Secrets Thread

[Anonymous No.8261092]

Didn't see one in the catalog, or did it get nuked already?

Can somebody please tell me what this is about before the thread gets deleted?

[Anonymous No.8261176]

There was a secret from my comm this week and I was SHOCKED.

I mean gossip has happened at meets but we all seem to try and not talk about internet drama in person too.

[Anonymous No.8261257]

The secret about melanie kind of reminded me of a while back someone came to /cgl/ saying they were a semi-popular singer who wanted to wear lolita but were too worried to wear lolita.

/cgl/ shit over the poster telling them to stop whining and do what they wanted.

and I personally tried to get contact info to try to lead them in the right direction of someone to help them coord, lolita medias dos and donts.


I had a strong feeling it was her then and even more so now.

[Anonymous No.8261260]

>>8261257
she doesn't look bad, but i really don't understand why you would call that look "adult baby" for any reason. did she really do that?

[Anonymous No.8261267]

>>8261260
She says " I’ve been wearing adult baby dresses—they’re for people who are actually into that weird fetish"
http://news.instyle.com/2015/03/05/listen-up-the-voice-melanie-martinez-adam-levine-dollhouse-ep/

If she was ever going to wear lolita she would know first of all that her calling the clothing adult baby or fetish wear is a HUGE no no and she will be shunned by the community forever.

[Anonymous No.8261270]

>>8261176
what was secret 45 and why was it deleted?

[Anonymous No.8261289]

>>8261267
Ew wtf. I've never heard of her before this but she sounds like a dumb cunt.

[Anonymous No.8261303]

>>8261267
>On this tour, I’ve been wearing adult baby dresses—they’re for people who are actually into that weird fetish. I found them on Etsy from this girl who custom makes dresses for adult babies. I think it fits really nicely and I like how it feels, like a little girl’s dress from the ‘50s, but for me. I’ll always cling to these little girl dresses at vintage shops and I can never wear them because they’re so tiny!

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEE FUCKING NORMIE DIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

[Anonymous No.8261336]

My secret is I think this is hot

[Anonymous No.8261340]

>>8261336
how do i into sex work?

[Anonymous No.8261349]

>>8261340
Be a privileged western woman who gets to sell her body as a choice and not a survival strategy. :^)

[Anonymous No.8261353]

>>8261349
+1

[Anonymous No.8261379]

made me sad and think

[Anonymous No.8261381]

I know it's a troll but.... does anyone else think this hits the mark?

[Anonymous No.8261387]

A lot of these secrets reeked of butthurt. God damn.

[Anonymous No.8261393]

>>8261381
not really. I've seen more itas in person in BTSSB for some reason. Which is bizarre to me since Baby is harder to order from.

I'm talking party city wigs, no petticoat/tanktop instead of blouse Ita or homestucks cosplaying in BTSSB.

[Anonymous No.8261396]

>>8261381
To an extent. I have been thinking about it.
Baby doesn't really follow trends in a brash way, its more subtle. Tumblrina speshul snowflakes who want to express themselves through clothing will pick loud, brash things so that everyone can see how edgy they are.

[Anonymous No.8261424]

Anyone know the source behind this one?

[Anonymous No.8261435]

Going through a previous BtB, saw this.

Who the fuck is this dude. I see him on my feed too. Literally all he does is make creepy comments, 24/7. Who is he. Why does he do this. Is he a sissy (99% sure he is, need confirmation)?

[Anonymous No.8261456]

>>8261303
Ew, like why would you even admit to that kind of fetish. I can honestly say that I'm never going to be interested in her shit again

[Anonymous No.8261457]

>>8261435
If not a sissy then a sissy fetishist. Just as bad.

[Anonymous No.8261462]

#4 had me laughing my ass off because I agree with it 100%. It was my first thought.

[Anonymous No.8261463]

>>8261457

Who is he though. He has no apparent connection with any of my mutual friends. Does he just go around friending random lolitas?

I feel disgusting even being associated with him by two degrees, ech.

[Anonymous No.8261468]

>>8261435
Sorry for stupid question, but what is a sissy?
Is it guys who want to be 'humiliated' by wearing girly, frilly stuff and being demure or whatever?
Daddyplay? Is it guys into girly, frilly stuff?
Is a sissy fetishist someone who is into sissies or girls who dress in frills?
Help a gal out.

