>>9115006
I was in the same boat. I posted in a con thread and basically said "hey I'm going to this con, I really like lolita and am wondering how to approach them without coming off as a creeper" and a girl left her email, met me at the con and took me to a meet. A couple years down the line things didn't work out very well between us but now the majority of my friends are lolitas and I wear ouji.
Give it a shot, maybe someone will drop their email for you, or if you have a comm in your area (this is sort of essential) you can shoot one a message and hope for the best, but generally they dislike adding 'admirers' who aren't into the fashion to groups. In any case, dress nicely and do a bit of research. Everyone is at a lolita meet because they are invested in the fashion, they know brands and print names and whatever bizarre drama is going on between AP and AatP, this is their common bond. If you show up with very limited knowledge and have only admired from a distance it might be hard to keep up with conversation.