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Last thread got archived.
Back to the topic about Lolita communities. I would like to know why French community is so divided? Apparently some Lolitas were not allowed to the LVER because they don't belong to the French Cafe...
Why can't they unite as one comm?

>> No.8150171

I'm moving to the Bay Area in a couple of months, I've never been to a meet up before so I'm curious.
What kind of activities are common? How many people on average show up? Age range? People I should be wary of?

>> No.8150255

>>8150171
Here's an early welcome to the Bay Area, anon!

The Bay Area/SF Comm is huge... there's around 600 members in our FB group with meetup sizes ranging from 10-30.

We've weeded out some creeps so the comm is more active now than ever. Our only lolcow at the moment is Tifaret but she barely comes to meetups anyway and you can easily avoid her online presence by ignoring her on FB. Most activities include lunch to a quaint restaurant, chatting, and taking pics. There's frequent wine/distillery/beer events for those above 21. The weather's getting warmer so we'll have more picnic and museum events coming soon. Tea parties, if you're into that sort of thing. Age range is from early-20s to early-30s, lots of nice cheery lolitas.

I would suggest joining the FB group and introducing yourself to the lolitas that host meetups frequently. The monthly meet is a safe bet since there's no commitment involved but it can be overwhelming when friends group up immediately and you're kind of out in the open, so be sure to post/message that you're new and they'll be more active in getting to know you - not that anyone's a bitch, it's just with so many members its hard to keep track of who is new and who isn't.

>> No.8150288

>>8150255
what's up with nathaniel?

>> No.8150296

>>8150288
nothing? he's a brolita and a little awkward

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>>8150296

>> No.8150310

>>8150299
sigh. you're one of the problems in our comm for ripping photos off of people's personal fbs and posting them on here

yeah he's ita as shit and difficult to have conversations with, but he's not a creep nor has he caused drama like melissa brown or phil. you don't have to like everyone in our comm 'cause I sure don't.

>> No.8150317

>>8150255
Thanks for the information. Joining a new group of people seems slightly less terrifying now.
I look forward to museum trips, with a group or not. They were always my favorite part of visiting Cali.

>> No.8150331

>>8150317
No problem, glad my post helped. Look forward to meeting you in the near future anon!

>>8150288
>>8150296
Nathanial is really nice. She is also a trans female. There's nothing wrong with her, she grew up in a bumblefuck town and moved to the SF where trans people are more accepted. She started lolita not too long ago and has a difficult time fitting into her clothes.

If you've been attacked or threatened by anyone in our comm, contact a mod immediately. If you're annoyed with itas and awkward people, kindly gtfo or ignore them in real life.

>> No.8150338

>>8149857
Some of the French lolitas from the other comm decided to not attend LVER because French Cafe were organizing it
pretty dumb if you ask me but w/e

>> No.8150352

>>8150299
Besides the face and smeagol pose, the outfit looks ok to me. Would have looked better without the bell sleeves

>> No.8150364

>>8149857
>Why can't everyone unite as one comm?

Not even French, but I'm assuming there are two comms because not everyone who shares one shallow hobby are going to have carbon-copy personalities?

Even if there's no rivalry or drama, people form preferences and you can't expect a bunch of lolitas to be BFFs because "we all look the same to normalfags!". (Protip: We actually do NOT all look the same to normal people, normalfags can tell a nice outfit from ita stuff easily.)

Petition to add The Five Geek Fallacies and F Yeah Lolita's "Misconceptions" articles to the sticky, and to live and let live.

>> No.8150372

>>8150299
I hope you're not the person who took the photo :(

>> No.8150374

>>8150299
What is up with the pose? This looks terribly creepy and awkward. Sorry if it was private but still, jeez if I were a comm noob and saw this, I'd think "wtf?"

>> No.8150382

>>8149857
Many comms are divided along interest or age lines or for other reasons. One big comm is not always best.

>> No.8150392

>>8150288
I was at that tea party and I didn't get weird vibes from him, just that he talked too much and has some questionable taste in wigs.

>> No.8150394

>>8150374
One awkward trans girl isn't enough to scare me off. I had a friend who came out as trans after high school and really the more progress she made the more tolerable she was to be around.
Also that coord isn't too bad.

>> No.8151204

Last thread was dying when I posted this so- DC comm, is it decent? I'm moving there soon and want to join.

>> No.8151259

>>8150372
Uhhhh no. she would not post on here.
She does, however, have a bunch of friends- any of which can see and post this.
>>8150331
Nathaniel has been around for at least 8 or 9 months though
I guess that's recent compared to others?

>> No.8151267

What's the deal with the Scottish Lolitas? I caught wind that they banned a seamstress who has her own brand, any truth to it? I have no names or actual brand to go by, so it sounds a bit off.

>> No.8151269

>>8150310
Assuming it's someone from the comm.

>> No.8151280

>>8151259
Just weird that the file name is in an IMG_###.jpg format cause if it's pulled from FB it would be #########_###############_#############.jpg

>> No.8151354

>>8151280
Renaming files possibly.
If I was a shit stirrer I would also do that

>> No.8151682

>>8151267
lolisourgrapes? it was literally years ago now and i'm sure she's cleaned up her act since, but she was banned from a couple of UK comms for stirring shit and bullying people about their weight/clothes. search the archives, because this gets raked up so many times for such minor drama.

>> No.8154264

NYCgulls, are there plans for Sakura Matsuri at all yet? Not on fb so I don't have any way to know through the comm pages but I'd like to attend.

>> No.8154417

>>8149857
Related to this, can anyone tell me which are the French lolita comms?
So far I know of French Café and Rouge Dentelle & Rose Ruban, plus the FB page "Le lolita en bref, en clair".

Where are most events posted? All these comms and I still struggle to find lolita events to attend...

Do they mostly have personal private meets?

>> No.8154420

>>8150255
I requested to join the group about 5 days ago and haven't heard a response...do you know which admin is the best to contact about this sort of thing?

>> No.8154440

>>8151280
>>8151354
There's no EXIF data on it, so I doubt it's the person who took the photo. LJ saves images like that so if it was posted anywhere on LJ that could be where it was nabbed from, not just facebook.

>> No.8154459

>>8150364
>The Five Geek Fallacies
Holy shit, this is great. I've never read it before but it's perfect!

