/cgl/ feels/vent thread

[Anonymous No.7616672]

[Anonymous No.7616729]

>>7616672
>tfw bf kept saying he would come over but he couldnt
>hes finally actually coming in a couple of days
>have been being a gross lazy piece of shit eating fucking chocolate all day for the past 2 weeks w/out him
>terrified i wont be able to fit into my burando anymore for when he visits
:(

[Anonymous No.7616744]

>Homeschooled. No prom/formal.
>Want to be the disney purincessu~ ;~;
>Comm is having a masquerade for Halloween.
>Boyfriend immediately agrees to cancel years-long tradition of ribs with his friends to come with me.
>I'm going to be a motherfucking unicorn.

I haven't been this excited in a long time!

On the flip side
>Pretty sure that the girl who is hosting/organizing hates me because I can't into social interaction.

[Anonymous No.7616745]

>>7616744
>Comm is having a masquerade for Halloween.
>Boyfriend immediately agrees to cancel years-long tradition of ribs with his friends to come with me.
>I'm going to be a motherfucking unicorn.
nigga its june

[Anonymous No.7616747]

>fat
>losing weight
>eating HEALTHY
>shorts are getting looser!
>have two days of shitty eating
>feel like shit
>the guilt

[Anonymous No.7616748]

>>7616745
I only hand make my stuff, and this dress is going to be hardcore frills.

>Don't judge me.

[Anonymous No.7616750]

>>7616747
As long as your doing better 80% of the time you're not going to duck yourself up it's okay anon.

[Anonymous No.7616753]

>>7616745
Sometimes it takes that long for comm members to get their shit together.

>Ordered kidsyoyo Halloween dress back in Feb
>finished payment plan on AatP witch hat
>Legwear, bag and all other accessories are good to go
>Plan all outfits months in advance

Why I can't I do this shit for assignments and cosplays?

[Anonymous No.7616756]

>Lost a ton of weight
>Still ugly

Hindsight is 20/20... I just have a really hideous body. In retrospect, I actually liked it how it was before. I was never overweight, just wanted to lose some of that extra fluff, but now...

[Anonymous No.7616757]

>>7616756
You could always hit the gym - iron out those imperfections. I really doubt your body is that hideous.

[Anonymous No.7616760]

>tfw one eye is always more difficult to get made up than the other
>contact lens won't go in
>debris gets under the lens, have to remove, clean and put it back in
>contact still won't go in easily
>get lenses in finally, start makeup
>blending not as smooth on that same eye
>colour not as saturated
>eyeliner thicker
>put on false eyelashes
>that eye's lashes are set too far in and don't line up

My right eye always looks so much worse than my left. I thought it was an unbalanced eyesight thing or a dominant hand thing, but my left eye's vision is better than my right and I'm right handed, so in theory, my right eye should look better than my left. But no. It always looks slightly derpy.

[Anonymous No.7616766]

>tfw just send email to taobaospree for babby's first taobao order

Finally, after months of lurking I did it. Not that it was very difficult... It's a very small order, but I hope everything goes well!

[Anonymous No.7616768]

>>7616756
post pics

[Anonymous No.7616772]

>>7616760
faces aren't 100% symmetrical, one side is usually a bit larger than the other and so are your eyes. it takes practice to balance out those differences, especially when you do bold makeup instead of just slapping on some concealer and mascara. keep practicing, anon-chan, if i can do it, you can, too!

[Anonymous No.7616774]

>join gaming group
>suddenly two attractive Asians are hitting on me
>both in my area
>always liked cute Asians, weeaboo prone to Asians so typical
>taken. of course, I would finally meet not one but TWO pretty boy Asians who want me after I'm taken
>one of them studying to become a doctor
>other one extremely respectful and into cute things/moe wants to be a tsundere's "pet" and make them feel loved
>both extremly res

stay away from me both of you
NOpe
NonoNO

want to adopt one? you can have them. one of them likes black chicks though. (doctor one)
these guys are like something out of a dating sim for girls too perfect

[Anonymous No.7616775]

>>7616774
>both extremely respectful
sorry bout the typo

[Anonymous No.7616776]

>>7616774
>both extremely respectful
>like they are out of a dating sim

sorry it cut that off

[Anonymous No.7616779]

>>7616774
>racemixing
into the oven it goes

[Anonymous No.7616781]

>>7616774
>>7616776

[Anonymous No.7616782]

>>7616672
>be me, 28 grill
>work as a janitor, but during the summer when school is out i work wherever doing extra shit like pulling out classroom shit and rewaxing floors
>got to work at the same school as last two summers
>two boys were hired instead of the two ladies who had done it the last two years
>Jay (20) and Sam (18)
>first day of work overhear jay talking about LoL
>decide to politely join convo and ask if they go to cons
>show my powerlevel
>goes good for a while
>first couple days are fantastic
cont.

[Anonymous No.7616787]

>>7616779
>>7616781
samefag? I'm for real.

[Anonymous No.7616789]

>>7616782
>Jay and sam are both super nice
>whatcouldgowrong.jpg
>the third day jay's work effort starts to slow
>find out he's not used to working, at all
>had no job experience, would just play on his pc until 5 am and not get up until 5pm
>complains that his feet hurt/he's tired/etc
>doesn't listen to the one other lady who is in charge
>gets sassy with her
>i have to put my foot down so he'll listen
>he's fine for a while but then anytime we talk he invades conversation
>i start talking with sam, Jay finds some way to jump in and go "What, what are you talking about" even though i'm not even talking to him
>Jay's not even working
>he's just sitting in a corner half the time talking to sam about games/LoL or w/e else he deems nerdy
>i have to constantly direct jay as to what he should be doing
>meanwhile, sam's doing fantastic and hasn't complained once
>jay just talks poor sam's ear off.
>sam starting to get irritated.
You know..i never thought i'd bump into someone like Jay but it happened.
cont.

[Anonymous No.7616795]

>>7616789
This is how one of my conversations with Jay went:
>Jay: So you watched E3 last night right?
>me: No...sorry unfortunately was busy
>Jay: With what? What's more important than E3?
>me: Ummm i had to actually babysit last night for a bit
>Jay: Ohhh then you watched E3 ?
>me: ..... No. Then i sewed.
>Jay: THEN you watched E3.
>me: Seriously dude, games aren't my life and i've got other shit to do other than watch E3.

I sort of understand jay since i had a time in my life where i was so absorbed in games but you can tell he has nothing else going on in his life. I just can't believe how invasive he is with conversation and how much direction he constantly needs. He's also trying to one up us all with his nerdy ness and make it seem like he's better than us. He tries to make us feel like we're inferior because we don't play games for 12+ hours like he does. Not putting up with that shit for long.

[Anonymous No.7616802]

>>7616774
>one of them likes black chicks
No fuck you this is too good

[Anonymous No.7616806]

>>7616802
I was making shrek jokes with him earlier saying he had layers like onion
and he said I had layers like cake.
lovely chocolate cake.

urghh take him before I'm unfaithful

[Anonymous No.7616810]

>>7616774

Did the doctor one take his boards yet? Could you ask what score he got?

[Anonymous No.7616814]

>>7616810
I can ask when he wakes up. I think he did actually.

[Anonymous No.7616818]

>>7616781
How is that bait at all?

[Anonymous No.7616829]

>>7616814

Oh sweet, thanks a lot mate.

>not a black chick

Still think it'll work out?

[Anonymous No.7616839]

>fatty-chan
>spent years being happy with being a uk18 with most weight in my chest and thighs
>Wore stretchy clothes and jeans until I went to university
>Started wearing cute skirts and shoes along with make up for the first time,
> fell in love with sweet and classic lolita.
>Dying to wear cute blouses and skirts and tights but nothing ever fits me with my massive tits and thighs.

I want to go on a diet but I've never done it before and I have awful self control. I dont even know where to start and every time I look on diet forums and boards I eel horribly overwhelmed...I want to start running but my hips and knees hurt like hell after a few days of it.

[Anonymous No.7616842]

>>7616672
>Find a gorgeous dress and fall in love
>Keep looking at the one picture I have of it on a mannequin
>Finally look for source/worn pictures
>It looks awful

[Anonymous No.7616844]

>>7616842
Oh no, which dress was it?

[Anonymous No.7616847]

>>7616839
your knees/hips hurt because you're fat and not used to running. Push through it, buy some proper shoes and run on surfaces like grass to help reduce impact to your knees.
/fit/ has a ton of diet tutorials and shit, but honestly the best way is to just eat LESS. If you're really fat the pounds will melt away from consistent running + not stuffing your gob 24/7, but after a certain point you'll have to watch your calories more carefully, make sure your diet is balanced, etc (which you should be doing anyway but you sound so weakwilled that you'll want to take baby steps or you'll be prone to just giving up entirely.)

[Anonymous No.7616848]

>>7616839

Eat less and healthier, fruits, veggies, drink plenty of water, watch your calorie intake. It should be under 1800, but look up how much someone of your height and weight should consume if you want to lose weight.
I don't think you need a special diet, you need to change your eating habits in long term.

Swimming is a good exercise for you - it's much better for your joints, and burns a lot of calories. It will be especially nice in summer with the open air swimming pools. Look for any swiming baths near you, go there 2 - 3 times a week. They may offer something like a member card / pre-paid entry coins or anything, so that you have a motivation to go because you already paid money.

Set goals. Once you reached them, reward yourself with a cute dress, blouse ecetera, so you can start to explore the fashion, your style, and it will be easier once you fit more pieces to determine what your style is and what you actually like. There's plenty of plus sized stuff around; once it's too big, you can easily sell it anyway.

Good luck Anon!

[Anonymous No.7616853]

>>7616844
Victorian Maiden Sister OP. I'm glad its so old that I'd never have been able to get it anyways now.

[Anonymous No.7616854]

>>7616829
who knows. I'm pretty sure he'd be fine with anyone. he just seems lonely.since all of his friends graduated medschool and went on to be doctors elsewhere

[Anonymous No.7616856]

>boyfriend wants to start cosplaying and go to a con with me.
>he's never been to one before.
>there's one con that comes to our city and it's fairly small so that should be a good first one!
>it's an anime con
>we've never really watched that much anime together.
>decide to try watching Kill La Kill finally so we can have something to watch together.
>finish it.
>by the end he's calling Ryuko "Ryukia"
>Senketsu is now Sinkets
>Shinra? They ripped that right out of ff7
>etc etc etc

>tfw I didn't realize going into this I was going to be taking my dad to anime convention.

[Anonymous No.7616857]

>be 21
>go to rave at end of my first convention
>rave isn't 18+
>music is kinda balls
>no alcohol so everyone just dancing with their friends
>don't want to accidentally ask 15 year old or lesbian to dance

Had fun but I had waaaay higher expectations

[Anonymous No.7616858]

>>7616856
Try Attack on Titan. Guys seem to fucking love it and the names are mostly German.

