Lolita/cosplay feels thread

[Anonymous No.7277341]

>tfw can't afford dream dresses with current financial situation.by the time I'm able to I'll be considered too old

Tell me I'm not alone /cgl/

[Anonymous No.7277511]

>too old

look. these dresses are upwards of $500. Unless you have an absolutely rich parent, most girls who are into lolita are already "too old".

[Anonymous No.7277568]

>>7277341
>>7277511
What's the average age for lolitas anyways?

[Anonymous No.7277610]

>can't afford to buy lolita all the time but I do manage to buy myself a new brand item three or four times a year
>I put together one complete coord every year
>mom scolds the shit out of me and acts like I'm buying a new item every week
>"Well anon, it seems to me you spend too much money on this bullshit. Yeah other girls spend more than you? Well maybe they just have rich parents."
She manipulates me and guilt trips me so much. Yesterday she made me cry for four hours because we got into a fight about my self-image:
>be miserable lately because I gained some weight from holiday eating but have consistently dropped thirty pounds since May
>have a breakdown in my room
>she comes storming in indignant that I'm "upset over nothing"
>"Well I'm sorry anon, but you eat bacon every chance you get..what? Oh yes indeed, this is why you're fat you see.."
>mfw I prepared bacon ONCE last week and had four strips out of the entire package
>MY FUCKING FACE when SHE was the one who prepared bacon for me and my stepdad two days prior
>mfw she knows jack shit about nutrition, smokes, and never exercises like I do
>ask her politely to get the fuck out of my room because I wasn't about to take her shitty lies
>should have known better than to stick up for myself
>"Oh, so now this isn't my house and your weight is all my fault, eh? You're a self-hating miserable bitch and don't take it out on me :)"
>mfw she's been giving me the silent treatment ever since

I can't wait to move out this semester. She's a fucking mental cancer.

[Anonymous No.7277621]

>>7277610
Man, sorry your mom's a bitch, anon.

[Anonymous No.7277622]

tfw you can barely even fit in most XL-XXL sizes of the clothing you like because you are a 5'10" murican girl and not a kawaii azn.
And most of the clothes you would kill for don't run in your size at all or would simply look weird on you because goddamn you're tall.

[Anonymous No.7277625]

>>7277610
sorry she's a horrible person, anon
i hope she gets hit by something fast and heavy

[Anonymous No.7277624]

>>7277568
probably 24-26

[Anonymous No.7277630]

>>7277610
Good that you at least realize that she's a crazy bitch! It makes me so fucking mad when I hear about ridiculous mothers who are figuratively- and sometimes even STRAIGHT UP NO JOKES- ASKING their daughter to acquire an eating disorder. What the fuck! Don't take out your own faults and insecurities on your children!

Your mother has problems and you should let her stay in that 'silent treatment' phase. Don't ever forget that you don't deserve this and that she is projecting- HARD. Glad to hear you're moving out. Don't let her convince you otherwise!

[Anonymous No.7277636]

>>7277610
My mom's the same way except that I'm 99 pounds so she just usually is mean to me about things besides my weight.

[Anonymous No.7277635]

>>7277610
I think /cgl/ needs to write a letter to your mom (and many others) on how much she sucks and why.

I think it'd be really cool if we all did that. Just wrote something on paper to show it was handwritten and not just made up and printed out.

Might make her realize what a cunt she is.

[Anonymous No.7277647]

>>7277610
Actually wait.

Keep in mind, someone on 4chan, of all places, is telling you to ignore your mother because she is a cunt. That says something.

It says you should ignore anything bad she says about you. Don't let her affect you in any way. She is a basic ass bitch and you are so much better than she is. Never forget that.

[Anonymous No.7277650]

>tfw no qt gf to cuddle with or do couple cosplay with or to watch anime with
>tfw not too many friends in general and too spaghetti to befriend people

[Anonymous No.7277681]

>can't afford a lot of clothes/makeup/whatever like other girls
>sparsely furnished room with just desk and bed, not even a dresser or a shelf
>HUGE ass house. Parents blew money on a massive house. Only 4 people in the family, but there are 3 bathrooms in the second floor alone, lots of unused rooms, barely any decoration or furniture, etc.
>can barely pay mortgage, buys $1500 tv last month to look good, but no one in our house watches tv.
>ridiculously obvious that they're just trying to look as good as their rich friends

>really love both lolita and cosplay
>obviously not enough money to afford lolita, still in school and job isn't enough (give some money to parents monthly)
>doesn't complain because i know it doesn't do any good.
>never ask for money for lolita/cosplay because parents would just get mad
>constantly told that i'm not smart, no one will love me, won't be successful, etc.

>buys $200 sewing machine for myself with money from work to make cosplays
>has no productive hobbies but really want to try sewing
>parents get mad at me for always blowing money carelessly on things that doesn`t matter down the road
they're also really patriotic chinese parents who are firm believers that japanese people should all die because they massacred millions of ancestors (& hate all things japanese)
>"anon you're such a bad daughter, why can't you be like ___'s daughter, their grades are so perfect and they don't think about junk like this"
>but mom
>"anon you're also fat & you always eat junk food. when i was your age my belly was not as fat as yours
>but mom, i`m under 99lb and 158cm tall
>"anon why can't you be taller like the other girls, they all look so beautiful. it's because you didn't eat right when you were a kid
tfw no point standing up for myself, just like >>7277610

I want to gtfo but I know I can't support myself yet. I'm working my ass off in school to become successful and prove them wrong.

[Anonymous No.7277686]

>>7277650
>tfw no friends ever even since early childhood because too quiet
>tfw no anything because too quiet irl

At least I have my burando.

>tfw nowhere to wear it and no one to wear it with

[Anonymous No.7277695]

>tfw I still live with my mom and am in college
>tfw I've been job hunting for a year without luck
>tfw I can't fund my own cosplay...
>mfw I have a very nice friend in Germany who constantly wants to buy me cosplay stuff because he feels bad for me

[Anonymous No.7277698]

>>7277695
>mfw I have to somehow sneak the packages through the mail in my apartment because I know my mom will lecture me about getting gifts like that from someone out of the country
>mfw my mom still has rules over me because "My house, my rules"

[Anonymous No.7277703]

>>7277695

So do you accept these cosplay gifts? And are you a guy or grill?

[Anonymous No.7277705]

>tfw I always dreamed of having a decora or fairy kei girlfriend for a couple years to live with and exchange clothes, shop with, make things with, make bento with, kiss, talk about fashion , and etc.
>tfw I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and while our relationship is great, I always wanted to be with a girl and have that kind of relationship I said above with her but me and my boyfriend are doing great and we might actually never break up
>this is great, but I have an empty feeling because I always wanted to get to have a relationship with a qt fairy kei or decora girl and it might actually never happen
>tfw I'm with the love of my life yet my dreams are crushed

[Anonymous No.7277711]

>>7277703
I'm a dude, and obviously I do. My family's been in a shitty situation since my dad left my mom, so it's nice to see that someone actually cares

[Anonymous No.7277712]

>>7277705
That's a bit greedy of you. Stop being greedy. The love of your life deserves a little more commitment than that, don't you think?

[Anonymous No.7277717]

>>7277705
Why not try getting your boyfriend into decora?
I mean, it IS a really girly thing, but try to get his input into stuff like that.
When you go shopping, point out "oh that`s so cute!" so that he starts getting the gist of what kind of things you like.
I feel like you just want a best friend who`s interested in decora, not a girlfriend.

[Anonymous No.7277719]

>tfw everyone calls you a lolita
>and you dress fairy kei

[Viking Advice Guy No.7277715]

>>7277705
i think this requires a threesome

[Anonymous No.7277725]

>>7277705
I'm pretty sure guys do decora too....I've seen guys in like pink sweaters and skinnies with like shit tons of hairclips and accessories over themselves

[Anonymous No.7277721]

>>7277621
>>7277625
>>7277630
>>7277635
>>7277636
>>7277647
Thank you all, I'll try to keep my sanity until then. I'm still calling around for estimates, but as soon as FAFSA clears my loan I'm signing a lease.

The hardest part about ignoring her is that she tries very hard to not be ignorable. She'll audibly criticize with something inflammatory about me or something I did (trying to pass it off like she's talking to herself), in an attempt to entice me into another argument. She did that right after our fight yesterday too. This method used to work on me all the time resulting in five hour screaming matches, but I've grown a bit wiser.

[Anonymous No.7277728]

I solved that problem by getting a sugar daddy.

[Anonymous No.7277737]

>>7277728
Are you being serious here?
If you are, how did you do it? I've been thinking about getting a sugar daddy, maybe an overseas one too so I don't actually have to have sex with an ugly old man.

I really love lolita but I just don't got da dorras to buy it

[Anonymous No.7277744]

>tfw no bf
>tfw everyone tells you your loli is scaring men off
>tfw crush sees you in loli and says that it's 'uhhh... unique...'
some day my ouji-sama will come

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277745]

>tfw can't make it to ALA this year
>watch everyone's costume progress and party planning on facebook

>>7277705
As someone who's had long-term relationships with girls, I can say that you need to cut that shit right out. A relationship between two women has exactly as many complications as one between two men or one between a man and a women. Your little imaginary relationship is damaging your very real and meaningful relationship. Girls holding hands might be kawaii as fuck, but I've been cursed at, spat on, and had things thrown at me just for holding hands with a girl. The world is not nice to gay people, even if they're dressed as sparkly kawaii fairy lolita desus. And even your dream girl would have her baggage, just like the rest of us. Suck it up, treat your boyfriend right, and just have friends with the same interests instead of trying to net yourself a qt3.14 gf because you have some silly fantasy about two princesses living in an ivory tower.

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277749]

>>7277745
Whoops, forgot my feel.

[Anonymous No.7277750]

>>7277745
That was the post that we all needed.

[Anonymous No.7277747]

>>7277737
Yes.

He was my boss, he was always cheating on his wife with prostitutes and other random women. Obviously he tried to fuck me so I told him what I wanted.
We have been doing this for over a year now.

[Anonymous No.7277754]

>>7277728
>>7277737
>>7277747
Not this shit again. Most of this is troll b8, just leave it and don't derail another thread for god's sake.

[Siggy !!t8DinvBlO2w No.7277755]

>>7277711

Just get a part-time gig as a waiter, bro. Tips solve almost all of your no-money-for-fun problems.

[Anonymous No.7277756]

>>7277754
We are all pure 2D girls in here.

[Anonymous No.7277759]

>>7277728
Hey anon, we're in the same boat. Let's be friends

[Anonymous No.7277765]

>>7277755
you don't think I've tried? I've applied anywhere that was hiring. I must have a shitty resume hah

[Anonymous No.7277762]

>>7277712
I have been very committed, I just had always wanted this. I haven't done anything shady or bad in our whole relationship and I've been very loyal to him, it's just that I always wanted to get to be with a girl for a while and finally have someone who dressed like me and would go out with me and shop and stuff and we could be all girly together. Basically like living with a best friend except you kiss sometimes and shower together. No scissoring or anything extremely sexual though.
>>7277715
No, I want to be able to live with her for a while and I don't actually want sex from her.
>>7277717
My boyfriend's not into things like that.
And I basically want to have a best friend interested in one of the two, but I want to live with her for a bit like be roomates. I'm so bad with texting and social networking sites that I could never keep hold of many friends, so I feel like if she lived with me she'd always be there to hang out with and have fun times with.
>>7277725
My boyfriend isn't interested in dressing decora-ish and I don't think it'd suit him anyhow. He looks better in suits and refined clothes. Also I never got to have a girlfriend of any kind before so I wanted a vanilla relationship with a cute girl similar to me.
>>7277745
I'd basically want it to be like living with a best friend. And of course she'd have baggage, do you think I'd expect her not to be a human?
Also my boyfriend is the only person I've ever been in a relationship with.
Most people at least have a relationship or two before that but I never had never been with anyone else and had never gotten a chance to be with a girl or even have a friendship like that with a girl before.

[Anonymous No.7277767]

>>7277759
How did you get yours? Does he make you do nasty stuff?

Mine once let a friend of his "borrow" me and he had some creepy rape fantasies.

[Anonymous No.7277774]

>>7277767
He's overseas so the only way we can ever talk is through Skype or Facebook chat. He found some of my cosplay pictures and thought I was cute, and then we started to talk. He started out as being that friend of mine that I would sort of vent to if I was having a bad day.
He buys me cosplay stuff and then just tells me "Just make sure you keep looking cute in your cosplays"

[Anonymous No.7277775]

>>7277762
>Basically like living with a best friend except you kiss sometimes and shower together. No scissoring or anything extremely sexual though.
>I don't actually want sex from her.

You seem pretty sheltered, girl-girl relationships involve sex and aren't all rainbows and butterflies and glitter.

>I'm so bad with texting and social networking sites that I could never keep hold of many friends, so I feel like if she lived with me she'd always be there to hang out with and have fun times with.

Just make a friend then. Problem solved. You obviously don't know anything about girl-girl relationships anyway.

[Anonymous No.7277773]

>>7277762
Ugh, you sound like my gross friend who dumped her boyfriend who she was in a good relationship with because she wants to "try new things with girls". She regrets it so much. Also your standards are horrid, if any girl is like that, you don't deserve her.

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277776]

>>7277762
>No scissoring or anything extremely sexual.
>I don't actually want sex from her
Wow, you are the worst kind of bicurious person. You don't even want to explore your sexuality, you just want a female shopping and make-out buddy. If you want a female friend to go shopping with, go to your local cons and meets, make some friends, and go shopping with them. If you got said girlfriend, she would still be a person, not your little dress-up doll. What are you, 16? To say you want a relationship with a girl without any of the responsibility or commitment is exactly why no one takes bisexual girls seriously.

[Anonymous No.7277777]

>>7277747
And he just pays for everything?
Do you ever kind of want to go to how it was before or is having a sugar daddy basically the easiest thing to do?

I'm sorry if these questions are getting personal, it's just that I'm still living with my parents and school is expensive, and lolita clothes is practically out of the question when it comes to spending, but I'm thinking maybe just getting a sugar daddy would be a good idea..