>> No.8154466

>>8154264
I'd also like to know this... I'm not a part of NY lolitas, I'm actually from Florida, but my husband and I were going to visit some friends in NY the weekend that event happens and were thinking of attending.

>> No.8154478

>>8154466
Join the NY Comm and introduce yourself. Tell us in detail why you joined and when you're coming to visit to us. We really appreciate visitors. We had a lolita guest from Ohio not too long ago.

>> No.8154494

>>8154478
So is that a no...?

>> No.8154616

>>8154494
More likely a "we don't want to post meet-up details on cgl" response, I think.

>> No.8154622

>>8154466
>>8154616
I mean, Sakura Matsuri is a public (after admission) event. It's not like you can't just find the meet while there.

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8155406

>"Over the next few days I shall be posting some stuff that I have done, info about me and lots of pictures to introduce myself."

I can't control my excitement!

>> No.8155493

>>8155406
27 and he still posts like that? Run. Run far away.

>> No.8155543

>>8155406
Oh no....I'm so sorry anon...

>> No.8155571

>>8155406
m'lady

>> No.8155577

My comm annoys me. Out of all the admins only one attends meets and all the meets are made by girls who should be admins. Half of the admins dont even wear lolita anymore. And then when a big meet is planned everyone flakes and dont even tell the hosts that they arent coming anymore. Urghh.

>> No.8155590

>>8155406
>over the next few days
Just comment and tell him that a public page is not is own personal blog. No one needs more than one introduction post, if any at all.

>> No.8155594

>>8155577
Which comm?

>> No.8155599

>>8155406
WTF is this shit?

>> No.8155634

>>8155406
Give him a chance. At least he's not a schlub or a cross dresser. He sounds pretty entertaining, actually.

>> No.8155769

>>8155634
>entertaining
Not the word I would use. Maybe he is just trying too hard to impress people.

>> No.8155960

I just need to vent for a second. My comm has a very tight knit group of friends, and we usually hangout outside of meets as well. So a lot of the girls have stated that they're intimidated to come to the meets because the feel like outsiders. And some of the girls are trying to be inviting and welcoming, and some are just so salty. Like yes, I understand and appreciate that it's a lot of work to organize a meetup. But nobody is going to show up if you're going to bitch about the attendance in the group page. That's not encouraging anyone. We do the whole facebook poll thing, but if they realized that the winning polls are the ones that the regulars vote on, they don't pay attention to any of the other girl's schedules. I'm not saying that this comm has to cater to everyone, but making a facebook event a week before the date doesn't give anyone time to book time off of work, and just how hostile they can be sometimes makes me not even want to go. Like they talk shit about almost everyone else in the comm.

>> No.8156076

>>8155406
The recent new members posts on this comm are so shit.Im gonna miss the days of a cringe free community.

>> No.8156094

Is there a Orlando community? Or just Florida in general? I'm moving there soon and have been wondering about it.

>> No.8156101

What's the Ohio comm like? I'm moving in a year and I wanted to stop being a lonelita.

>> No.8156111

>>8155406
*tips mini top hat*

Upstate NY. That explains everything.

>> No.8156113

>>8155406
Who still does that 'multiple characters typing' thing he's done at the start. Ughhh.

>> No.8156170

>>8155960

What state is this?

>> No.8156184

>>8154459
I've read it before, and I don't actually think it applies to lolita at all. Definitely applies to the nerd social circles I've been in though (high school cliques, university anime club, etc).

>> No.8156189

>>8155577
My comm doesn't have the "half the admins don't even wear lolita anymore" problem, but I am surprised at how few meets are made by the admins. There seem to be one or two girls organizing most of the meets for the past year and I'm really surprised that neither have been made admins.

>> No.8156199

>>8156189
In some comms, maybe it's just that only the public meets are being hosted by non-admins? I know in my comm the admins rarely host public meets and instead often "meet up with [coincidentally all lolita] friends". Which makes them pretty shit admins IMHO, but the people that have been in this hobby longest are most likely to have close lolita friends I guess.

>> No.8156365

>>8155594
An aus comm?

>> No.8156430

>>8156101
Fairly reasonable. Not everyone is perfectly dressed to the nines all the time, and they have their share of itas and odd people, as any comm would, but there's a lot of well-dressed people, and everyone is very nice. Ohio is pretty-low drama, the mods take care of that crap before it can take off. There's always a surplus of interesting meetups, mostly in the Columbus area and in the Akron/Cleveland area. You'll have a good time, anon.

>> No.8156434

>>8156184
I think it applies to most itas, many newbies and certain online lolita comms.
>lolitas r suppose 2 b lovlies n stick 2gethr!!
>constructive criticism is BULLYING and online comms should be a "safe space"!!
>even if someone is creeping everyone the fuck out we'll just turn a blind eye to this because we need to accept everyone!!
>brandwhores are like the popular rich girls in high school
>etc.

>> No.8156473

>>8156434
Yes, but those ideas get shut down a heck of a lot faster than they do in other geek circles. Implying lolitas should all be lovelies ruffles pettis outside of /cgl/.

>> No.8156493

>>8155577
Is this Sydney comm?

>> No.8156627

Anyone in an NC comm? Every time I see someone on here comment on being from NC, it's to say that they're not in the comm because apathy/busy/distance/lazy.

>> No.8156659

>>8156094
Yes. Central florida lolita society, but it covers Tampa too. There are a number of Florida comms, with varying levels of activity, I think there are 5? I'm assuming there's a south florida comm, but I know of central, jacksonville, panhandle, and tallahassee.

>> No.8156786

>>8156659
Yeah, there's a South Fl lolita comm.

>> No.8156792

>>8156365
Sounds like Brisbane.

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>>8155406

>> No.8156884

Anyone here from the southern ontario lolita comm? I'm curious to join~

>> No.8157005

>>8156430
Thank you very much for taking the time to respond to me! I'm very excited to move now since due to how things are where I currently live, I cannot really participate in a community.

I'll only be about an hour out from Columbus since I am moving to west Ohio, but the other meetups would be a bit steep of a drive, haha. Again, I'm very pleased to hear that I'll find it to be an enjoyable community.

>> No.8157021

>>8157005
Different anon, but there's some sweet people who live in that area and I'm sure you'll enjoy them. I don't get to go down to that area much for meets as it's a bit of a drive, but I really enjoy the girls there. There's a few indie brands that are out of that area, Elegy and VooDooDolly. Both shop owners are really sweet and are active in the community.