[Lilitu !!xrorRTcEU5x No.8261469]

>>8261468
Grown men who identify as grown men and dress like a toddler in a beauty pageant.

[Anonymous No.8261471]

>>8261468
You got it
>Is it guys who want to be 'humiliated' by wearing girly, frilly stuff and being demure or whatever?

Daddyplay is ageplay I guess?

[Anonymous No.8261483]

>>8261462
She looked hot even, same thing as when she wore ouji. Boystyles simply look best on her, I'd love to see her do more ouji

[Anonymous No.8261493]

>>8261483
It's her unfortunate face and the way she normally does her makeup for lolita doesn't help it at all. She really needs to do more boy styles because it suites her way more. Or learn how to do her makeup so that she doesnt look like a drag queen.

[Anonymous No.8261527]

>>8261457
Like tbh there is nothing wrong with being a sissy or a sissy fetishist, just as there is nothing wrong with being an ageplayer -- just keep it out of the comm and out of lolita. What you do in your free time, out of the public eye, is no one's business, just don't parade it around in everyone's face.

[Anonymous No.8261612]

>>8261527
that's the issue here though...there's a growing number of sissies who don't know how to keep that shit in the bedroom. people will tell them 20 different times that lolita is a (street/alternative) fashion and that lolita comms are for fashion enthusiasts but there's been an increasing amount of them joining comms offline and online and bringing this stuff out in public. like, someone needs to get this through to these people that our frills are not equal and they are not welcome in our communities. plenty of them have also creeped on girls in different comms on and offline. this is why sissies and ageplayers have such a bad rep with lolitas and people have a generally negative idea towards them - people don't know how to keep in the damn bedroom and approach girls in a super predatory way.

i dont mean to bitch at you in this post, i'm just saying like...it feels like they pop out of nowhere and lots of times these people's abilities to keep their fetishes separate from their hobbies/daily lives becomes questionable with the way so many of them act towards people in the fashion.

[Anonymous No.8261657]

who else thought this looked tacky as hell...? It was rather poorly executed.

[Anonymous No.8261677]

>>8261379
I thought it was stupid and sad. She knows what she is doing wrong yet she refuses to change.

[Anonymous No.8262040]

>>8261462
>>8261483
YES this. I found her really hot in v-kei. She does fine at Lolita, but the more masculine styles just suit her so much better!

[Anonymous No.8262049]

>>8261462
Gee I wonder who they could be talking about judging by how well they censored it.

I agree LL is very flattered by Lolita, but she likes it and her outfits are usually good.

[Anonymous No.8262053]

>>8261471
Daddyplay would be role play

[Anonymous No.8262080]

>>8261424
Sorry I can't help you but damn this is so accurate. Whenever I feel depressed I go on a online shopping spree with this shops + eBay. I know I have a problem.

[Anonymous No.8262096]

>>8261462
when I saw that vid my heart skipped a beat. Like dayum I wish I could pull off boystyle as well as her

[Anonymous No.8262116]

>>8262080
I do that too.. Except I'm an excessive hoarder with self esteem issues and never wear my lolita out. I have a closet full of brand (iw mostly and some AP/baby, I'm classic) but because I'm a little overweight (chubs, 120 pounds but short) aka fattychan. Also afraid to come out to friends that I like lolita because friends don't wear frilly things and I am super afraid to be judged.

The only time I put on my brand is to stare at myself in the mirror and play dressup but I've never dared to take any coord pics in fear that I'd get posted onto here and get embarassed.

I don't dare to wear my stuff out because where I live/go to school at fat people are rare. I just need to shed some weight and just get over it because I've been buying brand for over 3 years now and I have more brand clothing than normalfag clothing.

I'm just waiting for the day I graduate from college and get to go home / isolate myself from people because hopefully I'll have the courage to wear lolita if I start over and find new friends who are into the same things.

[Anonymous No.8262125]

>>8262116
>120 pounds is fat
what the hell, are you 5'?

If you lose the weight, will your brand still fit?

[Anonymous No.8262150]

>>8262116
If you wear classic it's really easy

just style yourself with low poof and toned down overall.

Though honestly those are all problems you should really work on anon, unfortunately anxiety and social issues can only really be fixed by making yourself do thing you'd rather not.