[Anonymous No.7277783]

>>7277777
Yes he does. But you gotta be open to do everything they want.

I don't wanna do this forever, I hope to get married one day and live a normal life. But it's easier than working a normal job.

[Anonymous No.7277791]

>tfw no money for lolita/cosplay (student, practically no side income)
>tfw mom is overprotective of me/babies me
>tfw in advanced program so TONS of homework
>tfw depressed/anxious
>tfw no qt 3.14 anime bf

[Anonymous No.7277787]

>tfw you have the money to go to Katsucon
>tfw the cosplay you were planning to debut is fairly cost-effective
>tfw when you get to go with your good friends who are easy to room with
>tfw when your fave con friend from out of state is gonna be there

>tfw you have to return to school in bumfuck nowhere for the second semester and transportation to the National Harbor would be more expensive than the new cosplay, room and food combined

[Siggy !!t8DinvBlO2w No.7277793]

>>7277765

Just be obnoxious about wanting your job. Call back every three days, smile like you're stupid during the interview, let your employer know you're willing to be a human guinea-pig, that type of jazz. Restaurants and retail aren't looking to employ geniuses; they're looking for gophers.

>>7277767

What the fuck am I reading?

[Anonymous No.7277796]

>>7277793
It was a fucking horrible experience. He kept chocking me.

[Anonymous No.7277799]

>>7277793
It was a fucking horrible experience. He kept choking me.

[Anonymous No.7277798]

>>7277793
Is that really how it is? Wow....I'll give being loose a try. I've been trying my hardest to be professional at interviews and when handing out resumes..I guess I've been going at it wrong

[Anonymous No.7277804]

>>7277783
Stop being so fucking lazy and get a job like everyone else. No wonder we get so many misogynistic shit posters here.

[Anonymous No.7277808]

>>7277804
This is actually the oldest job ever.

[Anonymous No.7277815]

>>7277773
I don't want to "try new things with girls" I just mostly want to live with a girly friend. I know someone who has her friend live with her and they have a lot of fun. It's not "sparkles and rainbows" and all that shit but they do live with eachother, they have fun, talk, and all that.
>>7277775
I don't want it to really be much of a relationship. I mostly just wish I could live with a friend into the same things as me.
>Just make a friend then. Problem solved.
I don't really text and me and my friends were never the social networking types so I never used it much and so I never got good with it. All I ever use is Skype but hardly anyone uses that.
>>7277776
I know she wouldn't be my dress up doll. I just want to have a really good friend into the same fashion to live with.
I never got a friend like that before and never got to go out with friends and have fun. I just want to have a girl friend to do fun things with.

[Anonymous No.7277814]

>>7277705
yoooo anon I know that feel
I want a kawaii little girlfriend to spin around and give piggy back rides to and shit like that because I've always had a desire to play the role of boyfriend instead of girlfriend.
I want a waifu to spoil...but I'm in an awesome relationship and I don't think that will ever change either.
We will be kawaii girlfriendless together.

[Anonymous No.7277818]

>>7277783
What kind of guy is gonna want to marry you?
I hope you're happy being a hoe forever.

[Anonymous No.7277822]

>>7277818
>Hi, my name is anon and I've been a sugar baby
Nobody does that.

After I'm done with this I'm gonna find me some sweet virgin guy to watch chinese cartoons with me and start over.

[Anonymous No.7277825]

>>7277815
Stop saying you want an actual girlfriend then, you're making bisexual girls look like morons. This doesn't involve your relationship with your boyfriend, it's about you and your lack of friends. I feel bad for your boyfriend, you sound like a whiny pain in the butt who will never be happy.

[Anonymous No.7277826]

>>7277815
adding to this, if you never got to have a relationship with anyone but got into a really long and serious relationship right off the bat and also had never had a friend into hardly any of the same things as you in your life you wouldn't wonder what it was like to have a good friend like that and wonder what it was like even just to have a semi-romantic relationship with someone? And the reason I wouldn't want to have sex with her is because I can't stomach the thought of having sex with anyone who isn't my boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.7277827]

>>7277822
I hope having a sugar daddy doesn`t inflate your standards of a man.
(i.e. rich, successful, funds all your lolita/cosplay/whatever needs).

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277828]

>>7277815
Having a friend to hang out with isn't the same as what you initially mentioned about having a girlfriend, kissing her and taking showers with her, and developing a relationship. Sounds to me like you're really just lonely and want more friends with the same interests. But if you don't put yourself out there by communicating with them in any way besides face-to-face, of course you're not going to make friends. It's your own fault for not developing your own friendships and hobbies. Get back out there and organize a luncheon or a shopping trip or something and stop laying around, wishing for things to magically fall into place for you.

[Anonymous No.7277833]

>>7277815
Go make a god damn Facebook account and get used to it for fuck's sake.

[Anonymous No.7277834]

>>7277827
Nah, I just don't wanna be a broke ass college student and I'm doing this for now.

[Anonymous No.7277839]

>>7277719
That's cause bitches outside this fashion don't know shit about lolita.
Seriously, have you ever searched "lolita" on Storenvy? Pic related. It was on the first page.

[Anonymous No.7277846]

>tfw you can only go to two cons a year while your other friends have the funds to go to about 20
>tfw you know theyre just as fucking poor as you are how the fuck are they going to so many cons a year
im so stumped.

[Anonymous No.7277849]

>>7277744
Same, bro. But honestly, I'd rather be a single lolita than a taken normalfag. T-shirts and jeans ain't kawaii, you.

[Anonymous No.7277852]

>>7277783
Oh my gosh anon-chan I've gotta say you're really brave for it, I doubt I could go through with having an actual in-person sugar daddy that I have to fuck, I'm too much of a wuss when it comes to sex... do you even care about it anymore?

I hope whoever you end up with in the end loves you unconditionally, best of luck on that anon.

[Anonymous No.7277851]

>>7277826
You sound like an insufferable special snowflake. Stop whining and fuck off already. If you want friends, get off your ass and do something about it.

[Anonymous No.7277855]

>>7277681
>I'm working my ass off in school to become successful and prove them wrong.
I know it doesn't mean much coming from an internet stranger, but I'm proud of you, anon. I'm sorry you're dealing with this shit right now, but things are going to be so much better for you.

[Anonymous No.7277856]

>>7277849
>you
I meant "yo"... Nice job, hands.

[Anonymous No.7277870]

>>7277828
I have 2 friends I hang out with semi-regularly. It's just that too many people where I live don't Jfashion and think it's too strange and I never had enough in common for many people for them to want to hang out.
Also I moved a lot in my life and always when I got to a new place people would have best friends they were always hanging out with so when I'd try and make plans they'd almost always have friends with someone else. So I have 2 okay friends I hang out with semi-regularly but they still aren't interested in much of the same stuff as me and I always wished I knew someone who was or could live with someone who was similar to me even if it was just for like a year.
>>7277833
Why would I if none of my friends use Facebook?
>>7277851
I'm not a special snowflake at all.

[Anonymous No.7277866]

>>7277856
If it makes you feel any better, I read it as "yo".

[Anonymous No.7277871]

>>7277852
Well I got used to it, but he's not my type if you mean that.

And thanks, I'm good with men so I'm sure I'm gonna find a super cute bf after all this.

[Anonymous No.7277875]

>>7277870
>have friends with someone else
I mean have plans with someone else.

[Anonymous No.7277881]

>>7277846
Dude. This.
Blows my fucking mind.

[Anonymous No.7277882]

>>7277846
UGH I know this feeling all too well, anon...

[Anonymous No.7277885]

>>7277866
It does, actually.

[Anonymous No.7277880]

>>7277681
Oh anon, hang in there okay? Get your own place and get successful, because you really don't deserve any of that, you're going to prove them so wrong someday!

[Anonymous No.7277889]

>>7277846
well have you ever asked them how they do it?

[Anonymous No.7277893]

>>7277885
Not that anon, but I read it as "yo" too, I thought you were just being japanese or something.

[Anonymous No.7277898]

>>7277870
>I'm not a special snowflake at all.

Lol, you are the epitome of a special snowflake. I couldn't even read this post in it's entirety as it's just one whinge after another. Why are you still posting?

[Anonymous No.7277901]

>>7277610
I know your feels anon. My mom was the same way. I never even dared dress lolita while I lived with her, I just tried to make my outfits a little lolita inspired and slowly died inside. I could elaborate more, but she was also very suffocating and I actually did count several month long periods go by where I wasn't even able to leave the house, but I won't get into the whole story. The best thing I ever did in my life was get out of the situation, and the only way was for me to move in with a boy as soon as I became 18 and moved out of state. Sometimes I wonder if it was a good decision because as we've been together a while I wonder if our (my boyfriend and I) lifestyles can mesh for the long run but I honestly believe I did make the best decision out of what I could at the time, and now me and my mom are good friends long distance wise.

Otherwise related to this thread, pretty much same problem as OP but for now instead of wasting money on a ton of brand I'm focusing on keeping myself looking as young as possible with skin care and a healthy diet things so when I do actually have the money to buy the shit I want, I may be old but at least I won't look it. It's the best I can make of the situation I suppose. Better than getting bankrupt to look kawaii

[Anonymous No.7277902]

>>7277826
>>7277870

I understand what you mean, and fantasies don't equal cheating, so don't worry about that. I think where the concern comes up is that you said that you felt hollow to not get this chance. It kind of sounds from your other posts that is isn't quite as dramatic as that, right? More like watching an anime and getting that heart boner where you're like "UGH these anime girls are so SWEET and CUTE and why aren't they real", but not drifting into otaku territory of "Life isn't worth it without my kawaii animes, ugh 3DPD everywhere"

I think that you should try redefining your thought of friendship. Friendships are stressful and I'm definitely not saying that it's as easy as "OMG JUST GET OUT THERE". I'm having a terrible time with it myself. However, it sounds like you haven't had a lot of close friendships, so that means you haven't seen the types of dynamics that friendships can have. I've had a friend who we snarked at each other and were kind of stand offish and our lives revolved around laughter and making puns. It was nice. I had another friend who we would philosophize about life and walk together at night to admire the stars and we spent a lot of our time together cuddling on the couch. I had another friend who would greet me with a kiss on the cheek and we'd drink tea and talk about how great boobs are and she'd show me her art and sing the songs she had written.
I've showered with three of my female friends on separate occasions.

What I'm trying to say, is that "friends" is a very wide definition, a fact that can be very confusing! My current relationship spurred from cuddling constantly and sharing our innermost secrets and despairs and being silly together. It progressed to a point that we looked at each other one day and said, "....Is this dating?" "I don't know... Do we want it to be?" "...Sounds perfect."
I'm going on a tangent. A friend can be what you describe. Don't give up hope! Your dream can be realized.

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277903]

>>7277870
So many excuses. If you don't want a girlfriend, say you don't want a girlfriend. If you don't want friends, don't complain about not having friends. Friendship takes work, just like everything else. Stop whining and take some initiative.
At this point, I kind of feel bad for your boyfriend. You get defensive, make excuses, you're too lazy to work towards having your own friends, and on top of all that, you're having fantasies about leaving your boyfriend for some kawaii princess girlfriend you don't even want to have sex with.
Ugh, please be like 16. I don't want to think that anyone older than 20 would act like this.

[Anonymous No.7277905]

>>7277903
You, I like you

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277909]

>>7277905
I like you, too, hotdog person.
>>7277825
I also like you for understanding why real bisexual women feel like asstards when they have to tell people they're bisexual.

[Anonymous No.7277919]

>tfw window shopping
>always window shopping
>tfw watchlist on ebay grows every week

At least I'm not buying everything like I usually would.

[Anonymous No.7277917]

>>7277798
Seriously: >>7277793 is exactly right about "smiling like you're stupid." I work retail and consistently have my picture up on my store's brag board for "friendliest cashier." My coworkers always comment on how helpful I am, how nice I am, how they really like working with me, etc. My bosses tell me on a weekly basis that customers have said I'm doing an excellent job.

My secret? I channel an over-friendly puppy dog. The second I walk into work: SMILES! I am SO HAPPY to be here! I LOVE my job! This is SO MUCH FUN. My job is GREAT and I am so LUCKY to be here.

It's all an act. You've got to put on a good show. It's worked for me--I was offered a full-time position after three months in a company that's not hiring full-time employees and with co-workers that have been trying to go full-time for over a year. I couldn't accept since I'm a full-time student, but hey, it's the thought that counts, right? I don't plan on doing this forever, but with entry-level bullshit jobs I imagine it's all the same. Maybe it's different for men, though.

[Anonymous No.7277921]

>tfw this board is helping me become a terrible person
The mentality here has made me more judgmental. It's worsened by the fact that I lost a lot of weight about a year ago, and so I'm a lot skinnier and generally better-looking than I was growing up. Now whenever I see a fat ita on this board, I inwardly become a raving cunt. The /cgl/ mindset combined with the fact that I've personally been successful in losing weight has made me really merciless to girls who struggle with their size. I don't ever vocalize these thoughts, but there in there, man. They are really in there.

[Anonymous No.7277931]

>>7277921
It'll pass, anon, don't worry! I used to be like you until I started getting bored, and now I just browse for advice, avoid drama when I can, and look at pretty pictures. The raving cunt inside me has turned into something more apathetic. I'm still judgmental but too used to fat bitches to care.

[Anonymous No.7277940]

>>7277902
Thank you, and it's not a very dramatic thing, I just wanted to write a quick greentext story about it really. Honestly I just wish I had a friend a good friendship with someone into cute things and jfashion and we could shop and faun over cute things together and dress up and have fun going out and stuff. I've never gotten a chance to meet anyone with really similar interests as me before and haven't had many close friendships in my life.
And yeah I haven't had too many friendships, usually I was grounded by my parents for bad grades so I was having a hard enough time making friends but also couldn't make plans with them often, so then when I wasn't grounded I hardly even knew where to start.
And yeah I don't see why people think the showering and kissing is such a big deal, I've done that with my closest friend before. Also I refer to my closer friends as girlfriends. I didn't think it was as uncommon as it apparently is, my mom calls her close girl friends girlfriends all the time.
And thank you for understanding, you seem like a very nice person.
>>7277903
You realize when I say girlfriend I mean really close friend right? My mom calls all her really close girl friends girlfriends. And I won't explain again why I'm horrible at making plans, but I am capable of making plans... The main problem is keeping in contact with people really.