>> No.8157027

>>8156884
I was, but they put out a survey last year with a bunch of questions about how "active" you were in the comm, with the intention of narrowing down their numbers based on activity, saying they'll kick you out if you don't fill it out.

I just didn't fill it out because I thought it was annoying, and I only visit TO once in a while. I got kicked I guess? Don't give enough fucks to have my Toronto friends re-add me to it.

>> No.8157032

>>8155769
Let us know what happens, in any case.

>> No.8157033

>>8157027
sorry, I forgot to mention by kicked out I meant from the Facebook page.

>> No.8157044

>>8154420
The main admin isn't super active. I'd say Monique or Kelly are better bets.

>> No.8157063

>>8157021
Thank you for responding too! I feel a lot better about the move I'm making since I'm going to be pretty far from home. Gives me something to be excited about instead of anxious, haha.

>> No.8157085

>>8156792
Sadly I would agree.
Everyone who keeps it active though are wonderful doing so.

>> No.8157107

>>8155960
I think this might be my comm since i saw a post about attendance attendance. I didn't really pay attention because im abroad.>>8149857

>> No.8157116

>>8156659
>>8156786
Alright. So if I'm living in Orlando which one do you suggest joining? The central florida one?

>> No.8157138

>>8157116
Definitely Central FL. Florida is a HUGE state, that's gonna be the closest to you.

>> No.8157200

What's been happening in TX? Things feel oddly quiet. Has the HLCxAM lovefest been ceded by the community and allowed to flourish?

>> No.8157236

I doubt there'll be anyone, since so few southeastern Lolitas post on here, but I'll ask anyway. I know that there is an upstate SC comm, but are they still active and accepting new members? Is it even worth joining?

>> No.8157440

>>8157200
Absolutely no drama whatsoever

>> No.8157487

>>8157027
They may have done that in order to cut down on inactive people who would just start drama, or to cut down on any sissies or fetishists. It seems like a thing a lot of comms are doing more for the safety of their members than to be annoying or elitist.

>> No.8157507

>>8156884
It's happy go lucky on the surface. It's good for keeping in the loop about events. The rest is what you make of it.

>>8157027
It has resorted to these "automated messages" for people to respond to now to filter out the 'bots' and a bunch of people got kicked out as a purge. Some people tried to join again and responded to the message, even out-of-town folks, they have been accepted.

>> No.8157684

>>8156473
It applies, especially when people start insisting every city/country should have only one comm because "We should support one another and all get along as sisters!"
This is often said by itas and people who wind up on the bottom of the Lolita social hierarchy due to their poor personality, hygiene, or behaviour.
Just because we're considered outliers in normal society doesn't make it a free-for-all. You still have to dress and carry yourself to a certain standard or else people will avoid you, which they are perfectly within their right to do.

tl;dr: Bring a Lolita doesn't automatically come with free friends, niche subculture or not.

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8157694

Why is the fact that she bought it from milky fawn relevant? I don't understand.

>> No.8157700

>>8157694
so all the boys and girls who want to hotglue it can drive up the price

>> No.8157701

>>8157694
Maybe she thinks it adds more value to the dress, lol.

>> No.8157708

>>8157200
Wait after AM

>> No.8157710

>>8155406
Holy fuck, he and that Angelique de la Rouge chick should team up. They're perfect for each other.

>> No.8157733

>>8157694
It might explain the 60 pound or so difference in what she paid vs what she's selling for.

>> No.8157738

>>8157694
Autism, and desire to absorb her royal sweat.

>> No.8157739

>>8157694
not even rare lmao

>> No.8157748

>>8155590
I see people post this kind of blogging shit on our comm page sometimes, but I cant build a solid argument beyond "I dont care about your bullshit". Technically, they're posting on topic, and it's not like the page is busting with new posts...

>> No.8157764

>>8157085
It's funny because I was talking about Brisbane.

>> No.8157769

>>8157710
That's an unholy clusterfuck of a union. I like the way you think.

>> No.8157771

>>8157694
This girl is straight up creepy. She thinks she is milkyfawn

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>>8157694
Would you look at two of the main autistic reasons she probably quit.
OPs profile is public and it's a milky-shrine.

>> No.8157792

Any Southern Ontario Lolitas here? New to the comm and nervous about only having 2 main pieces when there seems like many meets a month? Also any bros or creepers?

>> No.8157798

>>8155406
> Forever Alone

>> No.8157799

>>8157785
>>8157694
I can't get over how weird/creepy this is...

>> No.8157807

Isn't SOL Voldie's comm?

>> No.8157835

>>8157792
Dont worry too much about it, no one is going to judge you on your wardrobe size as we have all been there. We try to be very friendly to new girls since we understand it can be intimidating to go to your first meet.

>>8157807
Yeah she is part of the comm. She hasnt been to many meets but the ones I have seen her with have been fine.

>> No.8157868

>>8157792
Most of the meets are smaller ones, and most people don't go to them all! Comm members tend to be pretty busy and schedules for work/school are all over the place, hence having lots of smaller meets rather than expecting everyone to make it out to one big meet each month.

Two main pieces is more than some people have when they start coming to meets, and it gives you a good discussion point to ask for suggestions on alternate ways to coordinate the dresses you have!

>> No.8157978

How is the Swedish comm, specifically around Uppsala? I'm thinking of applying for a Master's degree there next year, and I'd like to know how welcoming they'd be towards someone who speaks next to no Swedish (obviously I'll learn some before I go, but of course their English would be leagues ahead of my Swedish) in the comm. I always see such amazing lolitas coming out of Sweden, I'd love to get the chance to go to a meetup.

>> No.8158069

>>8157807
It is

>>8157792
We're generally pretty laid back. Nobody will care about how many main pieces you've got. Also Trumie-chan is a brolita in our comm, but he's a total sweetheart

>> No.8158101

>got comm
>they're pretty nice, no dramacows, have a few casual friends there
>still feel lonely because no close lolita friends
>tfw no-one to twin with forever

I like my comm but I live in a pretty remote area so most of them don't live nea me.

>> No.8158113

So there is clearly an 'A team' and 'B team' in the TPC. For the third time or something two meets have been arranged on the same day. I remember one being an 'official' TPC event then silently made a London Lolita event whilst everyone else went elsewhere. I think if people don't want to go to Emily's meets they should just be straight about it instead of rescheduling twice and it so happens to clash with her meet. I'm genuinely torn again... I don't care about being in the 'in crowd', but both meets are at great places of interest instead of just a picnic this time.

