Socializing General

[Anonymous No.10778005]

Last thread archived, time for a new one. Use this thread to discuss any experiences, advice, warnings, ideas, etc. that relate to interacting with your fellow costumed weebs at animu conventions.

Bonus question: What do conventions mean for you? There's a surprisingly high number of possible answers.

[Anonymous No.10778008]

>What do conventions mean for you?
To get the ball rolling + give an idea what I mean + avoid turning the OP into a blog...I go primarily to hang out with people. They can be ones I already know will be there, gulls I've arranged impromptu meetups with, randos who strike up a conversation with me, someone I met on the other side of the country then found again by pure chance. Doesn't matter. That, and getting drunk with them at room parties later in the evening. Sometimes the convention itself is more an excuse to get a bunch of like minded people together in one place than anything else desu.

[Anonymous No.10778061]

Ehhh I just like to cosplay. I don't interact with people other than nodding when they ask for a picture and doing a pose if I'm in the mood. Sometimes guys try to talk to me because I'm aggressively androgynous but I just brush them off. I don't like to approach girls because I assume it annoys them as much to be approached by people they don't find attractive as it annoys me, and I'm I usually only in the top 5% at any given con in terms of face, body, cosplay, so I don't think most girls would feel anything except mild annoyance if I tried talking to them. Meh.

[Anonymous No.10779385]

I only go to cons to scope out bussy desu, they usually have a prime selection. I don't even like anime

[Anonymous No.10779394]

>What do conventions mean for you?
First, a way out of my boring ass life, where I work at a boring job, where I can't get a decent job in my field (and I have a STEM degree), where I live paycheck by paycheck, where I have no accomplishments besides a house in a half bad neighborhood and an old car...
But it's also where I make friends and make my life more than myself, making people happy to see the characters I made, where I reinforce my friendships, where I have fun, and it is my home, too.

[Anonymous No.10779399]

Also, I figure out this is the best place to ask.
I've been wanting a cosplay gf for long. I've been told by a bunch of friends who know me well and have more experience than me (because i'm a damn autist and thus no regular girl ever wanted me), to 'lay low' and let things roll, that desperation is unattractive, but at the same time you have to be on the lookout for opportunities.

The paradox is, when i'm at a convention, I'm much more talkative but sexual things or seductive htings, or romantic things ever pass through my head. I guess I 'become' my character and get entertained with the fun I have, the tricks I pull as the character, etc.

Also, i'm the only single guy in my cosplay 'area' (aka people who cosplay the series that I cosplay as), so that probably puts a red flag on me.

One example: i've been told twice by different people that I would do Cal Kestis. Cal is a Jedi that is the protagonist of a video game series. To sum it up, he is someone who worked on a scrapyard for years undercover to not get caught and murdered for his gifts in the Force - but eventually he gets discovered and chasen by a group of people who kill Jedi like him. He has to tough up but he is good natured, and has that 'mom dresses him up' face. Two things that I have - one guy i'm particularly friends with says i'm precious because my good nature borders innocence in his words.

So I have all that background on me - am I meant to be 'reserved' by the universe to someone specific?

[Anonymous No.10779403]

>>10779399
You sound severely autistic I'm sorry.
Normal people form relationships by starting conversations with people and getting to know them if they both like talking to each other.

[Anonymous No.10779404]

>>10779403
Yeah but you noticed i'm not normal.
Only problem is, my cosplay area has a lot of people who are dating or have husbands/wives. How do you say when someone is 'left behind'? In a few weeks i'll turn 24, and I feel like i'm being left behind.

Also, i'm quite able to have a conversation with people, even outside the subjects i'm into (which you can imagine it's what I gravitate towards). I guess cosplay "smell" and see the autism in me and go like 'hell no why would I want a relationship with him, there are men without the retardation he has available for me' and hang out with me out of pity.

[Anonymous No.10779406]

>>10779404
I mean it's just a product of your environment. Western cosplay is all ugly old people. What did you expect? I don't think there's much you can change since you seem fixated on it.

[Anonymous No.10779412]

>>10779406
>Western cosplay is all ugly old people

Nah, there are people of my age. Star Wars is popular among people my age. But everyone seems to be dating already.

Never mind, i'm on my path to accept that i'll be left behind when it comes down to relationships. I'll consolate myself finding an example of a Jedi who never married or fucked anyone, to at least drown down my sorrow and anxiety.

[Anonymous No.10779739]

>>10779404
I'm 34 and I still hook up with 20 year olds at con. What the hell are you doing wrong?

[Anonymous No.10779758]

>>10779399
Bruh I ain't reading all that. Lmfao. Just find out in conversation with a girl. Find out if she's from your area, if she's into you and bam

[Anonymous No.10779768]

>>10779399
Have you considered getting a gf then getting her into cosplay?

[Anonymous No.10779904]

>>10778061
If you’re not lying top 5% is definitely high enough to shoot your shot bro. A lot of the dudes above you won’t even bother to hit on girls, either because they’re scared, can’t be bothered, are in a relationship, or some other reason. Just having the confidence to go up and have a conversation will boost you up even further.

