feel okay. I want to make their day, to let them know they aren't as ugly as they think, to make them feel they can love themselves. So I try to find their angles, their best pose, I help them.

Nobody does that for me.

[Anonymous No.9153324]

>really want to do overwatch cosplay
>can't decide who to do
>main Ana, sometimes Mercy and Reinhardt
>probably most suited to cosplay D.va based on appearance
>want to do Hanzo
>bf mains Hanzo
>asks me to make him a Hanzo cosplay

I guess I will live through him. I kind of want to do an Ana cosplay, but I'd have to do one of the versions with a mask since I'm way too pale for her and don't want to get called out if I use bronzer (even though I am Asian and can get pretty tan).

[Anonymous No.9153326]

>>9153052
OP's post reminds me I saw a girl wearing a pretty cute casual j-fashion outfit when I was on starbucks some weeks ago and when I looked at her phone by glance, she was browsing /cgl/. To not make this post off-topic, though,
>tfw I wish I had the courage to talk with her ;_;

[Anonymous No.9153327]

>>9153052
Kek. I knew that feel once, cause my friend had a stalker from u after her(even though she is transitioning) last animazement.

[Anonymous No.9153344]

>>9153320
I feel this same shit. I hate how I try to put all the effort I can into what I do for others but they don't return the favor. Then when we look at the pics and they're all blurry shit they get upset and I have to cheer them up that they did a garbage job. You know, without them actually taking any better pics.
This lazy, selfish behavior manifests in other ways too and it's just exhausting to be someone else's cheerleader while they don't really give a fuck about how you feel or what you want.

[Anonymous No.9153357]

>>9153320
Lmao this shit. One of my friends offered to take my pic at a meetup. Circled is me. Had to trawl for other people's UT photos after the con.

[Anonymous No.9153369]

>>9153357
That just makes me feel sad anon.
Your friend didn't really care.

[Anonymous No.9153376]

>>9153320
I hate that exact angle with a passion. Every single time a friend of mine tries to take a picture from this exact angle, I stop them and tell them to do another angle.

[Anonymous No.9153378]

>>9153261
Losing the drive to do the things you like is normal after a break up. I've been going through the same thing myself. Try to spend time with people you like hanging out with. Time will help.

[Anonymous No.9153379]

>>9153344
>someone else's cheerleader
*enabler

[Anonymous No.9153385]

>>9153369
It's almost funny if you pick it apart. Not centered at all, not in focus, didn't get the heads out of the foreground. How much else can you get wrong?

[Anonymous No.9153389]

>mom: "Come over. I made you a cake."
>go over
>start eating the cake
>mom starts a lecture on why I'm so disappointing

Mfw I fell for the bait.

[Anonymous No.9153391]

>>9153389
was the cake good at least?

[Anonymous No.9153392]

>>9153391
Avoiding the obvious Portal joke, yeah, it was double chocolate bundt.

[Anonymous No.9153401]

>>9153392
ok good I was worried you got fucked out of cake and got fucked out of supportive parenting.

[Anonymous No.9153407]

>mfw lolitas demand $6 worth of pollo for $4.50

Bakas.

[Anonymous No.9153415]

>trying to let friend know my depression is coming back and knocking my ass out without being tumblry about it
>she is autistically oblivious to all the "I'm not really doing well right now" and "I don't want to leave the house this weekend" replies
>keeps expecting me to help her with things
>sends multiple messages when I don't reply
just let me fucking sleep

[Anonymous No.9153437]

>>9153369
What a coincidence because it also made me feel really sad.

[Anonymous No.9153468]

I wanted to do a nice thing and host a meet for my comm but now I feel awful because people are being flakes or asking to join last-minute when there was a reservation deadline that I had to ask the venue to extend because so many people haven't paid yet. I wish I made this a smaller, personal event between close friends because I can't handle being responsible for large groups of people. When I RSVP, it's only when i know I can attend, and I always make sure to send the host my deposit as soon as possible so I'm dumbfounded on why this is happening. Maybe this is why our mods don't host much meets anymore.

[Anonymous No.9153481]

Thinking of wearing a hoop skirt under my dress, but mom says too dangerous.

[Anonymous No.9153482]

>>9153481
mom is dumb 2bh

[Anonymous No.9153492]

>>9153415
Just tell her your feeling depressed and you don't wanna do anything

[Anonymous No.9153508]

>>9153468
As soon as they rsvp ask for paypal and invoice them for the deposit. That way you'll weed out the flakes. All those who do not pay in advance will not be added to the table. Those who cannot make the commitment are welcome to join but must handle reservation and seating themselves.