>> No.8158139

>>8157978
I have no experience with the Uppsala comm, but there is a Stockholm comm that is very active with lots of meets. The facebook group for lolita in Sweden seems pretty welcoming for people who don't speak Swedish, as there are several members in the community who write in English on there and people tend to respond to them in English as well.

>> No.8158194

>>8158113
I don't get why they do this. I rarely attend events outside of my region, because I'm a poorfag student, but watching all the clashes happen on the Facebook page baffles me. It's not hard to make large events on different days.

>> No.8158225

>>8158069
Out of curiosity, how well is Trumie received within the SO comm? I've been toying with the idea of joining, but I want to know how brolita-kosher the environment is first.

Also, was the cheating brolita rapist posted on BTB a couple years ago one of yours?

>> No.8158237

>>8158225
I wasn't active in the comm back then so I couldn't tell you. But Trumie is really well liked in the comm. He can be shy at first at meets but he's really nice once you get to know him. I definitely don't get the bad vibes from him that I often get from brolitas.

>> No.8158360

>>8150255
I'm glad to hear that! I also just joined but I've been too chickenshit to go to a meet yet.
>>8154420
It took me over a week to get added, I wouldn't worry about it

>> No.8158363

hows the chicago comm? ill be moving to the area in a few months

>> No.8158445

>>8158363
Drama is non-existent ever since Cancerchan got banned. Ellejay is back though.

>> No.8158460

>>8158445
cancerchan ?

>> No.8158473

>>8158445
was the drama bad before ?
is this ellejay person someone i should be cautious of ?

>> No.8158485

>>8158225
that selfpost

>> No.8158492

>>8158460
Girl pretended to have cancer. Solicited donations from the comm. Got caught when she stole photos from a cancer blog belonging to a relative of someone aware of the situation. Continued to assert that she did in fact have cancer, and provided what were suspected to be doctored records.

People were talking about going to the police to report her for fraud, but no idea if it happened.

>> No.8158501

>>8158363
Very active. There are a good number of older, long-time wearers, but also a growing number of younger people. I want to say that a majority of people fall into the typical college student age range. Generally nice and welcoming. It is a big group and everyone's pretty spread out among the suburbs and Chicago proper, but it's not too hard to make friends with at least one person.


>>8158445
I didn't go to the meet up because of work, but I saw her in the video. I've been wondering when she was going to be back in the area.

>>8158473
She's not the worst, but I've always found her pretty questionable - nothing more than a special snowflake. While I do believe that her health isn't the greatest, her able-ism gets pretty old.

>> No.8158502

>>8158363

Talking about the Chicago comm, I got removed (understandably) for inactivity (I go to college in a different area, and my 'vacation' schedules were horribly booked up with exams, internships, etc etc making it hard for me to make meetups). I am hoping to come back to the area for my job though. If I explain the situation to a mod, will that be all right?

Again, not mad at all about the situation, I'm just afraid I was blacklisted when I was removed.

>> No.8158554

>>8158501
>>8158492
thank you!

>> No.8158557

>>8158502
no if you message a mod and go to meets youll be fine.

>> No.8158560

>>8158225
You have to remember that Trumaine didnt start in lolita. He was with cadney, he did boystyle on and off, he did photographs, so he was well established in the comm before he got into the dresses. He was already friends with everyone.

No, the BTB post is not us, Trumie is like our first brolita, any others that I have seen barely show up, so I cant think of anyone else.

>> No.8158561

im curious is there a minnesota community at all ? i may go to mcad there. and i havent seen anything on facebook ?

>> No.8158595

>>8158473
Wouldn't say be cautious of ellejay, just aware that she's an attention-desperate special snowflake. Then again a lot of shittalking I'd hear about her was from supposed friends, so perhaps take with a grain of salt...

Chicago comm is pretty good. Apart from occasional personal drama blowups that happen with any big comm and are very easy to avoid, there's fairly regular meets and a range of styles. I would say that if you live in the city without a car/friend with a car, it's a bit difficult to get to a lot of the meets which happen in the burbs, but there's plenty of teas and other events within the Loop and greater city area.

>> No.8158597

>>8157694
milkyfawn when she was still into lolita
she was god
weekly animal sacrifices for milkyfawn

>> No.8158603

>>8157005
Don't come to Columbus for meets. Funk Brothers is a rich, rude, and pretentious cunt with lots of burando. Hopefully he'll be gone next year with a master's and living in his parent's basement. I don't like him.

>> No.8158605

anyone know anything about the pittsburgh comm?? i saw a video and the majority looked ita asf but girlyhoot was also there so it was like ehhh

>> No.8158607

>>8158597
I don't get why people are/were so obsessed with her. She's average and came across as really cunty which most fangirls don't like.

>> No.8158614

>>8158607
I didn't mind milkyfawn thought she was pretty funny, I was kind of sad she moved away from lolita as I liked her coordinates.

that girl selling the jsk is just comes off as stalker

>> No.8158615

>>8158607
i just like some of her ott coords. but seriously any info would be great bc my ass is not joining a comm of itas

>> No.8158617

>>8158603
Not even from that state, but I wouldn't really go to Columbus anyway. It's so boring.

FB told me that he's figuring out where he's going after he gets his master, and it's most likely going to be NY, but LA's up there too.
I don't really interact in person with a lot of lolitas, and I've only met him, like twice. I'm kind of curious of what made him come off as rude (I haven't seen his trip around here in a while, so...I'm out of the loop).

>> No.8158638

>>8158614
>that girl selling the jsk is just comes off as stalker

glad i'm not the only one who got that vibe

>> No.8158783

>>8158638
With fans like this, I can see why Milkyfawn moved away from lolita.

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>>8157785
>>8157694
I took this last night but posting went down before I was able to upload.
Voldie arguing with the stalker.

>> No.8158814

>>8158794
get 'em voldie ahaha

>> No.8158821

>>8158794
>yet it seems everything I post for sale i get some kind of hate for it!
And that doesn't tell you something? Really?

>> No.8158848

>>8158794
Why does Voldie want to smell brand from e-famous lolitas?

Makes me wonder if any other lolitas would do the same if girlyhoot or Cadney sell their brand.