[Anonymous No.10779905]

>>10779399
You sound like one of the most genuinely autistic people I’ve seen on this website in a long time. Not like internet “autism”, but the real genuine thing. Take that whatever way you want.

[Anonymous No.10779907]

>>10779904
Yeah I guess but I also have standards that exclude so many girls that I have to go to a con of at least like 15k to have a chance of seeing one I'd want to even bother with.

[Anonymous No.10779910]

>>10779907
Fair enough.

[Anonymous No.10779915]

>>10778005
I'm going to a con in aug here in texas I'm not cosplaying how do I not come off as creepy when I go to random people who enjoy the sane things and strike up a conversation I don't talk to people outside work and online

[Anonymous No.10779918]

>>10779915
>I'm not cosplaying
Why? Are you that poor? Even a zero effort pre-made is like $80
What do you mean by enjoy the same things? Most people at cons enjoy cosplaying lol you obviously dont

[OP No.10779923]

>>10779915
>I'm going to a con in aug here in texas
Hey, what a coincidence me too. :^)
>how do I not come off as creepy when I go to random people who enjoy the sane things and strike up a conversation
Accept that either A) you're worrying for nothing or B) realize there might be something wrong and work towards fixing it. If it's just A), there's really no issue at all with talking to randos since they do it all the time. You're on easy mode in Texas too, since it's one of the only places where people will start casually talking to me, even on the street

[Anonymous No.10779974]

>>10779739
I'm actually part of the 501st legion, I can't exactly go around and do that kinda stuff. Plus i'm known in my area.

>>10779758
>Find out if she's from your area, if she's into you and bam

Did you read that i'm an autist and I can't tell things?

>>10779768
I have, but i'm very restricted as to where I go out. I'm adamant in not letting things go past friendships at work (would make worktime much more embarrassing plus I don't want my work reputation to be damaged).

But that's a better chance, yes.

>>10779905
I'll take it as a positive way, anon. God bless.

[Anonymous No.10779981]

>>10779923
>You're on easy mode in Texas too, since it's one of the only places where people will start casually talking to me, even on the street
People at an anime convention aren't like that tho

[Anonymous No.10779985]

>>10779974
>i'll take it in a positive way

Sorry I derp'd.

[Anonymous No.10779995]

>>10779981
They absolutely are if they like your energy.

[Anonymous No.10780003]

>>10779995
I have literally never had anyone try to talk to me who wasn't a thirsty guy who found a reason to fuck off once I started talking and he realized I was a guy lol

[Anonymous No.10780019]

I'm part of a certain Star Wars club. After some folks lost the election in 2019 they begun to act passive aggressive, do events with only the people from inside their 'subgroup', and generally act alone like some sort of outcast wolfpack. Conciliation attempts were in vain, to the point the current command just lets them be on their own (probably because they were more combative before and they consider it a win to have this 'wolfpack' do their thing without bothering others).

What makes people well over 30 years of age, with children, and good jobs, get this sort of drama going, and drag it for years and years, believing they are right?

[Anonymous No.10780027]

>>10780019
Star wars fans are more degeneratively mentally ill than the most cancerous anime fanbases

[Anonymous No.10780038]

>>10779974
Use a dating app.

[Anonymous No.10780136]

>>10779918
I'm going with friends who are a bit more on the normal side so I can't be the only one cosplaying
>>10779923
Fair enough yea you probably right was just worried if there was some unspoken rule that I had to follow lol also nice man hope you have fun :)

[Anonymous No.10780215]

>>10780038
Dating apps never worked for me, I have tried

[OP No.10780222]

>>10780003
Unfortunately, I can't speak beyond what I've seen, but take it from a (fellow?) crossplayer: When I first got into it, I could never get more than a quick compliment or a 2 minute chat. Made me wonder if it was me or them. Now it's to the point that they'll talk with me extensively, ask me to hang out, offer their phone number, buy me stuff, etc. And this is while still wearing the exact same outfits, so the answer is clear: it was me. Operating on the mindset of "Do not go to them, let them come to you" can do wonders
>>10780136
>so I can't be the only one cosplaying
According to who, exactly?

[Anonymous No.10780259]

>>69227232
Yeah so...thoughts?

[Anonymous No.10780261]

>>10780215
What have you used?
What's your profile look like?

[Anonymous No.10780263]

>>10780259
Fucked that up
>>>/r9k/69227232

[Anonymous No.10780265]

>>10780261
Tinder only.
I'd basically put my best cosplay shots, describe my profession, what I like to listen to, what I like eating, and that I'm a cosplayer and charity worker

Never worked, matches were scarce and often were trannies

[Anonymous No.10780266]

>>10780136
>I'm going with friends who are a bit more on the normal side so I can't be the only one cosplaying
Going to an anime convention and not cosplaying is indicative of sociopathy, your friends are not normal.

