Feels Thread

[Anonymous No.7766706]

Talk about your feels, seagulls. What's on your mind?

Try to keep it /cgl/ related.

[Anonymous No.7766709]

>tfw about to buy first lolita dress
>feel slightly weird that I'm looking at burando already
>feel like I have to stick to noob dresses because I'm not worthy

[Anonymous No.7766714]

I'm really feeling out of it. Like, in general. I have no motivation to do any cosplays and I have no motivation to go to cons right now. I've lost my friends and I'm too messed up to try and maintain any new friendships.

Feels pretty bad, man.

[Anonymous No.7766723]

>>7766709
The sooner you buy the burando the better
every dollar you spend on "noob" shit will haunt you

[Anonymous No.7766754]

>>7766706
>tfw meet in two weeks
>twf coord probably won't be done in time

[Anonymous No.7766760]

>>7766709
I started out on MM and VM right off the bat because I researched the living hell out of all the available styles and brands at the time. Better to know what quality is like so you have a solid reference point when you need to judge future buys.

(Not to say that brands are perfect, but generally the quality control, cuts and material tend to be better since it's their primary focus and they've also got reputations to maintain. The fact that Bodyline has many different divisions means that they don't have the resources to focus their expertise in one area, and thus there's a higher probability that the product will suffer as a result.)

tl;dr don't feel bad, celebrate!

[Anonymous No.7766761]

>>7766706
>tfw meet in two weeks
>tfw coord probably won't be done in time

[Anonymous No.7766772]

big shake up happening in my comm towards the end of this year regarding members, mods and making exclusive meets.
Maybe a new comm altogether, either way I'm excited about the change

[Anonymous No.7766785]

>>7766772
Change, shit
I guess change is good for any of us
Whatever it take for any of y'all seagulls to get up out the hood
Shit, I'm wit cha, I ain't mad at cha
Got nuttin but love for ya, do your thing boy

[Anonymous No.7766790]

>tfw no /cgl/ gf to cosplay with

>tfw not fit enough to cosplay as angry marines

[Anonymous No.7766795]

>>7766760
Me too. I started off buying from brand and never stopped. Never touched a body line item.

[Anonymous No.7766798]

>>7766790
>tfw fit AND have a lolita gf I met on cgl who I'm getting into cosplay

feels good man

[Anonymous No.7766812]

devout christian bf of 3 years no-sex anon again. i last posted mentioning wishing my boyfriend would give me loli presents or something (i remember being told someone is jealous their boyfriend doesn't gift at all, and someone opening up a throwaway email in case i needed to chat)

he gave me something nice for our anniversary, without me asking, so that was a big surprise for me, but it wasn't a romantic present either, not that i'm nitpicking i received a present but just saying it didn't make me feel like i gotta fall in love with him again.

but even with that i've come to the conclusion that he's pretty much just like a best friend and not a boyfriend anymore.

he's also friendles,s famililess, super lonely, i think i will wait for some day where i know he won't be alone, and on the day before that, raise the matter to him. i don't know if we'll just break up on the spot or if he'll say something like he'll try to change himself or if i should give a chance or something. he also falls sick a lot, and it just feels shit inappropriate to raise the matter when he's ill.

we are each other's first gf/bf. i think i am crazy. also i don't really know how to do a break-up but i hope i won't spag all over like an idiot. my plan is to speak my mind and explain i dont think we have much of a future and i'm starting a new life new college in a few weeks.

i've come to realise i've stopped feeling romantic love for him around a year ago. and if it really boils down to continuing our relationship, i know that we don't have any future (different religious/moral/family/values kinda stuff).

due to complicated life stuff and education system restrictions it is highly likely that one year after my enrollment he will come in as a freshman of the same major....but maybe i should worry about that later.

and i guess rambling here does help, so thank you fellow seagulls. may all your dream dresses come true.

[Anonymous No.7766830]

>down with a terrible fever
>con soon
>need to work on cosplay but have zero motivation because sickness
>stress making me feel even sicker

I'm not going to make it.

[Anonymous No.7766837]

>>7766798
>tfw fit

Post stats fgt

[Anonymous No.7766841]

Phasing out of /cgl/ and into /fa/

Went from one somewhat unattainable fashion style to one that's definitely unattainable because Rick Owens is thousands of dollars tier and I'm in college.

Wanna kill la kill myself.

[Anonymous No.7766843]

>>7766812
Honestly, if you've made up your mind that the relationship needs to change/end, you should talk to him now. By waiting until you think it's the best time you are letting both him and you miss out on possible opportunities to meet new people and make the most of your lives. Be clear that you still care and will be friends and will be there for him, but if you know the relationship is done, then don't deceive him by keeping up the charade that it's there.

[Anonymous No.7766845]

>>7766812
Good luck anon! It sounds like you're making the completely right decision by breaking up with him. Just go with the flow and explain what you're feeling to him and I'm sure everything will go fine.

[Anonymous No.7766849]

>establish fuck buddy relationship at con
>maintain flirtatious texting between hook ups (live an hour apart)
>think we've got an agreement
>"anon I know you're coming over but I'm seeing someone"
>those feels when you realize how lonely you are suddenly
>those feels when you realize you kinda liked a fuck buddy more than you should
>those feels when you realize that no amount of shared hobbies (cosplay, animu, games) will make up for distance

fuck

[Anonymous No.7766853]

There are so many things I WANT. Feel like Veruca Salt.
TFW wish list will continue to grow and never shrink.

[Anonymous No.7766856]

>tfw cosplay event on same weekend as fighting game tournament I really want to go to
Depending on which day the events are on, I'll either have a weekend full of fun or a single horribly rushed day.

[Anonymous No.7766863]

>>7766830
Take care, anon!

[Anonymous No.7766873]

>>7766841
/fa/ looks awful. esp rick owens. fuck that shit. /fa/ knows nothing. i mean, do you even look at their self post/meetup threads?

[Anonymous No.7766874]

>>7766798
thank you for this webm, hilarious.

> filename

[Anonymous No.7766878]

>tfw you keep forgetting to look at how much fabric you need for lolita stuff
>lolita dress 3-5yards for op
>buy normal fag patterns/fabric instead
>haven't quite found normal fag style

Ughhh. I just want stuff that fits and looks good.

[Anonymous No.7766879]

>>7766873
Rick Owens can look great if you don't overdo it /fa/ style. I've always dressed monochrome, I'm just shifting from Gothic Lolita to grown-up Goth, I guess.

I can't afford to wear 'costume-y' clothes anymore. As much as I love MMM, it's not good for everyday wear.

[Anonymous No.7766891]

>>7766841
>tfw I got bored of /fa/ and so came to /cgl/ to reignite my passion for j-fashion

If you're in college but still want designer, look on rakuten and y! rather than eBay (not to say that eBay won't have decent pieces but there are more fakes.) Diffusion lines are also not that bad, and most of the designer sites (netaporter, ssense, farfetch) will go up to 50-70% off during their sales (mid year and end of year). Some sites like totokaelo will have sales when they bring in a new collection, so you just have to keep an eye out.

Also, rick owens a shit. His work has honestly become more terrible these past few years, so unless you are willing to hunt down OG RO then I recommend just staying with designers who also have the draped aesthetic like helmut and all saints.

[Anonymous No.7766893]

>>7766891
I do like Helmut better than Rick. Thanks for the tips, Anon. Sadly no Uta pic because mobile.

[Anonymous No.7766901]

I'm actually realizing my 13 years old self dream
by being (kind of) an emofag fakeboi with pretty colored hair,cute monster/pokemon/... hoodies,skinny jeans and nice shoes to go with.
(my hair are in ok condition,not hiding eyes)
My mother never allowed me to have my own speshul style before so now i'm pursuing my weaboo dreams in a way,but thank god i'm more "mature" now so no racoon makeup,cutting myself bullshit,...
i regret nothing.

[Anonymous No.7766903]

>>7766893
>Sadly no Uta

[Anonymous No.7766930]

>trying to buy this
http://www.cosmates.jp/shop/product_info.php?currency=JPY&language=en&cPath=360_388&products_id=33658&search_in_description=1
>found it here for cheaper
http://www.aliexpress.com/item/Adults-Sexy-Costume-Uniform-Cosplay-Kigurumi-Costumes-for-Women-Halloween-Fkigurumi-Pajamas/1700152086.html?
>the sizing tho
>it's right between the two sizes cosmates offer
>message seller to clarify with cosmates link
>completely ignored my question
>they tell me to send my measurements

Now if I do, they might say "yes it fits" even if it doesn't to close a sale.

[Anonymous No.7766962]

i sewed two panels of my bodice together wrong sides together so i had to unpick 3 overlapping lines of zigzag stitching. i dont know how i didnt tear a million holes in the fabric but i managed to unpick them and sew them together the right way.

but still, all that wasted thread...

[Anonymous No.7766966]

>>7766830
If you've got stuff you need to hand-stitch/embellish you could always do that whilst you're lying in bed recovering. Hell, you could even put a plastic sheet and newspaper on your bed and work on some simple props.

[Anonymous No.7766970]

>>7766962
That seriously fucking sucks yo, I do that all the time when I sew and the frustration from it is crazy.

[Anonymous No.7766978]

>>7766970
let us bond through our combined frustration at forgetting how fucking seams work. it's even worse because im usually pretty good with things like seams, but im in the midst of the final fortnight rush and things are getting hectic, and hectic = mistakes. thankfully the fabric is two layers of jersey knit so its pretty forgiving if you treat it right.

[Anonymous No.7766998]

Going to my first meet in 2ish weeks.

I'm working on getting over my social anxiety, as I just can't afford to be medicated because psychiatrists with a waiting list less than 6 months long don't accept my insurance.
WHATEVER.

So, I'm braving a 2 hour drive to get to this meet in a car with no AC.

Christ, I hope look okay when I get there....
I'l'll probably get nervous sweats + driving in a warm car.
Maybe I should drive with paper towels all under my arms.
SHIT I DONT KNOW.

I guess deep down I know it will be fine when I get there, but the initial wait and drive to get there is getting me freaked out.

>trying not to be a pussy
>need to get over this anxiety by putting myself out there
>but fuuuuuuck.. you know?

[Anonymous No.7767008]

>see my dream dress from a seller than sniped it from me nearly a year ago
>LM's fault because it went down when I was about to make a bid
>message the seller asking if I can pay at the end of the week if I pay BIN price
>SELLER RESERVES DRESS FOR ME!!!
>realize that I may have to scrape up a lot to make this work
>also see it's a longer dress than I expected
>may not even look good on me
>shit
>shiiiiiiit

[Anonymous No.7767013]

>>7766930
Say you're buying it as a gift, you don't have thir measurements but you need bust and waist to be x size.

[Anonymous No.7767016]

>>7766998
Maybe only wear half the outfit while you're driving? Like take off your socks, wear your dress open like a skirt and put on the blouse/dress properly when you arrive (but before you leave your car obviously).

>>7767013
Not that anon but I don't see how that would make a difference. If a seller is going to be like "yeah yeah it'll fit this size is fine" because they just want you to buy it they won't care who it's for or what anon posts as her desired measurements.

[Anonymous No.7767020]

>>7766930
If you are in between two sizes, they might as well tell you which ones fits because you'll end up buying one or the other anyway.

[Anonymous No.7767021]

>>7766709
No, as a noob you should follow "rurus", which point you more to brand anyway. No one needs to "earn" brand. The things some may look down upon are not "earning lolita" as in trying to make a speshul snowflake brand coord without first following basic coord rules until you know enough to start bending them, or not "earning money" but our trust fund is your business. If you earn your own money for it in some way and take con/crit, no one but idiots will harsh you for starting with brand.