[Anonymous No.9153511]

>At a con, sit down in connected hotel lobby to eat some lunch
>Normie teenagers are sitting a few feet from me, thinking they're cool for laughing at all the cosplayers
>Ladybug cosplayer in that red suit comes around corner into sight, one boy starts screaming sexual harassment at her at the top of his lungs
>I glare at him, feel bad for the girl, want to step in but I'm a pussy
>Throw away lunch and walk 20 feet into the con area, tell 2 male staffers what they're doing
>Male staffers give each other a look and say alright
>I can tell they're not going to do anything, just as I'm about to give up a female staffer comes along and asks what she missed
>They look at me and I repeat what I told them
>She looks at them and asks what they're waiting for, takes charge to make it stop, heads off to lobby

It's been months since it happened and I feel so bad that I didn't step in and help the Ladybug or at least ask if she was alright, and I'm still mad about the fact that two men didn't think it was worth of addressing.
Ladybug if you're out there, Sorry I'm a pussy

[Anonymous No.9153512]

>>9153196
Have you seen a doctor? You should

[Anonymous No.9153514]

>>9153318
>I wanna go running right now
Do that instead of posting about a pictute you don't like

[Anonymous No.9153515]

>love Anime Boston but never able to go because it always falls over Easter weekend
>this year it doesn't so I'm able to go for the first time since 2014!
>start going on runs, taking care of my body more
>motivation to cosplay/sew comes back
>feelsgoodman

[Anonymous No.9153543]

>Planning out the conventions for this coming year with group
>Been hinting at my brother for the past couple years that he should come with and he'd really like them
>He's really into gaming and larping, but he's really bad at socializing for several reasons
>Usually acts pretty sketchy, saying maybe he'll go before backing out
>Talking with him about cosplay/ convention plans for this year
>"You know anon, I think I'll go with you guys to your next convention, and I think I'll cosplay old Joseph Joestar if you help me."

I'm really excited to get him into cosplay and the con scene because I feel like it'll really help him open up and feel more confident.

[Anonymous No.9153556]

>Be friends with a cosplayer for a really long time
>They're the one who got me into cosplay in the first place, and I'm still learning
>They're cosplays are OK, they're like the Monet of cosplay, but get tonnes of attention for some reason
>We have a falling out
>Still waiting to see myself show up in a cringe or bad cosplay thread
I'll even be the first to admit that my cosplays aren't up to snuff

[Anonymous No.9153568]

>on lace market
>see something well priced and nice looking
>minor damage that i should be able to fix
>fuck yea! gonna snatch th-
>store: wonderwelt
>think of japan to US shipping
>sadly click out
>repeat x10
>mfw

[Anonymous No.9153570]

>>9153543
This is so sweet I teared up a little. I hope everything goes well for your bro, I'm rooting for him!

[Anonymous No.9153573]

>at comm
>see ex there
>he's with a group of friends
>we're on good terms, i ask to hang around with hem
>not 5 minutes into walking his friends start yelling "triggered hahahaha!!"
>the friends are all grown men over 20
>turn on heel and walk away
>mfw

[Anonymous No.9153579]

>go to comm meetup
>group of normies is gawking at us
>lead normie screams "gaaa-aaaayyyyy!"
>the youngest girl starts freaking out
>"Do we really look gay??"

>>9153407
I don't know what this is about, but I laughed.

[Anonymous No.9153581]

>>9153573
*con, whoops
I dunno why a bunch of 20 year old spergs would be at a lolita comm lmao

[Anonymous No.9153585]

>>9153514
>implying that I didn't go running
>I did

[Anonymous No.9153592]

>big con in town last week
>on my way to my train home, a lolita passes by me
>full out AP coord, Merry Bunny how I found out later
>stop and turn around, go after her
>approach her and compliment her, make sure to mention AP so she knows I'm a lolita as well
>mfw this made my day

I felt so accomplished. It was so refreshing to see a cute frilly lolita among these masses of normies.

[Anonymous No.9153611]

Anyone else gotten old or out of shape and feel too insecure for lolita/meets?

>inb4 lose weight

[Anonymous No.9153617]

I hate how alive Bolivian is already dripping with itas.

[Anonymous No.9153619]

>>9153617
*holic
???