[Anonymous No.7277941]

>>7277921
Ugh I'm kind of like that too now, I used to be kind of a fatty but then I just lost all my extra pounds ever since I went vegeterian. It makes me feel like a bad person for thinking like that but at the same time I don't even care??
Did you work to drop the weight or did it just kind of happen? Because I'm thinking maybe I'm just judgy because I didn't have to work for it so I (subconsciously??) expect others to be like me ugh

[Anonymous No.7277951]

>>7277931
Thank you, Anon. Maybe there's hope for my salty ass after all.
>>7277941
Similar situation, I lost weight when I became vegan. I feel like I'm judgey because being vegan does take work (at least at first), and I think: "Well, if I can put in the effort, why can't you?" Which I know is totally unfair, especially because being vegan really isn't for everyone.

[Siggy !!t8DinvBlO2w No.7277952]

>>7277917

The restaurant I work at mainly employs women for the server/hostess positions while men work in the dish-washing/kitchen-prep positions; in essence, women talk with the customers and men stay out of sight in the back. It's conservative and the clientele primarily consists of elderly people. That being said, I've never had any problems on the job.

I do get comments from time to time about being one of the only guys around, and dealing with old ladies winking at me or openly making flirtatious comments (l-lewd!) is always awkward. But just grinning and laughing out a one-word response always works in customer service.

[Anonymous No.7277961]

>>7277919
Anon, you and I both

[Anonymous No.7277964]

>>7277952
Yeah, the sexual harassment is a pain since I work in a store with mostly male customers. I was actually told point-blank during my job interview that sex appeal is part of the business and to not let it get to me, but at the same time if a customer gets too friendly to notify management immediately. Mixed signals all over the place. I feel for servers--I think you have it worse as far as that kind of thing goes.

[Anonymous No.7277972]

>>7277940
Well you specifically said "No sex stuff" and kept talking about being in a relationship with a girl? Especially here:
>Most people at least have a relationship or two before that but I never had never been with anyone else and had never gotten a chance to be with a girl or even have a friendship like that with a girl before.
>Even have a friendship
You were definitely talking about relationship girlfriend, not friend girlfriend.
Yeah, especially with your mom's generation, saying 'girlfriend' for a close female friend was typical. That's because gay relationships just weren't talked about. Now with the LGB movement, people can actually talk about this kind of shit. Personally I hate it how some women still use the outdated 'girlfriend', since I hate having that confusion.
If you're bi why would you make it more confusing? Hear a very straight girl say it, it's obvious and I'm just vaguely annoyed. A bisexual or lesbian girl saying it would get my eyebrows a-furrowed

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7277979]

>>7277940
>You realize when I say girlfriend I mean really close friend right?
>>7277705
>>tfw I always dreamed of having a decora or fairy kei girlfriend for a couple years to live with and exchange clothes, shop with, make things with, make bento with, kiss, talk about fashion , and etc.
>live with
>kiss
>>7277762
>a best friend except you kiss sometimes and shower together.
>kiss sometimes and shower together
>a best friend except
>except
Oh, so you mean the opposite of the thing you said in the first place. Good gravy, anon, stop backpedaling. And if you're horrible at making plans, that's your own fault. Stop spending so much time trying to win my approval and go rekindle your personal relationships. I'm only spending so much time bitching you out because I'm downed with an injury and have all the time in the world now. But even I'm getting over this conversation because you're coming off as a spoiled brat that doesn't want to put effort into anything.
I'm sure you must be in your mid-teens. If you're older than that and still acting this way, you'd better hope your boyfriend never figures out how immature and selfish you can be.

[Anonymous No.7277985]

>>7277921
I don't really understand this mentality. But I've seen it and I've been on the receiving end of it. I can't be angry at a fat person because I know what it was like. It was my decision to lose weight when I did. I don't see why someone else's decisions, much less those of a stranger, would make me angry or so pissed off I'd write an entire thesis on it like some crazy bitch did.

My advice, learn a bit of empathy. Think about what it was like and what that person might be going through. You'll be a lot less irrationally pissed and probably only mildly annoyed until it stops bothering you all together. If they are truly "struggling" with their size the desire is there, and the rest is up to them, really.

[Anonymous No.7278011]

>>7277951
Wow we really are in the same damn boat then, heres to being judgey bitches for the time being anon, woo

I really hope >>7277931 is right though, I'd rather not feel this way anymore

[Anonymous No.7278042]

>>7277846
>money from parents
>save money somehow for nothing but the cons
>sell drugs
I bet its one of those 3, you should ask.

[Anonymous No.7278044]

>>7278042
>*and by saving money I mean selling drugs*

[Anonymous No.7278050]

>>7277972
I wanted it to be kind of relationshiply, but mostly wanted it to be vanilla. I would also be fine with having her as mostly a girlfriend as in a really close friend though. The only things that are really close that I would just want to be able to though kiss and to shower together sometimes. Also I lived in Italy for 3 years and people used to kiss a lot there so maybe that's why I feel like I'd want to kiss her and find it to be not quite as strange as a lot of people do. It's just mostly what I feel like people who are really close do. Also it wouldn’t be anything intensive like making out, just light pecks really.
And I want live with a person who was into the same fashion as me and we could hang out and do girly things and have a lot of fun and have a bento and craft buddy and stuff, I wouldn't say it would actually be a true "relationship" though... Really they could date whoever they wanted. I just wanted to live with someone like me for a year or two in the end. I mostly would want to live with her because then I feel like it'd be easier to talk and I wouldn't have to worry about losing contact too. I guess it will never actually happen though.
Also I have told my boyfriend about this, he doesn't think it's so strange that I'd want something like this. He's really kind and understanding and he know all about why I’d think this. Mt psychologist also says that although this isn’t very normal but she knows the full story and does understand why I had wished to be able to live with a girl interested into the same things as me and someone to have this sort of relationship with and understands why such a thought would cross my mind since I had only had one sort of similar friend but I’m in a different state than them now anyways and we’ve mostly lost all contact.
Also I'm going to go and hide this thread, Katsumio keeps being catty and I haven't read her past couple posts and people keep on calling me a snowflake. See you.

[Anonymous No.7278053]

>>7278050
Gosh there are a lot of mistakes in this post, I'm sorry about them I can't go back and fix them all now I guess.
Well now I guess I'll go. I was just re-reading my post.

[Anonymous No.7278055]

>>7278050
>>7278053
This has to be a troll

[Anonymous No.7278071]

>>7278042
>>7278044
>*and by saving money I mean selling drugs to my parents*

[Anonymous No.7278073]

>>7278050
On the other hand, Katsu; I think you handled it swell.

[Anonymous No.7278074]

>>7278050

You really need to work on your grammar as well, honey.

[Anonymous No.7278177]

>>7277610
Holy shit, fuck that bitch!
Anon, if you need anybody to talk to, I'm all ears.

[Anonymous No.7278212]

>>7277979
This nigga is MAH nigga now

[Anonymous No.7278221]

>>7277979
Kissing and showering doesn't mean dating.
I kiss and take baths with my best friend all the time. If I could live with her I would. I understand why anon would want a friendship like this. I also have a boyfriend, too, and he's fine. I don't know why you're bitching at her about "not putting effort." This is a fucking feels thread. She was simply saying that she wanted a friend. You're being a cunt for no reason.

[Anonymous No.7278230]

>>7277705
Man you really shitted up this whole thread with your floozy desires.

[Anonymous No.7278245]

>>7278221
Sorry to tell you this anon but there's something really fucking off about showering with "friends".

[Anonymous No.7278248]

>>7278245
not that anon but I really don't see anything wrong with it if they're close friends?

Like they're comfortable enough with each other to shower together, I actually think that's pretty kawayee, you're either bitter or sheltered.

[Anonymous No.7278279]

>tfw have been single since I have been into lolita
>tfw lovesick over my ex and generally depressed and no motivation to get a new bf for over 4 years
>tfw already lost all my hope that it will ever get better at some point
>tfw no motivation to wear lolita anymore, everything just makes me fucking depressed
>tfw persuaded to go out dressed in lolita to celebrate new years eve
>meet some cute guy
>he smiles at me and tells me i'm looking too cute and he wished every woman would dress fancy like this
>oh god my heart is going to explode what is habbening
>tfw when we chat and laugh the entire night and next day, time passes just too fast
>tfw I realize we even share the same views and humour
>tfw slowly falling in love with each other

Never thought this could happen to me ever again. I already thought about leaving lolita but now I finally have some motivation to get my shit together and also change my life to the better.

[Anonymous No.7278383]

I would love to wear lolita, but even if I could afford an extensive wardrobe, I could probably never wear it anyway. I get too much shit from my parents.

> Own a handful of offbrand lolita pieces that I paid for myself.
> "Anon, these are for children."
> Show them online pictures of lolita's my age
> "Well, you can't be part of that fashion, you are too fat."
mfw I can fit in M-sized dresses.

> Grandma shows me pics of anorexic patients, tells me I need to be like them if I want to be a lolita
> "It's not a disease, anon. These girls are happy because they can wear what they want without looking fat."
> thefuckiswrongwithyou.jpg

> Occasionaly tried to wear casual lolita in my spare time
> Whenever grandma notices she blocks the front door, preventing me from leaving the house.
> If I protest she starts shrieking at my mom to force me to change
> Mom gets aggresive when I stand up for myself, so I always have to change
> tried compromising and talking lots of times, they just don't give a shit about my feelings

> One day I had had enough and smuggled the clothes I wanted to wear with me and put them on in a restroom before meeting my friends.
> normalfag friends love it and ask why I never wear these pretty clothes instead of the hideous baggy stuff my parents keep buying for me.
> Kept smuggling until parents found out one day and spent a whole month searching my bag if it was big enough to put clothing in before allowing me leave the house

That heartbreak when I'm a grown-up who is forced to put up with this shit because I can't afford my own place yet.

[Anonymous No.7278392]

>>7278383
Are your parents mentally healthy?
Damn.

[Anonymous No.7278402]

>>7277610
Your mom is a huge cunt, just like my dad. And while my mom is honest with me but not plain rude, my dad takes every chance he gets to break my self-esteem. When I wear Lolita he gives me comments like ''Are you trying to imitate princess Sissi?'' or he just tells me plain straight that I am too fat for X or Y. He even made my insecure about my hair telling me I look like ''Wicki the Viking'', I can't help my hair is super straight on its own. When he tells me that I am fat I usually snap back that I am only 5 kg overweight while he is fucking obese. His excuse ''I am old, so i don't have to take care anymore. You are 20 and you should know better'' Hope you get out of the house soon, anon. At least I only have to deal with his shit in the weekends when I am visiting them.

[Anonymous No.7278405]

>>7278383
>> "It's not a disease, anon. These girls are happy because they can wear what they want without looking fat."
What the fuck

[Anonymous No.7278410]

>>7277814
This is my dream now I am single again. I have not succeeded at being the girlfriend in three long relationships. I always was bisexual, I guess it is just easier to flirt with men than with women or something. So now that I am single again and kinda bored with men, I really hope to find a nice GF instead of a BF, so I can feed her ice cream and treat her like the princess she is.

[Anonymous No.7278421]

>>7278402
A-are you fucking me?
>My parents have spent my whole life telling me I am too fat for anything.
>I used to weigh 62 kgs at 163 cms.
>My ideal weight is supposed to be 59 kgs
>They make me lose weigh until I am 49 kgs
>I get fucking sick, it's hard to walk, I faint very easily, very low blood pressure, I'm cold and trembling most of the time
>They say it's unrelated to my weigh, it's just my body adapting to it's new healthy state. They won't let me eat sweets, meat, or anything that has milk, I'm pretty much surviving of veggies and tea. Also they make me go for 1-hour-long walks (despite I fucking faint everytime)
>I can't. Also, they are both fucking obese.

[Anonymous No.7278423]

If all these parents are so insistent that you're fat, maybe you are.

[Anonymous No.7278429]

>>7278421
That is unrelated to your weight, especially considering that wouldn't even be in the underweight category. It sounds specifically like protein deprivation. You probably weren't getting a full array of vitamins, so your body was shaky. The same thing happens to me when I eat all ramen during college quarters where I have no money. I gain wait and feel shaky, light headed, and I get low blood sugar.

Losing weight isn't about cutting certain food groups out, it's proportionally reducing your intake of all things to a balanced but smaller diet.

[Anonymous No.7278436]

>>7278423
such bait

[Anonymous No.7278438]

>>7278421
My mom can be kind of crude sometimes with comments like ''Well I would wear different pants with that, because your fat is bulging over the edge'' but at least she would just pick some other pants from my closet and stop the conversation. And I can handle my mom being obese herself and telling me I am fat, because she tried every diet in the world. She even starved herself on soup and yogurt in combination with acupuncture as a last resort, but the moment she started eating normally again (And no not fast food, just slices of bread in the morning and afternoon and a solid but non-fat meal in the evening) she gained it all back. So she is just trying to stop me from becoming morbid obese like her and no way to lose all those kg's. I feel sorry for her, because doctors refuse to help her until she loses weight. My mom tends to get furious about that listing all the things she has done and all that has failed. Which will shut them up most of the time. While my dad doesn't even make a fucking effort. He is just saying ''Yeah I am gonna lose weight now'' and that same day he will just stuff his face with fatty foods. Also the way he comments on the way I dress or my hair and glasses pisses me off, because at least I am making an effort while he is walking around like a hobo and thinks he is oh so handsome, while even my own mom is repulsed by his lack of hygiene and fashion sense. My parents are more the comment type of people though. I feel sorry that yours make you go through such a strict regime. Mine always say how I shouldn't eat X only to buy it or serve it and get all upset when I don't eat it.