[Anonymous No.10780271]

>>10780266
Cosplay is cringe

[Anonymous No.10780275]

>>10780271
Being a basic bitch is cringe actually
Full mid frfr

[Anonymous No.10780276]

>>10780275
I'm neither basic nor a cosplayer.

[Anonymous No.10780314]

>>10780222
look if im the only one cosplaying out of my friend group ill feel like a full blown degen

[Anonymous No.10780316]

>>10780266
we are just going there to get the con experience also its fairly small

[OP No.10780380]

>>10780259
>>10780263
Are you the OP? If so, I gave my answer here >>>/r9k/69229558 If not, I'd probably not some more context to help

[Anonymous No.10780598]

How the fuck do you flirt with people? I'm decent looking (tall, fairly muscular, ok face) and have no issues talking to people casually, getting #'s, snapchats, instagrams, w/e. Beyond that though, I'm absolutely lost. I have no idea what to say or do to communicate interest beyond acquaintanceship/friendship

[Anonymous No.10780623]

>>10780598
>tall, fairly muscular, ok face
You just tell old women you want sex.

[Anonymous No.10780678]

>>10779739
Man I have no idea how you do that shit, I'm 35 and did fine when I was younger but girls that age are incomprehensible now, I can barely carry on a conversation with them much less tell if they want to hook up or if they're just doing some weird zoomer shit that closely resembles the way girls used to act when they wanted to fuck.

[OP No.10781229]

>>10780678
Not quite 35 yet, but I feel that. Thinking back on one from not too long ago where a fem Inosuke walked up like three times and got in my face saying "HOOOOOW DAAAAAARE YOOOOUU!!" Kept a level head since she obviously wasn't mad but also didn't know what reaction she was looking for. Had to think "Is this some weird joke I'm not in on? Cause if isn't, my only other guess is she's flirting"

[Anonymous No.10781306]

>>10781229
>Thinking back on one from not too long ago where a fem Inosuke walked up like three times and got in my face saying "HOOOOOW DAAAAAARE YOOOOUU!!" Kept a level head since she obviously wasn't mad but also didn't know what reaction she was looking for.
Yeah, I had shit like that happen to me. Best thing I can do is look retarded and ask "Uhhhh, what?"

[Anonymous No.10781309]

>>10779399
You're friend is partially right. Women nowadays have some sort of seventh sense in where they can tell a guy is desperately trying to find a girlfriend, and that dries them up faster than incel ramblings. My tip would be to befriend some female cosplayers and aim for their female friends, who are usually also cosplayer themselves.

>>10779758
Yeah, you blithering idiot. It's that fucking easy. Piss off.

[Anonymous No.10781366]

>>10781309
I see, anon, I see. Well, i've gotten back to my 'play cool' activities like if I was not looking for anything, and doing that befriending thing, not talking to them in a romantic sense in any way.

He also told me girls like to be treated like 'everyone else', as in, to not be complimented like 'you're hot' and thirsty stuff like that. I've gotten quite a lot of nice conversations like this and I feel like this will earn me something someday.

Just gotta keep on the grind. And the grind is to lay low, play cool, and befriend girl cosplayers.

[Anonymous No.10781372]

>>10781309
>>10781366
You only have to play long con shit like that if you're ugly. I just talk to girls normally and then ask them out on a date, they say yes. Sorry God gave you a bad roll of the dice in life bros.

[Anonymous No.10781420]

How do I make long lasting relationships with random people I meet? I feel like I'm decent at striking up conversations, but I can't seem to make anything stick.

[Anonymous No.10781614]

>>10781420
It's 2022, social media killed the attention span of most people. You gotta be super interesting/rich to be able to appeal to people now-a-days. If you can't gloat about your wealthy parents taking you to France while people in your country starved/struggled, or flaunt your Dior/Gucci merch then it's going to be really hard to keep friends.
Especially the younger generation is super woke, and super materialistic. The last thing you can do is claim to be trans/gender queer or any neo-pronouns.

[Anonymous No.10781618]

>>10781614
Meds, now.
>>10781420
Just be likeable and attractive that's all anyone cares about

[Anonymous No.10781738]

>>10781618
So what do I do to ask for contact info, their number? discord?

[Anonymous No.10781739]

>>10781738
Your best bet is Instagram, since it seems most of them can't be fucked to use FB anymore.

[Anonymous No.10781750]

>>10781738
Be attractive enough to get their phone number or don't bother.

[Anonymous No.10782097]

>>10781372
Bro, I have the 'tism and older women tend to treat me like some sort of younger family member (saying stuff like 'oh I recognized you when I saw that gentle looking face' and calling me 'darling' and stuff they'd use to taalk to a younger family member).

I don't think I can go through another route.

[Anonymous No.10782108]

>>10782097
Sounds like you got a cute appeal though take advantage of that and appeal to women who are into SS.

[Anonymous No.10782435]

>>10782108
First, what is SS?
Second, I think yes, I definitely have this cute / 'childlike' vibe to me even tho i'm fully capable. As capable as someone with 'tism can be that, is.

