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[Anonymous No.7535704]

Been a while since we've had one.

Post gripes, questions and horror stories about your comm, queen bee's and newbies.

[Anonymous No.7535727]

"Leader" of SO Lolita looks like she has downs plus could you imagine having a picture posted next to this walking disaster of a hamplanet ita. Such a turnoff to finally be close to an active comm and this is what I get.

[Anonymous No.7535729]

>>7535727
Or with fatty so fat she can't open her eyes

[Anonymous No.7535737]

>>7535729
Cadney is so cute in sweet

[Anonymous No.7535748]

>>7535737
Can't stand her in Classic though it just looks very odd on her

[Anonymous No.7535770]

>>7535729
I don't have anything against cadney, but the pose that she always makes her look like if she had a wedgie.

[Anonymous No.7535782]

>>7535770
Lmao now I am always going to see that too anon.

I seriously though she was like 16 max first time I saw a picture of her in sweet I guess the style suits her

[Anonymous No.7535785]

Queen Bee type. The comm is quiet and doesn't like to make waves, so it's not really talked about much. Does anyone remember when she was all "DO YOU KNOW WHO I AM?" She threw a small fit about how they wouldn't reschedule ILD just for her, then backtracked so fast to cover it up. She ended up explicitly saying that she wasn't trying to get everyone to do something special for her. The comm offered to do a second big tea meet for her, but she tried to guilt the organizer for not *including* her, even though she "did her best to organize most of the comms meet". For background, she's going to Japan, and comes back the week of ILD, and claims to be too exhausted to attend. She's a little on the entitled side, she even lives off her boyfriend's parents...but used to complain pretty publicly about how unhealthy their food supposedly is (portions, much?).

[Anonymous No.7535795]

>>7535785
>Dem red cheeks

[Anonymous No.7535801]

>>7535785
She looks like a pig.

[Anonymous No.7535886]

I want to hear more about Brisbanes Community, I hear it's been a mess.

[Anonymous No.7535891]

>>7535886
Seconding. Actually would like to hear about any Australian comms. They all seem welldressed and quiet. Who are the big names down there?

[Anonymous No.7535896]

I'd love to hear something about the swedish community

[Anonymous No.7535967]

>>7535891
Deerfuckers.

[Anonymous No.7535968]

>>7535886
Well a few of them have been on BtB recently so I don't know about that.

[Anonymous No.7535969]

>>7535891
Anyone in particular you want goss on?

[Anonymous No.7536049]

>>7535891
Vysanthe, technotropism, Xylia X, Alyssium baby, Milky fawn, Your pervert.

There are obviously others in comms. Sadly Brisbane doesn't really have any big names.

[Anonymous No.7536060]

>>7535968
On what?

>>7536049
I noticed that there was one really creepy lookin' old guy at the Easter meet. Is he.. A regular?

From what I've seen of the Brisbane comm so far, everybody actually seems really nice. Maybe there's some sort of ages-old Loli blood fued happening behind the scenes, but as a whole all the interaction that I've seen has been friendly.

[Anonymous No.7536066]

>>7536060
It took me a little while to understand who you were talking about. Oh anon don't worry about him at all, he's one of the girls partners and he is actually really nice. He comes to some meets mainly dinner meets (a few of the girls' partners do).

Everyone is really nice from my experience too. There is a little bit of behind the scenes drama but it's mostly old. Also someone from the comm was posting people here/on btb and trying to create drama but that's stopped now. No clue what that was about though.

[Anonymous No.7536071]

I'd love to hear about the Irish community, apparently they're very quiet? I've only heard good things, so I'm not trying to dig up dirt per se, I'm just curious to know if it's a good quiet or a bad quiet.

[Anonymous No.7536074]

>>7535727
disgusting

[Anonymous No.7536075]

>>7536066
Ah, okay. I just realized how terrible that sounded, but from the photos he didn't look like somebody who'd be interesed in Lolita and was sitting off by himself, so I thought that maybe somebody had just wandered over. Eep!

Hopefully I can make it to the Loving Hut meet and will probably try to drag my partner along; I'm sure plenty of people will think he's a bearded creeper.
>He totally is.

[Anonymous No.7536107]

Whats going on in the NYC comm lately?

And what ever happened to that nyc/seagull comm we made a while back?

[Anonymous No.7536161]

>>7536107
It's been pretty quiet after the Misako event, people got tired of the drama. There's been a couple events with popular lolita/jfashion people from out of state, big events like sakura matsuri/japan day coming up, but nothing's really gone down between or within groups.

NYCgulls kinda fell off the map, I was talking to Makilemore a while back and she's been pretty busy with college and no one else has planned anything, seems like it's gonna be dead for a while.

[Funk Brothers !!sEQILr75Rya No.7536166]

>>7536107
Nothing happened when I was there during Springfest NY back in March.

[Anonymous No.7536170]

>>7536071
We're quiet alright, and pretty much drama-free. We just like to wear things and have the craic, to be honest!

[Anonymous No.7536375]

Recently a part of my community has been having meetups without posting announcements. Some of the lolitas are good friends with me and I live nearby enough to make it, yet I'm never invited. I regularly go to announced meetups, though, so not a loner loli.
Does this ever happen to anyone else? Do you have any tips? I'm turning into a sadfag over here.

[Anonymous No.7536404]

>>7536071

It's a lovely little comm. I'm a newish member, but I've never felt anything less than welcome at the comm. >>7536170 is right, we really just wear lolita and hang out. And it's very low key, so there's no pressure at all to go OTT or casual or in between, but the events are always fun as well.

[Anonymous No.7536412]

Hey so, I got an internship in Atlanta this summer, would it be all right if I just swung by the Atlanta comm if anything is happening?

[Anonymous No.7536531]

>>7536049
Most if the people who you listed have full time jobs and careers now, so their priorities aren't as lolita based as before.

The older members are stepping out of the spotlight and the new lolcows should be appearing soon
I feel Brisbane will get the spotlight this year for all the wrong reasons, that comm needs to get its new members under control.

[Anonymous No.7536544]

>>7535785
That makes me so sad. She's really sweet besides being a bit stuck up, she never talked shit about my old ita outfits (at least that I know of).

[Anonymous No.7536549]

>>7536531

Goss?? Don't leave me hanging, anon.

>tfw when loner oz loli and need to live vicariously through /cgl/

[Anonymous No.7536566]

What's the word on Chicago? I'm coming to Anime Midwest from out of state for the Baby the Stars Shine Bright tea party. Who is cool and who should I avoid? I can't think of any famous lolitas that live there.

[Anonymous No.7536578]

>>7535785
I'm sorry but what is ILD?

[Anonymous No.7536580]

>>7536578
International Lolita Day

[Anonymous No.7536582]

>>7536578
International Lolita Day I'm guessing.

[Anonymous No.7536595]

>>7536170
>>7536404
what comm are you talking about? there are two.

[Anonymous No.7536605]

>>7536566
What is this gif from?

[Anonymous No.7536612]

>>7536605
ashita no nadja

[Anonymous No.7536618]

>>7536595
I'm part of a quiet but well-dressed comm down in Cork, is there any comm up in Belfast?

[Anonymous No.7536630]

>>7536618
There's a comm in Cork? That makes three comms that I'm aware of now. Isn't that a lot for a small country?

[Anonymous No.7536735]

Are those two Nebraska anons looking for a comm still around?

I made a new comm, but so far it's not going so hot. None of the girls have anything lolita, for starters. Not sure what else I expected.

[Anonymous No.7536744]

>>7536531
Which new members anon? It'd be nice if Brisbane became in the spotlight for a good reason, there are some very well dressed girls in the community.

I sometimes think about starting a lolita blog but I'm not really known...

[Anonymous No.7536757]

>>7536375
Are they meetups, though, or just friends hanging out?

[Anonymous No.7536873]

What's going on with the Houston comm?

[Anonymous No.7536913]

Anyone know how good the Ohio comm is? I'm finally getting into lolita and I'm wondering if it's worth it to join. Are they friendly, active, well dressed?

Or should I just be a lone lolita until I move in about a year+?

[Anonymous No.7536916]

>>7536566
There hasn't been much drama for a while. Hopefully there won't be any related to Baby's model picks for Midwest (because there was some back when AP came to Acen). I don't think there's anyone you have to avoid. Our biggest dramallamas were a girl who moved to Michigan, and cancerscamchan who got run out of the community.

[Anonymous No.7536925]

>>7536913

Well, an anon tried to stir up drama in the ita thread, and then some whiteknights took the bait, hook and all.

That was fairly entertaining from an outsider's perspective.

[Anonymous No.7536950]

>>7535729
those knees highs on the left.
Also so embarrassed for the one in the middle. Was she homeschooled?

[Anonymous No.7536952]

>>7535729
I actually like the bun style of the girl on the right. Her hair works well with her round face.

[Anonymous No.7536953]

>>7536913
>>7536925
They all looked nice in the photo >>7533537 except for this one person on the right hence I believe why vandettachan posted it. It looked as if this lolita thought that wearing a cheaply made ballgown length dress with a Miku style wig is ok. I wouldn't call it lolita let alone an ita. Someone give this lolita some good advice.

[Anonymous No.7536958]

>>7535727
>>7535729
So how is the SO/TO comm? Toronto loner here and I've been entertaining the idea of joining a comm, but a lot of what I've heard about either of them (are there two? I'm not even sure) has been a bit off-putting.

[Anonymous No.7536960]

>>7536953

Ah, I missed this thread's ita drama. i meant the first one that popped up, where they were sitting around a table, then whiteknight chans popped up and accused vendetta chan(s?) of being sourpusses and dared them to post themselves. Or did it happen again?

[Anonymous No.7536962]

>>7536958
Fellow Toronto loli loner here. We should make our own gang, anon.

[Anonymous No.7536967]

>>7536960
Ahh...I remember that one.

Has the Ohio comm had any meetups more recently? Someone gib pics please.

[Anonymous No.7536972]

>>7536958
>>7536962
The SO comm is pretty nice and chill. There was some drama a few years back but since then, everything has been fine. Meets are usually pretty fun and AN should be good this year with Misako and JetJ, you guys should check out some of the lolita events there to get a feel for the comm.

[Anonymous No.7536986]

>>7536916
Do any of them dress well? I want to join the facebook group to meet people ahead of time but it's closed.

[Anonymous No.7536993]

>>7536986

There are tons of lurkers (like me, mostly because I come back to IL every so often) just go ahead and send a request.