Besides, if you ever decide to purchase one of the nicer bodyline dresses later on just to have some daily throw-it-in-the-wash dresses, you'll know which ones those are (different for every person/style but there are like 10 okay ones) and not buy the ita crap, because you'll recognize what makes quality, not just novelty.

>captcha
Eastnoob que

[Anonymous No.7767023]

>>7767021
*your trust fund, and that's not assuming you have one, saying in general, your money, your business.

[Anonymous No.7767027]

>>7767013
Like the other anon said, it's kind of pointless.. But I tried anyway. -crossing fingers for a straightforward answer-

>>7767020
I'm trying to buy off of Aliexpress, which has only one size-- which is between the two sizes from cosmates! There's only three available sizes (I checked Taobao), and they claim that the length is 80cm, so the AE one is either a S or M (or even L). I need a S. Very confusing.

[Anonymous No.7767028]

>>7766998
A lot of people change when they arrive at meetups, for whatever reason. I used to live in a city where almost everyone uses public transportation and that was like the #1 reason for not wearing lolita while traveling to the meet. But having no AC in the car is another totally legit reason. You don't have to tell anyone it's because of nervous sweats.

[Anonymous No.7767053]

>>7767016
>>7767028

Yeah, I may just end up wearing comfy driving clothes and changing at a rest stop reasonably close to my destination.

It almost seems like more a hassle, but I suppose that's the price you pay for looking cute.
Hrrgg.

[Anonymous No.7767075]

>Stumbles upon perfect shoes on LM
>Love at first sight
>I can show you the world, shining shimmering splendid
>Shoes are two sizes too small

[Anonymous No.7767099]

>>7766709
Start from burando, because it's worth it. Taobao and bodyline are good for blouses, shoes, socks/tights, bags, etc but the dress better be burando, you will never regret it. I like some Bodyline stuff, but their dresses except some rare items aren't really worth, but it's amazing for blouses and shoes. I suggest to replace Bodyline blouses with brand or good quality Taobao if you are on budget and cannot buy everything brand for now.
>>7766812
I think really you could have a good friendship with him rather than a romantic relationship. I'm sure you can find a more fitting bf for you!Good luck with your college life, maybe you can meet new interesting boys here.
>>7766879
Uta, my animu husbando!Well i admit Gothic Lolita isn't also for me so i understand what you mean, because it's a very elegant style and if done not OTT look really plain or boring. So buying affordable gothic clothing for everyday use is a better choice than fill your wardrobe with burando gothic lolita.

[Anonymous No.7767108]

>be last night
>dream dress on auction on lacemarket
>heart pounding so hard that it's literally jumping out of my mouth
>i'm gonna snipe this bitch and win this bitch
>put in ridiculous bid, no one is gonna beat me for sure
>15 seconds left, alright lets do this
>WAIT CONFIRMATION STEPS
>WAIT 3 WHOLE CONFIRMATIONS STEPS?
>SHIT SHIT SHIT INTERNET LOAD FASTER
>NO ONE WARNED ME ABOUT THIS
>your bid was placed
>you won the auction
>probably went through like 1 second before auction ended

lolita is so stressful. i was worried that my heart would burst.

in other news, RRL coming in the mail for me! There was a huge shitstorm on BST about how the seller put it on auction
>tfw someone trying to defend me for being the first to reply in thread, conflicted feels b/c grateful but at the same time don't want to be accused of being that anon

[Anonymous No.7767110]

>shopping for shoes
>see some cute high-heels
>nagging images of people on cgl calling everything over 1-inch heel height a "stripper heel,"
>feel like I can't even wear normalfag clothing because I keep getting reminded of cgl insults
>mfw I realize I care to much about anons on 4chan

[Anonymous No.7767115]

>>7767108
Oops, meant to say on payment plan, not in the mail.

>>7767110
As long as the heels are thick and not like, stiletto thin I think they'll be fine.

[Anonymous No.7767117]

>>7767075
I understand that too well.

[Anonymous No.7767124]

>>7767115
I should have clarified that I straight up worry about normalfag shoes for non-lolita purposes, which is why it's such a dumb thing for me to worry about

but I also worry about wearing shoes like pic related in lolita because they're from dsw

I just overthink shoes way too much because of tier 1 insults and I'm dissapointed in myself

[Anonymous No.7767128]

>>7767124
I have these shoes and they are glorious.

[Anonymous No.7767131]

>>7767124
Where can I buy that

[Anonymous No.7767134]

>>7767128
they're only $60 I'm so tempted

[Anonymous No.7767136]

>>7767131
http://www.dsw.com/shoe/dolce+by+mojo+moxy+victoria+bootie?prodId=247934&activeCats=cat10006,cat20173

[Anonymous No.7767138]

>>7767134
if you are looking at Modcloth I have a 20% off coupon "trvyrqnh3w8ecduw" but it's one use so first anon to grab it and use it gets it.

[Anonymous No.7767139]

>>7767138
http://www.modcloth.com/shop/shoes-boots/powerful-protagonist-bootie-in-black

[Anonymous No.7767145]

>>7767128
Do they run small?

[Anonymous No.7767147]

>struggling to get several elastic-waisted petticoats onto my mannequin
>hear a crack
>mfw

>>7767110
>>7767124
Anon those shoes are adorable. I've also never seen anyone complain about high heels being "stripper heels" unless they're like 6" stiletto platform sandals so I think you're just being silly.

[Anonymous No.7767148]

>>7767128
Are they comfortable enough to wear for a few hours?

[Anonymous No.7767151]

>went to Boston to visit bf's uncle
>bf was unbearable throughout the whole ride
>five hours of bitching
>I cried once it got to much
>he got the hint
>lovely ride for the last two hours or so

>three days later
>come back to his house
>bf starts complaining about everything again
>his mom asks how it went
>bitches her out about how it was a waste of time, money, etc
>we go to the basement to be alone
>we have bowling planned with friends on Thursday
>tabletop on Saturday
>also work the rest of the week
>I talk about maybe cancelling tabletop + bowling
>he says probably bowling since "of the way you act"
>he's referring to my immature spaghetti rage during skeeball in Boston
>silence
>I felt like Marie when Hank paralyzed his legs
>he gets up and goes to the kitchen
>I mechanically put my shoes on
>I wheel my suitcase to the bus stop
>I can't stand to be near him
>he notices and calls out to me from the door
>he calls me on the phone, texts me
>I ignore him
>eventually I give in and we drove to my house
>we talked a little bit
>once again, the blame was placed on me
>I say nothing, I'm too angry
>I won't say sorry
>I will not agree to everything being my fault ever again just to end our problems

So yeah. Biggest fight we ever had. I'm sure if he reads this, he'll say that I'm so stupid to post this on /cgl/, why can't I just talk to him. Because as always I'll end up saying, "I was just an idiot, I'm sorry" or "I just need to stop being so dumb with my emotions, I'm sorry." And he'll be the good guy. As always.

I won't break up with him, I know you guys are so gung-ho about that. It's just so infuriating sometimes that he doesn't get it.

Excuse the huge post.

[Anonymous No.7767155]

>>7767139
oop, I snagged this, thanks anon. I had been eyeing some tights that I really wanted.

[Anonymous No.7767157]

>>7767147
What does the crack mean, anon?
Just curious. Sometimes I hear it.

[Anonymous No.7767173]

>>7767157
Different anon. It means a thread broke.

[Anonymous No.7767184]

>>7767157
It can also mean the elastic is worn out

[Anonymous No.7767202]

>>7767151
>Because as always I'll end up saying, "I was just an idiot, I'm sorry" or "I just need to stop being so dumb with my emotions, I'm sorry." And he'll be the good guy. As always.

I feel this feel so much.
Broke up with him now, but he was actually abusive so I had to.
I don't know how to help you because I was dumb as shit too but do your best anon.

[Anonymous No.7767207]

I guess this is /cgl/ related
I trashed my Prince Komali cosplay because I found out my wife who was going to be cosplaying Medli (For an event next year) has been cheating for about 3 months, and now I'm filing for divorce.

[Anonymous No.7767217]

>>7767202
Thanks, anon. Right now I'm in limbo because neither of us would talk on Skype (we use Skype instead of text). So Saturday will be awful.

[Anonymous No.7767221]

>>7767157
>>7767173
>>7767184
I'm pretty sure it was actually the mannequin stand that cracked. I really need to be more gentle with this thing.

>>7767151
You both sound pretty immature, anon. But it's really shitty of him to place the blame on you and your emotions even though he sounds like an overly emotional pissbaby himself.

[Anonymous No.7767223]

>>7767207
>2014
>marriage

[Anonymous No.7767227]

>>7767223
Since '08

[Anonymous No.7767231]

>>7767151
Abusive people try to make it look like it's your fault, anon.

[Anonymous No.7767241]

>>7767151
Just from what you wrote here, he seems really abusive. Abusive people always say or make it seem like your fault.
You say you don't want to break up with him, but this "argument" isn't normal for arguments. And since this isn't the first time this happened where you ended up saying that it's your fault, it would be in your best interest to get away and cut him out of your life.

[Anonymous No.7767246]

>>7767231
Dump his pathetic ass. Date a real man, not a whimp. Fuck his guilt trips.
Hey, asshole. If youre reading this, fuck you. Youre as replaceable as a doormat, dont forget that.

[Anonymous No.7767252]

>>7767246
Anon, I like your bluntness. OP anon definitely needs a real man.

[Anonymous No.7767258]

>>7767241
>>7767231
>>7767221

He doesn't even try to place it on me. Mostly it's me not arguing about his "why would you do this" or I just take it myself so we can move on. So when I didn't agree or say sorry, this is where we are now. I don't know how to bring this up or even talk to him about this.

[Anonymous No.7767273]

>>7767258
In that case, it sounds like you're enabling his behavior. You need to stand your ground. If he always gets his way or if you always cave in, he'll always act like this.

[Anonymous No.7767278]

Glorious day /cgl/, I said it in passing to my friend that if he wants my huge extra CRT he could have it, and he totally came by and took it.

Now I finally have enough space in my room for that hobby table I've been waiting to get.

[Anonymous No.7767280]

>>7767273
I realize that now. I guess I was so upset then because it suddenly dawned on me of how fucked up it was that I was just going to excuse his pissiness and say that he's right to berate me.

[Anonymous No.7767284]

>>7767258
You sound like me when I was dealing with my dad during my teenage years.

If you want to make it better between you two, you'll need to learn how to deal with them, and not the other way around because they're not going to change.

You've also got to be willing to suffer and struggle for a few more years in trying to make progress.

>>7767280
Now you're getting it.
Honestly a sweet thing like you is too good for someone like that, like, you really don't deserve that treatment.
Or rather, no one deserves that kind of treatment.

[Anonymous No.7767288]

>>7767284
Thank you, I feel much better now that my thoughts aren't jumbled.
I'm going to message him right now to talk, and hopefully I'll be able to express my feelings without shortcuts.

[Anonymous No.7767291]

>>7767288
You go girl,
if he doesn't know what he's missing in you, just make him know by leaving his sorry ass.
Your Nee-san's got your back.

[Anonymous No.7767299]

>>7767280
That's good. It'll be tough to deal with him, but you can do it. It will take time, but hang in there. :) Good luck with that talk too.

