New Feels thread

[Anonymous No.8564427]

Old one >>8553612

>had brithday this month
>co-worker shows me awesome bruno banani blazer for 100 bucks
>tell my boyfriend how I might want to buy it later
>"Why don't you use your birthday money? You could need some more office clothes instead of all those special occasion dresses."
>Can't tell him I'm saving up for expensive dream dress
>Say I don't want it that bad

[Anonymous No.8564439]

>buy cheap accessory for basic bitch costume
>looks cheap and a bit crap, no surprise, think about making one instead
>look up tutorials
>tutorial results all look even more crap than the cheap one I bought

I just don't care enough. It's only a comfy Friday cosplay anyway.

[Anonymous No.8565233]

I really want to start and try lolita at least once but i dont know how or where to start.
Its times like these where i wish i knew a really cool local lolita to take me under their wing.

[Anonymous No.8565274]

>>8565233
get the basics, anon. 1 nice unprinted jsk, a basic colored blouse (white or black), a good petti, some nice tights, and nice shoes. Colors really depend on white style you're trying to go for.

[Anonymous No.8565290]

>Boss hasn't paid me for almost two months
>All savings gone on rent and bills
>Frantically searching for something new
>Can't start any of my costumes for October MCM even though I'm in three groups that I'm really excited to be part of
>Considering cancelling the room because no-one can afford it, so no fun room parties either
>Every holiday was cancelled this year because of some problem or another
>How do I afford an Amecon ticket on the 30th. Fuck.

I've been in worse scrapes but it's been like this since uni. I just want a steady job so that I can make costumes and edit photos and buy nice j-fashion. I want to go to Japan. I want to go to Katsucon. All these plans ruined. I feel like I'm wasting my young life because I can't afford to do anything I plan to.

Good feels:

>Mum buys new book that I'm cosplaying from for me to make me feel better. It's amazing.
>Housemates plan to go to Rome for my birthday and all cosplay friends plan to come too. Filled with love for everyone.
>Kitacon was amazing and I still can't get over how much I loved it. Never felt so close to all my cosplay friends and met so many senpais.
>Recent cosplay got many notes and comments on tumblr. Means a lot to a little nobody like me.

Ups and downs. I try to be grateful for the good!

Thanks for the vent. I think I feel...better?

[Anonymous No.8565337]

>con is less than 2 weeks
>ebay seller sent me wrong item
>they're taking forever to reply
>I'll get the boots somewhere else
>work closing shift at work
>more money
>drives home
>car rpm rising and falling from 0 to 3 rapidly
>doing 25 in a 40
>stop at a stop light
>5 mph with pedal to the floorboards

I just had it towed, it'll cost at least $1k to have it repaired

Fuck me

[Anonymous No.8565342]

>Get awesome summer-only job
>Working hard 2months f/t
>Finally have money to get into lolita more
>First burando is ultimate dream dress to boot
>Couple days after getting dress get fucking hit in the face while at work
>Fractured teeth, fractured nose, mild concussion
>Wages and medical will be covered at least
>Trying to recover
>before incident was able to get another (cheaper) dream dress and some socks, building up that wardrobe
>came in last week, fits, planning first casual coord
>See specialist, find out I need rhinoplasty. Continuing headaches means I can't go back to work
>Finally got haircut 2 days ago for wearing my first coord out
>Find out today I need a root canal. Get devastated
>It's been 3 weeks
>Always expecting it to get better, but always worse than I initially thought
>not even sure if I'll be able to make it to my last week of work
>self-hate and guilt continues to ensue

[Anonymous No.8565360]

>went on a buying spree 2 days ago
>ended up buying dream dress and dream purse
>satisfied as fuck
>made mistake of checking auctions 2 days later
>beautiful dress by brand I like
>.... fuck

Sometimes I wonder if I should just hand my checking account and credit card to someone else so I stop spending.

I'm not in deep shit yet but this type of behavior is what gets people there.

[Anonymous No.8565401]

Travelling with "friends" to reduce costs. Never again.
I can manage fine being by myself and bad sleeping condition I guess, but being woke up by my roomies chatting after I got 3h of sleep is a bit nerve grinding. Got a nerve condition that ask for appropriate rest, they're aware of it. Plus we have few interest in common (that all come from my willigness to share their hobbies) so I mostly go around by myself anyway. I'd much rather travel alone if it wasn't for the price of it.

[Anonymous No.8565445]

>tfw boyfriend finally gets a 140k job after 3 years of trying to start his own business unsuccessfully
>tfw entered multiple projects into a contest and feeling good about them; the grand prize being 100k
>tfw no more financial problems

[Anonymous No.8565474]

>>8565342
Oh god anon what do you work as?

[Anonymous No.8565488]

>finally want to get into Lolita after following the fashion and drama for a few years
>make a basic but acceptable body line coord to get my feet wet
>go to Lolita meet at a con I was attending with friends
>feel like an ita pleb

at least I got some macaroons out of the deal.

how do I git gud?

[Anonymous No.8565493]

>>8565488
Invest in your hobby, like everyone else with a hobby they really love does. All hobbies are expensive if you really want to get serious in it.

[Anonymous No.8565500]

>>8565488
It's going to take time to build a wardrobe. Just be patient and practice putting together outfits. You only wear whatever itamess for only one day anyways, so it's not a big deal if you didn't put together the best outfit ever.

[Anonymous No.8565519]

>>8564427
I cried today, it's kind of a long story but let me explain
>Meet my "friend", C.
>C is a cute girl, she looks younger than her age and not adult looking but inside she's pretty mature,shit happened to her (bullying,abused,..) and now she's quiet and reserved and not really confident but still, kind of a tsundere???
>not long ago i managed to get closer to her, i always admired her a little (i'm younger than her, but i look her age and am taller)
>one day we gets open about our fetishes and realize we have much in common (aka not wanting a relationship bc of how we've been hurted in the past
>this week i finally get to see her since we're living in different countries
>she's the sweetest thing in the world, i can't help but fawn over her even when she eats
>then teasing and lesbian sex happened
>fucking incredible, can't believe she was a virgin and feel honored
>hold her hand sometimes when we are in town
>cuddling,kisses,teasing,laughing,...
>the day passes and i have to go to next town to see another friend for a day
>i'm feeling super sad and nearly cries, C is holding tears back as the train i take go away
>during this week we grew incredibly closer i can't even explain we were so...close and fusional, even during sex it was amazing.
Not just "like a relationship" and even less "friendship"
And now:
>Finally taking train back home today, to my appartment,alone
>Hear a voice screaming "wait wait!! Anon!"
>It's fucking C, red faced, with some luggages
>"..Anon i know this is sudden but i don't want you to go again, i'm coming with you, now, i never felt this way about anyone and...and...i don't wanna let you go...i-if that's ok...i want...i would like...i...i...you..."
>she breaks down in tears and so do i as i hug her, it's the cutest thing anyone has ever done to me
>She tells me she has enough money, that she'll sell all of her lolita in order to live with me some time
>it's just my fucking dream happening

[Anonymous No.8565521]

>>8565519
Continuing
>we realize it's not possible anyway after a while
>I have to let go of her eventually,catching the next train after both of us crying and hugging for ten minutes
>I see her pretty angel face giving me a last look before disappearing out of sight
I cried so hard you have no idea i think i never cried that much, and she was there with all of her luggages,that little small thing with all that heavy stuff, she came so far in the summer heat that she can't stand well, just to see me.
Even if i ever get a boyfriend it'll need to be some polyamourus shit i can't get her out of my head, it's been a while since i dreamed about us getting close, it was fucking paradise when it happened, but now it's just even greater and beautiful and i just want to love her and protect her from everything.
My eyes are still red and puffy from all the crying i just came home now.

[Anonymous No.8565533]

>>8565519
>>8565521
holy fucking shit this is so sad and adorable you are now my otp

[Anonymous No.8565539]

>>8565519
>>8565521
This is absolutely beautiful anon. I'm literally tearing up

[Anonymous No.8565548]

>>8565519
>>8565521
I kinda want to draw the whole thing and make it like that "'Promise of Reunion" IB ending but i can't draw for shit
>tfw i cried and i'm a sensitive faggot
>tfw i'm a lesbian too

[Anonymous No.8565551]

>started lolita in senior year high school
>had other financial priorties during college
>now Im beginning to get jobs, has money
>its been 4 years going on five and i have a total of 3 coords
>im not a real rori am i

[Anonymous No.8565558]

>>8565551
Oh anon being a "real lolita" has nothing to do with having lots of coords.
Maybe it's my "old school" mentality kicking in again but to me you are a "true" lolita when you have AT LEAST two coords, i still think of lolita as something that is also a little part of your everyday lifestyle, lolifying little aspects of it, making you feel like a pretty doll,pretty princess or fairy or whatever.
So now put that fucking bow on your head and say "i'm a lolita"

[Anonymous No.8565571]

>have money to burn on all that brand
> can't find a single thing I want

Why. Why does this always happen. No money, all the dream dresses everywhere, all the money not a single wishlist item in sight.

[Anonymous No.8565575]

>>8565558
wear-a-tiara-on-your-soul.poem

[Anonymous No.8565583]

>>8565571
Save it anon
But a few accessories instead

[Anonymous No.8565599]

>>8565575
Aaah that old poem.
I totally agree with it tbh. Novala Takemoto was such an inspiration to me when i first started lolita

[Anonymous No.8565646]

To the anon from last thread, thank you for the input, ny boyfriend said they look good, and that the imperfections are only seen close up, so that's good. I think they're finished. I'm only gonna wear then once.

From now on I will try to do thin layers and will keep making the effort to read up on things and change my method to improve my work.

[Anonymous No.8565672]

>>8565474
Running a day camp, lol.
It wasn't a kid though, we're close to the DT area so there's a lot of homeless around.

[Anonymous No.8565677]

>Cat-sitting for my friend
>Working on cosplay
>Have patterns pinned to fabric to cut out
>Cat joins me in room
>Cat gives me a bitch face
>"Don't do it, ho"
>Jumps onto my mantel and friggin smirks
>Try to get it down
>Little shit stares me in the eye and knocks over all my shit onto the floor and fabric
>This includes my plants
>Proceeds to sit on top of my fabric.
This cat is an asshole. On a side note, does anyone have any experience with succulents? Some of mine hit the floor, and the one was the type with that powdery wax that makes it blue, and a ton of it rubbed off. I know it eventually grows back, but does anyone have an idea of how long this takes? I'm assuming probably a year at least....

[Anonymous No.8565681]

>>8565342
Just curious but what were you hit in the face with? That sounds awful!

[Anonymous No.8565693]

>>8565681
>>8565672
Kind of related to what I said here, but it was a guy jacking our shit. Hit me in the face with the laptop he was stealing and then punched me as well, because I was trying to stop him. Stupid I know.

I've already made a report with the police (called them right after it happened) and all that, it's just being too hopeful about my injuries are and getting depressed at the reality.

[Anonymous No.8565705]

>>8565558
You aren't the only one to think like this anon.
>need some old school skirt in pink
>mfw 71 cm waist
>i'm not even overweight
>i lost weight but the waist is always like this
>the max of some skirts is 65 cm
>feel bad man

[Anonymous No.8565718]

>>8565519
>>8565521
This is both heart breaking and cute i am sorry anon

[Anonymous No.8565731]

>>8565693
Was he caught? You could consider suing him if he was, he'd certainly deserve it.

[Anonymous No.8565959]

>>8565445
whoa, what kind of job??

[Anonymous No.8565974]

>>8565519
the u-haul jokes are real

[Anonymous No.8565975]

>>8565445
What contest has a 100k grand prize? Also, out of curiosity, what are your submissions?

[Anonymous No.8566184]

Anons, what keeps you going with lolita? I have been really stressed out the last couple months and it feels like it's starting to lose it's magic for me. It's bumming me out because lolita was so unbelievably fun before this slump. One of the dresses I really liked before this finally came up for sale and I don't even feel motivated to buy it
Anyone with similar feels?

[Anonymous No.8566191]

>Little indie store is already at 93 likes, 256 page views, ~20 items currently in carts and 12 sales.
>Opened exactly three weeks ago.

This is a million times better than I ever could have hoped for.

[Anonymous No.8566192]

>>8565337
My car did that. I had to get a whole 'nother engine and since I was driving a '64 beetle the "new" engine set me back so fucking much.

[Anonymous No.8566196]

>>8565233
I constantly try to adopt baby lolitas. Why can't there be more like you?