[Anonymous No.7616859]

>>7616853
?????

Nobody's burning the lolita dresses. All the old dresses are still available, most of the time cheaper than new dresses. I saw it on Y!jpn for 15,000 like 3 years ago. Didn't stick around to see what the end price was though.

[Anonymous No.7616870]

>>7616795
>Not watching E3

[Anonymous No.7616873]

>>7616859
Bad wording, sorry. I didn't mean literally never, what I mean is I barely see dresses that old.

[Anonymous No.7616876]

For once I've got good feels:
>get back in touch with best friend form high school who I missed horribly
>Finally moving out of the apartment from hell.
>New apartment is really really nice and now I can get a cat
>Worked my ass off the past year to be able to get a nice place
>Lolita wardrobe is finally becoming cohesive and I am picking up hours at my favorite vintage store so I actually get to wear it.

the only down side is I feel really awkward talking to any of my friends about any of this because they are in the "so poor" mentality right now. I just work a lot more they they do and am really good with a budget. .

[Anonymous No.7616880]

>>7616870
Normally i would watch E3 but given my circumstances that night plus Jay's pushy response, my irritation level was pretty high..

[Anonymous No.7616881]

>>7616858
He keeps seeing it on Netflix and being like "ooooh that one looks good" so we probably will.
Before we started watching anything he said he used to watch lots of anime, I asked him about after KLK though and it was all like One Piece, FMA, etc... So that explains a lot.

[Anonymous No.7616883]

>>7616747
>move in with someone I didn't want to move in with, out of necessity
>anti-depressant ran out at the same time
I wish it was just two days of shitty eating.

[Anonymous No.7616922]

>>7616854

Ahh, I don't know that feel myself, but a lot of my colleagues who stayed a year back to do research feel that way. It sucks. If he's all right with talking to internet strangers, I'm up for that. E-mail's in the field.

[Anonymous No.7616964]

>Been into cosplay for 8 years now
>Pretty proud of my craftsmanship and skill level
>Overweight friend has been cosplaying for 2 years
>By which I mean purchasing and wearing costumes and styled wigs she bought online
>Army of betas keep feeding her compliments so she thinks she's hot shit
>"Anon, we should do a cosplay group together! We can make our cosplays together."
>Picks characters with intricate designs and wigs
>tfw I'd be the one making the cosplays because she can't use a sewing machine
>tfw group would look like shit anyways because she's too fat for the character

[Anonymous No.7616982]

>>7616744
>Pretty sure that the girl who is hosting/organizing hates me because I can't into social interaction.
This feel. I've heard that some of the more popular girls in my local comm actively disliked me because I seem stuck up to them.
>tfw really shy and socially awkward to the max
I've stopped attending meets with this comm and drive an hour and a half to go to meet with a neighboring comm now. I'm still an introvert, but it seems like this comm is way more chill and accepting of that. It's very calming.

[Anonymous No.7616985]

>>7616964
You'd better charge her if she expects you to do all the work.

[Anonymous No.7617009]

>Have man shoulders
>No, seriously, I have a 50cm shoulderspan
>No matter how much weight I lose, every Lolita dress or blouse I get will have to be shirred or custom made.
>Tfw never going to be able to wear burando princess-style OPs

[Anonymous No.7617014]

Me and a friend are going to a con with three of our other friends who invited us to share a room with them. We have another friend who goes to every con with us who is essentially a baby duck, and doesn't get along with the people we are going with. Main friend decides not to tell her we are going, so we don't have to worry about them wanting to come and taking care of them at the con. Says we should keep the fact we are going at all a secret. I say we should just tell her outright, because we might slip up and make her upset we kept a secret from her.
Wat do?

[Anonymous No.7617018]

>>7617014
kill the batman

[Anonymous No.7617034]

>>7616964

I totally feel your pain.

My close friend group have been doing cosplay for a long time now, and 2 of them have recently acquired bf/gf. They've only just gotten into cosplay, and now less than 3 WEEKS before AX they ask us "where do you buy your cosplays? i can't seem to find the outfits you have anywhere!"

>mfw they don't believe that we make our own cosplays
>mfw instead of being impressed they "scold" us and say that buying they cosplay would have been waaaaay easier and cost less money.

i don't even know what to feel. is this the future of people coming into cosplay?

[Anonymous No.7617050]

My boyfriend threw me out of our home around 3months ago, been depressed as fuck thinking that noone will ever love me

>go to the local neighborhood store
>unplanned eyecontact with a very /fa/ guy
>think i fell in love
>both of us were looking at eachother all the time, not saying a word
>go home and cry, will i ever see him again and would a person like that ever like me

what to do seagulls? ;____;
stupid feelings

[Anonymous No.7617052]

>>7617050
craigslist missed connections

[Anonymous No.7617063]

>>7616964
I groaned for you

[Anonymous No.7617067]

>>7617050
maybe post on /fa/?
also, don't worry about failed relationships. Life continues and new people show up, you just got to look for them

[Anonymous No.7617074]

>>7616672
I'm in a skype group with people, and they are just hurting my confidence and making me feel ugly, but somehow I can't bring myself to leaving because I'm scared they'll talk shit behind my back.
So I just go with the flow and accept any insult they throw at me.
I'm aware it's pretty stupid and I'm a doofus, but that what goes through my head.

[Anonymous No.7617078]

Help me CGL, I'm about to be ita. I posted about this in the last feels thread too:
>summer calc for majors class and work kicking my butt
>had goal of making coord by event on this coming saturday, had this goal for months
>barely started sewing, still have full jsk to make (fabric coming in the mail on tues), matching socks and a blouse alteration to do
>watch as I make terribad first time handmade lolita and refuse to go to the event out of self hatred

[Anonymous No.7617080]

>>7617074
make sure they all know they're uglier than you are

if they complain about you insulting them just laugh that they can't handle their own medicine

[Anonymous No.7617093]

>>7617074
new friends anon, holy shit

your probably depression supply is probably just obscuring your view and making you think this is the best you can get. it's not. really, I mean it.

[Anonymous No.7617101]

>>7617014
Are you really close with baby duck? Like, close enough that you tell each other your plans and stuff even when they don't involve the other person? If not, just act like it's not a big deal, you didn't even think about telling her because the plans didn't include her, not that you were actively keeping it secret. If you are close and it would be weird for her to not know, I dunno, man. If it's going to stir shit before the con, I wouldn't mention it unless she brings it up, and then be honest and say you already have other plans. No point in just outright telling her, "Hey, we didn't invite you, fyi."

[Anonymous No.7617112]

>>7617074
>I'm scared they'll talk shit behind my back.
They probably already are. You should leave.

[Anonymous No.7617114]

>>7617101
Seconding this anon. There's no easy way to go about this, and we all feel bad for baby duck.

[Anonymous No.7617140]

>>7617009
I feel you, anon. My shoulders are 46cm, I have little waist definition, it's a nightmare to dress.

[Anonymous No.7617177]

>>7616964
you sound like a cunt and you should be lucky you have friends at all

[Anonymous No.7617178]

>>7617078
Sorry anon, I can't really see anyway to help you.
Unless you are a pro at sewing, I don't see how you can finish a whole JSK by saturday if fabric doesn't arrive until Tuesday.
especially if you have work and other things going on.
Best to step back and ask yourself
> would I rather rush my first Lolita attempt and look shit
or
> accept I'm not going to manage my goal, but have chance to make my outfit to the best of my ability, but when finished, have a co-ord I'm proud of.

[Anonymous No.7617182]

>New to lolita
>Find dream dress
>Learn the bust is 88cm and waist is 72-74cm.
>Your bust is 97cm but your waist is the right size.

Damn it all.

[Anonymous No.7617185]

>>7617178
Yeah, that's all legit ;_;

The event said "all types of jfashion" and I bet I could put together a mori coord out of my closet if need be.

[Anonymous No.7617192]

>>7617074
Man, fuck those guys. I'd just stop talking to them.

Pic related: If you're being shit on and not sure what to do, you should stop standing under someone who's just shitting on you.

Time to get some new friends Anon.

[Anonymous No.7617215]

>>7617182

NO.
I'm fuckin' sick of people using their bust size as an excuse to abloobloobloo about how they can't fit into a dress.

I have a 96cm bust a 70cm waist. I used to pout about how my chest would never fit into brand.
But then I looked into it, and I found a chest binder on Ebay super cheap. Like, less than 20$.
It's comfy as fuck, and it squishes my tits down to size so I can fit into brand.
It's kind uncomfy, the way tit-squishing is bound to be [ha, BOUND to be..], but if you're serious about buying beautiful brand for yourself,

Look into it and quit your crying or I swear to fuck I will slap you.

Now go be pretty, you lil shit.

[Anonymous No.7617223]

>>7617034
There's a bigger availability of cosplay sellers at lower prices than there used to be and a lot less people who are willing to learn sewing or prop making.
But if you have the money for it and don't have the time, I could see the benefits of paying someone else to work on it. I'm just old and stuck in my ways.
Regardless, 3 weeks is not even enough time to get something shipped out to you, I hope they learn their lesson on that.

[Anonymous No.7617230]

>>7617215
I'm considering to get a binder but would that potentially create boobloaf underneath? What's your experience with it and how much does it get you down to? And also, how long can you comfortably wear it?

[Anonymous No.7617237]

>>7617230
Diff anon, but I have a binder and several sports bras I like to wear. I have aprox. 18cm/7in difference between full bust and underbust.

What you need to be aware of is... the binder is not going to magically shrink your tits. It's going to redistribute the extra tissue up, down. and to the sides of your torso. . It will Minimizes problems and help with blouse gaping and bodice fits. But it actually is literally making your entire upper torso into a large boob loaf. Yes it looks better than a normal bra, but since it's not going to give you clear definition between left and right tit, it's still going to be noticeable that your bust doesn't fit the bodice correctly.

Binders are more comfortable than sports bras. I can wear mine for at least 4-6 hours before one of my shoulders starts hurting (but this may be due to previous shoulder strain, not sure). The cons are it gaps under the arms, so you need to be aware of that and make sure your jsk is pulled up to your pits to hide that gaping. It's going to wrinkle at the waist too, unless you buy the full body one that has shorts (but I bet it still wrinkles!). So be prepared to adjust it a lot (I own a long one and it's pretty annoying).

I switch to sports bras in high waisted cuts, because it helps the waist sit properly instead of sitting on top of the bottom of my boob meat in the binder.

Uh, hope that helps. I think it's a good investment, but no, it's not going to cure your boob loaf. YOu'll need to layer, wear blouses with ruffles, vertical designs, tie bows that have looong tails to hang down your chest to divide the left and right side of your bust. All over prints help hide it, and long hair to divert attention from the sides of your body.