[Anonymous No.7767310]

>go to anime themed get together
>wear toned down lolita
>FFS it was AAtP's Rose Ornament (JSK 2 version)
>cosplay contest happens
>"Why aren't you in the cosplay contest?"
>uh, I'm not cosplaying. This is how I normally dress. It's lolita.
>"So you're not cosplaying?" *insert weird look here*
>or "I thought cosplay and lolita were the same?"
>strangest trip ever

>be sick all week
>can barely eat; hoping I'll lose a few pounds
>maybe fit into my precious burando a bit better
>seems like this virus/whathaveyou is making me bloat
>tfw I look 6 months pregnant and can barely fit into my old clothes

[Anonymous No.7767317]

>mfw depression made me gain 10lbs
I want to cry. I feel so fat and disgusting I want to be kinda underweight to feel kawaii and fragile again

[Anonymous No.7767327]

>>7767317
it takes me 3 months to gain 10 lbs. check your privilege.

[Anonymous No.7767332]

>chick dressed in lolita in one of my classes this year
>she spends the entire time trying to get this guys attention
>guy is 6'4 with a deep pink V, and rolled white tight jeanshorts, very athletic looking with designer sunglasses
>keeps touching his arms and laughing at everything he says, super obvious she is being desperate and wants to date/fuck him
>mfw she almost cries when he tells her he is gay and wont date her

every fucking time women
every fucking time

[Anonymous No.7767333]

>>7767327
>"check your privilege
kek
I have depression,anxiety,schyzophrenia and I'm a bisexual genderqueer otherkin asian girl
Bow before me.

[Anonymous No.7767344]

>>7767327
>>7767333
my sides

[Anonymous No.7767373]

>peruse photo album of comm's latest meetup in some rich girl's parents garden
>tfw itas everywhere wearing your dream dresses and looking like shit

[Anonymous No.7767387]

For the past year I've been working as a seamstress for bridal alterations. I hate it, it's not even remotely close to what I want to do, so I've been hunting for a job in my actual field for two years with zero luck. My mom is hounding me to go to grad school, my grandmother guilt trips me for not being around more, and I haven't sewn anything for my personal enjoyment in months. I have all the material I need for my next few cosplays, but even when I have free time, I'm so burnt out I can't be bothered to start anything.

[Anonymous No.7767446]

>>7767310
I don't wear lolita in public for fear of those kinds of situations.
Are they a common occurrence. or is it just judgy bitches?

[Anonymous No.7767460]

>>7767332
Maybe if you were more athletic and dressed better you'd have qt lolita gfs flocking to you, too.

[Anonymous No.7767535]

Loneliness.

I have so many dreams, they all seem pointless when I think that I'll never have a family to share them.

26yo and counting.

[Anonymous No.7767635]

>>7767535
I feel u, sis. I'm 25 and lonely as fuck. I've always been, but before I had a dream of having a wonderful boyfriend, lots of friends, a life in general. But I'm realizing now that I'm wasting m y youth and I'm going to be alone for a long time. I'd love to have a boyfriend, but all the single men I meet turn out to be abusive, two-timing or generally immature. I'm very insecure about my looks and I'd love to dress and doll myself up every day, but it all seems pointless because I hate my face and figure. I try to be friendly and fun to people, but I'm always the extra wheel in every group of friends and the last resort. I'm the one you talk to when nobody else is online on skype. I'm the one who never gets invited to get togethers because I'm just not important to anyone. It's not like everyone hates me, it's just because they don't need me around. They don't really think about inviting me.

I've been so lonely and depressed for a long time I'm losing my ability to get out of bed in the mornings. I try to cry the anxiety away, but I can't. I don't have the money or the courage for therapy and meds. I just want a friend...

[Anonymous No.7767637]

>tfw very poor poorfag who refuses to buy replica
>tfw I browse /cgl/ everyday and am in love with loita
>tfw I only own a few pieces and most of them are second-hand and/or accessories
>tfw I will probably hit thirty before I piece together and acceptable wardrobe

[Anonymous No.7767640]

>tfw very poor poorfag who refuses to buy replica
>tfw I browse /cgl/ everyday and am in love with lolita
>tfw I only have a few pieces and most of them are second-hand and/or accessories
>tfw I will probably hit thirty before I manage to piece together an acceptable wardrobe

[Anonymous No.7767647]

>>7767535
>>7767635
Thanks for the motivation guys. Time to go outside while I'm still young.

[Anonymous No.7767654]

>>7767640
At least you own something, anon. I only can browse /cgl/ and save some spare money for now

>tfw I mistrust buying secondhand

[Anonymous No.7767659]

>>7767654
<3

It feels good to know I'm not the only one. I am saving up for my first burando dress or jsk.

[Anonymous No.7767676]

>got scammed about a pair of socks and tights
>didn't take that shit and made a claim on Paypal
>person didn't respond to claim so escalated to a dispute
>they never responded because they were chicken shit
>Paypal sides with me and refunds my money

Despite being sick, today has been a good day.

[Anonymous No.7767679]

>>7766863
Thank you!

>>7766966
Ahh, that's true, I might give doing some props a shot while bedridden... Thank you!

[Anonymous No.7767826]

I don't even have much of a suitable picture to pair with this because I rarely post anything positive
I work really hard on all my cosplays using out of the box thinking to get things looking right and spending time on making everything look professional. I finally got to wear my latest cosplay I stressed so much over and so many people came up to me asking how I made my skirt and complimenting the details. I focus too much on the drama, it really reminds me that it's all just people who enjoy making costumes and sharing the craft with other people.
I'm going to start going out of my way to make more people feel good about their hard work

[Anonymous No.7767907]

>Make a lolita meet up that I think will be really fun
>It's next weekend
>2 going, 4 maybe
>other meet ups in the group have 3 or 4 times as many
>mfw

It's really bumming me out, I almost feel like cancelling it.

[Anonymous No.7767913]

>>7766903
I came here to make it up to you.

[Anonymous No.7767915]

>>7767907
Could be a few things. Are you new? Is the meet something people have expressed interest in? Did you give enough time for people to request off work or plan to be there? Is there something else going on that day? There could be a lot of reasons people can't make it.

[Anonymous No.7767918]

I always get so nervous before cutting fabric because I'm afraid of messing it up. I need to get over it.

On a more positive note, I am so happy I found a key piece to an upcoming costume AND it was on sale! Then went to the beauty supply store and got supplies cheaper than what's online.

[Anonymous No.7767926]

>>7767915
I'm semi new, Only been to 2 or 3 meets but joined at the beginning of the year. People did express interest in the event (it's an exhibit at an art gallery) I made the event over a month ago so there's plenty of time. There's nothing but a group order going on that day in the group. Only 2 people who have declined have given a reason why they can't go. I mean I know it's probably my fault no one is coming but it still bums me out a lot.

[Anonymous No.7767927]

I have an interview tomorrow and I'm freaking out about everything. My sis is being awesome and going through questions with me tonight, but I'm still worrying about clothes, references, myself, just all of it.

A job is good, but every time this happens, and it keeps happening, when I start going to work. Like every little thing I do is always judged. I feel really dumb thinking like that, and I know I shouldn't, but that's never stopped them before.

[Anonymous No.7767938]

>>7767926
A month for me isn't enough time. I don't know age range in your comm, but if they're full time students or work full time like I do sometimes I need a good month in advance notice to put in PTO or a work request. Not to mention classes are starting back up again so many people might be going back to school and pressed for time or cash.

[Anonymous No.7767941]

>>7767926
have a fun time. be a good hostess, make sure most all needs are taken care of (like reserving tables at a restaurant) and make sure people are having fun. that's one of the biggest ways to get higher attendance at your future meets.

[Anonymous No.7767943]

>>7767938
Good point. In my head I got my hopes up; I was imagining this huge fun meet up with lots of people and it would be awesome. But the reality is sobering and a bit depressing.
I just wanted to get my feels out rather than dwelling on it and getting depressed.

[Anonymous No.7767947]

>>7767927
I have one on Thursday, you'll do great at yours! Good luck!

[Anonymous No.7767966]

>>7767151
>I felt like Marie when Hank paralyzed his legs
Thanks for the spoiler, anon...

[Anonymous No.7768040]

>>7767947
Thank you! Good luck to you as well!

BF came home, I vented, we had dinner. Feeling a bit better. Still worrying about clothes, but I made myself deal with a reference, at least.

I am really hoping I get it. I can cosplay again, see friends at cons, that I can't see otherwise cause they're so far away, etc. It would really help to be able to things at all!

[Anonymous No.7768059]

I don't know if this makes any sense and it's pretty unrelated to /cgl/ things. Sorry, I just want to vent.
>be friends with this guy from /r9k/ on Skype
>am very introverted and don't really like skype but try to get on because he constantly freaks the fuck out and thinks I'm "ignoring" him if I don't (even though I've explained a billion times I just don't like talking that much and it's nothing personal)
>he constantly complains that I'm "ignoring" him too or assumes I'm somehow mad at him if I don't have a long, detailed response to everything he says or if I don't respond immediately to his messages
>the first time, he thought I "blocked" him because I wasn't online for a few months (???)
>he also constantly wants me to get in calls with him and/or show my face, I really don't like it but he keeps trying to get me to do it and calls me at random
>one day, my microphone and speakers somehow fucked up after using Skype and I kept having to reboot right after using the program if I wanted to hear shit
>end up uninstalling the entire thing and a certain automatic update to get my sound to work again
>don't want to risk fucking up my computer, so I just leave it for the past 2-3 months (in which time I have to stop being a NEET and have actual responsibilities and shit)
>today, just got a message on Tumblr
>"Hey anon, you should come on Skype (or unblock me) you've been ignoring me for a really long time. BTW I'm leaving forever so a proper goodbye would be nice. see you soon hopefully"
>get really fucking annoyed by this for some reason
>feels like he's trying to emotionally blackmail/manipulate me
I don't really know what to do, maybe I'm being irrational.

[Anonymous No.7768065]

>>7768059
Don't respond. Ignore him. Get on with your life.

I've known people like that and they don't grow out of it. They just latch onto new people when former "friends" no longer want to put up with their miserable asses.

[Anonymous No.7768069]

>>7768059
No anon, you're not being irrational, he's being an immature buttbaby and needs to stop being gross and trying to baww his way into your affections. Nuke him from orbit.

[Anonymous No.7768075]

I'm just now starting to take cosplay seriously now that I'm out of university, and I keep telling myself I don't want e-fame, that it would be nice to just have people who genuinely like my costumes follow my work but I don't need heaps of randos on my dick or anything, and I'd like to believe that about myself. But I can't help but feel a little frustrated when some of my more "cosplay fame" oriented friends neglect (possibly willfully) to follow me on various sites when I always follow or like them because they're my fucking friends, and when these people I know who, in all honesty, are not as good of costumers as I am getting heaps of attention because they're buying likes and constantly pimping themselves out. And it just seems so empty, having thousands of likes or followers but only a handful of likes or comments on each individual picture. I feel like cosplay has changed a lot since I started dabbling in it in high school (ten years ago), and I just sort of wish I had that same sense of community from people I'd consider my friends, where we all supported each other instead of stepping on each other for what little fleeting recognition there is to be achieved.

I dunno. Oldfag rambling, I apologize. I'm afraid I'm able to take cosplay more seriously at a time where my wants from the community don't match the majority's, and that makes me a little sad. But I'm going to do my best not to get sucked into that mindset and to bring the kind of positive, craftsmanship and genuine community-oriented attitude I want to see in my cosplay escapades.

[Anonymous No.7768083]

>>7768075
Don't feel bad, anon. I'm young and just starting and already hate that kind of thing. You just do you! And if your friends only use you for likes and whatnot, they're shitty friends.