[Anonymous No.8566204]

>>8564427
letme ask this. Who the fuck wants to spend birthday money on stuff that is not fun? Not I. Your BF is a party pooper

[Anonymous No.8566218]

>>8565731
>Suing a homeless guy.

That'll rake in plenty of dosh.

[Anonymous No.8566219]

>>8565705
tightlace underneath?

[Anonymous No.8566225]

>>8566218
What makes you think it's a homeless person?

[Anonymous No.8566290]

>>8566225
this: >>8565672

[Anonymous No.8566322]

>>8566218
>>8565672
Smashed-face anon here, and that anon's got it right. Though not really in it for the dosh since I'm fully covered for medical, as I mentioned earlier.

>mfw double root canal and double crowns, and that fucking nose job

[Anonymous No.8566383]

>>8566184
It's ok anon no need to worry about that, it happens, sometimes you just feel "eh" about things you like and you need a little break from it.
It's like, for example, when you're a little girl and finger painting it's super fun but after a while you don't want to do this all the time, you want to do other things but that doesn't mean you'll never do fingerpainting ever again.
Maybe you just need to look at other stuff and not care, your interest will come back, if you are "scared" that mean it's not over.
I'm not in lolita but i have wonderful memories of old school times around 2008 the first blogs and images i saw, the mentality there was back then about "lolifying aspects of your life",... I don't really like "new" lolita it's too OTT and changed a lot in general but it still holds a place in my heart

[Anonymous No.8566387]

>>8564427
What a party pooper, if that makes you happy who cares, take it. It's not even about how much you wear it. I have pieces in my wardrobe i hardly ever wear but i don't care, when i open my wardrobe and see them it makes me kinda happy,it's pretty to look at, it's nice and it makes me feel warm and fuzzy, i think of it as, say, a magical girl outfit, it's for special occasions but that makes it even more special, i just don't want to have too much though.

[Anonymous No.8566390]

>>8566322
That person deserves a good smashing as well, hurting cute girls is illegal i shall punish them

[Anonymous No.8566398]

Asian cosplayers do all that makeup and photoshop wizardry. How do you stop feeling bad about your own stuff because you don't do the same?

[Anonymous No.8566402]

>>8566398
With good makeup,good angles,good photoshop you can do so much so don't feel bad. Also not saying they are ugly without it or anything like that but i saw some of them without shoop/special angles or even makeup and i found myself being like "Eh, they are human beings, with flaws, just like everyone, the makeup and all hides it but at the end of the day we're the same"

[Anonymous No.8566420]

>>8566402
All I can do is work on making my cosplay outfit good, and do basic makeup. I don't have anyone to take good angles or locations, and I feel uncomfortable about doing contouring/photoshop on myself. I think what I'm actually sad about is not having any cosplay friends.

[Anonymous No.8566518]

>small, local store has a big day event and a small, unofficial cosplay competition
>its bigger than expected but goes by smoothly, everyone seems to have fun
>winners are posted on facebook a few days later
>one contestant is unhappy with the winners and proceeds to publicly shame some of them , also accusing them of having store bought costumes
>employees step in and try to explain the situation, one of them words it poorly
>bitching person gets super entitled and posts on loads of social media sites about how she was treated unfairly and was "kicked out" of the contest
>ignores everyone who gives her criticism for what she's doing
>only listens to asspats
>her boyfriend starts white knighting her in the facebook comments
>creating mountains out of mole hills, making am embarrassment of herself and generally making everyone who are in the community uncomfortable
>making newer members think twice about wanting to cosplay due to her insane meltdowns
>bitches later about how the prizes were lame anyway when it's revealed they're basically nothing and the contest was for fun
>all in all a giant shitfest

I fucking hate people sometimes. Who creates this much drama over literally a free event made for fun?

[Anonymous No.8566734]

>>8565646
how the fuck do you type on that keyboard

[Anonymous No.8566746]

is there a relationships board? I have feels but they're not cgl related.

[Anonymous No.8566749]

>>8566746
that was the dumbest thing I ever asked, ignore me

[Anonymous No.8566788]

>Live in a small town
>Not many cosplayers to begin with
>None of my close friends are cosplayers
>I recently learned there's a cosplay group locally
>Really want to join but the leader is a drama mongering fame whore
>I just want to sew and socialize occasionally

[Anonymous No.8566793]

> save for dream dress
> local currency plumets
> dress is now double the price

Fml

[Anonymous No.8566913]

>been trying to lose weight for months
>using brand as incentive
>finally decide to try out some advice from cgl
>lost almost 10 lbs so far following it

It was really basic advice but it was what I needed to read. I have a long way to go still but thanks cgl for giving me the jumpstart I needed to finally become the lolita I want to be

[Anonymous No.8566937]

>>8565646
They look good anon, I'm proud of you!

[Anonymous No.8566945]

>put a shit ton of detail into a prop
>can't even tell
W-Well at least I know...

[Anonymous No.8566959]

> Union Jack is up for sale on Y!J auctions
> no money
> fuck me

[Anonymous No.8566968]

>>8566192
That's what a lot of people have done. I can't afford a car, even a used one.

I'll likely have to sell some stuff off and buy a moped

[Anonymous No.8567556]

I know this is not my blog but I can't fucking deal with this shit anymore and anywhere else I bitch the people involved will see so yeah.
I had lunch with my mom today and I have never been so frustrated in my life.
>mom keeps excitedly asking if I have looked at wedding dresses, ect
>no mom, you guys said you were going to help in the money department and you have not given me a budget
>WELL I GOT A PART TIME JOB AND PAID FOR MY OWN WEDDING
>that is fucking nice I have a full time job and pay my own rent and bills. You lived with your parents. You got married 40 years ago. My job is shit. I don't have extra money lying around. The new job hunt is not exactly going so well.
>You should get a second job and just pay for it!
>seriously I'm working 40-45 hours a week now when the fuck do you think I have time for that, we will just ask the grooms family for help
>NO, NOT TRADITIONAL. NO. YOU JUST PAY
>Ok, so I'm getting married in a court house like I originally wanted?
>NO, YOU HAVE TO HAVE THIS THIS AND THIS AND INVITE ALL OF MY FRIENDS THAT YOU DON'T EVEN LIKE. This must match MY ideals of YOUR big day.
>Then please help me pay for that?
>But we can't help we are still paying off the loans for our boat and your sisters school and and we have to get new car insurance because of that DUI your sister got
Then she had the fucking nerve to slip me a $100 bill and tell me to "get something nice for myself"

[Anonymous No.8567571]

>>8567556
Tell her to leave you alone.

This is your day, anon, not hers. Involve her if you'd like, and lend an ear to what she says (without arguing back), but disregard her advice. You're a big girl; you need to make your own decisions for yourself. If you'd rather do a court house wedding, just do so. Later on, when you have money saved up and have time to do all of the planning, you can have the reception.

Your mother is excited for your special day but is being entirely selfish. You really need to phase her out of your mind and not put yourself into an uncomfortable/difficult situation for yourself.

You're a big girl, anon. Let mommy ramble and just do whatever you need to do.

[Anonymous No.8567574]

>>8566968
need a job to get a car
need a car to get a job

Godspeed on the moped anon

[Anonymous No.8567581]

>>8567574
No go on the moped
I have a few thousand as a down payment for a smart car or a used MINI Cooper

[Anonymous No.8567585]

It took me a while to realise, but I think I might actually be depressed. I really really hate being like a tumblrina with MUH SELF-DIAGNOSIS but this is being going on long enough for me to realise I'm probably not okay.

>Stressed as fuck, even small things upset me now.
>Some days I open my eyes in the morning and all I wanna do is cry myself back to sleep.
>I don't feel like doing anything at all. Sometimes not even hanging out with friends.
>Cry constantly, even without a reason. Even talking about how I'm feeling lately makes me burst into tears.
>Feel lost as fuck, nothing motivates me anymore to keep going.

It's pretty sad to admit but cosplay is probably the only thing I'm okay at, so at least that makes me happy, but I've been so stressed lately that's it's even hard to enjoy making stuff.

I can't really tell my family cause they'll overreact and think I'm going to become suicidal or something (I'm too scared of death anyway), I've talked about how stressed I am with some of them but never really told them "I feel like I'm losing my will to do anything".

[Anonymous No.8567588]

>>8567556

r/raisedbynarcissists? Your mother is a cunt.

[Anonymous No.8567593]

>>8566913
i'm proud of you anon! you can do it

[Anonymous No.8567596]

>>8567581
congrats!!!

>>8567585
IME family isn't always the best to talk about these sorts of issues with. If you can't see a therapist in person there is such a thing as online-therapy with actual professionals provided you have the privacy to talk to them. If not . . . could you sign up to use a private study room at a local library or community college?

[Anonymous No.8567625]

>used to have friend who would cosplay with me occasionally
>we had a sort of "break up" about a year ago when she totally switched personalities from a shy sweet innocent girl to a shit talking ass clown
>ohwell.jepg
>from time to time I find myself still missing the "old" her but I realize that girl is gone
>still have some pics of us on my phone I don't have the heart to delete them
>get on with my life
>last week out of the blue get a message from an old friend asking to hang out
>we reconnect and have an amazing time being awesome together
>during the hang out she let slip all of the fucked up shit my old friend talked about me behind my back when we were still on good terms
>mfw I deleted all of our pics when I got home and thanked the Lord that the trash took itself out

It's also good to know she's a shameless ita now while I'm finally allowing myself to indulge in cute j fashions and all of these positive people in my life are telling me how adorable I am. Also my hair is finally growing out after having it super short since middle school, so extra points for mermaid hair.

[Anonymous No.8567868]

>sell one of my favorite dresses out of economic desperation
>fatty buys it and posts hideous "coords" online
>mfw

[Anonymous No.8567878]

>have literally one friend after high school
>she lives right down the street, we hung out every couple weeks.
>we never spent *that* much time together but I got to see her from time to time
>she gets a new job
>i get a boyfriend
>try to arrange times to hang out with her, she always talks about her schedule
>I tell her I'm always home after 12 noon since I work ass early.
>she never tries to come over anymore
>try to invite her out on halloween of last year to a club. she agrees and we go halloween shopping for costumes
>day before she says she cant make it
>ok.
>recently try to invite her to see antman
>"yeah sure!" we plan out times and stuff
>she texts me the day of and says she can't make it
>ok
>next couple weeks see her doing a bunch of stuff with a friend from work
>literally every day on snapchat
>every day on facebook
>every time i try to ask her to hang out she says shes busy
>somehow makes time for this other girl
>mfw i lost my only friend.

I love my boyfriend so much, and he and I spend a lot of time together, but I always tried to make time for her. She just doesn't care anymore I guess.

Rip 15 years of friendship

[Anonymous No.8567892]

>>8567878
>Rip 15 years of friendship
I'm so sorry anon. I'm in a similar situation only having one friend, but we're 5 years down the road and hang out every other day. I really hope our friendship won't burn out the same way in 10 years.

[Anonymous No.8567904]

>>8567868
>that face with that story
Lol, what dress anon?

>>8564427
>trying to be a good friend to my new comm
>comm girls that I'm hanging out with tomorrow want me to get caught up with an anime they're watching
>assume we're going to marathon it
>it's Utena
>my nostalgia for formulaic, reused animation sequence 90s anime died a longgggg time ago
>the art is beautiful I guess?
>mfw I hope we're not watching the English dub at least because their voices are soooo grating and unnatural

[Beanie-kun !!haFBv+kEAYe No.8567909]

>Cute Korean boy wants to cosplay something gay from anime/vidya together.
>Can't pull off anything gay.
Struggling so hard

[Anonymous No.8567918]

>>8567904
>dissing Utena
you fukin pleb

[Anonymous No.8567923]

>>8567918
Sorry anon, I just find the repetitiveness of it really dry. It'd be nice otherwise.

[Anonymous No.8567927]

>>8567909
>Can't pull off anything gay.
Uh, are we still doing "phrasing"?