[Anonymous No.7278440]

>>7278421
Your parents seem to be projecting there own issues and views of their self on to you. Do they say/release they are fat or do they believe they are skinny/normal? My Dad is obese yet has always told me I'm fat I am 58kg and 172cm currently (although I have been quite overweight and lost 20kg in a year). and he still makes comments sometimes and constantly tells me to eat healthier/like him (he eats a lot of takeaway and frozen crap but thinks it's healthy?) however he thinks he is normal/skinny and it's only in photos that he realises he is large. I have eating issues and a really screwed up body image due to him (and other things). Can you not move out anon? Or go see a counsellor or a doctor? There are people who can get you out of the situation, if you'd want to that is. I'm just worried that you might have serious issues due to the lifestyle your parents have forced upon you, be it psychological or medical. Your symptoms sound as if you may have iron or b12 deficiency aswell as low blood pressure but it could purely be due to the lack of food/proper nutrition and low weight. I really hope you are okay and that you will be okay.

[Anonymous No.7278441]

>>7278421
>2014
>letting your parents abuse you
>you are on the fucking internet and you are ALLOWING your parents to abuse you
This is literally your fault at this point. I'm not even joking. Hang up the internet and go fucking call your local police department's non-emergency line.

[Anonymous No.7278451]

>>7278421
49 doesn't seem that bad for 163cm (granted I don't know what your bf% is)... I weigh 50 at 164, but no meat? dairy? hell, even sweets? Those bastards!
The walks are reasonable too, but if they just let you eat normally you wouldn't faint! Shit, I mad!
Just tell them you're going on a high-protein diet and eat as much as you can. The Dukan diet is one of those, maybe you'll lose wait and they'll leave you alone at the same time...

[Anonymous No.7278454]

>>7278421
Can you get to a doctor? Maybe having a doctor or two tell your parents that the diet they've forced you onto is fucking you up big time will make them stop.

[Anonymous No.7278455]

>>7278451
weight* sorry

[Anonymous No.7278458]

>>7277744
You're not going after the good kind of men

>tfw everyday lolita for years
>tfw I get men because I'm "cute, elegant and smart-looking"
>tfw boyfriends (it's my forth in near 7 years being lolita) always celtic/nordic master race, super fit and well dressed (gothic/dandy)
>tfw boyfriend ask me why I'm not in lolita today because I look like his dear princess when I'm dolled up and he likes it
>tfw everywere we go people say that we are the cutest couple ever.

Being a lolita actually attract some cute boys

[Anonymous No.7278460]

>>7278458
>tfw that really happened

[Anonymous No.7278464]

>>7278429
I guess that can be the issue too, since I'm not on a healthy diet. I believed it was related to my weight as it just happened when I lost fat, not when I was put on extreme diets (They have put me in extreme diets before, such as only letting me eat one sandwich a day).
>>7278438
>>7278440
They are convinced they are a normal weight, and when I try to stand up and tell them they aren't skinny they go "Oh I am not fat! Maybe I got a bit chubby but obviously nothing unhealthy! Why are you so mean u hurt my feelings!", also they are very conservative and want me to marry as soon as possible so I guess they are projecting their fears
>>7278441
They are toxic and abusive in many other ways so I can't really call an emergency line or just pack my things and move out.

[Anonymous No.7278469]

>>7278458
>lying on an anonymous imageboard

[Anonymous No.7278473]

>>7278464
Jesus christ anon. Isn't there someone you can call about this? I know in The Netherlands we have this thing called ''De Kindertelefoon'' which translates to ''The Childphone'' You can call them when you are under 18 years of age with all kinds of problems from the less serious like questions about your sexuality to serious business like abuse. And they have a solid advice. Now I am guessing you are 18+, seeing how you must be that age for this site and just still living with your parents. But isn't their a similar thing in your country?

[Anonymous No.7278474]

>>7278469
Think what you want, but if your a good looking and confident picking up guys is not that hard. Especially goth/nerdy guys.

[Anonymous No.7278475]

>>7278451
I guess it's not a bad weight but my diet it's a bit too extreme maybe. I will try to talk to them but I think it's no use because they want me to lose weight very fast, as my mom still thinks I'm too fat and will often say "When I was your age I was 170cm tall and 47kgs and I was totally healthy and pretty"
>>7278454
It's difficult to go to a doctor as the nearest hospital it's 3 towns away and I can't drive nor there are any public transport services (I live in a very small village). Also they don't like letting me go to hospitals.

[Anonymous No.7278478]

>>7278473
Yes, I think there is a childphone in here too, but as you said, I'm over 18, and the law here says that if I'm 18 and actually abused, I'd move away, and if I don't, it's because I'm lying.

[Anonymous No.7278479]

>>7278464
It seems to be a trend amongst some obese parents to project these things. I think it is important that you go to a doctor asap. May I ask how old you are? If you are at school please talk to your school counsellor about this as it is very damaging and child abuse. There are services that can remove you from the situation and can give you the rights to be classified as independent, the police can even assist with getting your stuff from them if they try to hold on to it. A family friend of mine had a very controlling and emotional abusive mother it was only after the girl went to emergency due to taking too many pills did she get out of the situation. The role of various organisations is to help prevent that.

[Anonymous No.7278483]

>>7278475
Can a friend take you to the hospital? I think it is quite necessary as deficiency can cause serious problems and if it is due to having too little body fat then that is also very problematic.

[Anonymous No.7278492]

>>7278479
I'm 19 at the moment, and I didn't think about asking my college counselor or anything. I'll talk to him asap to see if we can work out something to get me out of this situation. Thank you a lot for your advice.
>>7278483
Never thought about this as well. I'm sure they'll be ok with taking me to the hospital as they care a lot about me. Thank you for your advice.

[Anonymous No.7278500]

>>7278474
My partner is Goth and nerdy (alhough he is into Punk a lot now) and I started dating him before I got into lolita, I wore a lot of Goth and vintage clothes yet he has had no problems with lolita, he actually likes my clothes, chats with me about the fashion sometimes, compliments me and has purchased a headbow for me as a gift. Goths I believe are quite open minded and some even appreciate Victorian clothes thus a lolita gf can be appealing. Also they don't mind that you will stand out in public because they do.

[Anonymous No.7278510]

>>7278500
Yes, exactly ! My former boyfriend was into romantic gothic and he loved my style (classic/gothic lolita) because he genuinly tought those clothes were pretty, he even gifted me loliable jewerly and we often made coordinated outfit for the both of us. It was totally awesome.

[Anonymous No.7278520]

>>7278510
That's amazing that you wore matching coords and he appreciated it that much! That's very sweet he bought you loliable jewellery. I wear the same styles as you but when I'm in classic my partner and I look very contrasting but it's nice.

[Anonymous No.7278524]

>>7278492
Just one thing: assuming from what I've read, your parents think they are doing the right thing and if they're really persistent, it might be possible that they won't even take the doctor seriously and will put you on that diet again because of the whole 'it was healthy for me' thing.

If you think there is a chance that something like that could happen, tell the doctor about that as well. He/she might be able to find way to keep an eye on you to make sure this whole thing doesn't start over again.

[Anonymous No.7278529]

>>7278520
What substyle is your boyfriend in ? I know romantic goth sometimes wear color and they are more prone to wear really historical looking clothes, so even in ligher classic coords it doesn't contrast that much.
When we matched or outfit we usued to go full black with an accent color (gold, silver, green, red), so it was easier to match (I remember offering him a lavallière for his birtday that happened to match exactly my bordeaux dress, which was one of his favourite). It was really sweet of him, he even came to some meets with me. He really love clothes, so even now we are not together anymore whe still talk clothes and stuff from time to time.

Shiii, I regret breaking up with him now, even if my actual boyfriend is cute and well dressed too...the other was just way more mature, it was a great relationship.

[Anonymous No.7278567]

>>7278500
That's adorable, anon! I always hang around the punk area while in loli, both because I like looking at punk guys (their overall look gives me the dokis) and because nobody harasses you for looking 'out there'. I really want some spikey, patched-up guy wants to make me his frilly gf some day. Thanks for giving me hope!

[Anonymous No.7278593]

>>7278279
Congratulations! That's really sweet, wish you good luck.

[Anonymous No.7278609]

>>7278383
what the hell is wrong with your family?!
>>7278402
and yours?! stop visiting that old fuck.
>>7278421
AND YOURS. this sounds like textbook abuse.

[Anonymous No.7278616]

>tfw the only cosplay you can look accurate in are masked characters
>tfw the only conventions you can go to are in the summer
>tfw the only friends that want to go always cling to you like a fucking pilot fish

[Anonymous No.7278620]

>>7278529
Remember Anon, there was a reason you broke up. Sometimes I think back about my exes and I am like ''Yeah those were good times'' and sometimes I really miss it. But then I remember the bad things and I am like ''Yep, don't long to get back anymore''

>>7278609
That old fuck sadly lives with my mom. And I love my mom. She has to deal with his bullshit everyday, and frankly after so many years of him dragging me down I don't really care anymore. I was way more stressed out by him when I was still living at home. My mom still has to go through his whining everyday. He is a big manchild really. He comments on everything he sees and is incredibly racist. When watching the news he can't keep his mouth shut. To the point where my mom and I yell at him to shut the fuck up and let us watch the news. He also has a lot of self pity and tells everyone with ears his every ill, while telling me to ''Grow up and stop complaining'' even though I have some actual chronic diseases and never mention my pain unless it is really serious and feel like I could use some support. Not to mention his delusion that he isn't looking like an old hobo and that he still has the physique and appeal of a young god.

[Anonymous No.7278631]

>>7278620
We broke up after a year and a half because we were living far away fom each other and as broken ass students it was difficult for us to spend time together...if it wasn't that way we would not have broke at all, I know it and he does too.

Anyway we both moved on in life, and even it's possible that we made end up together again, I don't think it'll ever happen. I thinks that he was my first "true love", and he felt the same way, but being self-destructful young adults together is not the best thing to do at the moment.

On an other side, be strong, anon <3 I hope your mother is happy anyway, and that your familly life don't take you down to much.

[Anonymous No.7278642]

>>7278631
Oh yeah that is a whole different situation then. Well who knows. Maybe fairy tale love does exist and you will end up together again in the future. And thank you anon, I am not sure if she is truly happy, but I try to make her as happy as I can. I've learned to deal with his bullshit and either agreeing to make him stop or laughing about it (even though I don't mean it) and usually he leaves me alone after that. It is not even the words that annoy me now, more him seeking reasons to bother me.

[Anonymous No.7278665]

>long time ago was in a relationship with "best lolita in the country"
>at least that's what she called herself
>she was a milanoo tier ita disaster, but i didn't know much abou lolita back then
>was also a weeb and delusional, manipulative bitch who always threatened to hurt herself if I left her (she used to hide her cray really well)
>i started getting really interested in lolita
>she was constantly putting me down
>told me I'm too ugly and too old to me in this fashion. (I was 18)
>always made fun of my breast size because "you cannot be loli when you have big breasts! You look like a cow. You have to be more like me, I am the only true loli!"
>"but anon, classic and sweet are not real styles! Only gothic is the true lolita style because it was invented by Mana-sama!"
>"sweet and classic lolitas are all whores!"
>"I'm like a child of Mana-sama! Nya~"
>Why are Moitie's clothes so expensive?? I need to find a sugar daddy!"
>Finally managed to separate myself from this toxic bitch and dumped her ass
>finally no one tell me I'm ugly and criticizes everything I do
>lost a bit of weight to fit into burando, became a classic lolita
>she got fatter and stayed an ita disaster
>sorted everything out
>life is totally awesome now

Bonus:
>at my first meet up it turns out most of lolis know my ex
>no one ever heard of her being a lolita, let alone beng "the best one"
>they know her because she hit on them all, most likely when we were still in "relationship"

[Anonymous No.7278672]

>tfw you have a decent body/cute face for cosplay.
>bad skin/acne.
>has actually tried everything to achieve clear skin, nothing has worked in years.

I hate it so much.

[Anonymous No.7278673]

>>7278665
>"sweet and classic lolitas are all whores!"
>"Why are Moitie's clothes so expensive?? I need to find a sugar daddy!"
lol

[Anonymous No.7278682]

>>7278673
I know anon. It's even more hilarious because she said those thing in a span of a week.

[Anonymous No.7278683]

>>7278672
Oh my god I can relate.

>Decent face
>Okay body, working out and eating clean to lose weight and put on muscle
>Face almost has little to no acne
>BODY.
>Worst bacne ever
>It's even on my butt and boobs
>Washes every day with anti-acne body wash, always wears clean clothes, nothing is working
>mfw

[Anonymous No.7278684]

>>7278672
Aww that sucks. My facial acne has gotten worse as I've gotten older, I used to get most of it on my back as a teenager so never wore halter neck tops despite them being the trendiest thing ever at the time. Now I get it all on my face, thankfully mainly my forehead/temples so I can hide it with clip in bangs, but fuck you stupid cysts. I am wondering about roaccutane (isotretonoin) but I'm not sure if it's considered severe enough since it's only a small area.

[Anonymous No.7278685]

>>7278672
Have you tried not washing your face with cleaners and just using water to rinse it off and leaving it like that for a few days to see what happens?

It worked for me. Idk, everyone has different skin.

[Anonymous No.7278686]

>>7277921
I love that mind set. All the drama on this site is like vitamins and nutrients for my body~

[Anonymous No.7278689]

>>7278672
>>7278683
>>7278684
I never really had acne or even pimples as a teen. But I can kinda relate. I am highly allergic and it can shift within months from being allergic to a certain kind of tree to being allergic to certain foods. So I often break out in hives everywhere, even my boobs. I also have very sensitive skin (when you scratch me no matter how light, it will instantly become red and the scratch will swell up) so temperatures really affect me. When it is too hot or cold outside I have this red itchy patches everywhere. I have medicine for this, but sometimes they don't work. I actually have a nice skin when not having bad allergic reactions, smooth and soft. But more often then not I am covered in red patches or hives

[Anonymous No.7278696]

>>7278689
I have the same shit. It's miserable.

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7278700]

>>7278212
>>7278073
Thanks, anons. I don't think any of these girls fantasizing about having a waifu knows just how hard it is to actually date a girl. If they did, they'd call it quits and go back to doing everything the easy way. Nobody would choose to be bi or a lesbian if they figured out how shitty it can be.