[Anonymous No.7617298]

Was feeling good about myself for a little while. Moving and exercising more...cystic acne starting to clear up.
So...of course I felt confidant enough to dress up for an event...
Someone points at me and calls me an "ugly thing"...
Confidence gone.
I know that it's such a minor and I shouldn't let it get to me this badly but...people can be so unnecessarily mean (I say on 4chan of all places, but I digress).

[Anonymous No.7617309]

>>7617298
>Someone points at me and calls me an "ugly thing"...
Wtf. Was it a kid or something?

[Anonymous No.7617310]

>find dresses and skirts I like for cheap
>they're all too big

[Anonymous No.7617322]

>>7617309
Nope. In fact, she looked like she was in her late twenties, early thirties.
If it was just a kid, I would have probably been able to just brush it off but no...it was a grown woman.

[Anonymous No.7617338]

>>7617322
Don't let your confidence get down over that. If it makes you feel any better, she's probably trash anyway. I don't know where you live, but I think in most places it's not acceptable for an adult to be so openly rude like that.

In all honestly, not everyone is going to think you're pretty, no matter what you look like, and likewise not everyone will think you're ugly, and moreso not everyone is going to fucking say it out loud without provocation. That woman just had a stick up her cunt or something.

[Anonymous No.7617368]

>tfw no Esdese cosplayer to dominate me

[Anonymous No.7617371]

>>7617310

[Anonymous No.7617439]

Oh my god, fellow seagulls, I just bought one of my dream dresses! ;_;

I missed it the last time it was on egl, and now I saw it on Lacemarket, in my preferred colorway, and instantly bought it. I think I payed maybe $80 more than what it went on egl the last time, but after having it missed the last time I just did not have the nerve to gamble and bought it now. Oh I cannot wait for my precious baby to arrive! ;_;

[Anonymous No.7617444]

>>7617439
Congrats! What dress???

[Anonymous No.7617450]

>>7617322
Honestly I'd feel worse if it'd been a kid, those fuckers are painfully honest. That woman was probably just an angry bitch, anon, don't let it get to you.

[Anonymous No.7617454]

>>7617444

Thanks, Anon! It's the Bertille Rose Dress Jsk in pink.

On the other hand, the seller is within the EU, so I don't have to pay a shitload of taxes like I would have needed to do for the dress from the last egl post. Guess it evens out.

[Anonymous No.7617457]

>>7617338
Thank you, Anon, I appreciate it.
Yeah, everyone is going to have a different opinion and I wholeheartedly respect that but it's not an excuse to be rude.
I'm going to try and brush off the comment and move on.

[Anonymous No.7617458]

>>7617101
Usually yes. But not when it comes to cons. They are like her favorite thing. Like seriously, she lives for them. We could tell her and say we don't want to be those people who are like, "Hey, can we bring a friend to an already crowded room?"

[Anonymous No.7617465]

>>7617450
I guess living with my 11 year old niece has kind of helped me build up a slight resistance to kid's and their brutal honesty.
It just kind of bothers me to hear an adult, who I would hope at this point has developed a filter, say something so unnecessarily nasty to a stranger.

[Anonymous No.7617492]

>not popular on tumblr at all, but I enjoy my little lolita blog
>like 400 followers, usually my personal/coordinate photos get like 10-20 notes tops.
>all except for one
First word fucking problem but I have this one post with thousands of notes and it gets them in spurts, like someone popular rips it from the depths of hell randomly one day and my dash is just full of likes and reblogs.... and common that picture is like a year old and taken from my shit phone stop it.
How the fuck do people who get hundreds of thousands of notes even use there dashboard anymore

[Anonymous No.7617520]

>>7617492
I don't think they do at all, sometimes people who get unbelievable amounts of notes just delete it because they can't handle all the notifications.

[Anonymous No.7617538]

>>7617492
>>7617520
You can disable notes

[Anonymous No.7617546]

>>7617492
I don't get my followers... I only post j-fash, like 99% lolita. Nothing else, just fashion on my blog. And I'll get followers, then I'll lose like 3 followers in one day. I don't get it, you obviously followed me because you liked the things I post, but then you unfollow me even though I don't do anything different...

[Anonymous No.7617551]

>>7617546
it can be many reasons, they think you upload too much/too little or they just don't have an interest anymore that happens too, hell they can just not feel like following lolita blogs anymore and unfollow them all

[Anonymous No.7617555]

>>7617520
You'll still get notifications from a deleted post, actually.

There is an XKit extension that blocks notes from a post.

[Anonymous No.7617556]

>>7617551
well I never get those anon asks (you know the ones that are like 'ur dumb, unfollowing, bai!') so I guess it's just one of those things. I tend to post every day and just go through tags of brands and styles and just reblog whatever I like, I never thought I could be doing TOO much but maybe that's it. i hit post limit a lot so...

[Anonymous No.7617566]

>>7617215
I have the same measurements as you and I never though my bust would be too large for burando... shit

[Anonymous No.7617575]

>have history of seasonal depression
>get pregnant
>have abortion
>start taking the pill a couple of months ago
>start feeling depressed again
>intense mood swings in the morning and at night
>don't want to drop meds because of past pregnancy

God dammit, I feel like I'm bursting at the seams with emotion all the time. I can't even go anywhere without feeling like I want to hide somewhere and cry. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years and he's been a real trooper sticking with me through all this shit.

>"but why don't you just stop having sex?"
I feel like I should, but I'm too scared to tell my boyfriend no all the time. It's been hurting a lot recently, so we haven't done it for a couple of weeks. I can't help but feel guilty for it either.

[Anonymous No.7617576]

>>7617556
that could definitely be it. I'd recommend using the queue.

[Anonymous No.7617577]

>>7617575
if it's hurting it's probably a psychological thing. I think you should go talk to someone about it anon, and let your boyfriend know about it as well.

[Anonymous No.7617583]

>>7617575
What about changing pills, or methods of birth control? Either talk to your doctor to find ones that won't give you depression, or use stuff that doesn't rely on hormones (eg. condoms, diaphragm, spermicide, etc.).

[Anonymous No.7617588]

>>7617577
this. if you are having mood swings they should end soon you're just overthinking it because its hormones

[Anonymous No.7617599]

>>7617575
Sounds like you should talk to a doctor Anon. Sounds physiological/hormonal and it's probably pretty treatable, this can only get better once you see a doctor about it and it would make things easier for your boyfriend too.

[Anonymous No.7617603]

My cat ate my fucking petticoat 2 weeks ago and I'm still angry

[Anonymous No.7617605]

>>7617492
I can't tell if you're telling the truth or not because I just had a post get 14k notes and only so many show up on my dash at a time so they didn't get in my way at all. But then again I use xkit and that could be making things manageable.

[Anonymous No.7617607]

>>7617583
>>7617599
I don't have health insurance, so the most I've been able to do is go to Planned Parenthood. I think there's one farther away from where I live that has a doctor I can talk to, but not a psychologist/psychiatrist.

[Anonymous No.7617611]

>>7617607
There should be services in your city for people who can't afford therapy. You should still tell your boyfriend though.

[Anonymous No.7617615]

>>7617607
where do you live? Different states have different systems for these sorts of things and if you live in Canada you can just go an see anyone really.

Does your work have a health care plan you can get on? I'd look into that as well.

[Anonymous No.7617618]

>>7617298
I feel you on the cystic acne deal. I have been asked by different people at different points in my life "how my face got burned" because my skin has been so bad. It sucks. Also that shit hurts so bad physically when it's in your skin, too.

[Anonymous No.7617642]

>>7617618
You have my sympathy, Anon. Cystic acne is horrible and no one should have to deal with it.
Near constant pain...and there isn't much you can do about it other than wait it out and take care of your skin.

[Anonymous No.7617645]

>tfw dead mom
>tfw your otou-san made plans to spend Fathers Day watching the soccer game with his friends instead
>tfw I'm spagehtti around him and just wanted to show I care
>tfw you were planning to go out for a nice dinner with him to make up for being a spaghetti daughteru

[Anonymous No.7617653]

>>7617607
That doesn't stop you from using birth control that creates a barrier instead of using hormones.

[Anonymous No.7617656]

>>7617653
I got pregnant using a condom.

[Anonymous No.7617665]

>>7617656
Guess you missed the day in sex ed when they talked about using two forms of BC because one is never 100%.

[Anonymous No.7617676]

>>7617492
I know this feel.
I have like 2-3 posts that suddenly exploded for no real reason. I guess it's better than having all my OC go completely unrecognized, but dem notifications man.
Also, I feel like the less often I post, the more followers I get. It's just weird.

[Anonymous No.7617718]

>>7617322
>it was a grown woman.

I'd say that'd be even more of a reason to brush it off.
If an older woman has the audacity to name call in public, she's probably a cunt.

Stay beautiful and don't let some shitty cunt who doesn't understand your fashion sense/hobby/whatever ruin your enthusiasm, sweets.

[Anonymous No.7617721]

>tfw you're recovering from bacne/have some scarring from bacne(all at the upper half of my back)
>tfw being nervous about cosplaying a character because the costume shows of a lot of back
I think I can get away with a slight modification but then I'm worried about people asking why it shows less back than the character actually does.

[Anonymous No.7617734]

>>7617721
If you just have scarring then I doubt anyone will even notice. Go for it anon!

[Anonymous No.7617749]

>>7617575
Dude, copper iud. No hormones, more effective than sterilization, cheapest method in the long run if you stick with it for the lifetime of the device.

[Anonymous No.7617757]

>>7617749
Are your cramps intensified/more painful when you menstruate? I'm worried about that.

[Anonymous No.7617760]

>>7617757
Most women experience an increase in bleeding/cramps for the first 8 months. Some women experienced worsened bleeding/cramps past 8 months, but those are in the minority.

[Anonymous No.7617800]

>>7617575
I'm concerned that you said you're scared to tell your boyfriend "no" all the time. I'm worried you may have some deeper issues in your relationship than your BC if you can't be completely honest with your SO about what's going on.

[Anonymous No.7617813]

>>7617749
>>7617757
Keep in mind that some doctors will recommend you not get an IUD if you haven't carried to term. Women who haven't delivered a baby have a higher risk of perforation during insertion, and also a higher risk of rejection. Most also require sedation or local anaesthetic to have it inserted.

Talk to your GP or gynaecologist about it and other options. I was going to go for an IUD because I an't absorb oral contraceptives properly, but several of my doctors warned me against it and offered other suggestions.

>>7617800
Also this. Saying that you're worried to tell him no isn't a good sign. Particularly if you're also worried about contraceptives at the same time.

Not saying you're in an abusive relationship, but you might want to assess why you feel that way.