[Anonymous No.9153622]

>>9153052
I love going to cons but the sexual harassment has increased just so much lately. Most guys don't even know what crosses the line.
Here is a good example:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CGRC-NXk4Q8

[Anonymous No.9153628]

>>9153622
What on Earth is happening in that video?

[Anonymous No.9153629]

>>9153628
>>9153628
>What on Earth is happening in that video?
Casual sexism. Happens at cons a lot as well. Most girls just take it without standing up for themselves.

[Anonymous No.9153630]

>>9153622
That woman seriously needs a beating and/or execution.

[Anonymous No.9153640]

>>9153622
Sorry to burst your bubble but this guy only just said a fake name and this woman just take it way too personally. He didn't really said anything that would be considered harassing.

[Anonymous No.9153648]

>>9153622
>Hugh Mongus
Nuke that comm

[Anonymous No.9153769]

>>9153622
>>9153629
Yeah, no. This is that crazy sjw that harasses guys in public.

[Anonymous No.9153785]

>>9153622
I honestly wouldn't have gotten so mad about this. It was a bad joke but it didn't really warrant a witch hunt. I've had guys do way worse crap. Yeah, he shouldn't have said it but it wasn't that serious.

[Anonymous No.9153789]

>>9153769
>crazy
She really dodged a bullet there. Who knows what could have happened.
Here are some comments from her FB page about it.

[Anonymous No.9153793]

>>9153785
>Yeah, he shouldn't have said it
His name is literally Hugh Mungus. She asked for his name he said his name.
He should not have said it?

[Anonymous No.9153819]

>tfw finally met someone else who wears Jfashion and they might not even want to be buddies
>a cute girl starts working at my work
>I try and talk to her every so often but it is a little hard because I am not good at talking around cute girls
>apparently she even likes anime and Jfashion too
>I tried to talk to her about it and she said she sews her own lolita dresses and her dream is to have a lolita brand but she doesn't usually buy "burando"
>I said I dress fairy kei and I usually get burando but also thrift it and make accessories
>she seems kind of put off for some reason about the part where I said I had some fairy kei brand
>she seems to get along better with other people at work already
>I hope I can be friends with her, I was really excited to know someone into Jfashion in real life and always like meeting more anime fans
>I hope I didn't somehow put her off just by the fact that I like brand in addition to thrifted clothes
If she is like that about brand I guess she might be a little bit of a Jfashion snob anyways though

[Anonymous No.9153829]

tfw finally met someone else who wears Jfashion and they might not even want to be buddies
>cute girl starts working at my work
>I try and talk to her every so often but it is a little hard because I am not good at talking around cute girls
>apparently she even likes anime and Jfashion too
>I tried to talk to her about it and she said she sews her own lolita dresses and her dream is to have a lolita brand but she doesn't usually buy "burando"
>I said I dress fairy kei and I usually get burando but also thrift it and make accessories
>she seems kind of put off for some reason about the part where I said I had some fairy kei brand
>she seems to get along better with other people at work already
>I hope I can be friends with her, I was really excited to know someone into Jfashion in real life and always like meeting more anime fans
>I hope I didn't somehow put her off just by the fact that I like brand in addition to thrifted clothes
If she is like that about brand I guess she might be a little bit of a Jfashion snob anyways though

[Anonymous No.9153830]

>>9153829
Are you a guy? You sound like a guy. Probably just creeped her out.

[Anonymous No.9153839]

>>9153511
What did they say to the ladybug specifically?

[Anonymous No.9153844]

>>9153622
She was totally wigging out
>"Is that sexual harrassment? Is that what you just did when you said that to me?"
>"THIS PERSON just sexually harrassed me!!"
>"HOW DARE YOU!! HOW DARE YOU!! DISGUSTING!! DISGUSTING!"
>"YOU JUST ABUSED A WOMAN!! YOU JUST ABUSED A WOMAN!!"
Like honestly it was crappy humor but he didn't actually say anything very bad to her and she started freaking out and literally screaming at him repeatedly. Imagine what she'd do if she ACTUALLY got sexually harrassed by someone
I hope she gets hit by a truck

[Anonymous No.9153846]

>>9153830
I am a girl actually

[Anonymous No.9153851]

>>9153622
Oh my god. Imagine you were going about your day talking to someone and someone else starts coming up to your face and recording you in an intimidating way and asking for your name. You give a fake name because this person is being rude. They call it a sexual harassment and you are outed as a pervert. How would you feel? Jesus christ this is the lost narcissistic thing I've ever seen. Have we really gone this far now that we can't even communicate as human beings without someone finding offense?