[i hate boba No.8567930]

I feel like I'm being a pissbaby but I just can't help feeling this way

>get new job at boba
>2nd day of work
>i've been absolutely depressed since I got the job
>Manager/boss tells me to do things quickly, have no time to memorize literally everything all at once
>SO MUCH TO MEMORIZE
>keep messing up, feel like im doing everything wrong
>feel incompetent
>this week got no more than 20hrs like I wanted at the interview
>NEXT WEEK HOURS SHOT UP TO 25HRS+ FREAKING OUT CANT WORK THAT MANY HOURS
>DONT KNOW WHO TO TELL/CALL WASNT GIVEN ANY INFO ON WHO DOES WHAT

I want to cry but holding back, and keep tellin myself its only my second day it'll be ok
Never felt this way before about a job, but it is my first time working food/drinks
Already want to quit and work retail somewhere else but everybody keeps telling me the same "just give it time" and making me feel worse

>extremely depressed and anxious at all times even off work/at home when Im usually positive
>tryin to tell myself "think of the figures you can buy/preorder now, all the cosplays you can make" usually cheers me up but not really helpin this time
>feeling extremely childish

H-has anybody ever been like this and can tell me it'll be ok, for the first time I'm starting to think that the only thing that makes me happy isn't worth it anymore...

[Anonymous No.8567934]

>>8567892
I hope it doesnt either. I dunno she always flaked on me on so many things.. I guess I should have seen her flaking on our entire friendship too

[Anonymous No.8567942]

>>8567930
Is this your first job or something?
Tell you boss you can only work 20 hours.
Your boss is the person who makes the schedules.

[Anonymous No.8567946]

>>8567923
It is 100% worth it if you can get over the Stock Footage Theater aspect. Unless you hate symbolism and multiple interpretations, then gtfo while you can.
>take a drink for every bit of reused animation
>waterfall the ascent to the dueling arena

[Anonymous No.8567949]

pic on left is when my hair is damp but its color accurate
>go to hair salon
>dying hair from blue, want light brown color
>show pic on right
>"oh it'll be a little bit darker than that but it'll be lighter than your natural color (dark brown)"
>get this ronald mcdonald period blood lookin shit
>"we had to bc of the blue lol"

can any hair stylists confirm this? i see girls going from blue to other natural colors all the time. ive been crying for 3 hours now, this color looks so bad on me.. and to make it worse i deep conditioned it to make it fade and all it did was take out most of the red and now i have 'my period's over but i still have discharge' brown. also i had bleached my hair twice, once to blonde (for pink) and then again to get rid of the leftover pink/make the hair a bit lighter.
>worst $300 ever spent

[Anonymous No.8567956]

>>8567949
the color isnt bad, don't over react.

you might want to try a color remover at home though, try color oops. Now if you're suuuuuuper unhappy go back to the salon and tell them so. Let them know you're not happy with the money you spent and the results you got. If they're decent people they will try to fix it. Otherwise I'd just try to remove the color with coloroops and then bleach it to get it lighter.

also im pretty sure red is harder to get out..

[i hate boba No.8567957]

>>8567942
Its my first job working in food/drink, my other job wasn't as stressful as this was, I was actually trained with another employee and shown the ropes, but here I was just dropped in work immediately without much help, and the managers on my back for not knowing what to do correctly and it's seriously freakin me out

I just feel like working in food related anything is a terrible choice for me, and I made the mistake of applying and finding out first hand

[Anonymous No.8567960]

>>8567930
Remember: You're new and it's okay to make mistakes. You will learn in time and it's not your fault you didn't have enough time to memorize everything. Talk to your boss about cutting down your hours or ask some coworkers if they can take over some of your shifts.

[Anonymous No.8567963]

>moved over the summer
>lots of stress
>eating poorly and not exercising
>take measurements today for a new costume
>i've gained almost three inches around my waist in the past four months
>cry for an hour

I went shopping for healthy groceries and am going to buy a new pair of running shoes tomorrow. I know I can lose that pretty easily, but I'm still so disgusted I left myself go so much, so fast. I probably couldn't fit my Mary Magdalene dresses right now. What a fucking pig. I'm seriously trying not to have a meltdown over this. Ugh.

[Anonymous No.8567971]

>>8567949
Fuck, for $300, you need to go back and tell them how unhappy you are with it. It really doesn't look as bad as you seem to think, but that's way too much money to spend on something like that. I've gone from all kinds of unnatural colours, including blue, back to natural tones, done in salons, and never had something like this happen. And also never paid more than half what you did.

[Anonymous No.8567975]

>>8567956
the color looks really bad on my skintone, my face is constantly light pinkish and it brings out the color. everyone's been telling me not to overreact but im just upset because this isnt even close to the color i asked for.. and i heavily stressed that i wanted it to be light brown..

i did talk to them and they said they had to put the red to get rid of the blue. i get that the red 'cancels out' the blue in a sense but i don't understand why they could've bleached my hair a bit more to get it lighter (first they applied red allover and then a red-brown). i'm gonna visit two different salons tomorrow and see what they say.

[Anonymous No.8567977]

>Went out for fast food lunch with bf today
>We see a girl he went to high school with, also saw her at the con last month
>Her and I start talking about cons and how I want to attend more than local one
>Offers to see if there's room for us in hotel for big con next year, says we could even carpool with her to get there
>mfw

I've never roomed with anyone but my bf before so that makes me pretty nervous, as does sharing a bathroom with four or five other people but man I hope this works out!

[Anonymous No.8567978]

>finally get motivation to work on a new costume for the first time in months
>FUCK YOU, TWAT, ENJOY A MIGRAINE INSTEAD
whyyyyyy

[Anonymous No.8567979]

>>8567978
>tfw iktf

fucking low-pressure storm system bullshit

[Anonymous No.8567983]

>>8567946
>the ascent to the dueling arena
fuck this makes me want to rewatch Utena

[Anonymous No.8567987]

>>8567971
>>8567971
>It really doesn't look as bad as you seem to think
yup that's what everyone has been telling me. if i had asked for that color i would have been happy, but its not even close to the color i showed them. and trust me, the color doesn't look good with my face at all.. it just doesn't suit me.

i did tell them but they basically said "lol we had to put the red bc of the blue dye and your hair wasnt grasping the color". like he really explained it to me but i just still dont understand.. they just went ahead and put the red ontop of the blue to get rid of it and said that it wouldnt be red in the end- then they put a dark brown after that which obviously mixed with the red. and it was my first two times bleaching my hair too and my hair definitely wasnt in bad condition (for being bleached, anyway).

another feel
>try new face creme
>always have perfect smooth skin
>allergic reaction to face creme
>i feel like an alligator
>clogged pores all over my face
>dry skin
>pls kill me

i cant cover it with any foundation/etc bc i'll just look like a white crunch bar. pic related.

sorry if something i type doesnt make sense im not reading over it

[Anonymous No.8567994]

>>8567949
>I really want that hair color on the right

Soooo anons, what do I tell my stylist to get the results on the right and not the left, and how can I tell if they're gonna fuck it up?
My hair is already a medium brunette for reference.

[Anonymous No.8567998]

>>8567878
>she'd agree to it and plan things out with you, only to flake every time
Assuming she planned to flake, she's a bitch for getting your hopes up.
If not, it's still really rude and inconsiderate.
Be happy you got out of that mess, but do try to look for other friends. It's weird how many girls I come across who only talk to their boyfriends and no one else.

[Anonymous No.8567999]

>>8567987
.. why did you try a new face cream if your skin was fine as it is?

[Anonymous No.8568001]

>want to cosplay many characters
>do not have many dollars
>do not have many time
>can't choose one
>mfw

[I hate boba No.8568003]

>>8567949
This is exactly why I cut my own hair, if it looks nasty I look at myself and say 'you did this, suck it up' and will try to fix it, but if somebody else fucked up I'd be extremely pissed but not do anything about it
Instead of saying "its not as bad as you think honestly" I'm gonna say;
> try looking up different hairstyles that /would/ suit you or look good/ok with what you have now
Maybe you'll end up finding something you'll like! It might not be great but it'll help you feel somewhat better for yourself if you have something you're happier with

>ive been crying for 3 hours now

Drink water! with whats happening in >>8567987 your face/skin might need it, and will be much happier since it's dry after so much tears, remember to replenish them!

[Anonymous No.8568004]

>>8567999
it was a night cream and my mom said it was really good so she bought me one. i hate putting stuff on my skin.. never again

that combined with the hair shit has made me feel so bad for the past few days

[Anonymous No.8568005]

>>8567998
She's a sweet girl so I don't know if it's intentional. But I feel she and our relationship has changed.

I dunno it's really hard to make friends as an adult. I get along with people at work but the idea of "hanging out" outside of work has never come up. Other than that I don't really know where to search for friends. I have friends I've known online for years, but that's not the same as an in person friendship..

I don't want to be the weird girl who only hangs out with her boyfriend but he's literally the only person who *will* hang out with me. Oh well.

[Anonymous No.8568012]

>>8568003
i actually drink a ton of water and green tea every day! and i'm gonna sleep and see how i feel about the hair tomorrow. i'm planning on visiting different salons to see what they can do.
also, i've been using face masks and moisturizers religiously (while giving my skin some time to breathe ofc) and my skin is definitely improving which is good.

[Anonymous No.8568015]

>>8568003
>>8568012
forgot to add this but i wanted to say: thanks for your advice!

[Anonymous No.8568028]

>>8567949
>tfw that's my natural hair colour
thanks

[Anonymous No.8568042]

>>8566184
I have the same feeling from time to time, but then if I dress up (even if it's just for myself, but especially if I go out to a meetup with my friends) it reminds me why I love it so much.

[Anonymous No.8568045]

>>8567930
>extremely depressed
>pissbaby
tumblr is leaking

[Anonymous No.8568062]

>tfw you yourself would have to have a tumblr to know

anyway I thought pissbaby was a thing from here? I used to see people use it here quite often months back

[Anonymous No.8568084]

>>8564427
>be me working for company A
>company A is a cleaning service contracted out to schools
>find out that the school district i was in cut the postion i had
>Wtf
>district was building a 7 million dollar athletic building and had to borrow 2 million just to cover other costs
>says that by cutting my position with company A it'll be saving them money
>Company A says that they have nothing available for me during the schoolyear
>They will cut my pay if i go down to second shift, currently on first shift
>Fuckthis.jpg
>Apply for a few jobs
>get many interviews through company B
>First two interviews involve me explaining why i'm leaving company A
>come to find out Company B lost an account to Company A because of me
>Person from company B giving me the interview gets all fired up
>gives me second interview and schedules a ride along
>get to 4th interview with company B
>Explain to HR person about all of the first interviews and what transpired
>mentioned how excited the guy was
>politely explain that this was crazy and i had no idea this had happened to their company
>get a phone call yesterday from company A that district made a dumb decision
>i get my position back
>get told by company B today that they chose someone else
>seriously question everything
>have this happen amidst con work and cosplay plans
>feel like crap

I get that shit happens but why even TELL me that during my first two interviews that i stole business from your company..yeesh.

[Anonymous No.8568129]

>tfw no gay ouji bf

[Anonymous No.8568153]

Speaking of hair feels
>dye my hair back to its natural color after a year of bleached/manic panic hair
>which is apparently a dark bloody discharge color
>also cut from bottom-of-boob length to shoulders
>damaged as fuck
>split ends are so visible since the strands are dark now
>fading like a mofo
Not to mention, the lady who cut my hair failed to tell me that my hair was way to thick and wavy to do the cute flippy kyary bob that I showed her a picture of. I literally have to curl or straighten my whole head every day and my hair is suffering even more. Before, I just curled it once, then kept it for 3 days before washing and curling again.
I feel so uncute. A lot of people didn't like my brassy brown hair, but it made me so happy. I hate this shit.

[Anonymous No.8568164]

>streaming on twitch
>playing console game
>not very attractive with small boobs
>tank top on with baggy pants
>look over to check chat
>"you've been suspended for Terms of Service"
>the hell?
>look at email
>reason "Porn"

What the serious fuck? Is it that easy to take down someones stream? Does any team member even come by and check it out? Even so, the only way to be breaking the "sexual content" rule is if I was wearing a bikini or less. It just made me feel a mixture of anger and sadness. It's too unfair.

>inb4 I deserve it because slut shaming

I find it ridiculous that I'm easily taken down yet female twitch partners who dress in slutty cosplay get to stay up and are never taken down even with the obvious amount of reports.
It makes me wonder if Jnig ever got a 24 hour ban like me.

[Anonymous No.8568173]

>>8568164
you should report her when she streams, anon.

>>8568045
a lot of seagulls have tumblrs, anon. get over it.

[Anonymous No.8568179]

>>8566322
Hey, at least it's a free nose job?

[Anonymous No.8568185]

>>8568173
summer, please. you can have a tumblr without BEING a tumblr.

[Anonymous No.8568188]

>get new job to pay for college expenses
>everyone else is like four/five years younger than me
>not sure how to act
>feel fucking ancient despite being in my early twenties

[Anonymous No.8568199]

>>8568164
Now that I know I can, I'll report all the true boob displays. I saw one that was horrible down shirt angle and her game was the tiniest box on the corner of her screen.

