Seagulls feels thread

[Anonymous No.7594513]

New Feels thread? New Feels thread. I'll start

>browse Innocent World this weekend
>see new underskirt
>reserve it, bought a necklace with it
>IW messages me that the necklace is out of stock, and that I can cancel my order if I want to
>I still want to reserve itI
>I am paying for shipping anyway so brwose site for some other accessoired
>see Lucky Pack is up.
>ohnowhy.jpeg
>I don't have the money for both items
>sit motionless in front of PC, don't know what to do
>drop spaghetti because I remember I also need to answer the email

So I am very very unsure if I should buy the Lucky Pack. With taxes, customs and stuff it would be around $400 for me (Eurofag here, so...) But I am just so thrilled because there might be very nice items in it for cheap, and I might be able to sell the ones I do not like. On the other hand, the market is flooded with their Lucky Pack stuff right now.
What do you think seagulls, worth the money or should I rather spend more money on items I certainly know what I get for and that I want?

[Anonymous No.7594526]

>tfw girls call lolita "Loli"
>tfw was asked (non-jokingly) buy a dude "hey, there's a style of loli fashion for boys right? can you teach me about shota fashion?

why

[Anonymous No.7594529]

>tfw I met up with a couple seagulls from the friend thread
>one of them admitted to laughing at me in an ita thread when I was younger (to my face)
>the other dropped contact randomly after someone made a secret about me right before meeting up despite her having at least 3 secrets about herself

[Anonymous No.7594535]

>>7594513
>just got out of terrible year and a half long relationship
>thankgoditsover.jpg
>fast forward two weeks
>find a new guy
>he’s an absolute gentleman, sweet and handsome
>introduces me to some great shows, we watch anime together often
>also interested in my cosplay hobby
>wants to go to conventions with me and cosplay, too (even suggests COUPLE cosplays)

Everything is SO much better now and I couldn’t be happier! It’s so nice to be with someone that shares the same interests and has a genuine desire to spend time together.
Ugh, my last relationship was really awful. The guy was extremely disrespectful of my apartment, would trash the place and leave me to clean up after him. He criticized my cosplay hobby and made me cry over it literally all the time; he also made non-stop fun of me for watching anime and collecting figures.

[Anonymous No.7594542]

>>7594529
Wow, way to make yourself a drama target.
You shouldn't have posted this, even if it doesn't have names on it it's going to bite you in the ass.

[Anonymous No.7594552]

There's a con I'm going to this weekend and I'm entering the Hall Contest. It's been years since I even seriously thought about entering. I'm not completely happy with my work and I know it isn't accurate cause the artwork is inconsistent anyway but I'm proud of myself because everything else I've sewn in the past has been so simple. I feel like a million butterflies going on. I feel like dropping out because I feel like it isn't good enough

[Anonymous No.7594554]

>>7594535

Good that you managed to get out of your awful relationship, Anon, he sounded like a real toxic jerk.
Congratulations on finding a sweet supportive boyfriend!

[Anonymous No.7594592]

>>7594542
Doubt it. I don't have a tumblr or post pictures online, or even care to attend meet ups. It would just be stories of "that girl" the one who made the secret was just talking about that old outfit of mine.
I never laughed at them In an ita thread about old con photos, or avoided them because of a secret, heck, I white knighted them because they were my friends.
The girl that admitted to laughing at my outfit seemed to have some real issues and too many red flags popped up. Not getting into details.
The girl that dumped me after the secret was super sweet. I wish we still talked, you were so cool.

[Anonymous No.7595288]

>tfw scheduling a paid photoshoot with a cosplay photographer for the first time
>tfw super excited and trying to be friendly
>tfw photographer man is all business and short responses
>tfw scared you're being annoyingly chipper
>tfw now anxious about the whole thing

I'm dumb.

[Anonymous No.7595295]

>love simple, well coordinated lolita outfits
>people always label them as "boring" or "mediocre" if they don't have some fucking costumey OTT element to them
I want to be able to enjoy this as a legitimate fashion and not as a Halloween party afterthought, thank you.

[Anonymous No.7595310]

>tfw I've been home for barely two weeks and already feel like I've gained 20 pounds.

Damn me and my eating.

[Anonymous No.7595314]

>meet girl at a con
>been talking for a while
>she actually shows interest in me
>I think we sort of hit it off
>not sure how to feel
>feeling all sorts of emotion, excitement for this to be something nice, anxiousness that i'd fuck it up
>we'll see how it goes i guess

[Anonymous No.7595322]

>>7595295
>tfw I know that feel

Give me a closet full of elegant black pieces with beautiful details any day and gorgeous accessories any day of the week.

[Anonymous No.7595331]

>>7595295
damn straight.
I especially love print dresses in busy simple coords since it focuses on the print.
also simple oldschool.
I like how you think anon.

[Anonymous No.7595361]

>>7595295
I just wish people would wear argyle tights less, to me it feels like they clash with 90% of the dresses they're worn with...

[Anonymous No.7595510]

>>7594535
Just watch out that he doesn't turn into a supreme gentleman.

[Anonymous No.7595524]

I got engaged and dumped my fiancé after meeting his family last week. It was all going so well too.

He is the best man in the world, I don't know how he could have come from those hateful assholes. They were really nice to my face but I overheard them talking about how "bossy" I am and how "a woman shouldn't be telling a man what to do". Then they started yelling when they asked if our children would learn French or Dutch as the main language (his is Dutch, mine's French) and I said French, because we both agreed that it would be more useful. Then I had to leave.
It sucks when you have to marry the entire family. I said I didn't want to make him choose, but he told me we'll figure something out anyway so I hope this isn't the end of it, although that's what it looks like.

[Anonymous No.7595550]

>accidentally agree to work my birthday tomorrow thinking it was actually on Wednesday for some stupid reason. (My own bad but still sucks)
>working six days a week anyway.
>get home tired and sweaty from work today.
>toilets broken
>it's in my bathtub that I washed fucking yesterday.
>boyfriend thought he was gonna get paid tomorrow and be able to buy me things. (We're broke as fuck because we just moved into a new place yesterday.)
>he finds out he doesn't get paid until the fifth.
>I have to buy groceries because we now don't have that coming in for a few more days.
>was picking up extra shifts so I could afford to get my hair done.
>can't do that now cause groceries.

I hate money. At least my boyfriend cleaned the tub out for me after the plumber left. I think I otherwise would've had a mental breakdown.

[Anonymous No.7595554]

>>7595361
I think you mean harlequin tights, but yeah, I agree

[Anonymous No.7595557]

>>7595524
get married. don't contact his family ever.
if they make snide comments remember that its your wedding and they need to restrain themselves.

I left a man because of his parents once though, so I understand.
I overheard his parents saying they didn't want him to date a black chick.
the relationship tanked after that.

[Anonymous No.7595564]

>>7595524
if you two are serious enough to get engaged, how have you never met his parents until now?

[Anonymous No.7595582]

I hate this kid-obsessed society, and so I like getting away from it by going to conventions.

But then I see the (usually) new moms with their spawn and I'm reminded I can't escape.

A random memory is popping up - there was a girl on this year's Ohayocon facebook page asking what she should dress her boy as, who "will be one". I can't remember if she was talking about 2014 or 2015, but I'm pretty sure the kid wasn't even born yet, either way she wanted to bring a very young child to the cesspool that is an anime convention.

Keep your goddamn kids at home. I've been spoiled by college campus where there is maybe five kid spottings a week. Moms already get so much attention from this baby-worshipping world so why do they need any more from congoers.

[Anonymous No.7595605]

>>7594592
You sound like Nia.
Stop blogging on 4chin and get out more.

[Anonymous No.7595607]

>>7595582
I don't mind kids at cons (especially in cosplay) but keep them the fuck out of panels. And don't look scandalized when there's lewd shit in the dealer's room. You brought your kid to an adult venue - it's on you, not us.

[Anonymous No.7595608]

>>7594513
OP, are you me? I reserved the underskirt and tried to buy a necklace as well (the star one), but the necklace was out of stock. I wanted some hair ribbons too, but they were also gone. I dreaded getting the out of stock email last night and there it was...

I'm just gonna buy a bunch of other stuff instead, I gss (a bag! some socks!). As for the Lucky Pack, I personally wouldn't do it--save your money for items you know will fit your wardrobe.

[Anonymous No.7595614]

>>7595564
They live really far away and we both work here where we live now.

[Anonymous No.7595615]

>>7595605
cute guess.

sorry that you're wrong. again, no one to talk about. just an anon.

[Anonymous No.7595622]

>>7595524

That's such a bullshit reason. You are making a huge deal about nothing and you already admitted they live a long ways away.

You obviously didn't love him if you are dumping him after something like this. At least you didn't marry him first, then decide to be a cunt.

[Anonymous No.7595630]

>>7595582
I'm having my first kid and friends were already talking about seeing him at cons and in costume. I'm pretty much hell no on taking him to cons for awhile. Mostly because I don't feel like dragging a stroller around a con and cons are kind of a germ farm(I swear, without fail, see somebody catching con plague post.)

I'll use cons as mommy me time for now till he's old enough to enjoy it. I was thinking of flying out to Collosalcon in a couple years. That way the kiddo isn't stuck at a con the whole time and enjoy the Kalahari resort.

[Anonymous No.7595636]

>one of many dream Liz Lisa dresses is on Y!Japan
>starting bid 3000yen
>ends in 1 day
>i got this
>overslept
>auction ends
>dress sells for 3900yen
I literally want to die.

[Anonymous No.7595637]

>>7595622
>let me tell you about you
You obviously don't know shit about how marriage works here. I don't want to marry someone whose parents will be slinging shit about me for the rest of my life and call me a French whore or whatever the fuck they make up on the spot, try to get him to divorce me, and so on. If I'm gonna marry someone, I'm gonna marry a person with a normal family who doesn't talk shit because you speak a different language.

[Anonymous No.7595639]

>>7595615
Ignore it anon, its just the cancer of /cgl/ (vendetta bs).
I've been called countless trip names too.

Sorry your experience turned out to be shitty.
I'm pretty sure if someone admitted to laughing at me to my face I'd be pretty upset too.

Though talking on /cgl/ about seagulls isn't always a good thing, but hey, this is a vent/feel thread.

[Anonymous No.7595645]

>>7595636
kind of the other side of the coin:

>auction ends at 530am
>wake up specifically for it
>bidding war ensues with that five minute auto extend on
>went way too high
>end up staying awake for an hour for nothing
>go back to sleep

[Anonymous No.7595660]

>buy a wig early last week from the other side of the country
>event is this weekend
>no wig
>starting to get worried

[Anonymous No.7595666]

>>7595660
>been saving up
>realize con is next month
>need wig
>all wigs I'm interested in "ship in 28 days
I know that feel.

[Anonymous No.7595676]

>>7595666
I waffled on the wig like a dumbass for like two weeks before buying one and now I'm kicking myself. Best of luck to you too, anon.

[Anonymous No.7595708]

>>7595676
you might have to pick a wig from your local wigstore if you can
whats the character?

[Anonymous No.7595713]

>>7595524
what the fuck? Your feel is making me feel. My fiance's mom called me a whore (in farsi) and my parents barely let him in their house. My parents think his family is low class and criminal and his parents think my family is rude and stuck up and that I just care about myself and sex because I'm not dressed like a muslim housewife all the time. I've gotten into fights with my parents where I've called them racist and prejudiced against people that don't have as much money as they do, and he's had to defend me when his stepdad told me I was a fatass (I weigh 120 pounds) because I was eating soup at their house that I purchased with my own money. No one wants us to be together and that just makes us more set on building up a good life together to prove them wrong. It's like, we had amazingly different childhoods. We're from completely different backgrounds, and even as teenagers we were in completely different crowds. But we connect on a fundamental level and aside from all the bullshit, we're very similar. All the family drama just pulls us closer.

If you really think he's the best man in the world, marry him. If you're going to let petty insults come between you and the person you love, you're not going to be able to handle the actual hard real life shit that everyone is going to encounter when they choose to spend the rest of their life with another person.

[Anonymous No.7595720]

>>7595708
I actually bought the wig from a seagull so maybe I'll message her at some point. The character has fluffy white hair and I was having trouble finding a wig with adequate volume. Ended up going with an Arda Inigo because in my experience you have to beat the volume out of the damn things. Just praying it shows up in time for me to style it.