[Anonymous No.9153873]

>>9153196
I have those to, you get used to them and will stop noticing them. If it's really bad just stare at one spot for a minute or so and they'll sink and won't bother you

[Anonymous No.9153879]

>con coming up
>feel like I am not going to make it in time
>stress myself out
>progress slower on everything
>even more stress
How do you prevent this from happening every time a con is on the horizon?

[Anonymous No.9153890]

>>9153879
Make a long term, realistic timetable long before the next con. It'll be tough to start but once you get on the habit of it it'll be much easier.

[Anonymous No.9153901]

>>9153879
Make a list of things that you need to get done and give yourself a reasonable amount of time for each. I've found that the panic sets in once you only have X amount of days left and a million things to get done. Set a gameplan early on so that by the time the con is a week or two away, you only have small projects to complete rather than big cosplay pieces

[Anonymous No.9153902]

>>9153793
Do you really think his name is Hugh Mungus or are you just really bad at trolling?

[Anonymous No.9153908]

>>9153879
pray to God

eat light meals, go for a jog, drink water

surround yourself with a positive environment (like a park, or some other natural area wearing mori)... practice healthy breathing (deep breaths, the slower the better)

or you can do this (pic related)

you can also get a massage (they are pretty affordable, i think)

[Anonymous No.9153909]

>>9153879
keeping yourself away for a while from unnatural stimuli like the internet, media, and television, and what have you

also don't hang around people that stress you out

learn to let go of life, give all your problems over to God to deal with

take a nice relaxing shower or a bath

[Anonymous No.9153916]

>>9153318
>>9153320
This is so fucking annoying. My boyfriend, who is the only person who takes photos of me on the regular, somehow only manages to capture my worst angles (like from below which is impressive since he's a foot taller than me) and in most of his pictures I'm eating or yawning of sneezing. I don't have a double chin when I'm looking in the mirror but somehow he manages to make one appear on me in 50% of his photos. He thinks this is hilarious and will keep these awful photos around just to tease me. I only need ONE nice picture per outfit/event so I have something to fondly remember it by. Is that too much to ask?

>>9153579
How long until she figures out that lolita is really a secret lesbian cult

[Anonymous No.9153920]

>>9153916
>How long until she figures out that lolita is really a secret lesbian cult
Wait, are a lot of you actually into girls? I got into lolita because I want to look cute and girly but i'm certainly not into girls.

[Anonymous No.9153924]

>>9153916

[Anonymous No.9153936]

>>9153920
I was joking, anon. Lolita does attract a higher percentage of girls who are into girls than you'd see in the general population but the majority of us are still straight.

[Anonymous No.9153940]

>>9153074
If you're talking about the comm I think you're talking about, three of our girls were posted to the ita thread. Or does one of them not count?

[Anonymous No.9153962]

>>9153879
I'm kind of dealing with this right now, too. It feels like the amount of stuff you have left to do is getting overwhelming. What >>9153901 suggested is usually what I do. Lists are my biggest friend and also cheerleader when I get to cross something off, it's a little motivation boost.

Also what >>9153909 said. I notice if I start getting stressed about how much I have left, I sometimes turn to dicking around on the internet or games to try and feel better, but that only gives me less time and more stress later. I just turn on some music, chug some coffee, and set a goal for what I'd like to have accomplished that evening and then just nose-to-grindstone. Usually, I end up making it in time and everything is fine (if a little sleep-deprived,) and sometimes it doesn't work out and I just have to let it go and focus on just enjoying the con.

I'm honestly doing better this time around with my upcoming con, I feel like I started earlier (really the big part is trying not to wait too late to start shit) and have gotten the hardest stuff out of the way so far, even if I still have a thousand little things to do, it'll come together quickly in the end.

[Anonymous No.9153979]

>Me and friends have been planning a cosplay photoshoot for the longest time
>Keeps getting cancelled because everyone lives in a different city and something always comes up
>Finally decide on a weekend to do the shoot
>It's basically the last weekend available because college classes will start up again and summer is almost over (summery photoshoot, requires good weather and warm water since it's done partly in a lake)
>The weekend keeps approaching, everything is going smoothly
>Suddenly a job opportunity comes up for me and I apply
>Really need the job and money, I'm a poor-ass college student
>Realize that if I get the job the photoshoot needs to be cancelled again, and I might miss a convention in couple weeks too

[Anonymous No.9154073]

>be beginner lolita
>want to join lolita fb groups for inspiration and advice
>too afraid to contact the mods

[Anonymous No.9154077]

>>9154073
Just do it.