[Anonymous No.8568208]

>posting a comment on /cgl/
>hooray captcha time!
>mfw this shit

I clicked all the images on the left, the three down, but nope. Didn't work. Good job, captcha. Good job.

[Anonymous No.8568225]

>>8568164
So are tank tops with low V cuts allowed?

[Anonymous No.8568233]

>>8568188
Those kind of people are the coolest, though. They have actual experience to talk about, rather than memories of high school or when the next test is.

>>8568208
>got one captcha that said to click on every square with a mountain
>7/9 of them had a mountain
>select them all
>captcha fails and gives me another weird food one instead

[Anonymous No.8568238]

> haven't worn lolita since last October
> the thought of going outside in it makes me nauseated
> wear frumpy clothes to blend in
> pretty sure my tiny wardrobe will no longer fit me

I genuinely hate my life, gulls. I grew up below poverty level, and now that I'm stable and have cash to burn, I feel like I'm not worthy to wear cute things.

[Anonymous No.8568283]

>had a long day out in lolita
>many random strangers saying crap like bow peep and alice in wonderland, etc
>pretty annoyed after awhile
>on my way home, late at night
>on the train an alt boy sits in front of me
>he turns around to say something, I honestly think its going to be something annoying
>he kindly asks what style of lolita I'm wearing
>i say sweet
>tells me I look very nice, I awkwardly say thank you
>i want to continue on the conversation but i'm super shy and dont want to sperge out about lolita
>silently ride for the rest of the train
>he gets off, says have a good night and I say you too

Train-anon you made my day so much better by not being a dumb/annoying stranger. I'm sorry I was too autistic to talk to you

[Anonymous No.8568288]

>realise I have an unfortunate looking face
>start doing cosplays with masks
>suddenly photos go up tenfold
Don't know if I should be happy or sad

[Anonymous No.8568324]

>>8566184
When I'm in a slump I put on my favourite coord and watch Kamikaze Girls.

[Anonymous No.8568339]

>>8567878
Iktf anon.
>message friend if she wants to hang out
>"no sorry anon I'm like super busy right now"
>five minutes later she posts on twitter about being bored out of her mind and nobody wanting to hang out with her
>okay.jpg

Because of shit like this my only friends are now my boyfriend, my parents and my boyfriend's mom. I often see people complaining about how girls get a boyfriend and drop out of the social sphere completely and I guess that's what happened with me, but it's not my fucking fault.
>tfw the only interaction I have with girls my age is on /cgl/

[Anonymous No.8568343]

>>8568339
same
I moved to a different country and don't share any common interests with the people I met here.
Most young women here are kinda sloppy artsy hipsters. The only friends I had back home always say they're busy and never wanna talk but have the time to write gay Loki fanfics with their internet friend from Poland so I just slowly cut off all contact with them. Might as well have no friends at all.

[Anonymous No.8568346]

>>8568288
Just rejoice in the good times anon.

[Anonymous No.8568347]

>last year
>worked at a popular haunt in socal
>not the best behind the scenes; shitty co-workers, boss could be a douche but pretty fun
>got in decent shape from not having time to eat and constant running around
>got to meet cool people (including some actors!)
>paycheck was shit but enough to pay for Christmas presents for family and ALA
>halloween fast approaching
>can't work at haunt because land it was on got sold
>no new venue
>really wanted to be a makeup artist this year
>would have gotten paid more
>could have bought burando, paid for con, and buy presents
>how will I pay for things now

Still really sucks it got closed down. It was the best damn seasonal job I'll ever have. Now I have to apply for Target or something for the extra cash.

[Anonymous No.8568356]

>>8567625
Holy shit anon, are you me?
I was just in an almost identical situation, I'm sorry to hear you went through that. On the positive side.. so long, toxic bitch!

[Anonymous No.8568419]

>>8565401
Update : after a week we're already starting to get snappy. I know I'm kind of bad with people but we know each other pretty well so they were aware of that to begin with, and they're starting to get agressive. We're in an area I'm not confident navigating alone (locals aren't good with foreign languages and my knowledge is pretty basic), but I will def turn into a lone traveller.

[Anonymous No.8568437]

>>8567975
They are lying, because you would not actually put red to cancel out the blue dye. It would make far better sense to remove the blue by lifting the color, especially since you werent looking for a brown in the first place but a blonde. Sadly you could have done that yourself with stuff like color oops and washing it with shampoos that are clarifying, etc.

>>8567994
You should be fine because the anon had dyed hair that was an unnatural color, and you have brown hair. Be very clear and vocal about your own hair.

[Anonymous No.8568447]

>>8567556
buy the ugliest wedding dress u can find for $50 at a thrift stall or whatever and serve cut up hotdogs and sticks to guests and when your mum is like wtf just be like thats the budget you gave me

[Anonymous No.8568457]

>>8567909
I'm gay and have something you can pull off...

[Anonymous No.8568473]

non /cgl/ feels but need to get them out
>be good friends this this guy a few years ago, crush on him hard, eventually stop talking Bcus I got a bf
>unresolved issues and feelings on my part
>break up with that bf, get a new bf who is absolutely amazing
>one year into relationship, start questioning if I really love him or if he's just convenient for me.
>try to ask for break for something unrelaged but he's pretty against it
>feelings for old friend come back out of nowhere

I really need to figure out how I feel about everything. I can't tell my boyfriend how I feel because it'd crush him but I can't ask for a break so I can figure my feelings out because he thinks that they pretty much signal a break up. I'm sort of in a shit place with everything right now.

[Anonymous No.8568495]

>>8568238
Exercise anon, you'll feel better. You don't need to be 'worthy' of cute things, but if you're feeling depressed then exercise will help.

>>8568324
That's so cute, I might do that today.

[Anonymous No.8568497]

I have fucking lices.
I wanna cry.

[Anonymous No.8568508]

>>8568497
>I fucking have lice.
Fixed that for you, anon.

Not the end of the world, get a nit comb and some of the shampoo. Put that shit on, watch a couple of films whilst you comb them out, it'll take an evening at most. Wash all yours pillows, brushes etc with boiling water. Most importantly figure out where they came from, a younger sibling or elsewhere. Good luck, keep it quiet and it'll be over soon!

[Anonymous No.8568515]

>first paycheck soon, can only get part time shitty job
>want to buy shitty ebay costume to cheer myself up after a month of shit job, it's only $50, should have plenty left over for savings
>glasses break
>need to pay for graduation robes
>wages slowly but surely disappearing, with none left over for savings, let alone cosplay
>cry

[Anonymous No.8568524]

>>8568473
Ugh, I'm kinda in that space of not sure as well but we're only at the 4-5 month mark. It's not even about love or another guy, it's about whether I even really like him vs liking the relationship. All of my previous relationships have either started with us just "liking" each other and fizzled/ended badly, or super intense physical and romantic attraction that also ended badly, so I have that past experience to influence my decisions.
Basically my only regret in my relationships has been not breaking up with them earlier and not being grown up about it, so I'm really trying not to cling on for the sake of it. At least he understands how I'm feeling and has basically said "I don't want to go out with someone who doesn't like me, but I want you to be sure of your feelings and that you don't think it'll work."

To be honest it sounds like if you're questioning things that much, and can't communicate this without really upsetting your relationship, that your relationship isn't going to work out anyway.

[Anonymous No.8568529]

>>8568524
That's the feeling I'm trying to describe. It happened with my ex, and it's not even the old feelings bringing it up, it's just making it worse! Sucks so much.
It's not like we can't talk about things, it's just my current boyfriend is such a good guy and he hasn't been in a relationship before, so I'm worried about how he'll handle it. Maybe you're right in that if I don't feel okay to discuss those feelings it won't work.

[Anonymous No.8568531]

>>8568497
Been there, it was gross.

I would also use a shit tonne of conditioner on your hair before you start combing. Get some tea tree shampoo, wash your hair, then put the conditioner on and don't wash it out. Then put Saran wrap on your head for about 20 mins. Then comb those dead fucks out as this process will suffocate them. Wash everything and repeat this combing process twice a day until they are ded. Good luck, anon.

[Anonymous No.8568537]

>>8568343
I've had so many friends do that to me I've lost count. I no longer count them as friends.

[Anonymous No.8568559]

>>8568508
>>8568531
Thanks anons. I am currently combing my hair, princess style. Except there are lices in it and that isnt very kawaii. But they are dead i got most of the little fuckers with a super aggressive lice shampoo thing. Burned me eye in the process and hair is super dry now. Gotta condition and moisturize all that.
Also it was little brother that brought them after investigating around.
As soon as he is back home i will attack him with shampoo. On that day lices will receive a grim reminder.

[Anonymous No.8568563]

>>8568559
>Corrected from "lices" to "lice"
>Uses "lices" again anyways

Anon.
Stop it.
Stop.
It.

[Anonymous No.8568572]

>>8568563
>Burned me eye
Anon is clearly a pirate and pirates don't give a shit about grammar, that's why they're pirates.

[Anonymous No.8568578]

>>8567975
The colour in the pic you want isn't light brown at all, It's ash blond.

[Anonymous No.8568584]

>>8568473
For the past few months I've constantly been getting these weird romantic dreams about an old childhood friend I had a crush on back in high school. I haven't seen him in over five years, and even back then he was turning into kind of a douche because of his douchey friends. I'm perfectly comfortable with my current boyfriend/fiancé so it's extra confusing when I wake up feeling completely in love with this kind of douchey guy I haven't seen in forever. What the fuck, brain.

To make it more /cgl/ related: my current boyfriend likes lolita and is friends with several cosplayers, but the high school crush was kind of a typical dudebro whose friends were hostile towards anyone and anything they thought was weird or nerdy. It makes no sense whatsoever for my brain to be going "Heyyy remember that guy? Why don't you go back to being in love with that guy, that was great" but here we are.

[Anonymous No.8568590]

>tfw only have one irl friend I see occasionally
>tfw said friend moves away to the other side of the country
>tfw online friends aren't online or won't respond
>tfw lonely

When I was a kid I remember just outright saying I didn't need friends, but would always think about and wait for the moment I'd have actual friends.

Guess I crushed my own childhood dreams by being autistic and annoying everyone. Even if during college I can easily talk with people it never goes beyond that so I essentially have no social life at this point in time.

[Anonymous No.8568616]

>>8568339
Yeah I pretty much hang out with my family these days. Which is fine but my sister is moving to california soon, taking my two young nephews (who i love to death) with, obviously. My other sister still lives at home with me but she works a lot/literally spends all her free time with her actual friends.

I think I'd be slightly happier if I had some other living being next to me. I've tried really hard to get a pet but since I live at home and everyone hates animals except me, I'm boned on that front too.

[Anonymous No.8568633]

>>8567909
If you cant pull of anything manly just do love stage, everyone looks super girly.

If you cant pull off anything kawaii-uguu-desu idk do something from nakamura asumiko, they look weird so you can do whatever

[Anonymous No.8568645]

>getting married next week
>fiancé is military, he'll get paid more just because I exist
>show him cheap taobao dresses
>oh anon don't worry about buying offbrand stuff anymore. You can get the expensive brand dresses whenever you want starting next month
mfw

[Anonymous No.8568648]

>go out to bar with bf and his friend for nerd trivia night since i wanted to go
>bf and friends aren't really nerds, but go anyways
>wear n7 dress, heels, and a black jacket (pic pretty much exactly related)
>recently got into great shape after recovering from an ED, feel awesome and hot for once in my life
>boyfriend sees dress and gives me weird look
>bf's friend sees dress and asks "is that one of your weird costume things?"

>at the bar, getting tons of compliments from other mass effect fans
>a few cute girls and guys, but i'm taken so w/e
>feeling pretty happy/awesome about myself, have a great time

>get home
>boyfriend and i sit down
>long conversation, but basically boils down to "anon, don't wear that dress anymore. you can wear your costumes at conventions but it's too weird to wear out. you embarrassed me in front of my friend."
>horrendously embarrassed and feel like shit forever

Feels like shit, bro. He's also totally against me wearing gyaru or lolita (both of which I was into before we dated) and refuses to come with me to a convention. He's really sweet and a decent boyfriend, but it really crushes me to know that he rejects something that's such a huge part of me.