>> No.8158877

>>8158848
I've bought things from both of them and wouldn't think to do that. It's weird and nuts.

>> No.8158995

>>8158603
Um, I'm pretty sure he doesn't have lots of burando. I always see him rotating around 5-6 things. I don't know where you're getting this assumption from.

The times I've met him he's been pretty quiet, but otherwise friendly and seems like a pretty nice person. Plus I'm pretty sure he rarely comes to meets with school. I see other people far more often from that area who go to meets.

>> No.8159012

>>8157694
This is so creepy! Eww.

>> No.8159017

>>8158794
But she's not working with Deerstalker Pictures and you're creepy as fuck. Thank god Voldie had some balls to say something, this chick keeps sending people death threats.

>> No.8159052

>>8158603
>rich
>lots of burando
>I DON'T LIKE HIM
>HIM

So you don't like him because he's a fucking brolita who's better dressed than you? kek

I've actually met him a couple times, he's a little shy/awkward but is pretty nice. Don't know where you got rude and pretentious from.

>> No.8159130

>>8158995
>>8159052
hi fb

>> No.8159166

>>8159130
are you the one girl in the comm who left buttblasted comments after seeing the huge wardrobe post?

honestly, even if you're not, it's telling when two other anons post about Funk being shy/nice and you say the complete opposite. maybe it's not Funk who has the problem, but just you?

>> No.8159174

>>8156101
Pretty nice. It's sparse so meets will pop up from Toledo to Cinci. Iirc, Cinci actually has their own comm. It used to be notorious for awful itas but they've improved a lot recently. Most drama gets shut down immediately since lots of comm members scroll btb, tumblr, and cgl. Mods try to call out any shittalking immediately and source it.

Funk Brothers is an active member of the comm, but idk why >>8158603 has such a sandy vag. He's awkward but pretty nice. He always lets us look at his mooks and brand books which is pretty dope.

TL;DR: Ohio's fine, have fun

>> No.8159231

>>8159130
Anon from >>8158995 and no, I'm not him. Thanks for the assumption though.

>> No.8159355

>>8158794
Wow, Voldie did a pretty awesome job with that lmao

>> No.8159439

>>8158113
On the 20th feb Emily says the meet will be on 7th April cos they don't have the needed 10 people. Guess you can go to both


Also, >>8158194, is 10 people a big event

>> No.8159462

>>8158101
Make a twinning meet

>> No.8159720
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>>8159017
wow seriously!
I know a few people who have hand dealings with her on fb, they all say she's a head case that likes to play the victim card but I'd never heard about her sending death threats.

>> No.8159722

>>8159720
*had

>> No.8159755

>>8157792
No one's going to judge you for amount of pieces you have or don't have. Like the previous anons, we've all been there and are pretty laid back for a community.

No creepers to my knowledge, Trumie-Chan is a brolita but is chill, and there's one other active guy in the comm but he does so-so ouji/aristo.

>> No.8160417

is it just me or is the mn lolita community a bunch of newbies/itas ? o.o

>> No.8160444

>>8160417
It's the Midwest, what else would you expect?

>> No.8160454

>>8160444
chicago isnt like that. just mn

>> No.8160472

>>8160454
Chicago's pretty much the one exception from what I've seen.

>> No.8160477

>>8160472
i think id feel bad going to any meets in mn.... all i see is bad wigs and bodyline..

>> No.8160532

>>8157694
what group is this in?

>> No.8160540

>>8160532
uk sales I think

>> No.8160597

I need advice to start a new comm in my area. We do have another comm, but I feel we need a new one
>How to choose a nice name
>how to organize
>what kind of events to do
>basically how to get started

>> No.8160647

>>8160597
Why though? Unless there is a specific reason like one comm is state wide and you know there is enough in an area to have a local one, there isnt really any reason to have multiple ones.

You also dont sound experienced enough to lead a comm, we shouldnt be telling you how to make events and how to organize people.

>> No.8160669

>>8160597
If a new comm is actually needed (if the old one is dead and beyond salvage or if there enough lolitas in one area to make a whole new comm), and you're not just making one for personal reasons, I would suggest choosing a name that is appropriate for the location of the community, and either gather what's left of the active members from the old comm or lolitas in the area, and try to formulate event ideas with them.

>> No.8160711

>>8160532
It was deleted not long after it blew up, I think. Or she blocked me (unlikely, wasn't in the thread), because I don't see it now.

>> No.8160714

>>8159720
whoa, what

People need to report that shit if it's actually happening. International comm and all, she's unlikely to actually follow through on threats, I know, I know, but that's still not cool.

>> No.8160812

>>8158113
Emily's meet had a placeholder date as she wanted to put the dates up for voting
I think people just have different groups of friends rather than there being a community divide. I will go to a meet organised by anyone provided it is organised well and honestly Emily's is not. She literally wrote 3 lines in the event description so I'm not surprised people aren't attending

>> No.8160813

>>8159017
Details/proof pls

>> No.8160871

Any NYC lolitas here? I'm down for the week and wanted to check out some cute stores (other than BTSSB and TR) if you've got some suggestions?

>> No.8160911

>>8159174
Thank you very much for your input. I'm pretty excited about this move now, thanks! I feel a lot better about jumping into that comm. I'm a bit nervous since I don't think I coord well enough, but I'm sure I'll get over it, haha.

>>8158603
Well, I don't really know the guy. I don't really like passing judgement on someone I don't actually know and have never met (or even heard of.) I prefer to decide things with my own eyes. A lot of people are also saying he's a nice guy, too.

>> No.8161069

>>8160417
they had a few nicely dressed people show up for the Novala thing a while ago from GLB photos, but idk how much of the photos were runover from the previous page in the spread.

>> No.8161145

>>8160871
We're always here! NYC is ubiquitous. Jk. Alice's teacup. Also, just ask in the group page. No one wants to reveal how salty they are in their down time by posting their contact here. We love visitors, a chance for a public meet!

>> No.8161273

>>8160813
It's pretty obvious since no videos have been released and she deleted everything. Why would you quit Lolita and continue to do Lolita videos?

>> No.8161289

>>8161145
Thank you! I'll definitely check out Alice's Teacup, that looks super cute. And I'll ask the group next time I'm down - when I'm not with my mother haha. I'll be at the BTSSB store for a big portion of tomorrow if anyone else is planning on going and wants to say hi (and see my mom rocking OTT sweet)

>> No.8161494

>>8160911
>I don't really like passing judgement on someone I don't actually know and have never met (or even heard of.) I prefer to decide things with my own eyes.
I like you already, anon. I don't make it down south too often, but if we ever meet, you're already on my good list :) You sound wonderfully sane.