[Anonymous No.9154079]

>>9153940
If so then I must have missed the third one. I don't know everyone's faces and wardrobes yet.

[Anonymous No.9154090]

Going to my first sewing party after work tonight!

>>9153622
>>9153789
Holy shit. How can anyone be on her side?

[Anonymous No.9154095]

>>9154077
We'll see how it goes....

>>9153879
Adopt a cat. Purring have a proved positive effect on well being.

[Anonymous No.9154101]

I've been supremely upset for a few days because of a guy that I was pining after in my Anthro class. He liked anime, and video games, so we started hanging out and having lunch after class. He didn't seem to get the message, so after about 2 months, when we started to get closer, I told him that I was interested in him, then he said the craziest shit.

>I don't date cosplayers. I'm so sorry.

I had shown him my pictures a while back, because I thought he'd like them. It turns out he apparently had a bad experience with a cosplayer, and vowed never to "mess around with one" again.

So this guy is rejecting absolutely every cosplayer simply because of a bad time he had, and because of a statistical goddamn anomaly, he didn't give me a chance. Amazing.

I really liked this guy. Just end my life.

[Anonymous No.9154105]

>go to Facebook
>flooded with posts about how some obese Harley Quinn got fat-shamed

Sucks for her, but why is this such an earth-shattering event? A fat person got called fat. Shitty. Let's move along.

[Anonymous No.9154113]

>>9154101
It sucks, anon, it does, but don't take it personally. This guy chooses to avoid people with a specific hobby based on whatever experience he had; that's completely and entirely on him. It doesn't mean that you're unattractive or a bad person. It's shitty, sure, but if this is what makes him reject people it's simply his loss. Keep hanging out with him if you like, or don't, it's up to you, just remember that you're not at fault here.

[Anonymous No.9154120]

I need to cuddle a lolita right NOW.

[Anonymous No.9154128]

>>9153789
>>9154090
>first comment is by a beta orbiter
Classic.

[Anonymous No.9154130]

>>9154120
Go do that then.

[Anonymous No.9154131]

>>9154095
Keep us posted!

[Anonymous No.9154141]

>>9154095
I feel like a cat would help my mental health, but I'm allergic. And my building only allows tiny dogs.

Pets seem like a hassle anyways. I wish I had a friend nearby with a pet I could play with.

>>9154130
The only lolita I know is my sister.

[Anonymous No.9154149]

>>9154141
Go out and search for us ever-elusive lolitas, then. You got this.

[Anonymous No.9154164]

>>9154101
Was he good looking?

[Anonymous No.9154166]

>>9154141
maybe you have a cat cafe nearby? I know that cat cafes are quite popular these days, even my small country has at least 2

[Anonymous No.9154175]

>>9153916
I do the same same your boyfriend does to my lolita gf, random and surprise pics then show her. I use her facial expressions for memes in our chats.
Think of it of a experience desu.

[Anonymous No.9154176]

>>9154166
Lol, I just said I'm allergic to cats.

Also, there are no cat cafes in Nashville.

[Anonymous No.9154199]

>>9154164
If he wasn't, I wouldn't have cared.

[Anonymous No.9154236]

>worked really hard to lose over 50lbs to fit into more burando
>found out dad has stage 3 cancer on top of added work stress
>queue depression and anxiety spiral
>gained all weight back

I dunno gulls. I was doing so well but now I just feel like an orca again and none of my clothes fit let alone lolita. Do I just sell my stuff and call it quits until I lose weight again?

[Anonymous No.9154237]

>>9154199
I'm just asking because guys who are into videogames and anime usually aren't the best in the looks department.

[Anonymous No.9154273]

>>9154141
>The only lolita I know is my sister.
Cuddle her then.

[Anonymous No.9154274]

>>9154236
Don't quit, anon. Keep your frills for motivation.

[Anonymous No.9154280]

>>9154237
Yeah, I know. Usually a guy liking video games and anime is a red flag, for me. I liked this guy initially since he was handsome and was nice.

[Anonymous No.9154282]

>>9154280
I am really curious now. Do you have pictures of him?