[Anonymous No.8568649]

>>8566734
Don't know how to type without looking, anon?
Pleb

[Anonymous No.8568655]

I just got a full-time call center job at a credit card company so I can afford more brand, I move in with some of my best friends, I finally payed of my paypal credit line that I used for lolita and I start my 5th semester of college on monday.

I'm feeling pretty great rn!

[Anonymous No.8568657]

>>8568648
Why are you letting him control your decisions about clothing like that? You shouldn't give up things you love because he's embarrassed by you. Also, that dress is a little unusual but definitely not worth a long conversation about how embarrassing you looked or anything. I'm sorry, anon, but he sounds controlling and not very fun.

[Anonymous No.8568662]

>>8568645
Congrats, anon! He sounds like a keeper.

[Anonymous No.8568663]

>>8568648
wtf if he's embarrassed by nerd stuff, tell him to stay home. god damn. don't lose stuff you love for some dude who's embarrassed by things you're passionate about.

congrats on recovery, though. keep it up.

[Anonymous No.8568665]

>>8568648
yeah he sounds controlling, that's how my ex started acting and it snowballed from there. might wanna do some thinking, that N7 dress isn't even that strange looking.

[Anonymous No.8568686]

>>8568657
>>8568663
>>8568665

Thanks, anons. I feel a little more sane after reading your comments. Our relationship definitely is heading south, and will probably end soon. It just sucks because he's my brother's best friend and I'll have to see him a ton.

We've been in fights where we've been on the brink of breaking up before, which is what I wanted, but I stayed because it wasn't what he wanted and I thought we could work things out. Plus, I'm comfortable in having someone to cuddle with/go places with/sleep with... I'm also a huge pussy who can't stand up for herself. I guess I'm just waiting for another fight to happen or something so I can bail.

Sorry for the gush of feelings, but I don't have any friends that would understand the situation.

[Anonymous No.8568700]

>>8568559
Use a mixture of half water and half white vinegar as your last hair rinse whenever your brother is around. It won't smell once the hair is dry but it keeps lice away. We swear by this method, my sister works in a children daycare and she prevents bringing the lice home with this method.

[Anonymous No.8568709]

>>8568686
>I'm comfortable in having someone to cuddle with/go places with/sleep with
At least you know that you just want someone to do these things with, and it doesn't need to be him in particular. Spend time with friends or make some so that you don't get lonely and crawl back to him, and you said yourself you're looking damn fine lately, so when you're ready to move on you'll find yourself a nice nerd to share your passions with.

[Anonymous No.8568718]

>>8568648
He really doesn't sound "sweet" or "decent" to me

[Anonymous No.8568724]

>>8568686
Get a dog or a friendly ass cat
Trust me

[Anonymous No.8568727]

>>8568590
Just do what I do anon
>Shitpost on CGL while listening to Blink-182

[Anonymous No.8568731]

>>8568648
You drop that piece of shit right now.
HE IS NOT WORTH IT

[Anonymous No.8568738]

>>8568686
Yea it'll suck for him since he'll see his ex gf looking hot as fuck in nerd/alt clothes actually happy and not oppressed.

[Anonymous No.8568741]

>>8568648
>>8568686
i feel for you anon, don't be with somebody who doesn't accept you.

[Anonymous No.8568746]

>>8567625
Are you me anon?My story is also more tragic for uhm... love reasons. I tried to reconnect with her to see if she was changed and tell me sorry for all the flakey shit but still she is that bitch i left behind and even blame me (or other people) for her "misfortunes" or " volatile moods", never said sorry. I hope to find a good friend again, i miss having a real best friend at times. Also, she tried some time ago to induge me to buy ita ebay milanoo tier shit and saying like it was the real deal and cheap compared to burando, kek. And also disrespect me for liking lolita, instead of her superior punk vk wannabe poser stuff.
Anon, that is amazing!At least you know what are the real people that appreaciate and help you.

[Anonymous No.8568750]

>>8568590
Let's be friends, anon?I have some online and offline friends but.... i don't have close feelings for them. I would love to have a very close best friend.

[Anonymous No.8568752]

>>8568645

Thats awesome anon, he sounds like an absolute keeper !

[Anonymous No.8568767]

>>8567963
Boy do I ever feel you. I've always been curvy but also always had a waist around 72-74 inches, after a stressful semester and eating like a pig I'm up to 80. I know if I cut out the potato chips and head to the gym a couple of times a week I'll get back to normal, but the temptation to crash diet and starve myself is real.

[Anonymous No.8568771]

>>8568648
>getting embarrassed by a dress with a red stripe and an obscure numeral logo

What the bloody shit? People are way too sensitive.

[Anonymous No.8568781]

>>8568767
>curvy
>waist of 72-74 inches

Anon, you need to cut out more than just the chips. You're bigger around than I am tall.

[Anonymous No.8568782]

>>8568767
> inches

Are you sure you didn't mean cm? 72 inches is more than you average girl's height. Regardless, please take care of yourself. Crash diets are horrible and can fuck your metabolism forever.

[Anonymous No.8568784]

>Dieting
>Lost 30lbs so far
>Waist shrinking, butt deflating
>Bust has only gone down one inch
I'll never fit into burando...

[Anonymous No.8568788]

>>8568781
centimeters, bro, not inches. jfc

[Anonymous No.8568790]

>>8568782
>>8568781

Holy shit yeah I totally meant cm, my bad. Didn't even notice I said inches.

[Anonymous No.8568791]

>>8568559
>"burned me eye"
>"me eye"
>"me"
Are ye a pirate?

>>8568563
Dude stop being a grammar nazi

>>8568572
This

[Anonymous No.8568792]

>>8568788
Oh, thank god. I was honestly worried for you, anon.

Don't crash diet. Like you said, just cut out the chips, and spend some time at the gym, and the weight will come off sooner than you think. Good luck!

[Anonymous No.8568798]

>>8568572
Don't some Brits use "me" instead of "my" though? I heard a fair bit of that from older people when I was in England.

[Anonymous No.8568806]

Does anyone else not wear a bra in order to fit into their burando better?

>bust is fucking ridiculous
>if I wear a bra I have to scoop one boob past the waistline at a time because they just can't fit
>looks boobloafish too
>however
>if I don't wear a bra I can slip in and out with ease
>I actually look a bit more flatchested
>nobody irl or online has ever called me out for it
>assume I'm getting away with it

Well, anyone else know this feel?

[Anonymous No.8568814]

>>8568798
Brits and the Irish, but you'll never hear them use it seriously if they're in the 4chan age group. At least that's what it's like in Ireland, you either need to be the ultimate bog warrior, old, autistic, or all of the above

I've heard some Turbogaels forcing it but they're the lot who'd name their child 'Cabbage' in Irish because the normal names are too common, easy to pronounce and mainstream so...

[Anonymous No.8568815]

>>8568806
As long as you're not poking people in the eyes with your nipples, and the girls aren't flopping around, more power to you. If it helps avoid boobloaf, it's a good thing.

>tfw I have never been more thankful of my 28 inch bust than when I started wearing lolita

[Anonymous No.8568845]

>>8568356
>>8568746

Good for us, we are stronger without those people in our lives! I wish you anons all kinds of love and positive friendship. Let's do our best to look amazing and put those hoes to shame with our amazing coords!

[Anonymous No.8568846]

>>8568806
I do have one dress I wear with a sports bra or no bra at all because it actually looks better that way. I don't have a big bust (70C) but the dress is a high-waisted ETC one that actually looks better with a bit of 'boobloaf' than with two separately-defined-but-clearly-flattened boobs.
It's a high-waisted dress, though. If your boobs are filling out the bodice of a regular-waist dress it probably doesn't look so good.

[Anonymous No.8568853]

>>8568750
I'd love to be friends anon, it's so hard to find someone these days who's into cute things or anime/games who you're also able to talk about more sensitive topics with. I just want one person I can talk to everything about.

[Anonymous No.8568855]

>>8568686
I hope you can get out soon, anon. My first boyfriend sounds like your current bf, and it took me way too long to leave due to low self-esteem and our tightly connected friend circles, but I've since been in much happier relationships with people who support my passions, even if they don't get them. You deserve that, too.

[Anonymous No.8568886]

>have insane older sister
>torments me throughout childhood
>weird example: she fixates on my breast size, brags about how hers were so much bigger when she was my age
>points out how every girl we know has bigger boobs than me
>makes me show them to her and mocks me about them
>tries to bully me into exposing myself to neighbors by pressing my bare chest against the windows of our house
>be self-conscious about my breasts for years
>slouch always
>avoid things with darts, there is always an empty space because I don't fill out my shirts
>get into lolita
>small breasts are finally an asset
>get into crossplay
>can bind like a champ

As it turns out, my breasts are the right size for the life I want. She made me feel defective for years but now I love my little nubbins.

>they're also not that small, like a B cup
>but she made me think I needed As

[Anonymous No.8568901]

>>8568886
Your sister has some underlying issues that she really needs to address.

But I'm glad you moved past it, at least.

[Anonymous No.8568911]

>>8568164
>Is it that easy to take down someones stream? Does any team member even come by and check it out?

more answers on this please im in a similar situation.

[Anonymous No.8568927]

>>8568845
Yes, anon! At least i'm planning to buy more lolita, getting amazing pics. Infact these friends were really hoes, no joke. I'm glad to dress feminine and not feeling weak to do it! And finding new friends as well.
>>8568853
I know that feel. I find people that are into anime/games etc. but that feel of connecting with them in mind and soul, it's like not present. I'm also into more important or mindful topic and talk to people that is rational enough, not acting like a little spoiled brat or whining to everyone. It's nice to have sane friends but a bit sad to not have a closer BFF. I think cgl need again the finding friends thread!!
>>8568886
What a bitch!Also smaller boobs have lots of advantages and.... they don't sag a lot. I have A cup and i'm glad to be like this in my mid 20s, i can fit AP tiny cutsews with no issue.

[Anonymous No.8568956]

>>8568886
Wow she's a total cunt wipe. I know the feel anon, I have A cups. But they're prefect for Lolita!

[Anonymous No.8568976]

>weigh about 100 pounds
>consider doing a tummy-showing cosplay because I don't have rolls, why not
>do it
>see pictures post-con
>I look like a tube
>see other girls showing tummy, clear definition between waist and hips
>weight doesn't matter, I just have no shape thanks to a wide ribcage
>thanks genetics

>put on about 10 pounds since then
>it all went to my ass
>not even hips, just ass
>still a rectangle from the front
What the hell, man.

[Anonymous No.8568982]

>>8568886

Is your sister Lena Dunham?

[Anonymous No.8568993]

>>8568976
>wide ripcage
>waist/hip ratio
But how? Being a rectangle isn't so bad if you're otherwise slender. Just dress right for it. Or squat.

[Anonymous No.8568995]

>>8568982
Fuck, I knew that story reminded me of someone

[Anonymous No.8568996]

>>8568993
Not that anon but as another rectangle here, it still sucks looking like a board compared to other more curvy girls.
I don't mind it in lolita since it doesn't matter, but I hate wearing bathing suits and whatnot because I look like a boy with curvy thighs and boobs.

[Anonymous No.8569002]

>>8568976
>>8568996
Oh god I know this feel. It doesn't matter how curvy you are from the side either, if you're a rectangle stomach bearing outfits will look like shit.

[Anonymous No.8569004]

>friend makes gofundme for a cosplay
>people throw tons of money at her
>mom sets up a gofundme to pay for cancer treatments
>also asks extra money since she and my dad are going out of town for 2 weeks and I'll be babysitting siblings, so money for bills while she and him are away
>promises to pay back everyone
>some jerk donated $0.25 and told her to get a job

[Anonymous No.8569011]

>>8569004
If your friend already has popularity as a cosplayer, this doesn't surprise me.

>get a job to pay for cancer treatment
What a dick, though.

[Anonymous No.8569034]

>broke up with bf over petty shit (im a really jealous -crazy level- person)
>mfw my birthday was a couple of days ago
>bf bought me a lizlisa dress because of that
>miss my bf but hey at least i have something i really wanted!

im not sure how to feel about myself

[Anonymous No.8569107]

>>8569034
Getting over jealousy is all about trust and understanding.
Is there a chance you can get back with him? If you do, make sure to spend more time talking things out.

[Anonymous No.8569123]

>>8569107
i dont want to be with him because ive tried for 5 years to overcome my ''craziness''
i think its better for me to stay alone
less things to get upset over and of course less victims that will suffer from my jealously

[Anonymous No.8569128]

>>8569034
Sounds like it's time to apologize, Anon.