[Anonymous No.7278702]

>>7278383
Your parents and grandmother have really unhealthy views. I'm glad it seems like you've got a good head on your shoulders as far as your body image goes. Best of luck, anon.

[Anonymous No.7278704]

>>7278685
What's strange is that it normally appears on the same side of my face (the other side is fine?), so I don't think cleansers is making it flare up. I've been changing my pillow covers lately to see if there's a change, but only time will tell.

[Anonymous No.7278710]

>>7278700
I am fantasizing about a waifu, even though I never dated a girl. I was to scared before and I still regret letting one girl go, because I was afraid that she was heterosexual and think of me as creepy when I would try something. She was the cutest. She was really short but feisty and I always loved it when she snuggled against me, no matter how cold her hands. But she always told me she did those things, because ''I was nice and warm for a girl'' I am not expecting it to be easier then a man, because girls got troubles too. I am just longing for the softness of a girl now, who I can talk girl stuff with and who I can spoil like a princess. I got kinda bored of being the one who gets spoiled and fed. Boys tend to be hesitating when you try to feed them a bite of your ice cream or cookie. Because guys usually let their girlfriends taste and not the other way around. I really want a girl to spoon at night instead of being spooned.

[Anonymous No.7278724]

>>7277745
damn anon, me too. Everyone's hyped about ALA, I bought myself a badge but I'm no longer able to because I have a gig at that same con weekend. I'll attend in 2015 because I've done a roll over

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7278725]

>>7278710
>I never dated a girl
This is kind of my entire point. Grass is always greener on the other side, toots. Until you actually have a relationship with a girl, you have absolutely no idea how difficult it really is. If you want to change your relationship dynamic, you'll have to talk to your boyfriend about that. But no magical qt3.14 is going to come floating down from the sky and suddenly enrich your life and everything will be sparkles and rainbows. If you want to dump your boyfriend and try to get a girlfriend, that's your business, but I'm willing to bet you'd regret it.
Ugh, these straight girls. You guys really have no clue.

[Anonymous No.7278731]

>>7278725
Not that anon but I'm bi (or more pan whatever those tumblr girls calls it), and I find guys much easier to deal with. I mean, relationship wise, if I were with another girl we would just fight over anything and don't try to communicate about our feels and just trhow a fit because we can't read in each other mind (and that happened with two of my former girlfriends). So I usually stick with man, they are relaxing.

[Anonymous No.7278735]

>>7278731
I find men tend to be more of a hassle than women.

[Anonymous No.7278744]

>>7278735
I guess I didn't found the right girl then. But I don't know how to handle women at all tought

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7278746]

>>7278731
>>7278735
Men and women are kind of apples and oranges. I get trying to experiment and maybe trying to start a relationship with a girl if you're single, but my point is that these girls are actually thinking about ending their happy relationships with guys because they want to know what it's like to have a waifu, not a real girlfriend. As >>7278731 can attest, relationships with girls can be complicated as hell, not to mention the homophobic crap one has to deal with on the side.
I myself prefer girls to guys, but a lot of that is probably from personal experiences. Also, bracing for 24-hr ban for being off-topic.

[gg No.7278748]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CEgcuG0Kq3c

[Anonymous No.7278751]

>>7278725
I am a single girl, and I am bisexual. So I am not that anon with a BF, who wants magical sparkles. Just always kinda ended up with a guy, because I am to chicken to flirt with girls in clubs. So gonna visit some more lesbian parties to find the right girl. I don't think girls are more difficult, however I think they can be equally difficult. Of course I don't expect rainbows and sparkles. I am just so bored with men lately, even guys i found attractive in the past. All sexual attraction is kinda gone for them, while my heart still flutters with some girls.

>>7278731
I like men when being friends, they are so easy going. However I always found that in relationships they will always have this macho culture going on. Even the softest non-manly man I dated still had some traits, and it annoys me. It would take so fucking long before he would admit that he was upset about something and actually wanted to cry. Just fucking cry if you want to, I am your gf ffs. And of course that ''I don't wanna lose to a girl'' bullshit, and his ego being blasted if I bested him in something.

[Anonymous No.7278754]

>>7278751
Also I am >>7278710 so that makes your comment towards me kinda invalid as you said it in >>7278746 yourself, that dating a girl if you are single is fine

[Anonymous No.7278782]

>>7278248
They never said it was "wrong" but it's not normal unless you're getting sexual in some way. Go ahead, go and ask all your female friends if they'd like to have a shower with you and see what happens.

[Anonymous No.7278784]

>>7278279
That's sweet but it's pretty sad that you wanted to leave lolita because you couldn't find a boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.7278795]

Do most boyfriends get jealous if you fool around with a girl

I thought they liked that stuff

[Katsumiyo !pGNZlskXEI No.7278810]

>>7278795
If you define your relationship as monogamous, it's wrong either way. Some guys like it, some guys don't, but either way it's best to apply the Golden Rule.

[Anonymous No.7278851]

>>7278795
Unless you've had a talk with your boyfriend and specifically determined as a couple that it wouldn't be cheating for you to fool around with another girl, I wouldn't do it. You should also define fooling around while you're at it--fooling around can be anything from making out to full-out sex.

You don't want to have to defend yourself later when/if you're accused of cheating--talk about it first.

[Anonymous No.7278885]

>>7278795
Talk about it with him. I had one who was okay with me kissing girls, another who would only allow it if he got to fool around with the girl too and another who was strictly against. It depends on the person really

[Anonymous No.7278888]

>>7278795
Would you get jealous if he fooled around with a boy?

[Anonymous No.7278892]

>>7278795
And tell the girl that you have a boyfriend before you start anything. Many people are not ok with doing sexual stuff with someone commited, even if their SO gave them constent.

[Anonymous No.7278896]

>>7278888

Yes

I know its double standards but thats just how I feel

[Anonymous No.7278902]

>>7278896
Then you are selfish with a self esteem problem. You probably should grow up before you fuck over someone's life with your problems.

[Anonymous No.7278988]

>>7277737
uh, sorry to break it to you anon, but even over seas SD are going to want to meet you at one point. A lot of those men are pushier as well.

they have the money to buy you a plane ticket, obviously, also its annoying as piss to do background checks on guys all the time. If youre going to enter the bowl and become a SB, dont half ass it.

[Anonymous No.7279013]

>>7278683
Go to a spa and get a back facial. The esthetician should help clean up your back a little with a specific treatment, and can tell you ways to control it. If you cant afford a spa go to a beauty school that has an esthetics program, you can get the same treatments as a spa for dirt cheap.

Also the teachers who are all licensed will be present and can give you a proper diagnosis as well

[Anonymous No.7279078]

>>7278751
>Just fucking cry if you want to, I am your gf ffs.
I'm a guy and I totally agree with you. I would love to have a gf who I could tell all my problems to and cry on when I needed it. I also don't mind losing to a girl, especially if she's my gf. I love competition and take it as a challenge to improve myself.

The thing is, most girls hate that shit. They want the man to be the man so they can be the pampered princess. Doing things that are too feminine are a complete turn off to most girls, thus men learn to hide it so they don't get dumped for a "real man". I hate that it has to be like this.

[Anonymous No.7279092]

>>7279078
We always compet in a lot of ting my boyfriend and I, I often win but he won't admit it. Anyway it's fun and healthy so I don't understand why not. Also, no problem with a boy crying, I cry too, we are human beings, right ?

[Anonymous No.7279117]

>>7278782
When I was doing homestay in Japan when I was 17, my host sister asked if I wanted to bathe with her. And we did, and we just sat in the bath together talking. It definitely wasn't sexual for her and very normal since that's what people do in Japan, but I'm bisexual so it was interesting for me!

Also my childhood friend (also a japanese girl) and I would always have baths together when we were little (like 4yrs old).

But the only showers I've had as an adult with western girls have always been a lead-up to sexual stuff.

[Anonymous No.7279128]

you ever been to a nightclub? normalfags kissing and groping each other all the time
thats much worse than just showering

its not a big deal

[Anonymous No.7279138]

>>7279117
I think we're talking about it in a strictly sexual context since the first time it was brought up it seemed to be in the context of a sexual non-sexual relationship with another woman.
>Basically like living with a best friend except you kiss sometimes and shower together.

[Anonymous No.7279172]

>>7278782

My friend is super touchy with her friends, less so with me, but all the same, last time we went clothes shopping she specifically asked for one room for the two of us.

I could probably ask to shower with her and she wouldn't blink. Some people just have fewer boundaries.

[Anonymous No.7279180]

>>7279138
But the girl who wrote that didn't say it would be sexual. She said kissing, living together, and showering together. She also said she wouldn't want sex. You see it as sexual and are applying that label but not everyone does.

[Anonymous No.7279194]

>>7279172
One of my friends just feels most comfortable naked. She is very petite and wear properly fitting clothes, but everything leaves marks on her. When in her home with just us girls she thinks nothing of being nude. (Shock of my life the first time she called me into the kitchen, asking me what I wanted to drink, and BAM nekkid lady).

>>7279180
I can't help but have everything I read from that anon tinged with that view since her initial post was specifically talking about leaving her boyfriend to find
>a relationship with a qt fairy kei or decora girl
and how her dreams are crushed since this relationship may never happen since her and her boyfriend
>might actually never break up

Later on it seemed like she was either backpedaling or not taking this hypothetical "decora or fairy kei girlfriend"'s feelings into account. She was not insinuating that this was just a friendship since why would she need to break up with her boyfriend to pursue an intimate friendship with another woman? She never said her boyfriend was against her having a female friend she kissed and showered with; she said
>>tfw I've been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and while our relationship is great, I always wanted to be with a girl and have that kind of relationship I said above with her but me and my boyfriend are doing great and we might actually never break up
which suggests to me that she was talking about a romantic/physical relationship.

[Anonymous No.7279202]

>>7278896
Please don't listen to >>7278902. You're fine. Just talk to your bf about it.

[Anonymous No.7279209]

>>7279194
Exactly, you don't leave your boyfriend to become friends with a girl. She was talking about a girlfriend and backpeddled when she got called out on being sheltered and ignorant. I don't know why >>7279180 thinks that there's any question that she meant an actual girlfriend.

[Anonymous No.7279214]

I love women's bodies but hate vaginas
I want to do all sexy things to her except touch her down there

Is that odd?

[Anonymous No.7279227]

>>7279214
I'm that way, too. You may be somewhere on the asexual spectrum.

[Anonymous No.7279234]

>>7279202
the problem is obvious if they ask their bf if they can mess around with another chick, are given permission, but asked if the bf can participate. It seems like they have a trust issue and wouldn't allow this, or wouldn't allow the bf to experiment on the side with another boy, even though they get to play around with a girl. Can't you see how that's going to lead to problems if they don't confront that jealousy issue?

[Anonymous No.7279302]

Oh god all the bf/gf feels in this thread

Three holy-shit-he's-so-gorgeous pictures of my ex-boyfriend just popped up on my fb feed and I just want to throw myself into a lake of fire or something. It's been a month since he dumped me and I just want to be over him but I miss him so much. We didn't even part on bad terms, I just haven't had anything to say that isn't sad and/or desperate (except Merry Christmas and Happy New Year, which I just... didn't do). Fuck.

To make it thread relevant, he did admire the lolita. Gonna be a long time before anyone else who does shows up, probably.

[Anonymous No.7279321]

>bf had friend who is into ott sweet
>she's really cute for the style she's in
>bf doesnt see this
>only sees the ott
>bf thinks all lolita is like that
>tfw thinks he thinks it is weird and says he would not be happy if i got into it

i just want to be as beautiful as siriusc.

[Anonymous No.7279319]

>tfw show lolita closet to new boyfriend and he responds by saying that he will buy me more dresses for my birthday/Christmas, etc.
>tfw explain how much they cost and he replies that money is no problem.
Good feels. Very good feels.

[Anonymous No.7279324]

>>7279214
Nah. I really like playing with girls from the waist up. They are great kissers, boobs are tons of fun, etc. I also like asses and hips on girls. They are fun grabbing.
But when it comes to the "down there" area I have zero interest. Just nope. Prefer boys for that part or just avoid it altogether.
(Btw, I am a girl)

[Anonymous No.7279333]

>>7278631
Oh anon that's really sad but it sounds like you had a lovely relationship. My own Goth guy and I were a long distance couple for 6 months until he moved in with me he's been living with me for a year and a half now. However next month we will be back to long distance as I have to move to start my uni course and he has to stay for his diploma luckily it's only a few months apart but it is still a bit sad. We are only young but we can both see being together for a long time. I'm really glad you had a first 'true love' many people don't ever find theirs. I also hope your current relationship is going well and that you are happy.

[Anonymous No.7279433]

>>7278478
if you're trapped by lack of transport/resources to move out though, it's not your damn fault no matter what some salty anon says.

[Anonymous No.7279759]

>look at egl lj for more wardrobe posts
>Every other post is some stupid question about a bodyline item
>tfw you want to rip those girls to shreds so they stop posting dumb shit

I've also become a huge bitch when it comes to lolita and on wank and drama sites like stamina rose. I'm considered what most people would consider an "sjw" but I never hesitate to be the biggest cunt when it comes to this fashion. I thrive on the drama and being an absolute bitch and it feels so good. It's probably because lolita is the only thing I've ever truly felt beautiful in and I'm good at coording and I make the nicest, most well dressed friends in my comm.

I'm sorry I'm drunk and a terrible person but it feels so good.

[ValleLator !nCGvC6eOuQ No.7279764]

>>7277341
>tfw no lolita gf to support with brand

[Anonymous No.7279799]

>>7279324
omg me too
what is up with that.