I think they're decently dressed. Of course this varies, but overall I don't think they're bad at all.

[Anonymous No.7537000]

>>7536962
It's you and me against the world, penis-chan!

[Anonymous No.7537004]

>>7536967

Ohio comm a shit.

Will provide new pics when I get home.

[Anonymous No.7537014]

>>7537000
I wish I had more penis related images. Damn, why am I not more prepared for an event like this?

I have failed you, Lonewolf-chan.

[Anonymous No.7537016]

>>7536972
I was thinking about going to the tea party, but it's an hour's commute away and I'd really rather not go on the TTC in full frill (partially because I'm a guy, but mostly because the seats are dirty as fuck). I should probably join the LJ group first or something.

[Anonymous No.7537025]

>>7536967
I know >>7537004
Wants to dump all over Ohio but its not bad. Is everyone well dressed? Not always, but meets are generally fun and the people are nice and enjoyable for the most part. The only issues are the large influx of cosplayers and newbies that seem to be transitioning into the comm recently. A lot of the more well dressed girls all seem to have jobs or school that prevents them from attending a lot of meets. If you're looking for god tier coords at every meet all the time then Ohio isn't for you. If you're looking for friendly people and a way to explore and have fun with the fashion then it's a great community.

[Anonymous No.7537029]

>>7536950
>Was she homeschooled?
What.. does that have to do with anything?

[Anonymous No.7537031]

>>7535737
She's a dirty whore who fucks niggers. I can't even look at her without vomiting.

[Anonymous No.7537037]

>>7537031
Hope you keep a bucket nearby at all times. This is cgl.

[Anonymous No.7537049]

>>7536972
Will Misako and JetJ be at the fashion show too?

[Anonymous No.7537075]

>>7537029
Some people think homeschooled kids are socially awkward because of it.

[Anonymous No.7537100]

>>7537004
Hi Meranda. Nobody cares about your fat ass and batshit crazy vendettas, selling your dresses because you can't squeeze your disgusting white piggu fat rolls into them.

[Anonymous No.7537138]

I'm tired of seeing 'Panda' and her shitty TX Lolitas Unite event getting posted on all the Texas groups.
She's a fat bitch with no style, and her event 2 years ago sucked dick. Who the fuck wants to drive all the way to austin just to see the capital and eat lunch? But she also refused to listen to any opinions beforehand on what she is doing for the meetup, and she doesn't even seem to go to her own comm's meets either.

Have fun attending that shithole of an event, at your own risk of course.

[Anonymous No.7537523]

>>7536544
She made a weightloss motivational group (which helped basically everyone in it, except her) because she wanted lolicheerleaders for her progress (but stopped posting to it because there was none). She's very narcissistic, but tries to be careful because she craves e-fame. Complains about money for meets, but keeps buying lolita. She's very high and mighty, and doesn't take to criticism well.

She's not as bad as she could be, but definitely is selfish.

She pretended to be someone's friend to get to cheaper private sales from Japanese lolis, then trashed the same person publically at a later date. Scalped the dress set for $150-200 more than what she got it for then continued to speak badly of her "friend". She's fake, so I wouldn't be surprised if she trash talks you behind your back.

[Anonymous No.7537540]

>>7537025
Thanks for your thoughts, anon. Since there's a lot of newbies, it sounds like I won't be totally alone. Glad to hear that people are friendly. I'll consider joining when I get tights to finish my first coord.

[Anonymous No.7537751]

>>7536952
Those bangs look butchered to hell though.

>>7537075
Neither of the girls in the middle seems socially awkward and they both look fine to me

[Anonymous No.7537758]

How to tell my comm I don't think babies are totally kawaii and appropriate for lolita meet ups without coming across as a BITCH. Our comm is in the middle of drama right now so I am worried I will get banned.

[Anonymous No.7537829]

>>7537758
Let me know when you work that one out. I fear I will be in the same situation in the very near future

[Anonymous No.7537835]

>>7537758
Couch it in terms that make it clear that your concern is also for the babies, and not just for everyone else. It's unfair to bring children to adult events, because they get bored and restless. They act out because they are bored and restless, not because they're bad kids. Even good kids don't want to sit for 2-4 hours in the company of a bunch of overfrilled grown ups.

[Anonymous No.7537873]

I don't think my lolita comm is for me. I have only been to a few meet ups and some of the girls were really nice but we have nothing in common and have very different approaches and values in life... Even the well dressed girls embarrass me as they squeal out kawaii and memes or are such a hug box that they will ignore legitimate call outs and would rather a comm go to shit of over enthusiastic itas in millanoo posting non stop than to tell them to stop. Maybe there are a few potential good friends amongst the hundred or so but I have no idea how to get to them and sift through them as we rarely have big meets and what's the chance of sitting next to them at a teaparty.

[Anonymous No.7537875]

>>7537758
Perhaps bring it up with a mod in private and get them to make a post about it in the group to gauge everyone's opinion on the matter.

[Anonymous No.7537877]

>>7537873
The more I think about it the more weird it seems that comms even exist. I want a group of girls to talk about jfashion and be a fierce girl gang with but like why bother with the comm model when half are yet to learn how to apply make up and style their hair. I know I'm a total bitch to feel this way but it's embarrassing to be seen with them and I really question why they are in a niche alternative fashion community to begin with.

I JUST WANT SOME WELL DRESSED GIRLS TO HANG WITH AND TALK ABOUT ONLINE SHOPPING AND GO OUT WITH, not a massive dumb hierarchy of weebs and hug box.

[Anonymous No.7537879]

>>7537758
only allow them in if they're part of a dreamy baby room coord

[Anonymous No.7537880]

>>7537758
I know right?
This is a young women's fashion appreciation get together not a LOOK WHAT I MADE session. I bet you 10 bucks that same mother would piss her bloomers in fury if you showed up with in a Cinderella carriage.
Don't hold your breath when the entitled BUT HOW AM I MEANT TO TAKE O MY BABBY!!? rant.
There's a time and a place. Bitches should take their kids out with other mothers.

[Anonymous No.7537881]

>>7537875
Our comm was posted on btb this week for a not petty and legit reason, the post got several comments of people agreeing with the op and expressing concern over the state of our comm. It was fairly civil and not vendettachans and calling out uglyBITCHWHORES etc like btb sometimes does. This resulted in a straight away ban for anyone talking about or posting btb or saying anything negative or non supportive. I can understand the general idea but I think in this case others and I were echoing a serious concern and honest feelings and not being ugly petty bitches. I don't know how to express anything without others thinking I'm a big ol bitch straight away as our comm has such a hug box mentality.

[Anonymous No.7537885]

>>7535891
The Melbourne community in generally is pretty well dressed. A few really need to learn to to make up and wig or hair properly though. It's a bit segregated however people are still nice.

[Anonymous No.7537890]

>>7537885
From all the photos I've seen and the few girls from the melbourne comm I've met, I have thought that almost everyone looked fantastic and the people generally lovely. It's nice to know it's true. Hmm is it a Melbourne thing in general? I've never been to Melbourne but often get told I should go...maybe I will one day.

[Anonymous No.7537896]

>>7537881
I believe we are in the same comm. While I understand that the admin's job is to protect the integrity of the group, how can they police the "no BtB" rule since it is posted anonymously? How will they know 100% who posted what?

Anyway, the members who commented on the BtB did so in a way that didn't disparage anyone, call them names or put them down so I am glad to be amongst sane, normal ladies. The newbies will learn (eventually) how to act appropriately, but what worries me is that they won't know what they are doing wrong until someone gently tells them.

Just take comfort in knowing you are not alone in what you are thinking.

[Anonymous No.7537897]

>>7537890
Yeah I am really happy to have such a functional community after all the horror stories I've heard about others. Melbourne is a reasonably nice place, we have quite a few homeless, if you dress nicely they are more likely to address you personally asking for a dollar or two. There are a few rude teenager/early twenties kids around occasionally. Mostly it's very nice, people will always help if you need help with directions and all of that stuff. I hope you like cafes.

[Anonymous No.7537905]

>>7537897
I'm glad you are in a functional comm. Most Australian comms seem pretty functional though. I wonder if you've heard horror stories about mine? Thank you for telling me about Melbourne, it was really kind. I'm glad it's quite nice. That is similair to most places in my experience, and the same with the rude teenagers although there are quite a lot here. Oh that's lovely. I do love cafes, and I have heard there is a fairly big alternative subculture scene in Melbourne is that true?

[Anonymous No.7537907]

>>7537896
I think what irks me is how we were being rational and kind in our complaints on BtB and several people spoke up, yet it was straight away swept under the rug as evil nasty btb gossip rather than addressing the problem?

I don't think we have any real bitches or negativity in our comm, at least not that I have come across, for example there have been no posts about the new girls in the comm which I'm sure cgl and btb would have a field day with, only legit serious complaints and wrong doings. I know a few months back we got heavily posted on btb but as far as I'm aware that person and issue was removed. I feel like I'm being treated like a kindergarden student?

[Anonymous No.7537913]

>>7537907
Girl complaining about the babies here, I think I'm in the same comm as well oooooooops.

[Anonymous No.7537918]

>>7537905
I think it is mainly America I have heard bad things about. We used to, and still do, have a lot of indie/hippie types, although they are hardly counted as "alternative" any more, especially getting out closer to St Kilda. Goth/scene is daily popular and there as quite a few stores in the cbd that supports it, there is a dangerfeild right across the road from Flinders street station so a lot of them gather their. Also we have a lot of Asians so you see j-fashion on occasion if that counts.

[Anonymous No.7537921]

>>7537907
Yes I didn't like the way we were basically told, "stop being mean bitches" because really, there wasn't that much being said that was mean or bitchy.

Up until now people have just been turning a blind eye to it. I know I have, because I don't want to rock the boat or to come across as a big ol bitch like you said. Also, since I am not an admin, I don't think it is my place to police the page for appropriate behaviour.

The girls have never been posted here, so the admins should have faith that we aren't out to make fun or upset any of the members. But the hugbox mentality will not encourage any growth, it just reinforces the "oh, everything I do is awesome" mentality, meaning they will continue to stay at that level and never improve.

[Anonymous No.7537923]

>>7537913
Who brings babies/kids to a meet? Like SERIOUSLY? I would ahve thought that the parent would like some time to themselves to do adult things and have a break.

[Anonymous No.7537932]

>>7537921
Legit discouraging me from the comm as I don't have any established friends in the comm and my view of it currently is a blind hugbox or over enthusiastic newbs and I don't feel like I fit in.