[Soto No.7617822]

>>7617813

[Anonymous No.7617825]

>>7617813
hrm, i've had an abortion and am having an IUD inserted next week but my Dr. hasn't mentioned anything about it... also all I my insurance would cover was the mirena and not any of the copper ones... should I re-consider?

[Anonymous No.7617829]

Not to sound creepy, but I think most women force themselves to sleep with their SOs at least some of the time. It's not necessarily that they pressure you - but you pressure yourself because you don't want them to feel unwanted.

[Anonymous No.7617833]

>Order custom size blouse from bunny house (inb4 fatty)
>Horrible customer service, takes months
>Finally get the blouse
>So cute yay
>Shoulders too wide
>The puff part droops down to the very edge of my shoulder
>Fucking man shoulders
I guess I have to try and sew

[Anonymous No.7617834]

>>7617800
Guy here, if my girlfriend was unwilling to have sex with me about as often as I wanted were no longer compatible. Your relationships might be based purely intellectually or something of that nature, but mine aren't. Once the sex is cut off I'd start to reconsider my options. But that's just me, she may have a really nice boyfriend that likes having a live platonic friend with severe depression. (I didn't catch if they were living together).

[Anonymous No.7617837]

>>7617825
If your doctor gave it the go ahead, then you should be okay. And ... I missed the bit about an abortion, so you're probably fine.

[Anonymous No.7617846]

>>7617837
yeah I mean she knows about it, I definitely listed it on my paperwork, lol

I really wish insurance had covered the copper iud, I hope the side effects of the mirena one isn't terrible, I don't want to gain a bunch of weight

[Anonymous No.7617847]

>>7617834
And that's fine as long as you aren't making your girlfriend feel uncomfortable with saying no when she doesn't want it, like the other anon seems to struggle with.

[Anonymous No.7617848]

Dude, that's the most you want of a girlfriend? Willing? Enjoy your hesitant, British sex life.

[Anonymous No.7617850]

>>7617846
It varies from person to person. I've known several who did fine with it, one who perforated after three months, and one who had it removed due to excessive discomfort. None that I know had weight gain as a symptom. Most had spotting after the procedure and a few had heavier periods for a while. They generally say to give it six months before you decide one way or another.

[Anonymous No.7617866]

>post coord on tumblr
>my lolita idol reblogs it
>dem warm and fuzzy feels

[Anonymous No.7617873]

>tfw don't know that feel

[Anonymous No.7617878]

>girl at work is completely useless
>stuck cleaning up after her and doing her work for her all day every day
>she does literally nothing but sit on her phone all day
>you can't tell her anything because she'll do things 10x worse to spite you
>late almost everyday.
>calls in sick constantly
>everyone else is sick of her shit too
>no one else wants to say anything about her because, "she may suck but waah she's my friend waah I'd feel bad if she got fired waah"
>tell my manager multiple times how shit she is
>she goes out drinking last night, doesn't show up today, doesn't call in or text anyone
>FINALLY SHE'LL BE GONE
>managers say they're gonna give her one more chance.

[Anonymous No.7617879]

>>7617866
>tfw don't know that feel

[Anonymous No.7617880]

>>7617050
Start revisiting that store on a regular basis

[Anonymous No.7617882]

>>7617878
what kind of job goes fuckin easy on no-call-no-shows? Even salary jobs dont like that shit.

[Anonymous No.7617883]

>>7617185
Then work on your Mori back-up plan and make a kick arse outfit

[Anonymous No.7617886]

>ex bf does some shitty cosplay that he didn't even make himself
>gets tons of reblogs, reddit points, etc
>I spend months working on a detailed armor costume
>12 notes

[Anonymous No.7617890]

>>7616744
that reminds me
>Prom is on Friday
>So busy working I've barely had time to finish my dress
>pump something out in like, a week
>Still stressing over finishing it in the daily hour of free time I get

[Anonymous No.7617891]

>>7617882
I do housekeeping in a hotel. The problem is just that the housekeeping manager is a spineless pushover and the general manager just fired one of the receptionists on Friday and is too much of a stress bag to deal with firing two people at once.

[Anonymous No.7617893]

>>7617879
Have patience, anon.
It's taken me time to work on my coord skills and to build up enough followers to be noticed.
Just play your cards right - photograph your stuff nicely, use appropriate tags, post at busy times of the day, and you'll start to get some more results.

[Jacuzzi (and sometimes Maou) No.7617907]

>Spent close to $100 on faux fur for partial fursuit (yeah yeah, yiff in hell, etc, etc, whatever)
>Ughhhh it hurts every time
>Still have to buy all the fabric for the costume's actual outfit
>This costume is gonna be way pricey
>Go to JoAnn's to look at fabric because I have a few coupons
>Everything is on sale
>Coupons stack upon other coupons
>Able to get nice fabric, lining, and buttons for my ankle-length bachou coat and my boyfriend's gakuran or just over $50
>Dance for joy

[Anonymous No.7617912]

>>7617556

I really don't like bloggers that hit post limit often, so that is most likely the issue there. Seconding setting up a queue, and maybe trimming down on what you post. If not, make the posts not one right after the other. Mine's only about 10 a day, once an hour, but I've noticed 6-10 a hour isn't too bad of a flow, given they're following enough other blogs.

[Anonymous No.7617919]

>>7617882
The Arby's that I work at does. One kid, he's a fucking alcoholic, he didn't show up maybe 4 r 5 times in the year he's worked here, and he still has a job, still gets paid more than me, and still gets more HOURS than me, even though he can literally do one job in the entire store and I can work any position / am gunning for manager next.

Sorry, that's been on my nerves.

[Anonymous No.7617920]

There's a cosplayer in my area that I've met a few times through mutual friends and I hate to admit that I'm extremely jealous of her.
Not that at her number of likes (I don't have a page and don't care much about those kind of things), but the fact that she's able to attend single con and event in our area, bust out new costumes every few weeks, and is friends with a lot of cosplayers that I look up to despite being a junior in high school and a half decent cosplayer.

While here I am at 22 working to afford school, rent and other things so I only have time/money to go to 2-4 local cons a year. Said cosplayer just posted that she's going to a con that's across the country with 4 new costumes and I can't help but think of her as some spoiled kid that probably gets all her cosplay money from her parents.
I just feel really petty and stupid for thinking badly of her and being so jealous when it comes to this hobby. It doesn't help either that a lot of my friends just fawn over her and she pops up on my newsfeed pretty often.

[Anonymous No.7617923]

Whenever I see cosplayers receive "hate", half the time it's just "this one detail should be a bit better but aside from that good". At worst it's just uncalled for but I've seen people react to this with absolute vitriol like it's a personal attack. I have seen actual hate though, so then reactions become a bit more understandable then.

Then again, since it's never happened to me, I guess I can't really understand it either way. If anything, thanks to this board I'd probably go, "yeah, I guess I should work on that".

So then I wonder, who's in the right and who's in the wrong? You have one party, the cosplayer, and another, the critic. The critique could be rude or it could just be tactful, but either way it's unwarranted. Would you be wrong for being upset especially since you can't really stop them from doing so, or would they be wrong for critiquing when it was not desired? I guess you can't really stop people to do so, you can't expect people to just be nice, but then, what's the point of being rude, either way? I'm just a bit confused.

[Anonymous No.7617928]

>>7617439
>buy dream dress from egl
>seller apparently flakes
>nothing I can do now but wait
>Paypal dispute threatened
>I just wanted my pretty dress

[Anonymous No.7617929]

>>7617920
Do you live in Texas?

Sounds like someone I know. I'm mad jealous, too.

Wish I had those opportunities at her age. God I wish I had been born into a filthy rich family.

I like my own life, of course, but, man, what a lucky ass bitch. Screw her, jeez...

[Anonymous No.7617934]

>bought 3 dream dresses in 3 weeks
>massive taobao order
>working 75 hours a week
>already spent tomorrow's paycheque
maybe one day i'll have good spending habits

[Anonymous No.7617947]

>>7617829
Agreeing with this. There have been many a time when I didn't really feel like it, but it had been a while and I felt bad, even though he says it's fine.

[Anonymous No.7617966]

>>7617603
this is the most ignored post in the thread. i'm sorry your cat ate your petticoat, anon. do you think you can replace it?

[Anonymous No.7617979]

>going to my first con in like 6 days
>made me whole outfit and everything
>considering not going like a anxious retard
>fuck

[Anonymous No.7617992]

>tfw finally feel prettier than friends from high school
It's a shallow as fuck feel, especially since not all of it is happy. A lot of it is kind of shitty feels too.
>tfw went through entire life feeling fat and ugly
>tfw I was one of the token ugly friends in group because I was treated like it; excluded from things, one of the cushiony butts of jokes for insecurities
>tfw after high school decide to do something about it
>tfw gym and diet, put effort into clothing and makeup and hair
>tfw pretty and thin now
>tfw people I knew in high school getting fatter
Feels good but bad at the same time. I'm happy with my appearance, but I also feel like a little shit for being happy about my friends' totally normal decline. And while I'm spending hours at the gym and on Tumblr staring at desserts I can't fucking have, they're probably just enjoying life, like they've always been doing. Even as I'm improving myself, I feel awful. I just want to go out and eat all of the desserts I can, stop feelings so grossly bitter, and feel happy with myself, inside and out.

[Soto No.7618019]

>>7617992
Don't be
You deserve that shit, its the others fault for letting themselves go
Just be cool about it and don't be a dick about it, or you can be a dick about it and just laugh at them too

[Anonymous No.7618021]

>>7617992
>And while I'm spending hours at the gym and on Tumblr staring at desserts I can't fucking have, they're probably just enjoying life, like they've always been doing.

agh this hurts me so deep inside, anon

[Anonymous No.7618026]

>>7617992
I know some of those feels. My friends were all just as awkward looking as I was though, everyone seemed to be prettier than us, but we've all learned to take better care of ourselves and my friends are even especially gorgeous now, while everyone else is either pregnant, has a couple kids already or completely let themselves go, or all of those at once.

Just give yourself a cheat day a week to eat one horribly unhealthy thing or something.

[Anonymous No.7618031]

>>7617665
>Advises using a condom instead of hormonal birth control
>Anon replies saying they already have an it got them pregnant
>WELL YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN USING TWO FORMS OF BIRTH CONTROL ANYWAY

Your own advice was so shit you contradicted it in the next post, bravo.

[Anonymous No.7618036]

>>7616964
>Army of betas keep feeding her compliments so she thinks she's hot shit
This is what's really bugging you, isn't it?

Also don't presume that she would force you to make her costume. Seems you would have a greater peace of mind if you stopped assuming the worst because your fat friend is getting a little more attention than you feel she deserves.

[Anonymous No.7618045]

>>7618026
'Nother anon. I didn't have the weight issue, but I was the "ugly" one that everyone always put down to feel good, so I grew up thinking I was just an ugly piece of shit.