[Anonymous No.7279830]

>been around lolita long enough to see through creation of Western lolita guidelines and emerging brands

>tfw still see itas from last year's con in the same milanoo clusterfuck with cat ears

>tfw impulse dealer purchase

>go to a shitty local con
>it's a tradition to go because friends I know meet up from out of town (we go to different unis now)
>every panel looks boring (or is actually boring/off-topic)
>"Hey guys, let's go check out this concert!"
> Very small, but enthusiastic crowd
> Band is actually very good
>tfw they should be performing in a large and sold out venue

allofmyfeelsandface.jpg

[Anonymous No.7279836]

>tfw you meet another lolita out of the wood works

[Anonymous No.7279844]

>tfw you post a cute coord on tumblr at a reasonable time of day and you only get 2 notes because you don't have a lot of followers

[Anonymous No.7279851]

>>7279321
>siriusc

I don't get why this girl is so popular, her photos are nice but her coordinates are pretty meh. She's not even super pretty or anything. Good for her but I don't get it. It could also be as so few people post their outfits regularly on d_l these days, I guess.

[Anonymous No.7279856]

>>7279836
I misread that as "out in the woods" and I got really excited because randomly meeting another lolita in the woods sounds like the coolest shit.

[Anonymous No.7279859]

>>7279856
That does sound pretty cool.

[Anonymous No.7279898]

>>7279844
I only have 29 followers and I got over 1000 notes on mine :( you just have to get the right people to reblog it

[Anonymous No.7279918]

>>7279898
This. The most notes I've gotten was because it was reblogged by a friend.

[Anonymous No.7279926]

>>7279844
What you want is the right first five tags. So blogs like 'fyeah(whatever)lolita' reblog your photo while they are tag trawling. Remember that the first five tags are the only ones that show in searches. So if your sixth tag is 'angelic pretty' you won't show up on the angelic pretty tag, for example. But if it's in the first five tags, you will. I always add the substyle, the brands, if it's indie (example 'indie Lolita' as a tag. And the print or dress name. So if I'm wearing the new ap lp with some handmade accessories I might tag the first five as 'candy sprinkle, angelic pretty, sweet lolita, lolita fashion, handmade lolita'

[Anonymous No.7279935]

Oh, 4 chan works again <3

>tfw fluffyrabidkitten liked your post

Should I be flattered or waiting for her to bash on my outfits ?

[Anonymous No.7279936]

>>7277610
My mom does the same shit, all the time.

I went to my boyfriend's uncle's wake to be supportive and to just be there for him, because he asked me to come along. My mom actually threw a fit when I tried to leave the house in a modest, normalfag dress.

She tells me all the time that I look ridiculous in everything I wear, even if it's just a plain skirt and shirt.

>WHAT THE HELL, WHY DO YOU KEEP SPENDING YOUR MONEY ON THIS STUPID SHIT. YOU LOOK RETARDED, YOU'RE TOO SKINNY FOR THAT, YOU LOOK LIKE A FUCKING SKELETON.

>M-mom, I-

>WHY THE FUCK DON'T YOU EAT SOMETHING FOR ONCE, WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?

>M-mom, I've always been skinny, I can't help it-

>WELL YOU LOOK LIKE SHIT.

I have this problem where I pull out my eyelashes (which I think is related to my ADD), and a few years ago my mom grounded me for six months because she found out about it.

Except, instead of "grounding" me, she took everything I owned and boxed it up, then put all the boxes in my room, stacked against the wall. I had my bed and my dresser. I was given back one box every month for the six months. I would come home from school and be sent straight to my room to literally just sit there all night. I'd come out to eat, and then go right back.

I cried most nights.

My boyfriend recently helped me clean my room because I'm messy as hell and am too attached to all of my things, so he helped me throw away most of my useless shit, and there were still three boxes that I just never could bring myself to unpack, six years later

I had the worst self-esteem for the longest time, and even now I still fight with my BF on a regular basis because I'm in "everyone's an asshole mode," and anytime he says anything that sounds even slightly critical, I immediately snap into defensive mode and start yelling. My self-esteem is still in the shitter, even though I've been away from it all for ~2 years.

But, it does get better, anon. You just gotta keep working on getting out of there.

[Anonymous No.7279939]

>tfw making a local lolita friend who will ride 6 hours in a car with you to go to various events, and not a silent moment to be heard.

but also:
>tfw meeting and making lolita friends that live hours away from you

[Anonymous No.7279942]

>mfw I got off the pill and have the WORST acne I ever had in my life. On my face, my chest, my back, everywhere, and it is getting worse everyday
>mfw I also grow more and more dark hair on my face
>mfw everyday I pluck hair off my chin/cheek, trying not to cry while also seeing my face getting turned into a red flaming hot mess of pimples
>mfw I gained so much weight in the past year I barely fit my clothes anymore
>mfw too fat for most burando

I really have to make an appointment to check my hormones, I hope it is nothing serious. Everytime I look into the mirror I feel like crying. My face, my body, I hate everything about my body right now.
Well, at least I try new hairstyles (because it's the only thing left that looks nice) and my new year's resolution includes losing some weight. I hope I can do it.

[Anonymous No.7279949]

>>7279942
I'm not on the pill, but if I have my contraception removed I was told it would take up to a year for my hormones to sort themselves out, so it's probably nothing serious and should go away with time. Not that you shouldn't go see someone about it; better safe than sorry.

[Anonymous No.7279951]

>>7279935
I had the same thing happen recently too. I wasn't sure how to feel.

[Anonymous No.7279961]

>>7279949
>I was told it would take up to a year for my hormones to sort themselves ou

Shit, I did not know it would take so long!
I tried various pills and they all messed up my hormones in different ways; one made me bleed / have my period for one month, and the others already messed up with my skin. So I did not thought it could get any worse (and was proven wrong, haha...)

[Anonymous No.7279965]

>>7279961
Yeah, some people just don't deal with hormone changes too well. I have a coil, and when I first got it put in I had a period that lasted three months. If the procedure to put it in hadn't been so painful I might've had it removed, but since I didn't want another procedure I just stuck with it. It's taken about 18 months for my cycle to settle down again.

Sage because OT.

[Anonymous No.7279993]

>Uni starts tomorrow
>haven't done anything during holidays
>can't wait to spend another day alone as a weirdly dresses social loser there
>have no real friends there
>cannot wait to hear about everyone's great holidays and superb partys they went to
>I have to be there in 12 hours, I can feel the panick kreeping up

I don't know when I've become such a social retard, I don't know what is wrong with me, but the thought of havin to face all these people again while not having any real friends myself makes me want to hide under a blanket and cry for my mom.

[Anonymous No.7279996]

>>7279961
I feel you sister. I have had a nice pill for 5 years, and then suddenly it stopped working and I started bleeding at random moments. Sometimes I had two periods in one month. So I got a new one, but this one has some nasty side-effects. I've gained a lot of weight, and I always feel a bit sick on certain days (I think those are days where there are more hormones in one pill or something). Wish I could just quit them, but my periods are even worse (I bleed a lot and get bad migraines). Hope your hormones are back to normal soon.

[Anonymous No.7280007]

>>7279996

I hate this. I wish men had to take care of this reproduction shit (too bad I hate condoms...). My ex always made fun of me, but HE did not have to take some shitty pills with shitty side effects of weight gain, fucking pimples everywhere and perios blood whenever you are not prepared. (And of course HE was absolutley disgusted of any sign of period blood).
/rant

[Anonymous No.7280009]

>>7279942
Male here, isn't this semi-normal?

I thought the pill got rid of a lot of shit and is the reason some girls take it, but that with people it had opposite effects.

[Anonymous No.7280023]

>>7280009
>Male here, isn't this semi-normal?

No, not really. I would not consider it a 'normal' reaction. I had pretty bad acne acne in my teenage years but THIS easily exceeds my worst times. Not to mention that having thick black long hair growing from your chin is not a very common or nice experience.

>I thought the pill got rid of a lot of shit and is the reason some girls take it

Yeah, I thought so too but I have yet to meet a girl who benefited from the pill. There are some, I think. But all girls I knew either experienced neither benefits nor disadvanteges, or had bad reactions to it. Maybe we all just had bad luck.

[Anonymous No.7280024]

>>7280009
When you fuck with hormones, shit happens. Those pills don't work the same on everyone.

[Anonymous No.7280039]

>>7279996
Think about trying an IUD. It hurts like a bitch to get put in, but it's nice to not have a ton of hormones rampant throughout your entire body. My last pill (Seasonique Lo) made me really prone to crying, made me spot more than I didn't, and gave me the worst acne of my life, but the IUD seems to have cleared all of that up.

[Anonymous No.7280042]

>>7280039

Thanks, I'll talk to my gyno about it!
/sage

[Anonymous No.7280047]

>>7280007
>(And of course HE was absolutley disgusted of any sign of period blood).
Did he not have a mom or something? Idk how you act like that shit is abnormal when you live with an adult woman for years.

Maybe my family's gross or this doesn't happen to people with more than one bathroom but I've brushed my teeth while someone else was in the shower or on the can on busy days. How do periods faze normal people who don't already have a problem with blood/shit that's associated with periods?

[Anonymous No.7280048]

>>7280007
>(And of course HE was absolutley disgusted of any sign of period blood).
Sounds mature.

[Anonymous No.7280066]

>>7280047
>>7280048

I don't know why he was this way, but seeing the smallest hint that I had my period sent him into kindergarten level of "eeeeew, so disgusting!". We never had sex / did anything sexual (at least with my body) when I was on my period or the smallest chance that there could be some blood on his finger/penis. It would not have annoyed me that much (yeah, period blood is not very sexy) if he did not act like a little child who doesn't know about vagines about it. He almost made me feel guilty, as if it was my fault - or as if I was excited about blood coming out of my vagina.
Not to mention the already mentioned bad vibe he always had when I was on my period, as if this was my fault that he did not get his satisfaction. Because telling me "Ew, your vagina bleeds, you're so disgusting!" is so mature or sexy too.

[Anonymous No.7280075]

>>7280066
WTF he sounds like he's 13 years old. Glad you're no longer together, seems like he's a long way off growing up.

[Anonymous No.7280090]

>been noticing an influx of young lolitas
>tfw being an old-timer and want to take them all under my wing

[Anonymous No.7280097]

>plan out group cosplay with friends
>we all order from the same seller to be in unison
>1/2 costumes from a ebay seller is shipped the day payment confirms
>everything else from other sellers shipped as well
>it's around christmas so shrug it off and wait
>week passes, still not shipped
>message seller
>they ask for my size for the 3rd time
>wait a few more days
>still not shipped
>message seller again and if they can get it by the deadline
>tfw $25 for ems shipping when it should be in my state by now
>week passes still not shipped
>friends all have their stuff already
>mfw spent tons of money on other materials for the costume and can't even wear it with friends

[Anonymous No.7280099]

>>7280075

Yeah, but he was my first boyfriend for almost a year, and even though our relatioship was shitty the last 2-3 month, I missed him/the better times with him a lot.

We broke up 6 month ago, but when I briefly saw him last friday evening (of course he did not say 'Hello' to me), I spent the next 2 hours drinking, and the next 2 hours sobbing and crying while a friend had to calm me down. I feel pathetic...

Well, maybe to tell something on-topic:
He hated the idea of me getting into Lolita fashion, and now every time I wear it I feel a little satisfaction that I do not depend on his opinion in this case anymore. Fuck you, I'll wear my frills whenever I want, asshole.

[Anonymous No.7280101]

>>7280090
>tfw aspiring brolita
>could use a mentor but don't know who to ask or would be willing

H-hi. I l-like gothic...

[Anonymous No.7280104]

>>7280090

Yes, take me, I always wanted a Lolita Senpai (espacialyy since I do not have any Loli friends at all) ;_;

[Anonymous No.7280121]

>>7280101
>>7280104

Dammit, you guys are cute. Yes, yes, I will be all of your Senpai.

Seriously though, I was going through the friending FFA thread on egl and met some high school aged girls in my area who just started wearing lolita, and their enthusiasm reminded me of when I was their age and just started. I found the whole thing pretty endearing.

Speaking of guiding people.

>Stayed up late last night to finalize ppt.
>Got up early to go do a lolita for beginners panel at a local con (was home for the weekend, so I didn't stay at the hotel)
>Fucking blizzard won't stop
>have to cancel the panel

It's a good thing that there was another panel of the same topic yesterday, but I feel like my hard work went to waste.

Erugh. Oh well, my email is in the field.

[Anonymous No.7280125]

Dammit, you guys are cute. Yes, yes, I will be all of your Senpai.

Seriously though, I was going through the friending FFA thread on egl and met some high school aged girls in my area who just started wearing lolita, and their enthusiasm reminded me of when I was their age and just started. I found the whole thing pretty endearing.

Speaking of guiding people.

>Stayed up late last night to finalize ppt.
>Got up early to go do a lolita for beginners panel at a local con (was home for the weekend, so I didn't stay at the hotel)
>Fucking blizzard won't stop
>have to cancel the panel
>mfw

It's a good thing that there was another panel of the same topic yesterday, but I feel like my hard work went to waste.

Erugh. Oh well, my email is in the field.

[The Warden !!TdjiLcSZ3ta No.7280229]

>tfw on your way to a photoshoot when you see a loli crying
>tfw you stop to see what's wrong
>tfw you spend the next two hours comforting her as she spills her entire life on you
>tfw you miss your photoshoot
>tfw not sure if upset or happy to help

[Anonymous No.7280237]

>>7280097
Sounds like what happened to my friend with FM anime.

[Anonymous No.7280276]

I was dressed in fairy kei yesterday at the mall and saw a guy in decora and he ran up to me and gave me a high five! I was so shocked seeing someone else in Jfashion where I live that I didn't hear what he said at all and I said "y-your outfit is great too!" and said I never see anyone else dressed like this around where I live and I ran off and said bye and sphagetti flew out of my pockets and hit the walls. Why couldn't I have been normal and made friends with him? I guess next time I see someone else in Jfashion I'll have to be more prepared.

[Anonymous No.7280293]

>>7280007
God i had an ex like that too. Flipped his shit when we were camping and I was changing underwear when on my period. About that i should do that gross shit somewhere else. Excuse me but I am not going to do that outside. Told him to deal with it or go outside himself. He was still being whiny the days after Worst trip ever

[Anonymous No.7280320]

>>7279844
>>7279844
Ill follow you anon, I'm no lolita but I like looking at pretty things..if that's cool

[Anonymous No.7280361]

>>7280320
I just started posting stuff on my tumblr and my first two pictures got 40 and 50 notes and the other one doubled in notes today... I know it's not a lot but I'm just really happy people like my stuff enough to reblog it. And I definitely didn't expect my first 2 posts o get any more than 8 or 10 notes really so I was kind of shocked.