[Anonymous No.7537936]

>>7537923
>Adult things.
>Dressing like a cupcake that was dropped behind a fridge in a house predominantly filled with glitter and small pastel knicknacks.

[Anonymous No.7537942]

>>7537932
I was just thinking the same thing. I kinda feel on the outer at the meets. I don't have any friends in the comm, there is no one to buddy up with at the meets as they have already established friendships, I don't know how I'll be received by accepting the lunch date offers they put out and the hugbox sometimes feels a bit... forced? I know that this is just my insecurities talking, that the girls are nice & welcoming, but sometimes it's hard when there are in jokes and established relationships and you don't know how to fit into that.

[Anonymous No.7537945]

>>7537905

I'd stay well away from our alt scene, to be honest. They're more dramalicious than the lolitas. I left when the goth comm started harbouring a paedophile.

[Anonymous No.7537947]

>>7537932
>>7537942
Don't be discouraged, anons. I've been in the same situation in the same comm and the longer you come along, the easier it gets to join in. They're a nice bunch of people, just make sure you speak up.

[Anonymous No.7537950]

>>7537896
>>7537907
I think the mods are on a power trip. Did they even read the btb thread?

I think we need a mod election.

[Anonymous No.7537963]

>>7537950
I don't think it needs to go that far. By the replies on the thread I'd say that they have read it. Probably what's going to happen is we all just smile and try to get along, like the good lolis that we are. Move past the posts you don't like and interact politely with each other at meets. Agree to disagree to keep the peace.

(However I will be giving people the side-eye at meets, trying to figure out who the like minded seagulls are)

[Anonymous No.7537966]

>>7537950
I dont think we need a mod re election, just try and remove the fake hug box mentallity omg kawaii so cutee!!! mentality and try and act like normal critical adults rather than going lalalala btb and cgl don't exist and just for evil witches.

[Anonymous No.7537968]

>>7536630
There's a very small, newish one in Cork, I'm a member myself but I haven't met many of the girls yet because I'm mainly up in Dublin for school, and I'm in such a nowhere town that's pretty far from the city when I'm in Cork, but everyone I've met is lovely and everyone else seems lovely. I'm part of one of the bigger ones up in Dublin as well at that's great too, of course! But I don't think it's really too much to have a Dublin comm and a Cork comm, I know myself it's a terrible bother to get up to Dublin from Cork and the surrounding counties, especially when it's only for the day. And the reason for the two Dublin comms is that one group is a little more into cosplay than lolita.

[Anonymous No.7537969]

>>7537968
AND* that's great, whoops.

[Anonymous No.7537970]

>>7537923
I share your opinion, but the same thing is happening in my comm. Someone in my comm even organized a lolita meet for her newborn child. She want to take the child to nearly every meet otherwise she gets mad.

[Anonymous No.7537976]

>>7537970
Ugh. I can totally understand bringing an older child (4+?) to a casual meet once in a while to see the pretty fluffy princess ladies, but babies really have no place in.. Almost all social situations outside of those specifically intended for babies.

>Not buying teeny tiny Bodyline dresses for young siblings/nieces so that they can feel included.
>You monster, you.

[Anonymous No.7537977]

>>7537970
Shitty parent.

[Anonymous No.7537982]

>>7537921
I am so tired of the lack of construction criticism in our community or even just the absence of any discussions about outfits other than squealing over the print or how kaiwaii they look

[Anonymous No.7537983]

>>7537758
Mom here. I would never bring my baby to a damn meet. That's not the place for them. Plus a baby would not enjoy that at all and I would just be a burden for everyone else. For fucks sake these women can't ask their boyfriend/husband/parents/even a BABYSITTER to watch their babies for a couple hours while they are gone?
I would just try to enforce an adults only rule. Or maybe bring it up with the mods so they can.

These women are just trying to show off the tiny humans they made. Some day they will realize that no one cares

[Anonymous No.7537984]

>>7537963
I get that's what will happen but I think this is really where I feel like the comm isn't for me. Maybe it isn't just our comm and just the idea of a comm in general. I don't know how to get a feel of people as everything is such a forced hug box or make friends I can relate with as everything is fake sugar smiles sunshine. I'm really anxious and don't get along with too many people well, not because I am rude and dislike them, just that it takes a lot to feel like its worth making a genuine connection as I am a heavy introvert and I find most people draining.

[Anonymous No.7537986]

>>7537984
Very ironic that an effort to be so including is making most people feel isolated except for the itas and the albeit well dressed, but massive weeb girls.

[Anonymous No.7537989]

We should try and get a tally of people disenchanted with perth comm and posting/agreeing with the comments here and on cgl so we can at least try and say that we aren't manic bitches and deserve to be instant banned and to sort their shit out.

Lol @ not even being able to talk about btb and going straight to a mod. Our comm is constable care kindegarden for the most kawaii ^___^ ever.

[Anonymous No.7537991]

>>7537918
Me too, they seem to get a bad rap. That's great. Indie's/hippies are still nice. I do understand that. Is there a lot in st.kilda or is that more so where the other alternatives are? Oh wow, I heard goth was popular but I didn't realise it was that popular, I rarely see goths around, scene is more common. That's cool. I've always found it funny that people hang outside stores. That's fantastic, I think it makes a really nice mix.


>>7537945
Oh really? I'm not melbourne based just curious. That's a bit disturbing...why would they?

[Anonymous No.7537992]

>>7537989
...I think the new strict rules is going to make someone act out and post several secrets to try and prove a point. I'm tempted to just post the rule change with TRY AND FIND ME but I feel it defeats the point of showing there is some ground between massive bitch vendetta posting and hug box comm page.

[Anonymous No.7537995]

>>7537523
Who was the SS, Rosaire?

[Anonymous No.7537998]

>>7537989
>>7537992
message the mods and tell them what you think?

[Anonymous No.7538003]

>>7537995
Yeah. It was disgusting to see her sucking up and pretending to be her friend while shit talking her behind her back. Her last name is so fitting because that's just what she is: a big fat leech.

[Anonymous No.7538004]

>>7537992
My thoughts were to post a whole bunch of relatively nice secrets, and then see what they do.

[Anonymous No.7538005]

>>7537998
Can't message the mods without feeling like I'll be 'outed' for being a bitch. If they thought there were issues with the comm, they would've changed it, rather than going in the reverse direction of stifling honest conversation further and further cementing the hug box mentality and making everyone too afraid to be honest and give concrit or be a normal person beyond kawaii love n sunshine patrol.

They will probably read this or get it relayed to them anyway. Considering one of the mods is a proud member of the SO KAWAII patrol and didn't see the issue with what the behind the bows person mentioned, what hope do we have?

[Anonymous No.7538006]

>>7537989
Can someone explain the whole perth comm issue I have seen secrets about your mod, but I don't fully understand what's going on.

[Anonymous No.7538009]

>>7538006
Most of the bitching about feeling like the comm isn't right for someone, about babies, about ita's invading and no one doing anything, 0 constructive criticism, mods having a ban policy on mentions of btb, people feeling like they are left out and don't fit into the comm are about Perth.

This stemmed from the Btb secret which is I think is no 45 and was heavily explained in the comments.

[Anonymous No.7538010]

>>7537991

No fucking idea, to be honest. He was openly posting about ordering lolicon magazines and expressing a preference for young girls on on the forum and everyone just... ignored it.

[Anonymous No.7538013]

Loving how Perth comm says we must keep language polite and safe and pg13+ but then says no SHIT posting allowed.

I've never posted anything rude or bitched about anyone behind their backs but fuck our comm and its nanny state attitude.

[Anonymous No.7538016]

>>7538010
That's really strange actually...it's weird no one reported it or said anything. It makes sense that you left. Are you enjoying the lolita comm beter? Also anon what music do you like?

[Anonymous No.7538018]

>>7538009
Yes, that's us unfortunately.

[Anonymous No.7538020]

>>7538009
I can understand how all of this would be an issue. It also seems very strange that your mods are so strict. Or maybe it's just my comm, that's really easy going...I mean the majority of the group couldn't tell who the mod was. Is there people in the perth comm who are happy? Are you happy anon?

[Anonymous No.7538021]

All this talk about oz comms. Is there anything about Sydney ones?

[Anonymous No.7538024]

>>7538020
The mods weren't strict, the ridiculous ban on negativity was a sudden decision, and an overblown response to someone calling a girl out for being very rude.

And I was with the comm up until now, it had it's problems but now I see how much of a mess it really it.

[Anonymous No.7538025]

>>7538021
There used to be drama about all the seperate groups. There are multiple comms.

[Anonymous No.7538027]

>>7538016

The loli comm's all right I guess. Lots of eye rolling moments, but less direct conflict.

Goff shit: The Birthday Massacre, The Cure, Depeche Mode, L'Ame Immortelle.

Weeb shit: Gacharic Spin, DOLL$BOXX, Malice Mizer, The Eccentric Opera, exist†trace, Versailles.

[Anonymous No.7538030]

>>7537983
Thank you! I wish more mothers were like you.

[Anonymous No.7538032]

Dumbest thing about Perth comm is that the blowing up about btb was a serious post calling out someone being atrocious, everyone was polite and friendly on btb discussing the post, and in the original post on facebook, one of the mods utterly missed the point of the issue and defended and cheered on the girl being rightfully called out on.

More or less just the current hyper hug box mentality blowing up and really showing how dumb it is in one act.

[Anonymous No.7538034]

>>7538032
Same mod is also heavily pushing a newborn baby to attend meetings like what the.

[Anonymous No.7538036]

>>7538027
I'm glad they are alright and that there is much less conflict. It's a shame it's not wonderful though.

Oh anon you've just listed two of my all time favourite bands in your goff shit section!

May I ask what style of lolita you wear?

I probably sound weird, I just don't come across many lolitas with similair taste...or people in general.

[Anonymous No.7538039]

>>7538032
She is a nice girl and dresses fine but certainly the leader of the hug box and weeb patrol so I feel bad to ever say anything...

[Anonymous No.7538040]

>>7538032
>>7538034

The mod was the one who first called the other girl a a brandwhore

[Anonymous No.7538044]

>>7538034
That mod has been the centre of past dramas back when the comm was smaller. I like to think the older mods balance out her immaturity though.

[Anonymous No.7538047]

>>7538024
I mean, it's good to have a comm that is a 'safe' place, as in there will be no snark or bitching each other out, but we never had that problem. We still don't have that problem. Reprimanding the entire comm over perceived 'shitposting' and 'slander' is a massive knee-jerk reaction to a problem that was never there. The secret pointed out something that couldn't be said on the comm page which in my opinion is what BtB for.