[Anonymous No.7595777]

>3 years ago
>have a small group of friends who lov cosplay as I do
>one girl in particular
>we end up dating
>favorite thing to do is go to Anime Expo
>go every year
>eventually break up
>lose contact with everyone
>depressed the last 8 months
>forgot what it feels like to cosplay
>I miss the joy


Anime Expo is in a month. I'm pretty sure I'm not going to go this year, which is the first time I'm skipping it in a very long time. I'm scared if I go I'll try to find her, which I know she'll be there, but I shouldn't. I know how that'll turn out.

[Anonymous No.7595792]

>>7595777
GO
GO GODAMMIT
HAVE FUN
BREAK OUT OF THE SHELL OF DEPRESSION YOU HAVE CREATED

[Anonymous No.7595799]

>>7595792
b-but I don't want to bug her
we ended on very sour terms (all her doing, though, yet I'm not mad for some reason)

I don't know. I'd feel comfortable as a character that wore a mask.

[Anonymous No.7595805]

>>7595777

That's why you need to come back, badder than ever before.

You know that kickass cosplay you've always wanted to do? The one you couldn't do before because you thought it was better all around to take the easier route for your cosplay? Pick that shit back up. Make your kickass cosplay, and become a hero of Anime Expo. Throw yourself into it, and I mean REALLY throw yourself into it, because this is your moment, this is your time to shine like a fucking diamond.

Because what remains constant across the board is that throw yourself into the fray long enough, you'll start having fun. Eventually all this shit will be behind you, and all that'll be left is you, your cosplay, and Anime fuckin' Expo. The world will be your god damn oyster if you do, but the only way you can is if you pick up your feet, hold your head high, and decide for this one brief moment in time that nothing else matters but the cosplay and the fun.

[Anonymous No.7595816]

>>7595805
t-thanks, anon

I think I'll do that

it's far too late to have anything ready for this year, but I'll make sure to start now on my dream cosplay and have it ready for AX2015

[Anonymous No.7595840]

General feel:

>selling at upcoming con
>people I know go to this, try and look good/professional
>stress out, start getting period
>become Zits McGoo
>you could read Braille on this forehead
>somehow face is also dry. Very dry. Very red.
>be bloated

ugh

[Anonymous No.7595847]

>>7595799
THEN DON'T BUG HER
GET YOUR ASS TO THE CON
IT'S BEEN EIGHT MONTHS
GET YOUR SHIT TOGETHER

[Anonymous No.7595852]

>bf and I have high libidos
>have much higher libido/energy
>he can hardly keep up with me
>fapping doesn't help
>even if we have sex three times in a day I'd still want more
>shredded my vagina tons of times
>if I tell him that I need more, he feels like shit
>get mad at him for no reason
>tfw no anti-viagra

[Anonymous No.7595853]

>>7595852

>tfw no anti-viagra

That's called a kick in the dick, anon.

[Anonymous No.7595866]

>>7595852
You sound like me, except that if I do these 'three times a day' I have spasm attack and/or I faint, so I'm bound to not have any daily sex...
>tfw when forever horny

[Anonymous No.7595881]

>Manage to reserve Lotta on time
>Get first auto email
>Get a second email saying they could reserve me one but will only invoice me once they have reconfirmation from the warehouse
>It's been 4 days
>balls sweatin' thinking they may have forgotten me

Even if it's just a slow reply, I'm dyin' here.

[Anonymous No.7595933]

>>7595608
>OP, are you me? I reserved the underskirt and tried to buy a necklace as well (the star one), but the necklace was out of stock.

Anon, please! I tried to buy the exact same stuff! 2spooky4me

You are right, I'll buy the underskirt and some other small accessoires too. better buy stuff I know that fits my wardrobe.
Luckypacks are just so exciting, and I'm just the right person to fall for them, haha. Maybe one day when i have a bigger budget I will get one just for the lulz.

[Anonymous No.7595969]

>>7595852
Invest in a vibrator? Or possibly visit a doctor because fucking so much you shred your goddamn vagina is just awful.

[Anonymous No.7596026]

I always rag on AP and talk about how dark and goffick I am- but I just bought the Magical Etoile OP in pink and it's the girliest goddamn thing I've ever owned in my life. Constantly told myself I'd never go sweet, but here we are.

I feel kind of like a traitor and I don't know why.

[Anonymous No.7596029]

>>7595852
get a hitachi.
it will change your life.
worth the price. trust me.

[Anonymous No.7596139]

>Decided to study abroad last year in Japan. Got accepted and spent last summer prepping like nuts.
>Before I left, all my friends promised we'd skype or google chat a lot, since they were gonna miss me, and I was gonna miss them obviously
>I've been here for 8 months now, and I have skyped with one of them once.
>Well whatever, there is a huge frickin time gap between here and home (America-fag here)

So I thought I'd just ignoring the fact that my parents and I, as well as a friend from another group, are able to work around this time gap and skype often, and also ignore the fact that these are people who always stay up until like 4am or just don't sleep.
>decide to stick to facebook messages.

Except when ever I put anything in there, there's never a reply. I usually put things like videos and articles, or I'm like, "guys check this out!" No reply. Then they use the same thread to talk about plans they make back home. I feel like I'm invisible. I know I'm way over here on the other side of the world, but I just wish they'd talk to me. Even if it's just talking about their lives. I didn't even care that much until I found out that one of them broke up with her bf and I felt so awful because I wasn't there for her, but at the same time I felt even more awful because when I asked about it, all I got was "yes" and "it's fine." answers.
>did I mention I'm coming back to the states in 3 months?
>Did I mention I'm going to be living with these people?
I was really excited and I know they're really excited as well, but I'm scared now that there will be this year long time gap that's gonna make it even harder to go back home.

>tl;dr My friends haven't spoken to me much during my time abroad, I'm scared it's gonna make it harder to readjust to life at home.

[Anonymous No.7596150]

>Get promoted to ve supervisor at work
>Coworkers dick around and don't listen
>Manager is pregnant and only stands around talking about MUH BABBY
>Boss encourages them to dick around
>"Anon, do everything and you're not allowed to tell others what to do."
>Get fed up, find a new job, put in 2 weeks
>Boss agrees to it but forgets the next day
>"Nooo, anon, it's almost summer. We need you because you're supervisor!"
>Tell him "Nah, you need someone that can stand at the register all day and nobody else is trained to use it."
>This place is gonna crash and burn because they didn't train their employees properly
>Now I have a new job that pays better
>Feels really good, bro

[Anonymous No.7596160]

>>7596139
That happens when you go live in another country. People assume you must be busy studying or whatever. When you get home it'll be just like you never left.

[Anonymous No.7596178]

>in college
>signed up to take a Japanese class this fall because I needed 3 more credit hours to be a full-time student
>want to start wearing lolita around campus, but terrified of my Japanese professor automatically thinking that I'm a weeb.
>the class is Monday, Wednesday, and Friday and the lab is on Tuesday and Thursday, so I can't just wear lolita on the days when I don't have the class (other than the weekend, of course)
>don't want to embarrass myself or my professor, but really want to wear lolita (not like OTT sweet or anything)
>wat do?

[Anonymous No.7596198]

>>7596178
just wear casual, faggot.

[Anonymous No.7596218]

>>7596178
Wear lolita, don't act like a weeb.

[Anonymous No.7596227]

>Was dating a girl for a little over a year
>Broke up at the beginning of this year because of guilt she was feeling over her intimacy issues in a romantic context
>Still super close anyway, on the surface our relationship is still exactly the same, still act overly affectionate with each other regardless
>Said girl is probably the most important person in my life, has helped me through extremely tough times extremely calmly and has put up with all my bullshit
>Intimacy issues on her end over the course of the relationship caused her to say and do things that hurt me, so tries to help me fix these issues after breakup
>Fast forward 5 months, still feel a total romantic attraction to her despite her saying that she has no interest in holding a romantic relationship with everyone
>She knows I'm still in love with her
>Nothing I do makes me feel better about it, feel extremely guilty because maybe my being affectionate is making things worse
>Recent life events have had me kind of retreating into my shell and now none of my other friends will speak to me unless they need something from me
>Feels bad, man

TL;DR, being in love to the point where you're actively harming yourself sucks and I don't know what to do

[Anonymous No.7596229]

>>7596178
I know this feel. I could only bring myself to wear lolita (toned down sweet) to Japanese class twice, once for a presentation on Japanese pop culture and another day just because I wanted to.
I happened to see the head of the department the first time, and she now brings up "gosurori" almost every time we meet.
I don't think they'll think you're a weeb so much as a bit of a weirdo, so long as you don't act like a weeb.

[Anonymous No.7596242]

>>7596178
weeb is more about attitude, less about how you dress, unless of course you have shit taste in fashion and dress like a stereotypical weeb with rainbow toe socks, cat ears and kandi accessories.

[Anonymous No.7596245]

>>7596227
Let it go and learn to function as a single person who doesn't need social and emotional crutches like a romantic interest, partner, or "friends" that may or may not actually give a shit about you.

[Anonymous No.7596248]

>>7596178
I'm in japanese undergraduate and the only person thinking I'm a weeb are raging former weebs. My professors don't care at all.

[Anonymous No.7596261]

>need new bras
>lurk bra thread
>see calculator site
>Well, let's try
>UK 28GG or US 28J
>other sites and chartes recommend a similar cup size

>went shopping today
>went through various dessous stores
>tried on 30+ bras from F to I in various band sizes
>very few bras in my cup size actually available
>actually (75H and 75 I (eurofag size, might be around 28H and 28i) fitted me best
>only three of them really fitted
>went home with 3 new bras and a bikini
>mfw I had to pay 250€ (~$400) for everything
>went home almost crying because I felt like a disgusting unsexy cow

Jesus fucking Christ. I am glad I found fitting bras, and the sales women were very helpful and supportive, but unfortunately all the bras my size were so fucking expensive. In the end I did not even care anymore, I just took them because they fitted.
I do not even have the motivation to look online now, because I tried six brands in the same size and exactly two brands (which were also the most expensive one) actually fitted. Not gonna pay another $$$ on bras that might not fit too. And the brands that actually fit me is the same price online...
I just wish I had cute, normal sized boobs ;_;

>tfw you will never have cute little boobs
>tfw you will never be able to buy cute lingerie
>tfw all your bras will be expensive

[Anonymous No.7596265]

>>7596245
Yeah, I'm trying to work at letting go of it. Sometimes I feel like I'm going ten steps backwards though, especially because I do still spend so much time around them. I can't bring myself to fully break away from them, either, since they use me as a crutch as much as I do them...

I don't know, is 5 months too long for me to still be holding on to this? I'm hoping it'll just subside with time.

[Anonymous No.7596266]

>>7595852
>tfw I only feel like fucking once a month...
>during my period

But luckily, I already have someone in my life. Just imagine trying to find a BF when you don't like to put out and aren't a good faker.

[Anonymous No.7596269]

>in awesome relationship
>moved overseas to be with person
>trouble finding work because visa and immigrant
>befriend girl working at store I play magic at
>tells me she's a lesbian and her gf lives in another state
>ask if they plan to move in together and if it's super srs
>says her gf has anxiety about moving and that she can't move, either, because full time job
>comments about my boobs every time I go in
>stares at me a lot
>has opened up to me a lot about stuff
>manages a 2nd shop in another city
>go into that shop as it was one I previously played at
>offers me a job when she gets her contract signed
>agree
>comes to a friends place with me and bf
>has fun and enjoys herself
>take her home at 3 am

It's an interesting but weird friendship. She's funny but can be hard to get along with as she's extremely pretentious. I would be 100% okay working for her, but a lot of people don't like her. I'm not really sure if this friendship would be good in a working environment

[Anonymous No.7596271]

>>7596265
It's not just time that you need, it's also distance. I read somewhere that you shouldn't love people that make you feel like you're hard to love, or something. And if she's making you feel bad and no longer requiting feelings, what can you do? Above all, you need to help yourself. Be satisfied and be glad with yourself first. Focus on things you like, do things you've always wanted to do, etc.

Just don't fucking hurt yourself because of this. That gets you nowhere. Five months is nothing that you still can't surpass.

