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//completely not what the title suggests//

How do you dress your date when you go out in lolita?

I want my boyfriend to go out with me while I'm dressed up, but he says he feels like he's too underdressed. I'm not entirely sure what to do for him, but he's willing to listen to my advice on what would look nice.

Suggestions? He's not into the fashion himself (though he says it looks nice on me, he just doesn't want to dress that way) and he also doesn't have a suit.

ITT: Boys, boys, boys. (Or girls, if that's how you like it.)

Pic relatively unrelated.

>> No.7107013

>>7107010
>he also doesn't have a suit.

Why would you date a guy who doesn't own a suit?

>> No.7107016

I like my boyfriend to wear a button-up overshirt.

nothing too fancy, but I think that's what works for him.
I'm in the same boat as you OP, bf feels underdressed.
I just don't want him feeling left out.

>> No.7107023

>>7107013

>Why would you date a guy who doesn't own a suit?

He did just graduate high school last year. Also, I date him because I genuinely enjoy being around him.


>>7107016
Ugh. Glad I'm not alone. I was actually thinking he might go for something like a nice vest and a pair of slacks with a plain undershirt.

>> No.7107040

>>7107023
>like a nice vest and a pair of slacks with a plain undershirt.

honestly, it just depends on his style. mine just wants to dress to compliment my style.
going to try to go thrifting and get him a vest. also, try looking up "lolita couple"

>> No.7107046
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my bf complains about this too even when he's wearing his best.
i'd like to get him some kodona/aristocrat because i know he doesn't have the patience to browse second hand sites/order internationally but i keep spending my money on dresses instead lol

>> No.7107050

>>7107040
I go for a classical look, so I thought making him look like a dapper victorian gent might work. Then he saw the prices and had a shit fit about me spending that much money on an outfit for him.

Usually he just wears tshirts and jeans, but he borrowed his dad's suit last year and looked pretty damn good.

>>7107046
I'll just get yelled at if I spend a lot of money on clothes for him. His job doesn't pay very well (neither does mine, though) so he feels bad that I end up paying for most stuff :T

>> No.7107061

Nice slacks, button up shirt (fitted, please), a tie, and nice dress shoes.

My boyfriend loves to suit up when I wear lolita on dates... it's cute!

>> No.7107102

I don't dress up my boyfriend. Instead, I dress down and wear outfits closer to otome and rarely wear a petticoat. Funny enough, wearing full out lolita has become a fun activity that I do for myself. It is a way for me to spend some "me time". Boyfriend doesn't mind me wearing lolita but somehow I just never want to wear my fancy outfits around him. He dresses like a hipster (without the attitude, thank the lord) and I don't mind the way he dresses. However, I think that lolitas and oujis look cute together!

>> No.7107146

Mine thinks that his best dressed is his favourite Gundam Tshirt(from Uniqlo in Japan) with jeans.

>> No.7107237

>>7107010
>I want my boyfriend to go out with me while I'm dressed up, but he says he feels like he's too underdressed.

He's hoping you'll stop trying to dress him and stop dragging him around to all your girly shit. But that's a beta for you.

>> No.7107246

My boyfriend likes fancy EGA-inspired stuff, so he normally wears that when he comes to lolita events with me. He's always the best-dressed guy there, the other guys in my old comm would come in jeans and a t shirt and sit in the corner and sulk not talking to anyone. One of them seemed to never even wash, dunno why his wife kept bringing him, nobody liked him. On the one hand, I was glad my boyfriend was well-dressed and sociable, but on the other, it was kind of annoying how little effort the others put in.

>> No.7107275

I have a girlfriend and I would love to invite her to my comm's reunions and stuff since she used to dress in lolita too, but I'm a little scared since the girls in my comm always bring their boyfriends and some of them are kinda homophobic.
Is it a good idea or should I just forget about it?
Sage for offtopic.

>> No.7107655

Even if he's just out of highschool, a suit is good to have. What will he wear to weddings, funerals, court hearings, and job interviews? Khakis just look sloppy in any if these situations. You should be able to find some vintage suits at savers, goodwill, Salvation Army, or other thrifty places. My guy has a collection of suits in all different colors that he got for under $30 each, so money really isn't a good excuse. If he wants to dress up, point him in that direction. If he doesn't make an effort, let him be. He's probably too beta to tell you he wants no part in your frilly bullshit.