Then I met my BF and we became friends. He was the first person who ever in my life (including my family) told me that I was beautiful, or that he was proud of me for something.

Now I laugh at my so-called friends who called me ugly, because one has herpes on her face, and the other is fat and bitter. Karma's a fucking bitch.

If it's shallow, so be it, but they get what they deserve.

[Anonymous No.7618051]

>>7618045
i'm in the same situation with a similar boyfriend situation, but how do you go from thinking you're ugly to feeling pretty?
I just think that people say I'm pretty because they feel bad for me

[Anonymous No.7618052]

>>7617992
You were probably never ugly. People just shit on you because you didn't stick up for yourself and allowed yourself to be the doormat for peoples' fucked up jokes. Of course you'd become the token anything if you let something happen like that over and over.

You do sound bitter and your spiteful attitude doesn't help. How about looking at how you've all developed as adults, and look at what has actually improved among all, instead of trying to get into a pissing contest over who is living the best life--which btw most nobody ever wins.

[Anonymous No.7618062]

My friend invited me to like her cosplay facebook page. It only has one cosplay and she gave herself a fake kawaii name. I'm just embarrassed and I don't want to like it. We're grown adults.

[Anonymous No.7618068]

>finally feeling pretty about myself and being sortta ok with my body (still have plans to lose weight and eat healthier)
>two ugly ass co-workers rear back in laughter when I say I'm turning 28 a few months ago
>"Ha ha! You wish Anon! What are you, 40? 45?"
>confidence is shot to hell
>barely wear lolita because of it
thanks a lot assmuches. FTR: I look my age IMHO.

[Anonymous No.7618071]

>>7618068
Wow, your coworkers sound like cunts or they're really terrible at sarcasm.

[Anonymous No.7618084]

>>7617080
>>7617112
>>7617093
>>7617192
>tfw seagulls are being too nice.
Man, you guys have brought me to tears, thanks a lot.

[Anonymous No.7618086]

>>7618071
Trust me, they were serious. They're cunts. It's ok. One quit, and I avoid the other one like the plague.
Thinking on it, last year I was fucking my 18 and 19 year old coworkers, so I can't be THAT bad looking. lol

[Anonymous No.7618099]

>>7618051
It took like two years of the BF assuring me. It boosted my confidence, which in turn led me to take better care of myself, which in turn made me actually look in the mirror at myself instead of avoiding it, which made me realize that I'd grown into my gangly body alright.

I still have issues, with confidence, and parts of my body that I don't like, but I can look at my face and say, "Yeah, I'm pretty cute, aren't I?"

It's been a bumpy road, and the journey isn't over, but at least I can look at myself without just feeling like shit now, and I can take pride in the fact that I dress myself better than the other two girls I used to be friends with (I work with Starbucks White Girl) , and when people poke fun at my appearance, I can brush it off, and take compliments to heart instead of assuming that it's someone messing with me or feeling pity.

People would generally rather not put forth effort into something they don't feel strongly about, just remember that. When someone compliments you, it's because they 99% likely DO like whatever they've complimented. People don't go out of their way to make ugly people feel pretty, they go out of their way to appreciate something they like.

[Anonymous No.7618101]

>>7618099
You also have to remember that beauty is subjective. There will always be people who don't like something about you, there will always be people who will put you down for it, but there will also always be others out there, like your boyfriend, who think you are wonderful and beautiful just how you are. You have to believe those people to feel better about yourself. If someone has a negative comment about you, think about it hard. If it' something you've heard over and over but can't change (For example, I'm constantly told that I look anorexic / like a skeleton / NYEEEEEH skeletor impressions even though skeletor is ripped to fuck) then that's something that you shouldn't worry about. Sure, I don't like that part of my body, but I can't help it so there's no use fretting over it. If it's the way you do your makeup, or something like that, try something new!

[Anonymous No.7618115]

>>7618101
I forgot who said it best but "You could be the best, juiciest, sweetest peach in the world and there will be someone who hates peaches."

It sucks that I've been beaten so much from insults my whole life that one little comment fucks with me months down the line, but I just try to tell myself "Fuck them", remember that peach line, and do my own thang.

>notasinglefuckgiven.png

[Anonymous No.7618120]

>>7616774
>be a black girl that is weak to Asian men
>cute Asian guy actually liking black girls
>doesn't dress or act like some black guy wannabe

Wouldn't even imagine this was possible

[Anonymous No.7618122]

>>7618099
>>7618101
You're the best, honestly.
I get the comments about being a skeletor all the time and about my tits being too small, but I really have problems with my nose and my chin.
I feel like I can and should change it eventually, since I'm only 19 now, but I'm not sure what I even want besides to make my face prettier. Will those feelings pass as well?

[Anonymous No.7618178]

>>7618051
Not that anon, and it sounds weird, but I realized it when I went to the bathroom once hanging out with the bf. I looked in the mirror and my eyes were sparkling and I did a damn good job with my hair and my cheeks were rosy and I felt damn happy. Sure, I was just happy with my face then, but I went from self-deprecating to accepting compliments.

I mean now I'm quietly narcissistic but I'd trade away hating myself for thinking I'm the cutest damn thing any day.

[Anonymous No.7618185]

I'm never going to be good enough with anything I do, ever. So even after I do anything with say, cosplay, I'd feel weird when people tell me it's fine because I know it's not going to be good enough and it'll always get better.

Also, I have this mindset when looking at other cosplays. The only thing is there'd be things like, "that could be a lot better, they have a lot to improve upon" vs. "they did pretty good but it still could be a bit better".

Basically, I'll never be satisfied with anything, to the point that I don't know how to accept or even look at anything positive anymore, and would even welcome "negative" comments since that tells me what flaws there are. Is this just a mindset I have to deal with?

[Anonymous No.7618209]

>recently decided to get rid of most of my boring normalfag wardrobe
>now back to buying goffick shit again when not buying lolita
>just recently bought a pair of extravagant h. naoto shorts
>boyfriend sees me wearing them
>gets really turned on, constantly calling the shorts sexy and hot
>forgot he had a goth/punk fetish
>fucking awesome

[Anonymous No.7618294]

Need to vent about someone pic related

I've known a group of my cosplay friends since high school and at the time, were super weeby (I was a little weeby myself but I've grown out of it)

As the years pass by most of them have gone out of that phase but one of them specifically, still have shown no growth in anything whatsoever and after having to see/deal with it for so long i feel bad to say its become extremely cringeworthy

I'm still her friend, she's not crazy weeby, and shes really nice, but she over exaggerates a lot of things, and has become an obsessed bandwagon hopper. Her cosplays from back in high school and now have shown no improvement. When we all come together to make a group to cosplay at a con, she puts herself in as one of the characters and we're all set on our roles of making/buying our cosplays.
Day of the con/important day/photoshoot, all she would have is a wig, saying her dad has not bought her cosplay yet (while the rest of us had our money saved and planned in our own way)

>we all decided to be in a group again months ahead of time for said con
>2 weeks before con most of us either have our cosplay done, or close to finishing
>"yeah I'm not gonna this character anymore"
>some/one of us ask what happened if we can help her out (I always offer if I can sew some of her stuff if she pays for fabric)
>"Yeah I'm just not gonna get it done maybe next time"
>after con
>never even mentions said cosplay ever again
>literally starts "hmmmMMMMMMMMM"ing noises at us angerly when she sees our group together in pics

[Anonymous No.7618297]

>>7618294
cont'd (woops this ones pic related her on fb


This has already happened more times than I can count i don't know why she keeps doing this
>day before con
>everyones got their shit done, so does she for once (altho badly glued on, know for a fact she has a sewing machine but is unwilling to learn regardless of me offering to help. it is a little bit difficult to use but it *does* work)
>hey when're you getting to the con so can all meet up and group up?
>"oh uh I don't have a ride" "nobody's home to take me"
>mfw everytime she spends all this time talking/planning with us couple days before con and she never gets a ride, never plans on how to actually get to con
>never once mentions she doesn't have a ride
>tfw she assumes one of us is gonna take her when she hasn't even asked or said anything about not having a ride


And this is something that really is cringworthy to me I can't stand this holy shit
>we're out somewhere having a good time
>someone says something she doesnt like or is talking about her favourite characters
>"growls"
>doesn't actually growl
>SAYS THE WORD "GROWLS"
>when angered or sees something online while we're all hanging out at her place
>"MY FEEELS"
>"mmmMMMMMMMM"
>is dead serious
>makes these sounds more often than me or anyone would like


>she's getting a little crazy out in public
>one of us starts to notice, we tell her to calm down/chill
>she deflates immediately
>sad for rest of the day
>makes it PAINFULLY OBVIOUS that shes upset doesn't smile for the rest of the day
>glares at whoever told her to calm down
>all of us hate it


>Grabs texts directly from tumblr
>doesn't screenshot just copy pastes
>puts on FB and seem like she made the post up herself
>does this a lot

I don't talk to her as much anymore but I still see her posts on facebook and with every post it just makes me cringe a little harder every time

I don't want to upset her or make her feel unhappy I just wish she could see herself and mature just eversoslighty

[Anonymous No.7618302]

>>7618122
Not that anon, but yes. When I was 19 I wore a metric fuckton of eye makeup because I was teased through all my childhood for having protruding eyes and called a pug, among other things. Now, a couple of years later, I wear nothing but sunscreen and mascara (I'm a ginger so you gotta forgive me on these ones, my eyelashes are short and transparent and I am not exactly a daywalker).

There's always gonna be sick cunts who laugh at you for things you cannot change. There's always gonna be sick cunts asking whether the carpet matches the drapes. There's always gonna be sick cunts letting out their frustrations on you because you're a midget and can't fight back. The only thing you gotta do is stop letting it bother you, and the comments will eventually lessen as well. You have nothing to be ashamed of, unless you're fat it's not something you have caused yourself and you need no excuse for looking the way you do (which I'm sure is just fine)

[Anonymous No.7618324]

>>7618120
same here.
but I'm taken... damn this unicorn
GTSaiyan is his steam and skype if you want the one that isn't a doctor. he keeps his liking for cute things secret mostly though, unless asked to talk about it

[Anonymous No.7618325]

>people on facebook counting down the days to AX
>barely started costumes
please stop ;_;

[Anonymous No.7618331]

>>7618325
>Friends freaking out about AX
>Don't even know if I can go because of work schedule.
>Trying to see if I can get at least one costume made just in case since I can't fit into any of my old ones.

