The thread about wearing lolita to work, especially at places where it'd stick out or be inappropriate, like at tech startups.
I'm a feminist, but, switch the genders. A guy who wore dandy style (or fuck it, even lolita) to work, even done well, would be laughed at privately and in the thread. Would so many people have posted supportive comments if the person had suggested wearing cosplay to work? Or fetish gear? Or all-Goth clothes? Or fuck it, even /fa/'s goth ninja shit? Being "quirky" does not help professionally, in most cases.
Dress for your job and to get ahead in the workforce if you want to be taken seriously. During the work day, lolita is not appropriate. If there's a costume day, or Halloween, or a work event somewhere where it'd be appropriate, fine.
I've seen lolitas working in the wild. How do I know they were lolitas? They wore lolita to work and stuck out like a sore thumb. One girl I saw was working in the dining hall, nobody else was wearing lolita or inappropriate shoes or a shit ton of makeup and jewelry like her, and it was cringey as fuck.
There's jobs where lolita is probably fine. Working at a brand store. Hot Topic. Maybe a sex shop, it'd depend, most people there have a uniform but if you're willing to make it sexy, maybe they'd be okay with it. A self-owned business (not that it won't effect sales). Maid cafes. Lolita cafes. Maybe modeling (but that's not your own wardrobe usually) or doing guy-with-camera style modeling where you do the kawaii equiv of cheesecake shots. Work at a place where corporate culture encourages or allows lolita, like ModCloth.
You can also do a job where you telecommute, and just wear business clothes for meetings.
As a feminist, I believe people should have the right to pick what they want to do without gender being an issue. It doesn't mean I can't criticize other women's choices though (and they can of course criticize mine). But if you want to work a traditional job, leave the lace in the closet.