Well, i'm laying low because obviously I can't tell when someone wants me romantically, so, it's best to not try anything to not get my image ruined by me hitting on someone in a clumsy way when they didn't kinda want it.

[Anonymous No.10782445]

>>10782435
shota

[Anonymous No.10782449]

>>10782445
but i'm 23 years old bro
but i can understand where anon is going

[Anonymous No.10782653]

>>10780136
>I can't be the only one cosplaying
Lol think and act for yourself

[Anonymous No.10782656]

>>10780678
>girls that age are incomprehensible now
Stay away from the schools then

[Anonymous No.10782665]

I've realized I'm only attracted to "weird" women and don't know where to meet them or how to engage without looking like a fucking idiot so how do I do this? I'm posting ITT because a friend suggested I go to "conventions" since there are a ton of people with actual interests and hobbies but idk.

[Anonymous No.10782724]

>>10782449
it's the autism moe.

[Anonymous No.10782824]

>>10778005
>What do conventions mean for you?
unironically
try to get laid, unironically
at least I try to have fun now...

[Anonymous No.10782831]

>>10782824
>SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX SEX
All women hate you.

[Anonymous No.10782832]

>>10780259
tried to be nice
it didn't get me laid

[Anonymous No.10782833]

>>10782831
>All women hate you.
I know

[Anonymous No.10782834]

>>10782831
Lardass hole moment

[Anonymous No.10782837]

>>10782834
I'm a man. You're not going to get sex if you obsess over it.

[Anonymous No.10782841]

>>10782435
>SS
straight shota
something like pic related
(be aware around One-sans)

[Anonymous No.10782843]

>>10782108
>>10782841
Girls can enjoy the gimmick of a guy pretending to be childish and being friendly to people, but they don't want a literal autistic retard with zero social skills man. Don't give the little guy false hope.

[Anonymous No.10782844]

>>10782843
>but they don't want a literal autistic retard with zero social skills man
sounds like me....

[Anonymous No.10782848]

>>10778005
Im still pretty new to cosplay, but conventions to me are a place to cosplay characters I like while showing off my fizeek and hopefully inspiring others to lift. My favorite thing is getting asked to have my picture taken with someone. It means a ton to me and I always get excited when it happens.

[Anonymous No.10782862]

I just walked in on my little brother cross-dressing in my clothes. I let out a little noise because I was surprised. My brother is shorter than me, so the clothes fit loosely on him.

He started to make all kinds of excuses after he noticed me. But once he realized that no amount of excuse will work after what I had seen, he confessed to everything.

He confessed that he had been dressing in my clothes for several months now, that when he put on women's clothing for the first time he got really excited,
and that he's actually in love with me.

I didn't say anything to him and just returned to my room, and I'm writing this now.
What should I do?

My brother's important to me, and it was kinda cute seeing him be all embarrassed while confessing to me, but I don't think I can be in that kinda relationship with my brother.
Is there a way to refuse him without hurting his feelings too much?

It's nice to see he has the same hobby as I do, but as the older brother I do worry about him.

[Anonymous No.10782869]

>>10782862
Nice erotic fiction

[Anonymous No.10782872]

>>10782848
Why are fit guys always so ugly? I always get so many request for pictures it annoys me.

[Anonymous No.10782878]

>>10782872
because attractive dudes don't need to lift.

[Anonymous No.10782901]

>>10779399
>the tricks I pull as the character, etc
oh, anon... you are too pure for this world

[Anonymous No.10782984]

>>10782872
Idk what to tell u. If a dude isnt attractive hes gonna try to raise his status however he can, either with money, personality, or fitness

[Anonymous No.10782996]

>>10782878
>>10782984
Wouldn't it be more efficient to just get cosmetic surgery???

[Anonymous No.10783011]

>>10782862
shitty larp

[Anonymous No.10783038]

>>10782843
The 'problem' is that i'm legit lowkey childish and friendly to people. Like, I don't need to try, I AM like this.

>>10782901
I have heard what you said more than once from different people.
I know it. I know it's a virtue, as well.

[Anonymous No.10783042]

>>10783038
>The 'problem' is that i'm legit lowkey childish and friendly to people. Like, I don't need to try, I AM like this.
You don't even understand the gimmick. Being friendly and childish only works when you make it clear you're just doing it because you want the person to like you and you're a sociopath. Girls love that.

[Anonymous No.10783050]

>>10783042
ignore this person, it's a psychotic troon or a woman, in either case this person gets off on bullying autists online for some reason

[Anonymous No.10783135]

>>10782996
I know its crazy. Some people like to stick with their natural looks and not permanently change their face

[Anonymous No.10783956]

>>10783042
>only works when you make it clear you're just doing it because you want the person to like you and you're a sociopath. Girls love that.

Listen up bro, ask me to describe the electrical vehicle market change from 1999 to 2019 but don't ask me to make a feeling clear because you know I can't do that.

>>10783050
I don't feel exactly bullied, but thank you for your kind warning.

[Anonymous No.10785911]

>girl cosplaying the same series as me compliments me on my cosplay
>I say thanks and walk away
Wtf is wrong with me?