[Anonymous No.9154318]

>>9154280
>>9154237
>>9154199

Quit baiting, you are going to get our thread deleted again.

[Anonymous No.9154322]

>work a 9-5 job
>fucking hate it, I do nothing all day and spend my entire life looking at the clock
>office bottom bitch, relegated to cold calling which stresses me out
>coworkers think I'm weird, gossip about me
>$5k in credit card debt because I waited 3 years working part-time for this job under the promise of "full time soon!"
>don't make enough a month to put any dent into it
>boyfriend is well-off, has a huge savings, disdains me for never having money to do things
>low-key resent him
>can't vent to friends because they work even worse jobs
>thinking and talking about cosplay is the only thing that keep me going, we're talking autism levels of obsession
>can feel people getting sick of me talking about it
>people are just slowly pulling back on responding to me when I hit them up
>I'm shit at sewing and crafting, not even a good cosplayer


I really fucking hate my life, gulls and I feel like I have nobody to talk to. I just want to work from home and not stress out (doesn't everyone?) but something about today really put me in the worst mood. My life just feels grey.

[Anonymous No.9154324]

>>9154141
Why not getting a tiny dog then...

[Anonymous No.9154330]

>>9154322
>office bottom bitch, relegated to cold calling which stresses me out
What is this supposed to mean?

[Anonymous No.9154335]

>>9154330
My boss is never there so my coworkers just push all their work onto me. We need to fill spaces for an event? Here's a list of 150 people whom we have no connection to, call, don't email, them and fill up the spots.

[Anonymous No.9154342]

>>9154322
How much does the job pay? Why dont you at least start sniffing around other places. See if there's something out there that's better. Also take a break from cosplay. I know it's your passion but saving money and using it to do things with your friends and boyfriend will be alot more rewarding. Let your time together flow naturally so you don't end up obsessively talking about cosplay. Just sit down with yourself and make a plan in order to better your life, or else you'll be in a grey haze until the day you die. You're the only one that can make it better, good luck anon.

[Anonymous No.9154345]

>>9154324
But then everyone will think I'm a fucking faggot.

[Anonymous No.9154348]

>>9154324
Tiny dogs are loud and terrible

[Anonymous No.9154349]

>>9154322
I was on this path and noped the fuck out as soon as I was able to.
I took a job that paid less, but I don't watch the clock nonstop. Most of my coworkers are pleasant people. If I'm going to get terrible pay either way, I chose the job that didn't make me want to kill myself.

[Anonymous No.9154352]

>Have friend who had a rather unstable childhood
>Parents were financially irresponsible, and as a result she had to work very hard to get scholarships in order to go to school. Parents would take some of her money from part time job she had in HS
>Always has been super thrifty: Used a slider phone up until 4 months ago, borrowed a lot of my games/manga, gets clothes secondhand
>Eats well, goes to the gym when she can, anything to be healthy and not have to interact with her asshole parents.
>We actually met in the manga section of the local library when we were kids and went as Sailor Mars and Venus for Halloween that year
>Never goes to cons because she needs to work or be in class, has only been to 2
>Really want her to go with me and a bunch of our friends
>Not sure if she'll try and put aside time and money

Months ago our friends and I pitched in and threw her a huge birthday bash. We bought her a new smartphone, some clothes, costume supplies, and bf gave her a brand new PS3 he received from a raffle at his job. She cried for like an hour.

[Anonymous No.9154357]

>>9154322
>>9154349

Same person, forgot to add.
Why is your boyfriend being unsupportive? If he knows how much you're struggling but still gives you a hard time, maybe you need to have a talk with him if you haven't already. When my boyfriend was low on funds to go out, I grabbed the tab for both of us because we are in a partnership and that's how it works. He has returned the favor in kind later on. Resentment breeds bad things in the future.
>>9154342
I know it would be a good idea to take a break, but when I was in a similar situation, lolita was the /only/ thing I had to keep me going in life. It made the grind bearable. Giving it up wasn't an option for me.
Instead, I think anon would do better to budget a little each month so that she doesn't have to completely give it up for now.

[Anonymous No.9154359]

>>9154352
She's a lucky girl to have such wonderful friends! That was a really nice thing to do for her. Good for you!

[Anonymous No.9154360]

>>9154352
This is the best thing I've ever read here.