>> No.8161539

>>8160477
And this is the reason why I have never gone.

>> No.8161541

>>8161069
Where were these photos? There weren't any good ones shared in the comm.

>> No.8161887

>>8161273
I think anon meant proof/deets about the death threats.

>> No.8163343

>>8161289
Your mom seems amazing. I hope you had fun! Yes please come visit. =)

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Someone has finally said something to this trainwreck. Stop ruining our fun!

>> No.8165428

>>8158101
are you me anon? I'm so bad at getting close to people, even though I might really like someone.

>> No.8165695

>>8165403
Fucking Jenni Berry. Every time I see her name I know something super cringy is about to happen.

>> No.8165709

How are the comms in Georgia (USA) and Alabama?

>> No.8165714

>>8165695
Are you in the comm? I can't be the only one that has a thing against her.

>> No.8165745

>>8165714

Pretty sure everyone in Melbourne except her little ita friends hate her.

>> No.8165775

>>8165745
I sold her one of my beginner dresses once and she seemed sweet. I think shes got a mental handicap of some verity, but she seemed like she wanted to improve.

Any stories? Or is it just because of the cringy posts on comm pages?

>> No.8165776

>>8165714
Not in the comm, but her posts on the Australian comms drive me nuts. Her sales posts are mindblowing. Blurry photos of ebay ita trash.

>> No.8165781

>>8165775
Also 'grats to the commenter that somehow managed to tell her that her products where terrible without telling her that her products were terrible.

>> No.8165784

>>8165745
Isn't she going to the Japanese Summer Festival tomorrow? I hope I don't run into her.

>>8165775
>>8165776
She constantly spams cringy posts on the comm pages and it ticks me off. I don't think she's been around much to warrant bad stories, at least I haven't heard of any yet.

>> No.8165791

>>8165781
We could all do with a bit more of this kind of tact, I was impressed.

>> No.8165806

Seems like there's some Australians around, what is the Melbourne comm like? I've heard of a lot of drama and not many good things so I'm nervous to check it out. I moved interstate recently and not much is inspiring me to keep up with lolita

>> No.8165817

>>8165806
The Melbourne comm is really sweet if you're not a social retard (like >>8165403).There isn't much drama as far as I know and if there is, people have enough tact to keep the bitching private.
Most of the girls are well dressed, nice and welcoming. The next 'big' meet is the Easter picnic, which is always fun. Feel free to come along! If you're going to the Summer Festival tomorrow you might run into some of the members.

>> No.8166197

>>8165403
That's a really good way of handling it actually. Well done.

>> No.8166714

>>8165817

Except for Jorge, it seems. What was with that stick up his ass last night? Him and his little buddies bitched out a girl for not wanting to pay scalper prices.

>> No.8166856

>>8166714
Caps of what happened?

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>>8166856

>> No.8166890

>>8166714
It's Belle. Belle's kind of notorious even outside of Melb for asking dumb as fuck questions. She also doesn't seem to have any impulse control and screamed at a family asking why everyone was dressed up right before the Misako tea party.

I'll read the thread, but seeing her as the OP of any post always makes me wonder how much idiocy I'm in for.

>> No.8166897

>>8166884
>>8166890
Okay, having read it, I'm going to assume that they're just fed up with her overall. It's hard to say without the longer comments expanded, though. Did she say something amazingly obvious or particularly dumb?

>> No.8166900

>>8166884
Random anon passing by but it's not like this isn't a huge debate in the greater community that has both experienced and newer lolitas on both sides? This Jorge guy and his buddy are coming off as enormous assholes and incapable of actual debate/discussion regardless of this Belle girl's rep...

>> No.8166905

>>8166884
Poor, poor Melbourne, how do you consistently have this many idiots?

I never thought I'd see Belle's side of things, but given context (it's Belle), everyone probably just cracked their shit.

I did the same sort of thing to someone in my community this week, and had a bit of similar reasoning. It was PM though.

>> No.8166914

>>8166884
Holy shit! Belle is so nice! What the fuck was their problem? Like they wherent even being politely passively dickheadish. They where just balls out cunts.

I hope I never meet those two. They seem horrible.

Also I think that is an interesting topic to talk about. It really does suck when people get in line ahead of someone just to buy something they aren't even interested in, so they can scalp it later on. As jorge and gwenith says, you could just not pay the price wich is true. But I feel like something should also be done with people who are behaving like this. Its taking advantage of people in our communities which is not on so i feel like those people should be alienated from said communities.

>> No.8166917

>>8166890
>>8166890
>>8166897
It was a legit discussion even coming from Belle. I see her point as badly worded as it was but obviously Jorge and Gwyn don't give a shit. lol at "more suited to rufflechat". Since when was discussing LOLITA not a thing in the comm?

>> No.8166919

>>8166897

Not really. It was her sharing a japanese friend's opinion on scalping and trying to get a discussion going.

She only posted like three times in the past three months.

>> No.8166920

>>8166900
>>8166905
Yeah, it seems like a final straw situation.

>>8166917
Yeah, agreed. I'm wondering wtf happened for them to snap, since I was under the impression that everyone was friends with her. Even Victor, and he's a massive knob to everyone else.

>> No.8166928

>>8166917
It was a terribly worded post. It sounded like Belle was butthurt she missed out on the white DM OP and wanted to whine. I agree that those two can be more tactful but then again they must be fed up with her.
Resellers exist, they'll keep existing if people are willing to give them money. This release is insanely popular, a couple of resellers aren't going to affect the chance of her getting the dress as everyone and their mum wanted it.

>> No.8166931

What are the comms like in Sydney? I'm moving there soon.

>> No.8166959

>>8166928
You know, I wasn't even interested in this release, and I don't really keep up with releases after the fact. But from the sheer number of DM OP's up for sale after the release date I actually thought this was a super unpopular dress, even to the point where I thought there was something defective about it.

Well anyways that's from an outsider looking in viewpoint. Maybe there were more people scalping this release or maybe there were lots or people unhappy with their purchases. But there was a boat load of DM OP's up for sale as "new/Unused" so perhaps that is what has sparked the debate again this time round.