>>7538039
She has only ever been nice and welcoming to me. I think she is a lovely girl, I really do. I would have liked it if she could have taken a balanced view of what was going on in BtB.

[Anonymous No.7538049]

>>7538044
What past drama?

[Anonymous No.7538050]

>>7538044
details please

[Anonymous No.7538052]

>>7538003
This sounds like Rosaire.

[Anonymous No.7538053]

I think Perth comm needs also for people to stop pushing their sense of humour on others. Regarding the stickers, one girl didn't like the word whore and took offence to it which I view as fine as obviously she is from a more conservative background and doesn't follow dumb lolita memes and jokes. I found the jokes gross not because I was offended but because fuck dumb meme comic sans jokes. They were awful and not funny and legit made me uncomfortable.

[Anonymous No.7538054]

>>7537989
The comm seemed fine until the influx happened. I don't know where they all came from. Suddenly I log into FB and the page has nearly 150 members. Some of the younger ones are really giving it a good go, asking the right questions and showing a fantastic attitude. And then there are the others posting random bizarre things that no-one wants to comment on. Seriously, if you post something and it gets no comments/likes it should tell you something.

[Anonymous No.7538055]

>>7538053
>because fuck dumb meme comic sans jokes
I'm with you. All the way.

[Anonymous No.7538057]

>>7538047

> I think she is a lovely girl

She was the first to call someone a brandwhore. She was also commenting on a passive aggressive facebook status with the sticker maker.

It was poor behavior from a mod. A member of the community felt hurt by the comment that was made and all she did was brush it off.

[Anonymous No.7538061]

>>7538050
>>7538049
Wasn't huge, drama may not even be the right word it was just immature

The story goes when she first joinned the comm she and another new girl became loli bffs, then they had a pretty big falling out over something stupid, I think it was a replicas vs. Brand thing. Her friend was big on brand and didn't like replicas but the mod only wore replicas at the time and took offense and lashed out. Anyway the other girl dropped out of the comm to avoid too much shit stirring. Then awhile later some dumb and mean secrets were posted and mods deleted a few people all of which were close friends of the girl who left. Being friends of girl who left and her friends who were deleted myself I know they didn't make the secrets as they didn't know about it till they were deleted from the comm.

[Anonymous No.7538062]

>>7538057
I have heard her call herself a brandwhore. I don't think she is evil, I think she just tries to avoid conflict (this is just my opinion).

I have missed the post where the other girl said she was hurt and if the mod did just brush it off then that's not good. I expect more from a mod of the comm.

[Anonymous No.7538064]

>>7538057
Granted I have only been to about five meets and I know she often posts about anxiety so I feel for her at times but given the new context I am okay to view her more harshly.

I can honestly understand her being confused with someone taking offence to brandwhore as she does seem not that smart in regards to critical reading and well yeah as mentioned, the leader of the kawaii weeb patrol. It's inconsistent however they are so against cgl and btb but don't see the contradiction with brandwhore.

While I can get the offence, I was hurt by the obvious shameful sucking up, the girl even said they were for her ' favourite super lolita cute friends' or something to that manner, and the mod in question loved that and ate the attention up, even gloating about being the only one to get two stickers.

Overall it is dumb and weird they are such a hug box and still so dumb to see how this was an issue, I guess the moment its positive attention towards them they lose the ability to think critically and about others.

I'd like an apology and for them to recognise the btb was about an honest call out and not us being petty bitches and perhaps remove a certain mod so maybe she can become more humble.

[Anonymous No.7538067]

>>7538062
I agree she just tries to avoid conflict but I don't think that does much good for anyone when she is clearly an idiot. You can see it was HER posting in btb and she still utterly misses the point of the issue and is too deeply rooted in sticking up for her tacky sticker making friend because she sucked up to her.

[Anonymous No.7538070]

>>7538064
This completely. I would really like to see some new mods into the group. Many of the mods are heavily biased/ignore things when convenient or due to other reason aren't really overly effective.

[Anonymous No.7538073]

>>7538070
But who?

[Anonymous No.7538082]

>>7538073
I think that if Bree was willing then she would be a really good choice. I think that even though she hasn't been around as long as some of the older members that she is very knowledgeable, respectful but knows when to say something, kind/considerate and friendly to all.

[Anonymous No.7538086]

>>7538073
I don't go to meets often enough to know but this thread has shown that there are plenty of like minded people which if they were ever discovered, they could probably do the job fine. Someone that is okay with being disliked and strict in a way against noobs would be ideal, rather than strict against girls calling out legit issues. Also no hug box weebs.

[Anonymous No.7538095]

>>7538082
Do we even need multiple mods? Like what do they even do. Surely if we somehow slowly eraded the hugbox mentality we could pretty much mod ourselves if we weren't so afraid to be called a bitch...

Like at the 4+++ mod stage, are you doing any work rather than circle jerking over 'important decisions' to be made like BAN BAN BAN FOR BTB.

[Anonymous No.7538096]

>>7538095
My comm doesn't have a clear/controlling mod, and people normally post up meet ideas and if it get's enough response then they organise it and it becomes a meet.

[Anonymous No.7538101]

>>7538096
The mods don't really do much at all. They seem more than happy to let people do what they please even if it is sometimes embarrassing for the comm. One example is like milanoo lacemonster pictures where nobody says anything. It's not even lolita at all!?!?! Rather not have people that are like la di da lolita but have absolutely no idea what they are doing.

[Anonymous No.7538102]

>>7538096
We are now told if we something that is upsetting about us on I guess cgl or btb we CAN NOT POST OR DISCUSS IT, THAT WILL BE DELETED, instead we are to tell one of the several (???) mods who will discuss the best line of action. Kindergarten lolita pretty much. We are NOT TO BE TRUSTED to discuss issues amongst ourselves as it might not be all sunshine and happiness and it might involve calling out a mod and ita weebs who are being very rude.

[Anonymous No.7538109]

>>7538102
That's a really strange situation to be in anon, I feel sorry for you I never realised perth comm had so many issues.

>>7538101
Again that's also strange, as if something isn't lolita you should feel free to correct someone.

[Anonymous No.7538110]

>>7538070
Fuck this shit. We can always make an underground /cgl/ group to hang with when the Super Kawaii Weeb Patrol gets out of hand. We can have meets at bars and steak houses. It will be like Freemasonry but with nicer dresses.

OK serious now, I don't think we are going to be able to upset the status quo of the comm without being kicked out and I don't think anyone else wants the actual mod job of policing what is appropriate on the FB page. The page isn't policed because people don't want to be the bad guy. They want to be everyone's friend and for no one's feelings to be hurt.

[Anonymous No.7538115]

>>7538110
I am just interested to know who some of the people that have been annoyed by the comm as of late are. I thought that I was overly bitchy but I guess that I wasn't the only one. Comm has really gone downhill since it went over the 100 people mark. Some of the newbies are great while others are *shudders*. I don't even think that I am the most amazing lolita but some of the stuff recently has just been BAAAADD.

[I'm a Before 100 No.7538124]

>>7538115
How many 'before 100 members' Perthlolis are actually here?

[Anonymous No.7538128]

>>7538124
I'm another I've been lurking this thread for the last 2 hours >>

[I'm a Before 100 No.7538131]

>>7538128
Yeah I had to stop to go watch MasterChef.

[pre 50 person No.7538132]

>>7538124
Somewhat older loli.

[I'm a Before 100 No.7538138]

>>7538132
Older as in 'been with the comm longer'?
>don't out yourself

[Anonymous No.7538140]

>>7536071
Why don't you just ask them? Asking here makes it look as if you are trying to dig up dirt

[pre 50 person No.7538142]

>>7538138
Something like that

[Anonymous No.7538147]

Another Perth seagull checking in here, just want to put on the record that I also largely agree with everything everyone is saying here.

I don't really know how the mods were chosen and am annoyed by that fact. I often find myself wanting to say something about things that have been posted group page inappropriately but don't find it is my place to not being a mod myself, and cringe when mods don't seem to do anything about it. I don't want to message the mods myself as I feel I might come off as bossy or mean.

From the last time we were posted on btb I absolutely hated how it was handled, I can't believe some people were so offended and defensive about the whole thing, it's like they've never been on the internet before. Haters gonna hate, brush it off and move on.

The mod we've been talking about, she's a lovely girl that makes meets lively and fun, but I don't think she has the right attitude to be a mod.

I'm so glad that I seem to at least be amongst a number of like-minded people.

[Anonymous No.7538150]

>>7538110
Pre fifty and a main poster here and would kill for a bar meet up or shows. Fancy cocktails and good conversation. Anything new, teaparties and picnics are fun but cmon. I guess this is what I get from being from an alternative background rather than cons and weeb stuff.

[pre 50 person No.7538153]

>>7538150
Doesn't help that a lot of the under 18's would feel excluded. I don't really think that alcohol and lolita is a fantastic mix tbh.

[Also pre 50 No.7538155]

>>7538082
+1 was thinking exactly the same thing
I think any one of us here seems suitable for the job if they were up to it really
Aren't the majority of people who come to meets pre 100 anyway? We just have so many new members.

[Anonymous No.7538157]

>>7538124
I was well before 100 members.

[pre 50 person No.7538161]

>>7538155
I think that a lot of the group consists of lurkers. Another thing that the mods don't want to touch for fear of seeming mean.

[Anonymous No.7538163]

>>7538155
I think a lot of us are actually pre 50. I wouldnt want to mod though, I'm curious to see how the place would look without any mods

[I'm a Before 100 No.7538164]

>>7538155
I find it hard to attend most meets because they fall during times I work. But then again, most seem to be impromptu shopping trips or last minute lunch dates.

[Anonymous No.7538165]

>>7538161
I really wish they had a Q and A for people to fill out before their membership is approved. It would help cut out lurkers and help mods know who might need a helping hand in the group.

[Anonymous No.7538167]

I also don't get how some of my comm mods have been chosen, I have never seen two fo them in a full lolita coord. I'm pretty sure they just made the facebook page.

[Anonymous No.7538171]

>>7538165
I know, I was having a look at the member's page an noticed one of the new girls isn't a lolita, has never had any interest in lolita and is now a member? Like, why are you here?

[pre 50 person No.7538172]

>>7538165
They did do this on the original lj page. Why not make it a thing again?