Also no one cares an much as you do.
The 1/100 people who do are just dicks that don't deserve your attention.

[Anonymous No.8262162]

>>8262125
Yes I'm about 5' ish. I can fit into my dresses right now because I've only been buying the ones with shirring. I just don't think people will like me wearing lolita.. I mean face wise I'm pretty average and not really ugly but I just keep thinking that no one will want to see me wearing lolita at school and I'll stand out too much etc etc.

And being a little bit chubs doesn't help because people are super critical about that stuff here. I'll get over this eventually.. Just really had to let it out on cgl orz.

[Anonymous No.8262165]

>>8262150
>Also no one cares an much as you do.
>The 1/100 people who do are just dicks that don't deserve your attention.

I never thought about it that way before, it's something that is good to keep in mind, thanks anon!

[Anonymous No.8262172]

Does anyone have the deleted secret?

[Anonymous No.8262174]

>>8262162
I'm 5' and used to be around 120, I don't think I would really call that fat but I carried most of it in my butt/thighs. I feel like you would probably look fine but social anxiety can make it like %1000 more difficult to convince yourself of that.

Good luck though! I'm sure you'll get there in your own time.

[Anonymous No.8262178]

>>8262165
I've dealt with anxiety issues since I was a kid. Still got 'em, but I'm much more functional now.

Unless you're just an awful person yourself, think of how you'd be if someone you barely knew or someone you cared about did something silly/awkward/a bit weird

In the moment you might be a bit put off or find it a bit funny, but ultimately you're not going to care or hold it over them right? You don't see someone flub up when giving a presentation and then spend your time thinking about how they stuttered and freaked out and judge them for it right?

Obviously you should always be open to opinions, just not assholes. Also keep in mind that people are almost never being as negative as you probably perceive them.

Even if you do something weird, people are usually open to playing it off and you can continue socializing from there.

[Anonymous No.8262180]

I'm assuming this is a lolita youtuber. Who is she?

[Anonymous No.8262188]

>>8262180
Jillian Vessey.

[Anonymous No.8262224]

>>8261393
Baby is easier to order from though

[Anonymous No.8262226]

>>8262188

What seriously? I thought it could have been her but damn she looks so fat in this photo. Do you happen to know what video of hers this is from? I'm going to start sifting through, I'm curious what she did to this persons handmade good.

[Anonymous No.8262235]

>>8262226
I can only assume that she was doing some type of review and, like the Deerstalker unboxing videos, Vessey threw items after looking at them. Some people felt it was disrespectful of Milkyfawn to "throw around burando" and that she looked very stuck up and entitled. Others thought it was funny.

[Anonymous No.8262242]

>>8262235

Found the video, it was her newest one for Kawaiigoods.

[Anonymous No.8262288]

>>8262242
wow she looks fucking horrible in videos

[Anonymous No.8262354]

>>8262226
She needs a different lens or get farther away from it.

It's embarrassing how she tried to make it sound positive that the skirt is some cheap stretch material that was completely inappropriate for all of her coords.

[Anonymous No.8262674]

>>8262235
Yeah that really rubbed me the wrong way

[Anonymous No.8262682]

this one made me so happy. fuck her.

[Anonymous No.8262688]

>>8261267
god fucking damnit I love her music but why the fuck is she doing that

[Anonymous No.8262691]

>>8262682
Is this that secretduckie girl on tumblr?

[Anonymous No.8262745]

>>8261612
A lot of them have also joined multiple public sissy groups/liked sissy pages on Facebook, which is really creepy IMHO. Keep that shit on FetLife. I have a lot of BDSM-related kinks but I don't like Facebook pages for them, jesus.

[Anonymous No.8262750]

>>8261267
Wow, why the fuck is she lying? She even posted this on instagram before. Is she talking about her other outfits?

[Anonymous No.8262754]

>>8261462
I thought this was about Inuashley for a second but realized nobody would be calling her hot.

[Anonymous No.8262757]

>>8262750
Also this. Extra kek for the girl recommending Milanoo in the comments.

[Anonymous No.8262765]

>>8262757
>milanoo

[Anonymous No.8262767]

>>8261267
Jesus I've lost a lot of respect for her, and I really liked Dollhouse.

[Anonymous No.8262769]

>>8262757
That's such a fucking cute dress.