[Anonymous No.9154378]

Wow, you've all given such nice, thoughtful replies. Thank you!
>>9154357
Boyfriend thinks I should get rid of my dog, among other things, because he hates her and uses her as an excuse as to why I don't have money. He calls men who help women financially cucks and women who need help leeches so...no help there.

I'm trying to slow down on cosplay, I even stopped a project after going through a $10 thing of foam because I wasn't getting anywhere with it. My problem is I keep throwing money at failing projects. I'm really trying to stop it but my friends and I have a little game where when we watch anime together we "assign" cosplays of the characters to each other, so it's easy to get swept away. However, they know when to say no and when to stop talking about it...

[Anonymous No.9154387]

>>9154378
your boyfriend sounds like a complete asshole. if my boyfriend said some shit like that, he'd be single real quick.

[Anonymous No.9154391]

>>9154387
But he has a big dick :(

[Anonymous No.9154395]

>>9153074
>Why does it have to be like this?

A misogynist is a man that hates women as much as they hate each other.

[Anonymous No.9154398]

>>9154387
Yeah. He doesn't help things. When things are good we have a lot of fun but even now I'm messaging him (he's on vacation) and he's just trying to logic away my feelings which is why I didn't even want to talk to him tonight in the first place. I just wanted to be alone and get it all out anonymously desu

[Anonymous No.9154402]

>>9154398
I had a feeling you would turn up here.
Call me now.

[Anonymous No.9154406]

>>9154391

You're acting like one of these /r9k/ stereotypes. Is it pleasurable enough that you would let it slide?

[Anonymous No.9154410]

>>9154398
>and he's just trying to logic away my feelings

Fuck yeah Suffragettes!

[Anonymous No.9154413]

>>9154280
>Usually a guy liking video games and anime is a red flag, for me.

There is no guy that doesn't like video games.

Maybe in the 70s.

[Anonymous No.9154420]

>>9154406
I would and have let it slide, if you catch my drift.

[Anonymous No.9154427]

>>9154420

I was going to make a joke about that, but that would've been lame.

Is he good in bed?

[Anonymous No.9154431]

>>9154427
>>9154420
>>9154406

Are you talking to yourself? I haven't responded to anything since >>9154398

Pathetic

[Anonymous No.9154433]

>>9154431

Second one isn't me. First and third were me.

No need to get bitchy.

[Anonymous No.9154436]

I recently dealt with a longtime friend in the lolita community turning on me and spreading weird rumors about me. It turns out she's really manipulative and crazy, and she had done it other girls I know. It's really upsetting because I really had fun with her when we were friends and now those memories seem tainted. I feel dumb for falling for her nice facade when she's actually so toxic. Why do so many lolitas have to be insane.

[Anonymous No.9154439]

>>9154413
Hell, there are very few people in general that don't like videogames. It's mass media with countless genres. Stereotyping someone based on that is like saying you won't date people who watch movies.

[Anonymous No.9154445]

>>9154398
Aren't there lots of people that are fun to be around when things are good? If this is the only reason you stick around, please reconsider. This alone is not the foundation of a relationship.
It speaks volumes about a person when the bad times happen imo. I'm not advocating you leave him, but as someone who was in the exact same situation in life with an unsupportive bf, you need to have a serious, adult talk.

>>9154402
If you're her bf, you had enough foresight to anonymously stalk the thread for your gf's post but not enough to reach out to help her?

[Anonymous No.9154447]

>>9154436

Normal girls dress normally I guess.

>>9154439

You're remarkably rational.

For a woman.

;)

[Anonymous No.9154450]

>>9154445
>If you're her bf, you had enough foresight to anonymously stalk the thread for your gf's post but not enough to reach out to help her?

Telling somebody to call you is reaching out, honey.

[Anonymous No.9154454]

>>9154445
That's true, I guess you're right. He messaged me "I was thinking of doing something fun with you when I got back Saturday" which is all well and good but that doesn't suddenly make my life better, you know? And he got mad when I pointed that out. He also is super nice when he goes away on vacation, that's usually when he brings up paying off my debts for me but a week later rescinds.

And that's 1000% not him, I've lurked here for years and have only posted once, in a help thread, and had to have actual bf show me how to do it, so he thinks I'm too scared/awkward/autistic to post again.

[Anonymous No.9154460]

>>9154454

If you like money from him, you should probably forget abut him.

If not receiving a single red cent from him is acceptable to you, well...is there anything else that makes him bad?