>> No.7107710

>>7107237
>implying you're alpha
You are on 4chan. We're all scum here.

>> No.7107725

>>7107275
Oh, they can get fucked. There's no place for homophobia in this kind of hobby. Obviously don't be inappropriately publicly affectionate or slobbery with each other, but if they're going to give you shit for having a girlfriend, they need to go, not you.

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I have the biggest lesbian crush on a lolita, I can't stand when girls wear boystyles because they just look SO nice anyone else thinks this way?

Also, how do I talk to her? I want to get to know her she's not even in my comm, should I make a valentine or something? Pic related, is her.

>> No.7109339

bump

>> No.7109350

>>7107013

90% of men have no reason to own a suit. Suit jacket maybe, but even then

>> No.7109356

>>7109350
>90% of men have no reason to own a suit.

Bull
Shit

>> No.7109394

>>7109350
No.

>> No.7109416

>>7109350
I want the unkempt neckbeards to leave.

>> No.7109461

>>7109350

>90% of male NEETs

There, fixed for you.

>> No.7109467

>>7107102
> He dresses like a hipster (without the attitude, thank the lord)
Are you me?

>>7107237
Well, no, he's the one who encouraged me to get into lolita in the first place. He thinks I look good in it, and I don't just go out and do girly shit when I dress up. Just our usual stuff, going out on dates or to the movies.

>>7107275
Bring her. Bring her and be so fucking kawaii that the other girls shit their overfluffed bloomers.

>>7109350
Well, not really. All guys should really have a nice set of clothes. But my boyfriend's family is... weird. They don't buy him anything, won't drive him to a job, and won't help him get a car so he can get his own job. I really don't like them. But yeah, he doesn't have any nice clothes thanks to that. He lives in the middle of buttfuck nowhere, so he can't walk to a job either.

>> No.7109992

>>7109416
>>7109461

There is a big difference between not having a job and being a neckbeard and not needing a suit.

I have my dress blues, which is basically a suit or serves the same purpose anyways. But even then I wear them next to never.

I have nice shirts and ties. Shoes shined up, but no need for a blue collar worker to have a suit really.

Like I am going to wear a suit for an interview for fixing planes or working on a boiler.

>> No.7110058

>>7107010
>Dark wash non-distressed jeans.
>Leather shoes / matching belt
>Button down to match my colors (black, chocolate, gray, etc)

This works for us - he doesn't feel underdressed, but he is still in his regular comfy clothes.

I'm a classic so jewel tones and neutrals will match me, but I have also seen BFs show up in nice slacks and a pastel button down to match their amarori GFs, and it looks really nice, imo, if your guy is comfortable in pink.

>> No.7110158

>>7107146
My boyfriend insists on wearing his Green Lantern shirt everywhere. It makes him look like Sheldon Cooper.

>> No.7110162

>>7110158

In brightest day, in darkest night,
these threads shall never leave my sight!
Through cheeto stains and grease and dirt,
I'll not remove
GREEN LANTERN'S SHIRT!

>> No.7110168

Jerry Seinfeld bolero... I am so werid

>> No.7110169

>>7109992
No job means no money. No money means no suit. He just turned 18 like three weeks ago.

His parents wouldn't even buy him a nice dress shirt for graduation, I bought him one instead.

>>7110158
I'd take it away, hide it forever.

>> No.7110175

>>7110169
>dating unemployed borderline jailbait

>> No.7110181

>>7110169

>>7109992
Here

Wasn't responding to you.

Was responding to the people saying every guy ever needs a suit. Maybe Euro is different

>> No.7110184

I want to date another girl.

She doesn't even have to be a lolita.

I just don't know what to do. ;_;

>> No.7110228

>>7110184

1. Find girl you like, who has at least given some signs of liking you.
2. Ask her on a date.
3. ???
4. Sexy lesbian times

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>Taking fashion advice from people who thinks it's acceptable to dress like this in public

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>>7110228
Umph. That's the problem. I don't know how to broadcast the vibes ladies plz i am totes available and make an excellent girlfren

>tfw you will never be able to seat your princess and slowly push back her petticoats/skirt while you kiss her delicious thighs and pleasure her like never before
>mfw when i always picture me in classic and her im mature sweet

My headbow will probably get sticky from her sweet goodness but that's okay I can wash them.