[Anonymous No.7768094]

>want to go on guro/gore spree on tumblr
>move on to rl gore
>tag is empty
>mfw

also
>want to go on yearly a/w taobao shopping spree
>no autumn clothes up yet
>already fucking cold where I am so now I have nothing to wear

[Anonymous No.7768097]

>>7768059
god he is being weird, it's not you anon. tell him straight up that he is being fucking weird and clingy.

i would say ignore it, but he seems like the kind of person that will keep bugging you if you don't tell him straight up that he is being a problem.

[Anonymous No.7768099]

>>7768097
He also seems like the kind of person to turn accusatory and nasty when told he's being a problem. I'd say ignoring him is the better option. It sucks, because either way he'll find someone else to latch onto.

[Anonymous No.7768128]

>>7768059
He's from /r9k/ you can't really expect anything less. I don't have any advice other than to shrug it off and be firm. If you don't want to voice/video chat, tell him that you're not in the mood and keep declining. If he hasn't figured it out by now, he never will, so you're going to have ignore his pissy-ness.

[Anonymous No.7768144]

large size tall girl pissed off cause i cant find my size am 22 grrr

[Anonymous No.7768149]

>tfw you have a bunch of dresses and are lacking variety of blouses and accessories
>tfw almost everything you have is fall/winter appropriate
>tfw large feet so it'll take forever before I can get a variety of shoes to go with all of my dresses

doing a tb order now, but I feel it's still not enough.

[Cry Moar No.7768156]

>>7768144
custom sizes?
(also plus size thread: >>7759598)

[Anonymous No.7768173]

>Been lazy as fuck the last couple of years, gained a bit of weight, want to get in shape for Lolita and jfash but have scoliosis, limits what exercises I can do
>Fuck it I'm going to start running it can't be that hard
>Finally get around to buying some running shoes
>Going good for a week and a half, running almost everyday
>Go one day, suddenly knee pain
>Shit that hurts, forget about it, keep running
>Gets worse, take a break for a bit
>Go for run last night with bf, get about 20 metres
>Knee giving out, can't run at all, body failing me
>Try to run again but it hurts too much, have to walk home
I'm so angry because I have been so motivated to do this and my body just can't handle it, its so frustrating. I remember my doctor telling me not to run or anything but I didn't think it would fuck me up so bad, I'm worried I might have done some permenent damage to my knee because of this, I'm limping so hard. I'm going to have to get myself motivated to do Pilates now I guess.

[Anonymous No.7768191]

>Been working out and dieting.
>Can tell I'm getting slimmer.
>Bit upset that the number isn't going down that much.

I mean, I realize that I didn't have much muscle aside from in my legs so I'm probably gaining quite a bit of that, but it's disheartening. I'd like the number to go down quicker, too. I just want to look better in jfashion and cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7768196]

>>7767926
That's the standard response for new member hosted meets in my experience. Best thing to do is as >>7767941 advised, don't cancel it as you'll just appear as the flakey new girl.

[Cry Moar No.7768204]

>>7768094
Di you turn off the age restriction. I tried looking up lolita once and the tag was empty because I had adult content turned off.

[Anonymous No.7768209]

>>7768173
Try swimming

[Anonymous No.7768229]

>>7768209
Hey, thats not a bad idea, thanks anon!

[Anonymous No.7768231]

>>7768229
Don't feel discouraged if you can't swim much at first just stick with it

[Anonymous No.7768245]

>Went out a few days ago
>have on cute outfit
>not even lolita just kind hints of otome but not rly
>go to store and buy shit
>talking to cashier
>hears whispers and giggles
>k Im going to ignore this
>girl + her mom and boyfriend were behind me
>logo-tees and jeans for all of them
>Not rly whispering
>"she took like 3 candy bars"
>"omg what is that style even?"
>"if you don't like it i guess dont look at it"
>all gigglin and keep "whispering"
>not quiet at all
>I know I look cute as fuck
>whip my head to the side and make uncomfortable eye contact will all of them
>all suddenly interested in the floor
>wont look at me and suddenly become quiet
>pay and leave
>give candy bars to patient mohawk-sporting punk husband in the car who didnt want to come a fabric store anyhow
>tell him what happened
>we both start gigglin and drive away
>family comes out of the store as we pass
>husband hangs out the passenger side window because he's shameless
>"Awwww, hun" he says a little too loudly "we cant even be too mad. she's just a basic bitch."
>the startled, ashamed face on all of them as we peel out
>laugh all the way out of the lot, not even feeling bad

I'm docile as fuck and I usually take things too much to heart, but this was truly a joy to experience.

[Anonymous No.7768260]

>>7767446
This incident was odd to me because I'm surrounded by people who honesty think lolita is just a costume when they are self proclaimed otaku.

Most normal fags don't bother me. The ones who do ask in an ignorant manner if it's a costume or if there's a party somewhere, 99% of the time they're trashy as fuck or have teeth missing, so that helps with ignoring them lol

[Anonymous No.7768269]

>>7766998
It's ok girl. Just wear your lightest coord. Chiffon blouses help a lot, or short sleeves. (Pantyliners are a cheap way to absorb undersarms sweat and they will stick in place.) And perhaps a skirt would be cooler than jsk. Also, you can put on bloomers, petti, and socks in your car before you get out and go to the meet. Fairly simple maneuvers i think. :)
Stay hydrated as well. Preferrably cold water so nothing gets stained.
There are some all natural calming supplements you could take as well to help with anxiety. I hope all this helps. Just stay positive the best you can. I remember my first meet. I was terrified. But everybody was really nice and I had a great time time. You will too.

[Anonymous No.7768278]

>>7768231
Seconding this - I started swimming, thinking I was fairly in shape. I couldn't even make it two laps before resting the first day. A week of daily laps later, I could do 30, no problem. If you feel your stoke is bad, get a personal coach for the first couple days. It also gives you incentive to show up. Just call your local pools to ask what they offer - many have people who are willing to give private lessons, though it can help to say your looking to take your lifeguard certification soon and want to polish up.

[Anonymous No.7768280]

>>7768260
Ugh, I know how you feel, people who refer to themselves with any of those shitty labels are the worst.

One of my friends says they're an Otaku, and all they watch/read is one piece.

And yeah, don't worry about the normalfags, they're the kind of people that walk to regular ass people on the street and bug them over some stupid shit.

[Anonymous No.7768294]

>>7768245

>she's just a basic bitch

Comedy gold.

[Anonymous No.7768312]

>working at job i hate, few co workers in my dept like animu
>get demoted to another dept.
>new co workers are dumb normalfags
>managers and new co workers treat me like i'm stupid
>i know iam smarter than them but i take this shit daily.
>quit job cause i just cant take it anymore

were my actions justified? its just a retail job so i'm not too upset. but fuck i know i cant be the only one who deals with this.

[Anonymous No.7768321]

>>7768312
Really? You can only befriend people who aren't normalfags? The way you could've gotten them to stop treating you like your stupid is to actually try to befriend them and show you know what you're doing.

I think that's pretty stupid, imo. All my jobs were filled with normalfags. Gotta adapt, man.

[Anonymous No.7768380]

Ugh. I just walked into my roommate and her boyfriend cuddling on the couch as I warm up myself some dinner.

>tfw all roommates except me has a boyfriend
>tfw they practically live here
>tfw they smoke and I found cig ashes on my plant - a gift from my last boyfriend
>also, tired of being the third wheel or left out because no qt 3.14 bf

The guys are harmless, but really boring and kind of dumb with pleb taste in music. I just hate that they're always hanging around here and trying to engage in small talk with me. Being an introvert sucks for that kind of thing. I fucking hate small talk. I also have this bad feeling of pretending to be ok with being a long-term single - like I'd end up with a buttload of money to buy shit like lolita, but be terribly lonely. I also have a fear of being in a boring relationship with someone I can't engage in a conversation with, but I stay just to not feel alone.

I dunno. It's just shitty that I like spending time in solitude, but I tend to feel alone when with others like that.

On a better end here, I can't wait to start looking for a big-kid job and taking my class in sewing (intermediate - toward the end of the semester, I believe we'll be modifying and making patterns), and for the weather to get cooler so I can start wearing lolita more comfortably again.

[Anonymous No.7768381]

>>7768245
buy your husband a beer on my behalf

[Anonymous No.7768394]

>>7768173
That's how I fucked my right knee, anon. Hope yours heals fast. You have to start doing it 2 or 3 times per week and increase distance, frequency and time slowly.

[Anonymous No.7768405]

>>7768321
This is the truth. I had to learn the hard way that you can't just keep quitting jobs when you don't have anything in common with your coworkers. Just be fucking polite and ask them about their day and shit. You don't have to be best friends with them. It's a job you go to for money, not summer camp.

[Anonymous No.7768415]

>>7768405
The sooner you learn this the better: you are not your job. For the vast majority of us, a job is simply a means to get money, health benefits, etc. Your job, your coworkers, your title, etc does not define who you are.

If you're lucky enough to have a job you love and you feel it defines you, that's wonderful. Something like retail? Just be professional, friendly, and polite. Collect your paycheck/benefits and outside of work, carry on with your actual friends, hobbies, etc.

[Anonymous No.7768419]

>money's been tight lately, mostly my fault due to spending above my means in the past
>commit to saving, still look at sales but find that with discipline I have the ability to say "no" to unnecessary buys fairly easily
>paychecks have been smaller lately but at least I'm building a bit more cash
>and then
>see my dream dress being sold on TUMBLR of all places
>can't help it, message seller asking for a price and she says she wants to sell it for about 150$ less than what I someday expected to pay
>about 100$ less than I see even the ugly colorways go for
>totally undamaged
>never going to find a deal like this again, will never not kick myself if I let this go
>ask the seller if a laid-back sort of payment plan is OK thinking she would be wary, but she is totally fine with it
>so I guess I'm buying it

I don't know whether to be thrilled that I'm getting a dream dress for such a great deal without breaking myself again, or a little uneasy that I'm back to spending. I haven't bought a main piece in several months, so I've been doing pretty well, but my bank account is still suffering, and I've still got a trip planned for the end of next month I've still got to put aside for... at this rate I can afford it, but like hell will I be able to afford to buy anything nice on my trip, which I was originally planning on. But I suppose I'll be fine...

[Anonymous No.7768423]

>>7768312
This sounds like it's more on you - I've had coworkers call me strange/weird/whatever up and down the block but no one's ever treated me like I was stupid. You can't really come off as dismissive and abrasive and not expect to be treated likewise.

[Anonymous No.7768424]

>>7768419
Congrats anon, it sucks having to hold back spending on a trip though. Maybe try selling stuff to make up for it?

[Anonymous No.7768427]

>tfw first EVA foam prop
>looks good, needs to be sanded
>dremel and sand to hell
>still really rough
what do?

[Anonymous No.7768428]

>>7768059
You're not being irrational because he's the one being irrational.

Someone that clingy and dependent must not be a very well adjusted person. Do not feel guilty cutting ties with this type of person because cutting ties with them can only be of benefit.

[Anonymous No.7768429]

>>7768427
Maybe you were a bit rough with it? Try coating it with something harder like a sandable primer or sealant before going at it again.

[Anonymous No.7768434]

>>7768380
So meet some people?

Come on, you're a girl, it shouldn't be TOO hard to snag a guy.

[Anonymous No.7768436]

>>7768429
Yeah, that is the case. The dremel is old as fuck too. I'll coat it and finish off with a soft dremel head, on the lowest setting. Thanks.