[Anonymous No.10785912]

>>10785911
>girl cosplaying the same series as me compliments me
>I don't like her cosplay so I just walk away without saying anything
Ugly girls shouldn't cosplay as 2B.

[Anonymous No.10785913]

>>10778005
Cons to me are just merch shops and nothing else. I used to wonder why I never made friends at cons despite having an easy time everywhere else, and I've come to realize that I really just dislike 99.99% of con-goers and anime fans. I have way more fun talking to people at cooking classes, concerts/musical festivals, board game meetups, makerspaces, etc.

[Anonymous No.10785914]

>>10785913
that's what happens when youre a balding old man

[Anonymous No.10785915]

i mean this quite seriously. you guys are complete fucking embarrassments. here's your socializing tip dude, talk to people.
holy fuck why am I the only normal person in this coomer den?

[Anonymous No.10785916]

>>10785915
4chan users are usually autistic and retarded

[Anonymous No.10786023]

>>10782862
>but as the older brother I do worry about him.
I had a boner up till this part.

[Anonymous No.10786928]

>>10785915
talk about what exactly?

[Anonymous No.10786936]

>>10786928
Literally everyone us the same you can can an idle small comment or compliment and if they're interested in talking they respond if they say nothing they want you to fuck off. If someone wants to talk to you it doesn't matter what you say just ask questions until you figure out what they're interested in then emotionally jerk them off. Everyone loves to feel important and think they're special. Girls are the worst about it, especially if you're decent looking. It's pathetic.

[Anonymous No.10786957]

>>10779394
If you're in software I can get you a job anon

[Anonymous No.10786959]

>>10786957
don't listen to this guy anon he will stab you to death

[Anonymous No.10787136]

>>10786957
I'm an engineer, bro

[Anonymous No.10787187]

>>10787136
Evidently not

[Anonymous No.10789852]

Any tips for first time congoer?
>What do conventions mean for you?
I just want to go to conventions so I can play dress up as an adult without being out of place.

[Anonymous No.10789880]

>>10789852
Everyone there is cringe so don't mind letting a bit of your powerlevel show

[Anonymous No.10789902]

>>10789880
But I'm too cringe. I wasted years learning Japanese just to watch anime and spend my free time making cosplay.

[Anonymous No.10790048]

I want to create a cosplay circle so we can do stuff like group choreography but everyone I find is older than me. I'm 21.

[Anonymous No.10792353]

>>10785912
Can I jack off on your thighs? You don't need to make eye contact or talk or anything.

[Anonymous No.10793024]

>>10789902
Fairly certain those are 2 highly positive traits in the con/cosplay community.

[Anonymous No.10793046]

>>10792353
bruh

[Anonymous No.10793075]

>>10793024
Not really
You can't really mention knowing japanese without seeming like an autistic with no social skills

[Anonymous No.10793087]

>>10785912
>>10785912
>I don't like her cosplay so I just walk away without saying anything
You should've done it like her: pretend you did.

[Anonymous No.10794428]

>>10779404
>In a few weeks i'll turn 24, and I feel like i'm being left behind.
Man you're barely getting started. That's a great age to be at. I was past 30 before I got into a relationship. The most important thing is becoming someone who's fun and comfortable enough to appreciate their own company and not necessarily "need" someone. You know how it's sometimes said you tend to find someone when you stop looking? It's often true, but people get the cause and effect wrong. When you're happy with your own life and hobbies and friends, you don't come across as someone who needs a person to complete them. That's when people notice you're a great addition to their life, not some burden.

[OP No.10794440]

>>10794428
>You know how it's sometimes said you tend to find someone when you stop looking?
Oh, I know. And having two people viscerally disagreeing with me on it at once did not change that position.

[Anonymous No.10797551]

>hosting lolita meetup later this month
>girl asks if I can help pay her reservation spot because she's poor. It's not much so I split the cost with her
>yesterday tells me she's gotten too fat and no longer fits into the 1 coord she has
>asks to borrow one of my dresses if I have anything that fits
>I have an older dress I wore before I lost a bunch of wait, sends a photo of it and offers to let her use it for the day
>she complains about the style and asks if I have anything else

I removed her from the meetup and I am never being nice to anyone ever again

[Anonymous No.10797559]

>>10797551
Damn its true what they say about lolita being the angriest and cattiest women on the planet. I guess it was a bit impolite of her to look a gift horse in the mouth and ask to see more but you could have just said "Ah no sorry, thats all I have" and then enjoy your weekend with her at the meetup.

If you have a guest over for dinner and she has her elbows on the table, or uses the wrong spoon, do you immediately explode in a shit fit and and kick her out of your house without any warning? lmao no wonder so many people choose to be lonelitas. Dealing with mentally ill bitter women like you must feel awful, constantly walking on eggshells and every conversation feels like you're handling 40lbs of dynamite

[Anonymous No.10797561]

>>10797559
good thing women fucking hate you so you don't have to deal with that, huh?