[Anonymous No.8569136]

> have nightmares about my dog dying
>recently lost one of my cats so I'm already not in a good emotional state
>wake up today
>roommate tells me dog is sick
>absolute fucking panic because I can't lose another animal so soon
>it's been a few hours and she seems better but I'm still freaking out because we can't get her to a vet today

I just. I can't handle this right now. I'm hoping she'll be fine. We got her to eat a little and she's not hiding under the bed anymore so fingers crossed.

and now cgl related
>feeling like crap about myself
>friend is doing a panel and needs to replace some people
>want to audition but too nervous
>a couple people tell me to do it because they think I'd be perfect for the character
>never had anyone say that to me
>well, guess I'll start working on this cosplay now so I can try out!
>feels good man

[Anonymous No.8569245]

>person asks for help with a cosplay
>tell them what to do as simply as possible, link tutorials and where to buy, etc.
>they don't reply
>their friend at the same skill level as them gives a newbie reply that'll give shit results
>"Ohhh thanks I'll try that!!!!"

[Anonymous No.8569284]

>>8568901
>>8568927
>>8568956
Thanks. She is still really disturbed and is not in my life anymore.

>>8568982
No, but sibling-on-sibling abuse or exploitation is waaayy more common than people think.

>mfw my sister didn't even give me candy to make me do things, just made me feel like shit if I didn't
>mfw I have no face

[Anonymous No.8569289]

>>8569123
>i think its better for me to stay alone
this is a good attitude to have, please stay strong and keep working on your issues.

[Anonymous No.8569294]

>>8569245
Why the fuck do people do this?

>person personally asks for me help
>completely deconstruct the cosplay for her and even draw out some schematics for her to follow
>"yeah thanks"
>two days later
>"hey I changed my mind explain this cosplay instead to me"

[Anonymous No.8569321]

>>8569245
I have no tolerances with people like this
>person asks for help with wig
>links them several lucaille wigs because they're good for the price
>"oh are you sure that they're legit?"
>takes pictures of several lucaille wigs I already own to show that they're legit
>"alright I'll check them out"
>starts complaining that the price is "too cheap" for a "good quality" wig
>bitches about how she couldn't get on the site despite her boyfriend saying that even he could access the site so he has no idea what she's going on about
>gives up and buys from some other "more legit" shop instead
>day of con
>she bitches about how the wig keeps getting super tangled and how she spent 3 hours trying to fix it

[Anonymous No.8569355]

>>8568886
wow fuck her, sounds like she might have been jealous and overcompensating though. rock it, I'm jelly of anyone that can bind when they want and still look feminine other days because my boobs are so big. SHRUGS grass is always greener, but I'm glad you made peace.

[Anonymous No.8569366]

>work in a DIY/building warehouse/store
>so many cosplay related things I could get discount on
>expanding foam, air brush kit, caulk, glue gun, different types of glue, sander + sand paper, saws, etc.
>mfw no planned cosplay that requires any of those things

[Anonymous No.8569380]

>>8569034
Just thought I'd share that I just called my boyfriend really upset, thinking you were the jealous-crazy-lizlisa girl he was dating around 5 years ago. And of course you're not, and he even proved it for good measures. So I'm also jealous crazy.
>"I can't believe you almost dumped me over an anonymous pepe meme"
I hope you feel better soon, anon. I think there's nothing wrong with being jealous. If you're getting agressive or manipulative over it, yes, but no one should be mad at you just for feeling a certain way. I think it's just about finding someone patient enough to say "I'm sorry you feel that way, here's what I'll do to help the situation"

[Anonymous No.8569394]

>>8568529
I think often you can be in relationships where on paper/when you describe it, it seems like it should be awesome and practically perfect...but it doesn't feel right (and you can't always put your finger on why) in which case it's often not that they or you are bad people, but you just aren't right for each other. It's not a good idea to ignore that feeling because if you do you basically have to wait for the relationship to get bad and self destruct before you admit it hasn't really been working for ages.

It really sucks though if you finally find someone who's supportive and who you can cosplay or dress up with, and you know it'll be difficult to do those things as friends only afterwards

[Anonymous No.8569428]

>bf and I watch your lie in april (pic related)
>both he and I relate to it soo much

>when bf was young, his parents were super strict about playing the piano
>he quit due to pressure and stress and hasn't touched one since
>when he thinks about it, he breaks into a cold sweat

>In my preteen years, I was learning violin
>suddenly cocktail of illness and health conditions occur
>at one point rode in a wheel chair for a few months
>parents were scared I'd die
>I'm mostly good now, but my hands shake too much for it to be natural
>I can't play the violin without sounding like a squirrel with a stroke
>stop playing as I was in the early stages of learning

>bf and I watch pic related
>both he and I cry like a little bitch at the ending
>one day bf at work while I take a sick day off
>I had recently bought a wavy blond wig for another cosplay
>be sitting on the couch watching amvs for pic related while I get an idea
>head down into the basement and dig out the old pianica/melodica I had as a child
>wash it of dust and put on the wig
>play a couple of kid songs, like twinkle twinkle little star and london bridge
>lol casual cosplay
>hear door open
>bf home early
>he looks at me in horror
spoiler : blond girl dies
>we both gets feelsy
>he gets really protective of me
>now planning couple cosplay for it

My melodica is a darker blue than Kaori's though. haha

[Anonymous No.8569431]

>>8569428
lol dropped pic

[Anonymous No.8569456]

>>8567556
if she wants it she pays for it otherwise it's YOUR day

[Anonymous No.8569464]

>>8567625
I have a friend who is fake as hell with me. We've been friends for eight years and she wasn't around when my mom died. I've taken her on trips to colorado and europe and loaned her money for her flight. I tried talking about my mom and health issues while we where together in Paris. She crap talked me to her bf the whole time. I saw it on her phone. Talking about how she can't stand me. Now she wants to get into lolita and I don't want her to.I've been into lolita since before we met and she's all perfect japanese speaking weeaboo been to japan fuck face. Lolita is my safe place and she makes me feel so bad about myself now.
all the girls think shes so cute, sweet and quiet..... quietly watches the world burn!

[Anonymous No.8569469]

>>8569428
anon I loved your lie in april too and even though your story is sad i find this story to be very cute as well
i'm sure you two will make a great cosplay couple!
>tfw has never seen cosplay for it
>tfw would def ask to take pics if i saw

[Anonymous No.8569471]

>>8567949
pic on the right is not brown its medium blonde. Your color will fade and it looks light brown tbh

[Anonymous No.8569475]

>>8568648
That's what happened to me before, anon. I know it sucks hardcore, but you might need to look at your relationship past him being sweet. Like the other anon said, it does snowball. My ex started with insulting cosplay and lolita and being a general shit to me about it, he started trying to control more of my life and when I fought back against him trying to limit what I do, it ended really roughly and bad for me in the end. It's easier to talk about it now rather than later and if he insists you stop you might need to look elsewhere for a partner.

[Anonymous No.8569479]

>>8569464
>I've taken her on trips to colorado and europe and loaned her money for her flight.
Unfortunately, that was your first mistake.
>tfw had a similar friend that only did friend things with me when i could provide her with a travel partner i.e. myself
>tfw she became distant and kind of bitchy ever since i got annoyed because the $300 she and her boyfriend owed me ~mysteriously~ got stolen/lost in the mail
>(tfw he insisted he couldn't use his bank account and somehow i believed this story)
People turn into bitches when large amounts of money are involved, even if they claim they want to spend it. And if they say they'll pay you back, expect to never see that money again unless they're a truly great friend who sticks to what they say.

[Anonymous No.8569545]

>>8569479
>>8569464
she's paid 1300 of the 1800 I gave her so that's not this issue. If she thinks so horribly of me why does she talk to me? She wants me to teach her the ways of lolita but i just want her to move away. I am just starting to really get close to everyone in my comm.

[Anonymous No.8569609]

>>8568806
I know this feel. My boobs are disproportionate as fuck too and my dresses look better the flatter I can get them, but I just can't stand walking around without a bra, it feels so uncomfortable. I never wear my regular bras with lolita anymore, I only use sports bras without underwire. If only they could stay compressed forever.

[Anonymous No.8569616]

>>8569475
>>8568709
>>8568718
>>8568724
>>8568731
>>8568738
>>8568741
>>8568771
>>8568855

Wow, so many replies. Thanks, anons. Stupidly enough, I cried after reading these. I guess I'm just mad at myself because I've been in an extremely abusive situation before (physically, emotionally, and sexually) so it really bums me out that he tricked me into thinking he was a good guy. The first few months together was nothing but him being supportive and stoked for whatever I was into, but now it just becomes a judge-fest.

It doesn't help that I have anxiety/depression and he thinks that when I need alone time or if I feel suicidal, he takes it extremely personally and has basically told me to stop taking my pills and just "stop being so sad all the time"... I've been on this medication a while after trying many and find it helps, but I just need to up my dosage at my next psychiatry appointment. I've tried explaining brain chemistry to him, but his eyes just glaze over and he doesn't listen or even try to understand a word I say. Then he'll be like, "Well, you have your opinion and I have mine..." ... Because apparently opinions trump facts. And every time we fight, it becomes personal and my problem and me making HIM feel like shit. He won't hear my feelings out or belittles them straight up, just like my ex would.

I'm just ranting now, honestly. I'm sorry for the length. I obviously need to get myself with a new therapist and out of this relationship. It's just so fucking hard.

[Anonymous No.8569625]

>>8566734
yeah, the amount of people who ask me this is alarming - I can't believe so many people don't know how to type without looking at the keyboard... that's a very important skill to have guys...

>>8566937
Thanks! I worked way too long on them. Next time I'm just buying something in the right color.

And now for some feels:
>bout to go to a party
>guy is gonna be there that I don't like
>he's never seen me dressed in j-fashion
>dreading the comments I know he's gonna make
>he attacked my friend about a year ago now
>no idea why everyone is still friends with him
ugh. I so do not want drama when my face is covered in make up and I'm wearing false eyelashes.

[Anonymous No.8569635]

>>8569616
It's gonna be hard, but sometimes the best things to do for yourself are very difficult. You sound like you're on the right track for getting your life in a good spot, realizing that you need help and getting said help. If he's trying to tell you to stop taking meds and using the "I have my opinion" thing (my ex did the same), and when you argue he pins the blame on you... it's time to cut him out of your life. I'm sorry hun, I really really am. It's going to suck but you've gotten pretty far with taking care of yourself, and your mental health is more important. Please take care of yourself.

[Anonymous No.8569639]

>>8569616
You know what you need to do, anon. I wish you luck into getting into a better situation.

[Anonymous No.8569642]

>>8569625
That sucks.. hm.
I guess just try to stay away from him and ignore the comments? People usually say that sort of shit to get a reaction out of you, so just don't give him one.
You know you look good, don't let his comments get to you!

[Anonymous No.8569647]

>>8568164
It's because those kind of streamers (the girls who try to show their tits and look hot and having the screen on them instead of the game) get's a fuck ton of people. More people means the more people clicking on twitch's ads so they can get money.

So what would happen if Twitch bans those popular streamers? The streamer will have a hissyfit and they'll move to hitbox; and so will her fans. I hate those kinds of streamers too but really they're helping twitch get more money for the servers.

So unless you get a fuck ton of views on twitch the mods wouldn't hesitate to ban you. Shit sucks.

Also
>Slut shaming
Pic related
That term is stupid anon.

[Anonymous No.8569653]

>>8569642
Oh, he's not gonna say I look bad. I'm worried about him saying I look hot and shit like that. He's a huge creep and tried to molest my friend while she was sleeping. That's the part I'm afraid of.

[Anonymous No.8569660]

>>8569653
Oh gross.
Stick very close to your friends/boyfriend then.

[Anonymous No.8569667]

what the hell is with people wanting to hold your props and trying to take them from you?

like, I went to Akai and 2 different poeple asked to see my props and while asking, tried to take them (like, 'shes not going to tell me know, so I'll just go ahead and take them from her). It wasn't with force and I was easily able to step away from them and tell them no, but still. wtf
dont just assume someone is going to let you play around with their props. fuck.

[Anonymous No.8569684]

>>8569653
If you need to smack him, use your elbows like they do in Muay Thai. Less chance of breaking any bones in your hand/wrist or bruising anything. Also it's pretty easy to get more momentum behind the strike just by turning your body.