[Anonymous No.7768438]

>>7768419
You could just, not go on the trip and save that trip cash.

[Anonymous No.7768441]

>>7768434
If she's looking for a person who will invest themselves emotionally with her in the relationship and not just a fuckbuddy, then maybe it will be.

[Anonymous No.7768456]

>>7768441
The world is fucked beyond belief in every single aspect Anon, and I don't know what to say.

I can't really do much beyond being an abstract string of advice on /cgl/.
I can relate to her problem, sure, but I don't really know what to say other than
>you're here and that means you're not dead

[Anonymous No.7768528]

>tfw when photoshoot this weekend
>threw my blades out, shoes died from heat, minor things
>hoping the pile on the floor just fixes itself

Everytime. Work just sucks motivation out of me during the week; come my days off however I'm a machine. Motivation sucks like that.

Also
>new friends in cosplay want to hang out more outside and do normie things
>Always talking
>Actually having friends who get upset when we can't meet up cause of my hours
>tfw I've been searching for a group of friends like this since high school

Feels good man

[Anonymous No.7768534]

>tfw when seeing an archived post of someone angrily ranting about how much they hate you, and all of the things they hate about you are actually really skewed misconceptions

Too bad the thread's 404'd, I wanted to laugh at them directly.

[Anonymous No.7768535]

>mfw I want a cute room
>I want plush carpet and colors and decorations and posters
>books and lamps and a table and a desk
>a nice closet dedicated to my jfash, some dress forms to display dresses
>but
>live with bf in a small room
>our bed takes up 50% of our floor space
>closet has no doors, have to put brand in a hall closet to keep safe
>ugly cement flooring
>almost all furniture and deco in room is bf's, no space for anything relating to my tastes
>even if there was, it's not even worth it
>mfw I will be old by the time I get my dream room

[Anonymous No.7768538]

>>7768535
Oh and just in case anyone goes on about how I live in subpar conditions and still buy brand, uh. My house is perfectly livable, just ugly. And it's a rental I got for a really good deal, probably because it's ugly. So... nty.

[Anonymous No.7768561]

>>7768528
Tell me your secrets Seagull.

Classes are starting up again, and all my friends have moved away and I need to make friends again.

[Anonymous No.7768566]

>>7768535
Are you me, anon? It's even worse because we have both our computers in there and he's a pig

[Anonymous No.7768577]

>>7768535
You need to move into a house where you have your own room and space. I used to live in one room with my bf and it was literal bell. Now we have a different house and we have our own rooms, best decision ever. I have my space for all my cute shit and a place to hang out and he has his boring stagnant bedroom. Its a win/win. Everyone needs their own personal space or they will go nuts and rightfully so. Maybe talk to your bf about it.

[Anonymous No.7768581]

>>7768577
>literal bell
I meant hell, stupid phone

[Anonymous No.7768593]

>>7768577
How do you and your bf get along not sharing a room? I share one with my gf and I love it, we get to cuddle and fuck every night

[Anonymous No.7768673]

I just had a poop leak in lolita.
I was walking in a cute outfit. Just walking,everything is fine,and then,while walking peacefully,I just feel something leaking out of my bum all of a sudden,sblortch. I get incredibly anxious, I was going to be on my period and I wore a pad waiting for it to happen today but this came from my butt,I was in a park so I retreated behind some big bushes to look. Fucking LIQUID poop on my panties. I begin to have a panic attack and clean my butt with some tissues I had in my purse but still,poop everywhere,I came home as quickly as possible and jumped into the shower,throw the panties away.
It was so embarassing...I wanted to die

[Anonymous No.7768681]

>>7768673

[Anonymous No.7768682]

>>7768681
Exactly my reaction when I saw my panties and felt the disgusting sensation of sticky liquid around my bum area

[Anonymous No.7768689]

>>7768673
Did you have ass sex?

[Anonymous No.7768699]

>>7768321
i should have elaborated. i know normalfags but i think in this case they sensed i was smart and they got scared. 9/10 when i needed backup they were no where to be seen or were so reluctant.
>needs to put returns back on shelves
>not too busy try and do some and run back to register when customer
>gets done over time
>stupid chola bitch
>"let me do go backs you do them too slow
>mfw where the fuck were you

This shit happened daily.

>customer complains want 40 in store cred for damaged whatever
>tell her to talk to the manager
>manager:"anon, dont ever rat me out to a customer again"
>???????

i'm sorry iam ranting but this shit is ridiculous. I stayed till closing working on customer orders without getting paid cause i didnt want to get fired. like fuck this shit i'm out.

[Anonymous No.7768703]

>>7768689
I-I'm still a ass virgin anon

[Anonymous No.7768709]

>>7768703
*an
my bad

[Anonymous No.7768712]

>>7768593
Very well actually. He sleeps in my bedroom 6/7 days out of the week usually anyway, unless he works breakfast shift (he's a chef) and we watch movies, play games etc in my room. He won't admit it but i think he likes being in my room more, it's more cozy and homely, he has pretty much nothing in his bedroom besides a bed and his desk with pc. We are both introverts so we need time to ourselves sometimes. It's really hard to have that when you share your bedroom with someone else. My bedroom to me is like a sanctuary, somewhere i feel safe and very comfortable and has everything i need and want while being aesthetically pleasing as it is where i spend 90% of my time, while my bf has the opposite view and his room is purely for sleeping and pc gaming. We live together so we don't need to spend every waking moment together, that gets really annoying after a while. I have been with my bf for about 3 and a half years and this works for us personally, you have to communicate for things to work of course, not everyone is the same so talking about things and coming to a mutual agreement is best.

[Anonymous No.7768720]

>>7768712
This is how my boyfriend and I function. Sort of. We have a shared bedroom, but the two guest rooms have been turned into our own "studies". Mine is full of lolita and sewing shit, girlie manga and Sailor Moon paraphernalia. My computer is in the shared living space, as the sewing equipment takes up the majority of the room. His room has his computer and all his books from uni/PhD/work writings, as well as posters/memorabilia of things from before we moved in together. Our shared bedroom is the most sparse of the three, with just our bed, two night tables with lamps, and a blanket chest at the foot of the bed.

But yeah. Sometimes, you need a personal (physical) space in a relationship, because you spend so much time together otherwise.

[Anonymous No.7768728]

>>7767913
Thank you kindly anon.

[Anonymous No.7768835]

>Be a lolita
>Go to local streetpass meet, decide to just go in normalfag clothes because of the warm weather
>Floral knee length dress similar to pic related, cardigan and some flats
>Local itaweeb shows up
>"Lol anon, you do know that just because that dress is knee length doesn't mean it's lolita, right?"

[Anonymous No.7768854]

>>7768835
I hope you seriously smacked that bitch.

[Anonymous No.7768904]

>>7768854
Just responded with
>"Well it's a good thing I didn't intend it to be"
In a fake-cheerful voice, she fucked off back to her weeaboo clan.

[Anonymous No.7768958]

>>7768204
I actually had it turned on, thanks!

[Anonymous No.7769038]

> Update my fb sales album with some generic cosplay items and j-fashion.
> Facebook friends shitpost "hurr so funny" comments every damn time
> "Hurr will it fit me?"
> "You should wear this to uni/work!"
> "Why is your bf letting you sell this?!" (regarding a knee length maid outfit)

I'm trying to sell these and it creates a bad impression for potential buyers if they see this dumb shit and I have to trawl through all the comments deleting them.

[Anonymous No.7769342]

>>7768673
Don't worry, there's still a huge community for diaper fetishes.

[Anonymous No.7769355]

>>7769038
Why not hide it for certain people, assuming you don't have a lot of them? Create a group with all the normies and you can make it so it's hidden from that group, if I remember correctly.

[Anonymous No.7769366]

>tfw grandpa died

[Anonymous No.7769369]

>>7766709
I wish I bourght brand instead of that shitty bodyline dress. I lost money on it anyway, since I sold it.

[Anonymous No.7769370]

>>7768441
Yeah I'm looking for a meaningful relationship. I'm heading toward the end of my undergrad and the last thing I need is another short and casual fling.

[Anonymous No.7769374]

>>7769366
I'm sorry anon. If only we could teleport and I'd give you a hug.

[Anonymous No.7769375]

>>7769370
So, you're a christmas cake?

[Anonymous No.7769384]

>>7769374
Thanks anon. Teleporting needs to happen.

[Anonymous No.7769403]

>>7769370
>>7767635

>>7767535

we warned you about it, get with a guy when youre 22-23 should be the golden rule.

Need help finding one? pick a guy in a poorly made cosplay from an anime of similar taste to yours, especially that is in a all guy group, guys do this for support when they are all single just like we do.

worked for me, I even asked him why he was in a group all the time and the othe guys said the same thing

[Anonymous No.7769413]

>>7769375
>woman under 25 has sex and relationships
>SLUT WHORE DAMAGED GOODS
>woman over 25 is single and celibate
>TOO OLD CHRISTMAS CAKE NOBODY WANTS YOU

[Anonymous No.7769414]

>tfw roommate and cosplay bro become FwB
>he becomes increasingly clingy and starts sleeping in my bed, taking showers and baths with me and inviting himself into my room whenever
>it was weird at first but I'm warming up to it
>we're doing a couple cosplay together
>not sure how to feel
>not sure if he's got some feels for me or not
what do?

[Anonymous No.7769421]

>>7769414
He has feels for you anon.

[Anonymous No.7769422]

> buy a wig
> costume I've been wanting to make for a long time now
> was cheap and stock pictures looked good, seller had good feedback
> wait paciently for it

Fast foward 100 days

> come home from college
> think wig got lost somewhere at customs and I would never see it
> lady at building gate calls me and give me a package
> holy-shit.jpg
> infinite happyness

living in a 3rd world country sucks, it took exactly 100 days to get the wig.
But it is weird how having to wait so long for something makes me so happy when I get it / makes me value my stuff much more.

[Anonymous No.7769428]

>>7769413
Jesus granny, calm your clam cruster.
I meant it in an endearing way since I think older women obsessed with marriage are actually really cute.

I never implied you were either of those, I just asked if you were Christmas Cake.

[Anonymous No.7769437]

>>7769414
>fucking your roommate

don't shit where you sleep

roommates 101

[Anonymous No.7769439]

>>7769414
surprised youre not taking the d as you type this honestly

[Anonymous No.7769449]

>>7769428
>omg why would you be upset I only insulted you calm down crazy bitch
I'm not the person you were replying to, I'm actually 22 and in long-term relationship already. It just pisses me off how much of a woman's "value" in society depends on her sexuality and relationships, as well as how hypocritical and contradictory this shit can get. Like there's no way to do it "right", there's always some asshole with a derogatory comment about how you're a failure and should feel about the path your life took.

[Anonymous No.7769452]

>>7769449
When did I say it's bad for women to have sex a bunch?

If a girl wants to fuck, let em fuck.
If they don't, then let em don't.

This isn't rocket surgery you moron.

[Anonymous No.7769460]

>>7769413
I like christmas cake, but only when its moe, if youre a leglocker then guys will run like roaches when the lights come on
capcha
ripen ereducj

[Anonymous No.7769477]

>>7769460
>leg locker
All I can think of is something like https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5hdCGbw8Qbc

I don't necessarily want a relationship like this, but I do want to experiment with a relationship like this.
Like, I know I'm submissive and fearful enough that in a situation like that I'd just silently cry and try to mutter
>I love you
or something like that.