[Anonymous No.8262773]

>>8262691
Yup. She's a heinous cunt in rufflechat and lolita updates.

[Anonymous No.8262777]

>>8262745
That should just be the standard red flag: If you've joined fetish groups on a public real-name account, just ban 'em from your site/page/whatever and save yourself the trouble later.

>>8262757
>Milanoo
kekpocalypse

[Anonymous No.8262781]

>>8262773
I always thought she seemed like a cunt. At first I thought it was just my jelly cause of all her brand, but she does have a very smug look to her in all her photos. Glad to hear my suspicions are accurate.

[Anonymous No.8262784]

>>8262777
I wish more groups would implement that as a policy. If I rememeber the last couple of big "well maybe he genuinely is interested in lolita! it's that girls' word against his about him being a creep, don't be transphobic!1!" scandals in the US when the mods took way too long to ban a creep both involved people that had sissy shit on the same Facebook they'd joined the comms with. People like that shouldn't be allowed to join the comms at all - that's not prejudice against their kink, that's getting rid of people that you already know will overshare their kink.

[Anonymous No.8262788]

>>8262682
I chuckled when I read this. It probably (I hope) isn't her intent to come across in such an abrasive way but it usually sounds like she's bragging/preaching.

[Anonymous No.8262791]

>>8262682
>reading those two comments
>I'm not seeing anything real abrasive or braggy about them

I don't really know who this is, but does she post these types of comments often or something? Just going off these two I wouldn't really have a judgment....she's just talking about dress details.

[Anonymous No.8262794]

>>8262691
Yep

[Anonymous No.8262804]

>>8262791
She always posts stuff like this, and shoves her brand in everyone's face. She doesn't even pay for it herself.

[Anonymous No.8262806]

>>8262784
I know a few actual trans women and they are A MILLION MILES AWAY from sissy and related kinks. They hate it. Because the people doing it aren't trans,it's usually gross old dudes with a kink and a total detachment from reality. They're putting a female identity on like a costume and running around like a special snowflake.

[Anonymous No.8262820]

>>8262791
Because that wasn't even remotely what the conversation was about. Someone had asked about why part of a dress was different that earlier pictures and she went off about how special all her brand is.

[Anonymous No.8262825]

>>8262820
Oh, okay. So she's a special snowflake then.

[Anonymous No.8262869]

>>8262806
I'm that anon and I know trans women too, I just said it because I remember that one of the last sissy scandals involved the dude hiding behind accussing people of transphobia when they called him a creep.

[Anonymous No.8262886]

>>8262745
>I have a lot of BDSM-related kinks
L O N D O N
O
N
D
O
N

[Anonymous No.8262901]

>>8262745
Totally agree

[Anonymous No.8262903]

>>8262754
Ehh I feel the same way about Inuashley, though--she's pretty hot in v-kei but so-so in Lolita.

[Anonymous No.8262927]

>>8261462
I love Lor, and even I think she pulled off VK really well. In fact, I think she pulls off dark colors in general a lot better than pastel colors. Or anything androgynous, in fact.

[Anonymous No.8262933]

>>8262927
man
her friend Collin is fucking hot
She(?not sure if aiming for ftm) looks like Natalie Portman if she decided to become punk

[Anonymous No.8262939]

>>8262933
Holy shit, I thought I was the only one who thought Collin is hot.

[Anonymous No.8262941]

>>8262886
>tfw actually within travelling distance of London
If you're also a qt lolita I'll consider it.

I've always thought it'd be funny as hell to see someone I knew from a comm at a munch, but it's never happened yet. I'm much more worried about seeing a sissy who's tried to get into the comm.

[Anonymous No.8262945]

>>8262939
I want to be lesbians with her(?) and look like her(?)

[Anonymous No.8262948]

>>8262945
Yes.

[Anonymous No.8262964]

>>8262941
Sorry, I'm actually male, American, and not into casual hookups. I was just memeing.

That said, BDSM seems like the last thing you'd want to be wearing lolita for

[Anonymous No.8262977]

>>8262964
I know it's a meme, I just found it funny because I actually am from London. I wouldn't wear lolita for BDSM, I'd just consider a girlfriend who was into both an added bonus.

[Anonymous No.8263015]

>>8262804
Who pays for her stuff then?