[Anonymous No.10797569]

>>10797561
idk my girlfriend seems to find me funny xD
I seriously do not understand how people like you can be so angry all the time. I can only imagine the cocktail of mental illness you've got brewing in there

[Anonymous No.10797576]

"I don't want to annoy them" is just an excuse people use to avoid having to deal with rejection. The truth is you're afraid that you'll be rejected so it's easier to just not approach anyone.
Do you think the average persons remembers every homeless person that's asked them for money? Every Jehova's Witness that knocked on their door? Every sales person that asked them if they could help them while they were window shopping? Of course not. If that person you want to talk to doesn't reciprocate, they will forget you within days if not hours.
Let's say you start talking to 30 random people at a con. Maybe 29 of them are annoyed. The 30th one was feeling lonely and is glad someone spoke to them; you end up spending most of the day together, meeting up again at the following day of the con, exchanging number, and become lifelong friend or partner; 50 years later you two are still together all the time and both of you lives have been enriched forever by your relationship. But you'd miss out on all of that because you slightly annoyed 29 people, for 5 minutes each, 50 years ago?
Just go talk to someone.

[Anonymous No.10797597]

>>10797576
I know its basic stuff people I am still saving your post to reread the next time I get social anxiety at a con

[Anonymous No.10797602]

>>10797569
She wasn't "angry all the time", she bent over backwards for a complete stranger before realizing they were a selfish douchebag. I would never have paid for a stranger's ticket like that

[Anonymous No.10797603]

>>10797569
>xD
You must be 18 to post on this board

[Anonymous No.10797604]

Man I come to this board like maybe once every 2 or 3 years to gawp at the "girl board" and read con horror stories, & it's just degenerated into coomer threads and fem/incels screeching at each other. AND there's no con horror stories

[Anonymous No.10797607]

>GIrl wants to grab dinner with you alone at con or outside of con
>Girl wants to hang out with you outside of con
>Girl asks you when you're taking her out for drinks
Are all these scenarios possible gf scenarios or are they just being nice

[Anonymous No.10797608]

>>10797607
With women, you can never know. If you're interested in them romantically, go for it and worst case scenario she politely declines. You are already past all the hard part if she's hinting about you taking her out for drinks. You're on the home stretch but you best make your intentions clear to her soon or else she'll assume you're not interested in being more than friends

[Anonymous No.10797618]

>>10797607
She's at least interested in getting fucked
Probably not dating though

[Anonymous No.10797619]

Hello! As of right now, my social circle is nonexistent. I won't really be able to meet new people until I start university, which should be in October. Until then, my closest shot is meeting people at an upcoming con this month.

Does anyone have any tips on genuinely becoming friends with the people you meet at cons? Like, how do you keep in touch with them to the point they (indirectly) become a regular in your life?

[Anonymous No.10797621]

>>10797576
If you annoy 97% of the people you meet, do you really deserve happiness? Also implying the person you meet is nice and stable, instead of some socially maladjusted brain damaged freak like you are. When I find someone who seems to like me, they're either about to learn that I'm just some autist, or they're even more fucked up than I am. EX: The only GF I've ever had had BPD and was emotionally abusive, and I can't get girls who are actually stable.

[Anonymous No.10797624]

>>10797621
I'm not interested in helping blackpilled faggots who want to wallow in their own misery.

[Anonymous No.10797626]

>>10797619
Have things they want
People are self interested cunts
Be good looking funny fun yo be around interesting

[OP No.10797629]

>>10797576
While I am most inclined to agree, also consider that where this board has a huge number of hopelessly insecure types there's just as many who are hostile. You can see them all over this board saying "Nobody wants you talking to them unless you're hot" or "By the way everyone at the conventions is actually 14 so don't even bother going." This could easily give a false impression to somebody who doesn't know better. Basically everyone I've ever come across at a /cgl/ meetup is outgoing, sometime to excessive degrees. Never had an issue with a rando, male or female. The insufferable lolitas stay in their own corner. All is right with the world.

[Anonymous No.10797631]

>>10797629
Stop capping
Sure people will talk to you even if you're not hot
Will single attractive girls want to talk to you?
No
Be real, girls want to get approached by guys they're attracted to, it just be like it do

[OP No.10797642]

>>10797631
The implication that most of these people are making is "I can't approach ANYONE because I would be bothering them", not just specifically hot girls.

[Anonymous No.10797736]

>>10797619
Find whatever local discord people are in for your con or local area and become a regular

[Anonymous No.10797793]

>>10797642
Well sure, the majority of people at a con don't mind talking to some random guy for a few minutes.

[Anonymous No.10797794]

How the fuck do people have trouble talking at cons? Everyone is literally wearing their interests on the outside just find someone at a shoot for a series you like and talk to them.

[Anonymous No.10797950]

>>10797794
You underestimate the level of hostility normies have towards men with sub-par appearance.
Either you're better looking, and you've never experienced this, or you're ignorant of actually trying to interact with other people in the shallowness that is modern culture.