[Anonymous No.7769493]

>>7769477
NOOOOO MAKE IT STTTOP!
Thats exactly what happened to me for my whole highschool years and 3 years after. I had enough of her "Im going to kill myself if you leave" bullshit aswell.

leglockers are girls who tell the guy they can but it in raw if they are in missionary and righ before he pulls out , locks her legs around him and forces him to cum inside multiple times

[Anonymous No.7769494]

>>7768712
>>7768720

Same, we share a master and then have separate offices and I have a canopy trundle bed to sleep in occasionally (if one of us is restless, working late, etc). Mine is a sweet lolita dreamland, and he's pretty Bear Grylls 101, but he's always coming in there, trying not to break things. I'm not sure if it is cozy, smells nice, or he just wants to be around me in my comfort zone (we hang out in his office too), but I made him his own spot in there, a huge papasan chair with a soft fleece throw, with no plushies to contend with.

To stay on thread: my feels
>heard the news about the reddit thread about princess syndrome
>apparently many friends are in similar situations
>worried bf has gotten in over head with dating a lolita, the novelty has worn off and it is too weird for him
>worried bf doesn't want to spend time around me anymore
>worried no one likes me and I am fat and ugly anyway
>dress up to feel better, put on brave face, go to work
>come home after long day of work kicking my ass to tumblr some pics and finally relax, maybe have a good self pitying cry for cathartic release
>bf comes home after equally frustrating day
>comes straight up to my room, knocks, comes in for a kiss
>full OTT sweet, slightly embarrassed (I dress and leave for work while he is still half asleep)
"You look cute, babe! Hang out with me downstairs later?"
>manage a baffled "okay"
>dafuq is wrong with me, am I just irrationally sad and angry? Life seems okay.
>find pill pack, missed one from yesterday, silly woman
>double up, tell bf about it and have a good laugh.
>mfw

[Anonymous No.7769495]

>>7769493
That's kind of hot actually.

[Anonymous No.7769497]

>>7769494
>find pill pack, missed one from yesterday
he should run away while he still can

[Anonymous No.7769523]

>>7769495
not when theyre doing it to stick you with a kid

[Anonymous No.7769538]

>>7769497
Did you maybe miss this? You don't trick and tell.
>double up, tell bf about it and have a good laugh.

[Anonymous No.7769546]

>>7769538
It's an illusion anon, a trick is something a whore does for money .. or cocaine.

[Anonymous No.7769550]

>>7769538
no I got it, I can guess his reaction.

[Anonymous No.7769565]

>>7767151
>I cried because my bf wasn't in a good mood

It's a good thing I'm gay. I don't know if I could handle someone so insecure and emotional. Are all women this bad?

[Anonymous No.7769584]

>>7769565

[Anonymous No.7769589]

>>7769584
>someone doesn't agree with our hugbox mentality
>there's no way he could be serious!

[Anonymous No.7769598]

>>7769589
>sweeping generalizations
>ttly not trolling you guys it's just my opinion!

[Anonymous No.7769600]

>>7769598
>generalizations

What?

[Anonymous No.7769628]

not cgl related but I don't know where else to say this and I need to get it off my chest
I'm extremely depressed and lately I've been feeling really suicidal, but my parents are forcing me to join the military in a few months so everyone's advising me to lie to everyone about my mental health
I know I need help but now I can't get it and I'm afraid I'm gonna kill myself
I can't explain it to my parents it just falls on deaf ears
I don't know what to do. I feel myself getting worse and there's nothing I can do about it

[Anonymous No.7769638]

>>7769628
>our child is mentally ill
>let's put them into a situation where other peoples lives are at risk

Some real solid parents you got there bud.

[Anonymous No.7769639]

>tfw your lolita idol likes your photos on instagram

[Anonymous No.7769646]

>tfw my lolita idol likes my photos on instagram

[Anonymous No.7769647]

>>7769628
Are you 17 or 18? If you're 18 it sounds like you need to get the hell out of your house in any way possible, your parents are sending a suicidal kid into a combat situation, they sound like assholes.

Are your parents also pressuring you to lie about your mental health when enlisting?

[Anonymous No.7769672]

>>7769647
I just turned 19 a day or so ago. I don't have the money/smarts/talent for college, I mean I found one I wanted to go to ages ago when I was desperately looking for a way out but for some reason I wasn't able to go, which is convenient for my parents who really REALLY want me to join the navy (so it's not like I'll be in a combat situation) because they were both in, apparently loved it, and assume I'll have just as much fun.
They, along with the recruiter dude advised me to shut up about my mental health, lie and say that I've never seen a psychiatrist or taking medication etc.

[Anonymous No.7769677]

>>7769628
If you don't want to go to the military, screw whatever your parents want. If you actually want to go to the military, try to get better first.
I am in a similar situation myself (I have always been really suicidal and my parents forced me to study for the job with the biggest suicide rate of all) and I think any job which pressures you like that will make things become unbearable

[Anonymous No.7769678]

>>7769672
Navy isn't as worst-case scenario as I thought, but it's still a gamble, especially if your mental health isn't in great shape. From what I've heard it might actually help or it might suck incredibly hard (and recruiters kind of just say whatever they have to to get someone to join tbh).

I'm sorry I don't have more solid advice, anon, but I do hope you find a way out of it. Honestly if it was me I would find a not too shitty job and try to get an apartment with someone I knew before I let my parents shove me into the navy while suicidal, but that might not be what's best for you.

[Anonymous No.7769680]

>>7769678
Er, that is, ditching everything might not be what's best, I wouldn't advise anybody with mental illness go into the military untreated.

So basically what >>7769677 said.

[Anonymous No.7769693]

>>7769672
Fuck the Navy, go Air Force. You won't go months on end at sea stuck in a fucking bunk bed.

[Anonymous No.7769709]

why everything from Mary Magdalene is so perfect? I``m not a lolita and this brand makes me angry for some reason

[Anonymous No.7769717]

>>7767246

>fully aware men are as replaceable as doormats
>doesn't feel guilty about using that as an insult

This board sure is kooky.

[Anonymous No.7769720]

>I have a low quality fabric that is the right color
>and a high quality fabric that is the wrong color
>too broke for more fabric
>con in october
At least the armour looks sweet

[Anonymous No.7769723]

>>7766706
I wish I was courageous enough to cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7769753]

>>7769717
I know what you mean.
Browsing /cgl/ for me is like a continuous broadcast of people trying to put out fires with gasoline.

[Anonymous No.7769756]

>tfw photos from shoot came back and it's painfully obvious i rushed the last parts of my cosplay
>they're great photos bc the photographer is great but i can't stop seeing all the obvious flaws in my costume...

[Anonymous No.7769758]

>>7769756
I'm sure you look fine.

[Anonymous No.7769761]

>>7769717
I can have another you by tomorrow
So don't you ever for a second get to thinking you're irreplaceable

[Anonymous No.7769796]

>>7769761
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4X2AvfSTi6Q

[Anonymous No.7769820]

>>7768419
I know those feels, Anon-chan. It's the same with me. I spent myself into a hole a few months ago and then got hit with other massive unrelated bills, and I've been doing my best not to buy any more unnecessary stuff because I have a con coming up soon and I'd like to have my bills paid off and a good balance before I go. I even went as far as selling pieces of my wardrobe to try and boost back up my account, but one of the girls in my comm was selling my ultimate dream dress at a good price, so I sort of caved. I'm also on a laid back payment plan, but a part of me feels really bad about spending the money right now.

[Anonymous No.7769867]

>>7769761
No one is replaceable.

[Anonymous No.7769899]

>>7767332
>jovial elven lady
>elven lady
>lady

[Anonymous No.7769905]

>>7767654
Why would you mistrust buying secondhand? Buying secondhand is totally fine as long as the seller has some good feedback...

[Anonymous No.7769913]

>>7768059
Fuck, I just CANNOT deal with super clingy people like this.

Fucking forget the bitch. You don't need some big manbaby to babysit.

[Anonymous No.7770076]

>>7768441
Why do guys always say this?

Yeah, no shit it'd be super easy for me to go up to some pathetic guy and spread my fucking legs to get laid.

Why can't people assume, just for a moment, that I want a meaningful relationship with a guy who's sweet and is as emotionally invested in me as I am with him? That's much harder, and finding a guy with a nice personality who has similar interests and also has his fucking life in check is much harder than it seems.

I seriously don't care much about looks. I'm a computer science student, so it's not like we have really hot boys to pick from anyway. But all the boys I talk to are either fucking autistic in some way, immature, or just don't have similar interests as me, so why even try?

Honestly, it's probably because I'm still in university, so I'm expecting to meet more guys who have their life in order once I graduate and start working full time, but meeting new people and making friends gets harder as you get older.

[Anonymous No.7770083]

>>7770076
>it's probably because I'm still in university
Yes and no. If you're not socialising outside of your classes, you're going to have a hard time. Try to meet people through activities on campus pertaining to your interests, rather than just your studies.

Because when you get out and start working full time, it becomes even more difficult. Your pool in an office gets a lot smaller, because of generational gaps (among other things).

[Anonymous No.7770087]

>tfw no sewing buddy to help with fitting/pinning

[Anonymous No.7770095]

>>7769693
One of my cousins joined the Chair Force and got to go to California and Italy. He was a good for nothing before joining and wound up getting the time of his life and an Italian girlfriend.

[Anonymous No.7770107]

>>7770083
>almost done with college and ready to enter the workforce
>didn't make any friends in college
>it's only going to get worse

Great.

[Anonymous No.7770108]

>>7770083
Yeah, I've been trying to socialize a bit more outside of classes. I'm part of quite a few university clubs, but they're more focused around tech so I still see the same sort of people I see in my major.

Maybe this means I need to go to different clubs or meetings to meet potential relationship material, but I'm not sure what!

It also doesn't help that my desire is to find guys who are also into nerdy hobbies, because I don't think most guys are going to be fine with me dressing in lolita. I don't want someone who's passive aggressive about a hobby I'm super into. One of my exes hated it and was super passive aggressive to me, and it fucking sucked. I had to break up with him for that reason.

The only place to meet nerdy guys is at anime cons, but it's hard to find someone who lives near you, is single, and is actually super cool. And if you do, they're almost always taken!!!

[Anonymous No.7770114]

>>7769913
This. Fuck guys like this.

[Anonymous No.7770115]

>>7770107
Same with me, anon. I made like ONE new friend in my four years of college. My best friend is someone I met in high school, and we still talk, which is awesome. If I didn't have her, I'd definitely feel super lonely.

I'm just terrified because I'm most likely going to move away once I enter the work force so I don't be able to talk to her as much, and the fact that it's harder to make friends after college... It makes me sort of dread the future.

[Anonymous No.7770140]

>>7770076
>>7770108
But WHY do you want to get in a relationship?

[Anonymous No.7770141]

>>7770108
So here's the thing. Common interests are great early in a relationship because they give you something to talk about and something to do as you get to know one another. However, as the relationship goes on, you're going to veer away from one another little by little. This is not a bad thing, and it doesn't kill the relationship. It's not necessary to have 100% of your hobbies align with one another.

What you want to find is someone who shares a similar moral/ethical base, more than someone with similar hobbies. Someone who has similar political or religious views. Someone who has the same view on whether to have kids or not, etc. My partner and I started with a lot of common interests, but he's become gradually more interested in games and movies while I've become more interested in comics and lolita.

So basically, what I'm saying, is you can expand your search a bit if you're really after a relationship. Common hobbies help, but they're not always going to be the glue that binds.

[Anonymous No.7770144]

>>7770115
It's not like I was a total recluse, either. I went to clubs regularly for a while but didn't really click with anyone there. Same with living in the dormitories. I just want to have a cute significant other and not be alone and sad.