[Anonymous No.7596279]

>>7596271
Mmm.. I suppose you're right, anon. I don't necessarily think it's that she makes me feel hard to love -- since she's probably the only person in my life who makes me feel loved at all -- but I feel guilty about distancing myself from her when she's done so much to help me. I probably wouldn't be here right now if it weren't for her, so I feel like I owe her a lot.

Thank you, though, anon. It's hard for me to talk about this to anyone I know so being able to talk about it anonymously is somewhat comforting.

[Anonymous No.7596287]

>2 wishlist dresses up for sale - one on auction, another on an online shop
>both are in my preferred cuts and colors, but I'm trying to be better with my spending habits so I can only go for one
>choose to go for the auction dress since I like it more
>place my bid as last minute as I can
>another bidder magically appears after SS shuts
>my bid was placed at my up most limit just in case another bidder popped up
>new bidder pushes price well over my limit and over what the piece is worth
>think about trying another SS to place a higher bid, but I decide to let it go
>consider buying second dress instead
>check site, it's since sold

I know they'll pop up again, but I'm kind of bummed that I missed out on both just because I was trying to be good with my money.

[Anonymous No.7596310]

>>7595550
If you just moved in wouldnt the landlord be a bit responsible for the toilets working? Unless your after the first week period

[Anonymous No.7596312]

>>7594552
I think you shouldn't drop out. Contests are fun.
But think about it this way: which one will you regret later? Not participating with a dress you love because you are afraid what others will think about accuracy, or participating with a dress you may find awful later and feel ashamed.
But is the dress bad, or well-sewn just not totally accurate? Pictures?

[Anonymous No.7596339]

>>7596026
>I feel kind of like a traitor and I don't know why.

Don't. Tastes change, that only means you encounter new things you like. Why limit yourself to one thing? Fuck labels and enjoy your pretty dress!

[Anonymous No.7596350]

>>7596198
>>7596218
>>7596229
>>7596242
>>7596248
Thank you guys for the advice, I really appreciate it. It's good to hear from others who have been in similar situations, too. I've been pretty worried about this, but I don't really act like a weeb or have bad fashion sense, so I guess my fears of being seen as a weeb are kinda dumb.

[Anonymous No.7596358]

>>7596310
Landlord did pay for it and actually got it done really quick which was great. It's still pretty crushing though when you're a housekeeper and can't shower immediately after getting home.

Sitting around in sweat and other peoples toilet water is so gross.

[Anonymous No.7596380]

>>7595969
>>7596029

I have dildos/vibes. They do nothing for me if I feel like I need more dicking, it just reminds me of the sex I'm not having at the moment.

I'm probably going to get tested for testosterone or PCOS, but I'll just deal with it for now..

[Anonymous No.7596381]

>>7596266
I can't imagine just having sex once a month. I would go insane.

[Anonymous No.7596384]

>is it just me or has /cgl/ been weird lately
>catalog not updating often
>new posts but front page doesn't change

Sometimes it moves, but at hours at a time they just stay the same.

[Anonymous No.7596407]

>>7594535

i hate you for your newfound happiness

[Anonymous No.7596469]

>>7594513
>tl;dr under a lot of stress, life in a downward spiral
>gain ten pounds, heaviest I've ever been, was already classified as morbidly obese
>I moved, bought a bike, kept my diet the same, and gained weight
>refuse to group cosplay with friends in a month because I didn't lose any weight in the year or so I've known about the meetup
>nervous to even go
>scared I'll be too old for my dream costumes if I finally manage to lose any weight at all

[Anonymous No.7596502]

>>7595666
Maybe buy from Lockshop? I'm sure there's also other wig stores that ship fairly quickly too.

[Anonymous No.7596528]

>>7595852
>>7596381
Current boyfriend won't have sex with me until he's "in love." It's been a few months now; absolutely no sex. My libido is through the roof and I'm silently suffering/going crazy.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7596542]

>Take train to see sempai
>Listening to music on shuffle (I have my headphones in 9000% of the time)
>Train pulls into the station, I get up to exit
>Be super nervous and anxious about how seeing him will go
>'The Only Exception' starts playing on my iPod as I step off the train and see him
>Whoa this is like a movie
>Feel much more at ease all of the sudden
>Little happy feels everywhere, all is well

It was like the universe was telling me that it would be okay. I love it when little things like this happen.

>>7594552
Enter the contest! You'll regret it later if you don't and it will probably be a lot of fun! And who knows? You may even get an award~

>>7594535
Congrats, anon!

>>7595550
Yikes, that's terrible. Anyway, happy birthday anon!!! I hope you have a nice day even if you have to work!

>>7595582
>Bringing a one-year-old to a con
Oh hellll no. Maybe once the kid's old enough to not need 24 hour care. Bringing a one year old to a con just means you'll be babysitting the whole damn time and you won't be able to go to panels, loud events, or have any type of normal con experience. Also, I hate it when parents dress their kid up like they're some type of prop. They're a human being, not a doll for you to play dress up with.

>>7595792
>>7595805
THIS
GO FOR IT ANON
JUST GO TO THE CON AND MAKE LOTS OF NEW FRIENDS AND PARTY AND COSPLAY AND TAKE A BILLION PICTURES AND HAVE LOTS OF FUN
BELIEVE IN THE ME THAT BELIEVES IN YOUUUU

>>7596178
The professor most likely won't care at all or think you're a weeb; they'll, if anything, most likely think it's cool you like jfashion. They've probably seen so many full on disgusting weebs that a well-dressed jfash enthusiast would be refreshing to see.

>>7596227
>>7596261
Aww, anons, I'm sorry. I wish I could give you a hug; that sucks.

[Anonymous No.7596547]

>>7596502
Lockshop only ships out once a week though, anon just missed the window too (so did I, which sucks since I'm in the same boat!)

[Anonymous No.7596549]

>just lost around 10 lb to look better for con season and to fit into my cosplays better
>it was total pain in the ass (skinnyfat)
>my boyfriend mentions he's into chubbier women and liked me better with the extra weight.

I'm torn between looking cute in cosplay and having a happy boyfriend (plus desserts). Boyfriend said he doesn't really care about the weight, it's up to me, etc.

[Anonymous No.7596578]

>tfw asked my gf to marry me and she said yes
Now I got something to figure out, how to make her accept a pre nup.

How can I do that without the whole "why don't you trust/love me?" situation?

I love her but I don't want her walking away with half my stuff if she ever cheats on me, especially when I make 8x more than her.

[Anonymous No.7596582]

>>7596578
"I would like you to sign a pre-nup.
Nothing personal, just for your safety and mine."
If she throws a bitch fit try again later. If she does it again it'll be clear what she is after.

[Anonymous No.7596605]

I broke up with my physically and emotionally abusive boyfriend of 1.5 years earlier this week.
It's lonely. I hate it. I want to talk to him and hang out with him. He was really fun to be with when he was in a good mood.
But I know I have to get over it.
I want to see him. But if I see him I'm 100% sure he'll hug me really tight and tell me he's sorry for everything and that he needs me (like he has every other time we "broke up"), and then I'll cave and scurry right back to his side.
He accidentally left his cosplay at my place though, and I know I have to somehow give it to him. Ugh.

I'm trying to be strong.

Related: Parcel at the post office from last week but it's too hot to walk to the post office.
Hopefully it'll cool down this evening and I'll go on a stroll.

[Anonymous No.7596612]

>>7596605
When you go to the post office, mail him his cosplay back. Two birds with one stone.

[Anonymous No.7596627]

>>7596549
What would make you happy? If you think you'll feel like shit if you gained the weight again, then don't do it. Being miserable for someone else is never worth it.

[Anonymous No.7596629]

>>7596549
>Boyfriend said he doesn't really care about the weight
lol
He wouldn't have mentioned it otherwise.

[Anonymous No.7596634]

>>7596605
I'm really glad you broke up with him. He sounded like he was just bringing you down and you didn't need that kind of negativity in your life

[Anonymous No.7596727]

>Live in tiny apartment
>Air conditioning being repaired
>It is hot and humid as hell, 100+ in hear
>Have 2 cats
My land lady called me today saying that the repair men whined that my apartment smelled like cat litter? And the building is going to come to inspect my apartment, demanding to know how many cats I have..
Really? Just, REALLY? I have 2. I told her when I adopted them years a fucking go. I knew I had pissed of the repair people because the jackass kept walking into a pile of deconstructed boxes I had against my wall. The asses also dumped some random cleaning solution on my kitchen floor and did not bother to tell me about it.
I just fucking can't. I hate random people in my apartment spying on my personal life.

[Anonymous No.7596810]

>>7596727
Do you regularly clean your litter box? What'd you do to piss of the repairmen?

[Anonymous No.7596813]

>Comm starts up a little sister/big sister program
>Want to become a little sister to improve and whatever
>Look at all the big sisters
>Half of them cant dress themselves for shit and their example coords and pretty bad
>Terrified I'll get matched up with the girl who organizes comm events
>I literally cringe at her coords

[Anonymous No.7596816]

>>7596813
Is this by chance about SO new Big/Lil group?!

[Anonymous No.7596818]

>>7596816
it sure is

[Anonymous No.7596820]

>>7596810
I doo, it just stank because it was so fucking hot...It's not like it smelled like cat feces ether, just strongly of cat litter.
He just kept getting increasingly angry about walking into the boxes?

[Anonymous No.7596828]

>>7596820
Did you at least offer to move the boxes out the way?

[Anonymous No.7596845]

>>7596612
Not sure if I want to spend $12 just to send it to his house, even though it's only a 10 minute drive away.

>>7596634
G-gonna be A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN.
I became really dependent on him while I dated him, especially because it was during my "developing teen years" (I'm only 18 right now).
So I feel like the relationship shaped my lifestyle and personality a lot too. I'm at a loss without him right now.
>how do i have fun without him
>who do i cry about lolita to without him
>who do i hang out with when i'm bored

>>7596813
>>7596816
I hope I get paired up with a good big sister.
If not, I'm just going to quietly back out and tell my onee-chan that I'm going to take a break from lolita to save up for university.

[Anonymous No.7596846]

>>7596813
You probably think Im one of the shitty ones then, haha. But a good chunk of the Big sisters are offering classic so the chance you will get that person isnt that high.

[Anonymous No.7596852]

>>7596845
Considering you said he's going to try to manipulate you as soon as you're with him in person (and imo if he's physically/emotionally abusive he didn't leave something with you on accident), whatever you can do to minimize face time while you're still vulnerable is worth it. At the very least bring a friend with you.

[Anonymous No.7596857]

>>7596828
No, he came in right as I was getting ready to leave for work so I was scrambling to get dressed and ready with a repairman in my apartment. Kinda feel bad about it now but whatever.

[Anonymous No.7596864]

>>7596605
Find other people to talk to. Friends, family, online, whatever. Don't go back to him no matter what he says or how lonely you feel because you will regret it. Be strong, and know that you, like anyone else, deserve a relationship with zero abuse.
You can do it, anon.

[Anonymous No.7596934]

>>7596578
why do you think she's going to cheat on you?

>>7596605
congratulations! you have done something incredibly difficult for people to do. stick with it, he is not sorry, he will hurt you again. box up his cosplay and mail it to him with a faked address, or if he insists on picking it up, meet at a neutral space (somewhere public like a coffee shop) and have someone with you to pull you out of the situation if necessary. again, you have done an amazing thing, and if you're strong enough to leave him, you are strong enough to stay away from him. it's lonely, but it is the best thing you could have done for yourself.

[Anonymous No.7596938]

>>7596934
>why do you think she's going to cheat on you?
That's not the point. The point is that I can't be 100% sure she won't.

[Anonymous No.7596939]

>Friend constantly posts art from tumblr/deviantart/pixiv and claims it as her own
>Call her out multiple times and she always pulls the teenage "why you talk shit about me? My true friends blah blah blah" crap
>Look through instagram and see that she's attempting to get an artist alley table at NYCC
>There's no way in hell she's getting in with stolen artwork
>She's planning to table share to avoid this
>Not sure if I should put effort into looking for all the original artists of her "drawings" and let them know

[Anonymous No.7596951]

>>7596939
>Not sure if I should put effort into looking for all the original artists of her "drawings" and let them know
Why are you not sure?