[Also pre 50 No.7538178]

>>7538163
Probably not that different? The mods don't seem to do much, apart from the couple times btb drama has arisen and been thrown under the rug. Though I suppose the presence of mods is what discourages me to comment on something I believe is inappropriate for the group.

Would also appreciate a bit of variety in meets, though I'm not that great with ideas myself. Anyone can set up a meet though, I don't see why this has to be an issue. Just pitch your meet idea to the page and organise it for when is most suitable.

[Anonymous No.7538181]

>>7538167
Just in general I think having moderators for meetups is stupid as fuck. It just gives people a false sense of power.

[Anonymous No.7538189]

>>7538153
I think we should be able to have occasional meet ups without worrying about people feeling excluded. A nice fancy upperclass bar would be great, it's a shame pretty much every lolita I have encountered tends to rarely drink.

I'm pretty much a lone loli in the Perth comm and wear casual lolita pretty often and have eaten mdma in loli pretty often at parties with no issue, I just don't think I really fit in with most the girls at our comm as I often go out and party and going out is viewed as top 40 music and blonde tanned tacky girls and no one is aware of our great alternative scene.

I love drinking and I think it would be a great way to make new friends, especially for girls that feel like they are on the outsides.

[pre 50 person No.7538192]

>>7538181
I think that some of the newbs have a bit of a power complex too.
>>7538189 Would not want to take MDMA in lolita. AT ALL.

[Anonymous No.7538195]

>>7538181
I think they're talking about how active the mods are irl. There's only one who I see regularly, the rest don't go to many meets.

[Anonymous No.7538209]

>>7538165
>>7538172
I think we should message the mods and just tell them all this. Its not like theres just one or two of us, so they should listen.

Did all the mods decide to make the ban? Two of them are away.

[pre 50 person No.7538218]

>>7538209
Two are away. Sa*** isn't really that able to mod, S*****n isn't back for a while, A*** is really too isolated from the comm to mod either.

[Anonymous No.7538226]

>>7538192
I think its because I don't view lolita as a very rare 'wow so beautiful dress' type thing. Most my clothes are of similar price as I mainly by second hand closet child dresses and I don't think spending around $100-$200 for a good clothing piece is that big of a deal and I normally wear pretty extravagant alternative fashion every day and I eat drugs pretty often casually, I've had acid a bunch of times, eat dexies most weekend, and tried pretty much everything at least once but you wouldn't be able to tell as lolita's are still hung up over drinking, let alone realise lots of people casually eat drugs and it isn't a big deal in any way.

I'm real happy though to see this thread turn out this way and hope it won't just continue to be hushed over and a change can be reached.

[Anonymous No.7538229]

I just moved to Portland. What should I expect? I'm coming from a pretty active, but relaxed, although not drama-adverse group I like very much.

[Anonymous No.7538235]

>>7538226
Continue on....

I live in a social circle where I don't know anyone that doesn't have pills at events at least monthly and it's very rare to know someone who doesn't do drugs or against them.

Different backgrounds I guess, very jarring though entering the lolita community and trying to always hide and censor myself to weeb hugbox mentality however.

I would kill for a bitching loli friend who has great alternative taste in music and wants to dress up not necessarily in lolita for silly hipster music events however so much but I don't think that's going to happen in Perth.

[Anonymous No.7538238]

>>7538218
I love Sa*** she is an angel and honestly gold.

[Anonymous No.7538239]

>>7538027
Malice Mizer and Versailles are amazing thank you very much. The Birthday Massacre sucks though, I liked them when I was 13 or 14.

[Anonymous No.7538240]

>>7538226
Most of my wardrobe is lolita/alternative. Being a mostly lone loli inside the Perth comm lends to wearing lolita out whenever I can or feel like it. I don't wait for a meet to wear my dresses. I would like a lolita drinking meet down at Devilles or the Hula Bula Bar or some other fun place. I'm not into drugs and if I am caught anywhere near them it will probably cost me my job though.

[pre 50 person No.7538246]

>>7538238
I don't have anything against her, if anything I do rather respect and like her a lot as a lolita. I just don't think that in her current situation that it's high priority.

[Anonymous No.7538247]

>>7538240
I am very fine with that view towards drugs and certainly never push them towards others, I was just using it as an example as to why I think drinking meetings would be no issue at all providing everyone is fine with alcohol and regualr normal drinkers or even non drinkers. Just be aware that there are some risks by going into a night venue but thats life.

I love Devilles and often there and that would be an ideal meet up, especially karaoke on Thursdays as just watching the karaoke is enough of a conversation starter to remove any awkwardness.

[Anonymous No.7538250]

>>7538247
For example I have been in the Perth Community for years and never mentioned drugs to anyone and don't think anyone suspects a think.

Hula Bula is most likely too small and crowded though unless we booked a back room.

[Anonymous No.7538256]

Our current community in Athens, Greece.
We used to have a nice, bigger one with lots of well dressed people, and also the occasional itas and newbies. Our old Queen bees were kind of stuck up, but polite and dressed nicely and would help a lot those that were interested in improving, like me.

Now everyone from back then has either grown out of it or gone solo. The new community is itas only and the new "Queen Bee" (middle in the pic), is Bodyline OTT sweet level, so it is like the blind leading the blind.
I'd like to offer some help if I could but honestly I'd be too embarrassed to go anywhere with them.

[Anonymous No.7538262]

>>7538250
That's cool on the drug thing. For some reason I have an image of you in Miracle Candy popping some coloured pills and telling people it was sherbert.

[Anonymous No.7538292]

>>7538256
Wow, that's unfortunate.

[Anonymous No.7538309]

Has anyone in Perth messaged this to modds? THey have to be reading this right? Whats the chances of everything staying the same?

[Anonymous No.7538317]

>>7538256
What the fuck is the leftmost girl even wearing? It looks like a 50's nightie.

[Anonymous No.7538322]

I need help you guys. My comm is BS. I have a group of like 4 friends, the only decent Lolis in my country (I'm from a "poor" country). I dont' want to start drama, but I think it's about time we form our own group because we really don't get along well with the orthers: they are cheap, support replicas, post BS on the Facebook page (stealing images/no crediting, poor grammar and aweful spelling mistakes, they only feature the "leaders" and are selfentitled as fuck).
How should I proceed? They also believe me and my friends are brandwhores because we are the only ones who own some decent amount of brand. The truth is, we are kinda older (20's) and we work, so we can afford our own stuff.
Please, help me with your advise and thougts seagulls!

[pre 50 person No.7538324]

>>7538309
I think that most people are probably too scared to be outed as a meanie/bitch/secret stirrer.

[Anonymous No.7538329]

>>7538324
OI PERTH MODS READ THIS, I KNOW YOU ARE, DO SOMETHING PAY ATTENTION TO US. THERE MUST BE AT LEAST 20 OF US HERE NOW, MORE PEOPLE THAN THE AMMOUNT THAT COME TO THE AVERAGE MEET.

[Anonymous No.7538335]

>>7538102
The mods in my comm (Chicago) made this rule a long time ago. It surprised me but the ban on discussing secrets has been a very good thing. Whenever a secret was posted about someone in the community, they would post on the community facebook page threatening the secret maker. After discussion got banned, people stopped making secrets because they were not getting the attention they wanted. It may seem annoying now but it worked well for us and I am glad it happened.

[Anonymous No.7538340]

>>7538322
Just start having your own meets. What are they going to do, call the meanie police on you?

[Anonymous No.7538342]

>>7538335
That would be fine if our secret wasn't attention seeking and not someone calling out a mod and another girl over something sincere and it being swept under the rug and ignored and any complaints about the comm viewed as rude bitches. You know something is bad when there are this many girls in a small isolated comm gathering to complain.

[Anonymous No.7538346]

meant WAS ATTENTION SEEKING woops *****

[Anonymous No.7538347]

>>7538322
If you really wanna avoid drama, since you're so few, you could always just have it as "we're a few friends who like to do things together" thing outwards rather than "we're a different comm". And do meets like a "we're going out in lolita together today!" thing rather than "we're having a lolita meet-up today". And if people start going "WHY WASN'T I INVITED????!!!!" you can say something like "it wasn't an official meet or anything, we just wanted to go out and have tea!". I don't know how well it'd work with Lolita communities, but me and a few friends did a similar thing with a different larger group once.

[Anonymous No.7538348]

>>7538317
I honestly have no clue what she was going for, it has a corset thingie and a mini skirt that is sort of pencil?

[Anonymous No.7538350]

Any real, honest info on the MI comm?

It all looks hit or miss, and all the MI comm members I've seen posting on CGL are here simply to whiteknight/defend their fellow members who get posted in ita threads.

Other than that, I don't know much about them.

Thoughts? Insider info?

[Anonymous No.7538352]

>>7538348
She seems to like it a lot though because she wears it to all meets

[Anonymous No.7538368]

>>7538329
S*****n from Perth lolita here, I agree that this situation has really not gone over well and we need to rethink. Please message me directly and let me know your thoughts, what you want to see done, and any other suggestions, and I am more than happy to work with these/tell the other mods. Thanks.

[Anonymous No.7538375]

>>7538368
Our thoughts are laid out here, the current mentality of Perth Lolita is too encouraging of hugbox for any of us to speak out as we are terrified to upset what appears to be the status quo . I don't think there is much difference between expressing our issues here and over private message. None of us have been overly harsh or evil here. Please take our views seriously.

[Anonymous No.7538378]

How's Arizona's comm?

[Anonymous No.7538386]

>>7538375
I think you should message her, if we know who are all on the same page about the problems in the comm them we might be able to fix it.

[Anonymous No.7538387]

>>7538368
Thank you. Just want to say I'm happy to put my trust in you.

[Anonymous No.7538388]

>>7538256
>being in Athens
>not doing work for Golden Dawn above everything else
I'm disappointed in you /cgl/.

[Anonymous No.7538391]

>>7538378

>How is AZ?

A nightmare actually

>Tuscon lolitas attacking Dominique Brony Queen
>Phoenix lolitas going after some girl who is no longer active in the comm
>Older, more experienced lolitas gone leaving ita meets
>Mods have abandoned the comm except for Candice who lets everyone in
>Game of Thrones type deceit coming from one girl who everyone thinks is nice but posts everyone to cgl and btb

It's like Westeros here, stay out.

[Anonymous No.7538394]

>>7538378
I mean I guess if you get all your news from cgl and not by actually going to meets and talking to people, >>7538391 might seem believable. But the reality is that it's pretty much drama-free except for little, minor bubbles here and there that really don't even last that long in people's minds. The only truth to that post is that there's a lot of newbies and itas and very few of the well-dressed girls left to balance them out, but hey, at least we're not Ohio.