[Anonymous No.7618337]

>>7617656
aaaand cue my panic attack. my boyfriend and i use condoms all the time, always check for leaks and problems but we've never had an accident, but i'm still worried sometimes.

but then if i go on the pill or the patch he won't want to use them anymore. fuck. what do

[Anonymous No.7618339]

>>7618337
go on the pill/patch but don't tell him

[Anonymous No.7618343]

> Cute Lolita girl on the Dutch version of Hotter then my Daughter
> Mom gets mad that the mom of the girl doesn't support her style
> ''Look at her, she is adorable. How can you be embarrassed by such a cute girl with such a lovely look.''
> MFW my mom varifies once again that she loves the Lolita style and never wants me to change who I am

[ChineseGossip !Hjezt/f8SE No.7618345]

>>7618337
Go on it without telling him. He should be the most vested in birth control anyway, since he's the one that would be the most fucked if you got pregnant. The pill's safer than condoms tho, I've been on it for 2 years and everything's perfect plus I hate condoms.

[Anonymous No.7618348]

I feel like scum whenever I go to bed when the sun rises and wake up way too late in the afternoon. Then I spend the rest of my day dicking around before getting around to working on cosplay until the wee hours of dawn. No wonder I'm perpetually worried about never finishing.

[Anonymous No.7618349]

>>7618337
If he really cares about you, he wouldn't want you to be uncomfortable in any way especially in regards to sexual activity. That would mean being OK with still using a condom even though you're on birth control pills. You should still be using condoms anyway even if you are on the pill. It's more like a backup protection just in case the condom breaks or any fluids gets into you. Plus, prevent any STI. You never know.

Take the pill and don't tell him if you're sure he wouldn't want to do it with a condom afterwards

[Anonymous No.7618350]

> Need some cute shorts for summer
> Can't find anything cute in stores
> See nice things on aliexpress
> Measure my hips at the widest part
> XL size is 98 cm
> Hips are 107 cm and fit a western M/L
> Are you fucking kidding me

[Anonymous No.7618352]

>>7618324
Do either have a Facebook or tumblr?

Shit I need one of them to be where I'm living now. Currently crushing on this South Korean student at my school who's there taking English language classes, and have no idea how to even start talking to him, much less getting on a hanging out level with him. And paranoid what his reaction will be since I'm black.

[Anonymous No.7618353]

>>7618350
i feel you, anon. so hard. mine are about the same but i know i wont fit into any of them without looking its way too small for me. i have a few looser shorts that are about 8 inch inseam because with hips and butt, itll shorten it. other than that, i just gave up and wear dresses all the time now for summer

[Anonymous No.7618354]

Hormonal birth control killed my sex drive for good. So people should stop advocating it.

If pregnancy could possibly ruin your life, and if you're absolutely against abortion or having the baby adopted, then abstinence is the way to go.

I cannot even schlick anymore. ;_;
And good thing I already had a LTR BF who really loves me (whom I took the pill for), because I'm like a corpse in bed, and it's sure I wouldn't be able to seduce another man anymore.

[Anonymous No.7618357]

I had an epiphany a couple months ago that the reason I want to go so hardcore into jfash is because I want people to think I'm asian. My mom is chinese and no one ever believes me when I tell them that. So I thought that if I dress asian, people will think I'm asian too

It makes me super uncomfortable, but they make me happy to wear them, so i'm not going to stop. It's just frustrating when both my parents call me out on it and make me super conscious.

[Anonymous No.7618361]

>>7618354
So because you lost your sex drive, people should stop taking it and recommend it? I'm fine with mine. I still schlick and want to have sex pretty often.

[Anonymous No.7618363]

>>7618354
My hormonal birth control upped my non-existent sex drive, personally. People should base their decisions off of studies, not anecdotes. Birth control is reversible. If pregnancy is a worry, it makes sense to at least try your various options before writing them all off. If they don't work, stop using them and try something else. Even changing the brand and dosage makes a difference, you don't even need to leap to an entirely different method right away.

[Anonymous No.7618364]

>>7618353
I like dresses, but I really need some cute high waisted shorts to hide my chubby area and stretch marks, because I've seen some lovely crop tops that would be perfect for summer. But I guess I am ''blessed'' with large child birthing hips and a big butt (Which is really uncommon in my family, they all have tiny white people butts, except for me) At least I did found some cute skirts and a playsuit that accommodated up to 110 cm hips. Which is nice.

[Anonymous No.7618367]

>>7618345
i want to tell him because he'd help me pay for the patch, it's expensive. :(

[Anonymous No.7618368]

>>7618361
>>7618363
This, my birth controlled upped my sex drive a lot. I only had to switch once to another brand, because my old brand suddenly stopped working and gave me very irregular periods. So if the side effects are really bothersome there are always plenty of other brands to try.

[Anonymous No.7618370]

>>7617934
I feel this so much, anon. Currently trying to restrain myself from buying more stuff.

[Anonymous No.7618372]

>ordered from Innocent World
>got invoice today
>it's about 153€
>I have to pay 40% custom tax for orders over 150€
>mfw

[Anonymous No.7618376]

>no cgl gf that shits on my chest
;_;

[Anonymous No.7618377]

>>7618354
If you're still having no sex drive while off the pill, you need to see your doctor. Because that's now how things work. The pill is not a permanent change.

[Anonymous No.7618380]

>Sick as a dog before con
>tell myself it's nothing, go anyway
>finally feeling better
>pass out at work today from exhaustion
>went from strep to flu
>have to call in tomorrow, losing money for cosplay
>it feels like my body is failing between this and my knee problems

Can the universe just give me a break? Please? I just want to work out and work on cosplay, but I've been so sick I can barely get out of bed. I'm so tired of this feeling

[Anonymous No.7618387]

>>7617603
That's a shame anon I hate when that happends.

[Anonymous No.7618390]

>>7618294
>pic related
>dad has not bought her cosplay yet

no wonder batman couldn't get the cosplay done

[Anonymous No.7618392]

>>7618376
what is this pic from ??

[Anonymous No.7618397]

>>7618294
>>7618297
>literally starts "hmmmMMMMMMMMM"ing noises at us angerly when she sees our group together in pics
>"mmmMMMMMMMM"
wait just one moment here, i know this one

[Anonymous No.7618398]

>>7616782
>>7616789
>>7616795

you sound like a bitch to work with, tbh.

[Anonymous No.7618403]

>>7618398
They sound like someone who expects their co-worker to do the damn job they're getting paid for instead of him slacking off and whining all the time instead of working.

[Anonymous No.7618412]

>>7618392
It's a secret :x

[Anonymous No.7618414]

>>7616856
>Ryukia
...maybe your bf has seen some Bleach but repressed the memories

[Anonymous No.7618415]

>>7617919
Keep working hard, become manager and fire that useless loser. Problem solved.

[Anonymous No.7618419]

>>7618403
ohhhh, someone's mad.

[Anonymous No.7618421]

>>7618415
because we all know putting lots of hard work will make you the manager eventually

[Anonymous No.7618425]

>See seagulls talking about their shoulder width in another thread
>Someone makes a mtf joke
>My shoulders are 4 inches wider than theirs
>I'll never be cute and dainty
>Inverse triangle is the worst body type for lolita

[Anonymous No.7618429]

>>7618372
Hugs to you, fellow European anon. Customs are the worst.

[Anonymous No.7618439]

>>7618372
>>7618429
Another EU-anon here offering hugs. Where I live, you have to pay as soon as stuff is over 22€($30) and then some more when it's over 150€($200). Germany sucks.

[Anonymous No.7618445]

>>7618429

They are. ;_;
I thought I'd just stay under 150€, turned out shipping was more than I expected. Same with a taobao order, although I kept it as small as possible. I hope the exchange rate will dramatically change so that I may stay under 150€ once I actually pick it up. But this is just a dream - guess I'll set money aside for customs. Sigh.

>tfw you'll never be able to do 1000€ taobao hauls because horrible customs

[Anonymous No.7618448]

>>7618439

>>7618372 and >>7618445 Anon here, I am from Germany. I feel your pain.

Only thing I am lucky with is my customs office; they are all so nice, and already recognize me because I'm there once or twice a month, haha.

[Anonymous No.7618451]

How do you guys deal with creepers?

Everytime some ugly awkward guy asks for my picture I feel uncomfortable.

[Anonymous No.7618461]

>>7617067
>looking for /fa/ people on /fa/

[Anonymous No.7618487]

>>7617067
fa/ is a fashion disaster and their craftmanship sucks compared to cgl/. All they can do is ruin a perfectly good T-shirt with bleach. Wow so crafty.

[Anonymous No.7618536]

Running a small j-fashion show for my local con, need about 10 models so I put up a detailed post on the event page and several groups.

>"Is it okay if I just wear my suit?"
>"Does a maid cosplay count?"
>"Are there prizes for fandom inspired outfits?"

Lord give me strength.

[Anonymous No.7618545]

>>7617829
This. I had a really high sex drive at the beginning of my relationship, but now, 6 months in I've mellowed out and don't really want sex more than max 2 times a week. But I feel like my bf will feel rejected and unwanted if I say no, so we end up doing it every other day anyway. It's not a super big deal to me though, since I can still enjoy it, but it's a bit of a chore sometimes.

[Anonymous No.7618550]

>>7618448
Customs people here are awful. Some of them straight out asked me if I can afford what I'm buying, others ask if it's safe to buy cosmetics online, some other ones ask what I'm gonna do with the stuff I get and for all that I have to go to Vantaa by bus because I don't own a car.

[Anonymous No.7618555]

>be absolutely skinnyfat (160cm 50kg, BMI 19.5)
>look good with clothes on but flabby as fuck without. tummy pudge, flabby ass and upper thighs
>exercise moderately, don't have time, desire or energy to really do much more
>love food and sweets and absolutely cannot restrain myself from eating at least 1 bar of chocolate every day
>feel pretty healthy and never gain weight despite awful eating habits
>...but will never look good in a bikini

Pretty conflicting feels. I always get "oh wow you're so small and skinny" from everyone but they only see me in super flattering clothes that hide my flab, like high waisted skirts that flare out etc. I really wanted to buy a cute bikini for this summer but I've already tried on like 10+ bikinis and I looked horrible in every single one of them. Sigh.

[Anonymous No.7618568]

>>7618555
wow, this is me to a 't'.

I almost feel like it would be better to be obviously larger, at least then when I did show more skin, it would look more in line with my physique and people wouldn't be so surprised or grossed out.

I have friends that are much larger than me but look 100% better - they carry their weight well where as my body shape looks horrific with any fat (god damn cone shape - broad shoulders, no hips, thin legs, med-small boobs).

[Anonymous No.7618575]

>>7618555

I feel you, I`m skinnyfat and I look terrible in bikini as well. T_T

I`m 158cm, 48kg. I lost some weight (4 kg) in the last two months, by eathing healthier AND I was also working out, but it`s not showing at all. I still have a flabby stomach and fat thighs. T_T

[Anonymous No.7618582]

>>7618350
You realize they make western clothes fucking huge compared to azn clothes, right?
Because there are loads of fat westerners who need like 4XL, but asians are generally itty bitty.