[Anonymous No.7596956]

>>7596938
Are you close with your family? Maybe say it'd make your parents happy or something. Or just tell the truth and talk it out. If you're going to get married, you're going to have to get used to that shit.
Congrats on getting engaged, anon.

[Anonymous No.7596966]

>>7596549
always follow your own goals, don't do shit for other people.

[Anonymous No.7596976]

>>7596582
"your safety and mine"

This. It's not just for you. She may cheat and leave and you don't want her to take half of your stuff under those circumstances. Or you may cheat and leave and she'll be jobless and careerless because she gave it up to be a stay at home mom or something. Don't write it up yourself to cover only your ass and ask her to sign it, see a legal representative together to get one that is fair to you both.

[Anonymous No.7596987]

>>7596845
I entertained the idea of you ding dong ditching the guy to return the cosplay, with a friend in a getaway car.

[Anonymous No.7596991]

>tfw the few lolitas in my comm I was actually friends with have changed a lot for the worse in the past year
>used to be super close with one of them, reconnected with her recently after studying abroad and all she can do is complain and one up you
>other friend who I reconnected with looks down on me a lot and is always kind of rude to me on facebook
>attempt to be friends with her anyway, but get to the end of my rope
>the rest of my comm is 35+ year olds with good jobs who can throw down $50 on tea and crumpets every week
>every event they plan is elegant as fuck but boring and $50+
>the rest of the comm is broke sperglord awkward noobs

>fuck this comm

>tfw I freed myself, deleted most of the lolitas off my FB, left all local lolita FB groups

gonna just be a solo lolita from now on. I've always loved the fashion but hated who it forced me to be around.

I wish my comm had some people my age (21~25 ish) who liked to go to chill concerts or trendy bars or whatever rather than yet another Asian tea place or museum in assfuck nowhere filled with dusty boring shit.

[Anonymous No.7596992]

>>7596951
I'm just not ready for the huge wave of drama she's gonna send my way. Since I'm the only one that figured her out, she'll know that I'm the one that snitched on her.

[Anonymous No.7596999]

>>7596991
This sounds exactly like my comm. If you live anywhere near me, I'll take you around to all the nice cheaper tea rooms and feed you crepes.

[Anonymous No.7597002]

>>7596999
Are you in Canada? That sounds really nice. Lets' get crepes and then get beers over some sick ass calamari, or go to the horse races and do some petty betting.

[Anonymous No.7597006]

>tfw you want to go home and sew your cute dress

>1hr30min train ride

I need to learn to knit or some shit.

[Anonymous No.7597010]

>be camgirl
>tfw I want to wear lolita on cam to see if it brings in some extra revenue for novelty factor but I'm worried someone will recognize the fashion/me in the fashion and post me to cgl or btb

[Anonymous No.7597012]

>>7596938
then why are you marrying her? i've always thought that marriage was an agreement between two people to stay committed to each other, no matter what. not really something you do even if you're scared the other person may cheat, no matter how remote. but, it's your relationship and i guess not really my business.

[Anonymous No.7597018]

>>7596992
Pull a Tumblr and hide behind 'justice' and 'righteousness.' I really doubt anyone will back her up for stealing art, TBH, much less trying to profit from stolen work, so you really aren't in the wrong at all for outing her. Even if your intentions might simply be the fact that you're sick of her shit rather than justice for the original artists, she's still attempting a shitty thing stupid tweens on dA do and it sounds like she needs to grow the fuck up.

[Anonymous No.7597019]

>>7597002
Unfortunately, I'm in NY and my comm (except for team seagull) is known for being very shitty. I would teleport you over all the crepes and thick pancakes if that were possible.

[Anonymous No.7597021]

>>7596845
You can always cry to me about lolita!!

[Anonymous No.7597028]

>>7597019
Aww that's too bad.
Well if I ever go out East I'll try to remember to post on cgl about it haha.

[Anonymous No.7597035]

>>7597019
oooohhh, Albany, NYC victorian ladies, or NY lolitas?

[Anonymous No.7597039]

>>7596605
Anon if you ever need to talk I'm available too!

You are doing the right thing for your long term mental and emotional health, I think.

Like another anon mentioned I liked the idea of ding-dong ditching the cosplay at his doorstep. You could also ask a friend to deliver it if you have any reliable close friends.

[Anonymous No.7597050]

>>7597012
For me no relationship is "no matter what", if you cheat you're dead to me.

For me a pre nup is like an insurance, even more because 90% of our income comes from my work.

[Anonymous No.7597055]

>>7597050
Maybe try to explain to her that it's to protect her interests as well. Don't make it all about you and your trust issues.
Point out that if she gets a great job or a big inheritance or whatever that it protects her finances as well.

[Anonymous No.7597058]

>>7596818
I'm glad I am not the only one who felt that way, I almost joined thinking maybe it would let me see the comm in a different light but once I dug a bit deeper I decided hell no I'm better alone~
Are you active in the SO comm?
I am a solo fag that just lurks because I doubt I would get along with anyone in the comm/have any similar interests. Can't stand the mods either from the online interaction I have had with them, they seem so two faced and self absorbed. And of course the dramu says they're all elitists that like to tear members apart behind their backs.

What do you think about SO anon?

[Anonymous No.7597059]

>>7597050
>Dating someone you have to financially support as if they're a child
>Risking your money in an age where prenups get thrown out of court anyway
You have better chances of surviving a jump off the Golden Gate bridge than you do your money being unaffected. You might as well just not get married.

[Anonymous No.7597060]

>>7596846
is Cadney bigging for classic because that is fucking scary!

[Anonymous No.7597062]

>work really hard on a cosplay for the weekend, it's looking really amazing
>style wig myself and everything, though it's heavy
>get photos back from the con
>fringe of the wig is halfway up my forehead in 90% of the photos

this is why it's important to use brand-new wig caps and lots and lots of pins, people

[Anonymous No.7597063]

>>7597055
Well I'm not sure about that approach since her whole family is poor as hell and I don't see her achieving much professionally.

>>7597059
>Dating someone you have to financially support as if they're a child
I don't mind it, I like the idea of her working part time and taking care of our future children.

>Risking your money in an age where prenups get thrown out of court anyway
That doesn't happen in my country. An uncle of mine cheated on his 2nd wife(he cheated on the 1st one with the 2nd one) and they got divorced and he got everything because he had a prenup. And they even have a disabled child together and not even that made him lose the rights to his money.

[Anonymous No.7597066]

>TFW I finally bought one of my dream dresses

I'm really excited. The BF doesn't like it (the only dress I want that he doesn't like, ofc) but holy shit I can't wait for it to get here.

Trying to find accessories is agonizing, though.

[Anonymous No.7597076]

>>7597058
I think the girls in the comm are really nice, I've never really heard much dramu about anyone in the comm. I'm not really active, just more of a lurker.

>>7597060
Nah she did a little sister application for classic and a big sister application for sweet

[Anonymous No.7597078]

>>7597058
What mods have you heard that about? Also what are your interests?

>>7597060
Actually she is wanting to be a little sister for classic. Obviously she wants to mentor sweet since she knows she is good at that.

[Anonymous No.7597093]

>>7597078
My interests are other Alt Fashions like Cybergoth and Steampunk. Synthetic and real dreadlocks. Video Games and obscure/weird anime. When it comes to Lolita my only interests are Gothic and a few sub styles. I am totally autistic when it comes to social interaction with other females.

[Anonymous No.7597102]

>>7597093
Well, in the comm there are a few gothic girls out there, some are goth outside of lolita too. I think there are at least a couple who are mentoring who fit the general alt culture stuff. Video games and anime is a pretty common interest in lolita overall, but the SO comm has plenty of people who are into both of those. So if anything, it would be your personality that would be in the way, as all of your interests are present in people who are active.

[Anonymous No.7597106]

>>7597035
I went to meetups before the great divide happened and I just fell off the radar and became a lone lolita. I lurk NYC lolitas once in a while and avoid Victorian Ladies like the plague.

[Anonymous No.7597111]

>>7597102
Good to know anon. Thanks. Yeah sadly that's the one thing I can't change no matter how hard I try. Maybe one day I'll give it a try with the SO ladies.

[Anonymous No.7597116]

>>7597111
Why not at least try now? I dont know how well the thing will end up being but, it is a good way to at least meet people one on one if you are new. You probably arent as bad as you think socializing too.

[Anonymous No.7597120]

>Finding a hard sought dress for ridiculously cheap
>In a size 2 or 3 times bigger than will fit
>terrified to alter it but not sure if i'll ever see it this cheap again

[Anonymous No.7597123]

>>7597120
Use the money you saved on the cheap dress to go to a seamstress to alter it.

[Anonymous No.7597134]

>>7597010
Yeah not a good idea, people tend to not like other people who sell out their hobbies and stigmatize them further.

[Anonymous No.7597136]

>>7595605
>hurr durr hi nia
Seriously. Just fuck off.

[Anonymous No.7597156]

>>7597116
It's definitely something I will consider but it all depends if I can get the time off for meet-ups. That also tends to work against me. I even ended up missing all of AN because of work.

[Anonymous No.7597165]

>>7597156
The big sister/ little sister thing is online based though, so you can still participate.

[Anonymous No.7597194]

>>7597165
I'm still thinking on it but if I recall you were short on Gothic bigs so I wouldn't want to take that from someone who actually needs it more. I have been a lurker for quite some years, worn some ita co ords and learned greatly from them. But I will sleep on it, you are refreshingly real and honest which is what I love about /cgl/. Makes me wonder a bit who you actually are.

[Anonymous No.7597200]

I thought I would get darker for a cosplay that I'm doing Friday through Sunday, since I'm not pale but I'm fairly white.

So, Sunday I went out and laid in the sun. I laid in the fucking bare heat for two hours, no idea that it would wreck me.

Well, I'm thoroughly wrecked. My face and body might have looked good before, but no longer when my torso is suddenly more doughy with how swollen it looks and my forehead is swollen, too, and I look like I'm permanently blushing.

I'm just gonna hope I'll be okay by Friday, or any chance of that cosplay looking good are gone. My torso looks nearly purple, and my face is dry from all this Aloe Vera.

Gonna keep caking that shit on, I guess.

[Anonymous No.7597235]

>tfw my bust is huge and have to buy "plus size" blouses
>tfw plus size sales on fb is a hub of possibly the ugliest ita clothes I have ever seen, AND it's overpriced
>get offered a bunch of "loliable" thrift store and f21 blouses for $25 + shipping

Fuck this shit, I'm off to Taobaaaooooo

[Anonymous No.7597245]

>>7597235
>most taobao blouses
>fitting huge boobs

Have you thought this through?

[Anonymous No.7597251]

>>7597245

Some stores have custom sizes, and some taobao stores offer bigger bust sizes than most brand items have.

[Anonymous No.7597256]

>>7597245
>noob detected

[Anonymous No.7597262]

>>7597251
That, or go to the floral network or bunny house for their custom sizing.

[Anonymous No.7597265]

>>7597136
this. its the cancer of /cgl/

[Anonymous No.7597270]

>>7597200
Earl grey tea.

Make a shitload of earl grey tea, soak towels in it, lay them on your burnt bits for as long as you can. It'll help with the pain AND to fade the purple.

Also you're a god damn idiot.

[Anonymous No.7597272]

>>7597270
Let it cool first of course. Don't put hot-ass tea on your sunburn.

[Anonymous No.7597277]

>tfw you get photos back from a fashion show you did
>they look fucking terrible
>all your friends and family love them and say you look fantastic
>????

[Anonymous No.7597284]

>>7597270
I'll look into that.

I laughed at the fact that I'm an idiot - I totally feel like one right now.

[Anonymous No.7597348]

>no friends except boyfriend
>he's the type of boy I could spend the rest of my life with, he's my best friend, we work pretty well together (except for some major issues we're currently ignoring)
>also I'm really young and I don't want to settle down right now
>it's a LDR right now and all we can do is Skype until he moves here again
>not even sure when he can get here
>massive crush on a guy I go to school with who likes me too
>always wanted to have a boyfriend I went to the same school with and I find him so much more attractive than my boyfriend
>don't know if I'd have the same chemistry with this new guy as I do with my current boyfriend
>can't talk to my boyfriend about negative things or he cries for at least an hour because he can't handle it
>don't want to end up even lonelier than I already am, don't want to hurt my boyfriend and lose him forever
>feel bored and horrible constantly except when talking to boyfriend or crush
>tfw awful person

[Anonymous No.7597354]

>>7597348
>try to shop plus size on taobao
>so many stores don't have fat people modeling even though they sell plus size
It's like a chef not eating his own food...suspicious.