[Anonymous No.10797998]

>>10797794
My mother was verbally, emotionally, and physically abusive to me. I'm terrified of any kind of intimacy with girls. When girls compliment me and try to start a conversation I brush them off and feel physically ill and awful. I'm actually pretty good looking for a guy. But my brain is fucked and therapy hasn't helped at all.

[Anonymous No.10798006]

>>10797794
Hey man. I just suck at socializing in general. Cut me some slack.

[Anonymous No.10798009]

>>10779399
As a cosplayer, that is also a girlfriend to someone, the best way to catch us is to be a photographer. Example, Jessica Nigri’s boyfriend is her own photographer. I can feel from your replies that not only do you want a cosplay gf, you also don’t want an ugly cosplay gf. Then better start practicing how to take photos. Make sure you don’t go through the creep route of taking unsolicited photos

[Anonymous No.10798023]

>>10798009
Jessica Nigiri is an awful looking valid whore. Actually awful horrid advice. Can you get a gf by just going around taking pictures giving your insta to everyone you take pics of and then messaging girls? Yes. But they're going to be low quality. Don't even bother responding with cope. If you want an actually attractive gf with a good personality you need two things
>an attractive face
>an attractive personality
Being a desperate loser who goes around doing photos of people just to try and get a gf who wants a pathetic loser she can manipulate is a good way to get nothing worth having. Literally just slap on a popular cosplay dn be friendly with people when they ask you for pics, I get asked for pics by hundreds of girls a day at any big con, at least 300, and I'm not even very good looking. At least half of those girls are willing to have at leasta short convo or give you their socials if you ask. Fucking loser ass cunt.

[Anonymous No.10798041]

>>10798023
NTA
Who hurt you anon? Did a ‘low quality’ person get to you? Naww how cute

[Anonymous No.10798042]

>>10798041
I already know who hurt you, your mother. If he had loved you, you I u wouldn't have such low standards and only care about women insofar as they have holes for your dick to enter.

[Anonymous No.10798067]

>>10798023
any idea for popular characters? My tastes are usually pretty niche and obscure so I rarely get asked for pictures at cons but when I do its always a pleasure because the guy/girl is super enthusiastic to find someone who is into the same obscure shit they are into. I want to try more popular characters to force me to socialize but I am scared of choosing a character that is TOO popular and having to face a dozen people in the same getup

[OP No.10798173]

>>10797793
You make it sound so easy (because it is). Something folks around here would know if they tried. Something I also noticed, before opening up or even cosplaying, is that randos would start conversations with me almost the second I split from my group.
>>10798067
Best advice I can offer there is to dress as something that was popular 5-10 years ago (by no means a hard figure) but still around today. A great example is Soul Eater, which still has a huge turnout for something as old and relatively short as it is. Plus, there's never an overabundance of any one character, which further proves how committed the fans are.

[Anonymous No.10798179]

>>10798023
Why are you so angry though

[Anonymous No.10798182]

>>10798067
Nier, genshin, anything popular with girls
>>10798173
>randos would start conversations with me almost the second I split from my group.
Nobody has ever tried to start a conversation with me, ever. People compliment me and a for pics, and are happy to talk to me if I initiate a conversation, but nobody tries to start the conversation themselves. Honestly you have to be kind of ugly for people to feel secure enough to talk to you lol, I'm normal looking so people don't.

[Anonymous No.10798577]

>>10794428
quoted one here.
thank you kindly. i've achieved a professional goal which will make me financially stable. this was one thing that made me feel like a burden. and to be quite honest i'm quite happy with my hobbies, friends, and life - I was indeed desperate to get a better job. now that I do, I don't really have anything to be anxious about.

I hope you words are true, anon.

>>10798009
>the best way to catch us is to be a photographer

Eh, would not work in my area, to be honest.

>I can feel from your replies that not only do you want a cosplay gf, you also don’t want an ugly cosplay gf. Then better start practicing how to take photos.

Well, at first ,no one wants someone 'ugly', but if they got a cool personality, like the stuff I like, why not? Plus, they'd have to accept my babyface mug, which can be ugly on its own. I try not to think of people as 'ugly' because I am well aware people can and will judge me as ugly, too. So, fundamentally speaking, I do want a cosplay gf, 'any' cosplay gf.

[Anonymous No.10799120]

>>10780222
What happened between you getting 2 mins to extensive chats while wearing the same cosplay? Worked out?

[Anonymous No.10799122]

>>10786936
>just ask questions until you figure out what they're interested in then emotionally jerk them off.
How do I emotionally jerk them off

[Anonymous No.10799285]

>>10779981
Bro, Matsuri was easy mode for casual conversation and I'm almost as autistic as starwars kid up there. You can literally talk to anyone. PVSG0

[OP No.10799872]

>>10799120
Narrowing it down to one cause is too hard, if possible at all. Since I'm at so many now (current average is 1.5 a month starting last year), it means there's a chance every other week to improve on whatever worked at the one before that and remembering how to avoid anything that didn't. Plus, I'm now recognized pretty often, even by people who I had no idea were attending. Some local, some travelers like me. It's gotta be something in the body language too, probably way of walking.