[Anonymous No.9154471]

>>9154460
I mean, we fight a lot. A LOT a lot. He's a know-it-all which annoys the crap out of me, he makes everyone wait for him when we go somewhere (drove 3 hours to a con, friends drove 6, we got there later due to his inability to be on time ANYWHERE and the room was in his name so they had to wait) I think we're too similar in hardheadedness. I don't care about money (I mean I do, but only my own...or lack thereof) because I don't want to be a golddigger. He's very spoiled, so he can be selfish, but I do think he's trying. He helped me make my cosplay and has bought 3 cosplays for himself even though he couldn't care less about the hobby. He built me a custom gaming desktop for my birthday, but I can't even use it because my little loft apartment doesn't have room for a desk and he said he only did it because I splurged for his previous birthday. I need to remember the good parts but it's so easy to focus on the bad with how combative he is.

Anyway, I feel like I'm derailing this thread so I'm just gonna duck out. I'm really blown away by the kindness of everyone here though. Thank you

[Anonymous No.9154487]

>>9154471

Do you think he is cheating on you?

[Anonymous No.9154535]

>>9154352
Invite her. Let her know you'd really like her to come and you would have fun sharing this with her. Even if she says no, she'll feel included that you asked. And splitting hotel and carpooling makes cons fairly manageable - let her know the exact expenses involved and she might actually be able to make it happen.

If not, don't push it, but nothing hurts to try.

She's lucky to have such cool friends.

[Anonymous No.9154542]

I'm new to sewing, mostly self taught, and kinda messy, but I always wanna do something that's out of my league; ie working with sheer or slippery fabrics, making my own patterns, etc. Last summer I drew up a design to make my own lolita dress, and made it, taking about a month total. By the time I finished and tried it on, I looked at myself and realized it was ita as fuck. Put it in closet and never wore it again.

[Anonymous No.9154545]

>>9154471
Honestly he really sounds like scum. Like your stereotypical i-hate-woman internet troll but he's let it trickle into his real life. I can't imagine not supporting my boyfriend through anything, financial or not. It just sounds like you have yourself a real manipulative loser honestly. Life's too short to deal with people like that. You're obviously contemplating leaving, you should before it's too late and you waste half your life.

[Anonymous No.9154569]

>>9154542
It's okay, anon, at least you realized your own mistakes. You can always try again once you do some more research.

[Anonymous No.9154587]

>wearing lolita out
>your costume is cute anon!

I know they mean well, but it still stings a little.

[Anonymous No.9154598]

>>9154436
I had a similar thing happen to me. Made me feel marginally better that I wasn't the first person she'd done it to.

[Anonymous No.9154625]

Thinking of asking my con crush to see the Lego Batman Movie with me, but I'm so nervous.

[Anonymous No.9154628]

>>9154587
Pretty understandable normie reaction. At least they think you're cute.

>>9154625
You're going to wait six months to ask your crush out? Or ask her to go out with you in six months?

[Anonymous No.9154630]

>>9154141
>Please be in my area

I would cuddle you if you are and don't smell bad

[Anonymous No.9154651]

>>9154630
Do you live in GA or TN? Because I'm in both.

[Anonymous No.9154663]

>wears lolita whenever I have a day off
>in the grocery line to get things for dinner
>actual ponytail having neckbeard behind me
>"maam why are you dressed like that?"
>I'm just dressed, no real reason.
>"oh. i thought maybe you worked in a bar or something"

what bar do you go to that has lolitas mixing drinks? let me apply.

[Anonymous No.9154682]

>>9154471
if you're spending more that 25% of your time with him fighting and unhappy with each other, dump him. He sounds like an as anyways. Doesn't matter how big his dick is, there's plenty others in the world.

[Anonymous No.9154683]

>>9154682
*an ass

[Anonymous No.9154687]

>>9153585
That's good

[Anonymous No.9154703]

>buy brand, be in good relationship, getting degree, getting internship with disney
>feel nothing
>try to distract myself with cosplay and lolita, works at first
>slowly, slowly it starts wearing off
>tired of messaging people first, realize I'd drop out of existence if I didn't try to talk to people
>heavily contemplating suicide, but I don't because the thought of torturous pain scares me

sadly, that's the only reason why. I have no idea why my favorite hobbies don't fulfill me anymore, cosplay and lolita were really nice ways to distract myself at first.

Too bad I can't tell anybody but strangers about this, but people are too socially awkward to deal with their own stuff let alone mine.