[Anonymous No.7597370]

>>7597348
You cant really say you are working well together if you have major issues, and if you are ignoring them that makes it worse as that is a communication issue on its own.

You do need to get peopl besides these 2 dudes to talk to, so since you are at school..open up to people. Join clubs and talk to classmates and shit.

[Anonymous No.7597383]

>>7597348
ngl your boyfriend sounds really emotionally manipulative. Maybe he really can't handle negative shit, but if every time you want to discuss an issue between you he starts bawling his eyes out it just sounds like he's doing that to avoid change. He's forcing you into compliance by avoiding ever changing anything that benefits him.

You're really young and you don't wanna settle down yet, as you said, so I think if you feel unhappy in the relationship and your eyes are starting to wander it might be time to move on.

But if you're super happy and still in love with your boyfriend despite problems, either accept that you can be attracted to other guys without wanting to date them or look into polyamory/open relationship.

[Anonymous No.7597410]

>>7597348
Wow it totally sounds like you have a GREAT relationship with your boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.7597453]

>>7597370
They're the kind of issues where they're not bad now, but they'll get really bad later. We both have pretty severe depression. I can't talk to him about it or he freaks out. I'm worried I won't be able to break up with him without him hurting himself.
Most people at my school are 21+. I talk to plenty of people, I just have to find people my own age outside of school to actually hang out with.

>>7597383
I think he just really can't handle it. He's not manipulative otherwise. I'm worried that I won't find someone like him again, though. I wish I'd met him 5 years in the future when we both had our personal issues worked out.

[Anonymous No.7597457]

>started therapy two weeks ago
>haven't self-harmed in those two weeks
>been journaling near daily
>trying to get eating under control so I can lose more weight (20 pounds to go, had a setback with getting a new job.)
>therapist says one of my main problems is that I have a lot of irrational negative thinking, especially towards myself
>she's fucking right god damn

I can't even remember the last time I thought of something positive about myself.

To kinda stay on topic;

>getting cosplays ready for a con in November
>so close, yet so far

[Anonymous No.7597458]

Depression and an undiagnosed chronic illness hit me hard a few years ago, allowing my weight to quite literally sky rocket. I have worked hard to bring it down to manageable weight. I fit into quite a few brand pieces, which I am pleased with, seeing as finding the lolita community helped aid me in recovering from the mental side of things. I am quite often complimented on my coordinating skills, and my eye for details. However, I find that the plus size community (which I am still very much apart of) calls me an elitist who doesn't sympathize with fat lolitas (though I am one.) I worked a full time job with over time to allow myself to piece together a small, but nice lolita wardrobe. I gave up time with friends to earn money for college tuition with clothing as a small reward. Some of them are even smaller than myself. The girls I used to call my friends have abandonned me for the sake of making a point, for "calling out the brand whores." I have just made the choice to work hard for what I want. Sorry, I'm rambling. I'm too put together for the fat girls, but too fat for the thin girls, it seems.

[Anonymous No.7597491]

>>7597348
>can't talk to my boyfriend about negative things or he cries for at least an hour because he can't handle it

[Anonymous No.7597578]

>>7594535
what the hell did you see in him in the first place

[Anonymous No.7597596]

>>7597200
Oh my god I had an incredibly bad sunburn like this last year. I couldn't move for a week. Praying you get better soon anon.

[Anonymous No.7597597]

>>7597348
>>7597491

Not bashing you, but can just doing a little self-awareness here: Does crying a lot or a being a oversensitive in relationships come off as being emotionally manipulative?

[Anonymous No.7597602]

>>7597010
I got some used/ cheap Bodyline stuff just for that reason. Don't really care if I get posted or laughed at, because I make a lot of money with what I'm doing and I genuinely love lolita.

Also, I look nothing like I do when not in camwhore gear- so it's all good. Just make yourself unrecognizable or don't do it if you're too worried.

[Anonymous No.7597610]

>>7597348
This sounds exactly like my last relationship. If you get to a point in an LDR where you can feel that things are never going to turn into a "normal" relationship, then it's time to end it. You really don't sound happy with this dude, anon. I'll tell you one thing, LDRs are 100x easier to get over than "regular" relationships. It sounds mean but it's true, he would get over it very quickly as well.
Wishing you the best.

[Anonymous No.7597620]

>>7596627
>>7596629
>>7596966

I told him that he can think I'm sexier when I'm older and the inevitable happens naturally :P

Thanks for the advice!

[Anonymous No.7597625]

>>7597597
It's either being emotionally manipulative, or being too emotionally immature to handle a relationship at that time.

[Anonymous No.7597629]

>Love circle lens
>Be hyperopic and have a lazy eye without visual aid
>Don't have $70+ to drop on contacts that only last about a month

When I wear prescription contacts and glasses my eye straightens, and I can see fine without either tbh. I just don't want to look stupid as fuck in order to have cutely large eyes.

[Anonymous No.7597631]

>just spent the last three hours taobao shopping
>knocked the cart down to four items
>$174 with shipping included
>IT'S STILL SO FUCKING HARD TO HIT THE SUBMIT ORDER BUTTON OH GOD WHY
I like this dress but I want to save for CDC release in another month too. Holy shit.

[Anonymous No.7597634]

>>7597631
I would have liked it a lot more in sax to be honest.

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7597635]

>>7596845
>who do I cry about lolita to without him
Honey, you're in the exact right place to cry about lolita whenever you want. Also, why not have a friend just drop it off at his place? I'm thinking that he definitely left it with you on purpose so he could see you again- don't fall victim to that trap.

>>7597453
Anon, if you're scared he may hurt himself if you break up with him, then you need to find outside professional help so that you can deal with separating yourself from him. Even if he doesn't mean to make you worry and is genuinely depressed to the point where you think he'd self-harm if you ended things, it's still emotionally damaging for you to have to go through. You are not responsible for his mental, emotional, or physical wellbeing.

>>7597457
Try to focus on staying positive and healthy right now, anon, and don't worry about your weight. I can completely empathize with you about wanting to lose weight, but putting a lot of energy into changing how you look using negativity as motivation (thinking to yourself, "I'm too fat/ugly/chubby/gross/etc") can be very damaging. Just try to concentrate on therapy right now, okay? Things will get better, I promise!

[Anonymous No.7597643]

>>7597634
I'm so torn. I kind of like the peach (though I think the pictures are really bright and it would probably be darker irl) and I'm not happy with how saturated the mint looks, but I could always just manipulate the color of it in pictures.
Difficulty...

[Anonymous No.7597652]

>>7597457
here's something positive for you: you haven't hurt yourself in two weeks! you are already making yourself a better person, and you had the courage to seek therapy. congratulations to you!

[Anonymous No.7597659]

>>7597453
21+ isnt that bad when you have nothing else. But at the end of the day you have a shitty relationship if you cant talk about issues. Communication is needed to have any relationship and depression isnt an excuse to avoiding this. Plenty of people with all sorts of mental illnesses can engage in relationships, you learn how to manage and cope. If he is so bad that he literally cannot deal with basic things, he should be in a mental hospital.

>>7597597
Yes.
If you think he may kill himself if you break up, that is emotional manipulate tactic 101. Regardless of if the person is serious about it, that is used SO often to trap someone in a relationship.

[Anonymous No.7597705]

>>7596605

Good job anon.

As others have said, either mail the cosplay or give it to him in a neutral space (with a friend or two) so he can't try and guilt you or use it as an in to "make things right" and other bs.

[Anonymous No.7597720]

>doing great on diet
>losing weight, trimming up
>compliments
>a week until the con
>SUDDENLY STREP
>constant aches and occasional vomiting
>wake up choking at night
>can only eat really soft shit without crying
>there goes diet

I'm just praying I feel better before Saturday, god damn. But I know I'll be bloated and gross with this shit

[Anonymous No.7597723]

>>7597453
Anon, listen, two depressed people are not good for each other. It's a really dangerous combination. You each need someone who can help you handle your issues, not someone who's going through the same type of issues. He needs someone's shoulder to cry on, and you need someone who's actually THERE for you, who won't run and hide when you need help.

If you're worried about him hurting himself, call his family ahead of time. Tell them that he really needs some help and he isn't doing well. Tell them about your concerns, and tell them that they really need to keep an eye on him.

This isn't your burden to bear. Your happiness needs to come first, and you shouldn't be sacrificing anything for someone who won't even listen when you need to talk.

[Anonymous No.7597729]

>>7597720
>vomiting
>with strep
Uhhh anon I think it might not be strep.

Either way; take decongestants, antihistamines, and midol.

I know it sounds retarded, but the antihistamine and decongestant will help clear out any shit in your sinuses that might be making your throat worse, and the midol will help you to not bloat.

Also drink chicken broth and eat popsicles. It's not going to completely trash your diet to take care of your sick self for a few days.

[Anonymous No.7597730]

>>7597720
I don't know if oatmeal is soft enough, but if so it's really filling, anti-bloat and low calorie!

[Anonymous No.7597737]

>>7595637
So you care more about the laws of marriage and a few causalities than the person you're marrying? Uh? Also, you're just *now* meeting his parents even though you claim to "love him" and your first solution is to dump him? You're fucking stupid. Just lie and tell them you're teaching your future kids dutch since you seem to have been able to avoid his parents for years on end if you're just now meeting them and getting married.

[Anonymous No.7597751]

>>7597729

It was initially diagnosed as strep, o so the doc says. I'm getting better, but it's just the mad nausea that's killing me at this point.

[Anonymous No.7597772]

>>7596864
I don`t know anon, this isn`t working for me. I`ve been trying to talk to a lot of people.
It`s just that, I used to tell him EVERYTHING -- especially trivial things. (like "i just fed my tamagotchi salad"), and I just don`t feel like my friends actually care about small things like that.
I`ve been trying to keep myself preoccupied by doing more things like watching movies and anime, and going on walks, but in the end that just gives me more trivial things to talk about LOL.

>>7596852
>>7597635
I don`t think he left it with me on purpose, he gave me back one of my cosplays that I left in his car from the last con we went to, and his was shoved at the bottom. It was when we were on "good terms", and I know he wasn`t anticipating me breaking up with him.

Have been discussing with my friend regarding a game plan though!

[Anonymous No.7597783]

>>7597751
Try taking motion sickness pills? They always help me when I'm feeling sick and can't stomach pepto. (I'm ill quite often, I've probably got some solution for damn near any everyday ailment you can hit me with.)

Midol will also likely help with the nausea. It always helped me when I was vomiting because of my period, anyway, though it didn't help my cramps very much.

Ginger tea for your stomach, and peppermint tea will make your throat feel better.

[Anonymous No.7598099]

>>7596605
>>7596845
>>7597772


fuck fuck fuck fuck FUCK FUCK.

he's doing it again, he's talking to me and he says he's not trying to get me back, but he says things like "i know you miss me, i know you're crying, i know you're lonely" and he's right and i hate it and

god fucking dammit.

i'm trying to be strong, cgl. but my "support" friends are all asleep and it's hard.

[Anonymous No.7598121]

>>7598099
He IS trying to get you back, anon. This is crazy manipulative. Maybe he's never been manipulative in the past, but he is being right now. Also as other anons mentioned, if he literally cannot handle anything negative or he breaks down, he might need to see someone about that.

Were you truly happy in your relationship? If you sometimes think yes, why did you think of breaking up and /follow through/?

[Anonymous No.7598130]

>>7598099
>"i know you miss me, i know you're crying, i know you're lonely"
What a fucking psychopathic creep. (see: "negging")
You should punch him in the neck and walk away forever.
Trust me, you may not be fully able to see it now, but in the future you'll realize what an awful douche he is, and you will be glad you left.

[Anonymous No.7598131]

>>7598099
Don't worry anon, there are people in this thread you can talk to. Block him on everything, make zero contact and mail his cosplay or get someone to deliver it.