>> No.7110264
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>>7110228
Umph. That's the problem. I don't know how to broadcast the vibes without destroying friendships.Also stupid and posted the wrong image.

>tfw you will never be able to seat your princess and slowly push back her petticoats/skirt while you kiss her delicious thighs and pleasure her like never before
>mfw when i always picture me in classic and her im mature sweet

My headbow will probably get sticky from her sweet goodness but that's okay I can wash them.

>> No.7110270

>>7110264
? If you are interested in someone, tell them/ask them out. If it doesn't work out, then you stay friends. If either one of you are too immature or maybe insecure to stay friends after something like that, then just move on with your life. If the friendship is that important, than simply because she doesn't feel that way about dating you shouldn't change your mind about being her friend...

>> No.7110271

>>7110264

Uh, welcome to being a guy?

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>>7110264
>my headbow will probably get sticky
Geez, you really are a virgin.

>> No.7110286

>>7110264
>My headbow will probably get sticky

You're watching too much fake lesbo porn.

>> No.7110292

>>7110274
I'm actually not, I just never had a long relationship with another girl. And yes, you can get a girl going with enough foreplay. And if you're gonna shove your head up someone's petti shit will get hot and sticky either way?

>>7110271
I feel your pain.

>>7110270
It does matter because in the end, I am scared because people do look at you differently, and I will not bring it up if I can't properly judge your comfort level? I'm not exactly a flaming flamingo, and because of my own love for lolita, I often feel lile a wolf in sheep's clothing...

The best I can hope for is that we get blitzed and make out. ;o;

>> No.7110290

>>7110264
Seriously, go for it.


Lolitas getting together is probably the single cutest human thing on the planet.

>> No.7110293

>>7110264
If you're rubbing the top of your head up and down her squishmitten, you're doing it wrong.

>> No.7110295

>>7110292
Girl, you're talking to a woman with more experience than you in that area. Trust me, don't worry about your headbows.

>> No.7110296

>>7110292
So if someone asked you out on a date (you both being friends) and you declined, you wouldn't want to be their friend anymore?

>> No.7110305

>>7110292
>and I will not bring it up if I can't properly judge your comfort level

You... won't ask someone out because of this? I'm afraid you need to really get some confidence or life is going to be sad for you. And if you ever find yourself whining and complaining about no one wanting to date you, guess what, it's your fault for not expressing your feelings. How young are you, really?

>> No.7110308

>>7110293
I would do that one day, because I do have a bad sense of humor.

>>7110295
I'll trust you. I've personally can overreact, but it really doesn't take much to make me happy.

I'm craving cuddles now. I hate/love you all.

>>7110296
Of course not. But you can't control other people.

LET'S NOT TURN THIS INTO A THREAD ABOUT HOW SHITTY I AM BECAUSE I WANTED TO SHARE A FANTASY.

>> No.7110310

>>7110308
No you can't control other people, but you expecting them to do something like that, when you yourself wouldn't, is stupid and really high handed.

>Oh well, I would never do that, but of course they would

>> No.7110323

>>7110305
I really didn't mean to whine. I just never know how to approach another girl because the shyness can be overwhelming.

And can see and not click because mobile is being weird, but I never expected it to happen when I'm too stuck myself. I just hope it happens naturally... but someone actually has to be available for me to even consider it. Which is kind of another problem.

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I hope you don't mind me here, I'm a guy and I've always enjoined stories from the Edwardian era, I even had a 1915 model T.
Would an Edwardian suit, the kind that Gomez Addams wore in the Addams Family TV show be acceptable? I also have a somewhat Victorian styled suit with a long frock coat from Turkey, that a religious scholar would have worn.
I went to a party in formal tails, to be the butler, but the hostess quickly found a ribbon sash, and a gold medallion and I became a Count.

>> No.7110622

>>7110601
Yes, it definitely would.