[Anonymous No.7280409]

>tfw boyfriend confesses he sometimes prefers me in regular clothes because people at school think he's a pedophile because of the way I'm dressed
>tfw I don't really care about their opinion towards me but I don't want them to think bad things about bf

Shit, I don't even wear sweet.

On the other hand...

>tfw parents aren't really into Lolita, mom doesn't quite like it on me and often remarks that it's too short on me/not suiting when around family
>tfw really want to get a Lolita gift from my family some day, ultimate dream
>don't even care what it is, socks or a headbow idk
>aunts are really supportive and love my way of dressing so they encourage me to wear it to family parties
>tfw they agree to buy me a wig as a gift
>tfw one aunt tells me she'll give me money to buy a new dress because she loves seeing me in Lolita

Dammit, /cgl/, she did this on a family party and I almost started crying out of sheer happiness. My parents don't like it much, so my aunts encouraging me this much really gets to my heart. It feels so, so good that at least part of the family loves what I love wearing.

[Anonymous No.7280428]

>>7279851
im with you, her face is really ugly and she looks snobbish, also her coords and makeup are almost purely made of photoshop.

[Anonymous No.7280455]

>>7280066
Wow, I am really happy you're not with that one anymore. Like, stoked for you anon

[Anonymous No.7280463]

>>7280409
Sounds like your boyfriend is surrounded by underage immature people, I wouldn't let it get to you and try and tell him that it shouldn't to him, they're probably projecting that they're jealous they don't have a super cute girlfriend who has the confidence to look amazing.

My sister hates my lolita clothes and she calls it 'victorian goth' (which to me is a compliment but she likes more brighter things whereas I've always liked the morbid and dark colours) but when i got a new dress in the post recently she really loved it and actually wanted it for herself because it looked so cool. My mum really doesn't like the clothes but parents are parents.

[Anonymous No.7280506]

>tfw no friends
>tfw I'll never do what I want
I hate my life.

I see people having fun together. Wearing fun clothes. And I'm always alone, every con I've gone to. Never invited to any cosplay meetups. I wish I could have a friend. I wish I could have cosplay as a hobby. Wearing cosplay in the city, working on making new pretty costumes.

I'm too old anyway.

Maybe I could make a tulpa. But nobody would see my tulpa's cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7280581]

>>7280506
>Maybe I could make a tulpa. But nobody would see my tulpa's cosplay.

Please, dont. Only neckbeards with waifus make tulpas.
Is there reallz no way like over cgl to find some fellow coslpayers in your area? Do not wait until you get invited, join open groups & meets etc. Also, youre probably not too old, many people inot cosplay are a little older since it is an expensive hobby.

[Anonymous No.7280608]

>>7280581
There are plenty of cosplayers in the area, but I'm not friends with them. Even have some as friends on Facebook. Going to a meet uninvited to meet people I always creep on and stalk would just not work. Would still make no friends, even if I talked to them we'd have no contact later and they'd not actually like talking to me.

And yes, I am too old. Everyone are in their teens while I'm well into my twenties and not even good at cosplay.

[Anonymous No.7280654]

>>7277725
>pic
And this is why you shouldn't let your girlfriend bring you to a con

[Anonymous No.7280668]

>tfw you're always alone at cons
>tfw you're really terrible at meeting people and making friends
>tfw you feel guilty about complaining about it and just feel worse

[Anonymous No.7280704]

>>7280668
iktf, except I don't feel guilty about it and even complain regularly on Facebook and randomly insult people to make them feel as bad as possible.
And at some cons I've met some people I've hung out with for the day. But also many cons alone.

[Anonymous No.7280716]

>>7280099
Hey, just here to let you know: you are a way better person than this guy and even though you had good times together, it's obvious that on a very basic everyday level this guy would be miserable for you and anyone he's going to date if he doesn't learn anything. The way you described how he dealt with your period and sex makes it obvious he's really selfish in such an obvious way that I don't think hes' going to GET it.

You're entitled to mourn, but it's obvious to us and I hope (it seems like you're understanding this) to you, that you deserve a lot better. Fuck this guy. I hope you looked amazing while he pretended you weren't there. I hope there were people there that couldn't imagine him dating you. Feel better soon, anon.

[Anonymous No.7280722]

>Decided for starting 2014 I was going to be more positive and start improving my life after having a hellish 2013.
>Meet up with friends who are in town after moving across the country.
>Have a blast hitting fabric shopping, dinner, etc....
>We get talking cosplay and I end up coming up with an idea.
>Everybody's on board for it.
>The planned convention is five months away.
>Designs are pretty easy and most of the group can sew, and can do the costumes for the ones who can't.
>mfw, it's a group of friends who I know can be reliable, we can get our stuff done, and it's a fun idea, it's for a series we all like, it's a theme we all like.

After the last times I tried to do group cosplays with other people and it always feel through, either because of shit happening or others being unreliable as hell. This one looks potentially to really work out and be a blast.

[Anonymous No.7280730]

>tfw /cgl/ friend thread
>everyone in area is a male
>get emailed, and hit on constantly, no matter what I say
>boyfriend is mad at me
>believes I'm a whore even though I turned these guys down and blocked these senders
>one of the guys is gay, really cool, hits on my boyfriend
>believes this guy is faking gay to get in my pants
>I talked about fashion and 'girly' shit with this guy on chat for a solid hour
>boyfriend still believes he's going to hit on me and that I'm going to leave my boyfriend because of "my whorish actions"
still a lone lolita
all my friends are just my boyfriends guy friends.
why can't I have female friends jfc.

[Anonymous No.7280733]

>>7280730
you're boyfriend sounds like a paranoid shithead

[Anonymous No.7280735]

>>7280733
your*

[Anonymous No.7280739]

>>7280733
I agree, he sounds controlling like you can't be trusted to have male friends.

[Anonymous No.7280752]

>>7280716

Thank you very much for your kind words! I hope this year will turn out better for me.

And I looked amazing, I was ready to go out with the girls, so my hair, make up and (sexy black lace)dress looked great! It felt like in a bad movie, but it felt sooo god because he looked like shit, especially since I was all polished. Take that, asshole.

[Anonymous No.7280757]

>>7280730
tl;dr: boyfriend is insecure retard who doesn't deserve you.

[Anonymous No.7280760]

>>7280733
>>7280739
Thirding this. And you should never call your girlfriend a whore (except maybe if you're about to break up with her because she cheated on you or something, though I still think it's better to take the moral high ground in situations like that).

[Anonymous No.7280762]

>>7280668
i know that feel all too well

[Anonymous No.7280764]

>>7280733
well, if a guy compliments me, and I accept the compliment
>omg you're hot
"t-thank you"

he freaks out, telling me
"no, that guy just wants to get in your pants, and responding like that only makes it seem like you're interested!"

I understand his concern, but I can handle myself. its gotten so bad that we'll go hours without talking if he finds out I'm talking to another male (regardless of sexuality)

he feels the need to read all of my emails, and check my computer history to assure himself, and when I tell him I'm not comfortable with that, he bawws even more.

I love him, but this shit is getting tiring.

[Anonymous No.7280772]

>>7277681
they're also really patriotic chinese parents who are firm believers that japanese people should all die because they massacred millions of ancestors (& hate all things japanese)
I know this feel, anon

[Anonymous No.7280773]

>>7280764
It sounds to me like he's being really controlling and it's only going to get worse.

Personally in my opinion he's probably only going to keep getting worse if you don't get it under control. He's giving off a bunch of red flags and there's going to be a point that you're going to end up in a really messy and potentially dangerous breakup, because the guy sounds like a control freak.

Part of being in a relationship is having a level of trust. It's pretty obvious he doesn't trust you to even talk to other people. He's trying to dominate and control you. You're only going to end up miserable if he doesn't get his shit together.

[Anonymous No.7280784]

>>7280730
Ditch the boyfriend, nobody has time for that shit.

[Anonymous No.7280793]

>>7280764
Sounds like he needs to stop taking his trust/self-esteem issues out on you. A guy with good self-esteem isn't going to be scared that his girlfriend is going to leave him just because a guy pays her a compliment. He should be more annoyed at the guys hitting on a girl right in front of her boyfriend.

[Anonymous No.7280794]

My package is in chicago and was cleared by customs yesterday but now it's Sunday. I'm really hoping it comes tomorrow but the weather is supposed to be so bad tomorrow (-22*F and snow errywhere) so I don't know whether or not to expect delays :(

[Anonymous No.7280804]

>>7280764
sounds like my psychotic ex boyfriend.

dump that piece of shit.
its fine that you love him
but you can't put your own well-being and happiness in jeopardy over a controlling fuckface.
someone who loves you should never call you a whore.
and he should not be so paranoid and have so many trust issues with you and other guys if you haven't given him a reason to (i.e. cheating on him in the past or something)

dump his ass. make him learn how to appreciate what he has.

[Anonymous No.7280817]

>>7280804
>>7280793

This. That guy isn't worth your time. I've had an ex I dumped because he was getting controlling/whiny and I just didn't have time to deal with his insecurities. I ended up meeting a guy and we've been married for a few years already. We actually trust each other. Not that my husband hasn't done some stupid stuff but he's only human.

[Anonymous No.7280838]

>>7280804
>>7280817
I just talked to him
"but you purposely lead on other guys"
you see, before I dated him, and was talking to him, I was single, and looking for a relationship.
suprise suprise, he wasn't the only one I heavily flirted with. this upset him greatly.
after we were dating, I told this guy from back home online
"I'm seeing someone now, we could of had a nice life together, you're right, but that's over"
he flipped his shit.

I've actually believed that my actions are "whore-ish" and as he's saying right now "anyone would find that suspicious"

so, this isn't normal? I'm not a whore?

[Anonymous No.7280837]

>mom is massively controlling
>dad lets her do whatever she wants and takes out anger on my brother and I
>i'm pretty stubborn when things are important to me
>won't give in to her on some things
>consequently never had good relationship with mom
>never likes me doing things i enjoy
>i want to go out with friends?
>purposely witholds permission until very last day so she can make me do whatever shit she wants me to
>sometimes even when i do it she won't let me go just to assert her 'power'
>consistently tells me how chubby and fat i am as i grow up
>puts scale inside her room
>always sneers/snickers at me and insults me when i weigh myself
>mfw i'm 5'4" and 105lbs, have always been on low side of average or underweight

>get into cosplay
>for first years i'm into it, she constantly tries to prevent me from cosplaying
>rips up my costumes and wigs whenever she feels pissed at me
>ransacks my room and cuts up my cloth
>bans me from going to cons and shit even when I have a ride and everything, only thing I need from her is permission
>"anon stop wasting your life on this! you're failing your classes!"
>mfw 4.0 gpa

>finally fed up with it, defy her and sneak out for the first time
>she finds out after a few times, get beat the shit out of me but whatever, still gonna cosplay
>mom finally realizes i'm not gonna stop cosplaying even if she destroys stuff/beats me
>decides to take a different route
>always have had a good relationship with my grandmother (mom's mom)
>grandmother is very supportive and nice
>videochatting with her recently with my mom
>mention that i'm going to go to AX this year
>suddenly grandmother gets all serious
>"anon, you have to stop doing stuff like dressing up! only kids do that! you have to grow up!"
>glance at my mom
>she's sneering and nodding at me
>mfw i realize she's somehow managed to convince grandmother that cosplay is some kind of childish fetish shit and that it's making me fail my classes
>glad i kept all lolita interest secret

[Anonymous No.7280841]

>>7280837
i realize i probably sound like a giant brat, but i just wanted to vent... at least i'm moving out in half a year...

[Anonymous No.7280850]

>>7280838
Uh, no, that's not normal. You're not a whore. Telling someone it's over is the opposite of leading them on...

[Anonymous No.7280855]

>>7280841
I think the opposite, your mum is extremely abusive, once you fully move out you should cut all ties.

[Anonymous No.7280858]

>>7280838
you know you're in an emotionally abusive relationship when you start to believe that the bad things he says about you are the truth.
he had no reason to flip his shit when you very clearly turned that guy down and gave no implication that you were still interested.
this guy is controlling you because he's insecure about himself for some reason and you can't stay with someone who runs your life to make themselves feel better about themselves.

[Anonymous No.7280859]

>>7280772
>tfw forgot to green text

[Anonymous No.7280876]

>>7279993

Have you thought about joining a club at your school?

I was in a very similar position about a year and a half back and I found joining one of the clubs to be a big help.

Basically, after high school I dropped contact with all but 3 of my 'friends'. I kind of came to the realization that I was only friends with the others because we saw each other in every class but in reality there wasn't enough of a bond for us to keep in contact when school ended.

Once uni started I kind of just floated in and out of classes, not really making any connections with people (save for some in an art unit but I didn't end up pursuing anything.)
Long story short I was lonely as fuck until I built up enough courage to join a club. It was a little awkward at first because I was the last member to join for the year and a lot of bonding had already taken place.

In the end though I made friends within the club and started being a lot more social.

I think I still have progress to make but I found that taking small steps like joining the club, increasing my visits to the clubroom and going to an increasing amount of events for the club and its members meant my social situation started to improve.

There were times when I did actually cry under a blanket with my Mum but things are honestly better now.

[Anonymous No.7280877]

>>7280794
I would expect delays. I'm not even getting garbage collected tomorrow.

[Anonymous No.7280908]

>>7280752
Aww yiss, so glad to hear that, anon!