[Anonymous No.7598137]

>>7598099
Get away from him. I was with a guy like that and it was so damaging. If you are feeling down, binge-watch a funny TV show and eat your favourite foods. You don't need him.

[Anonymous No.7598144]

Only real complain about BF is that he talks too fucking much.

I speands a very boring evening yesterday listening to his complaining about his work for hours.

[Anonymous No.7598455]

>>7598099
BLOCK HIM BLOCK HIM BLOCK HIM

notice how he doesn't say things like 'i miss you, i've been crying, i'm lonely'. instead he says these things about you to bring you down, because he thinks you're weak and once he gets you to admit he's right, then he can pull you in again. block him on EVERYTHING.

[Anonymous No.7598606]

>>7595524
>not teaching your children two languages at the same time
If you speak French and he speaks Dutch consistently then they will be able to keep the languages separated and grow up with all the advantages of bilingualism. There's no reason to choose.
Also are you two Flemish/Walloon? Because then the hostility would make so much more sense than if you're from France and/or the Netherlands.

[Anonymous No.7598608]

>>7598121
Wasn't the crying LDR boyfriend a different guy from this anon's? We have one girl who broke up with her abusive boyfriend and another one who is considering breaking up with her depressed one.

Take care of yourselves, seagulls!

[Anonymous No.7598615]

>>7598099
You need to block him if you haven't already. Take it from someone who has gotten out of a relationship like this: first comes the charming manipulation, then comes the desperate manipulation, then comes the threats on your life/your reputation/never seeing your pets again/self-harm etc.

The last thing you want is a way for him to continue trying to manipulate you. Cut all contact, everywhere.

[Anonymous No.7598633]

>>7597625
I've had a history of emotionally abusive/manipulative relationships and as a result I'm not good at listening to my partner's problems (regarding depression), but at the same time it just makes me anxious, I don't pose any threat of suicide or self-harm, even if we break up. Is this manipulative? I ask because I've never really been in a non-manipulative relationship so I don't really know.

[Anonymous No.7598646]

>>7598633
It can be. The main cause of concern though is
>I've never really been in a non-manipulative relationship
which tells me you should worry more about becoming healthy and happy than if your/their actions are considered manipulative. Even if it isn't considered manipulation, it's still dysfunctional.

[Anonymous No.7598658]

>>7598646
To be honest, I think my problem is that I think so little of myself that I always end up dating people who are depressed or whatever, just so even if they don't like me, at least they'll find me helpful and I'll finally have some use in the world. It's stupid that I go out with people because I feel sorry for them, and even more so because the combination of depressed guys and a girl with severe social anxiety is that things are never properly functional.

I just don't really know how to escape that cycle. I wish I could have a relationship where I stay because I'm happy, not because I worry what will happen when I leave.

[Anonymous No.7598662]

>>7597597
It's possible to be in a weak point in your life without being manipulative. I've been crying a lot lately because I'm being flooded with stress and bad shit, and my boyfriend becomes more withdrawn and less supportive when he's under stress himself. As long as you're not (consciously or subconsciously) doing it to elicit an emotional reaction in your partner, it's not manipulative. If someone only cries when they're with their partner that can be a red flag.

[Anonymous No.7598668]

>>7598658
That sounds terrible! I know it can be hard and you probably hear this all the time, but try to wait for someone who actually loves you and makes you happy. Don't start a relationship with someone with a ton of issues because you already know it won't end well. Learn to arrange your life so that not being in a relationship is better than being in a shitty relationship.

[Anonymous No.7598669]

>>7598662
>As long as you're not (consciously or subconsciously) doing it to elicit an emotional reaction in your partner, it's not manipulative.
Eh, I don't like this generalization, speaking as an abuse victim here. For a very long time I tried to tell myself that one of my partners' emotional abuse wasn't really abuse because he didn't mean to upset me. Intention doesn't really matter.

[Anonymous No.7598675]

>>7598668
Yeah, I think I might cut things off with my current boyfriend. To tell you the truth, I didn't really want to go out with him in the first place, but he was persistent with me for a while and I felt sorry for him that he was lonely, so I gave in. I think I need to spend a few months getting my life together and becoming stronger as a person before I enter into anything else. Easier said than done, of course.

[Anonymous No.7598681]

>>7598658
>>7598675
Pic related, you are absolutely right.

[Anonymous No.7598713]

>>7598681
Thank you, anon, it was good to talk this through

[Anonymous No.7598754]

>bought the last possible thing needed for a cosplay, just a simple cropped sweatshirt in white to modify
>It was only $30 with free shipping!
>Next day the seller contacts me to let me know white is sold out
>but I can get green if I want
>FFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFFF

Every other cropped sweatshirt on eBay are stolen photos from a french brand. I don't want to have to go to AE and spend $70 on one. This severely sucks.

[Anonymous No.7598755]

> got diagnosed with aspergers
> not sure how to feel about it

While on one side it made me feel relieved at first, as time goes on I'm not feeling so sure about it anymore. I mean I'm socially awkward no doubt about it but it's just that I don't feel that.. bad?
Maybe it's just me but I feel like people who simply suck at being social tend to get the label autism attached rather quickly.

[Anonymous No.7598762]

>>7596991
Why not make a secondary comm for the poorer lolitas?

[Anonymous No.7598807]

>>7596261

time to save up for a reduction.
If you have to drop $400 on bras you might as well save up for it.


You'll be happier and it will pay for itself by letting you buy $30 bras instead.
A friend of mine's mother and sister had huge breasts. Her mom waited until she was 45 to finally get them done. My friend got hers done at 22 and she is SO very happy she did it now rather than waste years not being happy with her body.

So do it Anon. Go for a C or a D.

[Anonymous No.7598809]

>be 19
>still living with real-estate mom
>go to college
>shortly after mom has clients over at our house (just a mom, dad, and their 6 year old girl)
>come back
>notice that an oil painting I've been working on since last year has scribbles all over it with color pencil and crayon
>heart drops
>try to erase it
>its not working
>see my 72 copic marker set on the floor, some with the caps left open and some with smashed in tips
>wholetthishappen.webm
>mom sees canvas and the mess she made after the kid and her obese white trash family leaves
>"ANON WHAT THE FUCK? WHY DID YOU LET THEIR KID RUIN YOUR STUFF"
>I was at college why weren't her parents keeping an eye on her
>"IM NOT PAYING FOR YOUR SHIT YOURE STUPID FOR LEAVING YOUR MARKERS OUTSIDE WHERE A LITTLE GIRL COULD DESTROY THEM YOU SHOULD KNOW BETTER"
>nobody told me a kid would be here
>mom throws away oil painting canvas
>blames me

ok

[Anonymous No.7598874]

>>7598762
because they're sperglord newbies, mostly.

I was considering it, though, but I think I just want to get away from the whole comm/meetup thing.

[Anonymous No.7598883]

>Yay, the con is in a month!
>.. the con is in a month, holy shit
>Not even one costume is finished

[Anonymous No.7598930]

>>7598809
I hate kids. Disgusting. I don't care if it's mostly the parents fault for not raising them. 70% of children should die.

[Anonymous No.7599021]

>impulse buy dress
>seller is from some european country
>shipping is $18 and has tracking and insurance
>two weeks go by
>"I just shipped your dress! It'll take 2-3 months"

>mfw

[Anonymous No.7599032]

>>7598713
>>7598675
Good luck guys.
I dated a boy with bipolar disorder for three years, and whilst at the time I was telling myself not to break up with me because he was 'the perfect boyfriend that would never leave me, and loved me forever', breaking up with him is the best thing I ever did.

It doesn't matter how much they love you, if you don't love them unconditionally back then and get the same amount of understanding from them then you're just a glorified counsellor.

[Anonymous No.7599035]

>>7599021
2-3 months? WTF, usually tracked/insured packages are more express, and would be around 2-4 weeks.

[Anonymous No.7599040]

>>7598883
I didn't want to share this feel.. but I do.

[Anonymous No.7599125]

>Clearing out wardrobe as I'm moving.
>Rather than give clothes to thrift store I give them to a friend (let's call her R). She's the same size as me and is having money problems so hasn't been able to afford new clothes for about a year now.
>Meet up with R and other friend A, for coffee and to give her the clothes.
>A sees a cute summer dress. Begs R to let her have it, R being too nice to say no agrees. A tries it on in the bathroom, insists it fits perfectly.
>Later when I check A's facebook she's put it into her sales album and says in the description it was too small for her.

I'm super pissed cgl, but is it worth the hassle of starting an argument over a dress I was planning on giving away? I'm pretty annoyed seeing as she begged for it, lied saying it fit and is now trying to profit from it as it could have been given to a friend who doesn't get new things very often.

[Anonymous No.7599133]

>>7598809
Entitled parents are the worst people on earth. My blood pressure just went through the roof reading that.

[Anonymous No.7599136]

>>7599125
maybe just post a comment and say
"Maybe you could give it to R, since she wanted it"

just be casual, but still get the point across

[Anonymous No.7599145]

>>7599136
I'd do this, or maybe be a little more aggressive and say, "Or you can just give it back to R, since it was a gift for her originally."

[Anonymous No.7599153]

>>7598713
>>7599032
As someone who has bipolar disorder and just skimmed through this conversation I agree - it's probably better for both parts in the long run to break up in these kind of situations.

I had a girlfriend a few years ago, whom I was extremely dependant on. If she didn't reply to my texts within the hour I sent them, I because afraid she was abandoning me. If she was with other people, I got sad. She told me everything, because if she didn't, I'd think she was lying or going behind my back. I constantly needed her to tell me I was good enough, that she loved me. And while I loved her so, so much, and we had all kinds of fun when I was happy - which probably made her convince herself that it was a good relationship. But it was absolutely toxic, to her and me.
I was suicidal and got hospitalized after the breakup, but eventually, I grew from it and I'm so grateful that it ended. I wish it would have happened sooner, because it was really painful for both of us the last few months. Now, I'm more aware of myself and my problems, and I only date people who're unaccepting of bullshit. And my ex is engaged, and we actually found our way back to a friendship - we're not very close, but we're good friends.

Sage since I'm going a bit off topic, but, yeah.

[Anonymous No.7599156]

>>7599125
Is string them up for it. Selfish bitch.

[Anonymous No.7599160]

>>7597348
Hm you sound quite young, and trust me you ain't seen nothing until you actually live with the guy (and not next to, really live with him). So there's a good chance you're going to break up, especially if you have major issues.

My bet would be to trust your gut instinct and go with the one that makes you feel better anyway, probably the crush, it could backfire though so try to make friends too.

[Anonymous No.7599172]

>>7598809
>72 Copic Set destroyed
>The fucking price of these things

Fuck I hate kids like that. Well I don't hate them directly because I know it's not like a grown up at whom I could be fully angry, but it's even more frustrating.

Plus it may be just me but I never had a sibling or myself scribble over damn walls especially in other people's houses or anything of the sort.

[Anonymous No.7599173]

>be reasonably well rounded person
>a little overwhelmed by work, within reason
>took bc a little late which can affect my mood, but still doing fine
>husband leaves for business trip, still okay
>sleep first night alone in what seems like forever
>doingokay.jpg
>decide to wear lolita for some extra cheer
>go to work, come home
>missed a call from hubby, already in bed
>fucktimezonesbutstillokay.jpg
>sit down and start to feel a little sad
>house is absolutely silent
>even the cat knows I don't want to be alone
>comes to comfort me
>the feels start creeping in
>dog comes in room to comfort me too
>canthandleit.jpg
>erupt into lonely, gross and ugly tears for absolutely no reason
>fall asleep like this
>wake up hours later covered in soggy animals, fur, and tears
>mfw there is a dried salt trail on my black jsk

It came right out, and I had a good (possibly manic) laugh about it, and called hubby the next day. Weird being alone but it gets better with time and it helps to have a fountain or tv on at night.

[Anonymous No.7599209]

>>7599136
>>7599145
By the time I'd seen the post she'd already fucking sold it. This is just one act in a long line of selfish acts from her. Every time I confront her I just get empty promises.

[Anonymous No.7599215]

>>7599209
some friend. she wont get far in life being like that. ditch her.