[Anonymous No.7538395]

>>7538368
It's really mature of you to step forward like this. Thank you.

[Anonymous No.7538397]

>>7538394
>at least we're not Ohio
wth is even going on in Ohio. I keep hearing, "THANK GOD we're not Ohio!1!" but why?

[Anonymous No.7538402]

>>7538386
If she is reading this thread then I don't think it's worth one person being known as a bitch, especially when we express fear that not all mods are on the same page and one seems super hug boxy and defensive. I hope you come back and read this or someone at least alerts you of this but here is a rough run down of suggestions.

STOP THE BAN. We are mature adults, please treat us as such. You can tell none of us are overly hurtful as we haven't posted about some obvious ita's and only got upset over what we viewed as a genuine injustice that was ignored and had no other platform to discuss it. Sweeping things under the rug may keep the peace but it leaves what this thread proves, A LOT of us isolated and biting our tongues. If a secret or bitching is obvious attention seeking, mean spirited, or vendetta, say that, but this secret wasn't the case, and this rule is very nanny state and not trusting of us or allowing us to organically talk through issues like normal adults.

Which leads into STOP THE HUG BOX mentality. This will be a lot tougher as it's so heavily ingrained and no one really knows where to start as we are terrified with being branded as a bitch and a meanie. I think the best way would be for mods to lead by example. Perhaps start a thread just for concrit? Next time someone posts a co ord, suggest the compliment sandwich method, ie two compliments with a suggestion in the middle. If someone just says 'look cute!!!!' or 'super kawaii' view that as not the best.

Try and tame the newbies. This is going to have to be tough love but maybe make a post to not treat our page as their diary or only 'photoshoot' posts will be accepted if they are seeking concrit. A mod will need to usher in a new atmosphere of calling a spade a spade, or in this case, an ita milanoo disaster an ita milanoo disaster. If a few mods and higher ups can make helpful suggestions to new members rather than ignore to keep the peace, hopefully the general vibe can change.

[Anonymous No.7538406]

>>7538388
I am not sure what you mean exactly Anon. Honestly, most people in Athens wouldn't touch Golden Dawn with a ten foot pole. These guys are criminals.

[Anonymous No.7538409]

>>7538402
continuing on

Try and encourage more posts from older members to try and lead the way. Maybe a review thread of indie and taobao brands or fun dress up mini challenges to include a large variety of people. A big complaint here were many people saying they don't feel like this community is for them and I think this wold be a fun way to break the ice.

MEET UP VARIETIES. When was the last time we had a big meet beyond a teaparty or picnic. I also know I have been scared to go to teaparties due to the high presence of new comers. A few here suggested a fancy cocktail meet up. I think that might go down well and worth a shot. A lot of those feeling isolated will be discouraged to suggest meets they feel they will find engaging as they don't have any friends in the comm. Again, if one of our several mods leads the way and tries out a variety of different meet up ideas, I am sure we can find something that will stick.

MOST IMPORTANTLY, I think a lot of feathers have been deeply ruffled by this issue. I am sure it wasn't all how the secret was dealt with but the secret was very much a blow up of a lot of feelings and previous issues that should have been nipped in the bud. I think a certain mod should be stripped of her position, I don't think she is bad and I honestly think she has no idea she even offended someone, but that alone shows she isn't cut for the job. Several people other than me have elaborated on how poorly she dealt with this issue and very much turned a blind eye to an obvious issue as attention was being paid to her. In return perhaps mod up someone of a different background and isn't as hugboxxy and can try and inject some new life in our comm and encourage the lone lolitas to come out the wood works and feel like they have something to relate to. An apology would also be great from the mod's as a whole for perhaps not dealing with the issue the best but I am not sure how well that will go down as we still are very much hugbox.

[Anonymous No.7538413]

>>7538402
Thanks for this summary, I appreciate your taking the time to condense everyone's views. I've forwarded it to the other mods. Thanks as well to the lolitas who have already messaged me directly.

[Anonymous No.7538420]

>>7536873
What ISN'T going on in Houston? The HLC is always a mess.

[Anonymous No.7538421]

>>7538409
going on still...

I am sure it isn't an issue unique to our comm but western lolita's as a whole but we need to try and stop the black and white thinking in regards to cgl and btb being bad and evil and our local comm being a magic sunshine pit. The way some girls so violently react to btb and cgl just make me think they post here all the time and are trying to cover their tracks by being so 'OMG ME NEVER I WOULDNT ITS A BLACK PIT OF NEGATIVITY'. This thread has shown several of us read this and are able to coherently express our concerns without being petty and evil and mean, we go here as we feel there is not space for us in our community to have honest and frank discussions. I'm sick of these sites being the elephant in the room but I really don't know how to address that and that's an issue I guess the lolita comm as a whole needs to slowly try and address.

Most importantly I just want to try and address realising we all stumble upon lolita in different ways and have different backgrounds and I think a lot of us are very discouraged when the main view presented is that of a as previously mentioned, constable care super kawaii forever hug box. Having meet ups and discussions which extend outside of this frame of mind, perhaps encouraged and started by mods to begin with, I am sure will make a lot of us a lot happier.

Alas I guess this is why I am more of a gothic girl than a sweet girl aha.

We don't mean harm and at the end of the day just want to make friends and I feel bad knowing people in our comm mentioned in this thread are probably feeling awful right now but we just want a comm to be proud of and you really need to question what being so non confrontational and sweeping things under the rug will do to our comm.

There, that's all my suggestions I think. I am sorry I can't send these to you as a message but as previously mentioned, we are pretty shit scared of being called out because look what you did over a fairly legit secret.

[Anonymous No.7538424]

>>7538229
Lots of lovely ladies who have great coords, some good meets, some...odd choices regarding meet location occasionally, and a handful of 'what the ever loving fuck' with a small but noticeable part of the group. Overall its pretty good though. I'm kind of hoping there's gonna be another crafting meet this year, I missed the last one.

[Anonymous No.7538432]

>>7538352
That is really goddamn short. Is it her only dress?

[Anonymous No.7538433]

>>7536757
Definitely meetups, about 20 minutes away from where we usually have meetups so it's not like our community has a city-folk and suburb-folk break. The locations are easily accessible via public transportation. Supposedly these events are announced but I have yet to find out where. I don't think I'm the only one having this issue.

[Anonymous No.7538437]

>>7538421
I'm sorry but you do know she is in the UK right? And considering the time difference, there is pretty much no chance that she could of had anything to do with the creation of the ridiculous ban.

[Anonymous No.7538439]

>>7538397
I have no idea what personally is going on with the lolita comm but its bizarre that every hobby I've been in that involves a community has had some kind of intense drama coming out of Ohio. Is it a vortex of fuckery or something?

[Anonymous No.7538440]

>>7538406
Stylish fascist uniforms. That is all.
>criminals
Spoken like an immigrant.

[Anonymous No.7538444]

>>7538340
Haha, well... I was afraid they would kinda "start war": say mean things, sabotage meetings, spread rumors and divide the whole lolita scene here. I don't want fights, it should be okay to have more than one comm based on interests/who you like or dislike. But thank you for the advice.

[Anonymous No.7538445]

>>7536375
I've only just noticed that the meetups for my own community are not being announced, and instead being sent via facebook invite to people who already have attended meetups. Its rather weird. Not sure for your comm (unless we are the same one) but its possible there was a creeper who was following the announcements? It seems to be the case for mine.

[Anonymous No.7538446]

>>7538347
Thank you, that sounds like the smartest thing to do. I'm going in this direction :)

[Anonymous No.7538450]

>>7538445
A recent one (a week or so ago) was announced to everyone in the group but there have been two that have not been announced in the span of the last month, with the most recent being this past weekend.

[Anonymous No.7538451]

>>7538409
Mod aren't the ones who create meetups, if there is a type of meet you like to see suggest it on the comm. People suggest teaparties and picnics so we get a lot of teaparties and picnics.

[Anonymous No.7538457]

>>7538451
I explained in my post the fear people have and barriers they feel exist of suggesting meet ups. I don't see the harm in mods leading the way.

[Anonymous No.7538461]

>>7538457
But how will they know what people want, if they don't suggest it?

[Anonymous No.7538465]

>>7538457
Why should the mods take over suggesting meet ups? They don't do it now, so I don't see why they should start. If anyone wants a meet up, they can suggest it and it's always been like that. We've had lots of different types of meets and no one has been unpleasant about any suggestions. We've had some unofficial lolita meets at Neko Nation, so we're not exactly against drinking, if that's what you're worried about.

[Anonymous No.7538469]

>>7538465
It wasn't a take over but an 'as well as' to try and introduce some variety and combat the fear the lone loli's have.

[Anonymous No.7538498]

>>7536566
Don't reply to this person. It is the same person posting in every comm thread trying to stir up drama. They even posted the same gif last time.

[Anonymous No.7538623]

>>7536595
Sounds like these are members of my comm, the older one.
We're in the Street Fashion Europe group if you're looking for us.

[Anonymous No.7538641]

>>7537523
Damn. Just out of curiosity, do you know of anyone she's talked shit about behind their backs? Now I'm worried, damn.

[Anonymous No.7538738]

>>7538036

I wear gothic aristocrat and ouji. Which two brands are your favourites?

[Anonymous No.7538773]

Anything new going on in HLC?

[Anonymous No.7538802]

How's Houston?

What new bullshit is going on in the HLC?

[Anonymous No.7538805]

>>7538773
Oh hey, hi, lol.

Sorry for making you look like a samefag.

But yeah, what goes on in the hierarchy?

[Anonymous No.7538952]

>>7538465
I personally haven't suggested a night meetup of dinner & drinks for fear of the 'but what about the under 18 members' question. Some times an old loli just wsnts to hang with other old lolis.

[Anonymous No.7538970]

>>7538805
that's alright anon.

I saw the facebook mr. yan thing, the mods seemed to be overstretching their powers, but otherwise it's been pretty quiet since doug passed.

[Anonymous No.7538976]

>>7538738
Wow gothic aristocrat and ouji is so nice, I am just getting a few aristocrat my pieces myself.

I wear Gothic and Classic (mainly dark classic lolita).

Do you mean bands? The Cure and Depeche Mode.

[Anonymous No.7539007]

Nova Scotia comms?