[Anonymous No.8263041]

>>8262682
i loved her comment that was like "i spent $1000000000 on AP in glorious nippon~~ but most of it didn't fit me :'("

like come the fuck on bitch they even have dressing rooms

[Anonymous No.8263048]

>>8263015
Her boyfriend and mom, when she's maxed out all her cards.

[Anonymous No.8263072]

>>8262941
Goddammit I'm a kinky lolita and I just moved FROM London to America.

[Anonymous No.8263146]

>>8262682
Did it ever cross your mind that she might have seen some details on friend's dresses or that she sells and buys new stuff?
I don't know this girl, but idk why this comment indicates her owning all that brand.

[Anonymous No.8263149]

>>8263146
Well, her tumblr seems to confirm the fact that she owns shit tons of brand.

[Anonymous No.8263158]

>>8263072
where in the us?
im on fet as well

[sieg heil !szTe0VDR1w No.8263178]

>>8262941
>fetlife munch

oh god, meetups at shitty restaurants with predatory overweight 40 year olds and a number of "subs" usually college aged girls who don't know any better infatuated with them

and/or recently divorced women who are legit crazy coming fresh off a 50 shades of gray binge.

talking about their sexual expoits loudly in public on a sunday afternoon

yeah...no thanks

not to mention everyone acts like it's high school, for people not emotionally mature enough for a bar

[Anonymous No.8263197]

>>8263178
Depends where you are Sieg, if I'd been to one like that I'd never go again.

[Anonymous No.8263277]

>>8262162
wearing lolita isn't about what other people want, anon. it's about what you want.

honestly it might be a good way for you to get some self-confidence, it sounds like you could use a boost.

[Anonymous No.8263285]

>>8261092
Oh I know what this is. It was in a roleplay group that I'm in. The admin is a powertripping asshole who bans people if he/she doesn't like their roleplay starters. They're basically a complete tyrant who uses their own group for amusement and frequently changes the rules to piss the members off.

Anyway this so called lifestyler started complaining about how people in the group were getting bullied and certain people and the admin weren't following the rules. Somewhere the thread got derailed into the admin's love of lolita, and then this girl started bragging about how she's a lifestyle lolita and knows Pixielocks in person and how she's mentoring her and knows so much about lolita. The admin quizzed her, she couldn't bring up answers quick enough to seem like she hadn't googled it, so she threw a hissyfit about how she doesn't get good grades at school and was abused. Completely irrelevant to the subject at hand, but eventually the topic got back onto lolita. She said how she was getting a brand new AP dress from her girlfriend (who she couldn't decide if she was with or not.) Sent us pictures and it was just a stock image from Milanoo. Admin told her it was a replica and should stay away from Milanoo. She then posted her instragram (https://instagram.com/honeybeecosplay/)) and admin made fun of her for claiming to be a lifestyler again and said it was autistic. So ita girl said that the Halifax lolita community wouldn't be happy and were miles better than any other lolitas in the world.

And I think that's it.

[Anonymous No.8263290]

>>8262806
this this this this this

trans girls are SO DIFFERENT than sissies and fetish people. mostly they don't even want you to know they're trans

[Anonymous No.8263291]

>>8262162
As long as you style yourself right, no one will care, even here on cgl. I have cow tits, and I've never been posted here because of my weight/bust.

[sieg heil !szTe0VDR1w No.8263310]

>>8263197
what are yours like

[Anonymous No.8263312]

>>8261303
>>8262750
i think she was actually talking about stuff like pic related

>Well I’m really inspired by kind of like the ‘50’s and like basically what little girls wore in the ‘50’s. Just like the whole Peter Pan collar with poofy sleeves, like that. I love that. And the flare out dresses and all that like Japanese Lolita stuff, I love wearing stuff like that.
found this in another interview, she makes a difference between kid clothes and lolita

[Anonymous No.8263316]

>>8263312

Wow, that was actually a much ado about nothing.

Shows how much things can be skewed.

[Anonymous No.8263319]

>>8262933
>>8262939
Fyi Collin is a psycho
https://archive.rebeccablacktech.com/cgl/thread/S7954639#p7957110

https://archive.rebeccablacktech.com/cgl/thread/S7861883#p7868004

Even if mostly everything is false (the HLC stuff is true though) they're still drama llamas. Not as good looking in person compared to pics btw imo.

[Anonymous No.8263322]

>>8263316
Shows how paranoid lolitas are about any mention of "age play" or "costume". Gotta fucking chill.