[Anonymous No.7599222]

>>7599215
I've been gradually making less contact rather than having a big confrontation so I don't get 'B'aww anon you're a bully' from her weeb friends. In future I'll be less of a push over

[Anonymous No.7599239]

>>7596845
$12 can buy you a few things in life. It's not often that it can buy you a shot a happiness.

[Anonymous No.7599240]

>>7599222
either you dont have many friends or cant make news ones so you have to settle for her. bottom line is, youve shit standards for friends. if you gave me a dress and i so happen to not be able to wear it, i would give it back, not sell it. that isnt morally right.

[Anonymous No.7599249]

>>7597012
>"i've always thought that marriage was an agreement between two people to stay committed to each other, no matter what"

The skyrocketing divorce rate would say otherwise. Prenups will at least try to make things fair when things eventually don't work out.

[Anonymous No.7599253]

>>7599240
I have quite a few friends, I think I've been putting up with her shit for so long because we've been friends for a long time and I was hoping this selfish behaviour was a phase. I'm just going to cut contact and hang with other friends I think. Thanks for being honest with me, it's what I needed to hear really.

[Anonymous No.7599360]

seagulls, my best friend has a problem. she has OCD that compels her to plucking and waxing hair on her body, to the point that her arms and legs are covered in scabs, sores and sometimes even infections. she is highly self-conscious of her appearance, but it's hurting her. i've tried telling her to let her skin recover before waxing/plucking but she refuses to compromise. i really don't know what to do.

[Anonymous No.7599393]

>>7599360
That's a mental disorder with a name I can't think of. Your friend needs to see a professional about it.

[Anonymous No.7599394]

>>7598930
Same. I hate this baby worshiping country with a passion.

[Anonymous No.7599424]

>>7599172
Same, I never did it as a kid, either. If you give the kid a shit ton of paper, why would they bother to find a wall to scribble on?

[Anonymous No.7599433]

>>7598809
Ugh god I don't like kids but what I really hate is lazy fatass parents.

I lived with this one chick and her young daughter for a while.
>come home one day
>marker scribbles all over the wall
>roommate is like "aww that's so cute isn't that cute she's so cute drawing all over everything."
>left it there forever.
>didn't even clean it when she moved out.

99% of people shouldn't be allowed to reproduce.

[Anonymous No.7599435]

>>7599172
>>7599424
I'm the token artsy-kid of the family and the worst thing I've done was scribble a tiny bit on a brick wall with a pencil.
Although I did have a white-trash girl over at my house once and she scribbled really hard with my markers on my drawing pad.
It's something only shittily-raised kids do.

[Anonymous No.7599455]

>>7599435
Exactly. Teach your kids respect for their things and others'. Show them that if they fuck up their markers they won't work anymore, and that if they break other peoples' things or use them without asking you'll make them sad. As a kid I always knew not to touch things without permission.

I hate when people raise a shitty kid and then just excuse their actions with "they're just a kid!!!"
Like, no. Your kid is shitty. Sorry.

[Anonymous No.7599505]

>pays for first artist alley table at a small con
>suddenly remembers the expenses to make merchandise
>suddenly wonders what if no one buys my shit bc not making tons of mainstream fanart

Meanwhile,
>using internet at asian cafe bc my internet's broken
>simultaneously working on artist alley prints with my tablet
>japanese faggots pass by me and start talking super loud in their native language after seeing me draw animu
>mfw not the fucking japanophile weaboo they think I am

[Anonymous No.7599513]

>>7599393
It's Trichotillomania and it is often a sign that one needs help in more than the one way. Also recommending that she see a professional.

[Anonymous No.7599516]

>>7599393
>>7599513

thanks for answering.

she won't see a therapist or psychologist, which is another problem of itself.

[Anonymous No.7599519]

>>7599516
That means she's either in denial or doesn't see it as a problem.
You'll have to explain to her why what she's doing is harmful. Tell her you're worried about her, she might get an infection, etc.

[Anonymous No.7599529]

>>7599505
On the other side of this...
>walk into AA
>nothing but mainstream bullshit everywhere
>even western shit at anime cons
>leave with nothing

I completely understand why people in your position wouldn't want to take risks, but man, I wish AAs weren't so predictably disappointing.

[Anonymous No.7599531]

>stay up till 7 am trying to win an auction for an old AP dress
>win it
>bf pays the dress with his Paypal (we live together and share money, so nbd)
>couple of days later, package says "delivered"
>it is delivered to his old old address, in a mexican neighborhood.
>he tries to retrieve it, but they say "we don't have it" despite the tracking saying it was signed for
> try contacting USPS about it so they can get someone to go their and forcibly retrieve it
>they said they'll take care of it, but haven't.
>its been a full month
>I have to accept my dress is gone.
>no one gets the dress, not even the other girl that really wanted it.
>in the end, a mexican family is probably having their kids run around in it or threw it away.
>bf tries to comfort me by saying "it was tacky as fuck anyway"

[Anonymous No.7599533]

>>7599394
I was also this anon >>7595582 so that makes you muh nigguh.

It's the reason why every time I see this image I want to punch something.

[Anonymous No.7599534]

Fuck UPS and their stupid ass fees.

[Anonymous No.7599536]

>stay up till 7 am trying to win an auction for an old AP dress
>win it
>bf pays the dress with his Paypal (we live together and share money, so nbd)
>couple of days later, package says "delivered"
>it is delivered to his old old address, in a mexican neighborhood.
>he tries to retrieve it, but they say "we don't have it" despite the tracking saying it was signed for
> try contacting USPS about it so they can get someone to go their and forcibly retrieve it
>they said they'll take care of it, but haven't.
>its been a full month
>I have to accept my dress is gone.
>no one gets the dress, not even the other girl that really wanted it.
>in the end, a mexican family is probably having their kids run around in it or threw it away.
>bf tries to comfort me by saying "it was tacky as fuck anyway"

[Anonymous No.7599538]

>>7599534
THIS.
holy shit. I sent a dress to my friend yesterday and it cost me $15
in one of those little envelopes too.

[Anonymous No.7599540]

>>7597010
get some bodyline maid stuff. Your com will never have to see it, and it'll still be super cute (And the guys will probably like it more cause it's fetish-y)

[Anonymous No.7599543]

>>7599538
I'm so angry. I wanted to get something for my friend's birthday and they fucking charge me nearly $40 on custom/brokerage fees. That's more than half of what the item initially cost?

[Anonymous No.7599545]

>>7599543
yeah. I went to UPS since its closer, but I'm going to be driving to the post office next time.

[Anonymous No.7599559]

>>7599538

> $15
> stupid ass fee

except this goes to pay the people that sort your package, the gas for the big ass van that delivers your package, the truck that your package is in before that, the plane your package is in if you're sending overseas, and pays all the employees that have to do that.
If you don't like it fucking suck it up and deliver it to them your own damn self.

[Anonymous No.7599571]

>>7599559
>$15
>sent dresses before from the post office
>cost me $5
how dare I be shocked at such a fee.

[Anonymous No.7599591]

>>7599505
I know how you feel, anon.
I tend to end up liking anime with a smaller fanbase so that's what I usually end up drawing.

>tfw my grown up ass likes Precure and all my friends make fun of me for it.

If anything, try offering a small amount of mainstream stuff to catch people's attention?

[Anonymous No.7599614]

>>7596999

Speaking as someone who buys from artist alleys, I'd like it if you stopped her. It really sucks if i stopped by her table, liked her art, gave her money and got her contact, only to come home and find out I was making friends and giving money to some art-stealing thief.

Please stop her anon.

[Anonymous No.7599618]

>>7599614

Ah this is weird. I meant this for
>>7596939
and
>>7596951


No idea why a different post number showed up. Sorry.

[Anonymous No.7599646]

I'm trying to not be a jealous little cunt but it is fucking hard.
In two weeks I am flying to the other side of the country to basically chill out and see my fiancé parents/extended family for a week.
Nothing exciting but it is nice to see them, and it is mine and my fiancé birthday presents.
But... his mother is doing a trip of Europe this week with his sister. They landed in London and are now in Paris....and they keep posting wonderful photos of it all over facebook and I am so fucking jealous.
Last year the week after we visited them she brought his sister to japan for two weeks.
Like w-why can't we go on those trips instead? It is nice to sit on her couch and wander around an LA suburb I guess, but why can't they catch up AND go see Stonehenge?
I know I am just jealous and that would be asking a lot but fuck it I am getting my passport and dropping more hints.
I kind of feel bad for my fiancé though, his mother always does the best for his sister. Like for Christmas she got his sister a new apple computer of some sort and a bunch of expensive gadgets and name brand purses and shit.
For him? She paid our cable bill.
Whatever I'm just being an ungrateful cunt. I really wanted to go to japan and buy all the brand.

[Anonymous No.7599655]

>>7599646
His parents are treating him like the adult he is. Plus, it's really childish of you to expect his family to pay for your trip.

[Anonymous No.7599657]

>>7599655
His sister is an adult too...I don't expect them to pay my trip, but it would be nice to be invited?

[Anonymous No.7599658]

>tfw no bf to spoil me with burando

[Anonymous No.7599673]

>>7599646
You are already a jealous little cunt. Get over your entitlement and be a fucking adult. Save for your own vacation.

My fiance's parents are the same way. They worked hard and they've been retired since their 50's. 6 months out of the year they're on vacations scuba diving in Australia, hiking in Peru, biking in Tibet, shopping in Paris, eating sushi in Japan. They don't even own a house anymore, just rent an apartment becasue they're on vacations so often. Awesome stuff, but I've never, ever even thought of going along with them. They earned their money and they can fling it where they please (similar to you, they also give to their daughter occasionally for trips as well).

Get over it and save. Ever thought that maybe they just want their own family time that doesn't include you?

[Alex No.7599675]

>>7599646
Jealousy doesn't have to be a bad thing, it's just your reaction to the jealousy that determines if it's good or bad. For instance, you can use that jealousy to help you look for ways to make and save money (via tax write offs and from budgeting) so that you can go on those fantastic vacations. I'm largely jealous of millionaires, and that drove me to make a goal of being a millionaire in five years. That jealousy drives and inspires me, just as yours could drive and inspire you.

Good luck in your relationship, and don't forget that there are always two sides to a coin. In this case, that coin is the jealousy.

Shit, how come no one ever tells me that I've been saging. I keep doing so on accident. Damn it.

[Anonymous No.7599676]

>>7599657
Maybe she's doing it to give them mother daughter time together? Save for your own trip, maybe your honeymoon, it'll be much more rewarding if you pay for it yourself.

[Anonymous No.7599681]

>>7599646
The mother is obviously really close to the sister. She's not even inviting your fiancé along, it seems. He'd deserve the trip more than you would.

I understand your jealousy, but the mother doesn't seem really keen on inviting other people. You can try to get closer to her without showing your greedy smile, but the mature thing to do is suck it up and save for your own trip.

[Alex No.7599687]

>>7599673
Damn, you beat me to it. And with a personal anecdote. Nice!

>>7599658
Seek a boyfriend out! Chances are even if he's not rich (but you are similar in interests), he'll still get you burando on occasion to support your interests. The only problem is finding a boyfriend with similar interests... I have no idea how to help you with that, you're on your own. I know a 30 year old woman who has had some luck with online dating. But most other women I've know that have tried it are wary (and advise others to be wary) of it, because of bad experiences.

But now I'm just rambling. Good luck!

[Anonymous No.7599704]

>>7599676
Yeah I guess it could be that, kinda cute I guess.

>>7599681
>>7599675
>>7599673
>>7599655
>>7599646

I should have stated that it is not about the money, I could very well go on a fun trip and finance it myself, but I have very, very limited vacation time at work.
I get two weeks and a few days, I do one convention a year, do a week with my parents, and do a week with his parents.
My parents we usually deiced on going somewhere nice together, like Disney or a beach trip. They, my sister, her boyfriend, my fiancé and I all pay our own way (Sometimes my parents pay for some part as gifts) and we will do something fun and memorable and have a wonderful time.
For the week with his parents we usually just chill on his mom's couch.
If we stay with his dad we do go to fun museums and stuff and I enjoy that! It is supper fun and feels like a nice vacation.
But with his mother it is just a waist of my week, and then I get to see her having all this fun with his sister and just ugh. Just ugh.