[Anonymous No.7770145]

>>7770140
Dude, who doesn't?
If you're at a stable point in life and know what you want, why wouldn't you?

[Anonymous No.7770173]

>>7770141
That's definitely true! I guess what I mean is I haven't really met anyone who has sparked an interest in me for me to actively pursue them or to bother keeping up with small talk. I guess I just haven't met anyone who's special or seems worth keeping.

I know that that initial spark dies away after a while, I'm familiar with the honeymoon phase (I was in an ldr for four years). It's just that after my last long relationship I just haven't found anyone else who sparks an interest in me.

I've been single for a long time now because I'd rather be single than put in the time, money, and effort to be in a relationship with someone who isn't that special to me, you know?

Maybe it's because I still miss my ex quite a bit, even though it's been a few years. It's not like we've talked or anything at all after our breakup, but I still think of him and cry on occasion. Sometimes I suspect I don't have interest in guys because I'm still caught up on my ex, and it makes me super frustrated.

[Anonymous No.7770194]

>>7770141
This anon's got it figured out.

[Anonymous No.7770203]

All sorts of good feels here.
>Full Time Job starting in two weeks, with spending money. No more eating rice for a week for a new dress.
>Shiny new apartment
>Found a good group of friends who don't blow me off or mooch. I don't have to worry about them doing stupid/dangerous things. Just stupid fun.
>Just got the best cat ever.
>Dream dress on the way

After the last two years its nice to have things going well. I hope this trend continues.

[Anonymous No.7770214]

>>7770203
That's wonderful anon

[Anonymous No.7770221]

>>7770145
Explain yourself further.
I have absolutely no interest in seeking out a relationship, and I honestly plan on dying alone.
I'm being real here man, I straight up don't have that feeling, I can't process it at all because it's so foreign to me.
So, like honestly could you explain why you're seeking a relationship?

[Anonymous No.7770223]

> Have a very clear idea of what sort of job I want to pursue for the very first time in my life
> Extremely passionate about it and surprisingly motivated towards achieving it
> Ex who I considered my soulmate breaks up with me out of the blue, sink into a depression
> Sit around doing nothing, days blur together
> Gain a small amount of weight, start hating myself for it
> Have no friends since they were all my ex's
> Find out old friend from high school who I was hoping to talk to again hates me, stopped talking to a mutual who hung out with me one time
> Making no progress in my life while everybody I know is traveling, starting uni, and renting their own places
> Have nothing left but this stupid dream, but no motivation to do anything other than browse /cgl/ and sleep
> Seriously consider killing myself if it doesn't turn out

[Anonymous No.7770252]

>>7770221
Oh I wasn't the original anon, I'm just in a similar boat.
Not everyone's like you, man.
I love being in love, really. It's nice having someone to shower in affection, someone who could make your day brighter by just being there.

[Anonymous No.7770262]

>tfw feet too big to ever wear brand socks/shoes
>tfw I will never have a 100% burando coord

[Anonymous No.7770265]

>>7770223
Don't kill yourself, throw yourself into your work as a distraction. You will have friends again. It took me over a year to make a friend once I moved over 1000 miles.

[Anonymous No.7770276]

>>7769413
>>7769375
I'm the anon who somehow sparked this stupid conversation.

Not really. Just because I've gone through many casual flings, doesn't mean that I've actually had a lot of sexual partners. I simply had many guys who were initially interested in getting close to me, but for some reason or other, they didn't want to stick around long. It's whatever. I'm just tired of falling for someone only to end up not talking again a month later.

>>7769403
Oh hey, I have a year left then.

>>7769452
Thank you.

>>7769477
I wish you luck.

>>7769628
What the serious fuck, man. No, I'm sure that if you speak with your recruitment officer, he or she would not allow you to join the military. The VA is already clogged and fucked up as is. Yes, if you are a male US citizen, you are required to enlist, but you should still talk to the recruiting officer.

[Anonymous No.7770279]

>>7770223
Hey man, I was in the exact same situation for around six months. Got dumped by someone i loved, lost my job, dropped out of school, gained a fuckton of weight, and got incredibly depressed, and was suicidal and got hospitalized. Shit sucks. All i did was sleep and browse fb and cgl.
All i can say is get some meds, apply for some jobs, DO SOMETHING. Once you're accomplishing something, no matter how small, it'll bring your mood up, and you'll feel alot better about yourself. Plus, if you start a new job you could make new friends, etc.
Focus on YOU, anon. You're worth it and you can do it. Work towards your dream, it'll take patience.

[Anonymous No.7770284]

Not cgl related, but I want to just let some feels out
My dog that I've had since elementary school (I just graduated from college) is dying. She hasn't been eating and she's deteriorated so much over the past two weeks alone that every morning I wake up and immediately go to see if she's still breathing. I know I should take her to get put down, I know she's in pain and she's suffering. But it's hard. I've had her for so long. At least ten years. I cry when animals die in movies, and I still cry when I think about my other dog we had to out down because of how bad his cancer had gotten. I'm glad I was there with him when he went, but I still think about those last few minutes and just break down.
And even though I know she's a dog and probably doesn't understand what's happening, I can't help but think she looks scared.
And I feel so guilty for feeling so sad. I've cried almost every night before going to sleep for the past few nights. I wasn't even this distraught when I thought my grandfather might be dying.
I know she's had a good, long life. She's had a field to run around in whenever she wants and a family that loves her. She's an old dog, and I've known this was coming. It's not like she would live forever, I know. And I know I'm being a baby, but I just can't help it. I know I'm gonna miss her so much

Sorry for ranting so much about non/cgl/ stuff. Have a pug in a costume to make up for it

[Anonymous No.7770288]

>>7770221
Because some people are biologically driven to pass their genes. Finding a long-term mate is usually part of the task. Some people don't and that's fine. Don't be a dick.

[Anonymous No.7770295]

>>7770223
Don't do it.
Seriously, just don't.

>>7770252
Yeah, I guess I can see that.
Biological response and all that.

My solitary nature IS pretty out there for reasons I'd rather not bore /cgl/ with.


>>7770276
Ah, so you're just heartbroken then?
Not from any one person in particular, just that being a hopeless romantic is in your nature.

That's sweet, hopefully you succeed sometime soon.

>>7770288
>Don't be a dick.
Sorry if I offended you.
I really am being serious here in that I feel nothing in terms of a desire to have a significant other.

[Anonymous No.7770297]

>>7770284
It'll be alright, anon. Don't be guilty for feeling sad. She was your best friend and it sucks seeing such a good creature who you were so used to seeing so active and all, go down. I'm sure what whatever you decide for her is for the best.

On a side note, I'm so unprepared to feel this way. I've known so many people who've lost dear pets. I've never grown up with a furry or feathery pet because my parents' house was too small and my dad is allergic to dogs. I want a dog when I get my first big-kid job and settle in an actual house.

[Anonymous No.7770307]

>>7768209
>>7768229
I also have scoliosis (have had surgery though so it's not a problem really anymore) and my doctors always said that swimming was the best for those with it. Good luck!

[Anonymous No.7770309]

>>7770284
I feel you, anon. I have a similar pet-friend but she's a cat. I've had her since I was five and I can't remember my life without her. We spend every day together and sleep beside each other every night. Thankfully she's still quite healthy despite her age, but my mom keeps pointing out things about her that make me uncomfortable.
> "Oh, she's been getting sick so much recently. I barely see her have an appetite."
> "She walks so slowly now, you can see she doesn't have her muscles anymore."
> "I think she's beginning to lose her memories, she's misbehaving like a kitten again!"
I know they can't be around forever, but it breaks my heart that one day she won't be with me anymore. I'm sure she has a few years left in her, but just thinking about it makes me tear up. I definitely wasn't prepared for these kinds of thoughts, I just always assumed she'd be around forever like my human family.
My best advice is to remember the good times you two had together, because I assure you that's all she thinks about. Dogs are sweet like that.

>catlita to keep things marginally on topic

[Anonymous No.7770438]

I'm going to dragon con with a few of my friends, and we are leaving next Thursday.

Two of them have complicated cosplay plans that probably won't get done for the con.

Friend A has a decent cosplay line up, but she isn't finished with one of her easier costumes and wants to add a super hard one. She could pull it off if she had the funds or the time, but she simply doesn't.

Friend B is in the middle of his project but spends his time playing video games or hanging out with friends. It was easier to look away a month ago but we are getting down to the wire here.

I've told them both that they may want to consider pushing back these cosplay plans or get series but I'm not sure if they are listening.

I just don't want the weekend to have a cloud of disappointment over it, ya know?

The only good news is I'm almost done with my cosplays, so I'll hopefully be able to help them out.


Sorry for the rant

Tl;Dr I am friends with people who have no sense of time

[Anonymous No.7770468]

>tfw learned the hard way that pastels look bad on me
>finally invested in jewel toned pieces
>auction browsing all day, err day
>find so many cute shit for "cheap"
>most everything I take a serious look at is in red
>all, but two dresses I have are in red
>all I want are navy pieces

why are navy pieces so hard to find and so damn expensive?

[Anonymous No.7770480]

>>7770468
Lost in sea blue?
R-series odette mansion?
Claudia?
Cosmic?
CDC?

I think pastels look bad on me and jewel tones suit me better too.
But damn I can't help getting my grubby hands on these kawaii pieces.

On the bright side, your wardrobe sounds like the kind of wardrobe where there's a million ways to coord one piece.
Am super jelly!

[Anonymous No.7770509]

>see a chick wearing lolita
>start chatting her up
>"do you go on /cgl/?"
>lol whats that

how do you respond? I usually just say it's cosplay and gothic lolita subforum

[Anonymous No.7770520]

>>7770509
Why would you even ask that as a question?

[Anonymous No.7770540]

>>7770520
Right?
If someone asked me that I would lie out my teeth about that

[Anonymous No.7770549]

>>7770540
>>7770520
Seriously, I ended up telling one of my close friends that I go on here and we dish about dramu together, but that's it.

[Anonymous No.7770588]

>>7770540
Honestly if someone asked me if I went on here I wouldn't lie, why would I? I don't understand why everyone is so freaked out about people finding out. I bet the girl does go on here and she just won't admit it, one of those "ohh cgl what is that??" "I would never go there omg!" I met another seagull by chance once and we had a laugh about this.

[Anonymous No.7770598]

>>7770549
>>7770588
My best friend and I often browse /cgl/ together, what's the problem with that ?

[Anonymous No.7770608]

>>7770480
I really want Meta's pintuck jsk in all colors, but especially in navy. It was years ago when Baby had a really good summer sale and they sold one of the pocket embroidered jsks in navy for half off. Now that I think about it, I also don't like that many navy pieces I run into don't have shirring.

>I can't help getting my grubby hands on these kawaii pieces.

Yeah, I still have trouble avoiding looking at cute sweet lolita prints. I used to dislike them, but now I see them as much easier to wear casually than "plain" ones that are embellished with mostly lace and ruffles. I really want more stuff I can wear casually.

>your wardrobe sounds like the kind of wardrobe where there's a million ways to coord one piece.

Kind of, except that reds are so fucking hard to match.

[Anonymous No.7770640]

>>7770598
It sounds like she's asking someone she doesn't know well a bit randomly if they go here, which is completely different

[Anonymous No.7770651]

>>7769628
anon, I made this exact mistake and ended up having a mental breakdown and was LUCKY that they kicked me out for failing a PT test after a full year in the military. Do NOT do it don't you dare sign your life away if you aren't 100 percent excited about the military life, they don't take care of mental issues like they claim I was severely mistreated and I was a reservist musician. Please learn from my mistakes I beg you.