[Anonymous No.8569694]

>>8569667
I have no idea.
>buy prop gun for a cosplay because I can't do that level of detail
>talking to a qt while her friends hover around
>obnoxious kitty-ear raver friend asks to see my gun
>yeah sure, it is pretty cool
>she starts waving it around, pointing it at random people
>haha alright stop I'm not letting staff take it away because you're being a dumbass with it
>amused other friend says "Yeah you're not getting that back," while looking on
>it takes 3 people to get it out of her sweaty hands

I'm overly-careful when looking at or touching other people's props, I don't get why people don't do the same.

[Anonymous No.8569700]

>>8569660
Ugh, my bf is sick and can't go, and it's not really his thing to go to parties unless there are games involved.

>>8569684
Thanks anon, I hope it doesn't come to that, he's about 3x my size. I hear has a gf now, so maybe he'll keep to himself. No idea why anyone would date him.

[Anonymous No.8569837]

>Been depressed lately because of an injury.
>Long story short: I got an 85lb kid to the knee, which made my knee bend backwards and hyper extend.
>week later it wasn't hurting anymore so I went to the market but stepped wrong on uneven ground and re-aggravated it.
>It's been three weeks since the start and I'm praying all this time on the couch hasn't caused me to gain too much weight. I'm up, hobbling around but it still hurts and I still have to work injured.
>Maid of honor dress already bought and paid for in the size I was when I ordered.
>sweating that I may end up too big when all of this is over.
>the wedding is in October.
>Just before the wedding I am scheduled to work a festival where I will need to be able to walk around doing security.
>I may not have the ability to go, which makes me want to cry even more than being a fat ugly blob at my best friends wedding, which is all paid for and set in stone.
>Going to the hospital tomorrow for a check up because I can't take the pain and bracing for some bad news.
>I just wanna wear cute heels and brand once this is all over instead of ballooning out and having to give up cute shoes...

[Anonymous No.8569847]

Just made a spur of the moment lolita purchase with PayPal credit. Dress I wanted was on sale. Praise getting 6 months before I have to start making payments. But at the same time I feel weak for buying something when I don't have the money. I'm only like $200 in debt but still the overwhelming fear of being thousands of dollars in debt like my parents and my friend makes me feel much stress.

[Anonymous No.8569888]

>>8569847

Why on earth would you do that? Don't buy non-essentials if you're in debt. It's pretty simple. Who cares if it's on sale? If you're in debt, whether or not it's on sale is irrelevant.

[Anonymous No.8569894]

>have a lock on my door at home because my mom (who has borderline and narcissistic personality disorder) has tried to steal my dresses before
>go on week long vacation with my father
>come back to find my door open, clothes strewn everywhere, stuff on the wrong side of the closet
>several dresses missing
>ask my mom if she opened my door
>"no, anon! it's been open the whole time! I don't know how locks work! I didn't touch anything!"
>she got some neighbors to come and jimmy my lock and take pictures of my room
>tfw I'm always on edge in my own home

Still trying to find out what happened to my dresses.

[Anonymous No.8569914]

>>8569847
You'll be okay now, but do not do this again. People get $thousands in debt by turning impulse buys into a habit. Make sure to keep up with payments when they come.

>>8569894
Search her room? Hopefully she didn't damage or sell them.
I'd try getting some of those large flat storage boxes and hiding them under your bed or something. Maybe put shoe boxes and shit in front of it so she won't think there's much back there.
And if she has those conditions, she probably shouldn't be home by herself too much.

[Anonymous No.8569944]

>>8565521
Long distance relationships are a thing.

[Anonymous No.8569951]

>>8569894

Ping raisedbynarcissists, move out of there as soon as you can, and go no contact.

People with NPD/BPD never get better. If you grew up with this, you already know she's a right horror to live with. Get yourself out of there before investing in more stuff. She'll either steal or ruin it.

[Anonymous No.8569958]

>>8565521

It's possible. Don't give up, plan, and you'll do it.

Never settle just because of distance.

[Anonymous No.8569990]

>>8568153
Ugh, sort of same story for me.
>got my hair cut cause it needed it
>asked for a bob/long bob
>hairdresser cut it much shorter than I asked
>also no layers.
>Hope for cute Amelie like haircut, but it just looks stupid.

My hair is really think and I feel like my hair looks like a helmet now or like a I got some middle aged female news anchor haircut. It just isn't sitting the way I wanted it to at all. My hair is also naturally curly so I'm having to straighten it everyday for it to sit somewhat nicely. Long hair is so much easier - so annoyed with myself for doing this.

[Anonymous No.8570042]

i made that "sleepover" thread and almost got banned for it

guess mods werent asleep

[Anonymous No.8570046]

>>8569284
I know that. I don't get along with my brother as well but not only me, also my parents. It's very sad.
>>8569464
These people fake their true identity a lot. My "friend" seems having multiple identies or masks lol, probably BPD. The worst people are the ones that complain a lot about partners or just... everyone. Even their mom. And blame them while they feel like angels that did nothing.

[Anonymous No.8570051]

>>8570042
>almost
how is almost banned a thing? what does that entail?

[Anonymous No.8570053]

>>8568473
Breaks /do/ always lead to breakups.

You don't "take a break" from a relationship, that's not really how it works.

[Anonymous No.8570056]

>>8570046
But Everyone does that though. Everyone always thinks they're right too, though I assume you mean blame as in accuse of rape/murder/theft while I mean 'God Becky is such a bitch lol'

[Anonymous No.8570060]

>>8569847
>thinking you'll get six months before you have to make a payment with PayPal credit

Anon, read the fine print. I thought the same and a $150 book purchase turned into a $400 bill because I actually -didn't- have those six months, and actually, they had sent me emails saying my "statement was ready" when actually they meant "HERE'S YOUR MONTHLY BILL, BITCH PAY UP."
They're tricky bastards. Make payments when you can, because that's just a hook they use to lure people in.

[Anonymous No.8570067]

>>8570056
The wording when people describe severe mental disorders like this worries me so much because it makes it look like pretty much everyone has it including me but yeah, in reality it's a lot like junkie behaviour.

Whenever I see that anon's stories about her mum it reminds me of myself in my teenage years and I break into a cold sweat, even though I'm the polar opposite of mentallers like that and generally very quiet and anxious. Though in my defence my mum did have a tendency of hiding my stuff but she was a helicopter parent and tinfoiler hippie, not BPD.

[Anonymous No.8570069]

>>8570056
Well they don't need to rape or murder to be like that. I mean situations like they did something bad (insult them for no reason or snapping) they belittle the feelings of the person and blame them to made them hurt or angry and never say sorry. It's a bit hard to explain but many people that take advantage of others do this. I say that too for some people that are asses or bitches but some say that to every person they have contact because they don't met their entitled needs. It's a very tricky thing to get, because these people are at times subtle.

[Anonymous No.8570078]

>>8570069
Oh kinda like negging, but worse, or what?
I'm worried that I sometimes do that when I'm frustrated, but I do always apologise and pretty much constantly feel guilty.

[Anonymous No.8570081]

>>8570078
More or less. Everyone in a degree does that but some are into serial shit behaviors all the time. It's a good thing you apologise and feel bad, i do the same in case happens. But these people have no remorse for their deeds.

[Anonymous No.8570085]

>>8570081
Ah ok, thanks for the explanation. I always get so scared when people talk about these things because I apply it to myself and think 'holy shit I'm an asshole', and the explanations are always so vague. But this clears it up a lot.

One thing that kinda irks me is when people say that you need to give them a chance just by virtue of them being 'oppressed' or disabled regardless of whether they deserve a second chance or not, and understand what they're going through but I don't think anyone owes it to them to be kind if they know they're gonna get treated like shit.

[Anonymous No.8570106]

>>8569837
There are a fair amount of upper body exercises you can do to maintain your fitness level while couch bound.

[Anonymous No.8570147]

>>8570067
The funny thing is my mom was never a helicopter parent, I was mostly raised by a nanny and my dad (who worked a lot, but did his best. My mom worked from home and I never saw her.) She just thinks I'm out to get her and fabricates all these stories about me stealing from her when she's actually the one messing with my stuff.

>>8569951
I am planning to go no contact as soon as I move out. It's just a matter of money- I'm a recent high school grad and I'm taking a gap year to save for school. I'll be moving to another state for work soon. I know she'll never change, but it's hard because I really want her to be some kind of parent to me.

[Anonymous No.8570151]

>be male sexual abuse survivor
>geek culture is currently obsessed with rape and sexual harassment
>everyone in my friends group talking about it
>online, offline, it's all rape, all the time
>who's a creepo, what con to boycott, is so and so really being harassed, was the brutal sexual assault shown graphically on such and such a show realistic or justified or just, like, super hot
>Facebook feed jammed with articles and low-quality jpgs working everyone into a frenzy over rape in all its forms
>try to ignore it, post things that aren't rape
>even click "show less like this" on rape shit that comes up on my feed
>but nope, here's a comic about how Twitch stream piglords are literally raping women's dignity
>here's another article about the disproportionate sexual violence shown to women in geeky media
>meanwhile, on 4chan
>can't report "cosplay is consent" trolls on /cgl/ fast enough
>can't stop "my gf broke up with me, here's sexy webms i have of her" threads from happening on /gif/
>can't make male crossboarders who come to /cgl/ just to harass women leave and stay left
>can't stop hordes of fellow male geeks from seeing women and feminine men as repositories for their infantile need for immediate genital gratification in general
>rape just keeps happening wherever i go

literally triggered

[Anonymous No.8570154]

>>8570106
Believe me, I'm doing them. I go crazy in one place and start trying to move around as much as possible.

[Anonymous No.8570165]

I really can't stand people that try to make you feel bad for owning their dream dress when it's also been my dream dress for many, many years. Why can't they see it as we have similar style and we could become closer friends, instead of being catty to me? It's not my fault you don't own it, maybe you should save up or try harder to find it and quit complaining.

Anyway, with that off my chest, here's an actual experience.

>At train station going to a meet, some filthy guy that looks drunk, drugged and homeless walks up to me.
>Feel nervous, think he's gonna insult me or harass me.
>"Have to ask, what's the occasion? You look lovely."
>Ended up having a ten minute conversation with him on lolita and he was really understanding.
>Feel bad for judging.

[Anonymous No.8570178]

>>8570151
I'm sorry to do this on a post like this anon, but what is the name of the manga that is a page from. I cannot remember the name of it for my life.

[Anonymous No.8570182]

>>8570178
i have no idea

i don't think it's about dogs though

[Anonymous No.8570186]

>>8570178
i lied, it's totally about dogs

gonna read it now

http://www.anymanga.com/deep-love-pao-no-monogatari/001/001/

[Anonymous No.8570203]

>>8570051
a warning

[Anonymous No.8570379]

>>8569034
UPDATE
apologised to bf and he told me to fuck off because im too immature
he also said he has 0 interest in my now
>all i have left is the lizlisa dress he gave me
sigh

[Anonymous No.8570389]

>>8570379

[Anonymous No.8570391]

>>8569700
Update:
He sat around like a fat piece of shit and didn't talk to anyone really and his girlfriend pitied him the entire time.

[Anonymous No.8570450]

>>8569545
Literally just say something. People on here frustrate me so freaking bad because they're all so spineless when it comes to any confrontation. Tell her you saw the messages and were trying to get over it, but with everything you've done for her you just can't. Cut friendship ties. She'll most likely drop Lolita after she doesn't have your influence or at least avoid the group you're already in.

[Anonymous No.8570489]

>>8570042
That thread made my day, I was in a shit mood, but having that to read while I sat with tea made me feel not so alone.

[Anonymous No.8570497]

>>8570151
Anon I have no way to help you but you are not alone.
I also had this stuff happen in the past and I thought U managed to recover but... Boom! R-word everywhere!
The worst was I went to stay with my friend who is a human rights activist. She's amazing, she works at a support clinic and she's doing all the good work, but I don't think she understands the way I was feeling or reason why staying in a house filled with self help and "it's not your fault" zines made me act weird, and when she started talking about a "survivor" friend I just asked if we could stop talking about that shit, and talk about museums. I looked like a bitch.
Sorry for dumping my story on you, I just want us to be OK. Unfollowing people on Facebook's newsfeed altogether helps.

[Anonymous No.8570643]

>>8568648
You mankey NRRRRRRRRRRRD

[Anonymous No.8570644]

>>8570379
At least the guy has some common sense, good for him.

[Anonymous No.8570645]

>>8570391
Maybe someone slapped the shit into him.
At least you're okay, anon.

[Anonymous No.8570647]

>>8568648
You are a pathetic woman child. LEL EPIC GURL GAMER DRESS. If you want to be taken seriously in life by anyone who isn't man/woman child then keep your games and all things associated to them in the home. Dress to impress, BITCH.