[Anonymous No.7618586]

>>7618421
No, I'm actually next in line for manager and we desperately need them. But it's not a high enough position to fire anyone.

Though if he doesn't show up again I'll report his ass to the higher-ups and that'll get him fired.

[Anonymous No.7618591]

>>7617645
awh. I'm sorry, anon. :(

[Anonymous No.7618598]

>>7618209
you're lucky, anon! my bf doesn't really care for my fashion sense... makes me a little disappointed since I try to dress myself nicely in general, but whatever I guess

[Anonymous No.7618612]

>>7618555
I'll always have this problem because no matter how toned I am it's not like I'll ever have a chest to fill out cute bikinis or even one pieces. my chest is extremely flat, to the point where it's like I only have nipples. it's a big source of insecurity for me. it's really hard for me to feel feminine.

thankfully I feel pretty confident about my legs/butt so I try to play them up more and it makes me feel more confident, but the lack of chest crushes me. :(

it makes me mad when girls complain about "small boobs" because nearly 90% of the time they at least have a little boobage that they can play up with a push-up bra, but I'm literally a board.

sorry, throwing up all my insecurities on here this morning.

[Anonymous No.7618631]

>>7618612
These feels.

It actually really pisses me off when women who've had mastectomies say, "I just wish I could feel like a woman again!~"

Well, alright, sucks you had your tits cut off, but at least you fucking HAD tits.

[Anonymous No.7618636]

>>7618345
Enjoy your STDs

[Anonymous No.7618639]

>>7618612
Girl here, and I find super flat chests with puffy nipples in tiny bikinis super fucking hot and cute. Own what you have gurl. Also you could always wear those fluffy ruffled bikini tops.

>tfw 28G
>too small to be impressive too big to be dfc
>average forever

[Anonymous No.7618665]

Which one of you LADIES wants to get FUCKED?

[Anonymous No.7618668]

>>7618612
I don't know if you're insecure because of what others might think or because you don't like them yourself, but I love flat chests to death and I'm definitely not the only one.
>mfw AA cup but still find my boobs too big sometimes

[Anonymous No.7618670]

>>7618668
*A cup

[Anonymous No.7618675]

>>7618367
Go to planned parenthood or some other clinic that helps those who are affected by poverty. You could even pay part of the cost if you are not eligible for the whole thing to be covered.

[Anonymous No.7618687]

>>7618337
why are you so scared about being pregnant? jsut go to a clinic and have them remove that fuck trash from your body

[Anonymous No.7618691]

>32-24-35
>want to cosplay shiki
>carry all of my weight in my massive thighs
>will probably look disgusting in her little skirt

also

>can't find affordable ruffled bandeau to flatter tiny boobs
>no swimsuit that isn't horribly unflattering bikini
>friends want me to go swimming with them
fuck

[Anonymous No.7618696]

>>7616876
Congrats, anon ! I'm moving from the apartment from hell next week too. dat feels. My body (and suitcases. and boxes.) is ready

[Anonymous No.7618711]

>>7618631
It's more painful having something and lost it than never having had it. You know exactly what you're missing out on. Also, you know, cancer. They deserve more sympathy than you solely because of that.

[Anonymous No.7618715]

>>7618665
I'll fuck you. I'll fuck you real good. I'll fuck you in the ass and make a hole for my strapon to go into with my knife <3

[Anonymous No.7618730]

>spent a couple weeks with boyfriend
>in woods, bored, mess around a lot
>he keeps finding lumps on/in my body while exploring
>already knew about small purple lump on side of boob, had it for about a year now
>it's so close to the surface, have convinced self it's just a sebaceous cyst or something
>he finds large hard lump on side of vaginal wall
>he's poking it and I can't feel it, can only feel around it
I don't want to get worked up over my own ignorance, and I really want to go back to not knowing the lump was there, so I'm mostly calm about it. I'm a bit scared though, but I don't even know how to go to the doctor, let alone a gynecologist.. I don't know any insurance info, I don't know which doctor, and the bus system stopped for the summer and my mother has taken full use of the bike for work/school.

>>7618392
If you're asking about the character, pretty sure she's from the visual novel Euphoria. I haven't played it yet and know very little about it so, not sure if it's official or fan art..

[Anonymous No.7618746]

>>7618730
Don't get worked up, first and foremost. Just tell your mom that you would like to see a gynecologist. If she starts asking a lot of questions and you can't tell her about your boyfriend, just say you noticed a weird feeling when you put a tampon in or something and found a bump. Don't be embarrassed to talk to her. Have her help you find a gynecologist on your insurance if your family has it. If you can't borrow the bike, try to find someone to give you a lift.

It's probably not a big deal, but I hope you do get yourself checked out and know for sure. No need to freak out, just be logical and find a way.

[Anonymous No.7618756]

>>7618715
I said ladies, not dykes.

[Anonymous No.7618796]

>>7618536

Good luck, anon.

[Anonymous No.7618798]

>>7618746
Thanks, I really did need to hear that. And that tampon thing is genius! I'm definitely using it.

I'm going to ask my mom about a visit later tonight. I've been denied going before simply because there's no time for either of us to go to any doctor, but maybe it'll be different this time. If not, I guess I'll have to suck it up and ask my dad.

Thank you kind anon!

[Anonymous No.7618801]

>Fall out with a 'friend'
>They form a new friendship group
>Literally full of everyone I dislike from local cosplay comm
>All SJW annoying transtrender type assholes
>Now I can avoid them all in one go

>>7616964
>Friend
If she's your friend, you sound like a shit friend anon. You literally just sound jealous that she's getting more attention than you.

>>7617074
Leave, anon. If they're assholes enough to say shit to your face they're assholes enough to talk shit when you're not there. You deserve better friends than that so block, delete, forget about them and find people you get on with.

>>7617439
Congratulations, anon! I'm super pleased for you, rock your dream dress!!

>>7617833
Oh anon, no, you just broke my heart. I really wanted to order from there.

>>7617992
Its schadenfreude anon, don't feel bad about it, human nature and all that.

>>7618451
You sound like you need to get over yourself. An unattractive person asking for a picture of your cosplay doesn't make them a creeper any more than an attractive person, just because you don't think they're hot. Just say you don't like photos and move on instead of calling creeper or assuming they fancy you.

[Anonymous No.7618803]

>>7618352
Saying hi and keeping your English simple never hurts. Just as where he's from(even if you already know), why he's studying here, how he finds it etc. Keep the topic on English for a while and eventually it will evolve into other topics, just be sure to speak in a manor he'll understand. That's how I did it with a Chinese girl a while ago.

[Anonymous No.7618820]

>fat
>trying to lose weight
>enter starvation mode accidentally because i cant into balance
>start trying to eat healthy again
>gain ton of weight

i will never fit into cute clothes...

[Anonymous No.7618827]

Calculate your BMR and eat below that. You can eat sweets and things you crave as long as you account for them in your daily calories. Losing weight is 80% diet and 20% exercise, but exercising might help "jump start" your metabolism depending on what you do. Good luck, you can do it!

[Anonymous No.7618849]

>>7618687
>calling babies fuck trash
Feminism pls

[Anonymous No.7618987]

>>7617886
I feel you sister

[Anonymous No.7618991]

>bought wig a couple of weeks ago
>check pp
>it had arrived sooner than expected
>never had gotten a notification slip for it
>went to post office today
>service lady said it had arrived in the office, but doesn't see it
>she gave me the supervisor's phone number to reach
>no one answers

Also
>only day off this week
>going home this weekend though
>mom wants the sewing machine and kit back
>should get my costume sewn asap
>it's hot, I'm tired, and I just want to play Sims

[Anonymous No.7619005]

>>7616964

the sandiest vagina I have ever encountered

[Anonymous No.7619021]

>>7618827

Nah, that'll just make your BMR go down. Eat below your TDEE instead.

[Anonymous No.7619024]

>like to wear nice clothes; usually end up looking business casual or like a twee hipster (I don't have the "look" for otome, so it ends up like that on me)
>bf wears slightly large jeans/cargo shorts, graphic tees, and autism shoes; typical nerd garb
>every time I see him: you look so dressed up ehehe, I feel like such a slob
>me: I don't mind, but if it bugs you, you could just wear a casual shirt or something when we're out
>him: but I like being comfortable and I don't have any casual shirts. Everyone at work dresses like this anyway.

Bitch, pls. I'd love to take him to a store and find him some nice clothing, but I don't want to push it, especially since it does seem to slightly bother him. I feel like I'm a nag about some of his habits as it is already.
I don't want him to think that what he's wearing is completely unacceptable, since it's fine with me (at least he keeps his stuff clean and unwrinkled), but his chumpyness does kinda keep us from going to nicer places on dates.

[Anonymous No.7619027]

>>7619024
>autism shoes
What do these look like?

[Anonymous No.7619028]

>>7619021
Whoops, my bad.

[Anonymous No.7619034]

>>7619027
Autism shoes are just running/exercise shoes that are worn with regular, everyday clothing. Like pic.
Usually it's part of the standard boring-guy-in-highschool look, if you get what I mean. Lightish, kinda baggy jeans, and a tshirt.

[Anonymous No.7619036]

>>7619024
omg my bf is the same
>flannel shirt
>jeans
>beanie

every.fucking.day.
I feel those feels

[Anonymous No.7619039]

>>7619024

I'm seconding >>7619027 what DO autism shoes look like?

[Anonymous No.7619042]

>>7619034
I was thinking they would be the ones that have those red lights in them that run up and down the show when you take a step or something.

[Anonymous No.7619044]

>>7619042
Do those come in adult sizes?
I get pretty jelly when I see kids with them, and I'd buy a pair so hard just for the nostalgia value.

[Anonymous No.7619046]

>>7619034
I was thinking merrils

[Anonymous No.7619050]

>im losing weight but still too fat to cosplay most characters
>i have to resort to velma until i lose more
>even so i'll likely never wear a revealing costume because dat depressionfat gave me tons of stretch marks

>buzzed off hair a few months ago because it was bleach burned and i wanted to start fresh
>wear wigs instead of still-short natural hair
>never go out without a wig unless i'm going to work
>my wigs look better than my natural hair ever did
>my natural hair is growing but i'll probably still wear wigs after it gets to the length i'm looking for because it'll most likely be wavy and gross like it was in middle school
>tfw synthetic wigs look better than natural hair, even during average day-to-day activities
>tfw your natural hair is that bad

[Anonymous No.7619090]

>>7619036
>have to use his computer to look something up
>begin a-googlin'
>his search history drops down
>how to find your own style
>change your look

At least he wants to try? I thought that was really cute, regardless of whether he applies any of what he's read, so I don't want to be too hard on him for being a pleb.

[Anonymous No.7619093]

>>7617920
This. And after telling everyone they were "above" selling themselves out they still end up selling prints and trying to be guests. But this is what cosplay has become, every one trying to get their 5 mins of fame.