[Anonymous No.7539071]

>>7538378
>best lolita from Arizona.

[Anonymous No.7539099]

>>7537983
>>7537758
Mom here too, I seriously don't know why they would want to bring babies to meets in the first place. A nice break to pamper yourself with frilly dresses and tea away from your newborn for a little bit sounds pretty nice to me.

[Anonymous No.7539251]

>>7538391
wat. deets on points 2 and 5?

>>7538439
From everything I have heard from Ohio friends in cosplay, gaming circles etc- yes. Ohio is just a weird depressing vortex of shit in general.

[Anonymous No.7539267]

>>7538391
So it seems to me that someone is trying to stir up drama in the AZ comm where there is none and creating nasty little rumors online, because the only place I see any of this is on cgl, no one you talk to in person has any idea what this is all about. It appears that person really has it out for Dom and Alex for some reason. I don't know why you're so bored with your life that you feel a need to pit people against each other for no reason, but rest assured that the majority of the comm isn't taking the bait. Have fun riling up the couple of new girls who dare to ask about it on here though.

[Anonymous No.7539417]

>>7539267
nigga we don't care if it's ~real~ or not we just wanna read drama for entertainment

[Anonymous No.7539443]

>>7539417
>creating forced drama in our comm for "entertainment"

[Anonymous No.7539444]

>>7538970
Elaine are you here? I will go to your meetup gurl

[Anonymous No.7539489]

>>7538036
Heather/Holly, stop being so obvious about who you are when you post here. Also, there are plenty of lolitas that are into metal and goth music!

[Anonymous No.7539503]

>>7538235
>>7538226
Aus loli here that wants to be your friend and trip balls with you.

[Anonymous No.7539506]

>>7538226
Bris comm used to go to bars weekly, drinking culture was very normal there. Not now though, too many youngin's I think.

[Anonymous No.7539511]

>>7539489
All of this talk about hiding who you are/being all "You know who!" when you're blatantly talking about a specific person and /cgl/ (and btb) being the lowest levels of Loli hell are baffling.
Nobody should be getting shunned from their comm for having a friendly conversation or voicing their opinions, regardless as to where they're doing it.

>If we're talking about the same Holly, I'm pretty sure I pissed her off by accident and I'm too afraid to apologize again or explain in case I make things worse so now I'll probably quietly hide for a few months and hope that she forgets about me.

[Anonymous No.7539512]

>>7538397
Actually when it comes to lolita, nothing. Just a lot of newbs. The state is 8th in obesity and the economy is shit. Lots and lots of cons, so that explains the fat, poor, and not so well dressed ones. The nicer ones don't make it to meets often because they work. I think only a few actually document their outfits.

The real drama (all this recent shit) is just one batshit crazy seagull who feels slighted because she wrote an angry textwall against altering brand, someone made a secret about it, she started cherrypicking every picture she could find to /cgl/, got found out, booted, vandetta posted one of the better members in an ita-thread, and later bawleeted her facebook account when someone posted her pictures here and called her out for being fat after calling other people fat herself. So whenever you see someone bring it up out of the blue, it's probably her. And you are providing her a venue for her only entertainment in her sad, pitiful life.

Apparently this is the one state where fat, crazy, and financially unstable bitches run amuck, and this chick is one of them.

>7538256 Actually looks worse than an average meet in the state.

[Anonymous No.7539533]

>>7539444
hello friend
the page kind of sucks thus far, but hopefully Mr yan will come back to the USA at the end of the month and we can convince him to come into town.

[Anonymous No.7539546]

>>7538350
MI is nice, the only real drama we've ever had was imported from Chicago and we kicked her to curb a while ago. Friendly, welcoming, and we have a pretty active community. Not everyone can dress themselves, but we have fun.

[Anonymous No.7539556]

>>7539443
the thread readers you dumbshit not whoever in your comm is stirring it up

[Anonymous No.7539598]

>>7539533
damn dropped the link
tx yan thing:
facebook com/events / 626685734083059/

[Anonymous No.7539611]

>>7539503
>>7538235
C-can it be a party of more than 2, anons?

[Anonymous No.7539619]

>>7538391
1 it's spelled Tucson you idiot. And as far as I'm aware the few tucson girl that are even there don't have beef with anyone. I'm pretty sure who ever is shitting up cgl with Dominique drama isn't from there.
2. who are you talking about? If you mean sam, i've only seen her mentioned once here. She is definately active, though she rarely attends meets unless she is hosting them
3. I feel it's more so that there are a lot more noobs around then there are older veterans, which is why the good vs poorly dressed ratio is outta wack
4. as far as i am aware, all the mods except princess are still active and keeping an eye on the comm, allthough princess moved to CA, and is only still a mod because she created the comm on facebook. it's been a while so please correct me if i am wrong but that's how i remember it
5. deets. our comm is fairly bland and i rarely get any good gossip unless the rare occasion close friends piss eachother off within the group

[Anonymous No.7539622]

>>7539512
Is she mentally ill, what the fuck.

[Anonymous No.7539645]

>>7539251
Dominique is a girl who sends anonymous hate to other girls, and makes shitty "handmade lolita" skirts out of flannel. She's ita as hell and loves starting drama and taking over events. Also self proclaimed Brony Queen.

[Anonymous No.7539647]

>>7538976

Aha, sorry, yeah. If you are Heather, I'm pretty sure we already follow each other on Tumblr.

[Anonymous No.7539649]

>>7539071
eww who is that?

my selfpost senses are tingling

[Anonymous No.7539651]

>>7539649
... it's jnig you newfag.

[Anonymous No.7539655]

>>7539649
You are so new. You need to leave right now.

[Anonymous No.7539678]

>>7539651
jessica nigri? i thought she was only into cosplay. if this is really arizonas best lolita then i'm scared because she's ita as fuck. gross

[Anonymous No.7539703]

>>7539651
>>7539655
sorry. just because i'm new to the comm dosen't mean i don't know what ita is and isn't. if this really is the best lolita i guess i'm okay with not getting involved in the comm

[Anonymous No.7539715]

>>7539645
2 and 5, not 1, I know about her already

>>7539678
>>7539703
lmfao

[Anonymous No.7539721]

>>7539703
It's a joke, anon. Jessica is from Arizona and she isn't a lolita one way or another; She's just wearing a stupid outfit because she's a dumb bitch.

[Anonymous No.7539731]

>>7539721
thank god. you fucking scared me

[Anonymous No.7539733]

>>7539715
maybe Dominique is the backstabbing bitch anon refered to? Though it dosent conform to point 1 if everyone allready hates her?

[Anonymous No.7539734]

>>7536962
>>7536958
Can I join you guys? I'm so new to lolita and the TO comm scares me

[Anonymous No.7539743]

>>7539734
Now we'll need bomber jackets with a loli thug crest to rep our new crew.

[Anonymous No.7539797]

>>7538970
>>7538970
This shit is so dumb, and the girl hosting is getting so sassy in her defensiveness. I don't fucking get it, loving Mr Yan is(was) a funny joke but no shit most people will think it's a stupid idea to host a meetup with him.

[Anonymous No.7539818]

>>7539071
joke or not. i don't understand why she's been posted here? this was back in 2010/2011 right? she is in no way related to any of the lolita comms or meetups. Please keep it relevant ok?

[Anonymous No.7539859]

Just want to say I have the most easygoing comm ever and I love everyone in it. I'm so happy, they are all exceedingly sweet.

[Anonymous No.7539864]

>>7539647
Hello tumblr follower. Did you only recently follow me? I should post more often. This is rather funny. I hope you are having a good day.

[Anonymous No.7539865]

>>7539611
Dudeeeeeeeeeeee yes. It sucks that I'm not in Perth comm, I'm in a different aus comm and need more trip friends.

[Anonymous No.7539913]

>>7537986
>>7537984
>>7537963
what sort of suggestions would you have to improve the community?

[Anonymous No.7539941]

>>7538368
i'm really glad that a mod is here reading. although I understand completely where you were coming from with that rule, it is way too heavy-fisted. I agree with the others that there should be more focus on actual lolita things and less people posting things like 'I bought makeup! i am going to use it for lolita!' and 'here are five photos of my cross stitching!' and that more concrit would be good for members (we do have a few itas but they don't seem to come to meetups) but people should ask/check first if it is ok to give concrit.
I really love this comm and the people are really lovely. I hope we can all come together and make the comm a better place.

[Anonymous No.7540176]

>>7539797
Ugh that girl is always rude whenever she posts this isn't the first time I saw her get salty.
Anyways she feels that meeting Mr. Yan is like a novelty and believes all the rumors about him are lies. Ha.

[Anonymous No.7540178]

Does anyone have anything to say about the San Francisco comm? Just moved here for work and finally have enough disposable income to buy burando.

[Anonymous No.7540183]

>>7538256
>her doll has a doll

[Anonymous No.7540235]

>>7540178
Everyone I have met through the comm has been very nice and welcoming. There are a couple of "internet lolcows" that get posted here or on btb quite often, but I don't think people in the comm has actually said anything (or care? I am not sure). I don't think I have a complete perspective simply because I haven't gone to a lot of recent meets, but there are probably lots more meets in the summer and I am quite excited for them.

[Anonymous No.7540287]

who the fuck is melissa?

[Anonymous No.7540295]

>>7540235
I wish I had your enthusiasm

[Anonymous No.7540298]

>ctrl + f
>"midlands"
>0 of 0

Yeah that's cos bitches wish they were a part of our magnificent comm.

(Seriously though, never encountered a cooler one yet.)

[Anonymous No.7540304]

>>7540298
top lel

I did this too. Midlolis best lolis.

[Anonymous No.7540308]

>>7539941
Well, this thread that's going on right now on the page makes me want to stab my own eye balls out with a pen.

[Anonymous No.7540326]

>>7540308
It's shocking, especially that girl who showed up from nowhere and started calling people c**ts.

[Anonymous No.7540332]

>>7540326
It was quite annoying to be told to "lighten up", which I am sure was her intention.
(Outing myself here)

[Anonymous No.7540342]

>>7540332
It's okay we got your back and wow can I just say we have some of the most level headed and calm mods for not calling a certain two girls out, especially posting nazi images, to all hell and back. I would have blown it and tell them to have fun posting memes to their facebook list rather than perth lolita comm they are banned from ages ago. Although I do agree with their method more but wow what a rude bitch.

[Anonymous No.7540344]

>>7540342
Just wanna say: I love you girls. Even more now after this. If you figure out who I am message me and we'll have that cocktail hour.