[Anonymous No.8570661]

>>8570647

[Anonymous No.8570680]

>>8570661
M'lady pls

[Anonymous No.8570691]

>>8568648
To anyone that doesn't know ME this just looks like a sports dress. I bet you looked great in it.

Your boyfriend needs to get a grip. It's not like you went out wearing a tail or with a My Little Pony toy strapped to your head; it's a fucking bodyform dress.

Tell him that you will wear what you damn well please, and that YOU are embarrassed that he can't deal with other people liking stuff. He's clearly not an adult.

It's not like normies think that Mass Effect is especially weird.

>he probably was just annoyed that you were making friends and having fun conversation all night and got bored listening to stuff he didn't understand.

[Anonymous No.8570713]

>>8568648
I am about to call it quits with mine for this very reason.

Not being interested is fine, making me feel like shit every time I do something of a very modest, and accepted by everyone else power level, and he's all "embarrassed". Of what, that his coworkers think he's dating a really smart techy chick with nerd cred, or that our friends think I'm a respectable creative person with my shit together?
If I was a train wreck, socially awkward or an ita, or wasn't completely totally upfront about my hobbies in the very beginning, I would understand, but now I'm just tired of his shit when he expects me to always be a good listener about hiw work and video game problems.
I hope you figure out something that works for you, Anon, it sucks, I'm sorry.

>tfw you just want Bf who doesn't hate Lolita and cosplay
>no really, actually doesn't hate it
>please stop lying for the first six months, guys, please!!!

[Anonymous No.8570778]

>>8570647
do you even know what board you are on

[Anonymous No.8570790]

>>8570713
>pretending to like what you like for months
>suddenly turning around to say that your interests embarrass them and you need to stop
This is the fucking worst and I hate when people do this. If you were upfront about your hobbies when the relationship started, dude knew what he was getting into. Why invest so much time into a relationship if you're only going to demand that the person changes something about themselves? Why not seek out a relationship with someone who doesn't have those interests you dislike?
I'm so glad my boyfriend likes my hobbies. I can't even imagine him turning around one day to say "Hey you know that thing you really like? Stop doing it."

[Anonymous No.8570819]

>>8570085
Don't worry anon!There is always time to feel sorry and improve your relationships with others!I did stuff too but because i was forced to accept an injustice. i just hope "karma" or whatever just give a big lesson so i can feel free. Also, these people are like SJW tumblrinas, they scream oppression when they are the oppressors. One thing is being sorry for real and one thing is never say sorry and still being right to their entitlement. These people aren't disabled mentally for real, they just find excuses to exploit people for their interests.
>>8570151
I feel you anon! I never was raped as a girl but just being mentally abused by some people and i get super triggered by every type of abuse, physical or mental, towards a woman or a man. The more you see this stuff, the more you can't heal or forget. I hope you can heal and forget what happened and purge all the rape stuff, maybe a break from some internet places is required. Feel better!

[Anonymous No.8570856]

>>8570691
Thanks, anon! I bet you he was mad that I had a great time and got a lot of positive attention from people all night. That totally makes sense. And is completely immature, as well as him not accepting my dress.

This thread has really helped me put things in perspective. Now I'm just wholly annoyed at the situation.

>>8570713
I'm so sorry to hear that you're in a similar situation, anon. It's so fucked that they supported us and then totally turned around and decided that they were "uncomfortable" or "embarrassed" by it. Honestly, this shit makes us happy and wouldn't they rather us be happy and a little eccentric rather than depressed and cookie cutter?

I say that we just date each other and be kawaii as fuck together. y/n???

(But seriously anon, I put a throwaway email in the field if you want to talk more about it and vent together. I'd be more than happy to. You don't have to feel obligated, though.)

[Anonymous No.8570857]

>>8570856

Derp, I guess I forgot how to e-mail field.
>[e-mail]

[Anonymous No.8571099]

>>8570379
At least you apologized, anon. He deserved an apology, and you can learn from the whole ordeal. You'll be ok. <3

[Anonymous No.8571107]

>>8570042
I made a sleep over thread too once!! And it got deleted pretty fast. It was lolita related too, so I was very confused. Guess it reeked of /soc/ somehow.
What was yours about?

[Anonymous No.8571126]

>>8566191
Link to store?

[Anonymous No.8571143]

Can someone explain to me why friending threads/sleepover threads/feels threads get deleted so often? I'm a summerfag. Why do the mods/janitors hate them?
>really enjoyed this summer, opened my eyes and inspired me, I want to make friends from here to share it with

[Anonymous No.8571144]

>>8571143
They're generally offtopic.

[Anonymous No.8571149]

>>8571143
Friending threads turn into /soc/, sleepover threads do too to a similar extent, and feels threads turn into /adv/.

We're mostly good at staying on topic, but either we get slammed with a troll (such as the last feels thread) or the janitor doesn't even bother looking through it and deletes it straight away.

[Anonymous No.8571152]

>>8571143
>wondering why a thread full of women talking about how gross their periods are and bitching about how their boyfriends are terrible in bed gets deleted on a board dedicated to cosplaying and frilly clothes

[Anonymous No.8571166]

>>8571149
...but these guys coming in from /fit/ and wherever posting "who should I cosplay with this body" threads manage to keep the threads up for ages. Ugh, that's annoying. Never mind.

[Anonymous No.8571178]

>>8571166
this.

nobody likes those threads, a lot of people like friending threads, and other boards have regular "off-topic" threads frequently.

[Anonymous No.8571180]

>>8571166
Those aren't allowed either, I don't know why the janitor isn't more focused. I guess because they have cosplay in the post.

[Anonymous No.8571188]

>>8571149
/soc/ is for hookups anyway. I just want some /cgl/ friends to discuss coords and drama with dammit.

[Anonymous No.8571199]

>>8571188
Exactly. That much is on-topic and board-related. Most of /cgl/ isn't interested in hookups. Janitors don't seem to get that.

[Anonymous No.8571200]

>graduate student
>three months out of school and three months unemployed since my last job
>been applying everywhere
>really don't want retail EVER again
>get a hit from an airline at their local office
>$14/hr and it's an office job
>has some traveling perks and 401k + closeby
>okay, it's better than working retail for $8/hr with no benefits and being on my feet all day
>I can always keep searching in the meantime too
>meanwhile
>parents are assholes and really wanted me to be a lawyer
>constantly project their monetary insecurities and inadequacies on me even though I'm doing better than both of them at my age
>tell them about my potential job and that I'm kind of excited to try something new
>*SCOFF* "Oh, well okay anon, at -least- it's a job suppose..."
>mfw don't know what they fucking expect since I'm relatively inexperienced, young to a lot of employers, and I've never had a "real" job before

Welp, might as well get used to being a fucking failure in their eyes if I'm not making more than $80k a year.

[Anonymous No.8571216]

>>8571180
Janitor is a fat chick who probably likes looking at buff shirtless dudes.

>>8571188
>>8571199
Same. I want to meet frilly friends, not to get hit on by annoying normies.

[Anonymous No.8571229]

>>8565521
You can do it! just stay in touch, plan your future like you want this and it will happen!

[Anonymous No.8571271]

>>8568976
lol I have a big ribcage, I'm like 50 kg which is like 110 pound right? I don't look like a tube and people tell me I'm skinny so either it's something else or it's just genetics that shape you like you are or maybe you're reeeaaally short? I don't know but honestly 100 pounds is underweight for lots of people ...

[Anonymous No.8571276]

>Semi-friend is organizing an event but not doing so well. She looked liked she had a decent plan but she has a busy life and isn't very good at online organizational stuff apparently
>It seems like she didn't ask for help and is doing it all on her own.
>Location cancelled or something she's now keeping it in a local place
>lots of people complained and probably cancelled
>she's still continuing doing this on her own and now asks for models on her personal fb

I think about either telling her she should ask for help or if I should stop believing in her anymore, I really don't know, is she either just stupid for thinking she could all do it on her own or is she just...stupid and ignorant of some sort.

[Anonymous No.8571303]

>>8571276
Fear of asking for help is a very real thing. Some people have a lot of personal pride and high expectations of themselves that are often unrealistic to the situation they are in. It's really hard for them to admit when they're over there head.

[Anonymous No.8571318]

>>8571303
so what do you do then? I mean at any given moment you offer help they never take it and when you say they shouldn't do it on their own or give tips they ignore it or might think you could do it better or something like that. It must be hard being like that, I mean it'll probably end up being a bad event all because of that.

[Anonymous No.8571324]

>>8571271
By tube, I'm assuming anon meant that she doesn't have any curves. It's otherwise called a rectangle, board, or banana body shape.
>captcha: select all bananas

[Anonymous No.8571360]

>>8571324
sorry but the definition of wide ribcage is that in comparison with something else you have a wide ribcage. In comparison to my waist and length I have a wide ribcage. I'm just sorry about anons genetics and happy with my own.

[Anonymous No.8571372]

I keep emotionally eating and I hate myself for it.
Pretty sure I have binge eating disorder on top of my (diagnosed) severe depression.
I don't know how to get better.

I can't fit into my cute clothes anymore.
I'm going to a con soon, I wanted to cosplay but I feel so disgusting I never got around to buying or making one.

[Anonymous No.8571410]

>sell cosplay things on Etsy
>lots of demand
>but I can't focus on more than one order at a time because I'll have a panic attack from stress
>go on vacation mode for a few weeks to calm down
>people asking when I'm coming back
How do I better manage myself? I could make lots of cash but it's really stressful.

[Anonymous No.8571441]

>>8571360
What was the point of >>8571271, then? OP never said that she felt fat or anything, merely mentioned that she has little definition between her waist and hips.
Obviously it's fucking genetics that determine general body shape.
Also, learn how to type and punctuate ffs.

[Anonymous No.8571453]

my mom is acting the same way so I feel you anon, I think that job sounds great!

[Anonymous No.8571485]

How do I get my shit together?

What are your steps for getting through the day? What did you do to change your life for the better?

[Anonymous No.8571557]

>>8571372
Have you perhaps tried using a food diary? I also have problems with food and using myfitnesspal really helped me regulate what I eat and stop stress eating.

For the first few weeks I added things to the diary before I actually ate them, so it tricked me into feeling regret before I ate and made me chose something healthier if I was really hungry. It's hard but it's a good habit to start working on.

[Anonymous No.8571651]

>tfw life is kicking you in the teeth
>away from home dealing with shit
>depressed as fuck and sleeping too much
>usually wear lolita to cheer up
>usually sew something to dispel that unproductive funk
>cannot do either of these
>continue to sink further into malaise

I think I'm going to apply for a temporary gym pass or some shit at the place down the street. If I have something to do that isn't sit in my parents' house waiting and feeling useless, maybe it'll help.

It's that or start volunteering somewhere, which I don't think I could deal with right now.

[Anonymous No.8571789]

>>8570450
thanks anon... I just didn't want to say anything until I got mostly paid back. I was hoping it would change and she'd be real with me. I guess the ball is in my court.

[Anonymous No.8571915]

>>8568648
D U M P H I S A S S
U
M
P

H
I
S

A
S
S

Honestly anon you don't need him he's a controlling asshole, you can find someone better.

[Anonymous No.8571921]

>>8568798
Mostly in the northern areas we do, don't know about the midlands nor southerners.

[Anonymous No.8571943]

>>8565519
>>8565521
are you an anime character

[Anonymous No.8571956]

>made new friend through lolita
>she's the absolute cutest thing ever
>we share interests that none of my other friends understand
>kind of want to talk to her like every day, but I don't want to seem creepy or overbearing
>casually ask her to hang out at carefully calculated intervals
>sadly she has a life and often can't

I probably mean way less to her than she does to me, but I just like her so much as a person. I feel weird and creepy, but I wish we could be best friends.

[Anonymous No.8571967]

>>8571126
>tfw the thread was already autosaging before I saw this.
>mfw I have no face.

It's Hello Bones Jones (Facebook and .com.)
I'm sure that 90% of the interest and support has been from seagulls so far.

[Anonymous No.8573054]

Time for a new thread.

[Anonymous No.8574090]

>>8565337
>working long hours to pay for car
>come home
>parents screaming at each other about breaking up

I'm just gonna go jump off a fucking bridge

[Anonymous No.8574125]

>tfw you go to a meet up/con and you want to keep in contact with new acquaintances
>tfw forgot to ask irl to add as friend on fb
>have to hunt down fb picture tags