[Anonymous No.7280934]

>tfw bf finally reveals how much he is embarrassed by being seen with me in lolita (wardrobe I have been slowly building over a year, finally got confidence for public)
>tfw all clothes solid colors, mostly ivory or black
>tfw he thinks solid black dresses with no head accs, even, too much clown-baby
>wtf disproportionate embarrassment
>tfw why he didn't tell me BEFORE I asked my dad to buy me $550 of babbys first burando
>wardrobe now stored away in boxes except lone brand dress

>pic related, not my pic, this dress was "too much" for him
>wtf

[Anonymous No.7280952]

>>7280934
>dressing yourself for your boyfriend

come on, anon. you shouldn't have to give up something you love because of someone else not liking it.
Especially when its just fucking clothing and you're not even being OOT with it. js.

[Anonymous No.7280953]

>>7280934
Psh, what a normalfag. It sucks to hear this so late on. Although I'm really in no position for giving out advice and it's all up to you on what you want to do in your relationship, if I were in that situation, I'd be happier breaking up. There's no point in being with someone who cannot accept you as who you are.

[Anonymous No.7280960]

>>7278683

You need to stop washing so much, its probably just making it worse. I had severe acne and the only things that helped was a very strict diet and NOT touching it or washing it excessively (I wash my face once every other day with nothing but water and use coconut oil as moisturizer)

If its on your butt and boobs it could actually not be acne but an autoimmune condition as well. Look up hidradenitis suppurativa and see if you fit the symptoms. This probably seems like the weirdest thing anybody has ever told you but its the only thing that will work.

[Anonymous No.7280963]

>>7280934
If you really care about him, compromise by limiting your lolita on days when you aren't going out together.
My bf isn't against it, but also doesn't much care for it so I wear it when I'm just going out with the girls or by myself

[Anonymous No.7280967]

>>7278684

dear god do not go on accutane. It fucking ruined my digestive system. Previously I could eat pretty much whatever I wanted and feel fine, now even some healthy foods make me sick. I basically have to eat super healthy or suffer the wrath. Some people have even got IBD from accutane and theres billions of other side effects too.

[Anonymous No.7280969]

>>7280967
I should also mention that I still have acne on top of that, accutane didn't fix shit.

[Anonymous No.7280976]

>be guy
>want to get into "male cosplay", decora, whatever
>6'2, broad-shouldered as fuck, work out
>feel like I will just never fit in

I-I just want to dress up ;_;

[Anonymous No.7280984]

>>7280976

You could do boy style or just like a classy tux or something. Unless you want to wear dresses? I can't tell by the way you put it lol

[Anonymous No.7280990]

>>7280984
>classy tux
That sounds boring

Would it be weird to wear dresses? Although I doubt I can pull it off.

[Anonymous No.7280987]

>>7280877
My boss just called me and told me not to come into work tomorrow because there is no point to opening. It would be such a good time to get these dresses but I can't get my hopes up :(

[Anonymous No.7280998]

>>7280990
No, I just couldn't tell the way you put it because male cosplay is a real thing lmfao. I actually have a few male friends who like dressing up in lolita.

I am actually 5'11 so im pretty damn tall for a lolita. Innocent world sells dresses in long sizes that should be long enough for you. JSKs are better because they dont restrict your shoulders but also you can just buy larger sizes to have your shoulders fit as well. I'm sure your shoulders are bigger than mine but i often have trouble with dress shoulders too >.<

[Anonymous No.7281042]

>>7280976
You can dress up, you just have to work harder to pull it off. If you want to wear dresses, I would suggest an aristocrat style of lolita to make you appear more elegant than gawky. Long dresses with solid tights will also help you avoid shaving your legs.
There are a few boy sub styles of lolita, like ouji. Either way you'll need to wear make-up to look good.

[Anonymous No.7281062]

>>7280998
>>7281042
My main issue is, if I were to go with it could I actually find a place that sells clothes I like that actually fit me?

I don't have measurements, but my shoulders are pretty big and wide from each other, so I'm concerned about the upper body area- whether or not things would actually fit. I'd rather not spend a shit ton of money on expensive clothes that would fit me if there are other more inexpensive that would fit me.

Anyway, thanks for the info

[Anonymous No.7281082]

If you buy JSKs you wont have to worry about the shoulders fitting, then you will just need a blouse to wear under it that fits your shoulders. Its easier to do that way than risk paying however much money for a one piece and having the shoulders be too small. You might want to get your measurements though because you have to mostly buy things online and you will want to know if itll fit before you order it

[Anonymous No.7281186]

>>7280838

1/2
No, it's not normal. Yes, he's showing warning signs of being an abuser.

Check out this link: http://au.reachout.com/Signs-of-an-abusive-relationship

He is trying to control your behavior (no lolita friends) and doesn't trust you to the point that he goes through your emails. He is going through your computer history and your emails, anon. Have you been feeling like you should delete things you've looked at since you know he wouldn't react well to it? (Think about if a friend were telling you these things about her boyfriend--it would sound fucked up, right?) You need to check out the link I shared and you need to wipe your tracks once you're done. You know he'll freak out otherwise, won't he?

He has successfully isolated you from others (your only friends are his friends--that is super weird). He is also ensuring that you can't make friends outside his control.

He is blaming you for leading guys on. He is calling you names (i.e., whore).

You have done nothing "suspicious." His actions are suspicious. He is throwing shade on you to give him the "moral high ground" so that he can control your actions. Think about it. Is it working? Has he gotten concessions from you after demeaning you and twisting your words/actions into being something you never intended at all? Have you given in and not done something/talked with somebody/visited someone after he compared you to a whore?

Are you feeling confused? Are you uncertain where you stand or as if he must be right? Are you doubting your actions/words even if you know you meant them innocently? That is also a warning sign.

[Anonymous No.7281195]

>>7280838
>>7281186

2/2


If nothing else, think about what you want from your relationship. Do you really want to be with someone that can't trust you so much that he doesn't allow you to have friends, can't trust you to talk with others outside his direct social group, can't trust you when you're alone on the internet? Do you want a relationship where your lover doesn't trust you? Where your partner is always doubting you and doesn't respect you?

You deserve so much more than that. You deserve someone who trusts and respects you. How can there be love without trust and respect?

You are loveable and you deserve to be loved.

I wish you all the best. Good luck, from one anon to another.

[Anonymous No.7281199]

>>7280837
>>7280841
I agree completely with >>7280855

Stay strong, anon.

[Anonymous No.7281345]

>>7281186
>>7281195
she knows what she's talking about. please anon, take this advice seriously and get out of this relationship, no matter what he says.

[Anonymous No.7281729]

>>7281195
>>7281186
original anon.
thank you for the advice. I presented him with all the arguments that happened in the thread. (because breaking it off with someone you live with and love is difficult)

we talked, and apparently in his past relationship, a girl cheated on him under the guise that she was just talking to guy friends- and he was just afraid I'd do the same.

he says he's just really suspicious of other guys because I am attractive and don't know when guys are interested in me unless they are extremely blunt (which is true, even before I met him)

he also mentioned that he was against the lolita meetups because the last time I went to a meetup I was ita and was treated awfully. he said he has no issue with me going, but to be careful.

he super apologized, cooked me my favorite food, handed me my laptop, and said "go make some friends. hell, you can meetup with some if you want to, just be careful." he also mentioned that I call him out every time he acts this way.

I'm still a bit shifty eyed after everything you said. but if anything else pops up and he refuses to stop being super cling and possessive, I'll end it.

I really appreciate you seagulls posting about this. because the arguments I made just weren't working (my mouth really has trouble conveying what my brain wants to say)

[Anonymous No.7281843]

>>7281729
Honestly, if my boyfriend ever called me a whore I'd flip my shit. I sincerely hope he doesn't take advantage of you in the end, anon.

[Anonymous No.7282018]

>>7280838
A friend of mine got in about the same situation where everything she did was just to lead other guys on, every male friend was a possible threat, and the guys who actually talked to her (because her boyfriend was basically ignoring her by then) only wanted to get into her pants. Get out of that situation, right now. It's been months since the break-up and my friend is still a wreck who actually believes some of the lies he told her about herself. Really, anon, it's not worth it :(

[Anonymous No.7282023]

>>7281186
>>7281195
Agreed with this anon. Ditch that shithead before things spiral out of control.

> Mom that always tells me to stop buying dresses, because they all look the same and only have different prints.
> Mfw dresses arrive and she always fawns over them and suddenly gets all excited about Lolita.

I can't follow her train of thoughts at all at such points. Does she want me to stop buying or not?

[Anonymous No.7282024]

>>7281729
I hope it gets better, anon. Do remain cautious for a while, I'm >>7282018 (only got to see this when I scrolled all the way down) and when my friend told her issues to her boyfriend for the first time, he told her he'd change and all that jazz and a week later it was back to normal. I hope your boyfriend sincerely changes! Good luck!

[Anonymous No.7282027]

>>7282023
Oh god, my mom does the same sometimes.
> ANON WHY DID YOU SPEND SO MUCH MONEY ON THIS SHIT AGAIN???? YOU ALREADY HAVE ENOUGH DRESSES
> new dress arrives
> Well I guess it's cute anon but NO MORE DRESSES NEXT TIME!!!
> Cycle of life and death continues

[Anonymous No.7282088]

>>7280023
I benefit slightly from the pill I'm currently on but I still suffer from dysmenorrhoea and other issues though the pill has decreased the bleeding, vomiting. and improved my mood. I think it really depends on the pill and the individual, different pills are good for different people.

[Anonymous No.7282125]

>>7282024
I'd give updates but I don't know how to do that on /cgl/ without being retarded.

maybe next thread.

[Anonymous No.7282507]

>>7282027
My mom doesn't even say ''No more dresses next time.'' She just fawns over it, makes me try it on and parade around in it and the next complaining only starts when she figures out I bought dresses again. I guess she just doesn't get that Lolita can't be Lolita without a certain aesthetic and shape. She really supports my fashion choices though. She isn't too fond of Mori, but when I tone it down she tells me I am her cute fairy girl. She is way more open when it comes to fashion then my dad, who I mentioned in: >>7278402
But well, I don't care. He still lives in the medieval ages when it comes to fashion it seems.

[Anonymous No.7282645]

>>7277698
>>7277814
>>7277815

I know these feels. If I could, I would live either by myself or with one other cute and girly roommate who I can wear lolita with and relate to. I can't stand the people I live with and I've been counting down the days.

As for the other topic, my mom does the same thing whenever she notices a new lolita item. When I used to live at home, I had to quickly sneak packages into my room before she got home. I hate it whenever she asks about the cost of X-item.

I know that she's just concerned about my finances because I'm still in school and trying to gain some independence, but man, that guilt tripping.

[Anonymous No.7283155]

>>7281729

1/2

I am glad that you are taking this seriously, anon.

I really hope things work out for you. I feel obligated to say a few more things, but you of course are free to ignore me.

Abusers also tend to lay heavy blame on their exes. Why does he feel that he has to check up behind you when you're online? It's not like guys are hounding you online and if they are they're easy to ignore/delete. Why doesn't he trust you? (Remember: He said he had an issue because of "[your] whorish actions"--that's why he had an issue with you talking to someone online.)

Why don't you have any friends outside of him? (You don't have to share with us, but think that one over.) Beyond the lolita-thing, you said you only share guy friends with him. Guess what (obvious time): friends side with friends when their friend breaks up no matter how much they may like their friend's significant other. Abusers slowly isolate their victims to show their control and to also prevent their victim from having a support system outside of the abuser to fall back on. (It's tough to think of oneself as being a victim... Ask yourself if you're acting like a victim, thinking like a victim.)

[Anonymous No.7283157]

>>7281729
>>7283155

2/2

Abusers also are really good at playing the part of loving, supportive partners. If they think their control is slipping, one way to reel you back in is to "show you how good things can be." This is just another tactic to hurt you since when the abuser goes back to form they can dangle the memory of "good times" over your head when you "fuck it all up."
>"If you didn't act like such a whore, anon, I wouldn't have to check up on you."
If you try to leave:
>"Don't you remember [all the good times]? I love you! Please don't leave me! I'll do anything!"
>cycle continues

See >>7282024 for another example.

I'm glad you're on alert, but
>he super apologized, cooked me my favorite food, handed me my laptop, and said "go make some friends. hell, you can meetup with some if you want to, just be careful."
sounds like textbook behavior. See how he feels right before/after the meetup.

Feel free to
> call him out every time he acts this way.
See how he reacts to that, too.

Be aware, anon. I know you love him, but sometimes we have to take a step back and assess whether our love is healthy or unhealthy and whether it's hurting us more than helping us grow into the best individuals we can be.

You have a very flimsy support network right now. Work on that. Know that if it comes down to it, there are most likely local agencies that can help you if you feel you need to leave asap.

>>7282125
I wish you the best whether I ever hear an update from you or not. (Though I would of course love to hear that you're doing well in the future.)

[Anonymous No.7283389]

>tfw no friends
I talk to pretty much just my girlfriend, but she has a life outside of being my only friend. I tried getting her into lolita with me, but she didn't have much of an interest, and since that's what I mainly want to talk about at the moment, she doesn't really want to talk much lately, which I can't blame her for. Though I have no one else to talk about it with now, really. But she's such a nice person and I feel bad for being so needy for her attention all of the time, having no friends and all. I don't even have online friends, it's ridiculous.

How to make friends, /cgl/? I feel that this neediness may be driving her away, if not for the fact that we have nothing at all to talk about anyway.

[Anonymous No.7283515]

>>7283389
You need to get an interest "outside of the house." If you're into lolita, see if there is a local group you can meet up with. If not, look into taking up a hobby that will allow you to get out and mingle with others. How about: bowling; roller derby; hiking?

Look into meetup.com to see if there's anything interesting going on in your area. If there's not, make a group that you'd be interested in participating in and meet up with some local folks!

It's all about putting yourself out there. Will you meet a BFF right away? Probably not, but you will meet people and the more people you meet the better your chances of clicking with someone will be. If you have experiences outside of your normal day you'll have more to talk with your girlfriend about.

Be safe about meeting with strangers, but have fun. Nothing ventured, nothing gained, right?

[Anonymous No.7286261]

>so tired of the "living doll" hype
>I'm in the weird part of buzzfeed again
>shit

http://www.buzzfeed.com/scottybryan/23-most-bizarre-moments-from-secrets-of-the-living-dolls

>tfw suddenly cosplaying and wearing lolita feels completely sane