[Anonymous No.7540350]

>>7540342
E****a bitch got banned. This fills me with such joy.

[Anonymous No.7540351]

>>7540350
This frills me with Joy too, I knew her from 7 years ago and the drama she brings with her has not changed one bit, you'd think people would grow up after a while...

[Anonymous No.7540353]

>>7540350
Can't say she will be missed as no one even knows who she is. Here is a meme I dedicate just for her.

[Anonymous No.7540354]

>>7540351
She just seems like of those people who are naturally horrible, I hope I never come across her again.

[Anonymous No.7540361]

>>7540353
I know who she is, and I have drama on her too. a long time ago (talking like 5+ years ago) she broke up with her boyfriend and stole thousands of dollars worth of his stuff. She then messaged all of his friends telling them that he was making it all up.

[Anonymous No.7540362]

>>7540344
Can't be bothered rereading the whole thread to figure out the exact wording of all her insults to find you ;_____;

[Anonymous No.7540368]

>>7540344
Help me out here, am I on the right track

[Anonymous No.7540371]

>>7540368
What? Ha ha no!

That needs to be a navy blue Cthulhu OP.

[Anonymous No.7540374]

>>7540350
Ding ding the witch is dead.

>>7540351
That's horrible. And sadly I have to say I am not surprised.

[Anonymous No.7540375]

>>7540308
That thread was something...

But, I've got to say I never expected anything even remotely like this to happen when I posted that secret.

[Anonymous No.7540381]

>>7540375
I am glad you did. Something positive has come out of it and we are working towards a better comm. No one wanted to come forward until you did even though we were all thinking it. The trolls have been outed or put on notice that the behaviour will not be tolerated, which is a good thing for everyone. Hopefully those girls will learn what is appropriate behaviour in a social setting soon.

[Anonymous No.7540385]

>>7540381
Thank-you, I was feeling really bad about it, but it's been good to see that people were thinking the same way and I'm very glad of all the positive changes that seem set to occur.

[Anonymous No.7540392]

>>7540176
Houston lolis have so much sand in their cunts damn

[pre 50 person No.7540410]

>>7540368
You might be possibly thinking of me here.

[Anonymous No.7540415]

So B*** is now a mod and it looks like the comm is being sorted out.
Thanks guys.

[Anonymous No.7540443]

>>7540385
Your secret wasn't mean at all and although it may be terrifying to see what it triggered, it was very much for the greater good and I'm excited to see what this new and improved comm brings, even if it just less SO KAWAII LOOK AT MY NEW PURCHASE XD Behind the bows isn't just for bitches and anyone sane will understand that.

[Anonymous No.7540492]

>>7540443
>>7540415
>>7540410
>>7540385
>>7540381
Notice someone missing? Her FB has been deleted.

[Anonymous No.7540496]

>>7540392
I know ffs, what happened that the comm is like that?

Any other Texas drama?

[Anonymous No.7540500]

>>7540492
The mod that was complained about here? I feel bad as I don't think she did that much wrong, just a bit ignorant and not that clever. Compared to the other villians that surfaced she was nothing.

[Anonymous No.7540511]

>>7540492
Yes, and I feel absolutely horrendous about it.

[Anonymous No.7540521]

>>7540511
Fuck, maybe link her here if someone has her number just so she realises she was caught in 'cross fire' and a needless scapegoat of a bigger issue.

[Anonymous No.7540523]

>>7540521
I only have her on snapchat.... I know a few people called her out but really we can't altogether blame her that much as reacting so harshly to brandwhore isn't that bad and several people overlooked the issue of that post.

If you manage to read this I think you are a very friendly girl and dress well and please don't take things to heart.

[Anonymous No.7540526]

>>7540351
How old is she? I ran into a loli at UWA that lookd similar to her saying she wasn't in the perth comm anymore and I'm curious if it was her as they look similar. She was very well dressed and mainly wore classic.

[Anonymous No.7540531]

>>7540500
>>7540511
As I said before she is a lovely girl, and I am horrified that she would go to such an extreme. I don't think we were nasty here, but something must have struck her hard in order to do it. Really, all that was being asked was for it to be toned down and for people to be taken seriously and treated with respect when they say 'I have a problem with this'. As illustrated time & again in the FB thread there is a time and a place for everything and the girls need to understand which is which. I do hope that she is all right.

[Anonymous No.7540547]

>>7540531
She is a lovely girl, but very sensitive to negativity, and if I'm remembering correctly the last time she got involved with a secret she ended up in hospital, so I'm worried.

[Anonymous No.7540549]

>>7540531
I just double checked for new comments on btb and nothing THAT bad was really said. I guess someone with such thin skin though shouldn't really be a mod but I sincerely do hope she is okay, especially knowing her anxiety issues, and she can return to our comm. Let her know that at cgl we may be the biggest of bitches and object to some of the stuff she said but we ultimately wish no harm on her and don't view her as evil or bad, just misguided. I can relate as if I ever read about myself in such a manner from a group which I proudly called pretty much my only friends, I think I would react in a similar manner.

[Anonymous No.7540552]

>>7540547
Hospital? Is that psych issue related or self harm? I am certainly going to try and reach out to her. Someone that has close contacts to her, please send her this thread so she may hopefully feel a bit better. I know other peoples psychological issues aren't on us but still...

[Anonymous No.7540558]

>>7540547
She wasn't admitted or anything. Only another loli friend that was worried about her because she had some depressive thoughts or anything. Having been in hospital for things it's not that really that bad. I do worry about her though and even if she isn't the most ideal mod I still respect her as a lolita and likely friend.

[Anonymous No.7540559]

>>7540552
I don't know and that's why I'm so worried, I just wish I had some way to contact her, to see if she's okay.

[Anonymous No.7540560]

>>7540558
Totally same boat in regards to mod feelings and friend. I don't think I have gone a week since turning 18 which was yrs ago without once wishing I was dead...

[Anonymous No.7540584]

>>7540492
I hope she is OK, we really didn't mean harm. Whilst she may not be suitable for a mod she is definitely a key member of the group and a friend to many.

[Anonymous No.7540603]

>>7540526
I don't know exactly but it would be mid 20's. Also I didnt know she wore loli, I think she's more into goth..

[Anonymous No.7540611]

>>7540603
She was in a first yr arts unit at uwa. Granted you can be in a first yr arts unit any stage of your undergrad degree but still. If she was more into goth that does ring some bells as I ran into this girl multiple times and it was certainly always classical.

How many girls aren't into perth comm though and dress very well? This girl was legit a VERY good dresser, I would have befriended her more but the moment she said she was 'no longer' in perth comm I got weary.

[Anonymous No.7540614]

I AM STOKED TO SEE WHAT COMES OF PERTH COMM NOW. THANK YOU BASED SECRET POSTER.

I think we can honestly be one of the best comms in the world with the right encouragement as we already have some incredible dressers despite the hello kitty kawaii ita comm.

[Anonymous No.7540623]

>>7540611
Pretty sure I know who you mean. They're two different people and the UWA lolita is too young to have been around 7 years ago.

>>7540614
It should be good. I'm just worried that the nice girsl wont return after this drama.

[Anonymous No.7540631]

>>7539007
I guess they must not exist....

[Anonymous No.7540638]

>>7540623
I don't see why the nice girls wont return unless they contributed to the hug box kawaii mentality. With all the new suggestion posts we are seeing educated older girls speak up who have never expressed a view before and I think a mix up in blood will be good.

The only girl I think we have lost is the original meme poster that caused the secret and a certain mod. Is it really that heavy weight?

[Anonymous No.7540674]

>>7537875
Not that anon but in my comm the overzealous mom IS the mod. Send help!

[Anonymous No.7540677]

>>7540496
Both sides seem pretty sandy, hlc seems pretty boring other than this fb drama though.

[Anonymous No.7540699]

>>7540674
Welp

[Anonymous No.7540757]

>>7536166
There were like five lolitas at that con, for course nothing happened

[Anonymous No.7540775]

Moving to MO
Any hope?

[Anonymous No.7540850]

>>7537995
Yes. The SS was Rosaire, and she managed to get her Chess Chocolate for ~$200 for the brown set. Scalped it for like $400+

Rosaire doesn't always handle things in the best way, but I don't think it helps that people jump on the hate train over her, even if she didn't actually wrong them.

[Anonymous No.7540855]

>>7538641
I can't say here, because I'm concerned about backlash. If you leave an email, I can tell you some deets about stuff she's said and done.

[Anonymous No.7540947]

>>7540855
Old throwaway in the field. I don't wanna reveal who I am, since I don't want everyone to know I'm on here.

[Anonymous No.7540982]

>>7540677
For a comm with 700+ members on the fb page it sure does seem boring

[Anonymous No.7541173]

>>7540855
putting a throwaway here because id like to know about this too. moving to the state soon and was hoping itd be a quiet comm. is she the only drama here?

[Anonymous No.7541201]

>>7540947
Sent you an email. You should unlink your G+ and throwaway btw.

[Anonymous No.7541207]

>>7541173
It's pretty low drama, she's moving to MA soon. She doesn't have any real drama as far as the comm goes, just causes small waves. Most of her drama is involved with the international community.

[Anonymous No.7541461]

>>7541173
>>7541207
Oh, forgot she was moving! And I agree, super low drama. We have a lot of fun I think. I can't make it to meets as much as I want to, but the ones I make it to are great.
I'm a poorfag as well as a newfag, so my outfits are nowhere near top-tier, but at least nobody tells me my outfits are shit or posts me to btb so they're great.
I can't wait to have a new member!

[Anonymous No.7541794]

>>7539734
Why would it scare you? It's almost pathetically drama free.

[Anonymous No.7541865]

>>7540631
Not even maritime comms?

[Anonymous No.7541999]

>>7540775
Depends on where.

[Anonymous No.7542207]

>>7540350
i swear i recognize her name from previous perth drama. she's been involved in shit before, right?

[Anonymous No.7542627]

>>7541999
Not the cities
And if I did visit the cities for a convention or something I would not be in lolita

[Anonymous No.7543099]

>>7542627
I ... well. Anon, let's put it this way. Living anywhere, any state, if you're not in or near a city, your chances are slim at finding a community of any size.

I think the smallest cities that have lolitas listed in them in Missouri are in Columbia and Jeff City. Otherwise, you'll have to go to KC or St. Louis for meets. If you're going to be in a college town, your chances of finding a lolita are slightly higher, but not exactly huge (Rolla, Kirksville,Springfield, etc.).