>> No.8166969

>>8166959
AP releases in general draw the attention of a lot of scalpers. A friend over there said that whole families will enter the reservation lotteries, so that an individual can get several pieces to sell second hand for a huge increase.

AP was saying they're going to take action against it, but it doesn't seem to have changed much. They still get paid for the items they sell, after all.

>> No.8166975

>>8166959
The op was longer than other OPs of this cut (ie sugary gingham), so maybe some girls sold it due to legitimate fit issues. I'm sure 95% are scalpers though, as with every popular AP release

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>>8166931
Sydney is mostly fine, our problems don't stick around as long as Belle

>> No.8166989

>>8166984
Olé, olé, olé.

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>>8166959
Maybe people did not like/were not expecting the flocking?
>Tbh I think that is the best part

>> No.8167103

Some idiot is sending Raleigh information about anything people say about her on facebook and other groups. Now she's claiming she's being harassed. Just a heads up.

>> No.8167147

>>8166884
Something I've noticed from many screenshots shared here--can everyone please try to click on the "Read more" before capturing these facebook conversations? If we're going to share, let's share the entire thread.

>>8166900
I'm also a completely unaffiliated anon, but honestly I have seen this type of conversation and complaint pop up in so many (non-lolita) comms that I just am done with the conversation myself. Jorge & co. didn't come off as mean to me--they gave her plenty of chances to disengage from the conversation and she decided to push it.

>>8166914
Feel free to alienate them by not buying from them. Buyers have the choice to not buy from them so I don't think they're really being taken advantage of--it's not like the dresses were only made available to scalpers. It does suck to miss out on a release that one really wanted, but these things happen sometimes--better luck next time, you know?

>> No.8167161

>>8166884
>>8166900
>>8166905
>>8166914
>>8166917
I know Jorge has a vendetta against Belle, but she's just dumb af. I don't like her myself but i wouldn't just start shit with her for the sake of it. I'm really tired of seeing Gwyneth shit up everywhere with her opinions like her word is law and jumping on drama any chance she gets, Rufflechat, CoF, all the comm pages and even sales posts, it's shameful and embarrassing to watch, and being a newer lolita herself and to the comm she really is in no position to be saying this shit. While Belle's post may have been worded strangely it was still a valid discussion topic, and they just turned it into a shitfest.

>> No.8167170

>>8167147
>Jorge & co. didn't come off as mean to me--they gave her plenty of chances to disengage from the conversation and she decided to push it.

...wasn't this her own post? Why should she have to disengage from her own post?

>> No.8167207

>>8158794
Voldie is literally being the most sensible human being ever.

REPRESENT

>> No.8167240

>>8167147
>Jorge & co. didn't come off as mean to me
They were incredibly rude and mocking in order to make Belle look stupid. That cap said more about them being arseholes than it does about her being silly.

>disengage from the conversation
They also could have walked away from it but stayed to be obnoxious. They offered no insight or contribution to the discussion other than to be dicks.

>> No.8167262

>>8166900
>>8166914
>>8166917
>>8167161
gwyneth's an active seagull- funny how this is the first thread she's not jumping all over at the first mention of her name, ahuehue

>> No.8167342

>>8167161

It's pretty obvious he's trying to provoke her into insulting him so he can ban her, but she's not dumb enough to fall for that trick.

>> No.8167411

>>8167161
Drama hungry passerby here, why does Jorge have a vendetta against Belle?

>> No.8167419

Is the Atlanta, Ga comm active/any fun?

>> No.8167431

1. Belle is retarded and has been warned to stop on multiple occasions.
2. Gwyneth is too big for her boots and needs to settle the fuck down. She's acting like Jorge's lapdog.

>> No.8167439

>>8167431

everyone knows she's thirsty as fuck for his dick. hopefully they'll get together so he'll stop cracking onto lolitas. so much secondhand embarrassment.

>> No.8167458

>>8166884
Wtf why is this Jorge guy even a mod...
He looks supremely creepy and acts like a high school girl.

>> No.8167480

>>8157807
Voldie and that tumblrina Emma in the same comm. How awful.

>> No.8167513

>>8167411
belle is actually kind of retarded to be fair

>> No.8167524

>>8166884
I have never seen Gorge and Gwyneth being so rude for practically no reason. they are far lass salty then this in person.

>> No.8167526

>>8167161
>>8167262
>>8167431

Wow, okay haha.
I never really meant to come off as mean to be honest, i was more confused by half of the things said, and i definitely wasn't trying to stir shit and cause drama.
As for acting like my word is final and shitting up threads everywhere, i don't comment on places that often aside from CoF as concrit when asked, and here and there on rufflechat, nowhere near as much as made out to be, aside from a bit on cgl, but its usually because i've been posted and stuff? overall i don't pay that much attention and don't put much input into heaps of things. I definitely understand how i could come off as rude or "too big for my boots" but honestly its never intended and i feel like theres possibly some people in here who don't really like me in general and want to paint me in a bad light. Fair enough I guess.

>> No.8167540

>>8166917
belle posts so much she has actually had warnings to stop. thats probably what they were getting at and just didnt do a good job.

>> No.8167552

>>8167526
Uh, that's total bullshit. There's actual screenshots of you being a dickhead. There's no backpedaling that.

>> No.8167554

>>8167540

I counted and up to that post, she'd only posted three times in the last three months. She got her warning and cut back on posts. Giving her shit for a post a month is just petty.

>> No.8167565

>>8167552
I only wrote one sentence referring to the actual screenshots, the rest has nothing to do with me being a dickhead. Like i said, i didn't actually intend to be regardless of how i came off. I was moreso defending about how i apparently comment on everything when i don't.

>> No.8167575

>>8167526
I dont think you were too bad but both of you together made it look worse than it was. you seem pretty nice in person so ill give you the benefit of the doubt.

>> No.8167584 [DELETED] 

>>8167439
I thought they were actually a thing though?

>> No.8167585

Is Jorge the guy that made the cabbage joke to a newb?

>> No.8167592

>>8166959
All my hopes to a made to order release

>> No.8167593

>>8167585
Cabbage joke?

>> No.8167594

>>8167585
nah that was victor.

>> No.8168392

>>8156627
I'm part of the fb group, I haven't been able to attend a meet yet though.

Recently there seems to be a lot of activity regarding planning future meets. Although, I was scrolling through the page the other day and noticed some people got banned, idk what's up with that.