Being in a place where people are naturally friendlier like seen here >>10799285 always helps too. You might get randos on the street of one city who wanna talk about your costume, even when they have no idea what it is. Then in another, someone dressed as a character from the same series won't even care to ask for a picture.

[Anonymous No.10800847]

I'm a guy who doesn't have any local friends into cons & whose favorite series are well out of popularity by this point. Should I just cold approach people & hope for the best?

[Anonymous No.10800891]

>>10800847

unable to appreciate anything new, or just convinced yourself of that?

[Anonymous No.10800894]

>>10800891
Slightly? I was burned out on seasonals so I started watching older shows (and ended up liking quite a few of them) + have been digging through my gaming backlog. I watch some newer shows a few months after the seasons are over if they seem interesting & well regarded and I usually like them, but don't really love them/care about them or any of the characters enough to want to cosplay them.

[Anonymous No.10800922]

>>10797619

>upcoming con this month

Collosalcon East by any chance?

[OP No.10800924]

>>10800922
Well I'm going to East, but not sure how that can be what s/he meant when it says "this" month and we're still three weeks out.

[Anonymous No.10800926]

>>10800924

Within the span of 30 days I guess is what I meant. I am "most likely" going to it, it will be my first anime con in 5 years. I've feel like i've aged out and I feel like i'm using this con as a way to check. I'm not into any fanbases anymore, I'm not cosplaying. But I am looking forward to the indoor water park, that sounds cool.

[OP No.10800928]

>>10800926
>Within the span of 30 days I guess is what I meant.
Maybe so, maybe no. Either way, if this is your first Colossal (and it's anything like the one in Ohio), you're in for something very different than the norm. Namely older, rowdier crowds and open doors throughout the hotel halls at all hours to engage in excessive drinking even by convention standards.

[Anonymous No.10800930]

>>10800928

Sounds good, a lot has happened to me this year and i'm going to try my best to have fun. I used to come to cons being very talented at some type of niche or game, but I've fallen off so hard due to life and hardship in general. It will be good to relax. Yeah this will be my first Colossal. What else can I expect?

[OP No.10800932]

>>10800930
There's a lot of swimsuit themed cosplay to go along with the waterpark. This year, there's a theme for cow print in particular. Night swim is neat since they leave the lights on till 3 AM, though charge extra even if you were there in the day. Also, be careful with the hot tubs cause I was not aware until after the fact that it amplifies the effect of two drinks into like eight.

[Anonymous No.10800934]

>>10800922
Sorry anon.. I'm from SEAsia...

[Anonymous No.10800956]

>>10797576
what am I supposed to say?
ey baby wan sum fuk?
literally what words do I say

[Anonymous No.10800960]

>>10800956
"Im depressed and lonely please talk to me."
Worked for me

[Anonymous No.10801380]

>>10799285
>I'm almost as autistic as starwars kid up there

Thanks for using me as an exaple.

This weekend was great for me, I was recognized three times by people I did not know, but followed me on instagram - I just hit 1000 followers.

[Anonymous No.10805673]

>>10800928
>open doors throughout the hotel halls at all hours
Damn haven't been to colossal yet but this sounds like my type of crowd

[Anonymous No.10805692]

>>10800928
>open doors throughout the hotel halls at all hours to engage in excessive drinking even by convention standards.
Fuck, I remember cons like that in SoCal back in the day. (AniMagic was the prime example.) Hearing that Colossal is still like that really makes me wish I could go.

[OP No.10805713]

>>10805673
Glad someone else agrees. Honestly one of the reasons I made this thread is cause some folks act like you need 10 psychology doctorates to have a chance at making one (potential) friend when that's obviously not true.
>>10805692
I was hearing a lot last year that it reminded them of how Colossal used to be. Since it was my first time there, I can't say for sure but it does fit well with what you wrote here. Also, there's 4 of them overall and still 9 months left for the main one, so why not try to make it out? It has such an insane reputation that it's even drawing people from overseas to hang out in a small Ohio town with no airport.

[Anonymous No.10805720]

I've tried interacting with people at cons to see what it was like. Same as interacting with people anywhere, a chore that isn't worth it unless you're trying to get something out of people.

[Anonymous No.10805725]

>>10805713
Just a lack of time and money, really. I'm moving 500+ miles in a few weeks to start a new career and things are gonna be pretty hectic for a couple of years, and it'll be a while until I'm making good money as well. (But I'll also be making 100k+ in about 5 years so it's worth it.)

[Anonymous No.10805753]

Why do cosplayers always find their way into politics, be it to run for city council or to virtue signal all over the place?

It's so tiresome. Like, my brother or sister in Christ, no one wants to know your opinion about orange man bad or the latest thing about anything. No one wants to know anything about your except or your costumes. Shut the fuck up and cosplay, or else get the fuck out of the community and go be a jerk somewhere else.

[Anonymous No.10805755]

>>10805753
>community
I'm not part of your community, I just like going to conventions and wearing silly costumes from Japanese schlock.