[Anonymous No.7619111]

>>7619024
That's when you give him nicer clothes as a present. If he's not a brat, he'll appreciate it. It's bad when you're only able to dress like a kid.

[Anonymous No.7619119]

>mfw I'm the only one in my comm who runs group orders
>mfw every time I arrange a G.O. I end up out of pocket
>mfw other members with better jobs than me approach me suggesting that I run orders from store THEY want to buy from because I have "better luck with customs".
>mfw someone has decided she doesn't want her items and backs out when she knows I've paid for them in full.
>mfw despite all this the comm is the best group of friends I've ever had and I don't want to cause drama.

[Anonymous No.7619121]

>>7619090
Aww, that is cute
Idk if mine even wants to try, but the fact that your bf is looking into it means there's hope

>>7619111
My problem is that I'm not sure my bf would even wear it if I bought him something, and he hates me buying him things so he never tells me what size of anything he is

That's a good idea, though, so I might try anyways

[Anonymous No.7619182]

>>7619119
Maybe you should put down some really concrete rules or mention that since you're losing money you don't really want to do it anymore?

[Anonymous No.7619185]

>>7619119
You should really take payment before placing the orders if the people in your comm back out on you.
I mean, what a bitch that girl is. She's either selfish or stupid, or both, if she doesn't understand what she's doing when you order items for her and she tells you she doesn't want them after you've done so.

[Anonymous No.7619199]

>>7619119

You kind of have shit friends if they're taking advantage of you like this, whether they mean to or not. Explain the situation fully to them and tell them it's put you in a financial bind. I'd personally cut contact with them, but it's up to you.

[Anonymous No.7619209]

>>7619024
At least your bf doesn't wear jorts and old ratty high top skater shoes. He has some nice fitting button up shirts but I want him to buy some khakis or something.

[Anonymous No.7619216]

>>7619046
>look up Merrils
Barf. Those look like dad shoes. Probably because they look like a lot of the shoes my dad wears, but still they seem like a pair of shoes that just scream "middle-aged man."

[Anonymous No.7619219]

>>7616760
Invest in an eyepatch?

[Anonymous No.7619229]

>>7619121
Just buy some basic but nice t-shirts and sweaters. Then talk to him about the importance of having a pair or two of nicely fitted jeans, some dress shirts, and layering.

My boyfriend's go to now is dark slim fit jeans, nice belt, dress shirt under a sweater with the sleeves rolled up. It's basic and works for almost every occasion, and doesn't make you look like a man child.

If he really thinks looking presentable in any way isn't important and fights you on something like this, I'd question his maturity. Wear what you want, but you need to dress appropriately for the occasion.

[Anonymous No.7619242]

>>7619182
>>7619199
Yeah I'm giving up on running G.O.s from now on.
If I need to save on/justify shipping, I'll split it with my two bottom bitches, we all like the same kind of stuff anyway and they're rock solid when it comes to paying what they owe.

>>7619185
This has never happened before, and it was someone I've known and trusted for a long time. Surprising, because I used to run orders with newbies, you know, "Get Your First Petti" things to help girls get started and so on, and nothing went wrong even though I knew I was taking a risk.
I think my buddy's just going through some stuff at the moment, and I love the kid, so it's forgivable in that respect.

Still though.
Fucking still.

[Anonymous No.7619249]

>>7619119
I've found the easiest way to prevent this is to charge more than you know you'll need, and then when it comes if there's left over money tell them that customs was cheaper this time or something. Works for me.

[Anonymous No.7619271]

>>7617603
wat

[Anonymous No.7619296]

>lost a bit of weight
>legs still disgusting as fuck
>tfw my legs will be gross no matter how much weight I lose

[Anonymous No.7619306]

>>7619296
>gained a bit of weight
>chest feels (and looks in the mirror) massive
If only I could get this chest feeling without the stomach it comes with.

[Anonymous No.7619351]

>tfw finally getting started with project
>sewing machine needle breaks
>and no back up

[Anonymous No.7619358]

>>7618461
>>7618487
Talk shit, post fit.

Most people on /fa/ on consumers, not producers. Why make something yourself when our lord and saviour designs everything we'd ever need.

[Anonymous No.7619375]

>>7618711
I understand the whole cancer thing. But, like, be happy that you're healthy now and you made it and you're still alive? Stop worrying about your tits.

Breast cancer runs in my family, I've had quite a few family members who've had mastectomies, and they all agree with my thinking. They're all happy to be alive rather than whinin about not having a boob.

[Anonymous No.7619423]

>>7617067
>maybe post on /fa/?
not if she's fat.

[Anonymous No.7619452]

>>7619216
really? since gradeschool ive always seen the mentally challenged kids wear them. i dont know why. maybe theyre easier for them to get on than shoes you have to tie?

[Anonymous No.7619531]

>>7618803
Did she think you were crazy when you went up to her?
That's what I'm having the most trouble on, it's the going up to him out of the blue and just talking to him part. I feel like he'll think "Who the hell is this...." since I'm some random ass stranger trying to start up a conversation with him in the hallway.

[Anonymous No.7619538]

>>7616753
>Plan all outfits months in advance
Anon are you me? I plan outfits before I begin the purchasing process.

On topic:
>Joann's sale last weekend
>Get a ton of shit, only pay $30
>mfw

[Anonymous No.7619540]

>>7619024
>loose potato sack jeans
>all tees everyday
>dad and middle-age women shoes
>being comfortable

I'm with you on bitch please. People can look good and not frumpy and dumpy and still be comfortable. Lazy is your excuse, not comfortable.

[Anonymous No.7619559]

>overweight
>not obese but i'm about a dress size 16
>want to cosplay
>nothing for my body type

thankfully i found out why i couldnt lose weight and with the aid of medication, my weight is now dropping

[Anonymous No.7619566]

>>7617882
Believe it or not my workplace is suffering because several people do this shit:

Person 1:
>ex-Disneyworld Tinkerbell
>Acts all aspartame sweet and everyone and their mother adore her
>No-call, no-shows all the fucking time
>strolls in to begin shift whenever she feels like it
>Managers tell her to come in and shit throws a passive-aggressive hissy fit
>Starts shit with the notoriously awful morning shift people (workplace is like 90% women, go figure)
>If someone calls her out on her slacking she goes "teehee oops"
>bitches about her three jobs she can easily quit and survive on just one
>Tell manager about this shit
>"I don't see the issue."
>mfw

Person 2:
>Double-Wide landwhale, and we have a tiny pathway to work in
>Speaks in the nasaliest southern accent all the time
>Lexicon of a five year old
>She addresses everyone by" HUH HONEEEYYY?????"
>Had a kid as a teen, calls out frequently if her kid is sick, though her mother has custody
>Calls out sick if her feet hurt
>Dumb as dirt
>Moans and bitches if she has to do anything than stand and stare
>Gets all b'awwtastic if you tell her to do her job right and stop leaving shit for everyone else to take care of
>"Wwwwwwaaaaiiii are you so hateful to me?????"

Person 3:
>Actually a nice person to talk to, he's just not all "there". Damn shame, he's a great person
>Ex Crime Investigator, now working the bare minimum of hours to get his insurance while being a comedian on the side
>Wear sunglasses in doors
>Hungover and obviously on something everyday
>All we can do is stick him in the drive through because everything else is too fast paced for him to handle in the morning
>Disappears during shift for up to an hour for no reason
>nonexistant work ethic.

[Anonymous No.7619587]

>>7619538
Yep, I also plan everything out before I place any orders

[Anonymous No.7619631]

There is only one feel that I know

- that feel when no gf.

[Anonymous No.7619734]

>>7619566
>Person 3.
Sounds like he's seen some shit, anon.

[Anonymous No.7619750]

>>7617834
you sound like a giant douche baggins of the shire

[Anonymous No.7619761]

>>7619734
The thing is I've always wanted to ask him but he's just so wrapped up in his world I don't want to jar him. He does a lot of slapstick and doesn't seem to enjoy talking about himself. I've asked others about him and I typically get "Oh, he's always been like that", even from one of my shifts who has known him since they were teenagers.

Facing reality is scary to some people, even to myself.

[Anonymous No.7619762]

>>7619566
>landwhale boss
>stands in the only path from the cash registers to the drive thru to the fryers to anywhere else in the fucking store
>won't move when you say excuse me even if you obviously need to fill an order
>sits at the desk in the back "doing paperwork" 80% of the time when she isn't being snorlax
>is actually just eating and talking on her fucking bluetooth headset
>but is usually just eating
>Too stupid to even take DT orders

"You want a.... number... what was that?"

"Number one with fries and a pepsi."

"Okay so a number one. Do you want fries or another side?"

"... fries.... and a pepsi."

"Okay so fries and... what was the drink?"

People have gotten so pissed off at her they've just LEFT.

Life isn't fair. She gets paid almost $2 / hour more than I do and she literally does nothing.

[Anonymous No.7619789]

>>7618349
yeah i know, we've just been together a long time and condoms bother him. he's completely clean, i'm only his second partner. if I do end up going on the patch or something we've discussed using stuff like a sponge and spermicide.

[Anonymous No.7620137]

>>7618352
I talked to them about it. leave me an email and I'll get to you
both seem to be excited to make friends
both in socal

[Anonymous No.7620344]

>>7619566
>"Wwwwwwaaaaiiii are you so hateful to me?????"
She's going to say it's because she's fat.
God dammit I wish I was fat, it's like cushioning for your ego because OBVIOUSLY nobody is mad at you for anything other than your weight.

Has anyone here actually become angered at someone in real life JUST for being fat?

[Anonymous No.7621149]

>>7620344
Twice, but both times it was because of fat mom's giving their kids gigantic pizzas and venti frappachinno's to their >8 yr olds

[Anonymous No.7622303]

> go visit my grandparents in OTT sweet after coming from a meet up
> says I'm adorable and loves my "costume"
> politely explain that its a japanese fashion
> says "oh thats nice dear, go show your grandpa! but dont tell him its a fashion, just say you came from a costume party okay? Otherwise he will think you're weird, ect"
> Jeez thanks grandma...

[Anonymous No.7622526]

>>7619024

Are you describing my ex-boyfriend? He did the exact same thing. It bothered me so much, because I'm big on being dressy. The worst part is he had a slim, just very slightly toned body from track and hockey in high school, and was 6'2 so he could look /fa/ as FUCK if he really wanted to, but he never cared. I even bought him a nice button-up from American Eagle once and he never fucking wore it. What a waste.

[Anonymous No.7624184]

>>7618545
im having the exact same problem. i dont know if its my birth control messing with me or what but im never in the mood for sex anymore. anytime we do it its just for his sake and he has to do all the work. i feel bad about it but damn. is there female viagra? idk what to do