I guess what I meant to say is next year I want to drop hints that we could all do more of a trip together like the ones she does with his sister instead of chilling in her condo for a week.

[Anonymous No.7599709]

>>7599614
>>7597018
Well, the whole situation is like diffusing a drama nuke because she posts all the stolen art on her Facebook and Instagram that is tucked away from the general public. I don't want her going around and ruining my reputation with "don't visit anon in the artist alley because he's a total dramacow." Her followers are sparkly art blinded weebs that'll defend her to the grave.

Pic related. That's one of the things she "drew."

[Anonymous No.7599718]

>get friend into wearing lolita
>how exciting! I get to be the senpai! maybe we can twin!,
>she has me make a bodyline order for her because she doesn't know how
>Never pays.
>she has a decent job, lives at home with her parents
>I have some old bodyline stuff that I was going to sell
>"oh anon I'll buy them from you !"
>oh sure! that will help you build your wardobe,
>a dress, blouse, and skirt, all of which aren't really my style anymore
>also a pair of shoes that were too small on me, fit her just fine
>Never pays.
>go out of the country for a convention, stay at a nice hotel, which was her idea
>Never fucking PAYS.
>Internet friend is selling a brand dress my friend really wants
>language barrier
>act as the messenger/translator
>friend doesn't have or know how to use paypal, says she'll give me the cash and I pay internet friend
>she wanted to do payment plan, half now, half later
>two weeks pass and internet friend is wondering where the first payment is
>friend keeps flaking out on me

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO

[Anonymous No.7599725]

>>7599718
Girl stop letting your friend walk all over you. I'm curious though, what country are you guys from?

[Anonymous No.7599726]

>tfw no gf
am i right fellas

[Anonymous No.7599735]

>>7599709
They'd defend her with straight up proof that she's an art thief? That's pathetic, I'll never understand how people can white knight with absolutely nothing to back up their end in the first place.

Try contacting the artists so that they'll personally and hopefully publicly tell her to stop.

Or just be open about it and shame her. She and her followers sound like a children, I don't think you should be as bothered by them as you seem to be. Just be truthful, anon. You aren't even being a dramacow, but she's being a thief.

[Anonymous No.7599740]

>>7599718
Steal her wallet.

[Anonymous No.7599749]

>>7599709
Open a new facebook account.
Use a kawaii anime picture as your profile pic. Add as many japanese-named weebs as you can. Become her fan on facebook, pretend to be her fan. compliment her art and be like her fans. Add as many of her other fans if you can.
Then, as soon as you feel ready, drop the bomb. Ask her: "hey... is this really your art? I saw this somewhere else the other day....." Make sure you do not sound like the real you at all. add "O A O" and "TT A TT" if you want.
Then slowly start spilling everything on your fake account.

[Alex No.7599752]

>>7599709
>>7599735
I found the person it was stolen from.

http://touch.pixiv.net/member.php?id=2970520

Are you going to tell him that the bitch stolen his work or what, anon?

[Anonymous No.7599755]

>>7599646
I am in the same situation, but
> I am getting my passport and dropping more hints
don't do that, that just makes you an entitled cunt.
Seriously, those people are fucking fifty-something. My in-laws are the same age and do the same thing, but they were both piss poor when they were our age. My mother-in-law only had a mattress and a teddybear and ate in the university cafeteria after being kicked out of her house for dating someone her mom didn't like.

Seriously, those people have worked hard to have those trips, you will as well when you're their age. If you wanna travel so badly go outdoors or hitchhike somewhere, or do interrailing.

Also his parents travel because they don't spend money on brand. You can't have both in your situation.

[Anonymous No.7599757]

>>7599709
Here, anon. Why don't you link us to her facebook page and help us find the proofs.
Then we'll be the ones that help you spill it all to her page and post it everywhere.

[Anonymous No.7599758]

>>7599704
If money's not an issue, ask her.
"Hey, my week-long vacation is <x months away>, I was thinking we can go somewhere like <place>? It'd be something different and I've always wanted to go."
In the other posts, you made it sound like you just wanted her to give you an all-expenses-paid trip just because "well SHE gets to go!! why can't i?!?"

[Anonymous No.7599762]

>>7599658
>tfw bf that expects me to spoil him and never spoils me
Sometimes no bf is better anon.

[Anonymous No.7599766]

>>7599718
Tell her straight-out.
"Hey, you owe me <x> amount. I'm not helping you buy this stuff if you can't even pay off what I've already helped you get."

[Anonymous No.7599769]

>>7599718
Go over to her house, and while you're in her space (preferably with another person around) just bring it straight up like "by the way, you owe me about $XXX for this, this, this and that." It really puts them on the spot, but it works because it should be super obvious to everyone there that she has to pay you back no matter what. I had to do it to a friend who wouldn't pay for ~$800 in anime figures I ordered for her because she didn't have a credit card, and she was pretty embarrassed but coughed up most of it the next week. We're still friends now, but she doesn't get me to order stuff for her as often, and I get her to pay cash up front when she does ask.

Be strong, anon.

[Anonymous No.7599773]

>>7599704
but they have a right to have some alone time. maybe they want to travel without you.
I know when I travel with my in-laws it's hell because they just run through everything as fast as they can and take terrible routes, and it's much easier when it's just the two of them instead a whole family.

[Anonymous No.7599788]

>>7599718
Why don't you just tell her like a normal human being? Are you too stupid to even do that? You deserve it if you are.

[Alex No.7599810]

>>7599709
>>7599752
If you won't tell the person and reveal the thief, I will. What's her name?

[Anonymous No.7599897]

>>7598099
Block him, turn off the phone, spend your spare time watching movies or TV for a few days. Have a friend dump his stuff on his front yard. Ge well soon.

[Anonymous No.7599913]

>>7594526
This is hilarious
I feel like that guy was being humorous though and was aware loli was short for lolita

[Anonymous No.7599915]

I want to debut my first coord for International Lolita Day. That is, if I manage to get the courage to step out of home.

>tfw you don't feel any embarrassment wearing cosplay to and from a con but are terrified of wearing lolita
>tfw you only have Bodyline and off-brand shit because you're poor and can't justify the price of brand for something you're never wearing
>tfw sure I'll look disgusting

[Anonymous No.7600095]

My usual group of friends are starting to get more into cosplay and j-fashion and I can't help but feel elitist towards them and it makes me feel like a horrible person.

I've been cosplaying for a few years now while most of them have started within the past year or so and have made nothing but poorly constructed outfits way above their skill level and usually ignore my advice to improve because they're "satisfied with how it looks and doing _____ or buying a wig is too expensive/extra." Not to mention, they always want to do things at cons that would generally be looked down upon like making signs with stupid memes, yelling/doing random things for the heck of it, forcing people to check out their sites, etc.

They're great people outside of this hobby, but at cons they'd be the people that others laugh at and look down upon and I hate to admit that they embarrass me...

[Claudie !!5M+s+ZHeFhU No.7600103]

>>7600095
I feel you, anon. When a lot of my irl school friends started wanting to cosplay and go to cons, I was really excited to share the hobby, but they went through a weeb phase like your friends are going through. No wig, sloppy construction on things, cringe-worthy behavior at cons, etc. You're not a horrible person, just remember to be patient with them and know that they'll grow out of this stage soon enough haha.

[Anonymous No.7600108]

>>7599709
"copics and watercolors"
Her followers are retarded. That's digital as fuck.

[Anonymous No.7600112]

>>7599718
After the first time you should have learned your lesson

[Anonymous No.7600123]

>>7599718
For starters, stop being a retard. You really think shes going to cough it up? D itch her.

[Anonymous No.7600152]

>tfw I want to do an armored or superhero cosplay, but the idea of wearing a bodysuit scares me off

The most embarrassing part of it is because I have no idea how I'd go to bathroom. The major con that I attend is mostly an outdoor con so I'd be planning to wear the costume for a good portion of the day and bathrooms aren't exactly clean nor convenient.
I'm not a fan of how those crotch zippers look (nor do I imagine them to be that sanitary) so I have no idea how one would tackle this without having someone to constantly help you and always having to take off your entire costume. When I do come across someone that talks about the topic, they usually don't have to worry about it since they're only planning on wearing the costume for a few hours or just for a shoot.

[Anonymous No.7600154]

>>7600152
What kind of armor costume would you want to do?

I'm male, but my go-to for armor are painters whites (or painters coveralls) if its traditional "knight" armor, or usually black cover alls if its something different. I usually either build a harness to wear, or just sew velcro onto the coveralls to attach the armor to them. Then I usually just wear a beater/basketball shorts and if I need to take a leak I get my friend to hang onto my codpiece and use the fly in the coveralls, or if I need to drop a deuce its a matter of asking my friend to wait outside, peeling off all necessary components, and either dropping the shoes and removing the coveralls, or taking the arms out and and dropping them into the pants portion, doing the business and resuiting up.

Your mileage may vary though, and sorry if this is too detailed.

[Anonymous No.7600183]

>>7599153
Yeah, this sounds nearly exactly like my boyfriend, so I think I'll have to cut it off soon.

[Anonymous No.7600186]

>>7597457
I'm so proud of you for seeking out help. A lot of people just try to deal with their issues by themselves and refuse therapy. I saw a therapist once or twice a week for almost eight years and while eight years seems like a super long time, it's nothing when you consider the fact that I'm living a completely normal, healthy, stable life now with my significant other and two cats.
You go girl. You have a bright future ahead of you.

[Anonymous No.7600190]

>>7600152
What about snaps or buttons instead, like you'd see used for babies?

[Anonymous No.7600229]

>>7599709
At least tip off whoever's in charge of the artist's alley. I'm sure it's vey common and they'll look into keeping her out. I have a special hate for people who rip off pixiv, like they think everybody is retarded and won't notice.

[Anonymous No.7600271]

>Ordered petti from victoriangirldress on May 20
>Great, Might have it in time for babby's first meetup
>Tracking number doesn't work for ages
>Think nothing of it as VGD is a trusted seller
>Tried Tracking number on local post website, no record
>Try on HK post website
>mfw Tracking says package left HK on June 3rd
>More than likely won't have petti for upcoming meet
>Have to scramble to find new petti in time

So yeah I'm pissed, sent VGD an angry message too about the whole situation. I mean if VGD had said there would be a delay, I could have bought somewhere else. Now I'm gonna have to search around for a replacement petti.

[Anonymous No.7600407]

>>7598099

You listen.

Do not let him manipulate you into coming back. He doesn't care about your well-being, he's trying to get what he wants by hurting you.

Don't let him hurt you.

[Anonymous No.7600411]

>>7597348

>>no friends except boyfriend

Why? Does he not like you hanging out with other people?

[Anonymous No.7600744]

>browse fb
>get notification
>"You have been added to a group!"
>check group
>It's from a friend who has been abroad for over a year
>She's coming back in August, and invited all friends for a party
>All my friends are invited
>"Hm, looks like fun!"
>Check group members
>mfw I see my ex bf is invited too

She is close to him, so it did not surprise me, but still. I haven't met him in the year since we broke up; we did not share friends except this one girl. All my other friends are invited too, and I think it is going to be a nice party. But I just don't know how I feel about meeting him again.
He was my first serious bf, and while we did not have an awful break up, he still hurt me a lot. And now I am so afraid of his judgement; over the last year my hormones went crazy (probably a thyroid disfunction) so I have acne and disgusting hair all over my face, I also gained 10 pounds, and I just feel awful and ugly in general. I know a lot of other, prettier girls will attend, and while I am not sure he has overcome his acne, he is sure pretty /fit/ know and might have a new gf while I am still single. I just have the feeling that I "lost", and that I am inferior. And I feel i need to come; all my friends do, and it would feel ridiculous not to go just because of him.

It will be a year and a half since we broke up when the party takes place. I don't know why it bothers me so much; I know it shouldn't. But I cannot help but be afraid.

[Anonymous No.7600828]

Tfw you just put your weight and goal weight into a calorie calculator and found that at eating their recommended intake you still won't reach your goal weight in March, fucking 2015

Godammit! I only want to lose just 10 pounds or so, I hoped cutting down on my eating would be faster than this.
Guess I'll have to just exercise like the other fattychans.