If you want to join the group on fb it's called NorthCarolitas.

>> No.8168536

>What usually happens at meets?
>How long do they last?
>Any comms in the SoCal/LA/Fullerton areas?
>If so, how are they?
>Is it alright for me if I ask to join a comm even though I don't dress up?
>Is it ok to attend meets just to socialize and take pictures?

>> No.8168622

>>8168392
I'm in the comm too, and I think the membership gets purged of inactive users every so often. I highly doubt anyone was banned, NC is a pretty drama free comm for the most part. There was a survey a week ago that you had to complete to confirm you were an active member of the community, so chances are that the people who were taken out of the group just failed to fill it out.

>> No.8168625

>>8168536
Lolita meet ups are for lolitas, it tend to be awkward having people there who arent part of the fashion join. Especially with creepers, most comms wont be into randoms joining when they have no intention of getting into it. Nor would it be interesting to someone who isnt in the fashion to join because that is the common interest that makes the group function. While obviously topics go beyond the dresses, it is the focus of the meet.

>> No.8168663

>>8168536
>>8168625
Alright cool. Honestly I just wanted to do portraiture since I appreciate the fashion enough to want to take pictures of it.

>> No.8168671

>>8168663
Protip: Go to a convention. You'll find lolitas there to take pictures of and it will be less awkward and strange. As long as you're not a creeper. Bonus: Go to a larger convention with a brand presence (AP or BTSSB) or lolita guest or tea party. At tiny cons you might find some huge itas and few to no good lolitas especially if you live in the middle of nowhere.

>> No.8168805

>>8168663
If you're not creepy, dress nice (like classy nice), and do quality photography, the LA Lolitas will be pretty accepting even if you don't wear Lolita. Are you a guy or girl?

>> No.8168831

>>8168671
>convention
>be press
>waltz in as part of "press duties"

>> No.8168852

>>8168622

Right, I remember that. I just thought it was weird that those girls weren't part of the group anymore considering that they have posted pretty frequently in the group prior to the surveys.

>> No.8168866

>>8168671
Yeah, I was at PMX and was taking a few pictures. I went to the fashion show.

>>8168805
I'm a guy. I don't think I'm creepy. I'm just into cosplay photography, but I also like lolita enough to want to take pictures of it too. That's basically it. I just figured I could get some shots if I went to meets.

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>>8157807
There's nothing wrong with voldie, you guys just love to hate.

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>>8160813

>> No.8169168

>>8149857
My comm is about 3 hours away from me in the capital of my state, so I created a mini-comm within my town so the other lolitas around me can all get together and do things so we don't have to travel
>haven't done anything yet because of school and work
>have had to kick people out of my mini comm for drama/offensive posts
>shit.png

>> No.8169676

>>8169126
I saw this too. I think I will miss Milkyfawn. I'm confused about how she went to Japan a recently and then almost immediately quits. Oh well, best of luck to her. But its also kinda weird how its like "she also wants to do other things with with her life..." I'm like, errr thats what most lolitas do anyways? The two aren't mutually exclusive. But what ever I guess.

>> No.8169691

>>8158848
>Why does Voldie want to smell brand from e-famous lolitas?
She doesn't. Voldie is the one telling her she's creepy.

>> No.8169729

>>8169676
Well, when some weirdo buys your dress and starts waving it around going "I have something that Milkyfawn once wore!!" it's probably time to go to ground for a bit. Some people just aren't comfortable with that and I wonder if others were taking it further and messaging her wanting to be super bestest friends or something equally weird.

>> No.8169734

>>8169168
What drama and what kind of offensive posts?

>> No.8169772

>>8169676
She quit lolita and now wears otome. Many otome brands do not ship outside of Japan. Makes sense that she would sell lots of lolita stuff to fund a trip and buy new clothes while she was at it.

As for "other things", I take that to be a polite way of saying that the blogging stuff was just out of control.

>> No.8169791

>>8166884
I fucking love Jorge.

>> No.8170061

>>8169734
She posted online how bad her life was because she had 'a retard for a brother', and I always told her that word bothered me, since my brother has learning disability
She also was confused at the fact that we have 2 male lolitas ('guys can't wear lolita, right?') And we also have a transitioning lolita, and she was flipping out ('what if he comes into the bathroom with me?' Even though they were a she now)
She's not even a proper lolita, she complains and wanted me to make her coords for her

>> No.8170140

>>8170061
you both sound retarded.

>> No.8171373

>>8169126
"like we always have done even without her" wow rude.

>> No.8171399

>>8171373
I didn't read that is rude. Just a statement.

>> No.8171402

>>8171373
>>8171399
Infliction is hard to tell online, it could've been either.

>> No.8171513

>>8171373
I don't think it would be rude, they're friends aren't they?
Unless they have something against her for not wanting to do videos anymore.

>> No.8171573

Just let me vent here, I don't see an immediate solution but I think with time it'll work out.

My comm is pretty spread out. There's two larger groups centered in different cities, and they're able to host meets big and small. My nearest group consists of five girls, including myself, and the five of us are still a bit spread out. 2 girls need transportation, and 4 of us work daily jobs, so we need some time to plan a meet.

So far I've suggested 3 events, multiple locations, I've posted this cafe or that, suggested dates... and nothing has come of it. Everything in a public location has been shot down, because this date doesn't work or this girl wants to stay inside or this girl has anxiety. One other girl has suggested an event, but besides that it's just been me.

It's really disheartening. The one that's consistently had issues with events suggested we try a home crafting meet, or a boardgame/DnD meet. And I would love to attend a small meet like that, but I am not comfortable hosting. I've only met 2 of the 5, the other 3 are complete strangers. She herself has not offered to host, and so it's left hanging in the air.

I'm hoping we all meet at a bigger event and pin down something that works.

>> No.8171761

>>8171573
>muh anxiety
Why is this person, and others who have this issue, in this fashion is beyond me. Do these people seriously just wear their clothes in their bedroom? So much for muh self expression and empowering clothing style.
Going in a group should be at least a good way to ensure some security. The world is bigger and scarier then hanging out in a group of similar minded people.

Either way I'm sorry you're having a hard time with this. It's great wearing it on your own and all, but there's magic in going in a group. Maybe focus on arranging a time with the girls who work's hours, since those are most uniform. Those without cars can figure themselves out. They will, once they realise what they're missing out on.