>Ten years ago, I could talk about how lolita is a femboys’ fashion and how I hate women who invade our spaces - Nowadays, I can’t even say the word femboy without fucking offending someone.
(and see how retarded it sounds)
>It’s an autistic hobby for chronically online people
This. Sadly lolitas for the most part are beyond autistic and well beyond salvageable. There are a few "jewels" I can count with the fingers of one hand, but by far and wide trying to interact with lolitas is an exercise in frustration (female or otherwise, *no one* is exempt). Ppl in other j-fashions, cosplay, kawaii or "weeb" activities are way more chill, although the hardcore anime crowd gives lolitas a run for their money.
Idk what attracts all the autists, insecure, paranoid, even hostile, ppl to lolita. I guess being the more "way out there" fashion, the price barrier, the exclusiveness of it all, being an odd jap/chink thing... unless you make your own stuff. Curiously this type of ppl is the more down to earth one. They quietly make their own dresses bypassing most of the typical lolita shenanigans.
For my part I've kinda abandoned lolitas, only checking them once in a while, and gone with the "kawaii" crowd. This is ppl with somewhat of a link to fashion or kawaii shit in general. Also "normies", with those I throw some kawaii shit to the wall and if it sticks I'm down. I've found quite a number of ppl that ended up finding cute things, and by extension lolita, agreeable. While they may never be themselves lolitas they are good for hanging around. We share from kawaii stickers online to tea parties and meets. No more being a lonelita. Sure, an undesirable may pop up, it happens, but by the *magic* of not being a crybaby you show them the boot and done.
God, when did ppl become so retarded? Now they need masks, spaces, bubbles, they can't deal with life.