[Anonymous No.8263333]

>>8263178
London ones are lovely. Mostly very attractive 20's and 30's aged people. Some ugly and fat old men and women, but usually not rude or creepy. Lots of male subs for some reason.

[Anonymous No.8263337]

>>8263158
East coast. We need a lolita fetlife group. I know more than a few kinky lolitas who keep it quiet.

[Anonymous No.8263339]

>>8262682
its nice that she has so much brand and good for her, but she looks like a fat pig

[Anonymous No.8263343]

>>8263339
Guess her appareance matches her ugly personality. No wonder she won't shut up about burando, it's the only thing she has.

[Anonymous No.8263345]

>>8263339
I wouldn't be half as bothered about her appearance if she didn't come across like such a braggart. I guess that's the only way she's relevant.

Also, this coord really isn't doing her any favors, the pink is not a good color on her.

[Anonymous No.8263353]

>>8263339

Ahh, it's Professor Umbridge.

[Anonymous No.8263400]

>>8261462
link for lazy-chans
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PY3XzC20hy0

[Anonymous No.8263407]

>>8263400
Woah, this looks amazing on her. Much better than lolita.

[Anonymous No.8263417]

>>8263339
>>8263343
>>8263345
meh, i'm sure she looks ok on less saturated pictures, she's got a cute smile even if she's a bit pudgy. you guys sound jelly as fuck honestly

[Anonymous No.8263461]

>>8263417

Why would I be jelly if I can fit better into brand and her tastes don't match up with mine?

I just think she's ugly.

[Anonymous No.8263465]

>>8263417
>you guys sound jelly as fuck honestly
Lol, jelly of what? A ton of burando someone else had to buy me and that doesn't even fit me yet that I continue to brag about so that everyone knows I'm ~speciuhl~ and own brand?
I give zero fcks about her looks. but she always comes off as a very unfriendly person whoch compliments her somewhat unfortunate looks (which again i would give zero fucks about if she wasn't as obnoxious).

[Anonymous No.8263479]

>>8263465
be less defensive next time

>>8263417
lurk the fb groups for 10 seconds and you'll understand why the vitriol is so warranted

[Anonymous No.8263499]

>>8263417
I don't know what she's usually like that made you hate her so much but just going from the one screenshot and all the replies here I have to agree that you girls do just sound incredibly bitter and jelly. And she's only mentioned like 4 details. Doesn't even mean she owns them.

[Anonymous No.8263506]

>>8263333
I thought male subs were the norm? Outside of porn for straight dudes.

[Anonymous No.8263508]

Dominique is so fucking retarded, like damn could she be anymore obvious. It's pathetic how she keeps trying to start drama even though she's already been kicked out.

[Anonymous No.8263512]

>>8263319
Those are the same people?
I remember those threads, yeesh

[Anonymous No.8263515]

>>8263508
This looks intentionally ita. Is it?

[Anonymous No.8263517]

>>8263508
>probability
>fallow

>>8263515
yes

[Anonymous No.8263519]

>>8263515
It was april's fools. So yes.

[Lilitu !!xrorRTcEU5x No.8263520]

>>8263515
It wa an April Fool's Day Joke and people didn't get it.

[Anonymous No.8263529]

>>8263508
Dominique M? She is annoying in RC/CoF holy shit.
Gurl there is a reason you get less than 200 likes on every coord. Everyone knows what a piece of shit you are.

[Anonymous No.8263581]

>>8263508
Ugh can we get over this already? lulz dom lulz candice lulz every1 in az. No1 curr

[Anonymous No.8263727]

>>8262977
>lesbian BDSM lolitas

[Anonymous No.8263984]

>>8263400
wtf my heart

[Anonymous No.8263992]

>>8261340
Do your research. Have a thick skin. If you you can't figure out how to google, don't bother

[Anonymous No.8264021]

>>8261349
>>8263727
You rang?

[Anonymous No.8264093]

>>8263506
Not really? Society's view of male = dominant and female = submissive definitely show up in BDSM circles

[Anonymous No.8264104]

>>8264093
Oh dear god.
Male topping female is possibly the most common..? But it's nearly evenly split between genders and sexualities, like I'd say 40 male subs vs. 60 male doms.
Same with females. Same with gays.