[Anonymous No.7770705]

>>7770221
Wow, well aren't you a special snowflake.

[Anonymous No.7770710]

>>7770651
Second this. The first sign of suicidal tendencies and you'll be in mef hold on 24 hour watch and petty much kicked out as soon as you get in. They dont take mental illness or threats of self harm lightly or kindly. Not to mention the environment there is constantly stressful. The recruiter and meps should ask you want if you have a history of this stuff. Do yourself a favor and don't lie. This might be what your patents want but if they find out you had pre-existing conditions they could hold you accountable for all kinds of legal crap if they want to be assholes.

[Anonymous No.7770711]

>>7770710
Med hold. Uhg phone.

[Anonymous No.7770727]

I just went on a batshit spending spree. Dresses, skirts, socks, tights, shoes, bags, a new petti, accessories... But you know what, fuck it, I've had a hard 6 months or so and I deserve some nice things. My dad died, my cousin died, I'm dealing with a bunch of bullshit at work, I'm tired all the time. Fuck everything, I'm buying lolita and feeling pretty.

[Anonymous No.7770742]

>>7768561
Go to someone you know that knows EVERYONE and ask them to introduce you at events.

....it helped said friend already raved on about me beforehand. But definitely go for someone that knows a lot of people and commute that way!

[Anonymous No.7770748]

I don't have any friends into anime and cosplaying that live near me. In the past I've always been too poor to afford cosplay and going to conventions. I've been thinking of finally getting my first dream cosplay ever for my birthday and attending a convention. But I'm literally all alone and I don't know how to find anybody to go with, talk to anime/manga about, and how to really act/socialize at a convention. I may be new to cosplay but not anime/manga at all.

[Anonymous No.7770755]

I'm trying to make a friendship work after a gap between contact, but I've really changed a lot since we were last friends and we fight every time we talk, in person or text.

I grew a backbone,built up some self esteem, and started living for me instead of other people and it seems like she despises it. Now I'm questioning who she thought she was friends with in the first place. This person was really important to me, I don't really want to fight constantly, and we're not close enough anymore to really talk about anything anymore. I wonder if it's best to just let the friendship die and leave the past in the past.

also:
>cronic depression+high intensity cardio=mood swings through the roof
>not sad, but kinda depressed in general, I can rarely really root myself down in my body, feels like I'm just kinda floating around
>nowhere sells turtleneck underarmor this time of year
>can't get a job cause of full time class
>no money for fun things or really good food

[Anonymous No.7770820]

>>7770755
http://lmgtfy.com/?q=under+armour+turtleneck
I somehow feel all of your complaints can be resolved this easily.

>cronic depression+high intensity cardio=mood swings through the roof
Don't do high intensity workouts
>not sad, but kinda depressed in general, I can rarely really root myself down in my body, feels like I'm just kinda floating around
You sound like every student ever. Take a class or two you actually like.
>can't get a job cause of full time class
That is the lamest excuse. Plenty of full time students have part and full time jobs. You just need to manage you time and commit to little sleep.
>no money for fun things or really good food
Get a job and learn to cook properly.

Wow, that was easy. Oh and for the main one: clearly you don't get on any more. Things change. Throw them a line if you want (Hey we used to be so close, what's changed?) or just let them be.

[Anonymous No.7770835]

>>7770755
Why can't you get a job? Most college student work at least part-time in college with full classes, and I knew plenty of people working 40-60 hour weeks while taking full time classes (although id on't recommend this if it can be avoided, it often takes a toll on your coursework).

[Anonymous No.7770844]

>>7770820
Never claimed I had any real issues. just this and that bugging me.

>don't do high intensity workouts
No. I'd rather be mood swingy than depressed all the time.
>take classes you like
Signed up for good ones for fall term, but I really doubt my class choice is my issue.
>no excuses for no job
>>7770835
yeah, that's true. But classes are at odd times. usually noon to eight. I could try harder and I do need to.
>learn to cook
I've been cooking on my own since 13, I know how to cook propperly, but again, no money so splurge on the kinda fancy meat dishes I really like.

[Anonymous No.7770849]

>Meet up with a guy from 4chan after talking a lot online
>It goes really well and I have a great time
>Find him attractive and have a crush on him
>Having lots of sexual thoughts about him
>Too scared to make a move because we're really good as friends
>Don't want to risk him finding someone else as he's a really good catch

Are there any subtle ways I can show that I'm interested? I don't know how to flirt at all and I don't want to make things awkward if he isn't interested.

[Anonymous No.7770878]

>>7770849
Boys only put up with you if they want to fuck you. There's a 98% chance he feels the same way, just go for it!

[Anonymous No.7770892]

>>7770844
If you're like this all the time I can see why one wouldn't want to be your friend.

[Anonymous No.7770920]

Fucking flakes. You plan all summer for a group cosplay and then the person who initiated it drops out because of lack of motivation.

I'm that person this time. I lost my interest in cosplay in spring but it was reignited by an anime we all loved. I loved the character, the design, her personality fits me like a glove. But after a while I just didn't care. It's just not fun anymore. My motivation is like a rollercoaster - for one week it was super high and the next one I was telling everyone I'm quitting. Now I finally said that I'm out and I will not let myself be talked back into it.

I feel like shit and it's for a reason. Since I'm still going to the con I'll be making sushi for everyone I let down. I hope we can stay friends thru this, even though cosplay was what brought us together.

[Anonymous No.7770980]

>bidding two cute AP salopettes on yahoo japan
>both have bid wars until the last seconds
>i didnt won anything
>feels bad man
>issue is i cannot win any auction lately

[Anonymous No.7770993]

>>7766798
Fellow /fit/izen here, how did you get go about getting delicious mentely unstable /cgl/ gf.

Went to my first con few weeks ago, and they are all I can think about.

[Anonymous No.7770997]

>>7770993
local con thread. exchanged e-mails > met up at con > hit it off.

[Anonymous No.7771045]

>>7770997
Fuck my city is shit no con's at all,had to drive 6 hours to the last one.

[Anonymous No.7771055]

>used to draw as a hobby
>haven't for years
>starting to cook more
>chicken salad on wednesday
>pierogies and jammie dodgers for the rest of the week
>tfw life seems brighter and unboring

[Anonymous No.7771079]

the social justice people are terrifying. you can never win or be a worthwhile person in their eyes. I don't think I'll be posting to my Facebook or twitter for a while. but I'm always working (I'm gonna be late for typing this!!) so its just going to feel like I have no friends.

to keep it relevant to cgl, this makes me incredibly scared try the local comm even though they've been so nice to me. I can't be sure im not going to be considered less than perfectly social justice for them. ugh.

[Anonymous No.7771085]

This is only tangentially related to /cgl/, but I'm really stressed and need to talk to someone about it.
>be me, fairly healthy 21 year old anon
>always have bulging vein on foot, at least since 6th grade or so
>find out last autumn that it's a varicose vein, am told it's not a big deal
>wake up this morning
>brush other foot across bulge, kind of hurts
>touch it, it's hard as a rock and sore
>mfw i have a huge ass blood clot in my foot

I of course searched the internet, which told me it's either going to be fine or fucking kill me. Called my mom and she immediately began harping on me to go to the ER, spurring my anxiety.
>tfw poorfag with no insurance or money and unable to go to uni's health clinic atm because it's in between terms
I don't know what to do. I've just been sitting here crying for like half an hour, and my boyfriend's just being a dick.
I haven't been able to cosplay or do much of anything in the last six or so months due to money problems, and now I can't even go to the fucking clinic.

[Anonymous No.7771095]

>>7770997
>Those awful squats and lunges...

[Anonymous No.7771121]

>>7771085
Why don't you get a job?

[Anonymous No.7771213]

I've always had a complicated relationship with food, so there are times when I just refuse to eat. Especially when I'm not feeling to good mentally.
Or, like, it's more that I CAN'T. It's like something in my head is stopping me, it feels physically impossible to eat when I have a meal in front of me. I want to, but I feel sick just thinking about cooking. The few times I eat properly is when I'm out with friends.
It's not like I do much either, I can't really tell if I am in a slump or not (might be because of my antidepressants), but I recently lost my job so when I'm not looking for a new job I'm just sleeping or playing games. Which makes me less motivated to eat.
None of my friends have noticed anything, and I am scared to tell them. I should, because it's taking it's toll on my body now (I feel weak and sick a lot), but I don't want to risk triggering my friends that have suffered from an eating disorder and the ones that haven't don't know how to handle situations like this so they get upset or force feed me which makes me even more uncomfortable with food.
I always usually have a food-plan for when I get like this but I haven't been able to follow them this time, I feel like such a self-loathing loser

[Anonymous No.7771241]

>>7771121
I have a job. I'm a uni student full-time basically year round, and my job (~20-25 hrs/wk at just above minimum wage) only covers my rent and food. I had been slowly saving money for a cosplay I'd hoped to make for a con this autumn, but about five months ago my mom's dog (my childhood pet) had pretty serious health problems that required attention, which she couldn't afford. I gave her the money for the vet visit, and since then, I've had basically no spending money because my hours were slashed and my summer sublet is more expensive than my rent was during the normal school year.
Why does everyone on this board assume that if you don't have a lot of money you don't have a job?

[Anonymous No.7771263]

>>7770892
Ouch. But it's true. I'm kinda abrasive and lots of snippy comments. Came with the low bullshit tolerence. I think it'll get me places, but I don't know.

[Anonymous No.7771298]

>>7771241
Because most of the people on this board posting that live with mommy and daddy. You should seriously try to get medical attention though if it is a clot. Being in debt is better that being dead or having to pay the emergency medical expenses for having to call an ambulance, and being cared for in the hospital

[Anonymous No.7771325]

my mums just told me shes pregnant and im getting a sibling after 19 years

[Anonymous No.7771340]

>>7771298
I spoke with my bf's mother, who has worked in a specialty shoe shop (alongside a podiatrist's wife) for ten years or so, and she told me not to worry, that it sounds more like a cyst than a clot. We're going back to her house for Friday/Saturday, so I'm going to have her podiatrist friend look at it. If I need to go in, I will; I'm just terrified of accumulating debt on top my student loans.

[Anonymous No.7771524]

>bmi 16.6
>go to town
>somehow everyone is skinnier than me
>even middle-aged women are obviously thinner than me
>feel fucking miserable
>night ruined, can't get this shit out of my head
What the fuck. This happens every time and I'm fucking sick of it.

[Anonymous No.7771537]

New thread >>7771536

[Anonymous No.7771590]

>>7771524
Please don't you bmi to measure yourself, it is an extremely flawed system.

It does not account for muscle.

[Anonymous No.7773510]

>>7768245

I'm actually embarrassed for you and your husband, you handled that like a couple of losers. No sass, no attitude, no sharp reply, no confidence, took a chance at a drive by 'slightly too loud' half-hearted internet meme insult.

0/10

[Anonymous No.7774226]

>>7769038
Why are you friends with people like that?

[Anonymous No.7774722]

>>7768720
My husband and I do this too. We share the bedroom, but I moved all his clothes and stuff to the "study" so I wouldn't have to keep picking up his dirty clothes off the floor and I can keep all my manga, figurines and lolita in the bedroom without getting them dirty. The study has a very comfortable couch, big screen tv, consoles, his wardrobe, motorcycle figures posters etc. It works for the most part, (he still brings his clothes in the room sometimes) and I can still go to the study to watch tv and movies etc.